I think it's really a black women's problem, because I'm white and in my community we are all jealous of your beautiful natural hair. You have so much more volume, your hairstyles are extraordinary, our hair is flatter and our hairstyles are often a little poor... stay natural, you are beautiful as nature made you.
Hello Mya, you are telling the truth. I stopped using edge control because it never worked for me anyway. I see people straightening edges too it looks scary. Your hair is always beautiful.💜🌸
Girl, my hair is free-flowing. I let my hair be and do what it likes, and I never do my edges. I am a professional woman, and I see my hair just as presentable now that I am natural as when I had a relaxer. This is not a perfect world, and there is nothing perfect in it, so why would I try to be perfect? It's just ridiculous. I believe in embracing myself and my hair in its natural state, with no add-ons. My children are as well, and I am loving it.
Hello Tmt! It is so wonderful you are raising your children the same way. It is also great that you are able to wear your natural hair in a professional setting.
I honestly find the way you carry yourself and do your hair to be very elegant even when your edges are “bushy”. My goal is to be able to style my hair like yours❤absolutely gorgeous
It's funny because I just got done watch a bio on Simon Biles and they were talking about how she and other black olympians were criticized about their hair/edges not being slicked down. I thought to myself that's crazy. I do like my hair to be in unison. But my edges/kitchens do their own thing. I pretty much wear a stretchy handbands or scarfs a lot. Sometimes I might use my wax stick or control paste or grease for them but there is no way I would flat iron my edges everyday! I agree with you, there is beauty in imperfection!
She was ridiculed the last Olympics , this Olympics, and her wedding! The young women is making history and yall are worried about her hair. I am sure the track girls were being talked about as well.
This comment is totally off subject but you would be an amazing news anchor or public speaker…You speak so clearly and express yourself so well…you exude strength and confidence! So nice to see!…On topic: I agree with all that was expressed in the video! All the information was on point! You’re a good reader of people and situations and correctly called some things out!…no ruffled feathers here. You’re absolutely correct on ALL points!
I have cut, shaved, and revived my hair so many times I can’t even count. At 33, I fell ill and my medication took a toll on my hair. I had to wear wigs. In the past year I’ve seen the most growth since I was a kid. I recently started a new medication and see the decline again. I’m done! I love my hair. I’m grateful for my hair, and I’m no longer obsessed with it. I’ll take care of it and that is all. ❤
Great topic!! I have never bothered with edge control….ever. It;s not a new phenomenon. It was a “thing” when I was a teenager and I’m nearly 69 yrs old. It never looked ‘natural; to me so I never bothered with it. My hair does not grow flat onto my face…so why pretend and I had relaxers back then!!!!! I have been natural for nearly 3 yrs. I blew my hair out for the 1st time last week. I used my Tymo on 80 degrees (basically air dried with the comb attachment). Wow….Did I get a SURPRISE!! My hair is WELL BELOW bra strap…In fact, IT’S JUST ABOVE WAIST LENGTH!! 😮 WHO KNEW??!!?? My hair has always been thick but after using Aryuvedic herbs/teas/masks on my natural hair for nearly a year, my strands are THICK, SHINY AND HEALTHY!! No split ends!!! It was so thick and so long….I realized I wasn’t ready to handle it!! Seriously!! I took a couple of pictures and IMMEDIATELY put it back into my Beloved TWISTS!!! 😂 Just saying…..Long and thick isn’t all that. Being willing to deal with it is the key. I prefer twists and head wraps!! I take my twists out once every 7 days for 24 hours (to make my hubby happy….He LOVES My Wash-n-Go’s…..then it’s time for Prepoo and my all day wash day routine!! 🥰🤣 In short - That edges thing and unnaturally (gel laden) slicked back hair is a cultural “look” that just doesn’t speak to me. 🙂
Hello! I am so glad that you have found a hairstyle and hair care regimen that works for you. You definitely right lol having long hair does require extra time and the willingness to take care of it.
You are speaking my mind. The ”slicked baby hair edges” look unnatural to me. I am 75, so I am passed trying to impress. My hair is not for men...it is for me. I am growing my hair after about 50 years of a TWA. It's fun...it's what God gave me...kinks and coils! Thanks for sharing.
I love this discussion. I think another form of rejection is in the workplace. It is very difficult in certain corporate settings to have natural hair. The preference is to conform especially in executive level roles. It’s not as simple as just going somewhere else to work.
This video was something we needed to hear! Thank you so much for bringing this truth! Our national hair is beautiful and it is what sets us apart! It is the only hair that defies gravity and flourishes in its natural state! That part is so special. When we accept and love it it loves back. ♥️🙏🏾
Love this vid. Crazy how the same people who say they like a “natural woman” are likely the same ones who ridicule us when our hair is not up to the standard. The whole reason for the start of the natural hair movement was for us to love our hair as it grows from our scalp and I think a lot of the community has loss sight of that. Hopefully we can get back to it. Our hair is beautiful just the way it is Side note: I also live in the Carolinas and the humidity is so unserious 😩
Hello. The humidity is unreal and disrespectful lol. I was sitting on my porch yesterday and my edges were laid no more. when people say they prefer natural I think most of them have this idea or ideal look which is typically a looser curl pattern.
Mya, you're so right. Thank you for talking to the younger ladies and giving them the confidence and courage to start wearing their hair naturally. I grew up in the 70s where afros were the in thing and press and curls with the hot comb and marcell curling irons. Then, the 80s the geri curl phase. Stuck with that until the 2000s, then came naturally curly phase. That lasted two years. When I went back to the geri curl because it was easier to take care of but not many hair stylists were familiar with how to put the product in. So I let my naturally curly 4c hair grow out again. And stuck to corn row styles. Then my hair dresser retired. Continued to cornrow myself, my hair continously got stronger and thicker and longer and harder to put in cornrows myself. Then I found you on UA-cam and your hair texture is very much like mine and a lot longer. I love the chebe grease I have started using. I am experiencing less breakage when twisting and braiding my hair. Combining, brushing and washing your natural hair regularly is the best thing you can do keep you natural hair healthy and strong. Ladies Mya is a very beautiful hair influencer and she's telling the truth on natural hair care.
Hello Kim, thank you so much for your kinds words. If I can inspire through my channel my work is done. Lol you've tried everything! But is sounds like you have settled on styles and a hair care routine that works for you! I am so glad the chebe grease is working for you. I am loving the powder.
I have come into this similar mindset over the past year and it is so freeing to accept my texture and love on it in a way I couldn’t in the past I hope others hear this video and it leads them to find confidence in their natural type 4 curls
Mya, you have basically just said exactly everything that I am experiencing now. I admittedly a perfectionist and I will toil away with my hair tools and products I pursuit of perfection and it is absolutely having the opposite effect and causing me more harm and stress than anything good and positive. Thx for sharing this and keep posting more content to uplift the community and bringing more of important hair issues to light.
