CAUTIONARY TALES: When a HUSBAND isn't HUSBAND Material!
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🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 Chloe you have such a way with words!
The rich man will play you too lol , but go ahead smart ass 🤣
She paid for the rings and wedding!! That right there should have told her everything about the man she married. He could not afford a family and she was desperate to have a man.
yikes!!!!
Embarrassing
That’s bad
Then she was never in a real marriage. She bought a temporary relationship and now that she’s tired of it, she can end it. It doesn’t sound in the video like she wants him to stay.
Yikes
The fact he posted their argument says a lot. That’s a feminine, cowardly, and bullying mindset.
Lol what if she posted it then what you hyena
So when women do the same thing what is that called exactly
@@Blaakheart88-87women is the key word! Why is women compared to men? “Femininity and masculinity “ get it?
As a married man paying 100% of the bills for the last 15 years while my wife stayed home, I cringed hearing this dude talk. A lot of these dudes need to be G-checked by other men. Don't give up on us yet, sistas, there are a lot of us out there!
True!!!
Thank you so much for this comment ❤️
Real man in the house.🎉
The fact that her 'husband' called her bro? Tells me everything. 🇬🇧
He doesn’t even respect her as a WIFE, FEMININE WOMAN, OR HUMAN😢 SMH 🤦🏽♀️
😢this was eye opening
Big Facts!!!
@@kasandraguilbeau5762 🤞🏾
Yeah, feminism was a big scam. Women shouldn't have been empowered to work like men. Traditional patriarchy was and is the only way forward.😊
Wow. He called her “Bro”?! Oh hell no!! That right there proves that he sees her as another man and not a lady. She’ll never feel cherished with him. Get out now!
The thing is, he's probably been doing it. She probably thought it was cute in the beginning.
He's beeeeeeen treating her like a roommate .50/50 is a scam😂😂
And she never corrected him.
Yep! And the word “Ma” & “homie” “bruh” are all indicators 😂
If a man has you splitting bills your definitely the bro, two masculines .
Unfortunately, I married the wrong man, for all the right reasons, and now I'm in a similar boat as this woman. At the end of the day, accountability is key. I chose this man, so I either have to make peace with it, or I need to get a divorce, and become a single mom. Ladies, please don't ignore red flags or good advice from people who truly have your back.
❤❤❤I wish u all the best
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I empathize.❤
Thanks for this advice. I needed it
Amen
I once heard that if you’re paying 50/50, that’s not your man, that’s your roommate! No truer words have ever been spoken 😩. Changed my whole perspective.
My mom been telling me that since I was a young girl. “That’s a roommate”
So I simply can’t do it 😂
It's a hard one especially if as a Mother you're doing all the domestic work and raising the children by yourself. Now I do know of some couples where the man pays the major bills like utilities/rent and the woman might buy groceries/toiletries, with them both taking care of in home duties
@@MeltingOnYourMind That is totally different. If it's 80/20. I am cool with that.
@@BitterPeachh
Right!
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WHEW! AND SHE HAD 4 KIDS WITH HIM TOO?! AND HE ONLY MAKE $15/HR?! IN THIS ECONOMY?! Ya'll it Sunday...let's join hands 😂
👀, she's obviously the breadwinner
@@Lisette121 And definitely wasn't thinking when she married him.
Not one. Not two. Not three. But FOUUUURRRR??!!! 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
NOT let's join hands ! 😭😭😭
They are both in the wrong. Lack of family and career planning.
If he leave she probably won’t be tripping because 9x outta 10 she doing the majority of it herself. She may have more peace ALONE!
EXACTLY
Absolutely. I'm in the docking phase of the same type of relationship. Trying to get off the financial entanglement boat, it's going to take me some time, but Ahoy! I SEE THE SHORELINE. Not sinking on this Titanic. I'd rather go it alone for a peace of mind.
he’s just constant 🍆 in the house and I BET he’s cheating
@@SweetEssie THAT MAY BE TRUE BUT AS THE SAYING GO SHE CAN DO BAD OR BETTER BY HELSELF.
$15 an hour is not a sufficient amount of money to take care of 4 children and a wife.
That’s why he needs her 50/50 mindset and help. He has no intentions on doing or wanting better.
That is not enough money at all.
@@BitterPeachh Not even for a single w no children!!
That’s wage for a part time working high school student. No grown man should ever settle for that amount.
