*Your emotions shouldn't be your child's problem.* My mom: I'm gonna pretend I didn't see that. *Your daughter shouldn't be worried about coming home to see you angry* My mom: That sign can't stop me because I can't read. *Your trauma isn't your son's fault* My mom: I am looking away
As a Christian ally of LGBT+ and science, I’m sincerely sorry for our community. It’s embarrassing. And I sincerely apologize for all the hateful idiots and parents who believe their children can’t be themselves. Sorry.
(: yo reading this made me happy (not a Christian but was raised Christian so it means a lot) my family is supportive too so its nice to know there are others who support the LGBT+ community
As someone who relies on antidepressants, losing them for more than 36 hours usually sends me into a depressive spiral that it takes me weeks to get out of. Any more than 48 and I become very s**c*d*l. To that parent: If you take away your kid's antidepressants for too long, you might not have a kid anymore. Keep that in mind.
That'd be the same as taking any medication away from a kid. It woukd be the same as if my mother had taken away the mountains of vitamin and iron supplements I was on for years, and then wondered why I passed out. Mental illness is just as valid as physical illness, and the medication to treat it is just as important! Why do people struggle to understand this??
My friend is really good with kids. He was with his niece and she started to throw a temper tantrum in the car. He calmly explained that she is allowed to be upset and nothing is wrong with it, she just can't throw a tantrum like that. After she said "okay", he reached back and held her hand. He managed to calm her down without telling her she was in the wrong.
Man, it honestly makes me sad that these types of "parents" exist. Children deserve better parents than these people who aren't even fit to raise a child.
I know someone who has these parents unfortunately, and I’m trying to help her as best as possible to leave that household. Even if we’re in different countries
I heard a great quote once that went something like " 'You only have one family.' Yeah I only got one appendix too but when that f*cks with your health you cut that sh*t out of your life." You have no obligation to put up with toxic people, even if you're related. Real family is the one you make and choose for yourself.
I had one gallbladder. Had emergency removal of it because it got infected. My urine looked brown by the time I was hospitalized, that's how sick I was. It could've killed me, just like my mother could have. Now I'm free of both 🤷🏻♀️
Ah, yes. My parents didn't get the "let you kids make mistakes" thing. Took me out of any sport or extracurricular activity if I wasn't perfect the first time. Now they wonder why I never do anything new and have horrible anxiety when it comes to doing anything alone 🤔
Think about how many people who are traumatized to see in public because of their parents shedding them down as a kid. Oh wow your kid doesn't sound good when they sing Let It Go from Frozen a song that Idina Menzel herself has to lower the key or sometimes even lip sync the high note wow I can't believe your kid can't sing Let It go. Children will sing some of the hardest songs ever written then parents instead of trying to get their kids vocal lessons or anything will just completely destroy their self-confidence. Seriously think about the songs that were in Disney movies and think about who the people were who actually say them. Beauty and the Beast Celine dion, hero from Hunchback or Notre Dame Mariah carey, Reflection from Mulan Christina aguilera. Yeah of course your kid without any vocal training is going to sound crap when singing those.
I love the argument made about not taking antidepressants and how restricting them is around the same as taking away crutches for a broken bone. My father took away both when my knee cap sorta stopped working because he was mad I went back to my mom for the week
@@alijahrearick9998 oh It's good that things are getting better and that you didn't have any big consequences, especially since walking on injured limbs can sometimes basically fck them up for life
"Blood is thicker than water" ... BUT the full quote is "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb". The bonds you make are more important than the bonds you happen to be born with.
parents who give their kids meme names don't love them. They hate them and may actually lead to their suicide. They will absolutely be removed from any wills, phone books, invitation lists, etc etc.
That exact reason makes me wonder about how those two kids are doing now, you know "Vagina" and "Dovakin"? Why don't we have laws in place for that? Or at least stricter ones?
@@Kai-iy3kk doe-va-keen I'm pretty sure it's supposed to be the word "dragonborn" in Skyrim's dragon language. I haven't played the game in forever, tho
When he said "like we talked about" I realised how much this feels like your cool uncle giving you advice on how to deal with your overbearing parents.
That one about the person vowing to never be a toxic parent reminds me of when i was accepted to an art college with a scholarship, i just needed the $500 entrance fee within a month or so. My dad refused to even lend me the money or allow me to try to attend the school solely bc it was out of state. I couldn't save up enough money in time and had a panic attack, i'd been so excited to finally get into a school i thought i'd enjoy, i'd visited it with my friend and loved the campus and location. My dad had admitted he had plenty of money and it wouldn't have made a dent in any of the finances, but simply didn't want to afford any to me for my future because he couldn't be bothered with the idea of me attending a school out of state, no matter how i felt about it.
I find it funny that people's kids were brought into this world literally without their own permission and their parents expect them to almost be slaves for them and do whatever they say without question. Well, I actually don't find it funny. It infuriates me.
Oh, don't forget the screaming after every mistake, and the obligatory "oh stop overreacting" whenever you ask them to stop or mention how badly they're treating you.
@Do Not Disturb no, the children didn’t ask to be born, the parent decided to bring them in this world. So the kid does not owe the parent anything. Tell that to your mom.
This subreddit is like when a villain in a book messes up the protagonist’s whole life and you can’t do anything about it but watch. This is that feeling
@Reyna Ortiz Rodriguez glad that your not the only one in this rough storm but concerned on why u went through it or that's how I view it. don't stress
The answer is to seek therapy, stat. It'll help you understand & address the root cause of anger or at least some healthy coping skills when triggered. ❤ As the other commenter said, there's absolutely room for growth, bc recognizing & accepting we have issues is the first step! The problem with most of these insane parents is they refuse to even recognize they have an issue. So you're already on your way to improvement! Proud of you! 😃❤ Oh also! I promise the anger gets better with age & wisdom! The more you learn the less reactionary you become! So reading as much as you can about life, politics, social issues, psychology will help immensely. That's what has helped me with my anger so far! ❤ Seriously, it has helped SO much!! 🙏🏻
I swear I’ll tell people, in older generations, I go to sleep at 6am and they treat me like a kid who only plays video games till 6 am. Even after I tell I work night shifts, go to the gym at a 24 hour gym, and take college classes on you days off. It drives me insane.
"The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" Meaning sometimes your chosen relationships carry more significance than those you're born into. This phrase pops up in my head a lit on this sub
My aunts boyfriend: I’m not transphobic but I won’t respect they’re pronouns unless they have had the surgery and have the right body parts Me a trans kid who can’t get the surgery: W h a t… :')
I hope the best for you! Despite being a kid and despite not having surgery yet, you deserve to be valued and treated with respect towards you identity.
