Thank you for this. Have bemoaned the paucity of teachings directed at men. I have searched through your messages and it's obvious you are addressing both men and women. God bless you
1. Being Clueless about Women 2. Sending Mixed Signals 3. Not keeping in touch 4. Not Being open and expressive 5. No boundaries/Not being faithful 6. Not listening to her 7. Being insecure and Immature
I hate that number 7 with passion, especially when it comes up as stupid, arrogant, chauvinistic, misogynistic, superiority complex crap. Man, I hate it!
God bless you sir. This is exactly 100% what I'm going through in my 4 year relationship. 😓😓😓 I have complained so much and tried to talk to the young man in question but he has refused to change. Instead, he always says that I'm complaining.
I quite understand you. But I think you should change the approach in which you communicate these issues to him. Maybe just download this teaching and the other he taught about men, then play them often when he's around. Remember timing is also of essence. I wish you the best
...so this means you are also rich and she is richER 🙂 Not a case of she being your sugar mummy or of you being idle and unproductive financially in the marriage ☝️
Me relating to the scenarios and stopping the video for some seconds to clap and laugh and shout to the air 'You got it!!!' (a mixture of frustration at men and yet relief that Pst K gets it) 😂😂
Something I've learnt is teaching one another how to understand one another. The example Pst gave on the woman telling the man 'leave me' but not meaning it literally. If they talk about it later, the man learns what to do another time. The woman also learns to be more cautious of what she's saying, cus she understands more of how he thinks.
Hello pastor Kingsley am from Cameroon a big fan of yours and i will like to have 52tips for 52 weeks and the A-Z of marriage. i dont know if its already available in Cameroon.
From your last statement in point 2 sir: What if in the case the guy isn't working and is struggling to still make ends meet for himself and with all sincerity his intentions are true towards the woman. "Is it a bad thing that she gives her man sir and yes when things were very okay for the man he was doing everything possible for the lady" what if the man doesn't have anything to offer at the moment? Should she leave him cos things aren't okay at the moment? My point is "is it a bad thing if the lady gives to the man"?
Hmmm... there's that part of the bible that narrates how Christ told his disciples that " when I was thirsty, you gave me water. I was hungry, you fed me. When I was naked, you cloth me. When I had no roof, you gave me shelter. The disciples asked Christ that when was I they did all this to him? And he replied that in as much you do this to your neighbour you have done it to me" So I believe this should give you direction as to d answer u need to ur question.
Wow Thank you Pastor Sir🙏. It’s an eye opener for me too, especially when unaware or don’t really know what’s “going on” and can’t express emotions well🙌😂 Thank You Sir.
I need help on how to get out of my present relationship, she's not what I think she is 😞 just 3 weeks and I'm frustrated. And every time I try to tell her that I want the relationship anymore she will be crying. Please I need help
I'm a woman and i cry alot. What i'll say is, don't pay attention to the tears because it is how we deal with being hurt most times. However, you need to be frank with her and tell her that the two of you are not compartible. Tell her if you carry on, that relationshsip will not last. On the other hand, if you are still willing to, then tell her exactly what it is that you do not like about her. Tell her exactly what is causing the friction in your relationship etc. Sit her down and talk to her. She may not even be aware of her behaviour or characteristics that are making her less desirable to you.
