I’ve noticed a lot of virgin- shaming recently from different people in real life and on social media. Being a virgin or waiting is nothing to be ashamed of, no matter your age. Wait until you are comfortable and feel ready 💓
So happy to read this. My son is 21 and I was worried. Especially being a guy. But happy it's not a must to do it with the right person. Doesn't matter if you wait.
To the young girls and women reading this, who have not given your body to anyone, PLEASE don’t let anyone shame you, force you with, “you’ll do it if you really love me” or any other pressure they can come up with to convince you to give up your most valuable possession. YOUR INNOCENCE. so many of us wish we could go back and just say no. It’s not worth being some mans conquest. You are more precious and more valuable than that. God gave You this GIFT for a reason. PLEASE don’t treat it lightly. I promise you, you won’t regret waiting. Virginity is not something that’s frivolous, as the worlds has made it seem. Be blessed.
My advice is a lot of foreplay and just get out of Your head the pain is not as bad as you think donr listen to others experiences cause everyone has a different one relax just relax and get out of your head
SOOOOO AGREEEEE!!! I feel like the "out of your head" thing though can only really happen if you're with someone you're really comfortable with. I lost mine to a friend, but me and him had never fooled around prior so I never really got out of my head which is why I feel like it hurt for me.
@@UrbanDecayLova247 yeah girl the thing is people are too in their heads need to get out of that and relax also most women lose their virginity in their teens so there body isn't really ready for that so of course its gonna hurt your body isnt fully developed yet also when your so I'm your head you tense up which causes it to hurt you gotta just relax and get out your head and don't listen to other peoples experiences cause everyone has a different experience and a lot of foreplay
Destiny Destiny only my first time hurt and even then it barely hurt 🤷🏻♀️ if it hurts real bad and keeps hurting then that means y’all don’t know what y’all doing and the forplay sucks cause it ain’t getting you wet or relaxed enough. Vaginas meant to push while humans out so a dick should not hurt that bad
Zaqueen zhane ́ b you’re body doesn’t magically become “way more ready for it” at 21. Technically that happens at puberty but obviously that can still be too young depending on age cause your mind ain’t read, however I don’t feel anything way different at my body now at 23 than I did at 15/16. It’s been years since I moved on from that guy but it was still a really good experience
Yup!!! 23 and still a V! Been with my man for over 5 years he’s the one, but waiting on that rinnng! So blessed to have a man that supports MY decision on waiting!
I lost mine at 22. I wasn’t in love but I finally felt comfortable enough to be vulnerable with another person. It wasn’t perfect, and neither was he. But our first date lasted almost 24 hours and we just talked all night. I told him I was a virgin and we weren’t going to sleep together. He asked questions and we had some deep conversations. The next night we had sex and it was nice to share such a personal side of myself with someone so quickly, and just letting go of the fear of judgement. Feeling open to vulnerability with another person is so key
My husband was my first, Im 23. And im glad I waited I was always very shy and timid, my friends used to tease me for being a virgin. Theyd say "youre gonna end up a lesbian " As if thats how it works🙄 Married to a man and he was my first
@@charmedlilsis1 we were high school sweethearts since we were 15 :) and have been together 8 years So its a while lol in that context But I agree, not long overall
Oofffff I lost my v card about 3 months ago (graduation night 😅) and i honestly regret it. Not that it was bad, I just feel like I could’ve done without it. Y’all virgins out there, please wait.
Lauryn H. May i ask why you regret it? I’m currently waiting but have felt the need to just lose it sometimes cause i feel too old to have it but I do hear alot of girls say its not worth it.
@@prettybrown6247 I regretted it because the I didn't love the person. He also forcibly gave me head while HE was drunk. He thought I was joking even though I tried to kick him in the balls, then my dumb ass went back to him about a week later because I thought nobody else would ever want me. It was painful. Aaaand he didn't believe I was a virgin so he kept forcing it.
@@prettybrown6247 girl I was the same but at 18, until I lost it..... I lost something I had for 18 years in 5 min.... wait until you are ready and with someone special. Now I'm married and sex is amazing, but I wished I had waited a little longer until marriage
I dont think they are need to save until marriage. If you are commited to each other and date 8 years before married then you are just wasting lot of good time together
Very good information ladies 😊 I would have liked for it to be a little bit longer for the younger guys and girls that don't have anyone to ask, what they consider embarrassing, questions to. I think it's a topic worth delving into in an open an honest way. Again, great job ladies!!! 😘😘😘😘
If I could give advice.. especially to young girls... JUST WAIT.. dont feel pressured from your boyfriend and even your FRIENDS. It's something you'll remember for the REST of your life. Make sure it's with somebody important and that you truly love. It's a beautiful thing.. dont let some boy talk you into it.
I was the last one among my friends to lose my virginity but I’m also the only one who is married to my first and only. Don’t feel pressured to ever do something you’re not ready for!
Honestly waiting until you’re ready is the best advice! I was with my boyfriend for over a year and we talked about sex bc he wanted to have sex with me but I wasn’t ready so we waited. My virginity was precious to me so I wanted to be secure in my relationship and comfortable. I wanted to be at a point where if god forbid we broke up, I wouldn’t regret it. I turned 18 and a few months later, I felt mature and grown and felt comfortable with him and so it happened. We are still together (I am 21 now) and while growing up I always wanted to wait until marriage, I know that I won’t regret losing it to him bc I was genuinely ready. I made an adult decision as an adult and I’m happy :)
I'm so glad my older sister told me that sex is NOTHING like the movies or porn, don't romanticize it. Honestly the guy I had my first time with still doesn't know he was my first, but I think that would make him feel like he has some type of right to me
I’m not too worried about the pain really, if anything I’m kinda worried about my body... insecurities😐🤷🏽♀️it’s just something I always think about..like what if it’s a turn off?