Normal Parents: *can barely use a phone to text to tell you Good Morning* Insane Parents: *speedwriting a freaking novel through text trying to justify why they're right*
Fun fact: Just because someone is your kid, doesn't mean their money is your property. If you take 1,000 dollars from someone who earned their own money, kid or not, you just stole 1,000 dollars. Okay, well I haven't actually googled if that's a thing legally. I assume and hope it is. But regardless MORALLY, you just stole 1,000 dollars from someone.
I once recorded all the insults my parents told me, put them into a 2h playlist and after they told me the typical: "Why you don't stay with us longer?" I played it on my phone holding it for those 2h looking at them.
I can't believe they actually listened for longer than 10 seconds. Arn't people like that known for not listening to you? Maybe cause it was their own voices? Hypnosis?
@@jacksonlevy5464 I’m concerned because over extended periods of time, artificial hormones are known to cause cancer, and can worsen depression, anxiety, and those kinda things... I don’t want anyone going through that. If those weren’t true, I would have no issues with transitioning. I guess that means we need to get healthier alternatives to those hormones, then, if it’s possible. I don’t want anyone suffering with worsened depression, or possibly cancer over long periods of time...
@@R0mbVs eh, been thinking about it quite a bit recently. If it does cause cancer and emotional issues, then doesn’t that mean we should improve artificial hormones to the point they don’t cause cancer? Not just for trans people, but people that need artificial hormones in general. Hormones already cause emotional challenges often during puberty, and I’ve since done a bit more research on gender, and found that science does actually support gender being a spectrum. As to where I got it from, I got the information from my mom who I blindly believed through word of mouth instead of actually looking into it. Since then, I’ve become fully supportive of everyone in the LGBTQ+ community. I already completely supported gay people, bisexual people, and lesbians, but I was a bit close minded when it came to trans people. I was indoctrinated as a kid to believe in Christianity, and have finally started freeing myself from the religion, embracing things such as the LGBTQ+/GRSM community.
I read somewhere that in order to break even on someone's self esteem, you need to give 5 compliments to 1 negative criticism. That's how you avoid crushing your kid's self esteem.
"Family is a starting point, not a guarantee." < Love this. Also love what you said about echo chambers. Social media is alarmingly full of people who want to live in them.
So the homewrecker mother's defense is: "we can't help who we fall in love with." Well ex-mom, I guess you don't love your daughter or your grandkids at all. Have fun with a cheater and don't come crying to your daughter when you find out he's not in love with you.
@@cynister7384 people think kids up to 12 are stupidly dumb, stupidly irresponsible at 14 and older and no one tries to teach them how to do adult things, but suddenly at 18 you're expected to have a job paying above minimum wage, a decent car, be saving for a house, a long term relationship, be ready to declare taxes all by yourself, have at least 4 kids before 25 and somehow if you can't do these things you're a failure and an embarrassment
I remember talking to my parents about abuse one day in the car, and was talking about a friend and how her parents psychologically harmed her, and dad was like "well it's not really abuse because it wasn't physical" and I sat in silence for a good 30 seconds And I get really nervous around my parents and have learned when to not speak up for fear of getting yelled at (yelling in general really bothers me and it happens a lot which isn't great). One day my mom was punishing my sister unfairly for something she didn't even do and I tried to step in and mom just accused me of saying that she abuses us and that just really angered me, like I didn't say that?????? What??? Mad parents suck
@@moondrawsstuff1910 I only realised it was actually a type of abuse because my mum told me that one of the reasons they were getting divorce was because of the emotional/psychological abuse Now that my mum brought it to light that my father was absolute Sh*t, i can point out multiple occasions where the abuse became physical I have heard many a person say 'oh if your getting abuse then just do such and such', but the problem is actually we don't get taught enough about it and sometimes we don't even realise that we're getting abused until it's pointed out or becomes really physical
5:03 there's an even darker way to look at this - "I now know that my child's happiness is something that needs to be given to them medically and so I'm going to withhold that happiness to manipulate them"*
I worked night shift as an adult at my mothers house, trying to save up to get me and my daughter into a place of our own after losing our place due to floods. She not only woke me up every morning at six (after going to bed at 4) but she also demanded whole checks to be signed over to help support my family. 😒 I’m so glad I live over an hour away from her now. Lol
I find Click's eyes very pretty, in like, an artistic way. He would look so good in a painting, I would paint him if I could paint (I sound weird I know, please don't think I'm thinking weird things, just so yall know I'm ace) edit: thanks for the appreciation guys its good to see this community is not that cursed
My mom: "you can talk about anything to me" Me: wanting to talk about mental problems My mom: literally doesn't listen or just looks confused and doesn't say anything, not even something comforting. Now she wonders why she doesn't know me and when we meet we can't talk about anything. While I chat with my brothers, she doesn't even say a word the whole meeting, other than about the food or if she could get us something. Social level zero but also no interest to learn. I once scolded her about her talking to people about my brother's illness and arranging things without him knowing. He is 26 and capable of his own life. She started crying when I got angry about the fact that this would get my brother more sick. The last thing he wants is people rumouring about him. Then after a month she does it again and I confront her and tell her we discussed this. She looks confused and asks when. Urgh! Makes me so furious. What makes me furious is that my brother, as long as he has our two parents, he can't get well, because they are so twisted. But he needs a kind guide he can trust so badly...
@@gothiiispiderz Sadly I live 2 hours away and I am afraid he needs someone he can see multiple times a week. Of course we phone each other at least once a week but that is not the same... But he is taking his first steps in living alone without daily anxiety attacks.
Me: *tries to express how my mums actions make me feel since I was a young child* My Mum: *immediately brushes the issue under the carpet, turns it around on me being abusive, and starts rambling about inane irrelevant crap.* Me: 🤦♀️
my only friend outside of school or not online has the worst parents ever they took away her door they constantly bring up topics she is uncomfy with her own mom calls her fat and useless we are four hours away from each other and since we are both young (I'm 11 she is 13) no one takes us as its true I'm always told its cause of age and hormones and while I get that for us it is real for them it's just "Your being dramatic" I'm too scared to come out cause my grandmother says "I'm too young to understand" and all of this is going on with school and taking care of ourselves. My friend has tried to commit to self harm but only stopped cause she knows I could never really go without her like that so she stopped. It has taken a toll on our mental health and my 7-year-old brother keeps saying he's gay and depressed cause he sees it as funny I am not doing my best right now :(
Meanwhile, I'm in a good, strongly libertarian, medium-income family. And I feel like garbage because I fail school due to Random Teenage Depression. By now, I reached a new level of meta and am depressed about going down so easily to weak depression.
Back when I broke my ankle my mom refused to take me to the hospital for it. My foot was black up to my knee. I couldn't step on it or it would buckle. 4 years later I have trouble walking on it and my mom still won't take me to the hospital. She's says I'm dramatic.
