00:00 Intro 00:36 It's too expensive 02:54 They don't want to be a parent 03:18 Concerned about political/economic issues 04:02 Climate change 04:57 They don't have a partner 05:48 Infertility/medical challenges 06:00 Don't want to mess up their children 07:08 Focus on other relationships 07:42 Career over kids
Aussie Millennial: We're hardly privileged. By my age, my parents had a beautiful house nearly paid off, three children and one job between them. I have what little education I could afford, a dead-end job and rent to pay. But you can bet one thing - I'm happier than they were, because I chose this.
I'm 36, in a happy relationship and I don't want kids. I have a lot of friends and family who have children and its definitely not my cup of tea. People ask me all the time 'oh but who is going to look after you when you get old'. No matter what happens parents who decide to have kids just to look after them when they get old r kidding themselves. I don't care what happens once I get old, in fact, I don't even know if I'll live until I get old. I live each day as it comes, I love my life and I enjoy every moment I can.
Another point to that is that sometime your children can't take care of you when you get old due to time, income, and may not be built for it. My own mother has dementia and my siblings and I have taken care of her, but it is very draining and hard.
I’m actually Gen Z - married and 21, and I’m definitely childfree I can relate to just not wanting to be a parent, career over kids, other relationships, and mental health. However I’d also like to say another reason I never want to is because I want to be free to do philanthropy. To help those already here that need help. Cool video, thank you @childfreewife
I think the number one reason is the “job vs cost of living ratio”. My grandpa had a simple union blue collar job- he never went to college. my grandma never worked (she was a stay home mom) with one simple salary they could buy a 4 bedroom house, send 3 kids to school and then to college during the 60’s, and: live a pretty good comfortable life. Today, with one blue collar salary, a family of 5 will live under or near poverty line. Life got harder, more complicated, and way more expensive. If you wanna make it you need to either work way harder, or spend way more time in college.
I simply don’t feel like I have enough time to do everything I want to do in this life, and that’s *without* having a kid. Having a kid would mean I’d be trading SO many of the things that being me joy for this thing that I’m not yearning for- it just doesn’t make sense for my life.
In my case 1）Mental health issues 2）No partner - F being a single mum 3）unemployed - Struggleling to get a job, even entry - Very fustrating. 4）No housing - I live at home
(1.) High rent (2.) Jobs aren't paying enough to adequately take care of a kid (3.) I have a history of depression and don't want to pass it down to my kid (4.) I didn't ask to be here myself (5.) I like my peace (6.) I don't trust men and fear becoming a single mom
I work as a mental health counselor for children and I am having to pick up the pieces of parents who messed up their kids, and vice versa. Helping out children and their families fulfills my maternal instinct, as well as coming home to an adorable fur baby 🐕❤️ . No children of my own is needed to be happy :)
As others have said, I just don't want them. I get uncomfortable when a baby/child is crying. I don't like when they yell and scream. I don't have any interest in paying for a heaps of clothing and diapers. I don't want to pressure them (or anyone) into caring for me. Just a huge no for me. This morning, I saw a group of moms with their toddlers getting ready for a jog and I involuntary said "Gross" to myself. I have nothing against those who want/have children and I represent them; however, I will not be joining them.
I was born in 81, so I am a millennial but more like a generation x as I was born in Hungary not in the West. I don't have/and will never have kids because they're very expensive and time consuming. You're talking about college and university, unfortunately my parents never had the money to pay for higher education. I decided to finish studying after my high school diploma. I've been working since the age of 19, because I wanted to earn my own money and get a training or something that I can use to get a good job. I've moved to the UK in 2006, and although I have a partner, we both don't want children because we don't feel like we can afford it and keep the lifestyle we have. I got pressurised so much by parents, relatives, people over the years, but I am a very stubborn person, nobody can change my mind.
Good for you for pursing what's important to you. It can be hard work, but it's rewarding. My parents didn't pay for my university degrees either so I understand the challenges that come with that. You've got this. 😃
Hannah, I look forward to seeing your video each week. All the things I feel are brilliantly articulated and I feel like I am part of a community of like minded people. Great work. Thank you Kathy
Millennial‘s and younger generations also understand that there is no real life/social security and we emotionally feel that. We know that it doesn’t matter how long we’ve been at a job, how good we are people get fired, laid off and companies go under every day. For those in LTR/marriage they understand that love along doesn’t mean you’ll make it to “death do you part” and people fall out of love with each other. & with the job insecurity also means there is no housing security. There’s little faith in the government social Safety net because we all know people fall through it all the time. There’s also climate change and social injustice, ect. It’s hard to bring a child into a world of endless uncertainty.
There are so many factors that play into making the decision to become a parent and as time goes on it seems there is less and less certainty in almost everything.
Parents be like " I do not have time to do things that I like cuz I have to take care of my kids!" Then y did u have kids then?! 😂🤣 I really do not understand ppl sometimes
Too much stress, too much worries, financially burden, lost of freedom and say goodbye to life for the next 18 or more years. Children are an annoying burden.
As a still young genz kid I would say that now there are more opposing negative factors to having a kid then positive ones, I myself in the future do want to become a parent
I've just braved a video on my Childfree Choice, would love your feedback, our CF Community is such a support network! Sending best wishes from the UK 😁
Yeah and the inequality between the rich and the poor in america is worse than the inequality pre french revolution.... a lot of people just realize how hard it is to get ahead here in US so discourages people from having kids
You’re funny! I get a good laugh from you very informative videos. I don’t have kids and the reasons are overpopulation, way too expensive, not interested in birthing. Not enough energy or time. Thanks for the videos. Glad I’m not the only one who sees it this way. I could never afford kids in the past.