Thank you Pastor and God bless. Please look unto God and how he created everything from the beginning Yes, Adam was working. If you are not married yet. Please watch out for those women who cannot save and like eating out often. Always wanting to show off and attend many events. Oh boy, you will be in trouble if you marry such.God did not create you to die before the appointed time. You need a woman who is well trained in the area of finances or else the one who is not will ruin you. I am married to a responsible man but one area God has really helped me is in the area of finances. That a man is married to you does not mean he is God. I try my best to save and I don't need to attend all the events. I want my husband to last so yes, I can boldly say that there are things I ask God for. He is my father first and God uses my husband too when He chooses to. For example, my phone was broken and trust me I just enjoy saving o because it helps me focus and makes me enjoy my prayer life with the Lord. I don't compete with anyone. To the glory of God me I like myself. Anyway I was still managing the phone and had planned to buy another one. My husband suprized me with a better one on my birthday. Guess what my people, I have not touched it yet. I will sha touch it by the end of the month. God is a good God. He is for us not against us and he blesses us but some of us are doing more than ourselves o, you know you cannot afford something, you will go and buy especially consumables on credit. When the creditors come for you, you will start doing ribiribi fasting. At this stage of my life, I just want to please the Holy Spirit. If you please Him all the time, He must surely deliver you. I remember a program I did, my advisor told me to take one of the courses in summer because I was taking too many credits. First, I get family, that summer no go work for my situation. Secondly, I will have to pay for that particular one but of course, what she said made sense and was attractive. I kept praying for direction, thinking and doing my research. During my quiet time in the morning. The Lord told me " dont let her reduce you, she thinks you are not capable of doing everything and that is only natural because that's how she'll advise other people. Anyway I told her I'd take all my courses, she was a little scared. Anyway, I have done all the exams and passed every single one of them. Baba God suprized me, me sef wonder. Anyway, Christian women, let Proverbs 31 guide you. Don't let worldly women guide you. Don't kill your husband because of money. Sometimes men leave their wives and go to a woman who is not as pretty or educated, sometimes house girl. Not in all cases but it's simply because that wife never understands, too high maintenance. Family must go to Disney every year. Why? If that will affect your finances. We went on vacation last 2018 thereabouts in fact, I told my husband to bring the vacation money then, let me save it but he didn't agree🤣🤣 maybe we will go this year or next, I am not in a hurry. Guess what the children have been growing very well and developing to the Glory of Jesus. We also take them to the park and other righteous places. I got my son to do piano lessons because he is older, will soon get my little daughter on it. Women listen to the Holy Spirit. What is the Lord's plan for your own family. Seek His face and spend more time with Him, I am telling you what works, something I have experienced. God must be first in your marriage. Before, I did not understand but looked to my husband for everything but now, even God blesses me too. If you continue to stress your husband, something bad will happen along the line. Pray for him. God is amazing. There are times I want to ask my husband for money and the Holy Spirit tells me to wait, not now and there are times he tells me to. Many people may not understand because it took a while to get to this level. I remember when I was in the University, if I spent money unnecessarily. I will just lose my peace, that was the Holy Spirit checking me. Just connect with the Holy Spirit. You will never be put to shame. Remember when Jesus died, look at the glory now.
Hi pastor Could you please advice on how to deal with long distance relationship ... And also how do I bring up the topic about the dreams my guy has ... I watched your video on how to frustrate your man and there was a part you said some women don't even know their men's dreams...so how can I bring up this topic ?
You can do all these 7 things and still frustrate your woman if you don’t have money. For the 2ist century woman.. all you need to have is 💰 money first.. then all these items will work
I disagree with you, well for me I don't ask men for money, maybe because I am working and comfortable, the best thing he can do for me is to respect me and be that man that knows what he want and not a push over
See, don't fall for that "no means yes" BS. That's how many of the guys get into trouble. She says stop, Stop. She says leave her, leave her. Guys are in deep trouble and under blackmail these days because of this.
Please keep it within context. He is not saying, go and rape a woman that’s saying know to you. As a woman, I understand what he means. A woman can want your attention but wants you to figure it out without being told explicitly. Again, I am speaking from the context of a married woman with her husband. So no one should take my comments out of context too.
@@beulahemma6176 I am not saying go and be dumb. I'm saying let your yes be yes and your no be no even as the Bible which he's a preacher of says. If one is not a manipulator, I don't see what stops your no being no and vice versa. Only manipulators support otherwise.
@@beulahemma6176 Men ain't mind readers... Women need to learn to communicate properly... Nobody gat time for such mind games... Let you yes be yes and your no be no
Sound advice for men that found the biblical virtuous woman. Social media and feminist movement have disorganized the natural order of relationship between the opposite sex. Most modern women will see a man as boring if he's reliable always. But for he that found a God fearing woman, lucky is he. He should be ready to go to any length to sacrifice anything possible for her.
