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  • Опубліковано 27 лис 2024

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  • @whatheck6797
    @whatheck6797 9 днів тому +1

    *Question 1* The newer generation nowadays scares me. I am a millennium mother and I do think these kids are heavier than we were when we were their age. Health should be a priority and concern. I don’t see the problem if you guys kicked them out. Not helping is helping.

  • @pajhuabchannel4704
    @pajhuabchannel4704 14 днів тому +2

    Ncaws tawm tsev los yog ib qhov zoo kawg li os

  • @melaniehan7828
    @melaniehan7828 16 днів тому +4

    Neb ua yog kawg lawm os👍

  • @zoolikuv
    @zoolikuv 16 днів тому +2

    Q1. It's a hard decision. I guess you just continue to love and care for them and try to guide them as much as possible without losing yourself. Otherwise, there's not much we can do unless they are willing to change themselves.
    As a parent myself, I say I don't care, but I do. I say I won't be angry anymore, but I still do.

  • @brandonblaine7585
    @brandonblaine7585 16 днів тому +1

    Q2 sister if you can't beat them than just enjoy them

  • @trulylee9055
    @trulylee9055 11 днів тому

    Question 1: neb ua Yog lawm os. Kuv los ntshe yeej yuav ua li neb thiab. Chim siab kawg li os. You guys made the right choice. Teach them a lesson. They want to learn the hard way.

  • @ThamLosZam
    @ThamLosZam 16 днів тому

    First one here....
    Q1...you did the rights thing...

  • @clairely1
    @clairely1 15 днів тому

    Best decision you made! Hopefully they learn from it and will appreciate you

  • @L33ya2012
    @L33ya2012 17 днів тому

    It’s a good thing! You are doing the right thing for them. You love them so much they feel entitled to your support. Having them to move out will help them be better human.

  • @nibvaj3069
    @nibvaj3069 8 днів тому

    Tus hais los hais tsi tag tus nug lo nug tsi kawg thiab ma ♥️ 🎶 ❤️

  • @xeeyang5867
    @xeeyang5867 16 днів тому

    Ua yog masss

  • @leejmuam1
    @leejmuam1 17 днів тому

    Question #2. Life style and habits is hard to change. Especially, when your husband feels that way too. you better think hard about your life, he is not even willing to live or be with you to live your own life the way you like it, so better get out while it's still early. That life won't change, and it will only make you mad later in life.

  • @LT-sg6rr
    @LT-sg6rr 17 днів тому

    I agree with you. Its time they move out and live on their own. You are teaching them to be independent.

  • @NtxhaisHmoobUSA
    @NtxhaisHmoobUSA 16 днів тому

    Question#1 yog kawg me nyuam tawv ncauj li neb pab ntxhais ko ces nyuaj siab aws. Tseem hluas nkauj yuav tsum exercise kom yiag ntxiag meb. Nrog neb tus siab.

  • @LiaMoua-v9q
    @LiaMoua-v9q 16 днів тому +1

    It’s ur house, ur rules. If ur kids are adults already & they won’t help clean or contribute to any household chores or bills, kick them out of the house. They’re just taking advantage of u & ur wife because u guys are too nice & they’re not taking u both serious.

  • @user-bw9ro3jz4v
    @user-bw9ro3jz4v 14 днів тому

    Q1: you have to teach your kids how to clean up after themselves when they are kids, so they get used to doing chores. I never expect my kids to pay any bills around the house. They only thing I expect my adult kids to do is clean up the house and do chores. They have to pay their own bills without relying on me or my husband to pitch in. We keep guiding them to the right track.

  • @ammysoyoung1503
    @ammysoyoung1503 17 днів тому

    For the lazy kids that the parents kick out.
    Dear parents,you guys did right. Its called discipline. In america we cant hit kids or else its abuse or violence. So, whats best is let them go live their life and struggle to earn $.
    When u struggle and earn $ by being independent- you care more. This is a honest and truthful experience from me. I also agree that at a certain point I started to want others to live their life the way they like. So its not stressful and depressed and we all can do what we like our way. Its mature and respectful. I dont think selfish and stubborn anymore.