I like waking up when I want and not because a suckling needs to be fed. The rare occasions I go to Walmart, I hear kids screaming, crying and throwing tantrums. I'm working on a $20k+ project right now. There's no way I could accomplish what I've accomplished with a suckling sucking up all my time, energy and money. I get to go to metal shows unlike my friends who can't because they have no money, can't find childcare or the kid is sick and you can't get childcare. No fkn thanks, B. I'm good.
A lot of millennials can are minimalists, having kids would be stressful, take a lot of their time and they would rather spend their money on fun things or what they really like to do. I think they also are easily influenced by politics and copying their friends to fit in
Each generation lives life a bit differently than the generation before them. Kids can be a lot of work and stressful and if you know that's not something you'd want to do it's probably best not to have them.
1. I've never wanted to be here and it's something I've known since I was 8. I'm here against my will - that is all kinds of wrong if you ask me, more than enough reason not to do it to someone else. Bringing a child into this world is something I find to be incredibly selfish, and yes I am indeed calling many people close to me and everyone else who's ever had a child selfish. (Antinatalist here) 2. Never wanted one. My niece and kids of my friends are more than enough for me. 3. Looking at the world, not just as it's been in my lifetime, but taking history into account as well, I don't like what I see. 4. People who want kids get so lost in that desire that they don't stop to think that all they are doing to them is to force into a life they can never fully enjoy (barely, imo) cause they have to work most of their lives away just so they can continue existing (I used that word and not "living" for a reason), if they even make it to retirement (given how things are going). 5. Being pregnant is some of the most disturbing things evolution has wrought upon us. Why anyone would want to do this is unthinkable (but to each their own). 6. Having to be here knowing the one thing I've wanted ever since I was 3 y.o. is the one thing I can never have makes things absolutely meaningless. Imagine knowing what you want to do with your life that early on, then you go to school, you learn stuff and realize it can never be, that no amount of hard work, luck, being in the right place, etc can ever get you there. I'm sure a lot of you can do more than imagine it. 7. Cost of living is insane these days, nothing new here. If I had to live on my own, I would barely make it to the next month (best case scenario), just having myself to take care of, zero extra people. Doubt I could even afford a pet for company. Realistically, I could only afford imaginary pets. In short, "This world is a prison." to quote a certain character from Wow.
As a guy, I don't want kids or marriage. I want freedom. I want to travel and have an exciting life. I don't want to be one of those guys who falls in love with some chick who spreads her legs for him and then 10 years later he's stuck in a job he hates with a wife he can't stand and three children he'd rather not be around.
Kids today, cost way too much money. The problem with children , is you have to buy them , so many high ticket item and brand names , not like when I was a child , back then new shoes were new shoes , today it has to be an expensive item .
i'm 29yo single and i genuinely want to have a childfree life, but i'm worried that it will be hard (if not impossible) to get married if i chose this path. is this concern of a significant important because i definitely want to have a partner and don't want to spend my life single thank you for your support channel
There are other people who want to live the childfree life out there! Hopefully you will be able to find someone that wants the same things in life that you do. Best of luck. 😀
too risky, too expensive and most of all.. never wanted them.. been far more interested spending time with my dogs than have a baby but everyone make their choices in the end do what is best for you
Things have changed a lot marriage kids career how we work live and every thing will be different in the near future you don't want to have kids and life is not good
I know a lot of people in my life that never wanted kids an made them anyways now a lot of them are struggling in many different ways that's always scare me so much my happiness above anyone else is most important I always say if it's seem as selfish will guess I'm selfish
@@WifeWithoutKids yah I'd just never. Plus who knows if your kids will be shot in school. I could not. We're moving to Canada next year but still. I will not . I make a good auntie and godmother.snf that's plenty for me.
The downside is that I lost touch with my school friends when they had children, they don't have time for me and I spend a lot of time alone, I got one child free friend and that is basically it. Will I regret not having children?
Yes, sadly that is a reality of being childfree sometimes. Some friendships will change when people have kids. I've found that as the babies get older my friends have reached out more to reconnect. I'm not sure whether or not you will regret not having children. In my opinion an individual should have children because they really want to be a parent. We can feel left out because of our lack of kids, but I don't think that's a good enough reason to have them. Hopefully you will be able to make some new connections with people soon.
yeah i was thinking the same, but my reason (i am a gen Z) is not about not having children, but i don't want to get married, it is because i have bad memories in my family (pa, ma, sists), trauma, mentality must strong if i someone wants to get married. but of course my family member doesn't allow my decision, the word said to me, you had to get married and have kids, period, Jesus will help. and my other reason, of course i want to focus on my career and study, continue to study abroad master degree and doctoral degree
And if you hate the way the world is right now, this might be a reason to HAVE children. With being a parent, you can influence the way the world will be like in the future. When you are not a parent, your influence on how the world will be like in the future fades with every year you stay alive... And we see in our countr,y Germany, where having fewer and fewer children can bring you. to: You do not have enough bus drivers, nurses, doctors even shop assistants. Everything is scarce because the boomers whined about having children and on the one hand said they could not have them because of the dangers of the cold war turning into a hot one and on the other hand, because of the problems of the environemnt, but mostly, because they wanted to realize themselves...
