This is so, so sad. We just lost my beloved Momma (-in-Law) to dementia in January 2021. I stayed with the family after my husband died 12 years ago, because it was where I belonged. My Dad and Sister (-in-Law) got creative to keep her safe. Alarms on the doors and windows that would chime to the house and their phones when they opened or closed, video cameras to keep an eye on things and someone there 24/7 to make sure she was safe. I miss you Momma Cat. You were the best mother-in-law anyone could hope for! I hope you and your son, my Eli, are together again. Our family hasn't been the same without you two.
Dementia is hard to deal with for everyone. My grandmother kept calling the police about home intruders. She kept claiming that children were living in her attic and kept crawling down the wires and eating here cookies. The chief of police actually crawled up into her attic to show no one was there. That was when she had to be moved to an assisted living home. Thank you for trying to keep the peace with the fence work.
When i locked the gaits my dad climbed over our 6 foot fence to get to the pub after my Mum died. He did not drink but his grief was overpowering him. He must have been so lonely and sad. Dementia is a heartbreaking disease.
*@Robyn - I need to share something important. Many people thought my late father had dementia. Turns out he had a undiagnosed urinary tract infection causing delirium. Please consider having your father checked out. I regret that I was not able to understand what was going on until it was too late. Now I live with guilt and miss my father who always was there to help me.*
We had a somewhat similar dilemma with my mom. When she sees herself in the mirrored slider doors, she thinks it is an uninvited person in her room that won’t speak to her. It makes her angry. We had to turn the mirrored doors back side out. Problem solved. The uninvited person left.
Merry Walsh, when my friend saw herself in any reflective surface you could see and hear her anger, she hated that person looking back at her, it's one of the worst illnesses imaginable.
My husband's mother was first diagnosed as paranoid schizophrenic.. before alzheimer's.. She would wander the neighborhood, pulling things out of people's trash, and yard.. swearing it was hers, and they must have stolen it. Luckily, shed lived in that neighborhood for over 40 yrs.. and people were sympathetic..
Merry, the exact same thing happened with my mother. I had to turn the mirrors around. She didn’t get angry though, she had conversations with her image. She told me once I was having sex with some man, the 3 of us in the same bed, no, she wasn’t a participant. What could I do I asked her if was good looking! She always seemed to have a sense of humor about it.
@@michdoug1 Wow 😮. My mom too, can still laugh at a joke. I believe she has Lewy Body Dementia. A key aspect is not being able to recognize faces, even though you can remember relationships. Hey fence guys, sorry we are running away from fence topic here 😄
My grandmother had dementia and my aunt tried to keep her at home for as long as possible. It finally got to the point that grandma needed to move to one of those assisted living places. At one point, the folks who worked there told my aunt that grandma and some of her fellow patients had been “busted”: they were standing in a circle in the entry way, discussing some rather extreme plans for a jailbreak. “You knock out the receptionist, you hotwire a car, etc.”. My grandmother, the gangster.
I worked as a CNA at a Life Care Facility for 29 years. We had to hide one lady’s shoes after she was found at the edge of a nearby busy highway one time.
@@deanwilliams8857 I don’t think anyone was trying to be mean but I think sometimes it’s best to make light especially if you’ve dealt with dementia on any level. I know I’ve dealt with it and my family and it’s heartbreaking so anytime you can find a little humor it helps you get through😊
Both my great grandfather who lived to 93 and my great great uncle who lived to 92 escaped assisted living homes. My grandpa fought the 2 cops that found him and nearly overpowered them. My uncle was found a few miles away in a wheelchair and when the cops asked where he thought he was going he just replied “Texas”. This was all in Kentucky
@@timothyantoine5321 And you are a jerk for bringing up a stupid political meme in an unrelated and serious topic, about an illness that can happen to anyone. It's people like you who give your leader a bad name, when his followers are such nasty idiots. You should be ashamed of yourself.
Your correct it can happen to anyone , I experienced it with my oldest brother . It's hard to watch , the Irony is you could see it with Biden and 80,000,000 people voted for him anyway . If you don't see the humor in that your to sensitive . It's a fact of life and life is part comedy .
Good idea, can't reason with them, brain cells are dead. once it's up he may not even realize anything is different. Sad but that's way it is, smart daughter save herself & neighbors a lot of grief!
We still loved our grandma who had dementia which only affected our family ,very difficult to deal with to the end. It's those in POWER and have powerful friends that can affect the lives of millions are the scary ones!!!
I have worked with Alzheimers and other types of dementia individuals for many years. They are very inventive, strong and can become combative instantly both physically and verbally. They imagine things happening that have not etc. This family is trying their best to allow this person to remanin at home as long as possible for which they deserve a medal. It is a difficult situation.Until you have experienced it you really have no idea. and should refrain from negative comments. You have to find the lighter side of situations to maintain sanity at times. Thank you for going above and beyond in assisting this family in solvng their delima.
I hope the modification worked for the client. Elderly people are doggedly determined and like toddlers, have all the time in the world to figure things out, even with dementia. At the age of 86 my grandmother did not ever have dementia, but in the process of house sitting for a friend who was on vacation, managed to lock herself out of the front side of the house. She knew her friend had a spare key hidden in the backyard, but the gate was locked, so she climbed the fence, fell into the backyard and shattered an ankle... Laid in the yard for over an hour shouting in the summer AZ heat (about 115 degrees F) until someone came to help. The ankle was shattered so bad the Drs wanted to amputate. She wouldn't let them... It healed up surprisingly well after some surgery. A few months later she was back walking and wearing heels...! Ten years later at the age of 95 1/2, while my Dad was in the hospital, she convinced people at church to help her get a car, got T-boned by a large truck on the driver side... Managed to get herself out of the mangled vehicle and was waiting on the side of the road when EMS showed up.. They said the car was so badly damaged on the driver side they would have not been able to extract her from that side even with Jaws of Life. At the hospital, with a 3rd degree AC separated shoulder and a small brain bleed, she fought off 5 security guards and two nurses, until my cousins showed up during the fight and she played nice til they left. Because she bit one of the nurses during the fight they put her in restraints. She managed to get one of the wrist restraints off with her teeth and they had to restrain her head too. 5ft 3in tall...only 40% heart function (CHF), a pacemaker, diabetic, barely able to walk, nearly deaf, hardly able to see... mean as a snake and could still fight like a demon! Never, Ever. underestimate what the elderly are capable of, even if they do have dementia!