Yeah, feminism was a big scam. Women shouldn't have been empowered to work like men. Traditional patriarchy was and is the only way forward.
This is kinda cringe…she married into 50/50 relationship and all of a sudden expected him to become undusty. Ladies, get your priorities straight BEFORE marriage. if you’re already in a situation like this and he doesn’t want to change, just leave
It sounds more like 20/80. He is so stuck on her quitting her job! He can’t hear a thing she says!
@@aidaibrahim4381bingo. She was definitely carrying more of the load.
Yeah, feminism was a big scam. Women shouldn't have been empowered to work like men. Traditional patriarchy was and is the only way forward.
Before I got married, dating was so bad that I decided I would be the single, fun, bougie Aunt before I subjected myself to be treated like I wasn’t special. Stand firm on your standards ladies!
It is terrible dating for all ages. However, women in their 20s do have the highest advantage, but, that's not always true.
How old were you when you got married x
@@S-jy4fd 33
Yeah, feminism was a big scam. Women shouldn't have been empowered to work like men. Traditional patriarchy was and is the only way forward.
As a single 23 year old woman with no children , $15 is not enough for me alone..
It's not enough for me, either.
IT is better to be ALONE, and keep your dignty than to be in a RELATIONSHIP,,,Where you always sacrifice your self -Respect...
👏🏾 yup!
AMEN 💯👏
This is absolutely horrible. She made the choice to marry and procreate with an unambitious 50/50. This is her fault. He will not change.
She did not know Better
On top of the fact that as women step up, men pull back, men lie. Something happened with them where she has made such a drastic decision. Now, if he doesn't care much for his children, he'll leave. If not, he'll stay and step up.
The unambitious 50/50 will be in the house and not out with their friends, and neither will they abandon you and the kids. They rub your feet while you are watching tv on the sofa. And through them you can realise your dream of being a mother. I married one of these when I was sick of dating handsome ambitious men who only saw me as an option. Looks and ambition means another type of man to never marry. They will be cheating left, right and centre because they have the opportunity.
I aint mad at her we all fall for some fool at some point just that some women took it too far by marrying and having babies...but sooner she move on and do some damage control for the sake of herself the better...he dont even sound like he likes her that much...smh
Facts. She should have known when she met him, that he was incapable of being a provider.
So I'm listening to her language... she said she's not working for ANYONE else ever again... I take that to mean she's willing to start a business and work for herself before she works for someone else. I can hear he has mental limits on what he will do in their union, and its giving his mother didn't care for him enough to understand his role as a man. And I'm very uncomfortable with a man who wants to record and argue with a woman.
But (and this is just a question), is it really the mother's responsibility to show her male kids how to be men? Or is it really the lack of masculine role models in this man's life?
@@patricej8896Oooooo True. But a mother is there to teach her son how he should treat a woman. The father is there to be an example of those teachings and encourage him. So both are needed.
@@d3rinsola No question both are needed. It just looks here that the burden of raising boys falls on the mother. We already see how that has turned out, especially when fathers have shirked their roles. Only a man can teach a boy how to be a man. And only a masculine man can teach a boy how to be a masculine man.
@patricej8896 so honestly, I'm a realist; I know I could never teach a boy how to be a man, but I do feel that as women, we should help our sons identify character traits women respect. I would never let my son argue with a woman and record her to try to humble or humiliate her, especially the mother of his children. I'm sad for all the parties involved, especially the children. I hope they can find a resolution.
@@ldawn19026 I agree with that. We as women gotta know our limits imho. Because at a certain point, boys (and men) stop listening to women.
You can’t argue down a man to be a provider, money or not. Either they are or not. Sad but true
I like that...money or not. It's a mindset. Money is just the expression of the mindset.
@@AyaEgbuho I loveee your comment🎉 reminds me of when Whitley said she wants an ambitious man because an ambitious man is never poor!
@@Sekhere #Facts 🙌🏾
Yep you can’t make a man do whatever it is he doesn’t want to do
Yo daddy isn't one you love him still
Also, remember that men will up and leave women after however many years of marriage and children, just to pursue what they feel is natural to them. So you should never criticize yourself or someone else for pursuing what is natural and intrinsic to your soul. They will not blink to pursue another woman who makes them feel better, and that’s just a feeling! You’re seeking provision; concrete life value. But men are excused for chasing tail at any age. So please abandon the guilt.