Maya, I definitely believe a quest for slick back styles and neat baby hairs can and will lead to damage. Although these ideas about texturism, 'good hair v. nappy hair', etc begin as little girls..we have to learn to appreciate the uniqueness of each curl. You are truly blessed to have a Mother that celebrated you and taught you to love yourself. Unfortunately a lot of us did not have that and that deep rooted self hatred continues to flourish and project on to others. Even the beautiful, accomplished Simone Biles endured hateful comments about her edges. SMH
Hey MJ! Yes! The ridiculed her 4 years ago at the Olympics, this Olympics, and during her wedding. I am very blessed that my mother raised me to be proud of who I am. Unfortunately there are a lot of toxic mother daughter relationships. If I am every blessed with a daughter I will raise her the same.
I’ve known Samoan women with knee-length hair. When they straightened their hair, they preferred to use an iron (on low setting) instead of a straight flat iron, with heat protectant, of course. I think the length and frequency of application matters. Black hair can be fragile.
It’s always good to hear from you, my lovely Sister. I agree with all that you have said. I am 75 years old, dark skinned, 4C haired, African American woman. I am of the “Angela Davis” era. I learned to love my 4C hair long before it was called 4C. At a point, I started wearing a TWA when very few of us wore a TWA. I thought of it as a gift from the Lord because it was easy to care for. I wasn’t trying to impress any man or anyone. I just enjoyed the ease and loveliness of my TWA. No, I am not “ beautiful” by today’s standards, I am average. But I always accepted my hair as a gift from God, with all its kinks and coils. I raised my dark skinned daughter to know that she was beautiful no matter what, and she too wore a TWA. I taught her that the white kids would not understand black beauty and she shouldn’t be bothered by their comments about her skin color, her hair, or any other aspect of herself. So I tried to get her to accept herself. She is now an adult, and has experimented with various hair styles, and I respect her choice to do anything she wants with her hair. But I know I did the best I could trying to get her to know that she is beautiful. I wore my TWA for approximate 50 years, and just last year, 2023, I decided to grow my hair. I want to see if I can, and just how long it would get. I have never ever worn wigs, or extensions. At my age, my hairline had begun to recede. Thanks to some trusted black influencers, I am learning how to care for growing 4C hair. My edges are slowly improving, and I am excited to see what results. I am happy that, at my age, I don’t care if my edges are “laid”, or what other people think of my hair. I have also lived long enough to see what the black community has done to itself by not supporting all of us. I have seen the texturism, the brown bag effect, and many other things that have detrimentally divided us. It is a shame that we can’t all just love the variety that exists as black people. We get enough harm from non-black society…we shouldn’t be hating on each other. I love my black people, and anytime I see someone with a natural while at the supermarket or anywhere, I make it a point to compliment her (or him) and tell them how beautiful her or his braids, natural, or anything is…ALWAYS…no matter the complexion, curl pattern, style or whatever. I tell the young people, old people, and middle aged people how beautiful they are….and it always makes them feel good. They are beautiful because that is how God made them, no matter the edges, curl pattern, the texture…whatever, they are beautiful.
Hello Discovering Hope! Thank you so much for sharing this. I hope our community can one day reunite as one. I love that you wore a TWA for 50 years and now you are growing your hair out. I wish you much success on your journey!
I really love this topic!!! Thank you I Love your Hair!!!! I really think it’s all about mentality. Sometimes people in our communities don’t see us as beautiful and we tend to take it out on each other. But, it isn’t fair. I had to start loving my hair as it is , and it has to been a journey. But, I’m loving what hair is becoming!! ❤😊!! I love your videos.
Hello Book Beauties. Thank you. I am so glad that you have are on the journey to loving your hair. Mentality does have a lot do with it, but the question is where did they get it from? You are not born hating yourself. You are not born hating certain hair textures. In order for us to change our community we must start with the children. “It’s easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” Frederick Douglass - Education
Thanks, great topic that needs to be addressed. Past hair residue still exist and continues to be passed on through generations. The media, commercials, beauty supply stores, hair product companies are all playing on our residue we carry around. We need to uplift, educate and support our natural hair brothers and sisters. Doing my own research about natural hair and listening to others share their journey has helped me grow and appreciate my beautiful crown. I don’t look for perfection because hair changes daily. I want naturally healthy thriving hair. That’s beautiful to me. It’s sad when so many are losing their edges and hair for a temporary perfection.
Hello Shay! I love this and I am so glad that you are learning to love your hair. Your crown is beautiful! The journey is not always easy especially if you are dealing with residue. In order for our community to change we have to start with out children. Raise them not to be ashamed.
Hello new to your channel love this video. I’m back to being a loose natural after having locs for 5 years. I’ve been out of touch with the natural hair community, I’m happy these conversations are being had. Having been natural before my locs, you’re absolutely right, there was a time when natural hair was just that…natural hair. it wasn’t expected to be something that it wasn’t. I’ve come accustomed to the convenience, low maintenance and low manipulation of locs. Now that Im a loose natural I’m going to continue with low maintenance and low manipulation styles. Some times my 4b twa doesn’t have defined curls and I’m okay that. It’s a shame certain hair textures in its very natural state, straight wash and go, no manipulation is considered unattractive. Absolutely love this video. Peace and blessings to you.
Hello Kingdom. Thank you and welcome to the community! I think you made a great point: the concept of hair being "done" or unattractive. Hairstyles look different on different hair textures!
Hey Mya I have always stuck to twists but making them look presentable. Edge control usually causes my skin to break out. To tie my twists in a slightly loose bun, I use silk ponytail holders. I stay far away from heat😂😂😂😂😂
Hi! I just found your chanel and what you said just touch and bring peace for my mind. I'm strunggling w my hair and find myself looking for "that perfection curls". Thanks for sharing amazing contents.
I have definitely fallen into the “perfection” trap. I would detangle my hair at every wash day step so that my twists would look polished and “perfect.” Unfortunately I was just causing split ends. But since stopping that my hair is recovering nicely.
