The Psychology of Chastity
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
- "You can't be chaste alone."
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Wow I’m really appreciating your wholesome realistic explanation as I explore myself and love way deeper level.
Thank you Adam for all you do and supporting us in our own faith. Always praying for you man.
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You awesomely brought the point that one needs community. It's very true, every devotion needs a community's support and the greatest one, no undermining for the ones around us, is that of the Saints. Let's learn from them and be in communion with them. God bless you
Thank you! I'm discerning religious life and this are the kind of conversations I need to have right now. God bless you
the little ways we say no to ourselves help us in the long term.
I love how you mentioned faith gives a third option! Keep making these type videos!
The right ordering of our desires. A healthy amount. Love that mate.
I don’t know why, because it seems so obvious after you said it, but your definition of chastity hit me like a ton of bricks. A big ah ha moment for me. Rightly ordered desire, and thinking of the other person as a person. As someone who has struggled mightily with lust and thinking about women’s bodies and what I can get from them this video was really really helpful. Thank you.
Merci. Je considérai jusqu'à présent la chasteté comme une contrainte. Grâce à toi j'ai pu comprendre le véritable sens de la chasteté. Je me sens apaisé. Thank you very much.
The virtue of chastity is a good virtue
Thank you for this! Short but great talk!
Thank you for sharing this
Thank you for the clarification ❤️
Acknowledge the whole person. Their dignity.
thank you brother you defined it very well.
Right on point he is right
Hi, do you have something for divorced Catholic males to avoid masturbation?
Hello! I recommend therapy, if you’re not talking to someone already, to unpack what is behind this compulsion and to process your experience of divorce. So many addictions are based in fears/identity lies around intimacy which can be really well addressed in therapy. Hope this helps!
Really loved this video. I had a question I was hoping you could address --
People often form relationships that involve true love and loving of the other person, and not just their body. The catholic church teaches that sex outside of the strict context of marriage is wrong -- but why is it wrong? People in our generation, including me, are really confused about this, and find it hard to justify repressing sexual desires while in a loving relationship that, for whatever practical reasons, cannot become a marriage. Since chastity is not repression but right ordering of desires, is there any way we can justify why sex outside of marriage, in a loving relationship, is an improper ordering of desires?
Hello and thank you for this question!
St. JPII breaks it down that characteristics of true/selfless love are being free, faithful, total and fruitful which involve a complete giving of one's self in the sexual act. However, JPII doesn't just stop there and say that these are the requirements for healthy, holy sex, he actually goes on to say that these requirements are found in marriage alone where the sexual act belongs. He builds this not on faith alone but on reason with faith and a full understanding of the human person from an anthropological and biological sense.
Marriage alone provides a total gift of self which also encompasses faithfulness, freedom (right ordering of desires/sexuality), and fruitfulness. Sex outside of marriage is not a total gift of one's life and therefore often fails to be free, faithful, and open to life much of the time.
There are thousands of examples of bad marriages and unhealthy/unholy sex in marriage. I have no doubt that there are many non-married couples giving of themselves selflessly in many ways BUT marriage makes the most amount of sense and is an invitation for God to come into our relationships in a real and tangible way as a Sacrament. There are also many great sources for reason-alone based arguments for marriage. Some contemporaries are Jordan Peterson who I believe talks a lot on this subject. We are never called to repress our desires, our desires aren't bad, but we are also called to not be ruled by them as you mentioned. I think the other question is to ask what type of practical reasons prevent a marriage that is truly free, faithful, total, and fruitful? What are the goals, expectations, and hopes for that relationship? Hope this helps in some way and let me know if you have any other questions or want to talk about it more via email. God bless!
Question: why are single Catholic young men afraid of marriage/commitment when dating? I hardly see any at mass 😟
I have the same problem at my church as a man. I don't see any single women in thier late 20s early 30s there are just old folks and a handfull of young families along with some middle aged spinsters. I think there's like me and 5-10 other single young men and zero single women. If you're from the mineapolis area let me know lol.
@@scottyj6226 Yeah I’m about to be 18, but I’ve been single all my life…I just can’t find a good Christian girl who also happens to be single. Sometimes I feel like I should just stop looking for someone and try to enjoy being single…
Didn't help, feels like a whole lot of platitudes that would get me to lose someone I love because they want to have sex before marriage. Can we even kiss? Why didn't you just answer common questions directly
Hi Daniel! I am happy to answer any specific questions you may have. Kissing is allowed lol, I think a lot of this goes back to God's intention for sexuality, sex, and intimacy. Let me know your thoughts!
At 7:42 you said that "We all have sexual desires, if you don't you might want to see a doctor" I get your point but some people might have a condition where they find themselves without sexual desire. It might be a condition yes, but how are they not "normal" Isn't the fallen normal of human nature with conditions anyway?
May you should check your testosteronlevels. Thats what he means by searching up a doctor. But maybe your happy without testosteron. Why not.
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