5 Tips for Online Dating - Christian Dating Advice
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- Опубліковано 5 чер 2024
- We (Dustin & Megan) hope to provide you with Christian Dating Advice that is practical. We successfully navigated online dating and hope our experience can help you. Here are 5 tips to navigate the wilderness wisely.
Blessings - Dustin & Megan
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We hope these practical tips help! What are some online dating tips that you would share?
What A Blessing... Thanks Lord For Your Wisdom... Great Job Vessels ‼️✝️🙏🏾🫂
Oh, you guys are right about the daily texts of saying "Good Morning"... You start to feel like you're in a "relationship" with someone, and you havent even MET the guy yet! I experienced that first-hand myself... 🙄 We met online, but never actually met in person at all... Boy was I gullible, texted with him for like 2 or 3 months- Stupid!!! 😣
That is so tough. I remember feeling like my emotions got so messed with because I found out I wasn’t the only one this guy was talking to, so it made no sense that he was texting me that way.
It’s healthy to set those boundaries ahead of time to allow a more organic connection to form and hopefully not one that leads to hurt. It’s a lesson we learned from and can hopefully help others with!
-M
"Flirting provides a pseudo intimacy" SO GOOD!!!!!! 👏👏👏
🔥 so true!
We could have used this quote last night when we spoke at a youth group. Forgot about it! - D&M
Great job guys! I hope this reaches hundreds of people in need of this exact advice and makes a difference in their lives. Super proud of you ❤️
Thank you for knowing our heart to help others! 🥰 I love you momma!
This is great stuff, guys! Well done! Looking forward to seeing and listening to more of your great content!
Thanks so much for your encouragement and helping us select the audio gear. Still learning how to use it in the best way, but it makes it so simple.
Great advice. Thanks.
We hope it helps in the process - D&M
Lots of wisdom in this video. Thank you.
Thanks for the encouragement! We hope it helps!
I went on two dates recently using Hinge. As far as I can tell both of these women are Christians and one thing I appreciated from both of them is they did not take out their phones the entire time we were on the date.
That is amazing when someone gives you their full attention, undistracted.
Dustin...You Get It ‼️ Your A GREAT Dude ‼️
Thanks for the encouragement!
I had to show Megan this comment 😂
God Bless your Union! ❤
Thanks so much! God bless you too!
Just dab into this video and I feel encouraged because I am tired of all I see online now I keep on asking if it's possible to find the right one online
Online dating can feel discouraging. We definitely felt that way.
We are so happy to hear it lifted your spirit a bit. Praying for you in the dating journey! You’ll find someone!
Thanks so much for this good tips and you guys looks great together.
God bless bless your beautiful heart for sharing , I have given up on online dating app and site couple of times because you don't meet decent people, genuine, God fearing and matured people out there.
But I will take this tips serious and pray for God's timing.
Thanks you guys , God bless you ♥️♥️
We are praying for you in this journey! It’s not easy, but you deserve someone amazing and I hope we can help you get one step closer to that. ☺️
Thank you for sharing with us!
Thanks so much , for fact that you guys are praying for me am really grateful.
I have a lot to share and I know at the right time God will make it happen, 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼♥️
So true!
good grief online dating seems to be such hard work...can humans get back to "analogue" meets & mingles?! lol!!!
😂 yeah, it was hard, but just a different hard from “analogue” dating.
I would agree, if you have opportunities to meet people “analogue” style, go for it!
Good thought!
Just found your channel, and loving the content! I have a question. At what point did you both make your relationship official (bf/gf)? Who first brought up the conversation and when did that happen? Is there a rough timeline as to taking things too slowly vs too quickly. Or is it just purely vibes?
So glad to have this conversation because it is so critical to the dating journey. Also, thanks for watching!
As the man, I felt it was my responsibility to take most of the initiative on this front because I wanted the initial vulnerability/risk of rejection to be on me so Megan could feel safe and secure.
Towards the beginning, after each date (either at the end or in the following days), I communicated my intent and interest so Megan wasn’t left guessing where I stood.
Throughout the journey, she knew that my intent and interest was deepening as I communicated different things: 1. I was interested, 2. I wanted to get to know her more and develop this friendship, 3. I saw this as journey to see if we were a good match to get married, 4. That I loved her, and 5. I popped the question, will you marry me.
Most heartbreak during dating happens when intimacy exceeds the commitment level. By me being clear, she knew where my commitment was so we didn’t get too intimate for where we were (side note: this is why I believe God designed sex for the covenant of marriage, it takes a lifelong commitment to steward the gift of intimacy).
I hope this helps!
Thanks for the encouragement,
Dustin & Megan
Thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement! I love your videos! You mention you met online. Do you mind sharing what dating app you used or recommend.
Thanks for the encouragement!
We’ve had a blast making them. We’ve slowed down in recent months because we have a new little one, but hope to be back making videos here soon.
We used the app Christian Mingle. We were trying to find an app that not only had quantity (opportunity to meet people) but quality (high character, love Jesus) people.
Hope this helps you if you decide to try online dating and whatever app you choose.
@@dustin_and_megan thank you and God Bless your little one!
I have just subscribed here ...i needed this coz am giving up on online dating😢
I’m sorry, it sounds like either the experience has been rough or just unfruitful. Whether you meet someone online or another way, we hope to be an encouragement to you in the process! It’s definitely not an easy process but there is still hope in the outcome.