Being seemingly immune to pain actually is a dementia symptom. My mother worked as a nurse before running a few care homes and she's known dementia patients to walk on a broken hip.
She also was uncooperative abd made everything twice as hard. It was the most difficult time of my life. There are some things adult children should not have to see or do.
My dad had to go into a care home because of dementia he kept climbing the fence even trees to escape but he was a prisoner of war WW2 In Germany, thought he was back in the camp good on him though still had the spirit for freedom !
My dad didn't know who we were but he figured out the door security code and escaped on a freezing day and decided to direct traffic in a busy intersection.
@@debralpateart8862 my Pop did the same thing. He watched people coming and going from the nursing home and worked out the door code. He was outa there, god love him.
I work at nursing homes with a lot of dementia patients, and we have residents who will go into other people's rooms. One way to prevent this from happening is we cover the door with black paper, but, I watched a video recently on should I paint my fence black, and it turned out real nice. It made the yard appear bigger, and brought out the green plants in front of the fence.
It can be tough when trying to outsmart dementia. Put locks on my fridge and dad started playing with the stove. Secured the stove and he started messing with kitchen knives. Blocked off the kitchen and he started flushing the toilet and leaving the sink on.
W.S. Soap Co., you learned that you can not outsmart dementia, you can only adapt to it. I know from experience. It can have it's funny moments but it can also be heartbreaking. Best regards to you and your dad if he's still with you.
Yah, me too. There's a lot of that going around. If I knew I'd last this long maybe I would have taken better care of myself. Nah, who am I kidding, wouldn't have done anything different. 😎
My dear husband had dementia. He climbed through windows, over gates, over fences, just to get away, because he wanted to go back to the farm where he grew up. The farm was about 1300 kilometers from where we lived at that time. I had to lock all the doors and kept the keys in my pocket. That wall is lovely!. Hopefully, the old father would leave the neighbours alone now.
Yakity Sax? Trust me, it will get you a copyright strike or claim so fast it will make your head spin, trust me, I know from experience. But yeah, it would be perfect.
This is hilarious! Now every time I see my son with his hat turned around backwards I'm gonna think "Yep, he's quicker than I am." Bwahaha!!! Also, you have the sweetest smile♡
My neighbor who has only lived in this house next door to me for about 18 months came over with an envelope and taped it to my front door. As I began reading the letter I slowly become to realize that this was not a letter of infatuation with me stating that she was deeply in love with me and we should run off from our significant others and small children Andy lopes somewhere in Cancun Mexico.. it was a letter demanding, not asking but demanding that I for half of the fencing cost that she claims she had to pay for in the price of buying the house next to us. I wrote her the kindest and most gentle letter that I could muster up and hold her to simply get f***** and do not come speak to me ever again in life. If your children are in need or you are in danger holler and I will be there but other than that please leave me alone. I did not buy a house to be neighborly to anyone.
It soles the problem of an aging fence. Over time, the pickets shrink and the spaces are enough for a clear view. I'd love to have mini slats to cover the cracks.
I'd get rid of the bricks that are lying around in the garden as well, before the owner falls over them, tries to build something or get frustrated (which happens a lot with dementia due to the nature of the disease) and throws them somewhere.
The other women at my mother’s memory care facility were calling her the most vile names. I convinced my mother that the medication the doctors were suggesting would make them stop. Mom took the pills and the other ladies quit doing it. The marvels of modern medicine.
We have a gentleman in our neighborhood that suffers from dementia. Every once in a while he shows up at my home. Of course this to has be when I'm trying to do home improvement or chores. Sometimes he's just kind of curious and sometimes a little hostile. What seems to help is I'll stop and start talking with him get him on my porch and let him sit and talk about whatever he wants. Even get us some drinks, coffee or iced tea. Usually after about 20-30 his family will show up. On a couple of occasions they have come over looking for him, when he wasn't here. Can't imagine what they're going through. Last year they had to put him in a nursing home.
It gets off of the fence or it gets the hose again. Nah, in all seriousness dementia sucks!! My mom had it and didn’t know who I was. She was angry and confused. It robbed her of her wonderful personality. She got into it with her neighbors too.
Good job and good idea. Alot to have to go through. I give them alot of credit for trying to keep their lived one home, and safe as well. It’s a hard thing to deal with. Hope it worked!
May 2021 a story made the news where an elderly couple with dementia escaped their assisted living facility. The husband was a code-breaking specialist in World War II. He listened carefully as people went in and out of the facility and punched numbers into the electronic keypad. He figured out the number sequence and they escaped. They were returned safe. But never underestimate Old People.
Dementia and Alzheimer’s are such sad diseases. They can make a normally calm, rational person become irrational, and mean. Extremely scary and frustrating for the person and their loved ones. I hope that you never have anyone you love destroyed by this disease.
My Dad was very mechanical and could fix anything. When he got demenia he started taking everything apart and throwing the pieces all over so you couldn't find them. He'd bend the parts, pull the springs apart. Then he'd swear he didn't do it. Determined doesn't even come close to describing their behavior.
