My Husband Hàtèd Me, Maltrèatèd Me After Bringing Me To Canada, I Fled With Our Kids From His House
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Please ma can i get ur contact
The husband is my cousin, she has been through a lot, we use to stay at the same place at Atico as she rightly said..
Thanks for backing her up even though her ex husband is related to you. I was in a worse situation than her
They are narcissistic person..avoid them at all cost
Oh nice for backing her up. Someone would have supported the cousin no matter what
That’s a very bod thing to say considering the relationship. Bless you 🙏
@@syndeytishbaayeh409You can tell that he/she meant to say Bold not Bad. Don't be quick to answer. Try reading again if "bad" in that sentence makes sense.
Abotr3
Borga’s always complain that their wives are leaving them after they bring them abroad but never talks about how they treat their wives after bringing them. Hmmmm
Hmmm
Vry well said...gye wo 2
She is lying big time, ask the men and the people that know their marriage, you find out most of the women lies,cheating on their husbands, these women only want to come abroad and divorce the husbands. All the women family know about her plans
I have never commented on SvTv before. But for a second, i thought this woman has stolen my story.
If you haven't been through anything like this before, you will think what she is saying is a lie.
My ex husband put me through the same situation here in the US. 😢
DJ, i begged for him to be in our child's life, he refused. Whenever, our child calls him, he will say he's busy with work. I cried all the time to watch a child grow up without a father.
So our child has accepted the fact that, the dad doesn't want to be involved.
Now that he is hearing that our child is soaring and making waves at a young age, he is going around telling people that i have brainwashed his child. (God punish the devil)
Not every Ghanaian woman abroad plays the "I know my right" card. Some of us are well brought up and will do anything to stay married but some of our men don't give us the chance to.
DJ, please link me up with this beautiful woman. I can't hold my tears. I want to be her sister, please.🙏🏽
Madam, granting some men can behavior like that, you must also ask yourself questions. Many men will never mind about their kids after you take him to court to demand child support which may take away all his income in a month. A pharmacist friend of mine had his wife just run away, got divorced and took away all the guys wealth, out of his $10000 month salary only $25 was left in his account after child support and alimony. Do you expect this man to have time for his kids? He needs to work his ass up to make extra money to pay for his own bills. Many wives don't think about the consequences of their actions and then they turn around to call themselves single mothers and curry people's favor
@@samuelocran-kakrah457did she mention anything about court n child support, do u have
problem with
Comprehension, pls read n understand b4 commenting don't just talk
I share your pain. I was in a similar too
@@ritamars2370 God bless you, my sister.
Sister God is in control, just fix your eyes on Jesus and he will never disappoint you. Yes indeed "the evil shall be punished".
DJ! I love all your interviews but I feel you could have given her more grace in this interview! It felt like you didn’t believe her but her story was so detailed and most people here could believe. I read some of the comments and it saddens me to see the number of women in the comments who have experienced similar situations. God bless her and everyone going through such a horrendous situation 🙏🏾
DJ Myame,you can see the woman in depressed, that's why she is talking much
Some men are like what she is talking about,they can't cope with kids yelling and leave all the kids burdens on the woman
But I thank God that her children are doing well
She loves the man
Thank you! He was so judgmental throughout and I wasn’t comfortable! I would have left the interview if it was me! 😢
yes i also felt like he doubted her which is bad… there are a lot of abusive and narcissistic men around. her story isn’t new and it’s obvious she’s telling the truth
Madam, I agree with you for being anti-divorce. But sometimes divorce is good for the peace of the family. You have done well for being there for your kids.
Am proud of her decision ❤️
True Paa
Exactly
You made the right decision for divorce. Never stay with a man who cannot accept or accommodate his own children. It is the best to stay apart. The mistake he made was completely not wanting to be part of them. God bless you for staying strong for them but never advice anyone to use children as an excuse to stay in an unhappy marriage.
I know her from Toronto when i used to live there. Her story is interesting. Raising kids in abroad takes some serious commitment and sacrifice with serious minded people. Unfortunately, some men are not mature enough to handle it.
Well said
He is a narcissist he does not love you nor the children from the beginning. He is gaslighting you by saying different things behind your back. You are very lucky you have divorced him. Please forget about him he will never change and move on .
Narcissist will always be narcissist ooo. They will never change as u said
Exactly, my dear xxx
Narcissist people think they're always right . They can even record lies and say so many things behind your back. If you haven’t been through, you wouldn't understand. Am glad women are voicing out.