You are right. Best believe it’s always someone else ready and willing to take that 50/50 spot.
This is a whole mess🤦🏾♀️
For me it's a provider husband or nothing! Not going 50/50!
I said the same it’s the husband I prayed for or no husband AT ALL
If you lazy and don,t want to work just say that
@@denniE3588 if you're like that man just say so
@@mae1062 i,m not like him but i don,t like entitled lazy couch warming bum women.
I don't do 50/50 relationships. He has to be able to pay the bills or no husband at all. Sorry no can do.
Right they always wanna say they the man of the house but can’t pay for everything IN THE HOUSE.. sad
Classic case of can’t turn a cub into a Lion. This is why hypergamy before marriage is crucial. Her delivery was way off.. You attract bees with honey. And if she would have went to a man with this problem her outcome may have turned out better. But Boys never understand things not being fair or equal. Love your videos Chloe.
I would be surprised if this was the first time the discussed this. A blow up of that magnitude was likely preceeded by years holding him down, breathing life into him, and believing in his potential. Her days of gentle parenting with him are over.
@@jojoone1099Exactly. 💯
Can’t turn a cub in to a lion love it….❤❤❤
My thoughts she had. And it doesn’t work. That’s why he’s got the phone out recording. He knows why she’s mad and he wants proof that she went crazy out of nowhere. But he recorded it. He knew what is happening because he’s causing it.
I couldn’t scream and holla with no man about money like this ever. The conflict with zero resolution, no thanks. I hate paying all my bills alone but I’m grateful I can.
same. I find the single men out here are either making low amts of money or are fiscally irresponsible.
All the men in their purpose are taken ready to move on to the next stage.
I cried paying a large bill the other day but I wouldn’t have it any other way 😂
“I’m not gonna discuss my funds to the world” but he will record a fight he thought would shame his wife back to work and upload it?
He would’ve outed himself as a dusty or a dusty mindset if he answered. If he doesn’t make enough that he needs her to work, he isn’t the man of the house nor a provider. If he makes enough to support them both and the kids but still wants (to force) her to work he has a dusty mindset.
EDIT: Finding out exactly how much he makes no wonder he was in a panic. Even with 12 hr shifts he makes just over $40k annually. You can barely afford anything on your own, let alone with a wife and kids. He had the nerve to act like any contribution of hers wasn’t much and yet still try to shame her to work at the same time.
Idk why he shocked she’d rather divorce him than work, if she had to pay for the wedding and rings, and earned enough where her quitting puts their livelihood at risk, she’s BEEN carrying the relationship.
That tells us everything we need to know about him. Btw, his funds are low. That's why he didn't want to discuss them.
@@VerleanHurd Ohh well there you have it. She needs to leave because after the very erroneous mistake of telling him she has money stashed away I’m willing to bet he’ll be spiteful.
I’m still kinda stunned that he’s willing to attempt to shame her into being a co-provider instead of being ashamed he’s only cosplaying provider in name. But I guess there is some shame because he didn’t want to disclose that he needed her to work as opposed to her just having her own income.
Vetting is key and I agree with everyone here, you can’t turn a dusty into a provider. He didn’t want to step up, he wanted to sit in struggle and drag her with him.
This is why women need to stop falling in love with potential. It was doomed to failure because they were not equally yoked.
When I was in my twenties my best friend always used the word potential. She thought I was so mean when I would say I don't date potential.
Yeah, feminism was a big scam. Women shouldn't have been empowered to work like men. Traditional patriarchy was and is the only way forward.
I AGREE! Her husband shouldn't have put their business out like that. That is not masculine behavior 😕
& he ended up getting embarrassed. 🥴 then says not to put his business out there.
In short NO. What’s the point of doing it all on your own just to do it HALF way with somebody else. The math isn’t mathing. 😂Masculine men want to provide and will do whatever it takes to do so with someone, especially with a woman he actually VALUES.
I am 21 yo but luckily thanks to content like yours💕i learnt early enough that a man is either a provider who treats u like a princess or a 50/50 dusty that treats u like a roommate. My future husband will be a masculine provider🙌🙌
@@bumblebee4280 Thank u💗💗
Amen 🙏🏾
I’m 18 and same here. I’m just trying my best to focus on my college education at this point though. I love being feminine and presenting myself as feminine but any romantic advances from a guy/man that I receive, I’ll treat as puppy love but will be willing to accept friendship on good terms.
