Juicy Q&A: Relationship Struggles, Spirituality & Another Baby? // Vlogmas Day 11
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Raya, my husband was 15 yrs older than me. We had 39 wonderful yrs before my husband passed away (he was 75 & i was 60). He was completely the love of my life. He was active & vibrant in "every" way his entire life with me. There was never a time that i felt like i made a mistake. I would say neither of you worry about your relationship changing as Louis ages. You both will begin to age together. My husband never "outgrew" his desire for our time together be sweet, romantic, exciting, & share in everything. Love each other as today is the last day to express/show your love for each other. Best wishes to you all. I love the "Raya and Louis" channel.
That’s beautiful to read. My partner and I are 12 years apart. He is one of the best things to happen to me ❤we’ve been talking about getting married. He definitely the worrier in the relationship, but I’m just hoping for many, many years I can (hopefully) have with him. He is very youthful in his heart 😄
I am an OG viewer of 9+ years who has never commented. I just wanted you both to know how great your Vlogmas series has been!! I'll be sad when it is done! Neo is absolutely adorable and you both are so fun (and inspiring) to watch. ❤
Ah thank you so so much! ❤️
My husband (deceased now) of 43 yrs was 10 yrs older. We both loved it! I graduated from high school in 1971 & thought boys my age we self-centered & fairly thoughtless (sorry for the generality). My husband was self-assured & stable and knew how to treat a 'lady'. It was a wonderful life.
Btw he was very active with our kids! He was 42 when our 1st (a son) was born.
I have friends , who's kids are now in their late teens who were schooled in steiner, montessori, home schooling and un schooling. One, some or all of these,. Some chose later on deciding to go to mainstream secondary school and some , particularly after covid decided their time in mainstream was a toxic waste of their time and home schooled making more time for their interests of art, sport or animal of which they thrived.I have to say these kids are the most incredible connected, determined focused , balanced humans I have ever met.Deeply connected to nature, no interest in social media or gaming and....the maturity kind of blows my mind, and really gives me hope for the world.
So I'm glad you are open to embrace this way of education
Education through play is profound.
I proudly call myself stay at home mom and homemaker and I love every minute of it ❤
The best!
I literally tell my routine to people so they know how I’m a mom. I love the passion subject, I feel the same. I’m hoping to go back to school as soon as I get my paperwork done.
raya i think you are such an example to the world it would be beautiful to share things you are confortable to share as probably so many can identify and learn and feel great about hearing, dont worry about the justifying, ignore those, you are such a goood vibe girl
Loved this Q and A. It was interesting, gave some back story of things I wasn't aware of; and most importantly, showed vulnerability on both of your parts, which is always a comfort to witness in people. Thanks!
You two are doing an AWESOME job at mixing your life with Neo's life. Even with children you live how you want to and they adapt. You guys are going to have an amazing family dynamic!
Perfect thing to listen to while I work 😊❤thanks for all the fun content!!
Loving this advent calendar treat of a series 😁
Louis, will we get to see more of the Beetle conversion series? I feel like it's been ages since there was an update video.
A Merry Christmas to the 3 of you 🙂🎅🎄
Your family brings so much joy.
Thank you so much for doing the daily vlog. It has been something I look forward to - to disconnect. I know it’s a lot of work for you. Cheers.
Just have to say, your graphics on your intro are awesome! Sending love!
You two are so adorable! I've enjoyed watching from Minnesota. I'll be 71 this January. Having my children was the most fun fulfilling thing that ever happened to me and it was enough. Thrift shopping was a favorite past time of mine. To find quality for a bargain was a blast. I just love how you two think ❤.
I know this has been hard to vlog every day . I have really been enjoying it. Thank you
Definitely a good one! Thank you.
Merry Christmas
I love this so much! The questions were so good and your answers so real and honest.
Thanks for bringing smiles daily to us ...it os a Christmas treat! ❤
Thank you for taking the time out to share your beautiful family with us and your love for the most meaningful things in life. All the little things that count the most. From eachother, thrifting and health to the outward expression of your excitement for the things most people take for granted or pass through the day and don’t think to stop and appreciate. Im encouraged and inspired. I know you feel so blessed to have Neo, but certainly her is so blessed to have you both. 😊 …by the way…how stinkin cute is he!!! 🥰
Been following you guys for quite a long time, and I don't often comment but I have to say that I have really been enjoying those Christmas vlogs. I like how you find different activities to do and it makes me dive into the Christmas spirit that I struggle more and more to find over the years. So thank you both and see you in the next videos :)
Hi Raya and Louis really enjoyed this Q&A you two are great I love your transparency it really showed and I love that about you two. Thankyou for sharing xxx
I also really want 3 kids after having 1! Honestly, finances are what mentally hold me back from potentially having 3 kids. I definitely want to be able to help my kids if they want to go to college, etc later in life and providing for 3 kids seems kind of daunting but we’ll see! It also took me 2 years to get pregnant with our first baby so who knows what trying for more babies will look like. I am just so grateful to have one ❤.