20:03 Something I've believed since I was little: Related does not mean family. Related means you happen to share ancestry. Family means you're there for each other, through thick and thin
I live in a state where parents can give there kids the boot at 16. I'm in a discord group for DnD and there's people of all ages there, so we made our own group that's people from the same state, so that maybe one day after Rona we can actually all get together and play irl. The youngest in our group just turned 16 and immediately got kicked out by his mom so she could move in her bf and his kids. We lived close enough that I went to help out, and his mom literally watched as I, an adult stranger, took her kid and his property. He's in my guest room rn. Wtf is wrong with people...
I live with my grandma, and my mom comes over at least once every other day. I say: "Hallo, mom! How's your day goin?" The she responds with: "Have you gotten your schoolwork done?!" Me: "No??? It takes me more than a day to get a week's worth of work done...?" Her: "Ugh. I don't wanna hear it! Did you get it done, or not?!" Me: "No." Her: "*nothing* *cricket noises*"
same tbh my parents said that i just "have to pray to god more" like bruh i asked him to lighten my weight on this miserable life i have and he didn't do anything and that's because i asked them to see if they would like me to go to therapy guess i have to be free first to even get a chance to fix my deepest underlying issues
Some parents expect their kids to act like high level butler's, able to do every possible job in a moment while always keeping emotions capped off. But the kid hasn't even learned how to act casually yet. Like what???
5:21 There’s a term for this. It’s called medical abuse. My friend “Ruby’s” biological father did this recently, withholding her anxiety medication. She was also scared of him and I had to help her hide from him for about an hour at a party.
Jesus that's horrible! I can't imagine people, much less a parent, treating anyone like that. Shit like this makes me wish I had superpowers. So I could deck horrible parents in the nose!
Me: looking up herbal home remedies on line and using essential oils My family: your going to grow up to be one of those crazy face book ladies that kill their children from their stupidity Me: looking up if there is science behind home remedies for allergies and muscle pain and using lavender essential oils to help reduce stress Also me: yeah, what ever you say, I'm just the mistake
Honey and lemon good for a sore throat, but I hear one more person try to tell me thieves oil prevents COVID-19 because it protected doctors from the bubonic plague one more time I'm chucking this planet into the sun!
As long as any future kids (then again, you might not want any, so this is completely irrelevant lmao) get the vaccines they need, there's literally no issue with that smh
I drink herbal tea and use energizing candles (they mostly smell like ginger or mint and eucalyptus) but I know it's only for minor things, and the smells only go so far
@@moonlightscholar1215 Same. I like essential oils because there’s something comforting about diffusing their scent. I also know they’re not a magical cure for illness
There really needs to be a required parenting course for people who want kids, just to teach them what they should do if a kid does this or that, so we are more likely to have parents who aren't going to harm their kids. Though I understand there is no concrete way to prevent parents from abusing there kids.
"I have come too far to only come this far" I can't remember where I read this, but it resonates with me. Keep going. You have already gone through so much, you can't imagine how good it will be in the future.
@@sharonoddlyenough After just a day (or maybe 2) of keeping this quote visible, it's helped adjust my mindset in a difficult situation. Your simple act of sharing has improved someone's outlook considerably. Thank you again. ✒️🍍
The Click talking to his audience in a reassuring way is literally more supportive and understanding than anything I’ve ever heard from my family regarding mental health
I can relate with the person needing braces. I’ve had mine for 4.7 years, have gone under for surgery, had my teeth essentially crow-barred and yanked into place (not fun- wouldn’t recommend) after putting the wire equivalent of a house gable in my mouth along with crossed chains and double chains (for 3.5 years without success) and they still aren’t straight. I can’t imagine how many issues I would have had without my braces, considering starting out my teeth were aligned just so as it impossible for my canines to come down into their place. Before that I had been without visible canines for at least 3 years.
With the whole kids aren't always wrong just because they're kids - my mother has repeatedly tried to argue about facts, not just my opinions, scientific fact. My sister had a concussion and, because I had one a few years ago I read up on how to identify symptoms, I realised that she had a few and my mother just denied it because obviously I know nothing and the NHS website lies. Edit: TIL that 'blood is thicker than water' is not the full quote. The line is 'The blood of the Coven is thicker than the water of the womb' and honestly that means so much to me.
"why the random Taylor Swift shade" probably because Taylor Swift had the "audacity" to have multiple boyfriends, because, yknow. thats totally how women's anatomy gets loose and flabby when (presumably) having a lot of premarital naughties. /s
I mean you can push a whole baby out of there but apparently sex with different partners makes it loose? But then again if you have a lot of sex with one partner nothing happens? Yeah that's totally how anatomy works. /s
I had seen something that helped me dealing with my somewhat abusing family. "We only have one appendix, and yet when it becomes threatening/hurts, we cut it out of our lives". We can do the same about people, even though they are our family. We don't owe them anything and, like Click said, a family is a starting point
Can you imagine those kids name Covid, in like 15 years time, sitting in history classes and the teacher going "so kids, our next topic is going to be the big pandemic of 2020/2021"
When I was 14, I went to a therapist. I made a mistake though of letting my mother and sibling take me, because afterwards, they would question me about what I talked about. I'm conditioned to tell my family everything, even if it gets me in trouble, so like a dumbass, I would tell them and they would laugh at me. I tried again at 17 and my dad took me this time and didn't question me. It helped. Edit: I'm 18 now (turning 19) and I am again going to therapy. I am driving myself with my dad's guidance on how to get there. I am going to the therapist I saw when I was 14 and she's really helping me. She helped my dad when he needed it and I'm ready to try again. My family, with my sibling's help, have stopped making fun of me for fixing and talking out my problems.
@Nathaniel Ruppel Op’s username is “Your Dad” and if he’s posted to this subreddit before then that probably means his parents were insane, which if he’s our dad and his parents were insane that means our grandparents are insane
You know, I'm totally okay with the authoritarian option to have parenting require a licence if it's going to prevent more harmful stuff like that from happening to these kids.
Mom: You did great at your recital. 3 months later: You need to do better. You don't wanna do as bad as you did last year! Me: But you said I did good... Mom: Do you really want me to lie to you? Mom * Starts mocking me * (obviously being sarcastic): Aw you did great! No one saw you mess up! * Dad joins in *: You didn't fail sweetie!
I relate to what he's saying at 5:16 tho I have a lot of health issues and some of them cause me massive amounts of pain and my mom likes to either prevent me from taking my pain medication or hiding it from me when I really need it. When I had to get surgery all they gave me was Tylenol and she took it away saying I shouldn't rely on drugs. It's not like I take them every day either. I only take them when it gets to the point where I can't even move anymore.
