Rom-Coms aren't Real-Life
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- Thanks so much for watching! I don't expect this to do too well, as it isn't shonen/seinen themed, but it is a topic I enjoy, so I hope you do too!
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Hot take: Hiding in Public is the evangelion of rom-coms
I really enjoy watching romcoms too, especially if its anime. I never had a real and serious relationship, so in a way I'm kinda a blank state when it comes to romance. LOL.
Romcoms gives me fluffy feelings (and sometimes frustrations). They do spark some jealousy within me, me wanting to experience those sweet moments. But yeah, romcoms aren't real life.
Great video btw!! Keep it up! :D
Thank you! I Appreciate the comment and personal insight.
"Shouldn't we rate relationships on happiness?"
Yes! Yes we should. Too much emphasis is placed on "romance" (and it should be noted that the Romantics who got this trend started were notoriously unhappy people), and not enough emphasis on stable happiness.
I mean happiness comes from the person themselves not the relationship
I have to say that I understand this, but in the pursuit of a true love this phase goes. something much more subtle but powerful comes in it's place. it's true life isn't a fairytale but growing up isn't something that should be feared. a duality of keeping the selfish fun but mature selflessness is something that can exist, I've found balance that's helped me become more whole through the tough decisions and anxiety.
it's going to be alright.
ps: love the video
6:27 I've got some great news for you, brother.
haha
And now we just need a season 3 lol
Ok, it should be criminally illegal to be so relatable.
As someone who's gonna graduate from college in a few months but with no relationship experience ever, the doors of youth feels like it has closed itself forever.
The sense of purity, excitement, wholesomeness and carelessness that is found in these types of "useless banter nichijou" animes is my last connection to the youth I never experienced.
Although I don't feel the same feeling towards moving, or meeting new people (not very fond of that), this video still speaks to me. Keep up your great work.
Exactly me. I graduated from university 1 year ago and I have never been in a relationship. I just didn't have time for it. It feels like I missed something or I am just afraid of being too inadequate in terms of love, relationships etc.
You're a real-ass dude, man.
Thanks, I try to be
I usally never comment that much on youtube videos but i just want to say that your whole work on youtube really struck a chord with me.
You are a really precious and selfreflective individuum which style of representation and flow of thoughts really speak to me on an emotional level.
I adore the fact that you use and show the media which influences you as an direct correlation to your personal feelings and experiences in a way that is so true to yourself.
It is really refreshing and you are a great person !
Flux Betazerfall I'm really glad you commented and that you feel that way. I hooe my videos will continue to connect with you and I'm really glad to have recieved this comment. Thank you!
Try commenting more!
Though that in a forceful way, its the experience that always counts: D
Really glad your back
Thanks man. Glad you're still here. You're an OG. :)
You’re *
I'm afraid of real life romance. I'm afraid of getting a girlfriend, for some reason. When I think abou it I get pretty anxious. I think my self esteem is too low, so I'd be insecure all the time thinking they would abandon me.
I've never been in a actual relationship, but I *feel* that it wouldn't be like the light-hearted romcoms I enjoy watching. I feel that a romantic relationship would only bring me pain, stress and anxiety. I *really* hope I'm wrong and it's actually great to be dating and all.
fuck yeah man
Pretty much my situation
This feeling will never go away unless you purposely work on it. Don't go around it, go through it.
And remember, the most confident guy is also scared. He just internalized that that's part of the process :)
@@LenhasGS This comment sparked a great deal of anger in me, but only because it's true and I don't want it to be.
But I don't know if I so much have the OP's fears, as I do a general hopelessness and jadedness.
I only had a single Relationship up until this point and that one felt kinda empty, sometimes I think that most if not all relationships just exist out of a mutual desire to love/be loved. Sometimes i wonder if there's more to it then that or if all relationships just consist out of two people fulfilling each other's needs.
I don't know either. It's an odd feeling to define or rationalize. I feel like a lot of it is probably the mutual love, but what do I know. I'm sure there's good for you in the future man. :)
YES! I love Takagi san so much cause it has such immense innocence woven into it. It's truly a beautiful thing that can just lighten up even the most sullen of minds.