Once people put themselves out there, for one reason or another and for whatever purpose, it’s expected to have negative people commenting. We just can’t get rid of them. Notice even movie stars, they have a hard time, no matter who they are. What I commend, y’all about is when strength is shown and stand up against negativity. You are obviously a strong person, which is observed in all your videos. Good for you‼️ Cause like I tell other video makers you just can’t get rid of bad mind people. So Mya do you and keep on doing all you can to help others. Blessings🎉❤
Thank you for this content. You are very thoughtful and articulate. And need I mention absolutely beautiful! I left a comment on one of your previous videos about the dangers of striving for perfection. What I said was that I thought you cut too much off of the back... When I observe women with traditionally long hair, including the African women of Chad, Chinese women, etc. I do not see perfection. I see that their sides and nape may be thinner, shorter, wisps. I see that the hair at the temples and forehead may be broken or thinned out. But the length and beauty of the rest of their hair makes it hard to notice, or not matter. Keep striving for what makes you feel good in your own skin, and keep this good content coming. Only one suggestion: your videos are kind of long. We want to watch, but we be busy, girl!
Hello. I understand what you are saying and where you are coming from but the nape area of my hair was actually damaged. My nape area had never been that thin, it only started in 2023 and once I stopped using the elasticated bonnet it thickened right back up. So from the beginning I knew my nape area was eventually going to have to be cut. I show in January of this year talking about my hair goals. I am not looking for perfection, I am looking for health.
Hey Mya love your videos. I never lay down my edges. i will brush them with an old toothbrush and keep it moving, people can say whatever they like it does not faze me. also on my feed all i see is 4c videos. I am 3c and some 4a and I love me and my hair. i tried to put a photo of my hair but dont know how.
Hello Belinda and thank you. Interesting, I mainly see 3a-3c on my feed lol. Good ole algorithm. For me, I will lay my edges ( within reason) but once they curl up that's it. I am not going home to re-lay them to sit in the house.
This was a nice video. Unfortunately, I have thin, very curly/coily hair, which can be one of the most challenging combos. Everyone wants full, well-defined curls-not the sparse, scalpy look. Most creators with my curl pattern feel like a joke. They push popular products, don’t practice what they preach, and keep making the same promises about fixing their hair but continually neglect it. They also recommend styles, like heavy braiding, that look awful on me. I think the max amount of braids I can have is 8, and I still look like I have 3 strands of hair. People with hair as thin as mine usually have looser curls, and I rarely see them. They often do wash and gos, but I can’t figure out how to make that work. My hair puffs up from the roots, even when wet, and trying to fix it feels more damaging than helpful. The amount of tools being pushed onto me that I don’t have is frustrating. This area feels more like a marketing trap for a look I probably will never achieve and won’t understand what I am doing wrong. “The fix is always THIS tool!” I still want to learn how to do a wash and go, and understand how to consistently get it to work (also understanding the variables mentioned), since I do like the bottom half of my hair lol… I wish I could see a realistic model with hair like mine. It would be amazing to understand how to manage it and style it in a way that’s flattering. I’ve accepted that my hair will never be perfect because I’m not perfect. Finding out what doesn’t work helps me filter what might. If I can do something that makes me feel slightly pretty, that’s close enough to perfect for me.
I can understand, my hair profile is similar. Coily Code has fine, low density coily hair, maybe check her out. I wish you the best on this hair journey!
Thank you so much for encouraging me to embrace my natural hair. Yesterday i went to dye my hair a beautiful reddish brown and my hair is quite short at the moment but i can still just about tie it up in the middle or create a nice curl short do. My hair is very soft but the sides recently broke due to this silly woman who braided my hair so I'm leaving it for now. I absolutely agree about striving for perfection and when i left the salon after putting dye and treating it, i just kept the style simple. The hairdresser did ask me if i wanted to put gel in it and i said NO. Gel breaks my hair and why do i need to slick it down anyway🙄
Hello MJ and thank you. I lay may edges because I like the way it compliments my hairstyle. There is no need to lay my edges every single day, too much manipulation. Are you asking do I leave the house without laid edges, I sure do lol ! Plus I live in the south and the humidity here is very disrespectful and my curly q's just do not care that I want them to lay nice and behave.
Thank you for doing this video! It is getting ridiculous, unfortunately. Yes there is an agenda to make black women feel inferior about our hair and our looks etc. It's disgusting and yes the black community has a lot of issues with colorism, texturism, featurism. Simon Biles is the most decorated Olympian ever! However balck women and more than likely black men are obsessed with her hair. Looking at Simon Biles, I don't think she is natural. However, she seems to have type 4 hair. Even with a relaxer which it appears she has, her hair with I'm sure sweating from physical activity is not always going to lay flat without a lot of gel and product. I feel like if she was in the 2 or 3 a type hair and laid her edges completely flat, there would be no issues. Unfortunately, a lot of black men have negative things to say about black women with type 4 hair. I've heard it and had plenty of black men complemently because of my texture and length. It's getting out of control. I don't like it at all. We must do better.
Thank you Mya for this much needed reminder! I'm curious, how would you style your hair if you had, let's say, a third of your current density? Lol I love twists but they just don't quite give the same on low density. I've been bunning a lot but now dealing with breakage in the back smh.
lol good morning! I would just style my hair loosely with these same styles. People in the community are telling me twists do not fare well in fine hair.
Girl yes. It has been a long epidemic I feel. I never was a fan of the edges. If it's small i think it's cute but when it's curling into a circle and all that, Im like why? No one's hair is naturally like that not even the nonblacks lol. And it's a bit funny when they've now lost all their edges and then comb and cut out a portion of the next layer of hair to lay it doen like edges. Smh
@@kaodiumerah2830 I was not aware of this either until recently. I saw a woman doing this with her wig. She actually cut the front of her wig to make “baby hairs.”
May I ask what do you use to lay your edges like in this video? I am trying to find a better alternative to edge control Also how often do you wash your hair? I wash my hair every week and I don’t re-moisturize until wash day, so I am just curious with the chebe grease and leave conditioner how long can you go before the grease feeling heavy to where you want snd need to wash it again?
Hello! I use Curls Blueberry control paste. I wash my hair every 2 weeks. No my hair does not feel greasy or heavy. For the Chebe grease , you do not need a lot.
I don't understand how you can HATE your natural afro hair. You can be frustrated with the combing or detangling of it, that's understandable. But we have KAZMALEJE brush comb on the market that makes it easier. I love natural afro hair especially that long afro hair. I do not like hair products at all, not even shampoo or conditioner. *Black women are insane to even think that hair products are the answer to their hair!!! I'm here to tell you that a KAZMALEJE brush comb is the only answer you need. The rest of it is variations of braiding, twisting, cornrowing, flat twisting, pony puffs, or afros. That is more than enough hairstyles for a person. Stop the obsession, ladies.
Hello Tina! Yes ma am , I would start with washing your hair in the shower in a downward motion, do not pile it on top of your head like you see in the commercials lol. Also try washing your hair in sections. This will allow you to focus on portion of your hair, put it up, and work on the next section. Lastly if your hair is tangling more than usual or you notice your detangling time is taking longer, you may need a trim.