I think you should have an open discussion about this with your partner prior. You can tell when someone is into you and when they’re not by the little things: eye contact, attentiveness, innocent/playful touch and physical affection.
Daniella Galvan love yourself first, definitely don’t look for someone to love you and your body. Once you realize that you and everything that makes you, You. And you fall in love with all of you. Then you can think about if that person even deserves you and your body. Everyone is a gift, don’t forget that. Much love. ✌️
My first time was with an acquaintance. I was 20 and in college. I didn't want my first time to be with my first love, I had never been in a relationship at that point. It was great, not awkward at all, pretty painful, but great nonetheless. He knew what he was doing. My advice : wait until you're ready and do it on your own terms. Don't let anyone pressure you into it. Also, don't be a afraid to be vocal. If you don't like something say so, if you like something encourage your partner to continue doing it.
I was almost 20 and it was the most awkward experience of my life. I was incredibly emotional before, during and afterwards. It’s not something to ever take lightly.
I can totally relate Tamera .. I was a virgin when I met my husband .. and the whole time o kept saying OUT LOUD “ I can’t believe I’m doing this”. Over and over and over again .. lol 😆. It totally made it awkward
my first time was also my first kiss and i did it with a stranger. loni’s advice about doing with someone you know is so important. i felt tense the whole time but afterwards i felt this overwhelming happy feeling because i experienced my first “grownup” kiss
Okay well I lost mine when I was 17. For young girls still in highschool i would say dont feel pressured to do it but dont feel like you NEED to wait because you hear older people talking about "save it until marriage". If you feel like you are ready and comfortable with the person, then by all means do it and dont let anyone shame you or make you feel guilty. You also dont have to be in love for your first time, I knew the guy for my whole life but I wasn't in love with him and we weren't dating.
I lost mine when I was 20 (I’m 24 now) to my first boyfriend at the time and I can honestly say it was really nice 🤗. I wasn’t pressured, or felt like I “had to” do it. I was emotionally and physically ready (mature enough) to do it and we took precautions and he was very kind and understanding. I honestly think that’s the way it should be. I don’t think you HAVE to marry the person, but you should have a connection with them, and it be someone you trust and can have fun with. Real talk, I also did a little ‘research’ 😏 ahead of time - mainly watching, you know, videos, but I would highly recommend, like Tam said, ask questions, and for the love of gawd - use A LOT of fore play!!! If you’re like me, afterwards, you’ll want to do it all the time with your partner 😋
Samantha Murphy-Keller I had the same experience for my first time and I lost it at 20. I would feel bad for people that would say they didn’t enjoy it and they regret loosing it to that person. For me I had an amazing time and I don’t regret who I lost it too either☺️.
Make sure your first time is with someone you trust, it’s an experience that can definitely be uncomfortable or embarrassing so you want it to be with someone who cares about you.
My first time was when I was 18, my real first time was when I was 24 when I met the love of my life. I defiantly agree with Loni, make sure your first time is with someone you love or have a connection with. Someone who is more long term...don't do it just to do it with someone.
Dated the same guy all 4years in high school.. prom night with him was the first time & now we are going on 12 years of marriage next month and 5 kids later. 🤷♀️🥰
@@phantomtized Being selfless, communication about ANY offenses we may caused on one another, and the #1 thing is keeping the most high first by following his laws, statues, and commandments.
I agree sooo much with what Loni said. Do not let yourself get pressured to do it. I was pressured by my at the time boyfriend to have sex. I was 14 at the time. My parents didn’t want me to have a boyfriend so they prohibited any contact with him. For 7 months since the relationship started he was trying to force sex (he’s 2 years older and when so young it really matters) all the time. Pressuring me.. telling me it all is my fault that we don’t have a normal relationship and I should compensate him with sex. There was a lot more mental abuse and manipulation going on .. but anyway .. I gave in and I regret it so much. Over 10 years later I still regret it. And if I have a daughter tomorrow I’ll try to do better than my mother’s communication skills which was yell and beat me up for disobeying. In retrospect I wish I had a better communication with my mother so she would have guided me better so I wouldn’t have made that mistake. So my advice to parents would be talk to your children. Don’t lecture them and on this subject really be their friends and have an open dialogue, because it can be so scary when you are not mentally ready for this and you have someone pushing you to do something you are not ready for and you feel like you have no one to turn to.
@@vsatromp5358 You'd be surprised. I just read someone's virginity story. And a guy got both sisters pregnant and they have a triad relationship. But the parents don't know one of the sisters were pregnant from the guy who was in the relationship with one of the sisters. One of the sisters got married to the guy too.