I’m watching your videos at 4:34 AM just trying to find... something in life. Something that I want to feel but never had. They way you write your videos is amazing. It makes me want to go out there and do something but at night I get “drunk”. This drunk is me just being I guess my inner self. My real thoughts that my mine has but my body won’t perform. I just feel like so... nvm. The think I wanted to say was thank you for putting in personal stories in your videos. They really make the video so much more exciting. I know you probably won’t read this since it’s on an old video but thanks!
Extremely relatable and relevant. This video strikes a chord with me, thank you for sharing as always.
In the absence of any meaningful interactions I looked back to anime and searched for the best "romance anime" I could find, with the same no-b.s. criteria you sought. The one I discovered was Suki-tte li na yo "Say I Love You", and I highly recommend it. It's a shame shows like that are so few... but that last one's my favorite and the best i've been able to find of that design.
I'll definitely check it out. Glad you found his relatable
saw your post on reddit. This is good i love how you put your own personal touch to this one. new sub
Thanks, glad you enjoyed. Nice dog.
Dude your videos are amazing and they perfectly capture not only how you're feeling but reflects upon how most of us feel in life. I'm really young but watching romcom anime and manga has been like a little escape to a perfect world where people aren't toxic and manipulative towards each other. It's sad that even in middle school or high school you still find toxic relationships everywhere you go where they're only together to not feel alone. I totally resonate with preferring to be alone instead of being in a heartless relationship and I think that in order to see it so you need to have a lot of growth as a person, which most people never seem to do. This is the first time I've written a whole essay in the comments but I feel so strongly about your videos because it's like I'm seeing someone older and wiser than me already gone through all the trials and tribulations. Keep making videos dude, we love you
As a recent college grad myself, I can definitely relate. One of the worst things about college were the awkward pauses in between which were nice and relaxing but left me feeling stagnant. Too often, the friendships I had built over the previous semester seemed to fade away, which I always thought was a shame. It's always surprised me that I haven't been able to find more people who share this experience.
Good job, buddy boy. I really enjoyed the video ^_^
Lowart Thanks shorty 🎌❤️
Simply the title broke me lol. oof.
And wow, the speech at the end before the "credits" (lol) felt so real, so right
"...it felt like a true reset button... and displayed a progression that could be pin-pointed as 'Progress' on a map.."
"...but I can still feel deep in my heart that I'm not moving."
This video really echoes some of the deep sentiments I have been holding these past few months. I really felt touched. Your message ends with a lot of hope though.. which I know is there, I just don't feel it at this moment... I think this will eventually one day pass and I can have my old excited optimism back. I hope so.
Thanks for the content you make! I know I'm super late to the party haha... please never stop.
Killing it with these videos! I love you're narration style so much.
Thank you. I'm glad you do :)
i'm so glad this appeared in my reddit page , you totally get how i feel about rom-coms , you won a suscriber , keep it up men
Thanks for coming along for the ride. Hope you enjoy the future vids
I found a hidden gem of a channel. Thank you for this candid content
Happy you found me, and liked it.
I have been only in two relationships worth mentioning, one ended up bittersweet and other was kinda abusive. It was when i attended high school. Since when i never "officialy" dated anyone.
I always loved rom coms, especially good written ones, as well as dramas. They guided me through my teens, they offer me escape and relief to this day. I still believe that i can find supportive and understanding human being to be by my side, but sometimes i want to give up. But you said that i shouldn't, so i might as well keep going.
Other than that, i want to thank you, Hiding in Public. You channel offers some nice analysys combined with personal reflection and some of your videos really warm my heart. You too should keep going.
(sorry for bad englesh, lol, had to say it)
Very interesting personal take on Romcoms. This was engaging and fun. Great vid man!
Thanks dude!
Just happened to be looking through my subscriptions and found this channel. I don't remember subscribing at all, but I'm incredibly glad past me did. I can't even begin to describe how much I appreciate the feeling of sincerity in your videos. I'm really looking forward to whatever else you might put out in the future!
Thank you so much! Yeah a 6 month absense probably contributed to that.
I really appreciate how relatable all of your videos are, and I think a lot of your audience can relate to that.
Once again, great video. Glad you're back!!
Hey just a quick question. What video editing/voice recording software do you use?