@@Froge4291 same here. The whole having kids thing because you're a woman never appealed to me, even when I was a child. Plus, I suspect I'm asexual/aromantic so 🤷♀️ either that or I'm an insane daydreaming nerd.
what is with parents only letting there kids listen to christen music like let theme listen to what they want to listen to just make sure it is age apropriet like dont let a 5 year old listen to snoop dog and eminem obviesly but dont make them listen to a type of music that is how they grow to hate that music also im christen i listen to what ever music i want to and i am bi and play mtg yugioh and pokemon and watch anime im really happy my family is normal
Honestly i feel bad for parents with for example homophobic parents because it makes them feel that there's something wrong with being part of the LGBTQ+ even though it's completely normal. And that's not the only thing parents can do wrong. I get mad at my parents sometimes, we all do, but honestly, i should be happy to have a kind, supportive family who doesn't judge me for being pansexual, and so many other things that lot's of poeple judge. Also, hi Denki, how are you and the rest of the Bakusquad?
@@bee_dice im good so is kirishima and mina i have not heard from the rest of the squad i have found eri and she is good but board and i have heard from deku and some otheres from 1a and have also heard from toga no im not the traitor i just found toga randomly and no she did not stab me
I am really lucky. I have a mom who made sure I got help when I showed a bunch of symptoms of mental illness and the help worked. My mom isn't strict but she sets rules and boundaries. But her mom was abusive and strict and would beat my mom if my mom got lower than an A. My mom stopped the cycle of abuse, so I am lucky. I actually have a good family
That gives me hope for humanity. I'm so scared of bringing a child into this world because I never want them to deal with the kind of shit my brother and I had to go through that really screwed up our lives.
15:06 - I needed this. And somehow, a kind stranger on the internet managed to give me more comfort than my family could in the past 6-7 years as a whole. Thank you, Click.
“Family is a starting point, not a guarantee.” As a child and adolescent therapist, I have tried to convey that many times and I’m stealing that phrasing. Your videos make me happy :)
Yeah, this subreddit is painfully relatable. Enough that even when I'm out of that environment, I'm _still_ paying for their mistakes and neglect. Is it scary to be _the adult_ sometimes? Yes. But being far enough away to not ever have to see them again? *Absolutely Liberating!*
Sometimes children are more mature than their parents in these situations and it shouldn't have been like that at all life is often disappointing, yeah
my aunt and uncle were super controlling when I was a kid. They had a babysitter and a house maid bc they had three children so I went over to play a lot. No tv allowed unless it was for a dvd - which they watched on their own in their room first to see if the movie had anything they didn't approve, lots of rules and anything bad you did was stupidity. No computers, etc. The three of them, two girls, one boy, shared a "room" upstairs that was supposed to be a living room space, beside the only upstairs room. So, no doors. Eventually they created a barrier to separate my male cousin from the others. They also punished them by spanking. Honestly, I am glad that nowadays they are more relaxed parents and my now almost adult cousins get more privacy and get to have normal teenage lives. Don't know why it changed though.
Stuff like this makes me realize how lucky I am to have my mom. If it wasn't for her enrolling me in a summer program thing which I usually hayed, I would have never met my current friend group.
9:11 This is literally what my mom said to me when I came out as bisexual. And again when I said I wanted to become a male. And then AGAIN when my councilor told my mother about my suicidal thoughts and what I was doing to my body and she said "Sweetheart, it's alright, it's just middle school." It took 3 months for my dad to realize that I was having these thoughts. (I told my mom about 3 months ago.) I've had them for 4 years. And I'm just now being told that, if I seem like I need it, I can see a therapist. Don't think the school told my parents about the time I attempted to commit suicide. ;-; And my mom wasn't even the one who wanted to get me a therapist. My DAD, who has depression and anxiety and takes antidepressants, found out and said "Honey, it's shit. ((he was talking about depression and suicide and cutting)) Don't ever think of doing it. If you need someone to talk to, me and your mother are here. And if you don't feel comfortable talking to us, we can see about getting you a therapist. Alright? Now dry up, before you cry into my eyeball." He may be a piece of shit at times, but he's good when it comes to depression and stuff like that..
Having an incredibly hard time with my dad right now and hearing this stuff weirdly makes me feel better. I know cursed stuff is your M/O but hearing you sprinkle in the positive stuff is great
Here in my city, you can not go to any day care or public school without proof of vaccine shots (unless they’ve gotten a note from doctors saying child is allergic). No if, buts or maybes! You can be up to 2weeks late without vaccinations but strongly discouraged.
My dad was always making fun of me when I was a child , I grew up with a lack of self-esteem and anxiety. He used to say things like "you are walking so weirdly it makes you look like a psychopath" or "you look like a crazy weirdo".
The thing about the mountain thing is that "today" is the top of the mountain, wich means that everything from that day will be a downhill, a painful downhill
Time to try and make it wholesome: At the end of the day, you realise that it wasn't much of a rocky mountain and more a grassy hill. Of course, if you go up and down that hill multiple times, there'll be a good chance that you'll end up with the same result as if you go down the rocky mountain once. If you have the power to make whatever is bothering you stop, then do so, don't let the people who think they can control you manipulate you into not doing so. If you *don't* have the power to make it go away, then just try and relax, close your eyes, and it'll be over as fast as it started. At the end of the day, you have all of the next day to climb back up the Hill of Hopes and not down the Mountain of Misery
When something like this is talked about, it leaves a burning passion for my future kids to be the best they can be. I don't want to let my kids to fall the same path I went to, and all of your future kids have the greatest goals in life. As well as myself and for the current generation.
yeah when I am with my dad I am almost never allowed to in a bad mood with being told to lose the attitude or being bombarded with questions, it is annoying as hell
“Don’t let [that energy] hurt anyone else.”
That was a very nice message, Click.
Funny seeing you here-
The Click is becoming more and more wholesome.
*The process works!*
Hahahahaha i'm the 5th like and third comment finally i'm early for a UA-camr comment.
Also hi Toppicy Woppicyyyyy~
Nyaaaah~
@@bee_dice oh god-
@@Rabiddogz My inner Cliccy Kitty commented that
“I knew it, WOMEN ARENT REAL”
Me: Phases out of existence
Pfft-
Women: understandable, have a nice day *a*
Your dead AAH-
So karens arent real either!?
It’s like when scarlet witch in the comics says “no more mutants” and erases all mutants.
*Your emotions shouldn't be your child's problem.*
My mom: I'm gonna pretend I didn't see that.
*Your daughter shouldn't be worried about coming home to see you angry*
My mom: That sign can't stop me because I can't read.
*Your trauma isn't your son's fault*
My mom: I am looking away
*Your children have left you and pretended you didn’t exist because of your actions*
Now what?
I relate... Want a hug?
"Family is a starting point. Not a guarantee." Holy FLIP ive found the most important saying this world needs to know
We should slap that wisdom on a T-shirt
Runs to the Cricut to make this a reality!