Marcus Melton not gonna front saying ‘omg what a terrible story’ because i am a product of such a thing. Greatgrandma and greatgrand aunt both got fucked by the same man. But he married my ggaunt instead and didn’t recognize the other(us) kids. But if he hadn’t done that i wouldn’t be here 80 years later. Carry on. I didn’t read the story so i don’t know if that woman is admitting to the (and using the term) abuse but i did and woman who do are usually already out of the abuse so maybe she is in denial or in danger right now and we should be mindful🤷🏾♀️ .. or she is happy idk
Well I was young..right around the ripe age of 13 or 14, but I was in love & eventually even engaged to my first! We didn't make it to the altar, but we were together for 6 years. No love lost, we were just too young. Awwww...this actually made me miss him & I am now 42, widowed, and have been with my current man for over 6 years...one thing to remember...you ALWAYS remember your first!! Hey Damien!
I was 19. I didn’t wait for some special person but I had a great experience (I was lucky and I planned). Make sure you’re ready, comfortable, responsible, and considerate with a partner who is the same.
I didn’t do it until I was 19. I was dating the person, was not in love we weren’t together very long when it happened. But I never felt ready or comfortable until that time and I think my advice would just be that you know when you know and not to rush into it. Plus my experience was a lot better than most I hear bc I truly was comfortable in myself and the situation
No shame in waiting till marriage and also no shame in just doing it when you feel ready before marriage. Most important thing is that you feel ready and really want to do it with the person of your choosing. “Virginity” is not something good or bad that defines who your are as a person.
I wasn't scared to lose my virginity! 🤣 I planned it out for about a week. When my boyfriend came over, I had a towel on & escorted him to the bathroom so we could take a shower together. In my bedroom, I had the candles ready, whip cream, strawberries, ice, blindfolds, etc. 😂 I wasn't playin no games!!!! 😭
@@TheeBratzDollxox It didn't hurt, but it wasn't good like I thought it would be so I didn't have sex again for 2 years. Now, my second time...whewww 😳 I couldn't really take it that time, but I stuck it out like a champ 🤣 I bled a little after that one & I was sore for about a week. I was so mad at him because I told him to take it easy on me. Next thing I know my head is banging up against the headboard 😭 let me tell you, size definitely makes a difference. Start small lol
Girls, don't fall for the "if you love me, you'll do this for me" Never do anything you're not comfortable with. And when someone really cares about you, they won't make you do anything you don't want to.
I’ll be 20 on Saturday and I’m a virgin. I’m waiting for the right person. The ladies are right that your first time should definitely be with someone you love or have a connection with. ❤️ to the Real ladies.
I lost my virginity at 19. I can honestly say that I felt like I was the only one that was still a virgin and it was something I had thought about doing for years so when I finally got a bf I did it with him. It was an awkward experience for sure lol
My husband and I had sex on our wedding night, we were both virgins. Sex hurt like hell, I don't think we actually consummated our marriage till a 2, 3 months later, due to the pain. But it was worth the WAIT.
Making sure it’s someone special is for real true. I was 17 and just did it to do it bc all my friends had done it and I wasn’t in love and he was insensitive. It took me 5 years to do it again. Ladies please make sure it’s right.
I was saving myself for marriage & then I met my fiancee and it kinda just happened I lost it at 20 & it was great I did feel a little discomfort at first but it was very tolerable it's more of a weird sensation because I felt the pressure of it mostly the real pain came in for me afterwards my legs got so sore it was really hard to walk but that was the worst of it I don't regret it at all! But I will say I truly waited until I was in love. Still I'm proud to say my baby was my one & only 🥰
I don’t know why I’m about to tell my whole business to the internet but everyone seems to be and we’re all adults here 🤷🏼♀️ im 22 and lost my virginity at 14...it was to my first boyfriend who was 16- I don’t necessarily regret it, I just regret who it was with as even though I thought I was in love at the time, I now know that being ‘in love’ just doesn’t happen that young. Anyway- I have no shame in that and it’s no one’s right to judge another person for waiting or not. What I do think is wrong is not educating girls (and guys) on sex. It is NOT supposed to hurt and it bothers me that grown women think it should...when a girl is aroused, the vagina is supposed to open up. If it’s painful, odds are, you’re nervous and it’s not with the right person. Long story short, respect people’s decisions on waiting or losing their virginity young. It’s a personal choice that we all have the right to make.
i wish i could say i had a great meaningful first time but i was 18 and with an abusive older guy. i was drunk and high that night. my ex didnt care about me and i remember saying that i wanted it to be special and he ignored me. i consented but it was a miserable experience. i remember hearing my cry from the pain. it was not a nice first time but i don’t regret it bc it was truly a growing pain. at 31 im proud of the woman i am even my painful past, even my first bad time.
My advise is make sure you are mentally ready as well. It's not so much about the age, although definitely more mature after 18 and hopeful educated on consequences, but it often is about how ready the person feels. Do not let anyone ever pressure you to so ANYTHING you do not want to do. Also, don't let other's opinion over your choice to wait matter, it's your body!
I was 20 when I had my forst time with my husband and I actually had to prepaid myself. I know it sounds wierd but I was assaulted twice in my life and I was always worried that I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex or making love. So I asked my therapist and they recommended going to a cemenar and some sex classes for wedding nights. My therapist also recomended to go to an adult store and get comfortable talking about sex and maybe try on some lingerie to help you get into the moment. It worked.
I didn’t lose mine til 26/27 & I’m glad that I did because I don’t think I was emotionally or physically ready before & fyi I was drunk & it still hurt!! I defo think you should wait & not feel pressured to do it. Your virginity is something you can never get back!!
Tamara is so damn cute when she is telling her stories....