May God bless everyone trying to do right by their loved one with dementia. (Gram had it- what a long, sad, (exhausting!) way to go! My only concern about the fence is if bees or hornets discover the space. Well, I suppose that would be further deterrent regarding climbing!
It's such a sad disease. I'm sure whoever is taking care of the poor gentleman appreciates this too. There's a limit to how much strange behavior a non involved person can tolerate. Around here the Alzheimers homes have non intrusive security like door sensors and enclosed courtyards to protect these people.
I was thinking/hoping you would show the end results of your work this is something I and I’m sure other people would like to have done because it just gives a more aesthetically pleasing finished look
My husband just completed that project on a big section of our old fence.. There's a determined young bear close by, that pulls the boards loose and strolls thru the yard and knocks a few loose on the other fence to get out.. A couple months ago, he surprised my 12 year old dog and ripped half his ear off before my husband clocked him with a 2x4.. A couple days later he was back at it with a few boards torn off in a different section.. So, adding new boards, was our solution too . But damn, lumber prices are crazy this year!
Dementia is a hell of a thing. My Grandma would see her first husband my Dads Father outside when she looked out the windows. He passed away 50 years ago.
@@lizardman1303 that is actually against building code in my area, it creates a void of no sunlight and the moisture rots the fence away from not being able to dry properly from the inside out.
We started getting 'cookies' on a plate left our front porch several years ago on a holiday weekend. My wife found the first plate, kinda looked like oatmeal cookies but it had rained and they weren't covered so she tossed them. It happened again the next day and I was the one that found them, same 4-5 oatmeal-looking cookies uncovered on a plate. After looking at them and puzzling about it, we realized they weren't even cookies but little cookie sized piles of kitty litter. We honestly thought someone was messing with us, we could not figure it out. Then 2 days later our next door neighbor came to us, apparently they had brought their elderly mother home for the holidays from the nursing home, and she had been getting up early in the morning to make "cookies" to bring to all of her new neighbors, and was using whatever ingredients she happened to grab. It was sweet and kind of heartbreaking at the same time.
Our Dad had dementia and decided the neighbor had built her rose garden on our side of the property line. We caught him out there with his walker tearing up the stone border more than once. Hope this works for them. Dementia sucks
Loved the fast motion of your video... So funny watching you both walk back and forth from the street.... And the Music was Fun too.... Great Video....I enjoyed your funny commentary about the hats.... Funny....!!😊
My elderly neighbors across the ally directly behind me both passed away last year. An investor bought the house and turned it into rental property. I now have a party (crack) house to deal with. Every lowlife in town is now hanging around back there. I severally need a fence right now! But the price of lumber is holding it back right now.
Tom - Unfortunately, fences don't always help. Won't stop someone from climbing over either if they really want to. Victim of 10-yr nightmare with multiple convicted felon, drug dealer, psychopath, etc. Property vandalized and stolen in spite of a fence. I feel your pain.
Maybe try a tall chain link fence, instead of lumber? And add some climbing plants, maybe thorny ones? Lol, I can imagine how unpleasant that would be to climb.
By far the best job I ever got to do: a man hired me to use the existing shutter mounting screw holes to run fishing line in a diamond pattern over two windows in the back yard. He also had us plans the bush/vine version of bougainvillea three rows deep and weave them into the fishing line, blocking the windows. Turns out his daughter just turned 15 and wanted flowers planted outside her window for her birthday...
Well. Been there done that. My grandmother had dementia and lived with us. Great fence idea. We put gadgets the top of our doors. Out side the screen door. And other solutions. Finally a nursing home. She escaped several times. Going home to her farm. Which was in Arkansas. This is California. You know it is what it is.
Dementia is a horrible, nightmarish disease. My heart goes out to that family. It must be hellish on a daily basis. The person with dementia is suffering, it’s not their fault. How painful. I have witnessed firsthand those episodes. It’s truly heartbreaking as nothing will soothe or calm them.
I do hope this helped. As someone else noted, peoplewith dementia can be creative. You have never understood the true meaning of thinking outside the box until you have dealt with them. I do feel sorry for him, his family and the neighbours. It's hard enough for the family without him having become fixated on the neighbours. If he is angry with them it can really have serious consequences for both sides. I totally understand the neighbours as well. It is frightening to deal with someone with dementia even when you know they can't help themselves. As someone else said, there is only so much a person can 'buy in' to this man's care. Sad.
Liked you comment about the baseball cap! Wearing a cap backwards was started years ago by a very young 19 yr old Ken Griffey Jr in 1989. Nothing sillier than anyone over 21 yrs old wearing a baseball cap backwards. Glad to see you know how to correctly wear your cap - speed is not as important as not looking silly. Nice job BTW.
No kidding. A coworker of mine is acting as the contractor on the build of his house. He ordered 2 x 4s and they were over $8 each compared to $2.50 a year ago. I know nothing about construction or lumber but that sounded expensive.
The dog at the end! 🤣🤣🤣 My momma was summoned to court when we were kids, she took us with her. The Judge called her name and said, "Dog at large!" Gales of laughter in the courtroom...we we sitting in school uniforms. 🤣 Our collie labrador had a habit of climbing the fence and running the streets while we were away every day. My momma didn't hire a fence guy, she got rid of George. 😰
I think that while doing these videos, you are creating a wealth of valuable information and experience for journeymen and apprentices can learn from and be thought to at trade college. I seriously wish the government would grant money for programs to video these projects and qualifying students can access them online. A master electrician who taught at a trade school in Denver had students come to my house to observe, but that training opportunity is gone forever. A videotape should be available to any student for future generations
Really appreciate your comment. We started our channel for individuals in the construction field. Yes a DIY’er will benefit from our videos but its aimed for the guys and girls in the field. From tool reviews to certain parts of a job that methods vary from contractor to contractor we want to discuss. Most of all what we’re heading into is client interaction in our videos. Dealing with clients and other contractors is something we really want to start adding through out our videos. I know our videos are a little un orthodox but that’s who we are. 👍👍👍
Nice job. Unique situation. Doing a good deed. Might have to grease the fence slats to keep him from climbing. But, keeping that grass from growing between the “two fences” might be a challenge. Real nice deck.