  • @chiliayang5832
    @chiliayang5832 17 днів тому

    Nyuaj siab kawg li os tau cov me nyuam rog mas hais lus nyuam tshaj thiab special cov ntxhais nas Nyuaj tshaj

  • @Gardendev
    @Gardendev 16 днів тому

    Q1: txhob ncaws lawv tawm tsev nawb muab sij hawm rau lawv thaum txog caij hloov lawv mam hloov. Nyob muaj ib hnub twg tsam neb ob niam txiv xav tau kev pab ntawm lawv. Kuv muaj ob tug tub yog 23 thiab 26 xyoo lawm, hauj lwm los tsis ua, ntawv los tsis kawm, kuv tseem yuav zaub mov yug lawv xwb, kuv tseem muaj kev cia siab hais tias ib hnub twg txog nws lub sij hawm nws mam pauv. Kuv tseem hluv nkawv heev. Ua lub neej tsis pom tom ntej, tej zaum tus phem ntawv yog tus yuav rub yus tes thaum yus tau kev tws. Hos tus kawm ntawv siab thiaj tau zoo neej ua yuav yog tus tso yus pov tseg los kuj tsis paub. Ua siab ntev hlub lawv mog.

  • @whatheck6797
    @whatheck6797 9 днів тому

    *Question 2* I was once married into a family that live dirty. I remember their bathroom was moldy disgusting looking. It was hard to do your thing in the bathroom. Also their eating/ cooking was disturbing. I’m glad I left that life 20 years ago.

  • @trulylee9055
    @trulylee9055 11 днів тому

    Question 2: I feel you girl. You are doomed. Either leave or be depressed forever. I am the same. A messy house stresses me out and makes me sad. Just convince your husband to move out with you or you move out yourself. He can go back and forth bt his parents and you. Be the bad nyab.

  • @VangXiong-b3t
    @VangXiong-b3t 16 днів тому

    Hello everyone!!

  • @FongHer-d8l
    @FongHer-d8l 16 днів тому

    Q#2 get out before too late . Even when you folks live by yourselves your husband never change just his family's.

  • @chiliayang5832
    @chiliayang5832 17 днів тому

    Txaus luag kawg li thiab os

  • @MaiProject2024
    @MaiProject2024 16 днів тому

    Q: you did the right thing. I kicked out my 18 years old because my kid is entitled. Sometimes we tried our best but it's hard when society reward bad behavior. Doesn't help too when school also indoctrinated them too. Thinking they have all kind of choices and power

  • @phouathao9741
    @phouathao9741 16 днів тому

    Letter #2 you have to love yourself first.if that the way they want to live..then you got to move out.. living messing and clutter is not healthy for your health and mental..
    As for a daughter in-law you don't have much choice, and it up to your husband to decide what lifestyle he want..

  • @lisadarling5126
    @lisadarling5126 16 днів тому

    Questions 1. It's your house, you pay the bills. You can kick them out if you want too, especially if they're giving you attitude all the time.

  • @nikkivue2329
    @nikkivue2329 14 днів тому

    Q#2 You already see their lifestyle before marrying their son .

  • @lovetoplaywithyou3530
    @lovetoplaywithyou3530 17 днів тому

    Q2: you need to talk to your husband and you guys move out. You need your own space and be your own niam tsev

  • @Leevang7980Vang
    @Leevang7980Vang 6 днів тому

    Me muam aw yog yuav tau tsev neeg tsis nyiaj zoo ces yuav kho kom nyiaj zoo ces tsis muaj hnub li os…kuv ces twb give up lawm os…your life same my..

  • @gervangchanel6722
    @gervangchanel6722 17 днів тому

    Neb ua yog lawm nawj kuv pom li ntawv

  • @chiliayang5832
    @chiliayang5832 17 днів тому

    Kaj tsij muab laij tawm mus zoo dua cov ntxhais tiam tshiab no heev kawg li os

  • @bradyoung1477
    @bradyoung1477 16 днів тому

    I agree with your decision. Let them go and explore real life. I have one daughter just like that. I kicked her out, too.

  • @crystalsong2039
    @crystalsong2039 17 днів тому

    Q1: It's your house. Your rules. Your daughters are grown adults, it's time for them to move out.