Right! Specially the sexy ones ! 😀😀😀
Yep agreed
Nah she ain't
She’s just the cutest !!!!! I love love love her !
fukinGoogle damn I just know that you HATE your life ! I just know it 😅😂😂
I lost mine at 25. No shame in it because I felt mature enough to deal with sex emotionally. Wait until you're ready is the best advice
really good advice!
I lost mine in college. I feel the way. Im glad I waited until I was an adult and not a teen
I lost mine at 23 and still with that person. But yes, wait until you ready.
Lost mine at 23 lol wasn't anything special
I was almost 23 and it only hurt for like the first 10 seconds, no blood at all
I’ve noticed a lot of virgin- shaming recently from different people in real life and on social media. Being a virgin or waiting is nothing to be ashamed of, no matter your age. Wait until you are comfortable and feel ready 💓
Exactly!! Today's society wants to virgin shame, but gets bent out of shape about slut shaming. The hypocrisy.
Thank you for that makes me feel good about myself
I agree with you. It’s crazy though because now that I’m not a virgin now I’m getting shamed for that. It’s like you can’t win either way.
Autumn girl...damn right..no shame in waiting...
Virgin shaming is literally the most childish thing I’ve heard of
*I'm 19 and I'm saving for marriage*
Wise girl👍😖
Same!!
THEE KIKI VIKI same
Says every 19 year old.
zainab aina 😹😹😹
My first time was with my husband on our wedding night! Still going strong at 33 years of marriage!🥰
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Esme Cim SO SWEET😍😍
I'm Anonymous thank you😊
Mary Forbes Forbes Thank you😊
Ohh Wow that is so beautiful!!!❤❤😍😛
Great advice Loni!!! Do not have sex to feel among.(high school kids need to hear this) Wait.
Exactly
PREACH!!!!
Paula Afuwah wish I heard this when I was 16 🙃
@@ItsFairyNecessary aww you can advice other people now since you know first hand there is no rush. Also your children you can tell them too.
Very true.
Loni's face when Tamera talks dirty
It’s the same as mine ahaha.. as soon as she starts my eyebrows go ALL the way up!!
@@spongebobsquarepants6680 lmaoooo
Lmao right
TJ Singleton tamera be way too real, like girl u are allowed to lie lol
@Bee 🙀 whaaaaaat?!
“I gave him everything, I was half a virgin when I met him”
Hahahahahahha!!!
i'm dead!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
greatest FN movie of all time
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Jokes looooool
Damn, really wanted to hear from Jeannie
TI Same!! No one let her speak
Because she was abussed by her cousin as a kid
Jeannie would've spoken about her first time by her own choice.
Speaking from a Virgin's POV would be difficult because of her abusive past
@C H wtf? Are you dumb
Jeannie was sexually abused by a family friend 🥺😔
Who else is obsessed with these vids?
Charlene Neelavannan n idk why but I love them 😩😩
MEEEEEEEEEEE ! I think it's cuz I am in my 20s and I need some girl chat from women who KNOW what they are talking about and have been through it
me too!!! :)
meee
tinkerbell716 honestly it’s like having older sisters giving you advise
“I waited till I was in college and I was in love” - beautiful spoken words by Loni.
as a 23 year old virgin man, I don't even know why I'm on this video 💀💀💀
lol I'm a 25 year old virgin. Patiently waiting for the person who is worthy
I'm 24 ... be proud
Don't worry stay that way until u r ready
So happy to read this. My son is 21 and I was worried. Especially being a guy. But happy it's not a must to do it with the right person. Doesn't matter if you wait.
I’m 24 and still a virgin and haven’t had my first kiss either. So embarrassed to say it 🤦🏻♀️
I’m 33 and still holding on to my virginity 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💪🏽
Why?! Life is short! What if you died tmw?! Life is all about enjoying what life has to offer, experiencing things and ect!
Yvonne Milton same here I’m 29 and will continue to wait until I’m married
Keep holding on 😘
High five girl! 👊
Lol, Goodluck.
20 years old and still a virgin. I’m not ashamed and I’m happy as ever with my decision, God’s timing is everything 💕🙏🏽❤️
Goof
@@amitgour79 STFU
23...going on 24. Waiting for the one. God willing
@@JL-uw8xm 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
To the young girls and women reading this, who have not given your body to anyone, PLEASE don’t let anyone shame you, force you with, “you’ll do it if you really love me” or any other pressure they can come up with to convince you to give up your most valuable possession. YOUR INNOCENCE. so many of us wish we could go back and just say no. It’s not worth being some mans conquest. You are more precious and more valuable than that. God gave You this GIFT for a reason. PLEASE don’t treat it lightly. I promise you, you won’t regret waiting. Virginity is not something that’s frivolous, as the worlds has made it seem. Be blessed.
Pat Wilson great & beautiful advice!! So true
My advice is a lot of foreplay and just get out of Your head the pain is not as bad as you think donr listen to others experiences cause everyone has a different one relax just relax and get out of your head
SOOOOO AGREEEEE!!! I feel like the "out of your head" thing though can only really happen if you're with someone you're really comfortable with. I lost mine to a friend, but me and him had never fooled around prior so I never really got out of my head which is why I feel like it hurt for me.