Wow I swear my neighbor is suffering from dementia or something similar, as she is well into her 80’s and she is violent and attacking our rear neighbor thankfully I put up a 6ft privacy fence just when she started showing a bit more violent then her passive aggressive. I didn’t realize that something was wrong I assumed she was upset I was fencing my yard. Sadly the rear neighbor only wants to fence in the remaining of their rear property, as the fence I put up gave them half the rear fenced
Many old people, that is people older than my 73 years of age are often still contributing to their families and society. Unfortunately, some elderly people have cognitive issues and yet others do not. Take for instance an elderly man managing a Disney Archive Museum, at the age of 85, working Monday through Friday. Another fine gentleman I personally know at the VA Hospital in Westwood, CA is a man in his nineties and a Prisoner of War survivor working an almost full week, every week. And let's not forget Benjamin Frankin during the formation of this country. So, in a nutshell it would be more correct to identify elderly people.
Side note... don’t do this unless you have post master posts. Especially if the posts are not pressure treated. Once those non treated posts start to rot and a big wind comes... bye bye..
If I know one thing about myself, it’s that I know, without any misgivings, that I don’t have “caregiver” in me. May God bless those that do. And now, how confused will that poor man be, when he’s out at that fence “knowing in his heart” that “yesterday” he could stand up on that fence, but suddenly now, he can’t. Damned dementia.
The headline is insulting to older people - he has dementia, and is old, but his condition is more germane, may I suggest?
What if I told you these two elderly guys/ neighbors were fighting for the past 2 decades.
I'm old and I don't feel offended. He's talking about one old person, not all old people. No insult to me.
Lol the world isn’t a safe space kid, if it’s hurts someone’s feelings then oh well maybe they need to deal with it.
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@@campbellbuilt why hasn't he been arrested than? 2 decades of harassment and no arrests??
What a considerate daughter. And with all she must be going through. Bless you all.
Hopefully he won't realize the difference. It is a very sad condition for the elderly.
This is so, so sad. We just lost my beloved Momma (-in-Law) to dementia in January 2021. I stayed with the family after my husband died 12 years ago, because it was where I belonged. My Dad and Sister (-in-Law) got creative to keep her safe. Alarms on the doors and windows that would chime to the house and their phones when they opened or closed, video cameras to keep an eye on things and someone there 24/7 to make sure she was safe. I miss you Momma Cat. You were the best mother-in-law anyone could hope for! I hope you and your son, my Eli, are together again. Our family hasn't been the same without you two.
Dementia is hard to deal with for everyone. My grandmother kept calling the police about home intruders. She kept claiming that children were living in her attic and kept crawling down the wires and eating here cookies. The chief of police actually crawled up into her attic to show no one was there. That was when she had to be moved to an assisted living home.
Thank you for trying to keep the peace with the fence work.
When i locked the gaits my dad climbed over our 6 foot fence to get to the pub after my Mum died. He did not drink but his grief was overpowering him. He must have been so lonely and sad. Dementia is a heartbreaking disease.
Dementia is awful. Dad and brother passed from it. It is my fear.
“gates”. Gait is how you walk. Gate is a fence door.
@Randall Johnson Why so many periods?
*@Robyn - I need to share something important. Many people thought my late father had dementia. Turns out he had a undiagnosed urinary tract infection causing delirium. Please consider having your father checked out. I regret that I was not able to understand what was going on until it was too late. Now I live with guilt and miss my father who always was there to help me.*
@Randall Johnson Nice, the guy opens his heart and you pick on his spelling.
Big man.
We had a somewhat similar dilemma with my mom. When she sees herself in the mirrored slider doors, she thinks it is an uninvited person in her room that won’t speak to her. It makes her angry. We had to turn the mirrored doors back side out. Problem solved. The uninvited person left.
Merry Walsh, when my friend saw herself in any reflective surface you could see and hear her anger, she
hated that person looking back at her, it's one of the worst illnesses imaginable.
My husband's mother was first diagnosed as paranoid schizophrenic.. before alzheimer's.. She would wander the neighborhood, pulling things out of people's trash, and yard.. swearing it was hers, and they must have stolen it. Luckily, shed lived in that neighborhood for over 40 yrs.. and people were sympathetic..
Merry, the exact same thing happened with my mother. I had to turn the mirrors around. She didn’t get angry though, she had conversations with her image. She told me once I was having sex with some man, the 3 of us in the same bed, no, she wasn’t a participant. What could I do I asked her if was good looking! She always seemed to have a sense of humor about it.
@@michdoug1 Wow 😮. My mom too, can still laugh at a joke. I believe she has Lewy Body Dementia. A key aspect is not being able to recognize faces, even though you can remember relationships. Hey fence guys, sorry we are running away from fence topic here 😄
Duck job, Lol!
We know where you wanna BE! 🤣
thank you for helping this lady out it must be a scary situation to be in
Thanks for keeping WORLD PEACE.
This WAS important to someone.
Glad you could help.