@@maamedamoah4258thats the word our people don’t understand living with such a person is so difficult always lying to make themselves look better. Then they’ll have people as equally daft that believe them!!
I couldn’t have said that better, well said!
My dad did worst things to my mom in New York 35yrs ago. My mom never recovered mentally. My mom has to raise 3 kids with no financial support. He remarried someone and have kids. His second marriage collapsed and 35yrs later he goes around saying my mom has brainwashed us. New York Ghana men are sick
😂😂😂 sounds familiar!
They forget that they will get Old and want their Children's support
You don't have to generalize it
I went through exactly the same situation, the man was also highly educated. Life as a mother is a sacrifice.
There are a lot of similar situations like her case. African men who neglect their kids because they are not nurturing. Instead of them learning they want the easy way out. Madam what you went through is nothing new we just don’t discuss it as women. Divorce is not always a bad thing. This man didn’t deserve your time nor energy. You made the right decision and be proud of it. Marriage is not everything
Mmmnn
I had opposite when I call the kids she always tell the kids not to mind or come and pretended she is the only one caring for the children both to her family in ghana and the kids. When I realized that I also took the case back to court and decided to pay the children's support money directly to the children's account so at least the children wil see my support for them. From the children's account she has access so she can take the money from there and that I do not care
I kept smiling and laughing throughout this interview because l identify with most of the things said. In my case, he wasn't even interested in having children. He has his own from his previous marriage. These people will abuse you anyhow and use your reaction to play the victim. They are very good at telling lies and people believe them. I didn't suffer any physical abuse but the emotional abuse was too much. It was quite easy for me to advise myself because there were no children involved and I'm now enjoying my peace.
Those that will advise you not to divorce, will go and marry without letting you know it.
Hmmmm
I know her very well from Ghana and she’s telling the truth
I laughed as I listened to this story because it is soo much like mine. If you haven’t lived with a narcissist, you will never believe a person can be soo cruel, hateful, jealous and selfish. Many men feel that women who have been through a horrible marriage and have managed to break free from men like this, especially most Ghanaian men, really want to be alone and enjoy our freedom. I would rather be alone and happy than to stay in a marriage and pretend all is well. My dear lady, don’t try to explain yourself. Move on, never look back. Time will tell the truth for you. God strengthen you and the children.
For me any man who tries any nonsense with my sisters you’ll know there’s a mad man in every home.
😂😂😂 my ribs
I wish my brothers were closer to me at that time. They were all in Europe and I am in Canada
😂😂😂😂😂
Maame don’t worry. As for men when divorce comes in they become manufacturers of lies. Your story doesn’t sound malicious at all, it’s a perfect behavior narcissist and abusive men. Good thing is that you survived it. Enjoy life now.
Wow , I don't usually believe people when they tell stories. But I believe this woman , she is describing the typical abusive husband
Why deos she regret leaving an abusive husband
She doesn't; she just feels the hurt the kids are going through and the pressures of doing everything by herself; honestly, if he was a decent man, she wouldn't have left. @@Timewithmabel
Thank you
Sis I’ve been in your shoes before nobody will understand you unless they’ve endured it themselves keep up the good work you’ve already won the battle
Hmmmmm Lord hv mercy on us 🙏🙏🙏🙏 you're right 😢🙏🙏
Awww you can see she really loves the man .May God bring them together again.They will be perfect this time round
Unless you've dealt with an abusive partner, you wouldn't understand. Madam Efua, focus on yourself and your kids.....karma has a way of dealing with who deserves. There's no sense staying in a marriage that may end your life.....just crazy!!! Marriage doesn't define you.....too many are slowly fading in the name of marriage!!!! Life is too short. Thank you DJ Nyame for your awesome work 👏🏾.
If you haven’t been to this situation before you will never understand this woman
You're very right, my dear. Some have suffered ooo. Hmmmm
I went through this situation with 2 kids but I was very supportive and God bless the family very well.
Take it as you got it and still focus on the children.
She has been through a lot. She did very well bringing the kids up. If she still has an interest in nursing school, its never late.
Can you please get her information please
This woman is blessed to be alive my mother lost her life 24years ago
Oh sorry to hear that. Men 🤦🏽♀️
Sorry for your loss
This is one of the interesting interviews that has attracted and received more comments in less than a week long since it's posted. Strong Kwaku woman.