@Destiny Destiny also I lost mine later in life so my body way more ready for it amd more developes I was 21
@@UrbanDecayLova247 yeah girl the thing is people are too in their heads need to get out of that and relax also most women lose their virginity in their teens so there body isn't really ready for that so of course its gonna hurt your body isnt fully developed yet also when your so I'm your head you tense up which causes it to hurt you gotta just relax and get out your head and don't listen to other peoples experiences cause everyone has a different experience and a lot of foreplay
Destiny Destiny only my first time hurt and even then it barely hurt 🤷🏻♀️ if it hurts real bad and keeps hurting then that means y’all don’t know what y’all doing and the forplay sucks cause it ain’t getting you wet or relaxed enough. Vaginas meant to push while humans out so a dick should not hurt that bad
Zaqueen zhane ́ b you’re body doesn’t magically become “way more ready for it” at 21. Technically that happens at puberty but obviously that can still be too young depending on age cause your mind ain’t read, however I don’t feel anything way different at my body now at 23 than I did at 15/16. It’s been years since I moved on from that guy but it was still a really good experience
Yup!!! 23 and still a V! Been with my man for over 5 years he’s the one, but waiting on that rinnng! So blessed to have a man that supports MY decision on waiting!
Wow that's awesome
Are you sure he is not seeing someone behind your back? 5 years is a long time for a man to live without sex. Just saying.
@@seeyouagain911 no it's possible I haven't in entire my life 24 years I'm still a virgin hahaha but it is really difficult
u lucky
Anne Ambulo he cheating homie
I lost mine at 22. I wasn’t in love but I finally felt comfortable enough to be vulnerable with another person. It wasn’t perfect, and neither was he. But our first date lasted almost 24 hours and we just talked all night. I told him I was a virgin and we weren’t going to sleep together. He asked questions and we had some deep conversations. The next night we had sex and it was nice to share such a personal side of myself with someone so quickly, and just letting go of the fear of judgement. Feeling open to vulnerability with another person is so key
My husband was my first, Im 23. And im glad I waited
I was always very shy and timid, my friends used to tease me for being a virgin.
Theyd say "youre gonna end up a lesbian "
As if thats how it works🙄
Married to a man and he was my first
That's amazing... I never let anyone make me feel bad about it. But then again, I didnt hang out with people who would make fun of me.
@@kaylaburse6319 I learned quickly they weren't friends:)
I have those type of friends and they sound so ignorant when they say stuff like this
You're only 23 and you're already married so you didn't wait very long.
@@charmedlilsis1 we were high school sweethearts since we were 15 :) and have been together 8 years
So its a while lol in that context
But I agree, not long overall
Oofffff I lost my v card about 3 months ago (graduation night 😅) and i honestly regret it. Not that it was bad, I just feel like I could’ve done without it. Y’all virgins out there, please wait.
Lauryn H. May i ask why you regret it? I’m currently waiting but have felt the need to just lose it sometimes cause i feel too old to have it but I do hear alot of girls say its not worth it.
Pretty Brown wait!!!!! There’s no age limit on virginity.
@@prettybrown6247 I regretted it because the I didn't love the person. He also forcibly gave me head while HE was drunk. He thought I was joking even though I tried to kick him in the balls, then my dumb ass went back to him about a week later because I thought nobody else would ever want me. It was painful. Aaaand he didn't believe I was a virgin so he kept forcing it.
@@prettybrown6247 girl I was the same but at 18, until I lost it..... I lost something I had for 18 years in 5 min.... wait until you are ready and with someone special. Now I'm married and sex is amazing, but I wished I had waited a little longer until marriage
@@prettybrown6247I would wait until your ready! You'll enjoy it more!
My first time ain't going to happen until I get married 🙌🏽💯
PERIODT.
Genesis 2:24
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
🙌🏼🙌🏼😃🙏👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I dont think they are need to save until marriage. If you are commited to each other and date 8 years before married then you are just wasting lot of good time together
Girl Same🙌🏽🤞🏽
Amen
Let me just say that Tamera looks so stunning!! Her makeup, earrings, hair, everything looks so beautiful!!
Very good information ladies 😊 I would have liked for it to be a little bit longer for the younger guys and girls that don't have anyone to ask, what they consider embarrassing, questions to. I think it's a topic worth delving into in an open an honest way. Again, great job ladies!!! 😘😘😘😘
Anybody else tried to read Loni’s lips? I looked like she said William lmaoo
Definitely William. The last name looked like it could've been something like Greer lol. IDK.
@@daniellelatouche9534 That's what I was thinking too, but I think I read William Greene
@@JoyfullyShea-Marcella haha! I'm TERRIBLE at reading lips, but she made it so clear lolol!
Yeaahh, it's definitely a William and last name could be Greer. Even played it back in slow motion a couple of times hahahhaha.
darkbangtan u know I was
If I could give advice.. especially to young girls... JUST WAIT.. dont feel pressured from your boyfriend and even your FRIENDS. It's something you'll remember for the REST of your life. Make sure it's with somebody important and that you truly love. It's a beautiful thing.. dont let some boy talk you into it.
“Don’t forget to breathe” 😂😂😂😂 Tamera actually kills me
I was the last one among my friends to lose my virginity but I’m also the only one who is married to my first and only. Don’t feel pressured to ever do something you’re not ready for!
I was 16 & I remember thinking, this sh*t is so stupid. I can’t believe people actually do this! 🤣😂😂
Stacey 😂😂😂😂
Hahahaha so true..... For me I was like thass it?!