Also, as a fellow new mom I completely relate to Raya talking about her identity. I’m also nursing and the selflessness you need for that is incredible. I’m so thankful I’ve been able to nurse, but I also look forward to having a bit more independence as she gets older and having more time for my own hobbies. And to Louis, I truly appreciate your comments about it being enough to be a mother ❤
YES just like Raya said - I didn't even recognize myself (mentally) anymore after taking years of birth control pills. Not many talks about the horrifying side effects so thank you Raya for bringing it up.
I feel like you guys would really love a play based Montessori or Waldorf school. My son’s school has a strong focus on community and nature.
Definitely! Good suggestion. One of my friends just retired from teaching at a Waldorf school in Ohio. From the things she talked about, it seems like a great way to raise your kid to be independent, adventurous, compassionate, wise, and giving.
You guys are so adorable and I love following your family in this new adventure
Love you guys! Had so much fun hanging out with you through the screen and listening to these answers even if I knew most already :) can't wait to see you all in person. come to Costa Rica already!!!! - Kristen
Ah just saw this - we miss you!! Hope to come back to CR asap! ❤️❤️
Loved this! Can't wait for tomorrow :) you both have truly inspired me into wanting a little family. I want my husband to be like Louis and I want to be a mom like Raya. You're so intentional, it's beautiful!
I'd love to hear you talk more about spirituality because I feel a special connection. I think you're underestimating the impact and reach you'd have❤
i love these Vlogs so much!! Thank you for sharing and love you guys!
Nice to get to know you two a little better.
I had to laugh at the stifled yawns throughout this vlog - both of you in minutes 29 and 30 - which absolutely identify you as new parents! :) I bet every parent watching can empathise!
Merry Christmas.
You guys are awesome thanks for the vlogs during Christmas great entertainment. Watching from east coast Canada🎉 ❤
Absolutely loved this video,thanks for sharing your thoughts ❤
It is so beautiful how you two are absolutely both glowing with beaming smiles when talking about Neo
I think you guys balance each other beautifully! And I love how Raya realizes this. As she says, she is always seeking balance, and what a specacular thing to seek! Louis is more laid back, whereas Raya stresses more, and yet, those two personality traits or learned behaviors blend well together. When you concentrate on the strength of being laid back and the strength of worrying, you become one united strong force. There is so much you guys can learn from each other and you seem to be doing it. Now that's a beautiful couple!
Yey for alternative learning!
I'm so proud of you guys too 😁🙏😍🥰.. cause there are bugger all people doing vlogmas .. and you guys are going gangbusters 😘❤️❤️
loved this!!!
hiiiiiiiiiiii, im loving seeing you guys, truly you guys represent the best Advent Calendar!
Ah this is so sweet, thank you! ❤️
My partner and I are 23 and I feel so blessed that you guys are so open about your lives, relationship etc. for us to learn from! I feel like I'm a couple of steps in life behind you guys and by watching your videos, I get a little taste into what life can bring in the future 😌🍃
Lots of love 🙌
I've totally noticed negative side effects from taking BC, definitely something to take into consideration. Love the Q&A!
Thank you for your candidness…and you are so right…your new chapter of life takes time to adjust….i remember those same struggles and now that I am entering retirement….find the same challenges of adjusting to the new normal…my choices to stay engaged are volunteering…birding and calligraphy….sending love
I am so happy Louis bought up the idea around expectations around the modern woman. Couldn’t agree more. Glad you guys are doing well x
I've not watched a q&a with you guys before so feel like this really made me get to know you guys a bit better, like who you are and what you stand for, and I've gotta say I have so much love & respect for these answers ❤ just your views on the world and values in life, really felt you on so many of these, thanks for being so open with us 🥰
Thank you so much! ❤️
Louis nailed it and I've said the thing we are all human no matter what are beliefs are ❤️
I love your vlogs, especially vlogmas it’s such a treat! I’m in the US but preschool/kindergarten I went to Montessori school. I’m sure maybe you’ve heard of it but it’s more based on the child’s natural interests and playing.