U know as as woman i used to be labeled as being difficult now I understand that d difficult One n task is d man's ability to understand me better.... unfortunately we drifted apart n went our separate ways 😢Thnx Pastor
You must learn how to communicate your wants and needs, because most men can not decipher unless they are told, but if you keep quiet and expect them to just figure out then there may be problem. You need to communicate to help the men.
Hello Pastor, nice video; kudos! A suggestion though: I think this video ought to have been titled "How Not to Frustrate your Woman". It follows perfectly as an advice and not the other way round. Same goes for its sister video: "How Not to Frustrate your Man". God bless you!
honestly men has to treat women with brain .....if you love dem and do all lovable things they will definitely take it for granted.So we men have to regulate it by frustrating them by %40 and love them by %60 and thats how I have been handling my relationship with the love of my life and honestly is really FUN......i mean really really FUN. Mind you guys am not saying is right or wrong but handle your relationship the way you understand your woman or man with that understanding in your head and God helping us too we all we find Peace and Fun in our relationships.Thank u guys.................
@@ThatMega I did read it again and if you have a woman who takes any good thing you do for granted, you think the solution is to do things that frustrate her in combination with love ? Well, if you think that it is going to bring long-lasting success and happiness to BOTH of you, then I wish you all the best Mister.
@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 yes is fun like that sometimes men have to make them feel Jealous and also do some other stuff to make the relationship more fun😁😁. Don’t be a boring wife my Dear😉😜
Thank you Pastor Kingsley. All excellent and true points!
Lovely
Thank you for this. Have bemoaned the paucity of teachings directed at men. I have searched through your messages and it's obvious you are addressing both men and women. God bless you
1. Being Clueless about Women
2. Sending Mixed Signals
3. Not keeping in touch
4. Not Being open and expressive
5. No boundaries/Not being faithful
6. Not listening to her
7. Being insecure and Immature
Thank you for the list!
I hate that number 7 with passion, especially when it comes up as stupid, arrogant, chauvinistic, misogynistic, superiority complex crap. Man, I hate it!
Thank you for this.
God bless you
Very insightful message. Thank you sir
1. Mixed signals are by far the worst 😑
2. Lack of boundaries 😔
# Women talk for affection 💕
# Men talk for information (?)
Good one 👍💯🙌
More blessings sir
No 1, 2 and 4 is where most of us need help. May God help us.
Thank you Sir
Thank your pst K God bless you.
I agree with you Sir
Thank you Pastor. You are a blessing to your generations and the answer to many.
Thank you sir. You have been a blessing to my dating life.
He has help me alot also
In America dating and courting is different, trust that u r a Christian and courting. Grace n peace and happy that Pastor Kingsley is helping 🙌 u
As in!! Mine is still non-existent, but still he’s blessing it!! 💃🏽💃🏽🙏🏽. Thank God
You have to love her to submission and cooperation.
Women love this.
And the fact of the matter is she sent me this without sending how to frustrate your man🤣🤣☺️🤗
Loooool
You actually don't need that one that much
If he is doing poorly in majority of these things in the relationship despite talking about it countless times,should we break up?
My dear run… they’re people who would do better and love you the way you deserve
God bless you sir. This is exactly 100% what I'm going through in my 4 year relationship. 😓😓😓 I have complained so much and tried to talk to the young man in question but he has refused to change. Instead, he always says that I'm complaining.
I quite understand you. But I think you should change the approach in which you communicate these issues to him. Maybe just download this teaching and the other he taught about men, then play them often when he's around. Remember timing is also of essence. I wish you the best
Dear wify am very ok with you being richer than me ... thank you papa this was good
...so this means you are also rich and she is richER 🙂 Not a case of she being your sugar mummy or of you being idle and unproductive financially in the marriage ☝️
@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 I'm already her sugar daddy oo
@@itaisaiah7264 😂😂😂 Well I hope you have married her properly so that your investment will not be lost.