I have desire to have kids but I'm in that first category I want to make sure that I have all the parameters set up money in the bank find the right woman of course my little cousins right now Jack Pratt the song when it comes to parenting
@@WifeWithoutKids thanks for the reply. I mean, I cant imagine having to help a kid do his homework. And kids also become adults. I have depression, so I cant imagine "doing this" to someone else
I m very sorry for people who don't have kids because of excuses it's really funny how people in Africa have more kids and they are poor they probably don't have to eat something what's even worse I m really sorry sometimes for this world 😑😑😑😑
I’m sorry but you guys need to wake up I’m not talking about the kid part but the fact you guys are sooo gullible the government have the media has brain washed you lot all the comments I’m reading just shows how lost we all are 🤦🏼♂️it’s sad no1 is saying have a child but at least wake up to what’s actually going on around you
Things have changed a lot marriage kids career how we work live and every thing will be different in the near future you don't want to have kids and life is not good
One of my bigger reasons that I've never seen discussed is how social media developed over the past 10 years. I grew up in the rise of facebook, and was lucky enough to not be fully emerged in it, but I posted a ton of stupid embarrassing stuff in my teens. I can't imagine the worry I'd have if I have a kid who's on social media the way that kids are now. These days babies leave a digital footprint from the day they are born and can't give consent about what's posted about them either. How does that impact their idea of social media and consent in general when they grow up? It's so scary to me
I absolutely agree that this is one more reason to not have children...how can you protect them from this kind of harm or other kind of harm social media related? On the other hand, you just can't forbid them to have a digital life because they couldn't grow up to be fully functioning adults...they wouldn't be adapted to society. I truly believe that the minute you give a cell phone to a child, whatever their age is, that's the moment in which you cease to have any sort of influence on them...they belong in the digital world, which many times is incredibly toxic, where you cannot follow them at all.
That's funny oh, your parents thought so too!? Or did they? At any rate you magically appeared, through it all. Everything on this page... seems selfish. Millennials seem to want a perfect world 2 multiply. Yet their parents didn't have a perfect world. You have the perfect mechanized techworld y'all have invented. If you hate it so much... petition and change, so that you can go back in time like our old folks, and live a little more primitive... cuz that seems like it will bring back a children mentality. Makes sense. Hopefully it seems like Millennial types will extinct themselves out in time!!! But this will be a great number loss here on Earth. But then maybe a different procreation mindset will take hold when they die off.
I think millennials were told the world was theirs, that they could do anything, and that every door was/is open to them. Children, although they open one big door, close SO MANY others.... and I don't like the idea of giving up so many other interesting ways to live my life so I can live for my child(ren) instead
I find that every generation has different goals and priorities. All of these reasons are valid, I also think that people are more comfortable saying how they feel as opposed to saying what people want to hear. Also the fear of being responsible for a tiny human is real!! Having a traditional family is a sacrifice that most younger people are not going to make. It is fascinating to me how much things have changes from when I was in college to the way it is now, totally different.
Sometimes I wonder with housing less affordable and more jobs being automated if I were to have children are my kids and grandkids are going to have secure futures ? I also worry how secure my future is let alone any future offspring.Perhaps it’s more humane to not have children ?
8:14 yes!! I don't want to spend years and years on building something so precious to me and then just throw it away to be a mother. Not saying that is wrong, that is just not my life path. 😊
I’m a millennial and it was waaay before COVID and all this current insecurity that I decided to not have any babies. I was having a good time as a youngun in college and I thought...what if I could just go on like this- I *CAN!!!*
I am a single guy without kids and I could not imagine making it in Montreal, Vancouver, Toronto, or basically any Canadian metropolitan area where most of Canada's economic output is generated on $45,000 CAD a year (I am from the United States by the way). Word has spread over here about how expensive Canadian real estate has gotten. How can you raise a kid in anything but a single family home?
I'm a millennial. Childfree, vegan, and I've never taken a plane. I also recycle religiously, have an eco friendly car, work close to home so I don't travel far, I think I can safely say I'm doing my part!
I’ve always thought that what’s next for me is having children. I’m 26 and have been married for 1 year with two little adorable fur babies 🐶 but just two days ago, I discovered the child free community! It made me realize that I have so much I still want to do before having children…or even no children at all! I love my life the way it is right now (although I’m very busy hustling with 3 jobs and still trying to find a work-life balance). I know parenting is EXTREMELY hard, probably harder than working my 3 jobs right now, and it’s a LIFETIME commitment. I grew up poor and my family struggled, my parents sacrificing so much for their children….So, I’m so afraid of not giving my future children the life they deserve or a life better than I had…I’m still living paycheck-to-paycheck so it’s tough, especially in this kind of economy. My mind is overwhelmed with such a decision. I’m the first of my siblings (1 girl, 5 brothers) to get married so my parents are expecting a grand child soon. Everyone around me are asking when the baby is coming…the social pressure is real. My husband and I love each other so much, but I just dropped this child-free bomb on him and I’m not sure he’s on board with the idea…
I always believed that people choose to have children because they would make them happy, so calling someone selfish if (s)he chooses not to procreate makes no sense to me. This no-children trend is probably the result of individualism and that's OK - children are not for everyone. But those that do want them should be enabled to care for them without going into massive debt.
I use to really want kids, I even called it my dream. But with the mass shooting/school shootings here in America, it’s made me re think having kids. Once I got to thinking about it, I couldn’t figure out why I wanted them in the first place. I honestly never thought not having kids was a option because having kids is what you do. But once I started really thinking about it and really really think about what I’d be giving up by having kids, I knew that it’s not something I want to do. I cannot think of a good enough reason for me to have kids. Since I’ve discovered not having kids was an option I truly feel like this is the right choice for me. I feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders
Yeah, I won't donate to any charity either. Because you're helping people to survive longer to have kids in the future. There are too many people on this Earth.
My parents had my siblings and I with an "air to the throne" mentality expecting us to carry on what they created and invested in during their adulthood. Going our own way in life was never an option since we had to have careers that related to theirs or they'd stop supporting us as parents causing us to detach from friends, relationships, other family members, and even careers we wanted, but weren't allowed to pursue. I feel like now they're realizing their mistake, but I'm in my 20s about to finish a college program I never wanted to start in the first place. Too little too late in my books. I don't want to make the same mistake by having kids and either doing the exact same thing or being too lenient trying to correct the mistake only to create even more problems. Best thing to do is to not risk it in the first place.