Sis, you said it all. The man is a narcissist.
This woman's Story is just like mine.. not easy ooo ... im going through the same thing in my life also.
I enjoyed the conversation especially the last part how she was able to raise her children smart woman God bless you
I believe this lady is speaking the truth per my experience. I thank God for your life. Enjoy your single life.
I knew you were an Adventist from the way you were talking. God bless you
🚨There were many red flags but most of our women , will always cross the red light in the name of disgrace from leaving a bad marriage.
Advice: leave a bad marriage, you can’t fix a broken man
Straight up.Redflags were everywhere and she still went ahead to marry because of family and wanting to get married.I will never advise any person to stay married if they are not happy.
You can't fixed a stupid man😁😁😁
True 👍
l'm so sorry for what you've been through in your marriage, thank God for taking care of you and your children.
You can't over emphasise choosing a Godly and a God fearing man. Blessed are women who have good and God fearing husbands. Ladies take clue from this story. Again let's not rush into settling down with just anyone
The pastors are worse
@@user-mt2vl2we6f there is a difference between someone who claims to be a Pastor and a God fearing man. Pastors not necessarily God fearing people
you have to go through it to appreciate what this woman has been through. what reason will she have to lie?
She is just not immature. Not all men are the same just like all women. A smart wife will take this situation and turn it around and maintain the marriage and ensure the kids had peace of mind and good relationship. If the man is working and she confesses that money was not a problem, why couldn't take care of the kids. She never mentioned she was working when she came. Why not be a homecare mother and take care of the house whilst the man works. Its sheer immaturity and evil selfish interests. She is just lying
@@samuelocran-kakrah457you're extremely fo**ish and narrow minded. Did you hear about the verbal and physical ab**e she went through. You have to be a M O R O N to write what you wrote. Think over what you wrote...just think. You have a lot of personal growth to do. Best of luck in your life with this mindset.
I won't be surprised that you're just like the husband, if not worse
@@samuelocran-kakrah457I find it difficult to believe her story
U loser n worser than the housband😅😅😅😅😅😅
There's nothing like aperfect marriage as they says but marriage in abroad can be very challenging at times. It takes a real man and a woman to survive through it all. Help us oh Lord!
Aswearigod 😮
The fact that she was in a toxic marriage and still regrets divorcing is mind blogging and now has taken it upon herself , campaigning against divorce, advise young women in staying in bad marriages. Wow. She will defend and use the kids. Hmmm . Some of these women paaaa..
I don't even understand her, how can you regret divorcing an abusive husband
U know bc of religious and cultural reasons
A lil bit of ignorance
pay attention to what this lady is saying before YOU start JUDGING!
right from the beginning of her statement, she stated she was younger when she married… and then admitted that she should have been empathetic towards his ex …she didn’t know at that time because she was young and helpless as a pregnant woman for that matter
and then again… she wanted to raise her children with their dad… she wanted to see them grow together and then she thought she couldn’t raise the kids alone hence why she didn’t want to divorce and also she admitted that the said man was his spec so she was head down in love with him!
and lastly she campaigns against divorce because perhaps because she has realised that she should have supported her ex with prayers or maybe try different measures to see whether her narcissistic ex husband would change. pay attention to details and stop hopping!
I don't just understand
Woman of substance, full of wisdom
The guy is poisonous. Sorry, Sister, for what you went through.
This woman is beautiful. God bless her
He's a narcissist. Its a thing. When you meet them you'll know. Marriage to them is worse than hell. So you're blessed to have survived it. God is with you.
True dat!!
You are totally right.
Have noticed many African men having that narcissistic characteristic. I wonder why?
@@diamondgee536 Yeah?...interesting!! How many African men have you been with? And why do people like you have to strain and twist everything into ethnicity and race????
@@kofidaniel5777 lol well considering that I am a full blown African, this is something I have observed.
I do not understand why she will be against divorce. Marriage is not an achievement. Her well being should be a priority. Also you need raise kids in a good home environment. If she wasnt well mentally and physically well, she could not have been able to take care of her kids. No one should be forced to be in an abusive marriage. So divorce is good when your mental and physical health is at risk. There is always that one person out there that will understand you very well. If you have not had a good loving partner, u will always think u have to put up with an abuser but trust me, its better to let go. the right person will come eventually at the right time. Sad story
I must say you did excellent job raising your children. You set your priorities right.