Did she say she paid for the wedding and their rings?!?!?! 😮 WOW! She set the stage for taking care of him…. Well now she’s DONE!l We’ll see how it turns out…
You can't be the 'man' of the house and expect 50/50 bills. Thats crazy! This is his opportunity to step up and grow!
Say that again and louder 🔊📢
"Our bodies are not designed for excessive work". Facts... Had to learn that the hard way when I ended up with a high risk pregnncy. Plus bw are at higher risk for heart diziz' and that's definitely in correlation with us doing too much.
@@VirgoDluxe I agree. Especially when during and after giving birth. I don’t think we would have the same energy. Then with children, we (as women) get the highest stress and worries which affect our bodies and mental health.
This is why men were created to be PROVIDERS, they are physically stronger, they don’t give birth and don’t get the same natural instinc to nurture and care for babies, children..
@VirgoDluxe exactly. That's why it's a huge turn off for me when I see men not applying their full potential and depending on the woman to build them up.
@@VirgoDluxe that's great. Yeah no excuses for these able-bodied men
The husband is perfectly content when the amount of pay he makes at his job because the wife was helping him. There was no need to work a second or get a better job. The 50/50 mindset is a lifeline for these struggling dust mites.
Because he likely had access to her money.
This is the same situation I’m in. He’s coasting while I’m all up in my masculine asking for raises and being ambitious
@@Abril-1234Why are you doing that?
@@TheCelmap because I want to be compensated a lot for my hard work, education, and experience. I’m not working 40 hours a week for peanuts. I’m trying to set us up better financially
@@Abril-1234 I understood your statement, sorry I didn't ask the question properly. I was wondering why he's coasting while you're trying to get raises and climb the ladder? Have you addressed this issue already to him? As a couple, be open and adress all the concerns is the best way to go to avoid resentments later on.
I work hard as well but my husband works 3 times harder, so his income covers all life style while still investing money for our future and my income go towards my savings/investment account and my self-care, I do pay a small bill here and there but not that much.
My heart breaks for women in these situations. The realization of what you settled for hits so hard especially when you become aware of women around you getting the type of treatments you thought were unattainable.
When I started my journey back in 2016, I made the mistake of oversharing with other women only for them to poke fun, call me delusional and picky. I carried on since then maintaining my 'high' standards & I'm happy, secured & loved today.
The Soft life has taken over and now black women are waking up with a vengeance - as they should.
I just wish alot of us would of been more open to taking advice before the dating pool became saturated and infested.
So TRUE. just like you I started my journey early before this movement became popular and I'm DAMN happy I did. God help these women 🙏🏽❤️ sad.
@coconuttrees Yes lady! The rd less traveled will never lead you a stray. Praying for discernment for those women currently on their journey ❤
This is my favorite comment. So real. I can’t imagine the feeling of watching women in 2023 on social media get worshipped by their husbands while I reflect that I married and procreated with a dusty loser Ive been financially supporting for the past 10+years. 😢 horrifying & heartbreaking. women deserve the world, it makes me sick to my stomach.
@@AFFTFOMSICHTS You deserve better ♥️
That's what happened. She was around her friends and saw their men provider and watching Chloe, I guess 😂
Men like this get mad when their mom or sister gets treated like this but won’t see they doing the same to their girl/wife. This is sad.
They’ll also break their backs to send money to them too and act act if they ain’t already struggling.
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BW really do need to do the internal work so that we can stop accepting dust. We are here to raise the children we birth and not those who should have been raised by someone else.
BW are so used to dealing with plantation bucks that too many are locked in these situations.
Your content makes me feel glad and thankful that I have learned to value myself and refuse to accept this.
I’ve been single since divorcing a dusty at 29. I went back at 33 like a fool for my kids but got outta there at 34. I’m 41 today and my life is grand! My stress is environmental (living in New Orleans) and for my kids and work deadlines. I could never ever live a life arguing with a man in any capacity. I wake up everyday to the ☀️.
@kheriphillip878 Happy for you! Love this for you!
The trauma bond runs deep with that plantation buck mentality 😢
Yessss!!!!!!! That’s exactly what I’m doing
This was planned. She knew he would act this way. Now that she has no “income” on paper she would not be required to pay him alimony if they divorced. Hence her saying “you don’t know what I have put up”. Smart lady, this was her exit strategy.