I’m 36 and I can barely provide for myself with the good money I make. Me and my husband live in a small apartment and I really don’t have an interest in buying a home with all the inflation. Imagine having a baby. I wouldn’t be able to work to raise a baby.
I LOVE your positivity around this! You seem to really understand the struggles of women (and men) who choose not to have kids but deal with a lot of pressure and sometimes heavy negativity from people in our lives. I love it. You’re helping me and tons of other people. For me, you’re helping reinforce why I should be confident in my decision for MY life and not feel like I have to appease others
Millennial here! I can confirm all the reasons you outlined, Hannah ❤️ Great content right there! For me, it is a combination of the reasons you mentioned, but I guess the most important ones are: I have other plans for myself and I want to protect the Planet. I know that I will not make a huge difference in the grand scheme of things, but at least I can try...
Why don't older generations look at themselves in the mirror and try to contemplate on "what did I do that made having kids so unappealing to my children?" ???
I like that you said you get the comment a lot that people dont want children but also are not very career driven. Sometimes I feel like if you dont have kids then it is expected of you to have some glamorous / amazing career or other achievement to ‘compensate’
The education system is broken. I graduated university in 2008. Couldn’t find a job had to go back to school. In Vancouver a house is over 1 million so I left Vancouver. I still can’t afford a place because now the interest rate is rising. Now we have fertility issues now the fertility doctor wants thousands of dollars. I Don’t have any money!!! Got married at 30 now I am 40. Kids were jerks to me so I fell uncomfortable around kids. I’m an only child.🤷 I have a cat
Ever thought of learning German and living in Germany? There is no tuition for you if you go to college. You can then start a life without being indebted too much. The catch, though, is that there are hardly any programs in English....
The less educated you are, the fewer prospects you have, the more children you tend to produce. This generation is generally much more informed than the past gens, and while we are being crushed under our parents inflation we actually do have more varied opportunities. There's a reason impoverished countries of the world churn out children while the more developed nations have seen population dip. Similar to how tigers have fewer babies than rabbits, the higher on the "food chain" you are, the less you're likely to breed.
www.sciencemag.org/news/2017/07/best-way-reduce-your-carbon-footprint-one-government-isn-t-telling-you-about?fbclid=IwAR3qOBaMyAH8yHGSjoF9mvWELR2Io-IOYLfSvb4CUwNjHVMQFiNaDCGwDuM and this one is interesting as well www.lunduniversity.lu.se/article/four-lifestyle-choices-most-reduce-your-carbon-footprint
00:00 Intro
00:36 It's too expensive
02:54 They don't want to be a parent
03:18 Concerned about political/economic issues
04:02 Climate change
04:57 They don't have a partner
05:48 Infertility/medical challenges
06:00 Don't want to mess up their children
07:08 Focus on other relationships
07:42 Career over kids
Having a kid just doesn’t seem very interesting or exciting. I have my own life that is exciting enough, why do I need someone else to provide that?
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very true, it is so boring having kids
Aussie Millennial: We're hardly privileged. By my age, my parents had a beautiful house nearly paid off, three children and one job between them.
I have what little education I could afford, a dead-end job and rent to pay. But you can bet one thing - I'm happier than they were, because I chose this.
It's interesting to see how many changes have taken place from my grandparents time to my generation now. Such a difference.
I'm 36, in a happy relationship and I don't want kids. I have a lot of friends and family who have children and its definitely not my cup of tea. People ask me all the time 'oh but who is going to look after you when you get old'. No matter what happens parents who decide to have kids just to look after them when they get old r kidding themselves. I don't care what happens once I get old, in fact, I don't even know if I'll live until I get old. I live each day as it comes, I love my life and I enjoy every moment I can.
Great point. We don't have how long we will be around for!
Another point to that is that sometime your children can't take care of you when you get old due to time, income, and may not be built for it. My own mother has dementia and my siblings and I have taken care of her, but it is very draining and hard.
I’m actually Gen Z - married and 21, and I’m definitely childfree I can relate to just not wanting to be a parent, career over kids, other relationships, and mental health.
However I’d also like to say another reason I never want to is because I want to be free to do philanthropy. To help those already here that need help.
Cool video, thank you @childfreewife
That's another great reason to choose childfree. 🌻
I think the number one reason is the “job vs cost of living ratio”. My grandpa had a simple union blue collar job- he never went to college. my grandma never worked (she was a stay home mom) with one simple salary they could buy a 4 bedroom house, send 3 kids to school and then to college during the 60’s, and: live a pretty good comfortable life. Today, with one blue collar salary, a family of 5 will live under or near poverty line. Life got harder, more complicated, and way more expensive. If you wanna make it you need to either work way harder, or spend way more time in college.
I simply don’t feel like I have enough time to do everything I want to do in this life, and that’s *without* having a kid. Having a kid would mean I’d be trading SO many of the things that being me joy for this thing that I’m not yearning for- it just doesn’t make sense for my life.
Life is filled with so many things! I think that's very true that you really don't want something you just shouldn't pursue it.
good point.... and I was busy doing those things so I never even found the time to explain it like you did so well.
I know, I feel overwhelmed almost every day. I can't imagine how my brother with two kids feels. I'm just SO GLAD parenthood is optional.
SAME THOUGHTS.
Well said!
In my case
1）Mental health issues
2）No partner - F being a single mum
3）unemployed - Struggleling to get a job, even entry - Very fustrating.
4）No housing - I live at home
All good reasons!