Also love the introspective analysis, keep it up man. Maybe one day you'll find something to make you undoubtedly happy
IWFYWLF Thanks, you too. I use Hitfilm Express 4. It's a free software that is incredibly powerful. Similar to premier
I still dont understand how you are so underrated, this video nearly actually bought me to tears for some reason. Keep up the good work
I really enjoy your channel because you go in depth into what the shows mean on surface level
Really, there is nothing that feels as genuine as being able to relate to something or someone. It seems so mind boggling to have this idea this late; there have always been signs from homework assignments and all. And just now, I've realized it from you.
Thanks, bro
I've been really liking how you tie your reviews to your personal life. I don't even watch any of the shows you review, but I like to see how people relate to, are affected by, and inspired by different works.
this one hits home, favorited.
i love thsi channel
great vid! I hope to see more of you soon!
Great video, you finally back for now.
This was extremely well put together. I love your take on the genre. I realize this was two years ago, and I'm not sure how you are now, but you then is really how I am now in regards to growing up and finding the right person. Definitely earned a follow. Now I have to watch your recent content.
I just recently found your channel, and I absolutely love it! However, is there anywhere where I can read your scripts? I really like the things you have to say, and sometimes I get so caught up in the moment that I can’t fully process the full extent of the meaning of your words and analyses you do. If you could post a link or a google doc with all of your scripts so that viewers like me could read it at our own pace and fully understand the content without getting sidetracked, distracted, or just straight up forgetting what was just said, that’d be great! I know it sounds like I’m asking for a lot, but I really love the content you make, and I want to fully encapsulate the intent behind your words. I hope you get to read this. Thank you for the wonderful content. And another great video. Thanks!
I should consider doing that. I'm not sure if I still have the script for this one, but I'll consider compiling some. Glad you like the videos, Thanks!
It's really nice to see you back, your videos are really interesting.
Great work!
Thank you!
Your videos are so cozy~
Im really enjoying the vibe you got going, you have an optimistic personality but the mood is maximum chillness...
Just my style ^_^
Damn I’m glad I stumbled across this channel. This video really connected to me on an emotional level. You just earned a subscriber.
Dude I missed this shit lets get to 100k this year ez clap
Wastucar haha. We can try. I'm gonna need a lot of help getting myself known for that
It's impossible to enjoy fantasizing without hurting your future happiness
You really get the feels going thanks man
This video is perfect, Hiding really out here pulling on heart strings
I love the videos I've seen of yours so far! Can't wait to see more. :)
Kibbeh I'll try not to let you down!
As a dumb 14 year old with no reason to put their 2 cents on the subject of thid video. I'd like to thank you for describing what Ive felt for a couple of years in a few videos. As I struggle to even describe it with my own words. I think my attraction to RomComs and Anime is its my ideal fantasy. A place thats just inherently filled with happy memories. Because in fiction, time will stop. There is a happy ending, and I get to be satisfied with it. Right now at this point time for me is going so fast I cant keep up. That scares me, what if I cant adapt fast enough. Will I get left behind? Am I doing things right? Am I ready yet? Are some things I continue to ask myself. I dont know how I'll turn out but I hope it ends well.
hows 18
Thank you glad I found your channel 😊 your videos are just wholesome.
I know you won't see this for a long, long time, or maybe ever, but thank you. you explain a bit of how i want to feel again
“boy I could be happy if skilled teaser takagi got a s2” well I have good news from the future (:
A really well done video. Love your content. Btw, Kare Kano is a perfect romcom
Sometimes I see video titles and I'm like "fuck, that's too close to home. Better click on it"
Love these videos man, such a personal and unique channel
Thanks man I appreciate it. I wanted to make something more original to me, and I'm glad that gets across
I'm entirely aromantic but still love romcoms because i love how the characters interact
I do that phone write thing but it helps if you write it in a piece of paper and then (oh a small one) tuck it in your wallet. You'll never take it out. But thats where is at. Just carry it with you. Like a lucky charm or a wish you never tell anyone and you don't remind yourself of but you always carry it with you. Only taking it out to move it from wallet to wallet.
Gosh I love your videos mate and I am glat you are back aswell!
Thanks, I'm glad you're watching :)
exactly where the hell has your channel I love this!
Your videos are great ! Keep it going dude !
Thank you! I will try!