I haven't listened to the whole story yet but I feel she is about to tell my story based on the comments I'm reading and although I haven't traveled before but I'm facing the same or worse in Accra Ghana 😢.
And if the child is special need that’s your whole life being messed up! Our community can do better coz it’s really a sad state we’re in! Some of us could have died just to have men in the house but it is well🥹
Wow, it’s really common to defend your abuser! It’s a lot of psychological stuff going on here! Most women are dead because of such mindset. Sounds like that ex-husband is a narcissist.
God bless you and deliver all those going through the same thing
Wow very strong woman God bless you
She is a good woman with kind heart.
It is real paaaaaa. I have gone through the same thing. I had to run for my life with 3 kids. Insults paaaaa. Shouting paaaaa. Just because his family is angry he helped me come to Germany and not them
Saaa then u re strong but u made me laugh small 😂😂 sending u ❤
Sorry dear
😂😂😂
Well done girl God is your strength
You have to be in it to understand. I hail you lady. Bless your hustle
Such a good soul, honest and God fearing
Very educative. God bless you
Mummy I agree with you ❤I love you b/c how you train your children thanks everymuch.🎉love Happy New year from Italy 🇮🇹
I know this woman. God bless her.
A very strong woman, may God continue to strengthen you her🙏🙏🙏
This woman sounds truthful. I pray for her and the family. I pray for the estranged husband, too.
God bless this woman . Very hard working woman just like my mum ❤. Much love 💖😊
Some people can be very judgmental and too defensive. It is very disgusting and illogical to judge the man as a narcist, gaslighting or abusive. Truly, the woman was lucky to have such a man and vice versa. The main problem was that both were not matured (spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, and socially) before entering into marriage. If not why should the woman still wish to leave with a 'claimed abusive' man in marriage? Generally, marriage is full of challenges but there is too much contradictions in the statements. But the main causes are that: 1. It was a big mistake to marry someone within 2 weeks of meeting for the first time. And the woman also married at a very tender age, early 20s. Because of that, she over-reacted with her pregnancy challenges, which the man couldn't tolerate. 2. Both did not understand marriage and its emotional, social and psychological affairs. Marriage is an utmost desire of most women but they don't learn the experiences of their parents and others before marrying, neither do they read or pray about it before entering into it. Most women in marriage were driven by money, children and friends. 3. Some women always want to be with their partners on the same level of emotional and psychological stress, afflictions and endurance, especially during pregnancy and work, which doesn't work in that manner. Men and women are not the same even when it comes to emotions and mental state. So each react differently in same situation. The woman needed empathy whereas the man needed peace. 4. Both loved themselves but never accepted mistake(s) and were full of bitterness. The woman praise herself as perfect and always point finger at the man in every misfortune and the man also accuses the woman for wrong decisions. Marriage is based on decisions, so partners should be ready to accept the implications of every decision taken. These marriage issues are normal and common and will forever occur even in re-marriage but can be solved simply with respect, understanding, wisdom and prayers. PLEASE LET US GIVE OUR LIVES TO JESUS CHRIST AND HE WILL GIVE US THE POWER AND ABILITIES TO OVERCOME MARRIAGE CHALLENGES. SHALOM!!
I need ur advice paa, I have a problem
Wow, only u understood the whole situation . Much respect to you. You are learned. I was in similar situation with my wife in canada and it was really sad to see lovers hating on each other because of respect and caring.
Well deciphered and analysed ❤
Hello dear@@estherelleprice3432
There is never an over reaction with pregnancy. I wish you were a woman to experience pregnancy whether there is anything like over reaction with pregnancy
Good job DJ. You didnt let the emotions in her story get to you. U stayed focus on your questions
This host is so wise❤❤❤❤❤❤ he can be a great lawyer 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉
We are waiting to hear from the husband also
There are two sides to every story
God bless u nd keep u always dear dear sister 😘 u are a beautiful woman l clap 👏 for u brava brava 😊
I understand her situation very well. Unfortunately if you haven’t experienced it before, you will never believe her.
God bless you for doing what you could for your children, enjoy them!
Very educative interview
DJ, this is a straight forward story that you need to understand. The man didn't anticipated the behavior of the children
Sorry my dear sister for what u nave been through.
Truthful lady.