We try.😀😀😀
My grandmother had dementia and my aunt tried to keep her at home for as long as possible. It finally got to the point that grandma needed to move to one of those assisted living places. At one point, the folks who worked there told my aunt that grandma and some of her fellow patients had been “busted”: they were standing in a circle in the entry way, discussing some rather extreme plans for a jailbreak. “You knock out the receptionist, you hotwire a car, etc.”. My grandmother, the gangster.
I worked as a CNA at a Life Care Facility for 29 years. We had to hide one lady’s shoes after she was found at the edge of a nearby busy highway one time.
Not really funny but sorta kinda it is. Sorry to hear about that.
@@deanwilliams8857 I don’t think anyone was trying to be mean but I think sometimes it’s best to make light especially if you’ve dealt with dementia on any level. I know I’ve dealt with it and my family and it’s heartbreaking so anytime you can find a little humor it helps you get through😊
"The Godgrandmother""
Both my great grandfather who lived to 93 and my great great uncle who lived to 92 escaped assisted living homes. My grandpa fought the 2 cops that found him and nearly overpowered them. My uncle was found a few miles away in a wheelchair and when the cops asked where he thought he was going he just replied “Texas”. This was all in Kentucky
Hi from Scotland 🏴 uk, good job on fence I hope it worked for the old gentleman, my heart goes out to elderly with dementia
The government is doing this at the Whitehouse for Joe .
@@timothyantoine5321 Actually, it was done for loser Trump who kept wanting to take a dump in the rose garden.
@@billss19 Just like Joe you Biden supporters are kinda slow .
@@timothyantoine5321 And you are a jerk for bringing up a stupid political meme in an unrelated and serious topic, about an illness that can happen to anyone. It's people like you who give your leader a bad name, when his followers are such nasty idiots. You should be ashamed of yourself.
Your correct it can happen to anyone , I experienced it with my oldest brother . It's hard to watch , the Irony is you could see it with Biden and 80,000,000 people voted for him anyway . If you don't see the humor in that your to sensitive . It's a fact of life and life is part comedy .
Good idea, can't reason with them, brain cells are dead. once it's up he may not even realize anything is different. Sad but that's way it is, smart daughter save herself & neighbors a lot of grief!
We still loved our grandma who had dementia which only affected our family ,very difficult to deal with to the end. It's those in POWER and have powerful friends that can affect the lives of millions are the scary ones!!!
I have worked with Alzheimers and other types of dementia individuals for many years. They are very inventive, strong and can become combative instantly both physically and verbally. They imagine things happening that have not etc. This family is trying their best to allow this person to remanin at home as long as possible for which they deserve a medal. It is a difficult situation.Until you have experienced it you really have no idea. and should refrain from negative comments. You have to find the lighter side of situations to maintain sanity at times. Thank you for going above and beyond in assisting this family in solvng their delima.
I hope the modification worked for the client. Elderly people are doggedly determined and like toddlers, have all the time in the world to figure things out, even with dementia. At the age of 86 my grandmother did not ever have dementia, but in the process of house sitting for a friend who was on vacation, managed to lock herself out of the front side of the house. She knew her friend had a spare key hidden in the backyard, but the gate was locked, so she climbed the fence, fell into the backyard and shattered an ankle... Laid in the yard for over an hour shouting in the summer AZ heat (about 115 degrees F) until someone came to help. The ankle was shattered so bad the Drs wanted to amputate. She wouldn't let them... It healed up surprisingly well after some surgery. A few months later she was back walking and wearing heels...! Ten years later at the age of 95 1/2, while my Dad was in the hospital, she convinced people at church to help her get a car, got T-boned by a large truck on the driver side... Managed to get herself out of the mangled vehicle and was waiting on the side of the road when EMS showed up.. They said the car was so badly damaged on the driver side they would have not been able to extract her from that side even with Jaws of Life. At the hospital, with a 3rd degree AC separated shoulder and a small brain bleed, she fought off 5 security guards and two nurses, until my cousins showed up during the fight and she played nice til they left. Because she bit one of the nurses during the fight they put her in restraints. She managed to get one of the wrist restraints off with her teeth and they had to restrain her head too. 5ft 3in tall...only 40% heart function (CHF), a pacemaker, diabetic, barely able to walk, nearly deaf, hardly able to see... mean as a snake and could still fight like a demon! Never, Ever. underestimate what the elderly are capable of, even if they do have dementia!
Damn. I’d love to meet your mom! 😂
Being seemingly immune to pain actually is a dementia symptom. My mother worked as a nurse before running a few care homes and she's known dementia patients to walk on a broken hip.
You have described my mother to a tee! Punched a cop in the jaw for telling her to settle down!
Not to mention what the can do with their words. Whew! My mom was mean and could really get to you with her words.
She also was uncooperative abd made everything twice as hard. It was the most difficult time of my life. There are some things adult children should not have to see or do.
It’s a sad situation for the owner and his daughter as well as the neighbors. That deck was nice! I’d love a deck like that!
Oh bless your hearts as a healthcare worker thank you for help the daughter keep him safe.
My dad had to go into a care home because of dementia he kept climbing the fence even trees to escape but he was a prisoner of war WW2 In Germany, thought he was back in the camp good on him though still had the spirit for freedom !
Hope this helps! Dementia patients can get creative if they're determined!
They sure can. Won’t be long before he takes himself a ladder or chair to stand on.
My dad didn't know who we were but he figured out the door security code and escaped on a freezing day and decided to direct traffic in a busy intersection.
@@debralpateart8862 my Pop did the same thing. He watched people coming and going from the nursing home and worked out the door code. He was outa there, god love him.
I work at nursing homes with a lot of dementia patients, and we have residents who will go into other people's rooms. One way to prevent this from happening is we cover the door with black paper, but, I watched a video recently on should I paint my fence black, and it turned out real nice. It made the yard appear bigger, and brought out the green plants in front of the fence.