Chloe great video.
She accepted how he was in the start. Like she said she got the wedding ring and paid for her wedding this is what she gets. She is not smart telling him she has a stash of money hidden. Now he is big mad.Sad for the children.
Yeah, that part wasn’t smart to tell him about her stashing money.
@@deliteful1991Exactly because he about to be EVEN more sorrier! Dang these ninjas pathetic 😂😂😂
Many women do not realize until much later that 50/50 is not the place to be. She is now fed up! So she is supposed to stay in something because she began in that way? Nope. Divorce is what she needs to do.
No woman NEEDS a husband. However, what you accept in dating and introduce into marriage without communication and understanding will be hard to change later. She accepted him in the form he came in. I heard her mention paying for the wedding and ring. A marriage was more important to her than him. He showed absolutely no sacrifice and hard work to make her a wife to him. She demonstrated 50/50 from the beginning. So, him thinking she's now selfish in her new plight is understandable. WE AS WOMAN NEED TO CHOOSE BETTER.
I stopped paying half years ago. I will never give him a dime again and he hasnt left yet. The video and the clip are amazing and i have heard all his arguments before.
Its MY job to say NO. Im not his nana or mama. Its tough to leave because of finances, but trust me, if he really wants to go, he can and with my blessings.
I'm not a fan of men who like to argue. Plus, her delivery is terrible. But it sounds like she is fed up or this is just how she talks to him on a regular. $15 an hour is terrible. Of course, she talks to him like she is his mother, with that paycheck. I would rather be at peace single than to have than energy in my house... especially with kids in the home. They probably don't respect him either.
Agreed! Men who argue are feminine!
Good observation about the kids. 😔 Disfunction all around.
I've seen nothing abnormal with her delivery. She's someone fed up.
@@redleeks6253that part. 💯
My thing is when she said "You either going to have to divorce me or get another job", followed by "and you ain't going no where" to me just cancelled everything she said. She does not want him to leave and would probably renege her statements if threatened with divorce. If you are going to do all that you need to stand on it. Don't be saying what you will and will not do but also avoid the consequences of it. Set your standard and respond accordingly.
I wouldn't have quit my job, but I definitely would've gotten a divorce. If I have to pay for an entire wedding by myself, there wouldn't have been a wedding.
@@Babziboo All facts. I'd be damned.
@@LittleMissDeeDee Exactly she should have moved in silence. If he has not done it for himself he damn sure won't do it for anyone else. She did all that for nothing. You can't force a man into a provider. I'm sure she has also enable his behavior to this point. Baby it's a lost cause.
@@LittleMissDeeDeeyou ppl love penalizing women with children 😂🤷🏽♀️ you fake therapist and haters of women with kids (rather male or female) are just crazy. No one is tryna get a baby daddy life happens to ppl and for you to devalue her because she has children is truly sad💯🤷🏽♀️
@BBYoungLady you summed that up beautifully
I would rather be alone and take care of myself while also being selfish than to lighten another man's load. I did that when I was young and stupid. I've learned from that and decided to choose me.
Agree, same for me glad I learned young and didn't get pregnant, wish you the very best 😊
Same
Yeah, feminism was a big scam. Women shouldn't have been empowered to work like men. Traditional patriarchy was and is the only way forward.
THERE US NO SUCH THING AS A HALF PROVIDER. YOU EITHER PROVIDE OR YOU DON’T.
Lol! It's giving "roommate" "friends with benefits "
I had a fight with an ex-boyfriend over money in which he said, "Well I'm comfortable with the amount of 💰 I make!". Ooo, if those walls could talk! A hush fell over Jerusalem and I already knew he was bat ish crazy if he thought I was going to marry and procreate with him. Turns out, he really wanted kids but no marriage 😒. My older sister told me when I moved in with him, "Protect your 💰!" Best advice I ever took! Let him preach that quote to his current baby mama and his former baby mama who's about to get evicted from her place for not paying rent and she tried to clock me on the multiple. Ma'am, sir, bye! Don't play with me because Karma!
The audacity 😅
No compromise-they have 4 children. She seems like she paying all the bills now. He barely pay anything. Sis get a divorce.