@@WifeWithoutKids Thank you
(1.) High rent (2.) Jobs aren't paying enough to adequately take care of a kid (3.) I have a history of depression and don't want to pass it down to my kid (4.) I didn't ask to be here myself (5.) I like my peace (6.) I don't trust men and fear becoming a single mom
Those are great reasons not to have kids.
Same reasons but i dont trust women 😂
And I'm guessing by the profile name that you want to travel and you can't do that when you have kids
@@osis3694 facts having a kid is overrated nowadays
I would have at least one in my 30s
I didn't pay to get my University degree nor I'm in debt, but I don't want kids anyway. :-)
Yay for being debt free. 🙌
Yes! As a childfree millennial I can totally agree with this and I am right there with you girl!🙌💜
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I work as a mental health counselor for children and I am having to pick up the pieces of parents who messed up their kids, and vice versa. Helping out children and their families fulfills my maternal instinct, as well as coming home to an adorable fur baby 🐕❤️ . No children of my own is needed to be happy :)
You are undoubtedly helping so many kids with your job. Thank you:)
Love it! I relate to most of these too. It's just important to show that there are many different reasons someone might choose not to have children.
Absolutely! 🙌
As others have said, I just don't want them. I get uncomfortable when a baby/child is crying. I don't like when they yell and scream. I don't have any interest in paying for a heaps of clothing and diapers. I don't want to pressure them (or anyone) into caring for me. Just a huge no for me. This morning, I saw a group of moms with their toddlers getting ready for a jog and I involuntary said "Gross" to myself. I have nothing against those who want/have children and I represent them; however, I will not be joining them.
I was born in 81, so I am a millennial but more like a generation x as I was born in Hungary not in the West.
I don't have/and will never have kids because they're very expensive and time consuming. You're talking about college and university, unfortunately my parents never had the money to pay for higher education. I decided to finish studying after my high school diploma. I've been working since the age of 19, because I wanted to earn my own money and get a training or something that I can use to get a good job. I've moved to the UK in 2006, and although I have a partner, we both don't want children because we don't feel like we can afford it and keep the lifestyle we have. I got pressurised so much by parents, relatives, people over the years, but I am a very stubborn person, nobody can change my mind.
Good for you for pursing what's important to you. It can be hard work, but it's rewarding. My parents didn't pay for my university degrees either so I understand the challenges that come with that. You've got this. 😃
Hannah, I look forward to seeing your video each week. All the things I feel are brilliantly articulated and I feel like I am part of a community of like minded people.
Great work. Thank you
Kathy
You are so welcome. Glad you have you as part of our community. 💜
Its simple, i have anger problems and I KNOW I'll take it out on my kids. Trust me..ik. i have no patience
It takes insight and honestly to be able to look at our flaws and make hard decisions. Good for you for being honest with yourself.
Honestly, sometimes I can barely take proper care of myself. I can't imagine having to take care of a baby too!
Millennial‘s and younger generations also understand that there is no real life/social security and we emotionally feel that. We know that it doesn’t matter how long we’ve been at a job, how good we are people get fired, laid off and companies go under every day. For those in LTR/marriage they understand that love along doesn’t mean you’ll make it to “death do you part” and people fall out of love with each other. & with the job insecurity also means there is no housing security. There’s little faith in the government social Safety net because we all know people fall through it all the time. There’s also climate change and social injustice, ect. It’s hard to bring a child into a world of endless uncertainty.
There are so many factors that play into making the decision to become a parent and as time goes on it seems there is less and less certainty in almost everything.
Facts 🙌
Parents be like " I do not have time to do things that I like cuz I have to take care of my kids!"
Then y did u have kids then?! 😂🤣 I really do not understand ppl sometimes
Too much stress, too much worries, financially burden, lost of freedom and say goodbye to life for the next 18 or more years. Children are an annoying burden.
Reason #1 it's a waste of my money #2 I like my freedom.
As a still young genz kid I would say that now there are more opposing negative factors to having a kid then positive ones, I myself in the future do want to become a parent
It's good to know the pros and cons:)
It's too much work taking care of myself, there's no way in hell I'm adding even more to my workload by having children. Absolutely not 😂😂😂
I've just braved a video on my Childfree Choice, would love your feedback, our CF Community is such a support network! Sending best wishes from the UK 😁
I'll check it out!
Yeah and the inequality between the rich and the poor in america is worse than the inequality pre french revolution.... a lot of people just realize how hard it is to get ahead here in US so discourages people from having kids
Hi Hannah-Toronto and Ssauga average house price is now over $1M. Imagine that!
That’s insane! 😯
You’re funny! I get a good laugh from you very informative videos. I don’t have kids and the reasons are overpopulation, way too expensive, not interested in birthing. Not enough energy or time. Thanks for the videos. Glad I’m not the only one who sees it this way. I could never afford kids in the past.
I like waking up when I want and not because a suckling needs to be fed. The rare occasions I go to Walmart, I hear kids screaming, crying and throwing tantrums. I'm working on a $20k+ project right now. There's no way I could accomplish what I've accomplished with a suckling sucking up all my time, energy and money. I get to go to metal shows unlike my friends who can't because they have no money, can't find childcare or the kid is sick and you can't get childcare. No fkn thanks, B. I'm good.
A lot of millennials can are minimalists, having kids would be stressful, take a lot of their time and they would rather spend their money on fun things or what they really like to do. I think they also are easily influenced by politics and copying their friends to fit in
Each generation lives life a bit differently than the generation before them. Kids can be a lot of work and stressful and if you know that's not something you'd want to do it's probably best not to have them.
1. I've never wanted to be here and it's something I've known since I was 8. I'm here against my will - that is all kinds of wrong if you ask me, more than enough reason not to do it to someone else. Bringing a child into this world is something I find to be incredibly selfish, and yes I am indeed calling many people close to me and everyone else who's ever had a child selfish. (Antinatalist here)
2. Never wanted one. My niece and kids of my friends are more than enough for me.
3. Looking at the world, not just as it's been in my lifetime, but taking history into account as well, I don't like what I see.