@@liciaspencer9955 just curious why black?
Your son looks exactly like you. Hard working too. You are a good dad sir.
Thank you.
It can be tough when trying to outsmart dementia. Put locks on my fridge and dad started playing with the stove. Secured the stove and he started messing with kitchen knives. Blocked off the kitchen and he started flushing the toilet and leaving the sink on.
Dad needs a safer place to live.
This is exactly what the White House staff is dealing with now. Bet they could use some tips on how to handle it.
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W.S. Soap Co., you learned that you can not outsmart dementia, you can only adapt to it. I know from experience. It can have it's funny moments but it can also be heartbreaking. Best regards to you and your dad if he's still with you.
@@bigpicturethinking5620 Not to mention running around naked harassing the staff.
There's something about old people. They come off a bit strange to some people.Most are harmless though.....wait I'm old
Perfect
Yah, me too. There's a lot of that going around. If I knew I'd last this long maybe I would have taken better care of myself. Nah, who am I kidding, wouldn't have done anything different. 😎
I'm old too.
Me too😂
You don't look old probably just feel old.
Five minutes after you left, Old Person was standing on a milk crate.
Most likely right
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haha , either that or he was out there with a pry bar removing pickets ..hehe
Joint compound bucket came to mind before I saw your comment
My dear husband had dementia. He climbed through windows, over gates, over fences, just to get away, because he wanted to go back to the farm where he grew up. The farm was about 1300 kilometers from where we lived at that time. I had to lock all the doors and kept the keys in my pocket. That wall is lovely!. Hopefully, the old father would leave the neighbours alone now.
You should have played the Benny Hill theme during the unloading segment. That would have been hilarious!
Yakity Sax? Trust me, it will get you a copyright strike or claim so fast it will make your head spin, trust me, I know from experience. But yeah, it would be perfect.
I used to love that show, "bring them cows on home"-lol
Your son is so handsome, gets it from his father I can tell!
This is hilarious! Now every time I see my son with his hat turned around backwards I'm gonna think "Yep, he's quicker than I am." Bwahaha!!! Also, you have the sweetest smile♡
Seal team two mission completed thank you for your service. Andy England 🇬🇧👍
That’s too funny 😂
My neighbor who has only lived in this house next door to me for about 18 months came over with an envelope and taped it to my front door. As I began reading the letter I slowly become to realize that this was not a letter of infatuation with me stating that she was deeply in love with me and we should run off from our significant others and small children Andy lopes somewhere in Cancun Mexico.. it was a letter demanding, not asking but demanding that I for half of the fencing cost that she claims she had to pay for in the price of buying the house next to us. I wrote her the kindest and most gentle letter that I could muster up and hold her to simply get f***** and do not come speak to me ever again in life. If your children are in need or you are in danger holler and I will be there but other than that please leave me alone. I did not buy a house to be neighborly to anyone.
That deck and stairs is quite nice!!!!! And siding the fence looks better- hope it works!
Appreciate the comment.
It soles the problem of an aging fence. Over time, the pickets shrink and the spaces are enough for a clear view. I'd love to have mini slats to cover the cracks.
You guys are quite the team! I wish I had someone like that to work with. Good job guys!
Great job gentlemen. Looks good. Thank you. God bless you. 🔨🔩🔧
It’s a temporary measure. Bless his family who care for him.
I can't believe how quickly you carried the wood down the garden, then put the fence up so quick!!!!!
This is so sad. My feeling and thoughts go out to his family.
Hey, if some pickets can restore peace in the valley, let's get nailing.
I'd get rid of the bricks that are lying around in the garden as well, before the owner falls over them, tries to build something or get frustrated (which happens a lot with dementia due to the nature of the disease) and throws them somewhere.
Creative and sensitive solution. Humans are beautiful.
The other women at my mother’s memory care facility were calling her the most vile names. I convinced my mother that the medication the doctors were suggesting would make them stop. Mom took the pills and the other ladies quit doing it. The marvels of modern medicine.
We have a gentleman in our neighborhood that suffers from dementia. Every once in a while he shows up at my home. Of course this to has be when I'm trying to do home improvement or chores.
Sometimes he's just kind of curious and sometimes a little hostile.
What seems to help is I'll stop and start talking with him get him on my porch and let him sit and talk about whatever he wants. Even get us some drinks, coffee or iced tea.
Usually after about 20-30 his family will show up.
On a couple of occasions they have come over looking for him, when he wasn't here. Can't imagine what they're going through.
Last year they had to put him in a nursing home.
That deck is quality work, good job on both.
It gets off of the fence or it gets the hose again. Nah, in all seriousness dementia sucks!! My mom had it and didn’t know who I was. She was angry and confused. It robbed her of her wonderful personality. She got into it with her neighbors too.
Seem like laid back hard working guys being honest. Nice they worked around the drama. I hope they were paid well & their next clients are thankful!
😂😂😂 Love the observation on Harley being a "pro" and is working faster due to his ball cap being turned around backwards.
Good job and good idea. Alot to have to go through. I give them alot of credit for trying to keep their lived one home, and safe as well. It’s a hard thing to deal with. Hope it worked!
May 2021 a story made the news where an elderly couple with dementia escaped their assisted living facility. The husband was a code-breaking specialist in World War II. He listened carefully as people went in and out of the facility and punched numbers into the electronic keypad. He figured out the number sequence and they escaped. They were returned safe. But never underestimate Old People.
Dementia and Alzheimer’s are such sad diseases. They can make a normally calm, rational person become irrational, and mean. Extremely scary and frustrating for the person and their loved ones. I hope that you never have anyone you love destroyed by this disease.