She triggered him by admitting she was saving money he didn’t know about or had access to. This is a great reminder to women to keep your own and keep it secret.
The Power of SELF ❤
The Power of Singleness
The Power of Discernment
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Amen 3x
Amen!
Chole I’m 28 and I’ve been watching you since I was 24-25. I started watching you after I left a embarrassing dusty relationship and vowed to never go back, but I didn’t know how to maneuver. Thank you for all your wonderful advice, we all really appreciate it! 🥰
Omg me too!! I’m 28, and this channel saved my life at 24/25. I can never get gas lit into another dusty relationship ever again.
Same! I’m 29 & been listening to Chloe for years and life changing is an understatement!
Same here I started watching her when I was 27 Covid. It’s been so helpful
Same am 28 and started listening since 24. I am so ready to marrying a generous provider . ❤
Get a trash bag and throw the whole dude away!
Sadly, when you start wrong and allow it to go on for so long, you have conditioned a man to continue in his complacency. He even has a voice that sounds dusty. It is a hard lesson learned and women have to want better from the outset as opposed to suffering, getting frustrated in silence and then blow up and lash out in anger.
From my experience, it is better to have no man than a 50/50 man.
OMG!!! this negro so glad my dad paid the bills 50 years my parents been married since 1973
They love borrowing other people’s sacrifices and not their own.
Yeah, feminism was a big scam. Women shouldn't have been empowered to work like men. Traditional patriarchy was and is the only way forward.
Red flag, man calling a woman, “bro!”
I feel where she is coming from however he only makes $15 an hour. That’s not enough for one person let alone a family. He can opt to take on more shifts or another job but unless he wants to do that himself, they might as well call it quits.
Yep.
I was shook! What married, father of four in 2023 is only working part-time for $15/hr!? She really played herself. She's definitely better off alone.
He won’t though. I’m sure he’s content with that pay because she has that 50/50 mindset and helping him to make ends meet. Sis is tried. But by her buying into that standard he saw no need to want or do better.
@@kaylam8707 exactly. It’s 2023 and that amount of pay is high school play.
Those are the options.
This made me glad to be single. Bc i didnt learn hypergamy until now and wouldve obliged to a hypogamous situation since I watched my mom do the same. (My mom bought the rings as well. 😪🤦🏾♀️ )
The thing is we are blinded by the "potential" and "humble beginnings" not knowing that the bandit never had any intention to outgrow said humility. And thats when the realization slaps you Sharkesha style like it did homegirl in the video. The scales fell off her eyes. But she already in too deep. But its never too late to reset. Shes saving years off her life, health, and youth if she commits to her new perspective.
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AM THE MAN OF THE HOUSE.
How much money you bring in?
😦 .....uhhhh.
Just for the record no man other than the Black American man would have the audacity to record this conversation. Because any other man may be living like this but they would keep it hush hush coz they know its embarrassing and not okay
Where there’s no pride there’s no shame 🥴
Man of the house, and man in the house are two different things.
@@dontme4132thissss. He's clearly entitled and coddled! Which is a dangerous man imo
They are both dusty and gave me a damn headache. You told him to divorce you and then said you’re not leaving. He doesn’t see the value in her to provide. Why have multiple kids by someone who can’t provide? She lacks the feminine essence to inspire him to provide more. There’s no way I’m yelling on camera like no, no new men will see desire in this 😂😂
Mamas boys out here driving their wives crazy.
2400$ A MONTH FOR A FAMILY OF 6???? He couldn’t AFFORD A FAMILY FROM THE BEGINNING.
He’s the man of the house telling her to take half his work load😂😂😂
That video was so embarrassing to witness on so many levels. And he has no shame and is showing himself while attempting to shame her. Wow.
The absolute IGNORANCE of it all smh
The man of the house pays ALL the bills.
Damn this is just wrong... On so many levels. People please have your finances in order. Please
Better yet, chose wisely.
Notice how they are trying to SHAME her.
I just come to hear Chloe tell folks what to go argue with....today, its "gingivitis" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
i did not see that one coming 😂
@@tonitone666 LOL
That Part! My favorite to date is, ‘you can go argue your gas station wig’😅🤣🤣🤣
Lol classic
The scales finally fell of my eyes back in 2017, I've not looked back since.
It's amazing I just had this conversation with a potential suitor at a cook out this weekend. His response was all I needed to know he was looking for fifty fifty. Thats why I Vet vet and vet again.