Such a shame that this didn't go as viral as when you discuss controversial social media topics... A lot more people need to hear this! oh well that's the algorithm for you :/
Mya I am speechless about that comment surrounding your edges… I don’t do much to mine but add a cream. I have also noticed that when I use edge control, if I don’t wet my edges, it will pull my hair out because I will see hair in my hand. Someone suggested using the curl that I had never heard of. Lol she said you have curly hair…🤔you should try this new “ chemical” curl product. Honestly I was highly offended.
lol the comment was just so left field, not to mention it was months after the challenge ! Sir where did you come from ??? mmmm " chemical" curl product ????
Thanks for this video! First as a kid I always had long enough hair and then you feel like you've been blindsided when you noticed people either calling another texture pretty and yours nappy. Things happened for me to get my first perm my mom was never good at doing hair and the person who did my hair stopped. Jump to later I'm at a family gathering and my adult cousin says to child me your hair isn't like ours because her and few others have looser curls that was a moment that stuck with me and I felt my hair wasn't up to par. Mind you I grew up with a cousin with 4A wavy hair who never said her hair was better. So it was a battle dealing with that. I'm happy I have been natural for years but of course it has its ups and downs. Fast forward to 2024 watching our Olympian win gold with unlaid edges. I'm aware of it being uncomfortable for me and others to see her hair a mess after what was done to us. But I just watched her and smiled and laughed at how much it bothers us even in this situation. Gold medal and unlaid edges 😂 What I didn't know is that it would go so viral after it had already happened to another years ago. I got pissed and kinda want to never lay my edges again and wanted us to all post bushy haired ponytails selfies 😂 anyways thanks for always keeping it so transparent 🤎
Hello Dominque! Your childhood and the comments. I don't think people realize how much words ( especially from people we look up to and/or revere) can shape the mindset of a child and ultimately shape their world view. There are things that were said to me a child that I remember still to this day. But, I am glad that you have found happiness in natural hair. Simone Biles. People! This young woman is making history and yall are worried about her edges. The did the same thing for her wedding. I was focused on the fashions lmbo.
While I understand your perspective, everyone has an ideal that they aspire to. As someone with natural hair, I barely want to handle my hair, so when I think about mothers or women who work multiple jobs, it's best to have a protective style that YOU like. I think we need to release black women from the standard that you MUST wear your natural texture, and if you don't want to, you hate your hair. Some things are just uncomfortable and no one wants to feel less confident because of hair. Everyone is not at the stage where they are comfortable or even know how to style their natural hair. Some just want straight hair or loose curls.
Hello and thank you for your comment, however; it further proves my point. The women who do not feel comfortable with their natural hair were not born like that, it was taught and/or they were socialized like that. Some of it is subconsciously and some is blatant. If you have a little girl who grows up seeing her grandmother, mother, and and sister wearing weaves and wigs, or getting relaxers, that is all she will know. No one in the house talks about or tends to natural hair. Not because the mother is trying to harm her daughter but that is what the mother was also taught. So the mother will inadvertently teach her daughter that her natural hair is not good enough and then eventually her daughter will become uncomfortable with her natural hair. The sentiments at home will be echoed to her in the world as well. I have never said women who do not wear their natural hair hate their hair. Many women choose different styles that are practical and fit their lifestyles and there is no issue with that. The problem is these are the same women that will shame, ridicule, and laugh at women who choose to wear their natural hair. Weaves, wigs, straight hair, relaxed hair, have become the norm and the acceptable styles for afro-hair but no one is stopping to ask why ? Wanting to try something new is not an issue, ( wet and wavy wig ) but when you covet the looser curl pattern that means you do not like the curl pattern you were blessed with, manageability aside.
Adam passed down imperfection to all mankind (Rom 5:12) Jesus as the corresponding ransom sacrifice opened the way for righteous mankind to receive perfect human life forever.(1 Cor 15:22,45; Psalms 37:10,11,29; Rev 21:3-6) Enjoying one's hair in its imperfect state is good. Under heavenly kingdom rule coming at any time now perfection will be restored and enjoyed by those righteous in paradise on earth (Matt 6:9,10;24:3,14,42,44) What Jehovah God and Jesus wants for mankind will be fulfilled (Isaiah 55:11) (Note: In paradise on earth under heavenly kingdom rule perfect hair won't need to have product to slick down edges 😂) You are looking regal Mrs Mya 😁 You went in in this video. Thanks for sharing. 🙏🏽💐💜😀
I’m sorry but not sorry girl, I am GUILTY. Now I don’t do the slick back thing but My curls MUST be perfectly popping and zero hair can be out of place. I wash and condition my hair every other day to make sure my hair is perfect and I experience no breakage.
I think it's really a black women's problem, because I'm white and in my community we are all jealous of your beautiful natural hair. You have so much more volume, your hairstyles are extraordinary, our hair is flatter and our hairstyles are often a little poor... stay natural, you are beautiful as nature made you.
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Hello Mya, you are telling the truth. I stopped using edge control because it never worked for me anyway. I see people straightening edges too it looks scary. Your hair is always beautiful.💜🌸
@@patriciajenkins9458 Thank you! The gel was drying out my edges, but the curl paste does not and I do not use a lot .
Girl, my hair is free-flowing. I let my hair be and do what it likes, and I never do my edges. I am a professional woman, and I see my hair just as presentable now that I am natural as when I had a relaxer. This is not a perfect world, and there is nothing perfect in it, so why would I try to be perfect? It's just ridiculous. I believe in embracing myself and my hair in its natural state, with no add-ons. My children are as well, and I am loving it.
Hello Tmt!
It is so wonderful you are raising your children the same way.
It is also great that you are able to wear your natural hair in a professional setting.
There is no need to have gel in edge to have « perfect » edge. It seems that it depends of your education. Edge with or without gel seem good to me…
You said free flowing, I love that for you! Mine is too. 😊
I honestly find the way you carry yourself and do your hair to be very elegant even when your edges are “bushy”. My goal is to be able to style my hair like yours❤absolutely gorgeous
lol hello and thank you !
It's funny because I just got done watch a bio on Simon Biles and they were talking about how she and other black olympians were criticized about their hair/edges not being slicked down. I thought to myself that's crazy.
I do like my hair to be in unison. But my edges/kitchens do their own thing. I pretty much wear a stretchy handbands or scarfs a lot. Sometimes I might use my wax stick or control paste or grease for them but there is no way I would flat iron my edges everyday!
I agree with you, there is beauty in imperfection!
She was ridiculed the last Olympics , this Olympics, and her wedding! The young women is making history and yall are worried about her hair.