God’s plan is better than you imagine!
@@dustin_and_meganthank you ..
Phillipians 4:13 🇺🇬 hoping for the best soon or later .
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You are doing amazing things to advance the Kingdom of Heaven! Thanks for your encouragement and friendship!
Thank you.
Glad to hear it helped!
Hi
That's been my biggest issue with online dating, guys not taking the "initiative" to call me directly & to then set up an "in-person" date! That's what gets VERY frustrating (oh, and also men who talk about themselves, instead of asking questions about me)
I can relate to that as well. The whole point of talking to someone with potential interest is to get to know them. That never made sense to me either.
We hope we can inspire godly men to start stepping up and taking initiative in this culture.
You deserve to be sought after. You can prompt for those phone calls and in person dates but if you have to keep fighting for them, he is probably not the guy.
Praying, M
❤❤❤❤
Amen
So glad to hear it resonated!
Can definitely relate to the one sided conversation I rarely get any likes or matches on dating apps but I matched with this one lady we both liked art and it was made obvious on our profile but I was the only one asking questions so it just didn’t feel worry Pursuing… what online dating platform did you guys meet on? 😊
That’s kind of par for the course.
There have been studies that guys rate ladies higher while ladies rate guys lower overall.
Guys will do more messaging while ladies will be more selective.
Don’t let that discourage you though.
We met on Christian Mingle. I encountered a lot of the same things.
I hope this helps. Praying for you.
Thankyou ❤😊it does help 🥰
I have a question for you guys. How long would you talk to someone on a dating app before you ask them on a date?
If it’s going well, no longer than a week. If it’s longer, it begins to be torture for a lady and communicates a lack of initiative and intent on behalf of the guy.
I asked Megan on a FaceTime/call date because you find out so much more talking than texting. It was a low commitment opportunity for us to get to know each other since we were 3 hrs away.
Also, by talking, you can determine quickly if there is even a mutual interest to get to know each other more.
These are rules of thumb and you will need to use discernment to make a decision.
It is hard to give advice when we lack all the context though (you, her, etc.). But that is our recommendation based on how our own interaction went!
Song: “Getting to know you. Getting to know all about you”.
So true! Spot on! That is the joy of relationships!
What would you recommend to do first a phone call/FaceTime or ask her on a date?
I would rank them from best to worst in regards to the opportunity to get to know someone.
1. In-person date
2. Face Time Date
3. Phone Date
In person is going to give you the best chance to know a person and gauge further interest.
However, I did ask Megan on a face-time date initially because we were three hours apart. So it was less commitment and investment to get that initial chance to talk.
I hope this helps you decide how to proceed.
Megan Adds:
If you’re in close proximity, I would go for the in person date in a public place where she’ll feel safe and secure. If you’re hours away, a FaceTime call is a good initial encounter.
Keep in mind that each one comes with a new level of nerves. Texting usually isn’t too nerve wracking. A phone call can create some, a FaceTime does even more because one or both might be worried about how they appear, and in person is definitely going to be the most nerve wracking but also the most rewarding in knowing if either party wants to continue getting to know one another.
Because of this, I think too many people give up early on. I’m thankful Dustin kept coming around even though I was shy in the beginning.
@@dustin_and_megan thank you for the advice it really helped how I could best approach the situation God bless you both
Hey, do you have any particular Christian Dating Apps you recommend.
Whatever app you choose will have an impact on the quantity and quality of people (with intention of marriage and love for Jesus).
Christian Mingle - this is what we used. We met a variety of people during our time on the app. Different goals, intentions, and even level of faith.
Upward - we had a friend have a bad relationship form, but we also had another friend meet through there and are getting married. It seems less of a commitment type app overall though.
Dating apps have all kinds of people but not everyone has the intention of marriage, sadly even Christians, or even the same values.
So truly it’s more about learning others intentions before you start seriously talking.
Not too helpful on the specific app to choose, but I hope it helps you think about what app to choose.
CDFF is free and Christian Filipina is also good. :)
Her friends showed up at their date? I've had that happen and they tried to play it off like it was an accident. I could tell it wasn't. I wasn't cool with it at all. No 2nd date from me.
Yeah, it could feel over the top.
I think the lady has the right to do that. In our case, Megan didn’t ask them to, but also I was a stranger she met online.
I was also okay with it, because I wanted Megan to feel and be safe. We actually changed the location so it would be in a more public venue because I first picked a more secluded place by accident.
Little bit confused? You say don't flirt from the start but have a laugh whilst joking with each other? Well Isnt that flirting? Some good advice but also i think some over complications and deepening of something very minor maybe?
I appreciate you posting this thought and question.
I’ll have to admit we probably didn’t communicate that the best. This was one of our first attempts at making a UA-cam video.
I think there is a difference in being friendly versus being flirty, but they exhibit similar mannerisms.
The definition of flirt I think highlights it best.
2 a : to behave amorously without serious intent
//He flirts with every attractive woman he meets.
b : to show superficial or casual interest or liking
There is a lack of intent.
For example, men can flirt to emotionally woo a lady just to have sex with her or affirm his ego. In this case, he has no intent for her.
Hopefully that clarifies a bit.