4. People who want kids get so lost in that desire that they don't stop to think that all they are doing to them is to force into a life they can never fully enjoy (barely, imo) cause they have to work most of their lives away just so they can continue existing (I used that word and not "living" for a reason), if they even make it to retirement (given how things are going).
5. Being pregnant is some of the most disturbing things evolution has wrought upon us. Why anyone would want to do this is unthinkable (but to each their own).
6. Having to be here knowing the one thing I've wanted ever since I was 3 y.o. is the one thing I can never have makes things absolutely meaningless. Imagine knowing what you want to do with your life that early on, then you go to school, you learn stuff and realize it can never be, that no amount of hard work, luck, being in the right place, etc can ever get you there. I'm sure a lot of you can do more than imagine it.
7. Cost of living is insane these days, nothing new here. If I had to live on my own, I would barely make it to the next month (best case scenario), just having myself to take care of, zero extra people. Doubt I could even afford a pet for company. Realistically, I could only afford imaginary pets.
In short, "This world is a prison." to quote a certain character from Wow.
As a guy, I don't want kids or marriage. I want freedom. I want to travel and have an exciting life. I don't want to be one of those guys who falls in love with some chick who spreads her legs for him and then 10 years later he's stuck in a job he hates with a wife he can't stand and three children he'd rather not be around.
Kids today, cost way too much money. The problem with children , is you have to buy them , so many high ticket item and brand names , not like when I was a child , back then new shoes were new shoes , today it has to be an expensive item .
Great vid, yeah the having kids idea thing is high risk choice for sure.
Thank you!
i'm 29yo single and i genuinely want to have a childfree life, but i'm worried that it will be hard (if not impossible) to get married if i chose this path.
is this concern of a significant important because i definitely want to have a partner and don't want to spend my life single
thank you for your support channel
There are other people who want to live the childfree life out there! Hopefully you will be able to find someone that wants the same things in life that you do. Best of luck. 😀
too risky, too expensive and most of all..
never wanted them.. been far more interested
spending time with my dogs than have a baby
but everyone make their choices in the end
do what is best for you
Things have changed a lot marriage kids career how we work live and every thing will be different in the near future you don't want to have kids and life is not good
I agree with all of these. I'm not married and if i were to have a kid the guy better put a ring on first.
😄 The ring part was important to me too.
@@WifeWithoutKids YES! I can't wait to get married!
I know a lot of people in my life that never wanted kids an made them anyways now a lot of them are struggling in many different ways that's always scare me so much my happiness above anyone else is most important I always say if it's seem as selfish will guess I'm selfish
Now imagine you live in the US and we don't even have maternity leave and you're paying $10,000 just for the birth!
That's a big YIKES!
@@WifeWithoutKids yah I'd just never. Plus who knows if your kids will be shot in school. I could not. We're moving to Canada next year but still. I will not . I make a good auntie and godmother.snf that's plenty for me.
Thank you Hannah!
You are welcome. 😀
Am a Gen X and don’t have kids yet???
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The downside is that I lost touch with my school friends when they had children, they don't have time for me and I spend a lot of time alone, I got one child free friend and that is basically it. Will I regret not having children?
Yes, sadly that is a reality of being childfree sometimes. Some friendships will change when people have kids. I've found that as the babies get older my friends have reached out more to reconnect. I'm not sure whether or not you will regret not having children. In my opinion an individual should have children because they really want to be a parent. We can feel left out because of our lack of kids, but I don't think that's a good enough reason to have them. Hopefully you will be able to make some new connections with people soon.
yeah i was thinking the same, but my reason (i am a gen Z) is not about not having children, but i don't want to get married, it is because i have bad memories in my family (pa, ma, sists), trauma, mentality must strong if i someone wants to get married. but of course my family member doesn't allow my decision, the word said to me, you had to get married and have kids, period, Jesus will help.
and my other reason, of course i want to focus on my career and study, continue to study abroad master degree and doctoral degree
And if you hate the way the world is right now, this might be a reason to HAVE children. With being a parent, you can influence the way the world will be like in the future. When you are not a parent, your influence on how the world will be like in the future fades with every year you stay alive... And we see in our countr,y Germany, where having fewer and fewer children can bring you. to: You do not have enough bus drivers, nurses, doctors even shop assistants. Everything is scarce because the boomers whined about having children and on the one hand said they could not have them because of the dangers of the cold war turning into a hot one and on the other hand, because of the problems of the environemnt, but mostly, because they wanted to realize themselves...
No time no money. Plus divorce is wayyyy unfair for men not worth the risk.
I have desire to have kids but I'm in that first category I want to make sure that I have all the parameters set up money in the bank find the right woman of course my little cousins right now Jack Pratt the song when it comes to parenting
Millennials not having kids is great for the world.
Gen Z and I don't want kids either
My kids won't have to fight to preserve imperialism nor fight to dispel imperialism
I wish I could have kids, but im too poor and too messed up in the brain :,(
another reason, at least for me, is that I didnt like my childhood.
so I dont want to experience a childhood again in any way.
I’m sorry you did not experience a positive childhood.
@@WifeWithoutKids thanks for the reply.
I mean, I cant imagine having to help a kid do his homework. And kids also become adults.
I have depression, so I cant imagine "doing this" to someone else
I love you I don’t want kids
i dont want them and i can’t stand them. thats the reason.
There are people who don't want children but are happy to be step-parents instead.
Yes, that is an option as well.
