DBT Skills: Mindfulness and Radical Acceptance
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- Опубліковано 6 лип 2024
- Acceptance is an important part of mindfulness based cognitive therapy (MBCT), and "radical acceptance" is one of the distress tolerance skills in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). Learn the difference between acceptance and resignation, and how accepting distressing thoughts, feelings, physical sensations, and situations and take away some of their power and make them more manageable. From my Online MBCT and MBSR course, available for free at www.mbctmbsronline.com/mbct.html.
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For a great workbook about DBT skills including radical acceptance, I recommend The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook by Matthew McKay, Jeffrey Wood and Jeffrey Brantley www.amazon.com/Dialectical-Be...
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The difference between acceptance and resignation is a very important one when trying to move through or solve a challenging problem. Resignation leads to feelings of hopelessness and often, when we resign, we stop looking for solutions. New solutions may present themselves but from a state of resignation we may not even notice them. Acceptance on the other hand, we feel begin to feel better about the situation. Acceptance doesn't mean the situation can never improve or that we should even stop trying. Acceptance allows us to feel a lot better right now and then we can keep an eye out for solutions, continue to make incremental progress but with less agitation, desperation, anger and other negative emotions. Just my .05 cents on the topic, Thank you for another great video!
Thanks for that great explanation. Acceptance seems to be one of the most difficult concepts for people to wrap their heads around and I get lots of questions about it, so I'll pin your comment and hope it helps clarify things. I found the DBT workbook by someone with a name similar to yours very helpful when I first started learning about DBT. I'll post a link here and in the description for anyone who wants to check it out www.amazon.com/Dialectical-Behavior-Therapy-Skills-Workbook/dp/1572245131
I almost see it as failure to see what we can control. Instead of accepting what they can't control they "accept" that they can't control anythjng.
Thank you for clarifying.
It sucks that I have to accept that the woman I love won’t love because she’s already in love with another woman. I don’t want to hurt them. But it hurts so much seeing them happy while I’m here in silence feeling so empty inside.
Very helpful, thank you. I was recommended this by a friend on a borderline personality disorder forum. It’s difficult for me to regulate anger and unpleasant thoughts about myself and others. DBT is very helpful with reshaping my mindset and coping with this. Thank you.
❤❤ wonderful I love this section 2:07 the explanation between acceptance and resignation. I have anxiety and depression. The anxiety feeds the depression. I can see that shifting my perspective to acceptance would lighten my depression . Thank you ❤
So important!! Thanks for sharing!!
This is a great concept I have used within my treatments using ACT. Really helps my patients perceive a sense of control - that is a choice.
very enlightening 🥹 thank you for sharing. God bless you🙏❤️
I just discovered your channel last night. this is going to help me. Thank you.
I'm so glad you found it and are finding it helpful!
I appreciate your channel! Love the simplicity and content. I would like to change.
Thank you. Very clear and helpful.
All my life I’ve fought to control the difficult situations that happen. It has caused me to lash out at people. Learning acceptance is hard for me but I’m trying hard to change.
Thank you for posting
Thank you for making these short and useful videos.
Glad you like them.
I just want to say thank you. I actually understood this. It was more informative.
Thanks
I’m resigned because there is no getting better with this. I have lost the hope that it could be better someday with them
This is really helpful. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Great video ! Thank you
Glad you liked it!
Very informative, thank you .
This pandemic is deteriorating my mental health. Thank you for this!!!
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Of all the dbt skills this one has been the most difficult. Control and letting go of it is scary
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Love the short concise material!
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Where is the 'love' button 'cause I don't think 'like' is going to cut it! These videos really resonate with me, the most helpful series I've come across so far in all my years of searching. Thank you hardly seems adequate. But thank you!!
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your videos are good, helpful and recorded at a very low level. Can you turn the volume up, please?
I can't do anything about the levels in my old videos that I made without realizing how quiet they are on some devices, but the levels on my more recent videos are much higher.
GREAT INFO but in a higher volume would be amazing
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Very helpful man :)
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What if there is a loud neighbour intentionally making noise to make you feel disturbed and then happy about something that can disturb me? Should I accept that too or report them?
Acceptance means accepting things outside of your control. In the situation you describe, in the moments when the noise is disturbing you and you can't make it immediately go away, that is what is outside of your control. If you are able to accept there is noise present (rather than getting annoyed, enraged, upset etc by it), the noise will be easier to bear than if you add an emotional reaction on top of it.
But this situation is not completely outside of your control. You have the ability to do something to make the situation better by reporting the noise in order to get it to stop. So you can both accept the presence of the noise when it is there, which will make your experience of the noise less unpleasant in that moment, while taking action to make it less likely you experience this disturbance in the future.
That's why we talk about acceptance being different from resignation. You can accept what your experience is in this moment without resigning yourself to things never being different, and so both accept whatever is happening in the moment, while doing whatever you're able to make it better in the future.
@@SelfHelpToons I think that this is a really compassionate and helpful answer. Thank you
it feels as though resignation and acceptance are the same though - even with the explanation there isn't much difference. Accepting things is resigning yourself to the state of the world and not trying, which is why it's so difficult to wrap my head around.
I understand soooo much. I feel ljke I don't understand acceptance whatsoever..
Radically accepting what is, lessens the impact of the trigger, allowing a more positive space to take its place, which can lead to being in a better position to affect positive change (or accepting the limits of the change that is possible). This is what I am getting out of it.
Accepting doesnt mean not trying, resignation is acceptance without trying and acceptance means that you accept without judgement. watch his video on mindfulness skills, it goes into detail about nonjudgemental observation which is required for acceptance. resignation = "ugh. what's the point? life is terrible, so why even try?" acceptance = "oh well. it is what it is. what are we gonna do about it now?"
Their the opposite side of the same coin in my mind. Acceptance is like the positive outlook for me like I accept this is my condition but it I can live with this I have been living with this and I can be ok with this. To me resignation is like the negative side your giving up but with a sense of hopelessness and maybe depression, feeling sorry for yourself more like giving up.
It seems like acceptance and resignation is the same thing. Acceptance kills all motivation to change, which makes the situation more hopeless, which in practice means resignation. An acceptance of a hopeless situation.
You're describing resignation. Acceptance is much different. Acceptance means recognizing and acknowledging our thoughts, feelings, and the reality of our circumstances. It's an active decision to engage with our experiences in a non-judgmental way, accepting what we can't change and then choosing how to respond.
On the other hand, resignation is a more passive response. It's like throwing in the towel, often accompanied by a feeling of giving up or hopelessness. Resignation leads to disengagement, where we might stop trying to understand or cope with challenging emotions or situations.
Acceptance involves a proactive approach, promoting adaptive coping mechanisms and a willingness to engage with difficult thoughts, emotions and situations in order to change what we can change. Resignation leads to a more passive and defeatist attitude, where we often don't see any point in even trying to change.
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In what way?