My favorite quote is “All children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve their children”
No child deserves parents like those in this subreddit.
As a Christian ally of LGBT+ and science, I’m sincerely sorry for our community. It’s embarrassing. And I sincerely apologize for all the hateful idiots and parents who believe their children can’t be themselves. Sorry.
Thankyouholyshitncksns
Thankyousomuchdarling!!!!
Thank you so much!
Thank you
(: yo reading this made me happy (not a Christian but was raised Christian so it means a lot) my family is supportive too so its nice to know there are others who support the LGBT+ community
i think OT has been influencing Click a lot lately. He's becoming wholesome in his videos.
Or slowly but surely changing places, soon click will become one topic and one topic will become click.
But he will always be that fresh villain
@@dimensionalclones5018 i just realized ot has started understanding some *spicy* jokes oop-
@@lovelykitty42 so the reprogramming is taking effect
@@lovelykitty42 that's a catastrophe waiting to happen
As someone who relies on antidepressants, losing them for more than 36 hours usually sends me into a depressive spiral that it takes me weeks to get out of. Any more than 48 and I become very s**c*d*l. To that parent: If you take away your kid's antidepressants for too long, you might not have a kid anymore. Keep that in mind.
Plus quitting it cold turkey can cause serious medical issues due to withdrawal symptoms
Antidepressant withdrawal is awful. Why would anyone make their kid go through that?
im already depressed and slightly suicidal so I couldn't imagine taking something to prevent that then losing that for entire days
Hey are you guys ok? Need some hugs?
That'd be the same as taking any medication away from a kid. It woukd be the same as if my mother had taken away the mountains of vitamin and iron supplements I was on for years, and then wondered why I passed out. Mental illness is just as valid as physical illness, and the medication to treat it is just as important! Why do people struggle to understand this??
My friend is really good with kids. He was with his niece and she started to throw a temper tantrum in the car. He calmly explained that she is allowed to be upset and nothing is wrong with it, she just can't throw a tantrum like that. After she said "okay", he reached back and held her hand. He managed to calm her down without telling her she was in the wrong.
"Women aren't real" just gives off the same energy as "WHY ARE YOU BUYING CLOTHES AT THE SOUP STORE" for some reason
Man, it honestly makes me sad that these types of "parents" exist. Children deserve better parents than these people who aren't even fit to raise a child.
Truly disgusting that some ,,parents,, would do such a horrible thing.
I know someone who has these parents unfortunately, and I’m trying to help her as best as possible to leave that household. Even if we’re in different countries
@@digit5465 Man, that sucks. I hope everyone goes well for the both of you. :)
@@willowfive8330 thanks, same here tbh. Thank you again
@@digit5465 No problem. And just remember, things will get better. 😊
We can all agree Click is father and he should adopt us all
He is a mom🙄🤚🏻
With that mustache, he earns extra dad points
Petition for click to adopt us all?
@@Oyasumi05 signed
Yes
I heard a great quote once that went something like
" 'You only have one family.' Yeah I only got one appendix too but when that f*cks with your health you cut that sh*t out of your life."
You have no obligation to put up with toxic people, even if you're related. Real family is the one you make and choose for yourself.
Whoever made that quote is a god. So are you for putting that in the comment section
But my appendix carried me through so many tough times! I owe it to my appendix to keep trying until I die!
Oh my stars I need that on one of those cliche board signs and painted on the side of my house! Thank you for sharing that!!!! *Chef kiss* perfect!
Ok so family =appendix. When hurt you, you remove it from your life. Am I interpreting this right? Because if so I 100% agree
I had one gallbladder. Had emergency removal of it because it got infected. My urine looked brown by the time I was hospitalized, that's how sick I was. It could've killed me, just like my mother could have. Now I'm free of both 🤷🏻♀️
Ah, yes. My parents didn't get the "let you kids make mistakes" thing. Took me out of any sport or extracurricular activity if I wasn't perfect the first time. Now they wonder why I never do anything new and have horrible anxiety when it comes to doing anything alone 🤔
Think about how many people who are traumatized to see in public because of their parents shedding them down as a kid. Oh wow your kid doesn't sound good when they sing Let It Go from Frozen a song that Idina Menzel herself has to lower the key or sometimes even lip sync the high note wow I can't believe your kid can't sing Let It go. Children will sing some of the hardest songs ever written then parents instead of trying to get their kids vocal lessons or anything will just completely destroy their self-confidence. Seriously think about the songs that were in Disney movies and think about who the people were who actually say them. Beauty and the Beast Celine dion, hero from Hunchback or Notre Dame Mariah carey, Reflection from Mulan Christina aguilera. Yeah of course your kid without any vocal training is going to sound crap when singing those.
I love the argument made about not taking antidepressants and how restricting them is around the same as taking away crutches for a broken bone. My father took away both when my knee cap sorta stopped working because he was mad I went back to my mom for the week
Your dad’s fucked up
I hope you’re okay
Whaaat
I hope you didn't get any long term health consequences due to that
@@annae9072 nothing too bad, sometimes my knee likes to act up but things have gotten much better since then
@@alijahrearick9998 oh
It's good that things are getting better and that you didn't have any big consequences, especially since walking on injured limbs can sometimes basically fck them up for life
"Blood is thicker than water" ... BUT the full quote is "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb". The bonds you make are more important than the bonds you happen to be born with.
This man speakin the words of the LORD! 😁
@@alekskacani3928 uh- no?
@@kinglas9056 calm down. They’re just saying that because they’re literally quoting the Bible.
@@j_g9109 I am calm?
There is no evidence that this is true and this is not in the bible either.
When you’re an American so you can’t find Äppelmust
*sad eagle noises*
What's Äppelmust?
▪️〰️▪️
@@silverbutterfly1739 i think its a drink
@@silverbutterfly1739 Apple juice
Sasuke, -uselessness- Sakura stole your Capri-Sun :/
parents who give their kids meme names don't love them.
They hate them and may actually lead to their suicide.
They will absolutely be removed from any wills, phone books, invitation lists, etc etc.
That exact reason makes me wonder about how those two kids are doing now, you know "Vagina" and "Dovakin"? Why don't we have laws in place for that? Or at least stricter ones?
@@MrVampirePirate I think they probably changed their names
@@firestorm5371 This^.
Plus I can imagine that they went by nicknames; Gina and Don, for example; until they got that opportunity.
@@MrVampirePirate how do I pronounce the second name
@@Kai-iy3kk doe-va-keen
I'm pretty sure it's supposed to be the word "dragonborn" in Skyrim's dragon language. I haven't played the game in forever, tho
When he said "like we talked about" I realised how much this feels like your cool uncle giving you advice on how to deal with your overbearing parents.