  • @Ncohnubno
    @Ncohnubno 16 днів тому

    To the nyab, girl move out! Leave that man if he wants to stay. Dirty people don’t see that they’re dirty. Living in filth is disturbing and depressing.

  • @maichaoxiong6379
    @maichaoxiong6379 15 днів тому +1

    Q2 you have money no worries u can move out and rent your own apartment

  • @Fromspam09
    @Fromspam09 8 днів тому

    Hey to the MOM....move all those grown daughters of yours out. They are not worth your sanity. Get them OUT.

  • @kaimarro517
    @kaimarro517 16 днів тому

    Honestly our immigrant parents never knew how to raised kids. All they did was work to ensure the family was cared for and fed and never thought of anything else. They didn’t understand the definition of enabling. Whatever they had they gave to their kids and now this is the generation they’ve raised.
    Kids who don’t know how to care for themselves.
    Glad that the parents finally put their foot down. As parents, I want my daughters to grow up and travel and see the world. I don’t want them wasting their life away living at home.

  • @tubhmoobhmoob2944
    @tubhmoobhmoob2944 16 днів тому

    Q2. Raws kuv xav mas yog koj tus txiv nyiam li koj thiab mas tsis nyuaj, tab sis nws twb tsis tuaj koj tog, yog koj hlub koj tus txiv ces koj yuav tau uv kom txog hnub tsis muaj niam pog txiv yawg lawm xwb, hos yog koj xav tias yog yuav tos txog hnub ntawv mas yus twb laus lawm no ces nyob ntawm koj tus kheej, vim tam sis no koj twb muaj kev nyuaj siab, kev nyuaj siab no yuav ua rau yus puas tsuaj tau, yuav muaj ntshav siab ntau yam rau yus cev nqaij daim tawv, tsis li koj yuav tau ua tib zoo nrog koj tus txiv tham kom zoo ua ntej koj yuav txiav txim siab ua dab tsi, cia siab tias nej yuav pauv hloov mus rau qhov zoo

  • @Awesomepipes77good
    @Awesomepipes77good 16 днів тому

    Q1: neb hlub lawv yuam kev lawm os. Yog lawv tsis hloov es twb laus tag li lawv lawm ces muab ncaws tawm tsev zoo tshaj lawm. Qhia lawv paub tias qhov neb ncaws lawv tawm yog vim neb hlub lawv. Qhov no yog ib txoj kev cob qhia lawv.
    Q2: yog koj tsis muaj peev xwm hloov tau tsev neeg ntawm ko ces koj yuav tsum tawm kiag mus nyob koj ib lub tsev xwb. Yog koj tus txiv hlub koj ces raws koj mus yog nws tsis raws koj mus ces mam tso nws tseg.

  • @hlinagsiabhaam4169
    @hlinagsiabhaam4169 17 днів тому

    Q1:yeej Yog li koj poj niam hais lawm os. Cia nrog neb nyob ces nyuaj2 siab tseem ua rau yus tsis kaj siab. Kav tsij tseg nyiaj lwm hnub neb laus es neb thiaj muaj siv rau thaum laus xwb os.

  • @kyaj5781
    @kyaj5781 12 днів тому

    1. Vim Neb pheej hlub2 li ko es neb cov me-nyuam thiaj li lazy/tub nkeeg li ko. Muag laib tuam tsev es lawm thiaj li txawj mus khwv rau lawv lub neeg. Thawm laus lawm tsis khe khe neb os, kav tsij hlub neb tus kheej neb thiaj tsi ua mob rau nwb. Wb ob niam txiv muab wb cov me-nyuam caws tawm tsev tas.

  • @ThamLosZam
    @ThamLosZam 16 днів тому

    Q2...either you join them or get out...

  • @xeeyang5867
    @xeeyang5867 16 днів тому

    Kv los, nrog tub nyab nyob, kv g nyiam tsev sw, And g nyiam toys everywhere,

  • @nkaujhmoobvaj1491
    @nkaujhmoobvaj1491 2 дні тому

    Q1: It’s hard being a parent at this time. Kids are more privilege and time has changed! I think you and your wife did the right thing. Our job as parents is to care and educate our children until they become adults. So, your job is done.
    Q2: That’s a tough one! I feel your pain because I’m a clean freak! You will have to give your husband an ultimatum! If he really loves you, you guys will have to move out! Good luck!