I am sure the track girls were being talked about as well.
This comment is totally off subject but you would be an amazing news anchor or public speaker…You speak so clearly and express yourself so well…you exude strength and confidence! So nice to see!…On topic: I agree with all that was expressed in the video! All the information was on point! You’re a good reader of people and situations and correctly called some things out!…no ruffled feathers here. You’re absolutely correct on ALL points!
Wow thank you so much !
Public speaking terrifies me lol, but thank you.
I have cut, shaved, and revived my hair so many times I can’t even count. At 33, I fell ill and my medication took a toll on my hair. I had to wear wigs. In the past year I’ve seen the most growth since I was a kid. I recently started a new medication and see the decline again. I’m done! I love my hair. I’m grateful for my hair, and I’m no longer obsessed with it. I’ll take care of it and that is all. ❤
I have had setbacks too and it’s exhausting! I wish you the best on your journey!
Hello Connie!
I pray you are able to find a balance with the medication and your hair journey. But the most important part is that you are healthy !
Great topic!! I have never bothered with edge control….ever. It;s not a new phenomenon. It was a “thing” when I was a teenager and I’m nearly 69 yrs old. It never looked ‘natural; to me so I never bothered with it. My hair does not grow flat onto my face…so why pretend and I had relaxers back then!!!!! I have been natural for nearly 3 yrs. I blew my hair out for the 1st time last week. I used my Tymo on 80 degrees (basically air dried with the comb attachment). Wow….Did I get a SURPRISE!! My hair is WELL BELOW bra strap…In fact, IT’S JUST ABOVE WAIST LENGTH!! 😮 WHO KNEW??!!?? My hair has always been thick but after using Aryuvedic herbs/teas/masks on my natural hair for nearly a year, my strands are THICK, SHINY AND HEALTHY!! No split ends!!! It was so thick and so long….I realized I wasn’t ready to handle it!! Seriously!! I took a couple of pictures and IMMEDIATELY put it back into my Beloved TWISTS!!! 😂 Just saying…..Long and thick isn’t all that. Being willing to deal with it is the key. I prefer twists and head wraps!! I take my twists out once every 7 days for 24 hours (to make my hubby happy….He LOVES My Wash-n-Go’s…..then it’s time for Prepoo and my all day wash day routine!! 🥰🤣 In short - That edges thing and unnaturally (gel laden) slicked back hair is a cultural “look” that just doesn’t speak to me. 🙂
Hello!
I am so glad that you have found a hairstyle and hair care regimen that works for you.
You definitely right lol having long hair does require extra time and the willingness to take care of it.
You are speaking my mind. The ”slicked baby hair edges” look unnatural to me. I am 75, so I am passed trying to impress. My hair is not for men...it is for me. I am growing my hair after about 50 years of a TWA. It's fun...it's what God gave me...kinks and coils! Thanks for sharing.
I love this discussion. I think another form of rejection is in the workplace. It is very difficult in certain corporate settings to have natural hair. The preference is to conform especially in executive level roles. It’s not as simple as just going somewhere else to work.
@@Exclusively_dkh This is true as well.
Many women have told stories about job offers with the stipulation that they must change their hair.
The Crown Act.....
This video was something we needed to hear! Thank you so much for bringing this truth! Our national hair is beautiful and it is what sets us apart! It is the only hair that defies gravity and flourishes in its natural state!
That part is so special. When we accept and love it it loves back. ♥️🙏🏾
So true!! Couldn’t be better said when we accept and love it- it loves us right back! #facts!
Hello and thank you!
You are correct!
I was blessed with my hair from the most high and I will treat it as such!
Love this vid. Crazy how the same people who say they like a “natural woman” are likely the same ones who ridicule us when our hair is not up to the standard. The whole reason for the start of the natural hair movement was for us to love our hair as it grows from our scalp and I think a lot of the community has loss sight of that. Hopefully we can get back to it. Our hair is beautiful just the way it is
Side note: I also live in the Carolinas and the humidity is so unserious 😩
Hello.
The humidity is unreal and disrespectful lol. I was sitting on my porch yesterday and my edges were laid no more.
when people say they prefer natural I think most of them have this idea or ideal look which is typically a looser curl pattern.
Mya, you're so right. Thank you for talking to the younger ladies and giving them the confidence and courage to start wearing their hair naturally. I grew up in the 70s where afros were the in thing and press and curls with the hot comb and marcell curling irons. Then, the 80s the geri curl phase. Stuck with that until the 2000s, then came naturally curly phase. That lasted two years. When I went back to the geri curl because it was easier to take care of but not many hair stylists were familiar with how to put the product in. So I let my naturally curly 4c hair grow out again. And stuck to corn row styles. Then my hair dresser retired. Continued to cornrow myself, my hair continously got stronger and thicker and longer and harder to put in cornrows myself. Then I found you on UA-cam and your hair texture is very much like mine and a lot longer. I love the chebe grease I have started using. I am experiencing less breakage when twisting and braiding my hair. Combining, brushing and washing your natural hair regularly is the best thing you can do keep you natural hair healthy and strong. Ladies Mya is a very beautiful hair influencer and she's telling the truth on natural hair care.
Hello Kim, thank you so much for your kinds words. If I can inspire through my channel my work is done.
Lol you've tried everything! But is sounds like you have settled on styles and a hair care routine that works for you!
I am so glad the chebe grease is working for you. I am loving the powder.
I have come into this similar mindset over the past year and it is so freeing to accept my texture and love on it in a way I couldn’t in the past I hope others hear this video and it leads them to find confidence in their natural type 4 curls
Thank you and I hope so too.
More importantly I am glad you have come to love and accept your texture .
I love my edges curly 🙂 no laying edges over here!!
Mya, you have basically just said exactly everything that I am experiencing now. I admittedly a perfectionist and I will toil away with my hair tools and products I pursuit of perfection and it is absolutely having the opposite effect and causing me more harm and stress than anything good and positive. Thx for sharing this and keep posting more content to uplift the community and bringing more of important hair issues to light.
Of course and welcome to the community !
My hair is done to suit ME. No one else. I am not offenfed by whatever ANYONE says. I love me snd my curly hair
Say it louder ma'am for the people in the back.
Maya, I definitely believe a quest for slick back styles and neat baby hairs can and will lead to damage. Although these ideas about texturism, 'good hair v. nappy hair', etc begin as little girls..we have to learn to appreciate the uniqueness of each curl. You are truly blessed to have a Mother that celebrated you and taught you to love yourself. Unfortunately a lot of us did not have that and that deep rooted self hatred continues to flourish and project on to others. Even the beautiful, accomplished Simone Biles endured hateful comments about her edges. SMH
Hey MJ!