I m very sorry for people who don't have kids because of excuses it's really funny how people in Africa have more kids and they are poor they probably don't have to eat something what's even worse I m really sorry sometimes for this world 😑😑😑😑
I’m sorry but you guys need to wake up I’m not talking about the kid part but the fact you guys are sooo gullible the government have the media has brain washed you lot all the comments I’m reading just shows how lost we all are 🤦🏼♂️it’s sad no1 is saying have a child but at least wake up to what’s actually going on around you
Agree with everything. My number one reason is basically not having the desire, and two, world problems are just too much.
My #1 reason is lack of desire as well.
The world being all messed up definitely is a factor
Things have changed a lot marriage kids career how we work live and every thing will be different in the near future you don't want to have kids and life is not good
As a millennial, I agree with all of these decisions 😅👌 although I do have a partner of 10 years!
I found them pretty relatable as well. 😀
One of my bigger reasons that I've never seen discussed is how social media developed over the past 10 years. I grew up in the rise of facebook, and was lucky enough to not be fully emerged in it, but I posted a ton of stupid embarrassing stuff in my teens. I can't imagine the worry I'd have if I have a kid who's on social media the way that kids are now. These days babies leave a digital footprint from the day they are born and can't give consent about what's posted about them either. How does that impact their idea of social media and consent in general when they grow up? It's so scary to me
This is such a great point! I've wondered that myself.
I absolutely agree that this is one more reason to not have children...how can you protect them from this kind of harm or other kind of harm social media related? On the other hand, you just can't forbid them to have a digital life because they couldn't grow up to be fully functioning adults...they wouldn't be adapted to society.
I truly believe that the minute you give a cell phone to a child, whatever their age is, that's the moment in which you cease to have any sort of influence on them...they belong in the digital world, which many times is incredibly toxic, where you cannot follow them at all.
@@lolixxxx988 Sheesh. That's such a great point.
Kids are a LOT of responsibility...no thanks!
Yes they are!
agreed having none of that nonsense
That's funny oh, your parents thought so too!? Or did they? At any rate you magically appeared, through it all. Everything on this page... seems selfish. Millennials seem to want a perfect world 2 multiply. Yet their parents didn't have a perfect world. You have the perfect mechanized techworld y'all have invented. If you hate it so much... petition and change, so that you can go back in time like our old folks, and live a little more primitive... cuz that seems like it will bring back a children mentality. Makes sense. Hopefully it seems like Millennial types will extinct themselves out in time!!! But this will be a great number loss here on Earth. But then maybe a different procreation mindset will take hold when they die off.
I have other things I want to do with my life.
Totally OK! 😀
*My* reasons for not wanting kids:
: I don’t want kids
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- *I don’t want kids.*
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@@WifeWithoutKids 😄😄
Same👏🏻👏🏻
I think millennials were told the world was theirs, that they could do anything, and that every door was/is open to them. Children, although they open one big door, close SO MANY others.... and I don't like the idea of giving up so many other interesting ways to live my life so I can live for my child(ren) instead
Honestly you just can't have everything in life, even if we are told that or made to think we can. There's only so much time in a day!
@@WifeWithoutKids Yes! Figuring out how you want to spend your time is so important
Because lief is sooooo much better without that lifelong burden ...
Unless of course you want to be a parent!
Parenting is never ending, thankless and _very_ expensive. Every kid costs as much as a house!
I find that every generation has different goals and priorities. All of these reasons are valid, I also think that people are more comfortable saying how they feel as opposed to saying what people want to hear. Also the fear of being responsible for a tiny human is real!! Having a traditional family is a sacrifice that most younger people are not going to make. It is fascinating to me how much things have changes from when I was in college to the way it is now, totally different.
So true!
Sometimes I wonder with housing less affordable and more jobs being automated if I were to have children are my kids and grandkids are going to have secure futures ? I also worry how secure my future is let alone any future offspring.Perhaps it’s more humane to not have children ?
Great questions to ask.
8:14 yes!! I don't want to spend years and years on building something so precious to me and then just throw it away to be a mother. Not saying that is wrong, that is just not my life path. 😊
I can understand that!
I’m a millennial and it was waaay before COVID and all this current insecurity that I decided to not have any babies. I was having a good time as a youngun in college and I thought...what if I could just go on like this- I *CAN!!!*
You sure can.
You can't afford it look how expensive things are I went to store an milk almost 6dollars
I love flexibility of life and can work anywhere where I get paid better ! Unfortunately with children one can’t be flexible with their education !
Flexibility is 👍!
I am a single guy without kids and I could not imagine making it in Montreal, Vancouver, Toronto, or basically any Canadian metropolitan area where most of Canada's economic output is generated on $45,000 CAD a year (I am from the United States by the way). Word has spread over here about how expensive Canadian real estate has gotten. How can you raise a kid in anything but a single family home?
Yes, prices are ridiculous. ☹
That is why a lot of millenniums are living in their Van or campers in Canada...
In a van down by the river!
I'm a millennial. Childfree, vegan, and I've never taken a plane. I also recycle religiously, have an eco friendly car, work close to home so I don't travel far, I think I can safely say I'm doing my part!
I think so too! 👍😄
Cool but 1 small gripe is vegan being good for planet is debatable.
@@marioh5144 I have my own home, buddy. Try again.
Millennial here 💜 been with my husband for 11 years, still no kids and still loving it.
That is awesome!
i have 2 brothers who are 25 and 30
one of them hsve a girlfriend bur none has no kids
I’ve always thought that what’s next for me is having children. I’m 26 and have been married for 1 year with two little adorable fur babies 🐶 but just two days ago, I discovered the child free community! It made me realize that I have so much I still want to do before having children…or even no children at all! I love my life the way it is right now (although I’m very busy hustling with 3 jobs and still trying to find a work-life balance). I know parenting is EXTREMELY hard, probably harder than working my 3 jobs right now, and it’s a LIFETIME commitment. I grew up poor and my family struggled, my parents sacrificing so much for their children….So, I’m so afraid of not giving my future children the life they deserve or a life better than I had…I’m still living paycheck-to-paycheck so it’s tough, especially in this kind of economy.
