please help , my daughter has anorexia but wants to go to university to train as a vet but cant eat without me being with her. she has so many plans and gets depressed because she knows there's no way the doctor's will allow her to go. she has just started therapy. how can I help.you look amazing well done.x
Honestly it will be very difficult for her to go if she is so dependent on you around food. I was exactly the same before I went to uni though, I ate with my mum everyday before and after school and that becomes such a routine for the anorexic mind. Therapy is great, but she needs to want to get better herself, and that motivation will drive her further forwards with recovery. For me this didn't come until extensive periods of therapy. But everyone is different and with the goal of going to uni to be a vet she may have extra determination and strength to fully commit to recovery. It's so difficult because if you let her 'practice' eating her meal plan for a day without your support it's easy to take that as an opportunity to not eat, however she needs to get used to instigating meal times by herself; otherwise when she gets to uni she will just get worse. Maybe try talking to her properly about it and try to understand how she feels about being alone. You could discuss her cooking more with you, or maybe inviting friends over to eat to get used to being around different/more people at meal times. Eating at uni is often quite social and being in halls was so challenging for me. The best thing to do is be open with her and try to have an honest conversation about moving forwards and planning her taking control of mealtimes. However if she isn't in a position to do this yet you could always defer university for a year and dedicate that year to recovery? Please let me know if you have any more questions. Love xx
Do you have instagram or anything we can follow you on? You're such an inspiration and would love to be able to see how you're doing!? Good luck with the exams xxxxxx
So glad you posted! You are so great and you've worked so hard. I'm happy life is treating you well. Much love always😊
Hi lovely! Thank you for always being so kind, I really hope you are well. Love love xxx
happy that your good luck in your exams. you have come so far since the 1st video on this subject was filmed.take care lou
Love to see a video from you! You're one of my favourite people to watch! Such a great topic and love your insights! Wishing you all the best, xx
aw Thank you!! Lots of love xxx
Thank you so much for this video. It's given me a lot of hope to keep going. Best wishes with your final year exams 💗
Thank you for leaving this, it's very kind of you! Sending you lots of encouragement to keep pushing forwards with recovery. Love xx
Woah, from age 15/16 to 21, exactly the same.
Thanks for such an insightful video.
Your videos are great! Stay strong :)
Sending you much love
Thank you so much, lots of love to you too xxx
your welcome
thank you lou
Patronulum 💚💚💚
i enjoy your heartfelt videos.
Henry He Thank you! :)
please help , my daughter has anorexia but wants to go to university to train as a vet but cant eat without me being with her. she has so many plans and gets depressed because she knows there's no way the doctor's will allow her to go. she has just started therapy. how can I help.you look amazing well done.x
Honestly it will be very difficult for her to go if she is so dependent on you around food. I was exactly the same before I went to uni though, I ate with my mum everyday before and after school and that becomes such a routine for the anorexic mind. Therapy is great, but she needs to want to get better herself, and that motivation will drive her further forwards with recovery. For me this didn't come until extensive periods of therapy. But everyone is different and with the goal of going to uni to be a vet she may have extra determination and strength to fully commit to recovery. It's so difficult because if you let her 'practice' eating her meal plan for a day without your support it's easy to take that as an opportunity to not eat, however she needs to get used to instigating meal times by herself; otherwise when she gets to uni she will just get worse. Maybe try talking to her properly about it and try to understand how she feels about being alone. You could discuss her cooking more with you, or maybe inviting friends over to eat to get used to being around different/more people at meal times. Eating at uni is often quite social and being in halls was so challenging for me.
The best thing to do is be open with her and try to have an honest conversation about moving forwards and planning her taking control of mealtimes. However if she isn't in a position to do this yet you could always defer university for a year and dedicate that year to recovery?
Please let me know if you have any more questions. Love xx
Do you have instagram or anything we can follow you on? You're such an inspiration and would love to be able to see how you're doing!? Good luck with the exams xxxxxx
Aw thank you so much :) I finish my exams this week!
I do have Instagram but it's not recovery related, it's @lougen xxxxx
made me cry
I love you.