Dear Catherine, thank you for your videos... they have been helping me so much the past two years. I think I might have unresolved or complicated grief. As I mentioned before, my dog Zappa died two years ago and there hasn't been a day that I didn't cry or have this devastating feeling of not being able to live after him. The huge hole in my heart gets bigger and bigger. But as long as I had his rescue "brother" Rudy, I had some hope, I had a reason to smile. And just as I had begun to smile again, Rudy died unexpectedly in June, within a week since he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Zappa was my souldog. Rudy was my "teacher" and my consolation through my grief and now I feel like I don't have a reason to smile anymore. The hole in my heart is immense now and I am devastated. I don't want another dog. They came home together in 2011, they were my "children". Let alone that with these thoughts I feel like I disrespect God for giving me more days to live and the story goes on and on and.... I'm sorry for the long text. Take care, you are a wonderful person. I'm from Athens, Greece. We have talked via messages on Tik Tok and on Facebook too. You are amazing. Thank you so much ❤🙏
Thanks for your help with our questions. That was a good question, and a good response. You always help to make things clear. So natural for you to do this type of thing. I believe the good Lord gives us each a purpose, and I think you have found yours.
Therapy is fine, but with me, I pretty much know that I will never see my wife again, for eternity. I get through each day but the genuine happiness I once had is gone forever. Public Bob gets through each day. Private Bob hurts. If the afterlife was real then I believe that I would have hope, but that’s the big question isn’t it? I am too old to want a companion, but more importantly, I don’t want one. And a great point that you make about compassion is very accurate. I was pretty compassionate about others before, but now I do empathize greatly with others pain. I could go on, but the way I feel after living this life, is that I wish that I had not been born. And to be honest, I’ve had a blessed life surrounded by the love of my wife and family and friends. I just feel terribly bad that others have not had the life that I have had. There are so many people that are in pain and it breaks my heart, but I’ve tried to be a better, more compassionate person towards others. Not being religious, but trying to be a bit spiritual, I am reminded that Jesus said paraphrasing here, that of course you love those people who love you but the challenge for all of us is to love people that are not the nicest people on earth. So agreeing with you, grief does make you grow as a person in many ways, but the loss of my wife is still overwhelming. Thank you for your podcasts:)
Thank you so much for sharing! I’m so glad that you had a wonderful wife and friends….it is a blessing that we don’t all get. That’s what makes your grief even more difficult though, doesn’t it! The world still needs you in it! Keeping making a difference until you can’t. I do believe in the afterlife….too much evidence that there isn’t.
I feel you Bob. I haven't reallu smiled or felt whole since my late fiance left this earth. I can't even say that words to this day. It's so I credibly hard...
I was diagnosed recently with PGD. I'm sorry that it took COVID to happen for PGD to be looked at as a possible DSM category. Especially since people have had PGD before the pandemic occurred.
I think of my late husband last thing at night and first thing in the morning ...ang it go's on the whole day it's 4 years ago must I go back to my doctor
Dear Catherine, thank you for your videos... they have been helping me so much the past two years. I think I might have unresolved or complicated grief. As I mentioned before, my dog Zappa died two years ago and there hasn't been a day that I didn't cry or have this devastating feeling of not being able to live after him. The huge hole in my heart gets bigger and bigger. But as long as I had his rescue "brother" Rudy, I had some hope, I had a reason to smile.
And just as I had begun to smile again, Rudy died unexpectedly in June, within a week since he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Zappa was my souldog. Rudy was my "teacher" and my consolation through my grief and now I feel like I don't have a reason to smile anymore. The hole in my heart is immense now and I am devastated. I don't want another dog. They came home together in 2011, they were my "children". Let alone that with these thoughts I feel like I disrespect God for giving me more days to live and the story goes on and on and.... I'm sorry for the long text. Take care, you are a wonderful person. I'm from Athens, Greece. We have talked via messages on Tik Tok and on Facebook too. You are amazing. Thank you so much ❤🙏
Thanks for your help with our questions. That was a good question, and a good response. You always help to make things clear. So natural for you to do this type of thing. I believe the good Lord gives us each a purpose, and I think you have found yours.
That means so much to me! Thank you! 🙏
Therapy is fine, but with me, I pretty much know that I will never see my wife again, for eternity. I get through each day but the genuine happiness I once had is gone forever. Public Bob gets through each day. Private Bob hurts. If the afterlife was real then I believe that I would have hope, but that’s the big question isn’t it? I am too old to want a companion, but more importantly, I don’t want one. And a great point that you make about compassion is very accurate. I was pretty compassionate about others before, but now I do empathize greatly with others pain. I could go on, but the way I feel after living this life, is that I wish that I had not been born. And to be honest, I’ve had a blessed life surrounded by the love of my wife and family and friends. I just feel terribly bad that others have not had the life that I have had. There are so many people that are in pain and it breaks my heart, but I’ve tried to be a better, more compassionate person towards others. Not being religious, but trying to be a bit spiritual, I am reminded that Jesus said paraphrasing here, that of course you love those people who love you but the challenge for all of us is to love people that are not the nicest people on earth. So agreeing with you, grief does make you grow as a person in many ways, but the loss of my wife is still overwhelming. Thank you for your podcasts:)
Thank you so much for sharing! I’m so glad that you had a wonderful wife and friends….it is a blessing that we don’t all get. That’s what makes your grief even more difficult though, doesn’t it! The world still needs you in it! Keeping making a difference until you can’t. I do believe in the afterlife….too much evidence that there isn’t.
Meant to say that there is! B
I feel you Bob. I haven't reallu smiled or felt whole since my late fiance left this earth. I can't even say that words to this day. It's so I credibly hard...
I was diagnosed recently with PGD. I'm sorry that it took COVID to happen for PGD to be looked at as a possible DSM category. Especially since people have had PGD before the pandemic occurred.
How can I help? Would you like to talk?
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I think of my late husband last thing at night and first thing in the morning ...ang it go's on the whole day it's 4 years ago must I go back to my doctor
Hi Carol. Let’s find a time to talk? Send me an email griefinspired@gmail.com