My mind is overwhelmed with such a decision. I’m the first of my siblings (1 girl, 5 brothers) to get married so my parents are expecting a grand child soon. Everyone around me are asking when the baby is coming…the social pressure is real. My husband and I love each other so much, but I just dropped this child-free bomb on him and I’m not sure he’s on board with the idea…
It is a really big decision. I’m glad you found this community and recognize that childfree is an option as well. 😀
U should wait until u r in ur 30s (like 30-35) so that way u have time to do things u wanna do
Girl how are you doing? Are y’all okay? ❤
You should look at the stats of Gen X and kids. It's pretty similar to Millennials.
if you don't plan on having kids would you recommend a more permanent form of birth control? like a vasectomy?
I always believed that people choose to have children because they would make them happy, so calling someone selfish if (s)he chooses not to procreate makes no sense to me. This no-children trend is probably the result of individualism and that's OK - children are not for everyone. But those that do want them should be enabled to care for them without going into massive debt.
I use to really want kids, I even called it my dream. But with the mass shooting/school shootings here in America, it’s made me re think having kids. Once I got to thinking about it, I couldn’t figure out why I wanted them in the first place. I honestly never thought not having kids was a option because having kids is what you do. But once I started really thinking about it and really really think about what I’d be giving up by having kids, I knew that it’s not something I want to do. I cannot think of a good enough reason for me to have kids. Since I’ve discovered not having kids was an option I truly feel like this is the right choice for me. I feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders
Another reason is the way they were raised by their parents
there is carbon footprint and carbon footprint legacy, which is the combination of your carbon and every off spring and every off spring they have.
That is a good point. I didn't even think about that!
Yeah, I won't donate to any charity either. Because you're helping people to survive longer to have kids in the future. There are too many people on this Earth.
My parents had my siblings and I with an "air to the throne" mentality expecting us to carry on what they created and invested in during their adulthood. Going our own way in life was never an option since we had to have careers that related to theirs or they'd stop supporting us as parents causing us to detach from friends, relationships, other family members, and even careers we wanted, but weren't allowed to pursue. I feel like now they're realizing their mistake, but I'm in my 20s about to finish a college program I never wanted to start in the first place. Too little too late in my books. I don't want to make the same mistake by having kids and either doing the exact same thing or being too lenient trying to correct the mistake only to create even more problems. Best thing to do is to not risk it in the first place.
I’m 36 and I can barely provide for myself with the good money I make. Me and my husband live in a small apartment and I really don’t have an interest in buying a home with all the inflation. Imagine having a baby. I wouldn’t be able to work to raise a baby.
I LOVE your positivity around this! You seem to really understand the struggles of women (and men) who choose not to have kids but deal with a lot of pressure and sometimes heavy negativity from people in our lives. I love it. You’re helping me and tons of other people. For me, you’re helping reinforce why I should be confident in my decision for MY life and not feel like I have to appease others
So happy that you find the videos helpful! 😃
Millennial here! I can confirm all the reasons you outlined, Hannah ❤️ Great content right there!
For me, it is a combination of the reasons you mentioned, but I guess the most important ones are: I have other plans for myself and I want to protect the Planet. I know that I will not make a huge difference in the grand scheme of things, but at least I can try...
Thanks for sharing! If everyone does a little, it does add up to make a difference.
WHY?
You want to know why?
You sure you wanna know?
I'll tell you why
Because the world needs to change
starting without
Humans.
Why don't older generations look at themselves in the mirror and try to contemplate on "what did I do that made having kids so unappealing to my children?" ???
I like that you said you get the comment a lot that people dont want children but also are not very career driven. Sometimes I feel like if you dont have kids then it is expected of you to have some glamorous / amazing career or other achievement to ‘compensate’
Ne, I'm not career driven. I love to travell and have other hobbies like painting. I just don't like kids and don't want to be a mom.
I don't want to have children for fear of getting put on child support
The education system is broken. I graduated university in 2008. Couldn’t find a job had to go back to school. In Vancouver a house is over 1 million so I left Vancouver. I still can’t afford a place because now the interest rate is rising. Now we have fertility issues now the fertility doctor wants thousands of dollars. I Don’t have any money!!! Got married at 30 now I am 40. Kids were jerks to me so I fell uncomfortable around kids. I’m an only child.🤷 I have a cat
Ever thought of learning German and living in Germany? There is no tuition for you if you go to college. You can then start a life without being indebted too much. The catch, though, is that there are hardly any programs in English....
The less educated you are, the fewer prospects you have, the more children you tend to produce. This generation is generally much more informed than the past gens, and while we are being crushed under our parents inflation we actually do have more varied opportunities. There's a reason impoverished countries of the world churn out children while the more developed nations have seen population dip. Similar to how tigers have fewer babies than rabbits, the higher on the "food chain" you are, the less you're likely to breed.
please share the link for the stat on one child and environmental impact
Yes, please! I'd seen that graphic somewhere, but I couldn't find it anymore...
www.sciencemag.org/news/2017/07/best-way-reduce-your-carbon-footprint-one-government-isn-t-telling-you-about?fbclid=IwAR3qOBaMyAH8yHGSjoF9mvWELR2Io-IOYLfSvb4CUwNjHVMQFiNaDCGwDuM and this one is interesting as well www.lunduniversity.lu.se/article/four-lifestyle-choices-most-reduce-your-carbon-footprint
Childfree Christian here. I'm going against the grain.