Stacey No lie that’s exactly how I felt! 😂
My thoughts exactly 😂😂😂
@Cleo Mullings yes, so true
29 year old virgin going on 30 soon. Comforting to know there are others as well. Feel less alone.
Does oral $ex count as sex? If not then I'm still a v too
Lmaooo, I forgot to breathe, lmaoooooo
Gabbii Carey nice
Gabbii Carey *breathe
Get to know your partner, and don't settle for anyone. There's no harm in waiting.
Honestly waiting until you’re ready is the best advice! I was with my boyfriend for over a year and we talked about sex bc he wanted to have sex with me but I wasn’t ready so we waited. My virginity was precious to me so I wanted to be secure in my relationship and comfortable. I wanted to be at a point where if god forbid we broke up, I wouldn’t regret it. I turned 18 and a few months later, I felt mature and grown and felt comfortable with him and so it happened. We are still together (I am 21 now) and while growing up I always wanted to wait until marriage, I know that I won’t regret losing it to him bc I was genuinely ready. I made an adult decision as an adult and I’m happy :)
I waited till 24 and married to the guy. 13 years later we are still happy with 2 amazing kids.
I'm so glad my older sister told me that sex is NOTHING like the movies or porn, don't romanticize it. Honestly the guy I had my first time with still doesn't know he was my first, but I think that would make him feel like he has some type of right to me
Alexis S. Love this story.
wow value yourself more
I’m not too worried about the pain really, if anything I’m kinda worried about my body... insecurities😐🤷🏽♀️it’s just something I always think about..like what if it’s a turn off?
Daniella Galvan if he’s turned off by your body you shouldn’t be in bed with him in the first place :)
I think you should have an open discussion about this with your partner prior. You can tell when someone is into you and when they’re not by the little things: eye contact, attentiveness, innocent/playful touch and physical affection.
I have had the same feelings when I'm bout to have sex
Daniella Galvan love yourself first, definitely don’t look for someone to love you and your body. Once you realize that you and everything that makes you, You. And you fall in love with all of you. Then you can think about if that person even deserves you and your body. Everyone is a gift, don’t forget that. Much love. ✌️
Have sex in the dark lol or low lights
My first time was with an acquaintance. I was 20 and in college. I didn't want my first time to be with my first love, I had never been in a relationship at that point. It was great, not awkward at all, pretty painful, but great nonetheless. He knew what he was doing.
My advice : wait until you're ready and do it on your own terms. Don't let anyone pressure you into it. Also, don't be a afraid to be vocal. If you don't like something say so, if you like something encourage your partner to continue doing it.
I was almost 20 and it was the most awkward experience of my life. I was incredibly emotional before, during and afterwards. It’s not something to ever take lightly.
Yo Loni's facial expressions took me out 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏽♀️
My fiance was my first and I'm happy it was
Dope!!!
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Omg You’re gorgeous😂
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Gabbii Carey mine too!😁🙌🏽
I can totally relate Tamera .. I was a virgin when I met my husband .. and the whole time o kept saying OUT LOUD “ I can’t believe I’m doing this”. Over and over and over again .. lol 😆. It totally made it awkward
So true “the best is yet to come” first times aren’t the best
It irks that they treat tamera like a prune. Like fam, she's almost 40 something lol
She's over 40 actually 😂
SunKissNicole
With 2 kids
I lost it at 18
Wait as long as you can and until you're comfortable peeps
You are right
my first time was also my first kiss and i did it with a stranger. loni’s advice about doing with someone you know is so important. i felt tense the whole time but afterwards i felt this overwhelming happy feeling because i experienced my first “grownup” kiss
Okay well I lost mine when I was 17. For young girls still in highschool i would say dont feel pressured to do it but dont feel like you NEED to wait because you hear older people talking about "save it until marriage". If you feel like you are ready and comfortable with the person, then by all means do it and dont let anyone shame you or make you feel guilty. You also dont have to be in love for your first time, I knew the guy for my whole life but I wasn't in love with him and we weren't dating.
I lost mine when I was 20 (I’m 24 now) to my first boyfriend at the time and I can honestly say it was really nice 🤗. I wasn’t pressured, or felt like I “had to” do it. I was emotionally and physically ready (mature enough) to do it and we took precautions and he was very kind and understanding. I honestly think that’s the way it should be. I don’t think you HAVE to marry the person, but you should have a connection with them, and it be someone you trust and can have fun with. Real talk, I also did a little ‘research’ 😏 ahead of time - mainly watching, you know, videos, but I would highly recommend, like Tam said, ask questions, and for the love of gawd - use A LOT of fore play!!! If you’re like me, afterwards, you’ll want to do it all the time with your partner 😋
we're the same age and im waiting till marriage ☺️ so it didn't hurt at alp? that's reassuring
Samantha Murphy-Keller I had the same experience for my first time and I lost it at 20. I would feel bad for people that would say they didn’t enjoy it and they regret loosing it to that person. For me I had an amazing time and I don’t regret who I lost it too either☺️.
so you shared your body with someone you're not even with anymore....wait til marriage
You are honest person,,like it
@@monapotter8757 can i have your number plz
Love the channel, I get a laugh every time I watch you, 4 ladies. have a great 2020!
I love Tamera's story, as a 30 year old virgin she makes me excited for when that time comes. Lol
32 and still a virgin! 🙏🏾💜☺️
Make sure your first time is with someone you trust, it’s an experience that can definitely be uncomfortable or embarrassing so you want it to be with someone who cares about you.