  • @tubhmoobhmoob2944
    @tubhmoobhmoob2944 16 днів тому

    Tus kwv tij uas nyiam tus niam laus, koj ces kawg ua kab khuv xim xwb mas thaub

  • @yerlee4796
    @yerlee4796 16 днів тому

    Ua yog kawg li lawm os America li 18 xwb lawv twb ncaw tawm tsev lawm os

  • @BeaSong-d3g
    @BeaSong-d3g 16 днів тому

    Q2: move out to be on your own. If your in law isnt too old....u still can move out.

  • @KayVang-u3j
    @KayVang-u3j 17 днів тому

    Ntuj es peb cov ces zoo ib yam li os. Sister kav liam.

  • @vanhthor1974
    @vanhthor1974 17 днів тому

    Cas yuav zoo li kuv niam pog lawv tsev neeg li os😅

  • @miabhlub63
    @miabhlub63 16 днів тому

    Q2: Old house, it's ok but dirty/messy house it's a different story. Gonna have to move out or divorce him to save yourself a headache and depression.

  • @chiliayang5832
    @chiliayang5832 17 днів тому

    Cas koj yuav khib xuab ua luaj li pab koj txaj muag dhau lawm os

  • @hlivaj721
    @hlivaj721 3 дні тому

    #2- you are going to live with them and that is also your house so you just clean it up the way you want to live. If you don’t clean it up outsider will still blame you and say muaj nyab cas tsis tus tsev li. You can’t win being a Hmong nyab. And you can’t win when there are two niam tsev. So set your boundaries with your husband and moved out or they are going to take away your happiness.

  • @trulylee9055
    @trulylee9055 11 днів тому

    Wow you should’ve talked to that older sister to see if she liked you. You didn’t have the courage and continued to date the younger sister. I feel bad for you both. Not fair for your wife or you.

  • @yourrrkool8825
    @yourrrkool8825 13 днів тому

    Nyab, can you build a new home on that 4acre? Or is that not an option?

  • @Fuii-qv3zz
    @Fuii-qv3zz 16 днів тому

    Thaub aw luag tej me nyuam thaum paub tab los xwb ces luag yeej nrhiav sij hawm cob qhias tej me nyuam txhua sij hawm ho neb ob niam txiv es tsuas qhuab qhia tej me nyuam ib zaug lis koj hais ko xwb yog lawv twb tsim txiaj lawm mas tsis txhawj li os

  • @sunshineyang953
    @sunshineyang953 8 днів тому

    Oyo cas es ob qho question no yuav nug tau zok tiag li os

  • @tubhmoobhmoob2944
    @tubhmoobhmoob2944 16 днів тому

    Q1. Raws kuv xav mas neb yuav tau hais rau lawv hais tias lawv yuav tau mus xyaum lawv nyob lawv thiaj paub hais tias nyuaj npaum li cas no xwb

  • @nragxyoojchannel7265
    @nragxyoojchannel7265 16 днів тому

    Ab xyov yuav ua cas rau cov me nyuam no li os lawv tsi txawj noj khoom kiag kuv cov los kuv yeej tsi pom qab hai qhia npaum cas los lawv ua tsi tau li os lawv aws

  • @MXhX88
    @MXhX88 16 днів тому

    Q1: With inflation and covid, kids nowadays stay home more. U just gotta do it and leave it be. They will likely see the house is gross. If they like their faces pretty, then the house gotta be pretty, too. I will start by giving them options and stick to it.

  • @nengxiong6991
    @nengxiong6991 3 дні тому

    Q1. Neb muab lawv ncaws tawm tsev los tau tab sis neb puas xav tias tsam neb laus muaj mob es neb ho vam lawv pab thiab ma !! Yog tsis vam lawv ces 👍 tab sis tseem vam lawv ces 👎 , Q2. Ua li koj tus txiv hais mas yog niam tsev zoo txhob cam ncauj . Q4.you do not like your wife why you date her man !!! Stop your bad mine so you don’t be stroke .