Yes! The ridiculed her 4 years ago at the Olympics, this Olympics, and during her wedding.
I am very blessed that my mother raised me to be proud of who I am.
Unfortunately there are a lot of toxic mother daughter relationships. If I am every blessed with a daughter I will raise her the same.
I’ve known Samoan women with knee-length hair. When they straightened their hair, they preferred to use an iron (on low setting) instead of a straight flat iron, with heat protectant, of course. I think the length and frequency of application matters. Black hair can be fragile.
It’s always good to hear from you, my lovely Sister. I agree with all that you have said.
I am 75 years old, dark skinned, 4C haired, African American woman. I am of the “Angela Davis” era. I learned to love my 4C hair long before it was called 4C. At a point, I started wearing a TWA when very few of us wore a TWA. I thought of it as a gift from the Lord because it was easy to care for. I wasn’t trying to impress any man or anyone. I just enjoyed the ease and loveliness of my TWA. No, I am not “ beautiful” by today’s standards, I am average. But I always accepted my hair as a gift from God, with all its kinks and coils. I raised my dark skinned daughter to know that she was beautiful no matter what, and she too wore a TWA. I taught her that the white kids would not understand black beauty and she shouldn’t be bothered by their comments about her skin color, her hair, or any other aspect of herself. So I tried to get her to accept herself. She is now an adult, and has experimented with various hair styles, and I respect her choice to do anything she wants with her hair. But I know I did the best I could trying to get her to know that she is beautiful.
I wore my TWA for approximate 50 years, and just last year, 2023, I decided to grow my hair. I want to see if I can, and just how long it would get. I have never ever worn wigs, or extensions. At my age, my hairline had begun to recede. Thanks to some trusted black influencers, I am learning how to care for growing 4C hair. My edges are slowly improving, and I am excited to see what results.
I am happy that, at my age, I don’t care if my edges are “laid”, or what other people think of my hair. I have also lived long enough to see what the black community has done to itself by not supporting all of us. I have seen the texturism, the brown bag effect, and many other things that have detrimentally divided us. It is a shame that we can’t all just love the variety that exists as black people. We get enough harm from non-black society…we shouldn’t be hating on each other.
I love my black people, and anytime I see someone with a natural while at the supermarket or anywhere, I make it a point to compliment her (or him) and tell them how beautiful her or his braids, natural, or anything is…ALWAYS…no matter the complexion, curl pattern, style or whatever. I tell the young people, old people, and middle aged people how beautiful they are….and it always makes them feel good. They are beautiful because that is how God made them, no matter the edges, curl pattern, the texture…whatever, they are beautiful.
Hello Discovering Hope!
Thank you so much for sharing this.
I hope our community can one day reunite as one.
I love that you wore a TWA for 50 years and now you are growing your hair out. I wish you much success on your journey!
I really love this topic!!! Thank you
I Love your Hair!!!! I really think it’s all about mentality. Sometimes people in our communities don’t see us as beautiful and we tend to take it out on each other. But, it isn’t fair.
I had to start loving my hair as it is , and it has to been a journey. But, I’m loving what hair is becoming!!
❤😊!! I love your videos.
Hello Book Beauties. Thank you.
I am so glad that you have are on the journey to loving your hair.
Mentality does have a lot do with it, but the question is where did they get it from? You are not born hating yourself. You are not born hating certain hair textures.
In order for us to change our community we must start with the children.
“It’s easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” Frederick Douglass - Education
Thanks, great topic that needs to be addressed. Past hair residue still exist and continues to be passed on through generations. The media, commercials, beauty supply stores, hair product companies are all playing on our residue we carry around. We need to uplift, educate and support our natural hair brothers and sisters. Doing my own research about natural hair and listening to others share their journey has helped me grow and appreciate my beautiful crown. I don’t look for perfection because hair changes daily. I want naturally healthy thriving hair. That’s beautiful to me. It’s sad when so many are losing their edges and hair for a temporary perfection.
Hello Shay! I love this and I am so glad that you are learning to love your hair. Your crown is beautiful! The journey is not always easy especially if you are dealing with residue.
In order for our community to change we have to start with out children. Raise them not to be ashamed.
Hello new to your channel love this video. I’m back to being a loose natural after having locs for 5 years. I’ve been out of touch with the natural hair community, I’m happy these conversations are being had. Having been natural before my locs, you’re absolutely right, there was a time when natural hair was just that…natural hair. it wasn’t expected to be something that it wasn’t. I’ve come accustomed to the convenience, low maintenance and low manipulation of locs. Now that Im a loose natural I’m going to continue with low maintenance and low manipulation styles. Some times my 4b twa doesn’t have defined curls and I’m okay that. It’s a shame certain hair textures in its very natural state, straight wash and go, no manipulation is considered unattractive. Absolutely love this video. Peace and blessings to you.
Hello Kingdom. Thank you and welcome to the community!
I think you made a great point: the concept of hair being "done" or unattractive. Hairstyles look different on different hair textures!
This girl is deep. God bless you for this work you do. It’s not trivial!!
Thank you so much !
Excellent commentary!
thank you
Hey Mya
I have always stuck to twists but making them look presentable. Edge control usually causes my skin to break out. To tie my twists in a slightly loose bun, I use silk ponytail holders.
I stay far away from heat😂😂😂😂😂
Hello Queen!
Twists, twists, twists, you know I love twists lol.
I do use my Rev-air on the cool setting. I do heat about once a year.
I would kill for bushy edges, your hair is brutal sis!!
lol thank you !
Hi! I just found your chanel and what you said just touch and bring peace for my mind. I'm strunggling w my hair and find myself looking for "that perfection curls".
Thanks for sharing amazing contents.
Of course! And.....welcome to the community !
I have definitely fallen into the “perfection” trap. I would detangle my hair at every wash day step so that my twists would look polished and “perfect.” Unfortunately I was just causing split ends. But since stopping that my hair is recovering nicely.
Hello. I am so glad your hair is recovering nicely!
I use to detangle the heck out of my hair during wash day as well!
Once people put themselves out there, for one reason or another and for whatever purpose, it’s expected to have negative people commenting. We just can’t get rid of them. Notice even movie stars, they have a hard time, no matter who they are. What I commend, y’all about is when strength is shown and stand up against negativity. You are obviously a strong person, which is observed in all your videos. Good for you‼️ Cause like I tell other video makers you just can’t get rid of bad mind people. So Mya do you and keep on doing all you can to help others. Blessings🎉❤
Amen and amen sister! Great information. Are hair is like living each day different.
Thank you!
I like that!