😂😂
😂😂🤣🤣
WELL SPOKEN BRO BLESS YOU
Me relating to the scenarios and stopping the video for some seconds to clap and laugh and shout to the air 'You got it!!!' (a mixture of frustration at men and yet relief that Pst K gets it) 😂😂
Something I've learnt is teaching one another how to understand one another. The example Pst gave on the woman telling the man 'leave me' but not meaning it literally. If they talk about it later, the man learns what to do another time. The woman also learns to be more cautious of what she's saying, cus she understands more of how he thinks.
🔥bless you sir
Some men really don't know all thede
Hello pastor Kingsley am from Cameroon a big fan of yours and i will like to have 52tips for 52 weeks and the A-Z of marriage. i dont know if its already available in Cameroon.
You have said it all....
Powerfully put together sir...kudos.
All the way from Cameroon thanks a great deal man of God.
Yes sir , tell them. Thank you 🙏🏼 more grace sir
From your last statement in point 2 sir: What if in the case the guy isn't working and is struggling to still make ends meet for himself and with all sincerity his intentions are true towards the woman. "Is it a bad thing that she gives her man sir and yes when things were very okay for the man he was doing everything possible for the lady" what if the man doesn't have anything to offer at the moment? Should she leave him cos things aren't okay at the moment?
My point is "is it a bad thing if the lady gives to the man"?
Hmmm... there's that part of the bible that narrates how Christ told his disciples that " when I was thirsty, you gave me water. I was hungry, you fed me. When I was naked, you cloth me. When I had no roof, you gave me shelter. The disciples asked Christ that when was I they did all this to him? And he replied that in as much you do this to your neighbour you have done it to me"
So I believe this should give you direction as to d answer u need to ur question.
This is a powerful message sir and a lot of men are doing these seven things thank you sir.
Am blessed. Thank you sir😍
Wow this amazing. Thank you Pastor K
Thanks for telling me this things
Thanks Sir. God bless.
Wow Thank you Pastor Sir🙏. It’s an eye opener for me too, especially when unaware or don’t really know what’s “going on” and can’t express emotions well🙌😂 Thank You Sir.
Exactly sometimes you don’t even know where you’re
Guilty as charged sir. Thanks for this PK
The first point got me thinking the title of the video is a misnomer.
I feel it should be how YOU frustrate your woman.
Same thing
You are the best ever thank you
I love the wisdom you always share sir.
More wisdom pastor....
Only God knows what women want. One should just pray not to marry a monster.
I love the topic
Indeed a nice counseling, God bless you Sir for the good job 🙏
God bless you sir, like you nailed this so well. I'm just blessed always listening to you. Thank you Sir.
Thanks pastor, this is an eye opener
I need help on how to get out of my present relationship, she's not what I think she is 😞 just 3 weeks and I'm frustrated. And every time I try to tell her that I want the relationship anymore she will be crying. Please I need help
Tell her why, speak up ur. Mind.
I'm a woman and i cry alot. What i'll say is, don't pay attention to the tears because it is how we deal with being hurt most times. However, you need to be frank with her and tell her that the two of you are not compartible. Tell her if you carry on, that relationshsip will not last. On the other hand, if you are still willing to, then tell her exactly what it is that you do not like about her. Tell her exactly what is causing the friction in your relationship etc. Sit her down and talk to her. She may not even be aware of her behaviour or characteristics that are making her less desirable to you.
@@queenp6039 thank you
@@bluebird4815 going to give the two options a trial
But what women nowadays are stressing to us men is have money, money, money.
They don't stress these things to us, pastor.
Thank you Pastor and God bless. Please look unto God and how he created everything from the beginning Yes, Adam was working. If you are not married yet. Please watch out for those women who cannot save and like eating out often. Always wanting to show off and attend many events. Oh boy, you will be in trouble if you marry such.God did not create you to die before the appointed time. You need a woman who is well trained in the area of finances or else the one who is not will ruin you.