That one about the person vowing to never be a toxic parent reminds me of when i was accepted to an art college with a scholarship, i just needed the $500 entrance fee within a month or so. My dad refused to even lend me the money or allow me to try to attend the school solely bc it was out of state. I couldn't save up enough money in time and had a panic attack, i'd been so excited to finally get into a school i thought i'd enjoy, i'd visited it with my friend and loved the campus and location. My dad had admitted he had plenty of money and it wouldn't have made a dent in any of the finances, but simply didn't want to afford any to me for my future because he couldn't be bothered with the idea of me attending a school out of state, no matter how i felt about it.
that's bullshit reasons
I find it funny that people's kids were brought into this world literally without their own permission and their parents expect them to almost be slaves for them and do whatever they say without question.
Well, I actually don't find it funny. It infuriates me.
Oh god I'm 16 and this hits way to close to fucking home
@@firefly56embers33 I'm 15 and I've seen parents be like that before. You're not the only one, trust me.
Oh, don't forget the screaming after every mistake, and the obligatory "oh stop overreacting" whenever you ask them to stop or mention how badly they're treating you.
I love my parents but Im so tired of them being very mad but acting like they arent. Like no
@Do Not Disturb no, the children didn’t ask to be born, the parent decided to bring them in this world. So the kid does not owe the parent anything. Tell that to your mom.
This subreddit is like when a villain in a book messes up the protagonist’s whole life and you can’t do anything about it but watch. This is that feeling
I hate that feeling
That is true and painful
Damn, how you dig up something I hated in my childhood
That's when you have good parents.
You mean the *sharp inhale* oh right those people exist feeling?
me: my parents aren't that bad
also me, relating to every meme on this subreddit: 👀
Same
Lol
Welcome to the club where the ego of peraents is more in inflated than a rubber dingy
@Reyna Ortiz Rodriguez glad that your not the only one in this rough storm but concerned on why u went through it or that's how I view it. don't stress
I felt that lol
I am scared of having children as I am afraid that I may treat them horribly as I have little patience and gained my father's temper.
Just watch videos like this over and over as motivation to not be like that
The fact that you're scared of that shows there's room for growth
The answer is to seek therapy, stat. It'll help you understand & address the root cause of anger or at least some healthy coping skills when triggered. ❤
As the other commenter said, there's absolutely room for growth, bc recognizing & accepting we have issues is the first step! The problem with most of these insane parents is they refuse to even recognize they have an issue. So you're already on your way to improvement! Proud of you! 😃❤
Oh also! I promise the anger gets better with age & wisdom! The more you learn the less reactionary you become! So reading as much as you can about life, politics, social issues, psychology will help immensely. That's what has helped me with my anger so far! ❤ Seriously, it has helped SO much!! 🙏🏻
I swear I’ll tell people, in older generations, I go to sleep at 6am and they treat me like a kid who only plays video games till 6 am. Even after I tell I work night shifts, go to the gym at a 24 hour gym, and take college classes on you days off. It drives me insane.
"The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb"
Meaning sometimes your chosen relationships carry more significance than those you're born into. This phrase pops up in my head a lit on this sub
FINALLY SOMEONE USING THE FULL PHRASE
As a gamer, this triggers my bias for games.
So, "Blood is thicker than water," originally meant the exact opposite of what it has come to mean, today.
Kinda like, "literally"?
@@mariabarker2036 Wait what did literally used to mean?
THANK YOU SO MUCH
My aunts boyfriend: I’m not transphobic but I won’t respect they’re pronouns unless they have had the surgery and have the right body parts
Me a trans kid who can’t get the surgery: W h a t… :')
What a piece of garbage, hopefully you can distance yourself from that guy, hope you all the best
I hope the best for you! Despite being a kid and despite not having surgery yet, you deserve to be valued and treated with respect towards you identity.
You are valid mai fellow trans!
@Kasyan Hernandez and........? What, you expect cis kids to know their cis, while trans kids to think their cis?
Thank you for all the support in the replies it means a lot :)
“You need to take the wrong steps sometimes to find the right path”
-The Click
2021
me committing mass murder to better my self esteem: umu
@@Shoveling_Around stop Rumbling Eren
Lol
I agree sometimes you have to commit crimes to get the right path
Instructions unclear, fell down stairs
Normal Parents: *can barely use a phone to text to tell you Good Morning*
Insane Parents: *speedwriting a freaking novel through text trying to justify why they're right*
Fun fact: Just because someone is your kid, doesn't mean their money is your property. If you take 1,000 dollars from someone who earned their own money, kid or not, you just stole 1,000 dollars.
Okay, well I haven't actually googled if that's a thing legally. I assume and hope it is. But regardless MORALLY, you just stole 1,000 dollars from someone.
Without consent or agreement, yes it is stealing
@@alekskacani3928 Mhm exactly. Absolutely absurd.
I once recorded all the insults my parents told me, put them into a 2h playlist and after they told me the typical: "Why you don't stay with us longer?" I played it on my phone holding it for those 2h looking at them.
What was their reaction. I'm curious
r/foundsatan?
r/justiceserved?
r/insaneparents?
*I DON'T KNOW, I'M CONFUSED AND SCARED!!!*
@@AranhaaTheSixtyninth probably r/thathappened lol
I can't believe they actually listened for longer than 10 seconds. Arn't people like that known for not listening to you? Maybe cause it was their own voices? Hypnosis?
I'm having a similar problem, so I would love to know if it's really worthwhile trying this.
When the click said using children as weapons in arguments I imagined someone using a child like a sword
"JOHNNY GET THE CHILD
"YES SERGEANT"
*Johnny grabs M1 Child and shoots it*
@@kostan55 Scp- Living Gun in a nutshell
So like Soul Eater?
Throws toddlers instead of artillery shells to 40km range.
@@Glombor taste my furry!
(I’m sorry I see fury as furry)
As a trans laddie, Click is 100% my unrealistic transition goal. No matter what though, it's all going to be dandyfinealicious.
I've been on T for 5 years now and have a rockin beard and 'stache, it takes time but you'll get there!
@@Tyriad_ I actually came out a couple days ago, and I'm starting T soon!
@@jacksonlevy5464 I’m concerned because over extended periods of time, artificial hormones are known to cause cancer, and can worsen depression, anxiety, and those kinda things... I don’t want anyone going through that. If those weren’t true, I would have no issues with transitioning. I guess that means we need to get healthier alternatives to those hormones, then, if it’s possible. I don’t want anyone suffering with worsened depression, or possibly cancer over long periods of time...
@@doommaximus6388 source? I've never heard anything of the sort and I was raised by a doctor.