Also I started exploring your channel through this video, and I have to say its perfect? The video, this moment, everything. I'm just sharing this because I'm in college as well and I can understand on a very relatable level everything you've said here. But I'd like to say that in tangent with Fullmetal Alchemist Brotherhood which is hands down my favourite anime of all time, human life has value. Not in a romantic, "oh it's okay if you stay curled up in your room forever since you brought the joy of your presence to some people's lives!" even though that is a very valid statement, or in the simple axiom that human life has value. It has value because each connection, each tangent matters. It matters because it gives rise to the whole which in itself is a resplendent picture. Wokay i turned romantic. But it's true! The fear of a nontoxic love never occuring for us is so real and scary, and whatever experiences I've had have made me feel as if I don't ever want to experience love again, simply because I'm afraid of the inevitable toxicity. But your video made me realise that it's okay to just be yourself until you find that love and idk it's sort of reassuring in many different ways I can't really explain. So thanks. And I hope you find a balance which makes you happy.
Wow. I'll have to watch Golden Time then, it seems more realistic in a way and sounds like a great romance anime
"I'll die happy if I get a season 2" *The Grim reaper has entered the chat*
Its the real folk blues when you are back in your old home
I think we could all agree that teasing master takagi-san is the most "normal" slice of life that still conveys its message. No huge conflict that tears the series apart, no other characters that tear the MC's and even if we cant relate to their relationship, it still feels the most realistic slice of life rom-com that anime has to offer. For most people, they view this series as the baseline for all slice of life animes and I totally agree. the nostalgia that it brings in us thinking how good it is to be a youth again, tells us that this series is really wholesome and lighthearted.
i watch rom-coms as a source of escapism tbh, after all the depressing moments I wanna watch something i know that has a really good payoff for all the downs.
Most introspective anituber
Why'd you have to choose my current favorite rom com's MC as your thumbnail 😭😭😭
I currently watch and read romcom animes/mangas, and they have given me the desire for a relationship...
I dont think i can sustain a healthy relationship expecting it to be like some sort of romcom, because romcoms arent real-life...
But damn, im just sad that im alone....
I like the feeling of emptiness that romance anime bring
My boy with that UA-cam grind, romance and me doesn't really mix as you can guess with my name
I Jack Off To A Comatose Girl Really? I don't get that vibe at all. Your name and that scene are VERY intimate lol. Anyway, next week will be more of a shonen-y topic on a show I haven't covered yet.
My previous reply was a lie. Thus friday's video will be a bit of a mismatch different things. I do have some actiony stuff in the works tho
Hiding in Public honestly you could make a video discussing a guy taking a crap to be good lol
5:35 mmmm do i hear some chet baker
This video made me realize, I am a Sophomore in high school. I have so little time left in high school. I don't want to stay in high school but leaving it is sad. I don't feel ready for what comes next because I can't handle what's coming now, it's honestly kind of scary. I know things will work out somehow, but not knowing how is terrifying, not knowing what bumps lie ahead, not being able to see a clear path in front of me. I don't really know how to end this comment but, I feel like people want to optimize the time they have, only to waste so much of it and then dwell on what they missed instead of remembering the good parts of what they did, and without looking forward.
I understand that , I’m a senior and I feel like my special senior year is being stripped from me due to COVID , no more going out with my friends , no more parties to go to ,and then there comes the college applications and deciding if I should go straight into the work force all my life. All I can do now is try my hardest to make sure what happens next ends with me living a good life.
@@SeBushi I feel sorry for the seniors in high school because your last special year gets kinda screwed over. It's not the end of the world but it still sucks. I wish you the best of luck in your future, I hope you get to do something with your life that you really enjoy doing.
Hey! Takagi-san is getting a season 2! Now you can die happy! Lol but seriously just be happy, don't die
Romance is one of my favourite genres because love is one of the most interesting and creative emotions one has at their disposal. With that being said, I can count on one partially mutilated hand how many romance stories, not just in anime, I think are worth their salt. When romance shows get churned out with so little regard for what real romance actually is, it makes me start to hate love.
True romance can be sad, ugly, humbling, life-changing even if those relationships don't last. Anime is too quick to show inexperienced people what they hope romance is, not what it's actually like. Also it doesn't help that these shows are always the exact same thing and it would require at least £8,000 for me to sit through a whole season.
"I've only been in one non-toxic relationship and it lasted a month."
duuude same xD literally exactly a month and it was the happiest I've ever been with someone
we are here to mourn his happy death
cue the coffin dance
I've had so many experiences where i thought "i can reset my life and become a new person," then within a week I'm the same person i always was. Maybe other people can change more when their situation changes, but i seem to find it hard to avoid myself.