Am I the only one who thinks that the producers put the same question in every envelope so that they are in control??? 🥴😩
My husband first and only 🤵💏💍
I’m 27 and I’m waiting until marriage and I don’t wanna waste my time with just anyone
Still waiting on my first time but until then, I will just focus on me and this money! 🙏🙏
Love these ladies! Currently binge watching!
My first time was when I was 18, my real first time was when I was 24 when I met the love of my life. I defiantly agree with Loni, make sure your first time is with someone you love or have a connection with. Someone who is more long term...don't do it just to do it with someone.
Dated the same guy all 4years in high school.. prom night with him was the first time & now we are going on 12 years of marriage next month and 5 kids later. 🤷♀️🥰
Truth Is How did you guys stay together so long ?? Any advice ??
@@phantomtized Being selfless, communication about ANY offenses we may caused on one another, and the #1 thing is keeping the most high first by following his laws, statues, and commandments.
Truth Is Thanks 🙏🏾. That’s true love right there.
Amazing wioo
@Chanel Wafuana thank you ❤
Im 26 and still waiting lol
Gud. Woman of strength
well I guess i'm not alone
same XD
Nothing wrong with that and don't let anyone bully you into having sex.
25 and still waiting💃
Tamera !!!😂😂😂 I'm glad she's honest because it's good to know how others experienced this differently than yourself.
i can’t stop watching these videos!!
The first time for me was absolutely romantic and he was so patient. I loved it.
Lol I had the same reaction as Loni when Tamara made that face 😂...and also when she started singing 😂😂😂
How about having a gentle caring man that cares about you!
Adrienne has lost SO much weight since this!!! wow!!! congrats on whatever you're doing!! you look amazing!!
Loni's clutching her pearls I'm dying😂😂😂😂
Tam is a whole relatable experience 😂
Adrienne: "FOREPLAY" 😂😭😂😭 sounded like the kid in class who was so eager to answer
My first time couldn’t have been better , god bless that man
I love how she started singing cardi b ...yess bby🥰❤️❤️❤️💯💯💯
I agree sooo much with what Loni said. Do not let yourself get pressured to do it. I was pressured by my at the time boyfriend to have sex. I was 14 at the time. My parents didn’t want me to have a boyfriend so they prohibited any contact with him. For 7 months since the relationship started he was trying to force sex (he’s 2 years older and when so young it really matters) all the time. Pressuring me.. telling me it all is my fault that we don’t have a normal relationship and I should compensate him with sex. There was a lot more mental abuse and manipulation going on .. but anyway .. I gave in and I regret it so much. Over 10 years later I still regret it. And if I have a daughter tomorrow I’ll try to do better than my mother’s communication skills which was yell and beat me up for disobeying. In retrospect I wish I had a better communication with my mother so she would have guided me better so I wouldn’t have made that mistake.
So my advice to parents would be talk to your children. Don’t lecture them and on this subject really be their friends and have an open dialogue, because it can be so scary when you are not mentally ready for this and you have someone pushing you to do something you are not ready for and you feel like you have no one to turn to.
Did you guys breakup or still together?
Marcus Melton uhm .. hell no. I don’t think women would admit this on such a platform without being out of the relationship.
@@vsatromp5358 You'd be surprised. I just read someone's virginity story. And a guy got both sisters pregnant and they have a triad relationship. But the parents don't know one of the sisters were pregnant from the guy who was in the relationship with one of the sisters. One of the sisters got married to the guy too.
Marcus Melton not gonna front saying ‘omg what a terrible story’ because i am a product of such a thing. Greatgrandma and greatgrand aunt both got fucked by the same man. But he married my ggaunt instead and didn’t recognize the other(us) kids. But if he hadn’t done that i wouldn’t be here 80 years later. Carry on.
I didn’t read the story so i don’t know if that woman is admitting to the (and using the term) abuse but i did and woman who do are usually already out of the abuse so maybe she is in denial or in danger right now and we should be mindful🤷🏾♀️ .. or she is happy idk
Well I was young..right around the ripe age of 13 or 14, but I was in love & eventually even engaged to my first! We didn't make it to the altar, but we were together for 6 years. No love lost, we were just too young. Awwww...this actually made me miss him & I am now 42, widowed, and have been with my current man for over 6 years...one thing to remember...you ALWAYS remember your first!! Hey Damien!
Loni’s killing me reacting to Tamara talking about her body. Lol talking about “that’s an archive question” lmfao!
I’m doing it , I’m doing it 😂😂🤣🤣⚰️⚰️
Loni told the best friend story on another episode too.... I believe you Loni #savage
I loveeee these exclusive girl chats lmao
I was 19. I didn’t wait for some special person but I had a great experience (I was lucky and I planned). Make sure you’re ready, comfortable, responsible, and considerate with a partner who is the same.
For us it was both of our first time n it was so special 9yrs later still together with 2 babys they are the love of my life💗
when you’re a late bloomer & still waiting on the first time
I didn’t do it until I was 19. I was dating the person, was not in love we weren’t together very long when it happened. But I never felt ready or comfortable until that time and I think my advice would just be that you know when you know and not to rush into it. Plus my experience was a lot better than most I hear bc I truly was comfortable in myself and the situation
No shame in waiting till marriage and also no shame in just doing it when you feel ready before marriage. Most important thing is that you feel ready and really want to do it with the person of your choosing.