I am married to a responsible man but one area God has really helped me is in the area of finances. That a man is married to you does not mean he is God. I try my best to save and I don't need to attend all the events. I want my husband to last so yes, I can boldly say that there are things I ask God for. He is my father first and God uses my husband too when He chooses to. For example, my phone was broken and trust me I just enjoy saving o because it helps me focus and makes me enjoy my prayer life with the Lord. I don't compete with anyone. To the glory of God me I like myself. Anyway I was still managing the phone and had planned to buy another one. My husband suprized me with a better one on my birthday. Guess what my people, I have not touched it yet. I will sha touch it by the end of the month. God is a good God. He is for us not against us and he blesses us but some of us are doing more than ourselves o, you know you cannot afford something, you will go and buy especially consumables on credit. When the creditors come for you, you will start doing ribiribi fasting. At this stage of my life, I just want to please the Holy Spirit. If you please Him all the time, He must surely deliver you. I remember a program I did, my advisor told me to take one of the courses in summer because I was taking too many credits. First, I get family, that summer no go work for my situation. Secondly, I will have to pay for that particular one but of course, what she said made sense and was attractive. I kept praying for direction, thinking and doing my research. During my quiet time in the morning. The Lord told me " dont let her reduce you, she thinks you are not capable of doing everything and that is only natural because that's how she'll advise other people. Anyway I told her I'd take all my courses, she was a little scared. Anyway, I have done all the exams and passed every single one of them. Baba God suprized me, me sef wonder.
Anyway, Christian women, let Proverbs 31 guide you. Don't let worldly women guide you. Don't kill your husband because of money. Sometimes men leave their wives and go to a woman who is not as pretty or educated, sometimes house girl. Not in all cases but it's simply because that wife never understands, too high maintenance. Family must go to Disney every year. Why? If that will affect your finances. We went on vacation last 2018 thereabouts in fact, I told my husband to bring the vacation money then, let me save it but he didn't agree🤣🤣 maybe we will go this year or next, I am not in a hurry. Guess what the children have been growing very well and developing to the Glory of Jesus. We also take them to the park and other righteous places. I got my son to do piano lessons because he is older, will soon get my little daughter on it. Women listen to the Holy Spirit. What is the Lord's plan for your own family. Seek His face and spend more time with Him, I am telling you what works, something I have experienced. God must be first in your marriage. Before, I did not understand but looked to my husband for everything but now, even God blesses me too. If you continue to stress your husband, something bad will happen along the line. Pray for him. God is amazing. There are times I want to ask my husband for money and the Holy Spirit tells me to wait, not now and there are times he tells me to. Many people may not understand because it took a while to get to this level. I remember when I was in the University, if I spent money unnecessarily. I will just lose my peace, that was the Holy Spirit checking me. Just connect with the Holy Spirit. You will never be put to shame. Remember when Jesus died, look at the glory now.
Pastor you have said all!
Gonna try these today
Women love it when you say this to her.
I love you.
I miss you.
I need you.
Thanks, Pastor K.
🤬
God bless u sir
Hi pastor
Could you please advice on how to deal with long distance relationship ...
And also how do I bring up the topic about the dreams my guy has ... I watched your video on how to frustrate your man and there was a part you said some women don't even know their men's dreams...so how can I bring up this topic ?
On point 👉
Thank you, Pastor K
Thank you so much pastor for this
You can do all these 7 things and still frustrate your woman if you don’t have money. For the 2ist century woman.. all you need to have is 💰 money first.. then all these items will work
It is assumed that you have money 💰🤑 as a man. A normal man should have money at least 1k
You sef...don't you feel fraustrated when you dont have money??? . Financial security is undebatable abeg
I disagree with you, well for me I don't ask men for money, maybe because I am working and comfortable, the best thing he can do for me is to respect me and be that man that knows what he want and not a push over
@@sarhaphilcoxonuoha4849 ok
@@michaeldavid8564 😀😁😀😁
Nicely
Spot on Sir. Thank you.
Valuabe Gems!!!
I am really blessed thank you sir for taking your time to this video with us.
See, don't fall for that "no means yes" BS. That's how many of the guys get into trouble.
She says stop, Stop.
She says leave her, leave her.
Guys are in deep trouble and under blackmail these days because of this.
Please keep it within context. He is not saying, go and rape a woman that’s saying know to you.