@@R0mbVs eh, been thinking about it quite a bit recently. If it does cause cancer and emotional issues, then doesn’t that mean we should improve artificial hormones to the point they don’t cause cancer? Not just for trans people, but people that need artificial hormones in general. Hormones already cause emotional challenges often during puberty, and I’ve since done a bit more research on gender, and found that science does actually support gender being a spectrum. As to where I got it from, I got the information from my mom who I blindly believed through word of mouth instead of actually looking into it. Since then, I’ve become fully supportive of everyone in the LGBTQ+ community. I already completely supported gay people, bisexual people, and lesbians, but I was a bit close minded when it came to trans people. I was indoctrinated as a kid to believe in Christianity, and have finally started freeing myself from the religion, embracing things such as the LGBTQ+/GRSM community.
I read somewhere that in order to break even on someone's self esteem, you need to give 5 compliments to 1 negative criticism.
That's how you avoid crushing your kid's self esteem.
"Family is a starting point, not a guarantee." < Love this.
Also love what you said about echo chambers. Social media is alarmingly full of people who want to live in them.
So the homewrecker mother's defense is: "we can't help who we fall in love with." Well ex-mom, I guess you don't love your daughter or your grandkids at all. Have fun with a cheater and don't come crying to your daughter when you find out he's not in love with you.
*When your 12 and didn't realise your father was emotionally abusing you because the only type of abuse you get taught about is physical-*
-Johhny,the tipical 12 year old that selfdiagnoses himself with depression after his roblox gf left him.
@@josexoxd4378 Ah yes, assuming and downplaying other people's emotions, you sound like a healthy individual.
@@cynister7384 people think kids up to 12 are stupidly dumb, stupidly irresponsible at 14 and older and no one tries to teach them how to do adult things, but suddenly at 18 you're expected to have a job paying above minimum wage, a decent car, be saving for a house, a long term relationship, be ready to declare taxes all by yourself, have at least 4 kids before 25 and somehow if you can't do these things you're a failure and an embarrassment
I remember talking to my parents about abuse one day in the car, and was talking about a friend and how her parents psychologically harmed her, and dad was like "well it's not really abuse because it wasn't physical" and I sat in silence for a good 30 seconds
And I get really nervous around my parents and have learned when to not speak up for fear of getting yelled at (yelling in general really bothers me and it happens a lot which isn't great). One day my mom was punishing my sister unfairly for something she didn't even do and I tried to step in and mom just accused me of saying that she abuses us and that just really angered me, like I didn't say that?????? What???
Mad parents suck
@@moondrawsstuff1910 I only realised it was actually a type of abuse because my mum told me that one of the reasons they were getting divorce was because of the emotional/psychological abuse
Now that my mum brought it to light that my father was absolute Sh*t, i can point out multiple occasions where the abuse became physical
I have heard many a person say 'oh if your getting abuse then just do such and such', but the problem is actually we don't get taught enough about it and sometimes we don't even realise that we're getting abused until it's pointed out or becomes really physical
“WOMEN ARENT REAL!”
Me: *pulls a Voldemort and turns into dust*
But your soul is still in 7 pieces, right
@@gdfreezerburn9250 no, all of them were destoyed
Mr Click, I don't feel so good
@@freakytiki191 haha yes
Me: *begins to fade out of existence like Marty McFly* "Well, this is just bio dad all over again."
5:03 there's an even darker way to look at this - "I now know that my child's happiness is something that needs to be given to them medically and so I'm going to withhold that happiness to manipulate them"*
I worked night shift as an adult at my mothers house, trying to save up to get me and my daughter into a place of our own after losing our place due to floods. She not only woke me up every morning at six (after going to bed at 4) but she also demanded whole checks to be signed over to help support my family. 😒 I’m so glad I live over an hour away from her now. Lol
I find Click's eyes very pretty, in like, an artistic way.
He would look so good in a painting, I would paint him if I could paint
(I sound weird I know, please don't think I'm thinking weird things, just so yall know I'm ace)
edit: thanks for the appreciation guys its good to see this community is not that cursed
I mean- I wouldn’t complain to see it
His eyes have launched a thousand fan arts
The dude is a solid aesthetic unto himself.
I am this comment
I love his eyes as well :)
My mom: "you can talk about anything to me"
Me: wanting to talk about mental problems
My mom: literally doesn't listen or just looks confused and doesn't say anything, not even something comforting.
Now she wonders why she doesn't know me and when we meet we can't talk about anything. While I chat with my brothers, she doesn't even say a word the whole meeting, other than about the food or if she could get us something. Social level zero but also no interest to learn.
I once scolded her about her talking to people about my brother's illness and arranging things without him knowing. He is 26 and capable of his own life. She started crying when I got angry about the fact that this would get my brother more sick. The last thing he wants is people rumouring about him.
Then after a month she does it again and I confront her and tell her we discussed this. She looks confused and asks when.
Urgh! Makes me so furious.
What makes me furious is that my brother, as long as he has our two parents, he can't get well, because they are so twisted. But he needs a kind guide he can trust so badly...
Then be his guide, since I think he would trust you.
@@gothiiispiderz Sadly I live 2 hours away and I am afraid he needs someone he can see multiple times a week. Of course we phone each other at least once a week but that is not the same... But he is taking his first steps in living alone without daily anxiety attacks.
Send my regards, keep rollin
Me: *tries to express how my mums actions make me feel since I was a young child*
My Mum: *immediately brushes the issue under the carpet, turns it around on me being abusive, and starts rambling about inane irrelevant crap.*
Me: 🤦♀️
Every child deserves a parent
But not every parent deserves a child
Truest statement ever.
Yes.
Not Every humans deserve to live lets do genocide in prison
@@monke6912 what the hell
CORRECTION EVERY CHILD DESERVES A **GOOD** PARENT
The click casually giving us life advice is the most wholesome I think we’re ever going to see him and I’m fine with that
This video marks the Click’s 11th anniversary. Let’s just say we all needed this
Click: Women aren't real
Me: UUUwUUU **vanishes**
This is false because there are no women in the clicks community!
Get em boys!
88u88
@@Aragon-no5tc boys and enbys*
Soo... 3 pairs of eyes?
@@definitelynotfish3943 enbys?
These parents make me so angry, like how can anyone be so self absorbed.
my only friend outside of school or not online
has the worst parents ever
they took away her door
they constantly bring up topics she is uncomfy with
her own mom calls her fat and useless
we are four hours away from each other and since we are both young (I'm 11 she is 13) no one takes us as its true
I'm always told its cause of age and hormones and while I get that for us it is real for them it's just "Your being dramatic"
I'm too scared to come out cause my grandmother says "I'm too young to understand" and all of this is going on with school and taking care of ourselves. My friend has tried to commit to self harm but only stopped cause she knows I could never really go without her like that so she stopped. It has taken a toll on our mental health and my 7-year-old brother keeps saying he's gay and depressed cause he sees it as funny I am not doing my best right now :(
Parents suck
Meanwhile, I'm in a good, strongly libertarian, medium-income family.