“Virginity” is not something good or bad that defines who your are as a person.
I wasn't scared to lose my virginity! 🤣 I planned it out for about a week. When my boyfriend came over, I had a towel on & escorted him to the bathroom so we could take a shower together. In my bedroom, I had the candles ready, whip cream, strawberries, ice, blindfolds, etc. 😂 I wasn't playin no games!!!! 😭
That sounds right up my alley! Lmao I’m a hopeless romantic so I’ll be doing the same whenthe time comes!
what was the actual event like for you?
@@TheeBratzDollxox It didn't hurt, but it wasn't good like I thought it would be so I didn't have sex again for 2 years. Now, my second time...whewww 😳 I couldn't really take it that time, but I stuck it out like a champ 🤣 I bled a little after that one & I was sore for about a week. I was so mad at him because I told him to take it easy on me. Next thing I know my head is banging up against the headboard 😭 let me tell you, size definitely makes a difference. Start small lol
@@BoujeeBwiththeTea This is bloody intriguing
@@angelinemutsengi2148 🤣🤣🤣
@@BoujeeBwiththeTea Aight girl so now my question is, has it gotten better?
Girls, don't fall for the "if you love me, you'll do this for me"
Never do anything you're not comfortable with. And when someone really cares about you, they won't make you do anything you don't want to.
I’ll be 20 on Saturday and I’m a virgin. I’m waiting for the right person. The ladies are right that your first time should definitely be with someone you love or have a connection with. ❤️ to the Real ladies.
My first time was amazing, the guy was very gentle. Him and I are still friends 20+ years laters.
I lost my virginity at 19. I can honestly say that I felt like I was the only one that was still a virgin and it was something I had thought about doing for years so when I finally got a bf I did it with him. It was an awkward experience for sure lol
My husband and I had sex on our wedding night, we were both virgins. Sex hurt like hell, I don't think we actually consummated our marriage till a 2, 3 months later, due to the pain. But it was worth the WAIT.
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What do u mean by consummated?
He’s hung like a donkey?
@@FirstLast-dy4gt lol probably
@@DaGoodVybe consummate means to have sex the night of your wedding
Making sure it’s someone special is for real true. I was 17 and just did it to do it bc all my friends had done it and I wasn’t in love and he was insensitive. It took me 5 years to do it again. Ladies please make sure it’s right.
Loni's reaction when they began to discuss the topic of "their first time," lmao😂😂😂😂
I was saving myself for marriage & then I met my fiancee and it kinda just happened I lost it at 20 & it was great I did feel a little discomfort at first but it was very tolerable it's more of a weird sensation because I felt the pressure of it mostly the real pain came in for me afterwards my legs got so sore it was really hard to walk but that was the worst of it I don't regret it at all! But I will say I truly waited until I was in love. Still I'm proud to say my baby was my one & only 🥰
You are honest person
I don’t know why I’m about to tell my whole business to the internet but everyone seems to be and we’re all adults here 🤷🏼♀️ im 22 and lost my virginity at 14...it was to my first boyfriend who was 16- I don’t necessarily regret it, I just regret who it was with as even though I thought I was in love at the time, I now know that being ‘in love’ just doesn’t happen that young. Anyway- I have no shame in that and it’s no one’s right to judge another person for waiting or not. What I do think is wrong is not educating girls (and guys) on sex. It is NOT supposed to hurt and it bothers me that grown women think it should...when a girl is aroused, the vagina is supposed to open up. If it’s painful, odds are, you’re nervous and it’s not with the right person. Long story short, respect people’s decisions on waiting or losing their virginity young. It’s a personal choice that we all have the right to make.
i wish i could say i had a great meaningful first time but i was 18 and with an abusive older guy. i was drunk and high that night. my ex didnt care about me and i remember saying that i wanted it to be special and he ignored me. i consented but it was a miserable experience. i remember hearing my cry from the pain. it was not a nice first time but i don’t regret it bc it was truly a growing pain. at 31 im proud of the woman i am even my painful past, even my first bad time.
Lmao Loni face is so funny when Tamara is telling something about sex is so funny
My advise is make sure you are mentally ready as well. It's not so much about the age, although definitely more mature after 18 and hopeful educated on consequences, but it often is about how ready the person feels. Do not let anyone ever pressure you to so ANYTHING you do not want to do. Also, don't let other's opinion over your choice to wait matter, it's your body!
I was 20 when I had my forst time with my husband and I actually had to prepaid myself. I know it sounds wierd but I was assaulted twice in my life and I was always worried that I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex or making love. So I asked my therapist and they recommended going to a cemenar and some sex classes for wedding nights. My therapist also recomended to go to an adult store and get comfortable talking about sex and maybe try on some lingerie to help you get into the moment. It worked.
Lmao Lonie!!!!! “That’s an archive question” 🤣😭
That’s some great advice Tameraaaa 😂💓💓💓💓
To God be the glory when Im finally married & can partake of this holy arrangement🤞
"That's an archive question" 😂😂😂😂😂
I didn’t lose mine til 26/27 & I’m glad that I did because I don’t think I was emotionally or physically ready before & fyi I was drunk & it still hurt!! I defo think you should wait & not feel pressured to do it. Your virginity is something you can never get back!!
ADRIENNE YOU HAVE LOST SOO MUCH WEIGHT SINCE THIS EPISODE, U LOOK GLOWING