As a woman, I understand what he means. A woman can want your attention but wants you to figure it out without being told explicitly. Again, I am speaking from the context of a married woman with her husband. So no one should take my comments out of context too.
@@beulahemma6176 I am not saying go and be dumb. I'm saying let your yes be yes and your no be no even as the Bible which he's a preacher of says.
If one is not a manipulator, I don't see what stops your no being no and vice versa.
Only manipulators support otherwise.
@@beulahemma6176 Men ain't mind readers... Women need to learn to communicate properly... Nobody gat time for such mind games... Let you yes be yes and your no be no
Sound advice for men that found the biblical virtuous woman. Social media and feminist movement have disorganized the natural order of relationship between the opposite sex. Most modern women will see a man as boring if he's reliable always. But for he that found a God fearing woman, lucky is he. He should be ready to go to any length to sacrifice anything possible for her.
Women process things differently....👌👌💓❤💓❤🤝👏💃
Haaa Pastor K thanks oooooo you have been coming thru for me and my babe oooo chaiiii I thought I knew these things lol
God bless you so much sir.
Mehn this keep in touch get me raw ooo
Pls how do I share this on my WHATSAPP
Hi, simply copy and paste the video link on your selected WhatsApp. Here it is: ua-cam.com/video/ofA_0EwRjdw/v-deo.html
How I wish all men will know this things
Ur talking about my relationship
What if he's not calling
Sir thanks for the word pls I cannot find the 2peter 3:7 pls help me which ur mention in 2:46 seconds pls help me to find the verse
Just found it it 1 Peter 3:7
Nice teaching sir
2:40 It's 1st Peter, not 2nd.
I really need your help, I'm frustrated already,I feel like commiting suicide I am serious about it
More blessing sir and I enjoyed your previous programme in Pastor Ntai Ntai church few days ago😊😊😊
woow i love this....
Good,so are you ready to try again....
This time with me 🙂☺️😜
U know as as woman i used to be labeled as being difficult now I understand that d difficult One n task is d man's ability to understand me better.... unfortunately we drifted apart n went our separate ways 😢Thnx Pastor
You must learn how to communicate your wants and needs, because most men can not decipher unless they are told, but if you keep quiet and expect them to just figure out then there may be problem. You need to communicate to help the men.
How can I get your number Sir? I'm amazed by your teachings.
Hello Pastor, nice video; kudos! A suggestion though: I think this video ought to have been titled "How Not to Frustrate your Woman". It follows perfectly as an advice and not the other way round. Same goes for its sister video: "How Not to Frustrate your Man". God bless you!
...that hair needs trimming🙈🙈🙈💓❤🤝👏
Wahala owa ooo! Hehehe 😊
My pastor needs to trim down a bit 😩
Weight watcher.. focus on the message
👏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾
honestly men has to treat women with brain .....if you love dem and do all lovable things they will definitely take it for granted.So we men have to regulate it by frustrating them by %40 and love them by %60 and thats how I have been handling my relationship with the love of my life and honestly is really FUN......i mean really really FUN.
Mind you guys am not saying is right or wrong but handle your relationship the way you understand your woman or man with that understanding in your head and God helping us too we all we find Peace and Fun in our relationships.Thank u guys.................
Gbamsolutely my brother
Did u think Pastor is advising men to frustrate their women ? 🤔
@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 Read again again you will understand my comment madam.
@@ThatMega I did read it again and if you have a woman who takes any good thing you do for granted, you think the solution is to do things that frustrate her in combination with love ? Well, if you think that it is going to bring long-lasting success and happiness to BOTH of you, then I wish you all the best Mister.
@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 yes is fun like that sometimes men have to make them feel
Jealous and also do some other stuff to make the relationship more fun😁😁.
Don’t be a boring wife my Dear😉😜
Thank you sir
Thank you Pastor
God bless you sir
I really need your help, I'm frustrated already,I feel like commiting suicide I am serious about it
Can we chat on WhatsApp?
What's fraustrating you??
Please don’t, it’s never the solution. Pray and speak up, please talk to people that can help you out. Suicide is never the answer🙏🏽🙏🏽