So happy able to help. Or at least try! Thanks for helping them!
That fence is proper u both did a fantastic job & i absolutely enjoyed watching u both work something so random popped up on UA-cam & i loved it xx
You sure stamped your genes on that handsome son. Hardworking son.
Well that's just a creepy thing to say
@@travisk5589 Why is it creepy to you?
My Dad was very mechanical and could fix anything. When he got demenia he started taking everything apart and throwing the pieces all over so you couldn't find them. He'd bend the parts, pull the springs apart. Then he'd swear he didn't do it. Determined doesn't even come close to describing their behavior.
May God bless everyone trying to do right by their loved one with dementia. (Gram had it- what a long, sad, (exhausting!) way to go!
My only concern about the fence is if bees or hornets discover the space. Well, I suppose that would be further deterrent regarding climbing!
You guys work awesome together. Nice job!
Appreciate that
It's such a sad disease. I'm sure whoever is taking care of the poor gentleman appreciates this too. There's a limit to how much strange behavior a non involved person can tolerate.
Around here the Alzheimers homes have non intrusive security like door sensors and enclosed courtyards to protect these people.
"The homeowner can't know I'm here"
Powersaws, air compressor, nail gun
😂😂 jk awesome fence tho
homeowner was probably taken out somewhere by his daughter to hired them
I was thinking/hoping you would show the end results of your work this is something I and I’m sure other people would like to have done because it just gives a more aesthetically pleasing finished look
My husband just completed that project on a big section of our old fence.. There's a determined young bear close by, that pulls the boards loose and strolls thru the yard and knocks a few loose on the other fence to get out.. A couple months ago, he surprised my 12 year old dog and ripped half his ear off before my husband clocked him with a 2x4.. A couple days later he was back at it with a few boards torn off in a different section.. So, adding new boards, was our solution too . But damn, lumber prices are crazy this year!
He did show the end of it before he showed the deck. All they did was put up boards to cover the horizontal rails so the guy couldn't climb up
Dementia is a hell of a thing. My Grandma would see her first husband my Dads Father outside when she looked out the windows. He passed away 50 years ago.
Dementia aside, adding that extra layer looks pretty good and will probably extend the life of the fence.
Might give it a shorter life with all that extra weight
@@lizardman1303 that is actually against building code in my area, it creates a void of no sunlight and the moisture rots the fence away from not being able to dry properly from the inside out.
@@davidwalczak1297 Was thinking to do this to my fence and had the same concern, in FL. What area/state are you in?
We started getting 'cookies' on a plate left our front porch several years ago on a holiday weekend. My wife found the first plate, kinda looked like oatmeal cookies but it had rained and they weren't covered so she tossed them. It happened again the next day and I was the one that found them, same 4-5 oatmeal-looking cookies uncovered on a plate. After looking at them and puzzling about it, we realized they weren't even cookies but little cookie sized piles of kitty litter. We honestly thought someone was messing with us, we could not figure it out. Then 2 days later our next door neighbor came to us, apparently they had brought their elderly mother home for the holidays from the nursing home, and she had been getting up early in the morning to make "cookies" to bring to all of her new neighbors, and was using whatever ingredients she happened to grab. It was sweet and kind of heartbreaking at the same time.
Our Dad had dementia and decided the neighbor had built her rose garden on our side of the property line. We caught him out there with his walker tearing up the stone border more than once. Hope this works for them. Dementia sucks
Just hope he doesn't start yelling from on the deck, great simple idea with the fence.
You two work well together.
Love it.. I jumped into my neighbors yard when they were on vacation. Their only comment was . It looks great.
Loved the fast motion of your video...
So funny watching you both walk back and forth from the street.... And the Music was Fun too....
Great Video....I enjoyed your funny commentary about the hats.... Funny....!!😊
Appreciate that.
It looks quite nice. I hipe it helped with her dad. Ive had issues with neighbors and fences over the years
My elderly neighbors across the ally directly behind me both passed away last year. An investor bought the house and turned it into rental property. I now have a party (crack) house to deal with. Every lowlife in town is now hanging around back there. I severally need a fence right now! But the price of lumber is holding it back right now.
Sorry to hear that😕
I doubt the price will be going down in the foreseeable future.
Call the police every time the B.S. starts . Then call the absentee owner and tell him if it doesn't stop you will see him in court .
Tom - Unfortunately, fences don't always help. Won't stop someone from climbing over either if they really want to. Victim of 10-yr nightmare with multiple convicted felon, drug dealer, psychopath, etc. Property vandalized and stolen in spite of a fence. I feel your pain.
Maybe try a tall chain link fence, instead of lumber? And add some climbing plants, maybe thorny ones? Lol, I can imagine how unpleasant that would be to climb.
WoW...never thought of mounting my battery chargers on a small wood stand like that. I have to make one right away.
We have a video on how we built ours. Love it.Even if I wasn’t a contractor I would have it this way.
By far the best job I ever got to do: a man hired me to use the existing shutter mounting screw holes to run fishing line in a diamond pattern over two windows in the back yard. He also had us plans the bush/vine version of bougainvillea three rows deep and weave them into the fishing line, blocking the windows.
Turns out his daughter just turned 15 and wanted flowers planted outside her window for her birthday...
Neighbor problems. The worst. Love it that these guys are on it.
Well. Been there done that. My grandmother had dementia and lived with us. Great fence idea. We put gadgets the top of our doors. Out side the screen door. And other solutions. Finally a nursing home. She escaped several times. Going home to her farm. Which was in Arkansas. This is California. You know it is what it is.
Dementia is a horrible, nightmarish disease. My heart goes out to that family. It must be hellish on a daily basis. The person with dementia is suffering, it’s not their fault. How painful. I have witnessed firsthand those episodes. It’s truly heartbreaking as nothing will soothe or calm them.