This woman is talking out pains because she never wanted to quit or divorce no matter what the situation may be as she has been keeping on saying good things and appreciating the things her husband did for her❤❤i love people's who appreciates
Thanks for your questions DJ nyame
Tu tu tuwa
Nana Aqwesi Adofoasa Dubai ❤❤❤
Well done madam, love your interview ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Proud mother n a Adventist as well
The lady is so right, the man is not himself he needs prayers and counseling. Glad you are out, but please get some counseling for you and the kids. God be with you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
My dear you don’t have to regret leaving this crazy abusive man. After almost 30 years abroad you should be smart enough to know that leaving that marriage was the best decision you made for your children.
You should rather be educating people to leave abusive marriages instead of encouraging them to stay
Exactly
This interview started with the Lady admitting her ignorance and husband’s ignorance when they initially got married. This marriage could have worked if one partner was a bit mature. Let’s deal with our mental health and have more counseling before we get married.
True
Some are matured in age but not in marriage. The biggest mistake you’ll make is marrying a man who set in his ways.
I believe this woman though I don't know her. She still loves her ex husband i wish their kids can help them to continue their marriage, they've learnt their lessons and it'll be a good marriage 💑
Thanks but no thank you. I can never marry him again
Thank Jehovah I have such a Wonderful husband, soo I wish he will continue this year will be twenty years he brought me to Italy and the State 🎉
Good.
Dj this so true some of us man are like that I went through the same exact situation in Canada. Omg 100%
Aww aww aww sorry sorry to you madam and to all the single parent in the world . may Allah help us all, may Allah guide and protect us all . hmm i shy ooo.
some go through undetected mental health issues that goes unresolved!!
I’m glad you didn’t have anyone to advise you to stay. So many people are in horribly toxic relationships because they’ve been advised to stay and in the end they have nothing to show for it, some even lose their lives. You chose to leave and live for your children and that is admirable.
What you are saying is true,never ,never give up, be happy in your life ,because he will never change,I wish you all the best of luck
The same thing happens to me with my ex husband. I know how she feels ❤
Please DJ stop asking too many questions from Sister Afua it is happening
The man's character is as a result of him seeing his father treat his mother like that. Charity they say begins from home
Mmmmmmm its rather his mother who was abusing her husband's family members
The problem has to do with these quickly arranged marriages. No matter who you are you might encounter challenges in the early stages of your marriage
Hmmmmm is work for some peoples oo
I feel her pain sis take heart ❤ i understand you the same thing happens to me .
You have been through a lot you are such a great woman, may Almighty God continue to take care of you and your children ❤ 🙏 ♥ by the blood of Jesus. AMEN 🙏 🙏 🙏
Her husband was not mature enough to marry and had children, and not ready to be a father, husband. He wanted to be married and lived a single life, if you never been in her situation you wouldn’t understand her. There are some men who are selfish and don’t have respect, and they don’t care about their wives well being and I know what I’m talking about. I was in the same situation but her’s was too much. She has suffered a lot in her marriage and life, dj follow her up as she is saying and see who’s telling the truth. Hmm 🤔😮😳
One dude saw my daughter write my wall, he saw some kids do same to thier parents wall, he preached with it that the kids are not trained and called them all kinds of names. He complain when parents take care of kids. He wanted to date me I said know this guy was like he saw a ladies pant under black. The guy will be a horrible husband
I don’t know some men don’t want children but still want to give birth just to waste someone’s daughter life k3k3. God is watching y‘all and u will surely get ur reward from heaven
Hmmmmm Hey this Woman u are indeed a great woman
She did a great job. It's true that in Toronto if you join the wrong crowd, it will not end you well. I have my fiur kids in private school and it's not easy if you want your children to succeed. You will feel like you are left out because you're investing everything in the kids but we pray to God the work will not be in vain
Amen
It’s sad! Such a wonderful woman, she love the gentleman but the gentleman doesn’t understand her situation.
I think the man didn't love her that much!
I love this woman, she said, i don't believe in divorce, i like that....God bless sister...
Don't worry,be happy
Very sad story. You went through a lot Maame. A lot of women are in this same situation and really hard to come out with such a situation. Thanks for sharing. God will see you through.
Am also a single mother with 3 kids
Aww! So sad, may God help married women.
May you have the joy of the Lord
This woman's story is so real and true to me hmmm
Sis, you deserve better
They say if you have not walked through someone's shoes, be careful before you criticize him. But there is not doubt in my mind that this guy is just a jerk. But he is a product of his parents. For all those who are raising children out there, remember you are raising someone's husband or wife. Being wealthy does not mean you raise robots. Use common sense.