  • @yerlee5465
    @yerlee5465 16 днів тому

    😂

  • @hmoobpnw8479
    @hmoobpnw8479 14 днів тому

    Q2. Tell your husband move out or divorce.

  • @phem55
    @phem55 17 днів тому

    Q 1:muab mloog mas zoo li neb pab ntxais tsis yog lawv noj zaunmov hos lawv cias zaubmov noj lawv lawm

  • @TubLaibVaj
    @TubLaibVaj 15 днів тому

    Question 1: what you did was right. Don’t baby those adult girls. They need to learn and grow up. The only way unfortunately is through hardship by paying their own bills.
    Question 2: I despised lazy and messy people even if they are your spouse, kids or family members. I cannot and will not put up or live that nasty lifestyle. There’s been many studies proving that a messy and clutter house or living area can cause depression and unhappiness in life. It is your choice to leave if it’s creating unhappiness for you. You have every right!!!

  • @veevue
    @veevue 16 днів тому

    I feel story/questions #2. Its so hard having to deal with mess that u constantly clean over & over again & still nobody cleans anything. Its come to the point where u do it so much that u lost the ability of needing to clean it up after others. Stressful

  • @tubhmoobhmoob2944
    @tubhmoobhmoob2944 16 днів тому

    Q1. Kuv xav tias OK, neb yuav tau hais rau lawv hais tias kom yog ib qho lawv mus xyaum xwb

  • @chaituaher724
    @chaituaher724 16 днів тому

    ?#1 if your kilos are very very respectful then you are ok to kick them out.

  • @hmongremark2686
    @hmongremark2686 16 днів тому

    Story 1 - Koj cov me nyuam nrog neb 2 niam txiv nyob ua ke ib tsev ces lawv tseem nyob qab tswj fwm ntawm neb. Neb yuav ncaws lawv ntawm tsev thiab tsis ncaws rau cov over age lawm los nyob ntawm neb xwb.

  • @CharlotteLyfe
    @CharlotteLyfe 17 днів тому

    So annoying when people complain about only having daughters and not having any boys. Some people can't even have one child, even a daughter. If could have a daughter they would feel like their life feels complete. Your daughters are so angry at you because you keep complaining about not having a son. You keep telling them to be thin so men will like them. NO. Teach your daughters to love themselves and not get just married. Marriage can take away a womens dreams. Marriage can be toxic to women. Daughters have feelings and when you don't even show them you love them regardless of their gender they will show the same behavior back. Also, why force the daughters to get married just because you don't love them as much as a son. Why? Awful parents. Go look in the mirror. You are not a good parent.

  • @colleenchan9872
    @colleenchan9872 16 днів тому

    Brother aws menyuam ces tsis hais koj cov peb li os..peb cov menyuam hmoob mekas no mas hais lus nyuaj tshaj plaws li os..lawv tsis nyiam yus hais mas kuv ntshai ntshai hais lus rau tej menyuam no li os..kav liam koj hais ntau thiab nyuaj siab ntau ua rau yus mob hlwb dhau os nyias hlub nyias tus kheej xwb..tsis pom kev phem kev tsis siab tsis nqig lawv mam kawm lawv xwb..

  • @kevinher3546
    @kevinher3546 16 днів тому

    Ntuj os tus me txiv tsev aw kuv ntseeg tias peb ib feem coob yeej nyob kj lub nkoj is mog kuv tus txiv wb tsis muaj hmoo li kj thiab wb ho muaj ob tug tub xwb tab sis mas zoo li kj cov nxhais xwb thiab twb uog 35-38 xyoo lawm and seem nrog wb ib niam xiv nyob thiab cem yus ua niam ua txiv tas li xwb ntshe yog li kuv txiv hais os ntshe yog ntujua lawm ua xas twb yug rau teb chaws muaj kev txawj ntse tab sis tsis nyiam qhia thiab tsis nyiam xyaum qhov zoo li

  • @hlivaj721
    @hlivaj721 3 дні тому

    #3 if you do don’t love your wife why do you used her and sleep with her. It’s your fault. You need to be fair to your wife and just love her. You need help . I bet your wife has her own fantasy too about someone else. You can’t just change your mind like that when it comes to people.