You must vet at the begining. It's a must
@@BitterPeachh my point exactly.
So he recorded this and posted it on social media? Marriage is sacred, what does social media have to do but give their biased opinions? So, he doesnt think much about the mother of his kids(I fell off when I married you)... Wow
Chloe, keeping it classy as always... 8:08
Quiet as it's kept, he never was on.
To get the internet trolls to bully her because that’s what they do.
@deliteful1991 and I am glad she was adamant in her decision. As a Christian woman, I stand firm that a man should be a covering for his wife and the family.
This won't deter me from my personal/marriage goals, but makes one more aware. Discernment is key.
Did I hear him say man up?! To his wife 🤒🤧 no wonder she’s tired and exhausted
Strong black woman 😉
Wow- that clip is so sad but avoidable. If you want a provider, then wait until you get the provider man you desire. Otherwise, continue to be single and free and entertain men who fit what you desire.
She started the relationship being the provider so that will always be the outcome. End of story
Exactly!!!!🎯🎯
I wish her wellness and safety for her and her children. A dusty like that is abusive.
Yeah, feminism was a big scam. Women shouldn't have been empowered to work like men. Traditional patriarchy was and is the only way forward.
Lord, I could write a book about this. You can’t change them. You can improve him, but you better really really really love him because it’s not gonna be worth it otherwise. If you’re going to leave, stack your cash, get ready to get a new, better job (resume, linked in, training, networking), but don’t get it until after the divorce. Remain where you are, divorce, and only start making good money afterwards. If you can line up a new man or two beforehand, that is ideal. Otherwise you tend to turn back to the husband because You feel a void. If you’re going to leave, don’t wait - get prepared, get your ducks in a row but leave while you’re still as young as possible.
He makes 15$ an hour?? Wtf was she thinking? And then had 4 babies with him 🥺
That’s what I said the audacity of having 4 kids at $15an Hr and having access to sex too is wild!!!!
@@stilljocelyn_whew, chile
We all have to accept we can't change people. And women really need to learn that. A man's character is his character and it's usually totally formed when you meet him unless you're childhood sweethearts.
It sucks when you realize you married someone and procreated with someone who isn't willing to grow and do what it takes to elevate his family. Very frustrating and sad indeed.
Yet if you never required it before, well!
We have to take more accountability for our beginnings and our standards. And learn to graciously take the L and move on.
What's that people always say...move in silence.
In my opinion, when you feel justified to disrespect your husband, it's been time to GO. Because he's NEVER changing under disrespect. So let it go.
Believe in yourself. Believe in God. Believe in abundance and know that you can still salvage and better your life ....without said man!
He's never changing under disrespect...go ahead, Professor!!!!
15 dollars is minimum wage! She was probably carrying them before this and got fed up. I dont blame her, id rather live alone.
He even sounds dusty
😂😂
Before quitting her job they should’ve discussed this and made a plan. she’s been wrong for picking someone with different values however she didn’t think this through if she cared about the marriage, throwing an ultimatum like that in his face just setting them up for war and a nasty divorce process. And why give your cards up talking about a stash? It’s a secret for a reason lol She went about this all wrong, her feelings are valid tho her execution was poor.
When a woman is fed up she will do anything she is obviously done communicating and can go no more with his immature entitled mentality for a male...he better leave her presence because he is dealing with a ticking time bomb.....I am taliking from experience but I used strategy to walk away and it still was hard but am in a better place now at least being without the burden of him
thank you. she totally went about the wrong way.
She sounds like she has a plan. She said she has money stashed up, her family probably supports her and all. He better have his plan. She did just right. Quit that job and see what he does. I bet he leave now. She sounds like she good. She did nothing wrong. It’s nothing for us women to get another job just like that.
@@TiffanyBTV I say it all the time I am the start over Queen. I will be good in 6 months top
I believe in the traditional arrangement but sis went about it the wrong way. You can't argue and belittle someone AND have your way.
I've heard of stories where women turned their 50-50 relationships into the stay at home wife arrangement but it was a gradual and nuanced process. This situation looks like she looked at online content for 2 days and then assumed she knew what to do. This is sad.
*Edit: He makes $15 and hour!* 😭 Of course her quitting her job would end up in an argument 💀 You're asking a non-provider to provide.