For me I remember playing inside and outside at times, and I know you guys mentioned at one point you had talked about wanting Neo to be outside and such. I really enjoyed it and then my parents put me in the public school system which was such a drastic difference, but I love the ideas of the montessori concepts!
growing up in LA in the 60's around soooo many different people . From different places, dif religions, lgbtq, straight crossdressers , poly, actors, celebs. rich poor.... Whew so glad !
Love your parenting vibes x
FINALLY, after years, I get a question answered in a Raya & Louis Q&A (influencer question) 😂❤
I love the way ya’ll are thinking of schooling. I did the same with my two! I home schooled with a Montessori approach when very young then transitioned them into teaching them toward their interest and learning styles. For example, my son is very analytical and has always loved buttons/electronics so we focused all his subjects around that type of study. Whereas my daughter was very how things work (i.e. this causes that) so we focused on more on nature and we studied each subject with that slant. There are so many options now you are right to do lots of research and take your time…I have no doubt the two of you will make figure out what will work best for your little man!!! Vlogmas just like all your videos is so much fun…thanks for doing it…but, don’t put too much pressure on yourself!! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!!
Loved this.
Loved this❤🎉
What's wild is, I just realised Raya is the first relationship I ever saw Louis share on UA-cam in over 10 years... Is that right or am I forgetting?!
I think you are right.
I love the way Louis looks at Raya ❤ you can tell they are a solid couple x
I remember Rachel but they never said if they were dating so who knows lol
Yay first one! I love your vlogmas!
I really appreciated your answers on becoming a vegan especially the ethical side, I became vegan after watching Earthlings in 2015, it was like a light switched on and could never be dimmed. All cognitive dissonance lifted I became so much more aware of everything around me, then when I watched Cowspiracy it cemented the environmental impact. I have never felt more healthy and alive and balanced in the world. thank you for sharing xxxx
Do a bed day! 🙏🙏🙏🙏 it would be so realistic lol.....I had one today but I've had a bit of flu. Loving vlogmas. Lots of love x
Understanding that Everything is impermanent is very liberating, especially if you can not get too attached to anything. Go with the flow! Took me way too long to learn this.
Totally understand the plant medicine journey! When it’s something so special and life changing it’s not like you won’t talk about it if asked but it’s something you want to keep sacred and positive because it is. 🥰
Would you mind expanding on what plant medicine is? When I googled it, not much came up to explain what it is.
Question for future q&a! Because you’re vegan a assume Neo will be vegan as well of course. However I’m wondering how and if you’re gonna introduce him to allergens like egg, fish and dairy because it’s recommended to do so to help the child develop tolerance for these things? I’m just curious
You should have done this vlogmas from bed, so that you could have felt rested ready for Neo to wake you up early 😊
Love it ❤ love getting to know you more 🎉
Neo and Auckland are about the same age and I agree with you on not even thinking about another kid right now. It's so sweet to pour all of yourself into the child you have and be present.
Yes LOVE watching his little tongue out .
Good for you for not drinking ! Louis looks great!
Home maker here and proud as a natural, purposeful pride. My family are my purpose. 💚🙏🏾
Lovely video ❤ agree with recommendations for making informed decision regarding birth control, however important to flag the benefits (i.e. contraception!) and individual specific risks are a personal decision rather than generalisations ❤
Find yourself someone the way that Louis looks at Raya and gets so distracted that he asks to ask what the question is again🥹💕love you guys! Thanks for being so open with us!
Your relationship is so inspirational……..❤❤❤
What could help with being a worrier; read The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer.
30:42 so important to remember that we are human beings; not human doings ❤❤
Ooh I'm exited about the schooling documentary! I live in Finland and my oldest two (4 and 6) go to nursery here but, it's very different to British nursery. They spend a lot more time outdoors in the woods (even in the deep snow.) Kids don't start school here until 7. However we will be moving home to Scotland (where I grew up) soon and I want to go down the alternate schooling/home educating.
The way Louis looks at you is so cute 🥺❤️
Oh please look into Steiner/Waldorf schools.. my grandkids went and it was the best education
What about Waldorf school? It is amazing. The children have their own garden they grow vegetables in, they have animals, learn how to do stone sculptures, work with wood and are very creative! They also do theatre, dance and music.