"Are hair is like living each day different"
Hello there! Do you use your revair dryer every time to wash your hair and what setting do you use?😊
You are so beautiful! And you give such great advice! Thank you!
thank you
Thank you for this content. You are very thoughtful and articulate. And need I mention absolutely beautiful!
I left a comment on one of your previous videos about the dangers of striving for perfection. What I said was that I thought you cut too much off of the back...
When I observe women with traditionally long hair, including the African women of Chad, Chinese women, etc. I do not see perfection. I see that their sides and nape may be thinner, shorter, wisps. I see that the hair at the temples and forehead may be broken or thinned out. But the length and beauty of the rest of their hair makes it hard to notice, or not matter.
Keep striving for what makes you feel good in your own skin, and keep this good content coming.
Only one suggestion: your videos are kind of long. We want to watch, but we be busy, girl!
Hello.
I understand what you are saying and where you are coming from but the nape area of my hair was actually damaged. My nape area had never been that thin, it only started in 2023 and once I stopped using the elasticated bonnet it thickened right back up. So from the beginning I knew my nape area was eventually going to have to be cut. I show in January of this year talking about my hair goals.
I am not looking for perfection, I am looking for health.
Hey Mya love your videos. I never lay down my edges. i will brush them with an old toothbrush and keep it moving, people can say whatever they like it does not faze me. also on my feed all i see is 4c videos. I am 3c and some 4a and I love me and my hair. i tried to put a photo of my hair but dont know how.
Hello Belinda and thank you.
Interesting, I mainly see 3a-3c on my feed lol. Good ole algorithm.
For me, I will lay my edges ( within reason) but once they curl up that's it. I am not going home to re-lay them to sit in the house.
I Love what you said; ALL of it! I sent it to my oldest daughter. Thank You!
Thank you so much !
This was a nice video. Unfortunately, I have thin, very curly/coily hair, which can be one of the most challenging combos. Everyone wants full, well-defined curls-not the sparse, scalpy look.
Most creators with my curl pattern feel like a joke. They push popular products, don’t practice what they preach, and keep making the same promises about fixing their hair but continually neglect it. They also recommend styles, like heavy braiding, that look awful on me. I think the max amount of braids I can have is 8, and I still look like I have 3 strands of hair.
People with hair as thin as mine usually have looser curls, and I rarely see them. They often do wash and gos, but I can’t figure out how to make that work. My hair puffs up from the roots, even when wet, and trying to fix it feels more damaging than helpful. The amount of tools being pushed onto me that I don’t have is frustrating. This area feels more like a marketing trap for a look I probably will never achieve and won’t understand what I am doing wrong. “The fix is always THIS tool!” I still want to learn how to do a wash and go, and understand how to consistently get it to work (also understanding the variables mentioned), since I do like the bottom half of my hair lol…
I wish I could see a realistic model with hair like mine. It would be amazing to understand how to manage it and style it in a way that’s flattering. I’ve accepted that my hair will never be perfect because I’m not perfect. Finding out what doesn’t work helps me filter what might. If I can do something that makes me feel slightly pretty, that’s close enough to perfect for me.
I can understand, my hair profile is similar. Coily Code has fine, low density coily hair, maybe check her out. I wish you the best on this hair journey!
@@dariapio1502 Thank you! I will check them out. I appreciate you sharing that with me. I wish you the best as well!
@@LaunchB Thank you so much! It seems hard at times, but we got this 👍🏾
You look great here!!
@@Annointedxx thank you
Thank you so much for encouraging me to embrace my natural hair. Yesterday i went to dye my hair a beautiful reddish brown and my hair is quite short at the moment but i can still just about tie it up in the middle or create a nice curl short do. My hair is very soft but the sides recently broke due to this silly woman who braided my hair so I'm leaving it for now. I absolutely agree about striving for perfection and when i left the salon after putting dye and treating it, i just kept the style simple. The hairdresser did ask me if i wanted to put gel in it and i said NO. Gel breaks my hair and why do i need to slick it down anyway🙄
Let the curls go free lol ! Let them be great !
Love this !
Thank you so much! I will!@@KlassicallyKept
Hi Mya, Great video as usual. Just out of curiosity, why do you choose to lay your edges every few days? No judgement. I’m just curious. Thank you. ❤
Hello MJ and thank you.
I lay may edges because I like the way it compliments my hairstyle. There is no need to lay my edges every single day, too much manipulation. Are you asking do I leave the house without laid edges, I sure do lol !
Plus I live in the south and the humidity here is very disrespectful and my curly q's just do not care that I want them to lay nice and behave.
Strong point “accept your hair for what it is and what it will never be” hmmmmm food for thought🤔
I am simply looking for a healthy scalp and healthy hair!
And that is all that is required !
I enjoy your videos ❤
thank you so much
Took me years to celebrate my natural hair
Hello Ruth!
I am glad that you have come to celebrate your natural hair !
Thank you for doing this video! It is getting ridiculous, unfortunately. Yes there is an agenda to make black women feel inferior about our hair and our looks etc. It's disgusting and yes the black community has a lot of issues with colorism, texturism, featurism. Simon Biles is the most decorated Olympian ever! However balck women and more than likely black men are obsessed with her hair. Looking at Simon Biles, I don't think she is natural. However, she seems to have type 4 hair. Even with a relaxer which it appears she has, her hair with I'm sure sweating from physical activity is not always going to lay flat without a lot of gel and product. I feel like if she was in the 2 or 3 a type hair and laid her edges completely flat, there would be no issues.
Unfortunately, a lot of black men have negative things to say about black women with type 4 hair. I've heard it and had plenty of black men complemently because of my texture and length. It's getting out of control. I don't like it at all. We must do better.
Thank you for sharing ❤
of course
Excellent video.
thank you
Thank you Mya for this much needed reminder! I'm curious, how would you style your hair if you had, let's say, a third of your current density? Lol I love twists but they just don't quite give the same on low density. I've been bunning a lot but now dealing with breakage in the back smh.
lol good morning!
I would just style my hair loosely with these same styles. People in the community are telling me twists do not fare well in fine hair.
@@KlassicallyKept That makes sense, thank you :)
Girl yes. It has been a long epidemic I feel. I never was a fan of the edges. If it's small i think it's cute but when it's curling into a circle and all that, Im like why? No one's hair is naturally like that not even the nonblacks lol.
And it's a bit funny when they've now lost all their edges and then comb and cut out a portion of the next layer of hair to lay it doen like edges. Smh
@@kaodiumerah2830 I was not aware of this either until recently. I saw a woman doing this with her wig. She actually cut the front of her wig to make “baby hairs.”
And it looks very silly and tacky, in my opinion 🤷🏾♀️
And it looks so ridiculous. Especially when they do it with the wigs. I’ll be so glad when that trend dies
Exactly
It looks hella weird.