The edit, yes! She truly believes he’s just going to fall in line and it’s just not that simple.
I said the same thing. $15h of course he wants her to work. He needs help.
This woman obviously is tired! HE put that camera in her face and she exploded. It was just too much. There is no telling how long this has been going on. Also he refers to her as "Bro". Wth!
Completely agree!
Yeah, feminism was a big scam. Women shouldn't have been empowered to work like men. Traditional patriarchy was and is the only way forward.
Nope I’d die a single woman before dealing with this the income and the attitude
If your in a argument with a man and he matches your energy. It's time to go. That man is fully in his feminine energy 😂. She needs to get ready to make moves to be single cause this ain't it.
This! What man is going bring out his phone and record a fight he is having with his wife. He should be too ashamed especially since she is saying he is only making 15 an hr
Most of us will not marry providers because a lot of these men do not have a provider mindset. For those of us who already married 50/50 men, that’s the agreement we made when we married them no point now trying to make him what he’s not
Notice, he isn’t rushing to get a divorce, because once they are divorced, the government will hold him financially responsible. She is still taking care of herself and the children, she is tired of taking care of him.
Why is he even at home to have this conversation, sir you need to be at work… good bye.
This was so sad to watch, I feel for them and mostly the children as this is on social media. I cannot imagine the ridicule they will have at school😞
There really was no foresight leadership here and unfortunately she probably lost respect for him a long time ago
No man is better than half a man if the man in question doesn’t understand what it means and what it takes to take care of his family.
So sad. I grew up with all my grandparents and their parents. The men took PRIDE in providing
One more thing, this couple should have thought twice before producing kids they could not afford. Also, any man who is not ambitious should be avoided like the plague.
Yes. He should pick up some extra shifts and some much needed education and/or job training. Cuz $15/hr??? Whew! Her approach was definitely not effective and totally emasculating, but when a woman is done, there’s no turning back. He’s giving less than 1/2 a husband to be honest, because even in the absence of his financial support, I heard NOTHING about how great a father he was, how helpful he is around the house, or anything good about him really. Such a shame.
Yeah, feminism was a big scam. Women shouldn't have been empowered to work like men. Traditional patriarchy was and is the only way forward.
It sounds like she has been dropping hints. And this was her very emotional breaking point 😔
More and more women are watching and waking up but they are deeply invested in these dusty relationships/marriages and they are enraged.
Arguing with a no ambition dusty who wants the same provider you do is a waste of your time. These men have no idea what manliness is. File those divorce papers and find a generous financially stable man, whichever comes first.
If I have to pay bills then you’re not the provider. That is all.
4 Children! $15 an hour?
She made a baaaaaad choice. AND, kept getting pregnant by a Man making $15/hr....😮
Absolutely understandable.. They wanna play house and boss of the house ! " I am the man of the house" but when it comes the responsibility of becomeing the man of the house , now you need to help them. Traditional my ass
A man who goes "50/50" is NOT a provider. He would need to pay for himself anyway. He is simply living the bachelor lifestyle whole getting all benefits of marriage.
He is mad she has a stash!!🤣🤣🤣
Ha my ex wanted me to move outta my house to move in with him and pay 50/50 for the house he will be giving to his daughter when she grows up… no suh
It sounds like he’s not even putting in his 50%. He’s always “working” but he doesn’t bring the money home.
Hell no. Better off single
How you start is how you finish, and if that’s not how she wants to finish then she’s going to have to become a single mother. He doesn’t look like the type to step up or face adversity head on. You could hear that he wasn’t going to compromise and say “ok” or come up any form of compromise. He just went straight to shaming and belittling what she’s already done so far. I hope it worked out for her, good luck.
Half a provider is actually a contributor or co-provider, not a provider. IMO, it can work as long as he is doing half of the unpaid labor involved in caring for a family (cooking, cleaning, childcare, errands, laundry, etc.) along with paying half the bills. However, if he only pays have the bill & does under 25% of that unpaid labor, his wife will develop resentment for imbalanced load. Judge Lynn Toler once said if a wife is paying half their bills, then the husband should do half the housework. Both parents should care for their children, regardless of who works & how much, though.
What you accept in the beginning can cost you later. Before the ring she had no problem showing him she was independent and has her own. Now they’re married she wants to switch up but she set the tone and he followed.
It's never too late to change! I'm glad she woke up.