In general, it's good to realize real life isn't fiction. Some fiction is closer to reality, but it usually isn't fiction you'd like to be real. You can draw lessons from fiction, but only if you truly know it's fiction.
4:00 i'm skeptical that those sort of relationships exist and, if they do, suspect they're very rare. I fear a lot of people who want relationships, are chasing an illusion; that they could be happier if they weren't striving for that. Perhaps they'd even be more likely to find (or make?) good relationships if they weren't trying to get a perfect one? Maybe I'm projecting myself on others.
I think there exists a person whose personalities/interests are compatible with most everyone. No one shoukd strive for perfect, because it doesn't exist, but if someone pursues what they love I like to think they will find someone doing the same
This video is beautiful
Thanks man
Man this video really connected with me
This was my favorite romantic comedy in the winter season
I don't watch romantic comedies, but you probably shouldn't get stoned while you're watching them.
Yo, i just got a baruto ad and its on a blue rey dvd and its ganna be fking sasuke all over again
You’re a really good person
I try to be
@@HidinginPublic
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if you can't comprehand golden time's last half of the series, it seems you are still imature. i'm not even bother to explain this. ""I wanna do great things and help people, but i also just wanna curl up in my bed" sad. When you wanna do something or help somebody, you just go for it. Idk, i had many tough experiences in my high school years just because i went for the oportunity to HELP or DO something.
Never really into romance. Only watched one. But here i am for HIP. You make good points. Hmm
It's scarry how relatable your story is. Though i never had a relationship sadly...
P.S Takagi san gets a second season xD but don't think about dieing xD
got a third season and a movie LMAOO it’s goated
JUST LET ME BELIEVE
Two things; first, you might want to try completely rearranging your room back at your (parent's) house. Take out what isn't necessary, what doesn't reflect you anymore, and replace with what does. It's worthwhile to make your place reflect who you are, who you want to me.
Second, relationships can be both simple, and complex. By percent, I'd say 80+% of my interactions with my wife are pretty simple. Shared jokes, simple conversation about our days, pokes and meows and grunts. The rest are deeper conversations about life, about meaning, about books. Finances, family, philosophy. It's really okay for the building blocks of a relationship to be simpler things. Perhaps it's even 'good' for them to be built this way.
Finally made that leap of faith and moved to this random place. I get what that guy said, even though I'm incredibly lonely right now.
You should read Inu Neko Jump. It's a super underrated college setting Rom Com by the guy who wrote Sankera. I think you'd like it.
Yakui I'll check it out. I need more college stuff
i can relate to this all to well
It's always the experience that counts the most
You might even found *something* in the progress!
I haven't seen the video yet, I'm about to though, but reading the title somewhat helped me realize that shows are never meant to be taken to heart or as an example for real life in the aspect of romance, now Teasing master really showed me just how irritating rom-coms can be since they remain stagnant and stuck on the same concepto for the whole duration of the story and maybe even more, which can never be or feel the same as an actual relationship.
SPOILERS
(in the case of teasing master, there is a manga of them as adults and is basically the exact same thing, but as a family)
Honestly college away from home has been a dreadful time. Maybe it’s because it is a reset to square one again or just because my apartment smells like crumpled cigarettes, driving me to puke outside once....probably both plus engineering is hell
Fyi song at 5:40 is a lowfi song called "i fall in love too easily" by caleb belkin well at least it sounds like the low fi version maybe the vocals is from an old jazz song but idk
Hey man do you like any of Asano Inio's stuff ? I feel like it'd be a great fit on your channel
I don't think I have, but I'll check him out!
None of his work got adapted in Anime (I don't know if you read manga) but after watching all your videos, I can definitly say you'd love "Oyasumi PunPun" !
Well I've got good news for you, Karakai Jouzo no Takagi-san is getting a season 2!
It’s getting a season 2
5 sec in it is easy to get bum out on a rainy day, we have failed as humans.
Idk I'd consider that a success. Our brains are wired to change mood with weather, so that means we are running successfully!
@@HidinginPublic Your brain is wired that way. Weather by itself shouldn't impact your mood, its what you do in/out of weather, like digging holes in the rain vs doing it in the rain or going to the beach to cool off on a sunny day vs working on a sunny day. Its more what you are doing with the weather, well for me at least.