-- Sounds wonderful! I wish that I could have gone to a school like that. 😊👍
Yes! My daughter goes to a Waldorf and it’s wonderful ♥️
Nationalism is a major reason behind all conflicts. You're modeling being citizens of the world and it's beautiful ❤
7:30 you'll get there, don't worry. I'm the same, Raya. And it has it's moments of being useful! ❤❤
You should read the book called dumbing us down.. it’s about the compulsory school system and opened my eyes so much!
I have 6 kids. I chose to take 4 of them all at once. You would be surprised what you can do when you love, and having a big family is great fun! Oh, and you always have a team to call when you need help.
Man, if I would’ve told my dad growing up that I wanted to “learn through play.”😂
Sleeping yesss!!❤❤
Would love to hear more about your plant journey love ❤. Birth control always affected my mood wayyy too much when I was 14 trying to take it. I stopped immediately and I'm glad I did after just learning that it can cause strokes. (They run in my family as well😢). Love the channel & both your honesty. Seem like great people 😊. I just gave birth to my first son this November and love hearing about your journey with your little one as well 💙
I Love The New Version of Raya ❤
I do not miss the sleepless nights. Ours are 9 and 11 and I'm so glad they came close together. It got us through the tricky bit faster.
You two are so cool
The tongue thing that Neo is doing is him rubbing his gums, which is a sign of teething 😊 it’s so funny when they do it
Marijuana really helps my anxiety and obsessive-compulsive side. It just relaxes me like no other. If that's what you mean by "plant medicine," I fully agree. There are many benefits when used properly.
That talk by Sir Ken Robinson was extremely enlightened
Oh I watched an old episode of Fun For Louis back from 2015 and louis mate was already vegan and telling Louis about it. They went had a meal and louis was eating a plate of meat and he actually said on the vlog "See, I could never be vegetarian because I just love meat too much" when I heard that I lolled. People change, it was interesting.
HI Raya and Loius, I found your channel from watching Kara and Nate and I think Ya'll are so great together! With that being said.....after the Vlogmas series,when will we see another new video??? I look almost every day for a new one from ya'll and from Eamon and Bec but haven't seen one. I do know that having a baby is an all consuming thing (I have 4 kids, all now adults) but I really miss you guys!!!
I'm sorry that I don't get to comment a whole lot but I want you to know I have enjoyed every minute of the vlogs. I cant wait to see you building your dream house in Costa Rica. You have been such an encouragement to me, especially on my newly Vegan path, I felt almost like giving up. Living in the South (USA) it is hard to be vegan without being judged.
Have a look at Atelier 21 Future School. Definitely an option for the future if you’re going to base in West Sussex at least some of the time.
the owl lol....plant spirits saying hello through mother cacao x
I think a worrier can take on the worry of someone chiller and they can get more chill because they know the worrier will thinking through everything… so you can become even more different in a long term relationship.
Looping in schools is the best!! Finland does it
I so relate to the mom guilt. I work 40 hours a week and for an American I get more paid time off than usual which we plan to travel together more next year (my 2nd was just born in March) and for now my income provides us a level of comfort that I am not sure we could get anywhere else. With this I just make sure I truly take the time even if it is 30mins to sit on the floor and play with my girls. On the weekends we get outside more and I take advantage of family nights at museums to take the time even during the week to do something special. How ever you are “mommying” these days it’s hard but so worth it!
Loved this and thank you for opening up to us. On my breast feeding journey, my 5mo started teething at 4 mo and let me tell you Raya, it has presented its challenges 😬
In a way, I'd be glad he hasn't got teeth yet.
Pray your child never chips his teeth ...omg .. my Son did this and it was a nightmare feeding him 😢.. I'm still feeding him but I make sure I'm holding him in the right position otherwise it hurts like hell!
Before refrigeration we ate lots more pickled and salted food (with less obesity). Our gut biome benefited from the vinegar and salt.
You belong wherever you are in the present moment.💞
Schooling is important for socialization and I think you’d love the Montessori method. A Montessori preschool was great for us because we also wanted our little one to have a lot of outside time and not in a classroom when so young. You can also find Montessori grade schools
I started homeschool this year, and I will have to say that my kids have never been so socialized. We are doing so much more together and with other people/kids. Honestly we love it! I'm experiencing more socialization than my years at public school! Homeschool can look however you want it to look 😊
I love Montessori! Both my kids went through 6th grade in a small Montessori school. That said, plenty of ways for homeschooled kids to be socialized ❤
Vegan family here also 🥰. Would love to see more about herbalism!! I see lots of people fermenting garlic in honey but could u use agave instead? Love to hear your thoughts 💚
Merry Christmas