The fence looks nice but I think I would have just put a 45 degree topper strip on the 2x4 so he couldn't stand on it.
I do hope this helped. As someone else noted, peoplewith dementia can be creative. You have never understood the true meaning of thinking outside the box until you have dealt with them. I do feel sorry for him, his family and the neighbours. It's hard enough for the family without him having become fixated on the neighbours. If he is angry with them it can really have serious consequences for both sides. I totally understand the neighbours as well. It is frightening to deal with someone with dementia even when you know they can't help themselves. As someone else said, there is only so much a person can 'buy in' to this man's care. Sad.
I'm disappointed we didn't get to see grandpa trying to climb the fence!
Excellent work thank you 😎
Liked you comment about the baseball cap! Wearing a cap backwards was started years ago by a very young 19 yr old Ken Griffey Jr in 1989. Nothing sillier than anyone over 21 yrs old wearing a baseball cap backwards. Glad to see you know how to correctly wear your cap - speed is not as important as not looking silly. Nice job BTW.
God bless him 🙏🏻 that is a pretty brilliant idea and hopefully it works
April 2021 - that would cost ..... 1 million dollars 😂😜🤪
No kidding. A coworker of mine is acting as the contractor on the build of his house. He ordered 2 x 4s and they were over $8 each compared to $2.50 a year ago. I know nothing about construction or lumber but that sounded expensive.
@@moewilson4605 I just bought some yesterday 2x4s $6.75 , also plywood for $50 - that was $15 a yr ago ...sad
That fence is a sign of wealth in 2021.
The dog at the end! 🤣🤣🤣
My momma was summoned to court when we were kids, she took us with her. The Judge called her name and said, "Dog at large!" Gales of laughter in the courtroom...we we sitting in school uniforms. 🤣
Our collie labrador had a habit of climbing the fence and running the streets while we were away every day. My momma didn't hire a fence guy, she got rid of George. 😰
Poor George😀
I think that while doing these videos, you are creating a wealth of valuable information and experience for journeymen and apprentices can learn from and be thought to at trade college. I seriously wish the government would grant money for programs to video these projects and qualifying students can access them online. A master electrician who taught at a trade school in Denver had students come to my house to observe, but that training opportunity is gone forever. A videotape should be available to any student for future generations
Really appreciate your comment. We started our channel for individuals in the construction field. Yes a DIY’er will benefit from our videos but its aimed for the guys and girls in the field. From tool reviews to certain parts of a job that methods vary from contractor to contractor we want to discuss. Most of all what we’re heading into is client interaction in our videos. Dealing with clients and other contractors is something we really want to start adding through out our videos. I know our videos are a little un orthodox
but that’s who we are. 👍👍👍
Nice job. Unique situation. Doing a good deed. Might have to grease the fence slats to keep him from climbing. But, keeping that grass from growing between the “two fences” might be a challenge. Real nice deck.
Hope they don't resort to Round-Up.
I hate the way that stuff looks. 🌱
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Hate what it does to lungs
Luv luv the deck and stairs.
Appreciate that.
Wow I swear my neighbor is suffering from dementia or something similar, as she is well into her 80’s and she is violent and attacking our rear neighbor thankfully I put up a 6ft privacy fence just when she started showing a bit more violent then her passive aggressive. I didn’t realize that something was wrong I assumed she was upset I was fencing my yard. Sadly the rear neighbor only wants to fence in the remaining of their rear property, as the fence I put up gave them half the rear fenced
0:32 As soon as the young man turns around and you can tell them to our father and son. lol Spitting image of one another.
Iv heard turning your hat backwards makes you go quicker, I thought my son was just blagging me, it didn't work on me tho 😅😂🤣
Same here
Many old people, that is people older than my 73 years of age are often still contributing to their families and society. Unfortunately, some elderly people have cognitive issues and yet others do not. Take for instance an elderly man managing a Disney Archive Museum, at the age of 85, working Monday through Friday. Another fine gentleman I personally know at the VA Hospital in Westwood, CA is a man in his nineties and a Prisoner of War survivor working an almost full week, every week. And let's not forget Benjamin Frankin during the formation of this country. So, in a nutshell it would be more correct to identify elderly people.
I need a follow up! Did it work?
Two 80+ next to me most days I gotta tell my dogs they not going to give you snacks for sitting there looking like two kids waiting for a hand out.
You know he’s going to pull a step stool up to the fence don’t you?😆
Great video! Thanks for the laughs.
Well done worth a try.
My neighbor did the same thing until he got a round to the forehead from someone's potato gun
Love the deck!! I need that on my lake property I’m building on ;) NC way to go 👍👍👍 I’m in east TN 😊
Side note... don’t do this unless you have post master posts. Especially if the posts are not pressure treated. Once those non treated posts start to rot and a big wind comes... bye bye..
If I know one thing about myself, it’s that I know, without any misgivings, that I don’t have “caregiver” in me. May God bless those that do. And now, how confused will that poor man be, when he’s out at that fence “knowing in his heart” that “yesterday” he could stand up on that fence, but suddenly now, he can’t. Damned dementia.
the dislikes are from folks who have never had to deal with a relative with dementia. We have, hope it works and good luck.
the backwards hat is definitely a pro move😂
Omg who takes a restraining order out for a guy with dementia 🤦🏻♀️🤣🤣 do they seriously think that’s gonna help 😂😂😂😂
I was thinking the same thing.
Looks great. Hope it works. Can you tell me why you didn’t go a bit taller tho?
I did this to my fence to keep my dog from pushing boards off. I had to remove it because the wasps/hornets moved in between the two sides.
yall are good dudes