  • @7stars2love
    @7stars2love 17 днів тому

    2nd ?: I been there, living with trashy people is not easy and so depressing every day. You just need to move out and be on your own.

  • @5tuglis573
    @5tuglis573 6 днів тому

    Hais rau cov chubby ntxhais: ntawm no yog tim neb ib niam txiv. Yog ib tug mas tsis hais tabsis thaum yog tag nrho ib pab lawm ces it's a learned lifestyle.....probably got that from you guys, without you knowing that.

  • @7stars2love
    @7stars2love 16 днів тому

    Last secret: no need to khuv xim, move on and love your wife. Remember your dad's words, koj tsis nyiam ua cas koj ho nrog tau nws pw ua nkauj ua nraug muaj me nyuam kiag li mas????

  • @NtxhaisHmoobUSA
    @NtxhaisHmoobUSA 16 днів тому

    Question#2 koj tus tsev neeg tsis nyiam zoo los tshuav lawv tsis cem koj ua hnub ua hmo xwb los mas. Lub neej muaj txij nkawm tsis yooj yim kiag nawb. Koj muab koj tus txiv nrauj tsam koj ho mus tau ib yim muab koj tsim tsim nawb

  • @keryang1768
    @keryang1768 16 днів тому

    Mya xov took xeeb cov Mia pan con qhia

  • @lalalalalalalala4264
    @lalalalalalalala4264 6 днів тому

    Q1: If you and your wife live a healthy lifestyle, your kids would have automatically inherited that from you by setting good examples. So, I think you both spoiled them and let them have their ways at a very young age. Now they're a bunch of overweight and lazy women, and I doubt any men would want that kind of wife. I suggest you kick them out of the house and let them learn the hard way so they can become responsible adults.
    Q2: I can relate because my home has to be clean or else I can't function. You need to move out if you want to live the way you want. Just remember that your husband is raised that way so when you have kids he won't be helping you. Think twice before having kids if you have a lazy husband who don't like to have a clean house.

  • @atlasanyaandamazingplaces8597
    @atlasanyaandamazingplaces8597 17 днів тому

    #2 Go live your own house. This is your mom and dad 🏠 move out

  • @paulvang65
    @paulvang65 16 днів тому

    pooywg ua ua li cas koj tsis yhuas ib qw rau koj lub taubhau kojm koj thiaj tsim dheev rov los yog vim koj tau vum thiab tseem ua ib zaj mpo tshwm. yog koj yhuas ib qws rau koj lub taub hau ces koj twb tsis yuav ua ib tug neeg vwm ntsuav zoo li koj.

  • @miabhlub63
    @miabhlub63 16 днів тому

    Q1: I would have done the same.

  • @kubhlubkoj
    @kubhlubkoj 16 днів тому

    Wow... I only have 1, and she's very obese. She's doesn't exercise or do anything to help her. Yes, she works very hard with her job. We have all kinds of exercise machines fron treadmill to stationary bike, to elliptical machines. She doesn't use any. Im still looking to find an answer to help her lose the weight. Now, my daughter does help around the house and clean dishes. She is a good person just lazy to take care of herself. No makeups, no boyfriends, etc. Seems like she is fine with herself. I'm just worry for her future. 😢

  • @paulvang65
    @paulvang65 16 днів тому

    well, woman your parent has not teach u any thing at all or u just being such rebellious woman only. u clame that u r so clean. and u just can not stand your man's family and him. what is the oint u marry to him, your husband in the first for. by listening to your story. u purposely want to hate your man's family for your own cause. it is not the durty they r in. all i said to u woman. if u don't like how him and his family their life style they live. it is best u leave. have u ever hear the term luag tej laus ib tsxwv hais tias. koj mus nrog luag nyob. yog luag tubkeeg. los koj yuav tsum tubkeeg nrog luag. yog luag ua tubsab. los koj yuav tsum nrog luag ua tubsab. by listening to your story. u just can not addapt to his way or his family's way at all. u just can not live in your own way in their home. remember that?