May I ask what do you use to lay your edges like in this video? I am trying to find a better alternative to edge control
Also how often do you wash your hair? I wash my hair every week and I don’t re-moisturize until wash day, so I am just curious with the chebe grease and leave conditioner how long can you go before the grease feeling heavy to where you want snd need to wash it again?
Hello!
I use Curls Blueberry control paste.
I wash my hair every 2 weeks.
No my hair does not feel greasy or heavy. For the Chebe grease , you do not need a lot.
@@KlassicallyKept thank you!! ❤️
I don't understand how you can HATE your natural afro hair. You can be frustrated with the combing or detangling of it, that's understandable. But we have KAZMALEJE brush comb on the market that makes it easier.
I love natural afro hair especially that long afro hair. I do not like hair products at all, not even shampoo or conditioner. *Black women are insane to even think that hair products are the answer to their hair!!! I'm here to tell you that a KAZMALEJE brush comb is the only answer you need. The rest of it is variations of braiding, twisting, cornrowing, flat twisting, pony puffs, or afros. That is more than enough hairstyles for a person. Stop the obsession, ladies.
I have a question: I wash my hair in the sink. My hair gets really tangled. Should I be washing my hair in the shower?
Hello Tina!
Yes ma am , I would start with washing your hair in the shower in a downward motion, do not pile it on top of your head like you see in the commercials lol.
Also try washing your hair in sections. This will allow you to focus on portion of your hair, put it up, and work on the next section.
Lastly if your hair is tangling more than usual or you notice your detangling time is taking longer, you may need a trim.
Such a shame that this didn't go as viral as when you discuss controversial social media topics... A lot more people need to hear this! oh well that's the algorithm for you :/
It is alright!
If I can inspire one young lady, I have done my job!
Mya I am speechless about that comment surrounding your edges… I don’t do much to mine but add a cream. I have also noticed that when I use edge control, if I don’t wet my edges, it will pull my hair out because I will see hair in my hand. Someone suggested using the curl that I had never heard of. Lol she said you have curly hair…🤔you should try this new “ chemical” curl product. Honestly I was highly offended.
lol the comment was just so left field, not to mention it was months after the challenge ! Sir where did you come from ???
mmmm " chemical" curl product ????
Thanks for this video! First as a kid I always had long enough hair and then you feel like you've been blindsided when you noticed people either calling another texture pretty and yours nappy. Things happened for me to get my first perm my mom was never good at doing hair and the person who did my hair stopped. Jump to later I'm at a family gathering and my adult cousin says to child me your hair isn't like ours because her and few others have looser curls that was a moment that stuck with me and I felt my hair wasn't up to par. Mind you I grew up with a cousin with 4A wavy hair who never said her hair was better. So it was a battle dealing with that. I'm happy I have been natural for years but of course it has its ups and downs. Fast forward to 2024 watching our Olympian win gold with unlaid edges. I'm aware of it being uncomfortable for me and others to see her hair a mess after what was done to us. But I just watched her and smiled and laughed at how much it bothers us even in this situation. Gold medal and unlaid edges 😂 What I didn't know is that it would go so viral after it had already happened to another years ago. I got pissed and kinda want to never lay my edges again and wanted us to all post bushy haired ponytails selfies 😂 anyways thanks for always keeping it so transparent 🤎
Hello Dominque!
Your childhood and the comments. I don't think people realize how much words ( especially from people we look up to and/or revere) can shape the mindset of a child and ultimately shape their world view. There are things that were said to me a child that I remember still to this day. But, I am glad that you have found happiness in natural hair.
Simone Biles. People! This young woman is making history and yall are worried about her edges. The did the same thing for her wedding. I was focused on the fashions lmbo.
Sorry girl but my curls Must be perfectly popping and I’m going to cowash every other day to make that happen and I experience no breakage at all.
@@obamasgirl787 I understand lol. Your curls must pop !
While I understand your perspective, everyone has an ideal that they aspire to. As someone with natural hair, I barely want to handle my hair, so when I think about mothers or women who work multiple jobs, it's best to have a protective style that YOU like.
I think we need to release black women from the standard that you MUST wear your natural texture, and if you don't want to, you hate your hair.
Some things are just uncomfortable and no one wants to feel less confident because of hair. Everyone is not at the stage where they are comfortable or even know how to style their natural hair.
Some just want straight hair or loose curls.
Hello and thank you for your comment, however; it further proves my point. The women who do not feel comfortable with their natural hair were not born like that, it was taught and/or they were socialized like that. Some of it is subconsciously and some is blatant.
If you have a little girl who grows up seeing her grandmother, mother, and and sister wearing weaves and wigs, or getting relaxers, that is all she will know. No one in the house talks about or tends to natural hair. Not because the mother is trying to harm her daughter but that is what the mother was also taught. So the mother will inadvertently teach her daughter that her natural hair is not good enough and then eventually her daughter will become uncomfortable with her natural hair. The sentiments at home will be echoed to her in the world as well.
I have never said women who do not wear their natural hair hate their hair. Many women choose different styles that are practical and fit their lifestyles and there is no issue with that. The problem is these are the same women that will shame, ridicule, and laugh at women who choose to wear their natural hair. Weaves, wigs, straight hair, relaxed hair, have become the norm and the acceptable styles for afro-hair but no one is stopping to ask why ?
Wanting to try something new is not an issue, ( wet and wavy wig ) but when you covet the looser curl pattern that means you do not like the curl pattern you were blessed with, manageability aside.
Adam passed down imperfection to all mankind (Rom 5:12)
Jesus as the corresponding ransom sacrifice opened the way for righteous mankind to receive perfect human life forever.(1 Cor 15:22,45; Psalms 37:10,11,29; Rev 21:3-6)
Enjoying one's hair in its imperfect state is good.
Under heavenly kingdom rule coming at any time now perfection will be restored and enjoyed by those righteous in paradise on earth (Matt 6:9,10;24:3,14,42,44)
What Jehovah God and Jesus wants for mankind will be fulfilled (Isaiah 55:11)
(Note: In paradise on earth under heavenly kingdom rule perfect hair won't need to have product to slick down edges 😂)
You are looking regal Mrs Mya 😁
You went in in this video.
Thanks for sharing.
🙏🏽💐💜😀
Hello! Thank you!
Oh no, lol I hope I did not go too in.
You know how I can hop on my soap box lol !
I’m sorry but not sorry girl, I am GUILTY. Now I don’t do the slick back thing but My curls MUST be perfectly popping and zero hair can be out of place. I wash and condition my hair every other day to make sure my hair is perfect and I experience no breakage.