And I feel like garbage because I fail school due to Random Teenage Depression.
By now, I reached a new level of meta and am depressed about going down so easily to weak depression.
@@lev7509 cynical depression is a thing maybe ask your doctor about that if you can't afford a doctor I'm sorry
@@kaylabowden3883 "cynical depression"
Elaborate please.
@@lev7509 When you don’t feel like you have a “reason “ To be depressed and it makes you more depressed
Back when I broke my ankle my mom refused to take me to the hospital for it. My foot was black up to my knee. I couldn't step on it or it would buckle. 4 years later I have trouble walking on it and my mom still won't take me to the hospital. She's says I'm dramatic.
20:03 Something I've believed since I was little: Related does not mean family. Related means you happen to share ancestry. Family means you're there for each other, through thick and thin
I live in a state where parents can give there kids the boot at 16. I'm in a discord group for DnD and there's people of all ages there, so we made our own group that's people from the same state, so that maybe one day after Rona we can actually all get together and play irl. The youngest in our group just turned 16 and immediately got kicked out by his mom so she could move in her bf and his kids. We lived close enough that I went to help out, and his mom literally watched as I, an adult stranger, took her kid and his property. He's in my guest room rn. Wtf is wrong with people...
Update??
UPDATE PLEASE
"Lets limit our child's life to tis and then be surprised when they become a rebel. ouw!"
I'm dying
'Coming from _mwah_ , who is now old'
Where? Literally where? I don't see it-
Ikr he only looks like 27 ish
Yeah he looks like a 25 year old mario
Hell, I *am* old, he's still a kid!
[I'm right and old, fight me]
If he is old then I am a fossil.
I live with my grandma, and my mom comes over at least once every other day. I say: "Hallo, mom! How's your day goin?"
The she responds with: "Have you gotten your schoolwork done?!"
Me: "No??? It takes me more than a day to get a week's worth of work done...?"
Her: "Ugh. I don't wanna hear it! Did you get it done, or not?!"
Me: "No."
Her: "*nothing* *cricket noises*"
4:30 - "Allow them to amke mistakes"
My mother who was beating me for like 5 years or so for each little thing I did wrong: Pathetic
Oh, the anti-vax person and the doctor conversation definitely happened. It's just that OP wasn't picking up on the doctor's sarcasm. :P
This is a great way to distract myself from this hell of existing and a mother who doesn't believe me that I'm mentally ill. I love it here :)
NO. SHUT UP. I AM FORCIBLY SENDING YOU GOOD VIBES AND YOU ARE N O T GOING TO IGNORE THEM. HAVE A G R E A T DAY!!!!
💛
same tbh
my parents said that i just "have to pray to god more" like bruh i asked him to lighten my weight on this miserable life i have and he didn't do anything
and that's because i asked them to see if they would like me to go to therapy
guess i have to be free first to even get a chance to fix my deepest underlying issues
Yay, the mustache man is giving us serotonin.
Yay
✨ R E J O I C I N G ✨
Next time he better give us some of his "milk" 😏😏😏😏
Rejoice, male with facial hair below nose section is supplying us with serotonin.
lmao
Some parents expect their kids to act like high level butler's, able to do every possible job in a moment while always keeping emotions capped off. But the kid hasn't even learned how to act casually yet.
Like what???
5:21 There’s a term for this. It’s called medical abuse. My friend “Ruby’s” biological father did this recently, withholding her anxiety medication. She was also scared of him and I had to help her hide from him for about an hour at a party.
Jesus that's horrible! I can't imagine people, much less a parent, treating anyone like that. Shit like this makes me wish I had superpowers. So I could deck horrible parents in the nose!
Me: looking up herbal home remedies on line and using essential oils
My family: your going to grow up to be one of those crazy face book ladies that kill their children from their stupidity
Me: looking up if there is science behind home remedies for allergies and muscle pain and using lavender essential oils to help reduce stress
Also me: yeah, what ever you say, I'm just the mistake
Essential oils CAN BE GOOD
THEY DONT CURE CANCER, KAREN
(not aimed at u lol)
Honey and lemon good for a sore throat, but I hear one more person try to tell me thieves oil prevents COVID-19 because it protected doctors from the bubonic plague one more time I'm chucking this planet into the sun!
As long as any future kids (then again, you might not want any, so this is completely irrelevant lmao) get the vaccines they need, there's literally no issue with that smh
I drink herbal tea and use energizing candles (they mostly smell like ginger or mint and eucalyptus) but I know it's only for minor things, and the smells only go so far
@@moonlightscholar1215 Same. I like essential oils because there’s something comforting about diffusing their scent. I also know they’re not a magical cure for illness
There really needs to be a required parenting course for people who want kids, just to teach them what they should do if a kid does this or that, so we are more likely to have parents who aren't going to harm their kids. Though I understand there is no concrete way to prevent parents from abusing there kids.
Yes!!!
@@ameliasellers6396 no no no, let's combine both. You need to successfully make it through the parent teaching before getting the license
@fire and ice nation the lost nation BUT you have to admit yourself it would improve parents a hell lot if the license thing was a real thing
"I have come too far to only come this far"
I can't remember where I read this, but it resonates with me.
Keep going. You have already gone through so much, you can't imagine how good it will be in the future.
i saw your comments on a One Topic video. thank you for the encouragement and kind words you spread!
@@catfury3605 💛 just glad that there are communities like these. We can keep them going.
Needed to see this. Thank you for sharing! ♥️🍍
@@sharonoddlyenough After just a day (or maybe 2) of keeping this quote visible, it's helped adjust my mindset in a difficult situation. Your simple act of sharing has improved someone's outlook considerably. Thank you again. ✒️🍍
@@PushyPushyPhoenix I hope you're proud of yourself, because I'm proud of you.
The Click talking to his audience in a reassuring way is literally more supportive and understanding than anything I’ve ever heard from my family regarding mental health
I can relate with the person needing braces. I’ve had mine for 4.7 years, have gone under for surgery, had my teeth essentially crow-barred and yanked into place (not fun- wouldn’t recommend) after putting the wire equivalent of a house gable in my mouth along with crossed chains and double chains (for 3.5 years without success) and they still aren’t straight.
I can’t imagine how many issues I would have had without my braces, considering starting out my teeth were aligned just so as it impossible for my canines to come down into their place. Before that I had been without visible canines for at least 3 years.
With the whole kids aren't always wrong just because they're kids - my mother has repeatedly tried to argue about facts, not just my opinions, scientific fact. My sister had a concussion and, because I had one a few years ago I read up on how to identify symptoms, I realised that she had a few and my mother just denied it because obviously I know nothing and the NHS website lies.
Edit: TIL that 'blood is thicker than water' is not the full quote. The line is 'The blood of the Coven is thicker than the water of the womb' and honestly that means so much to me.
"why the random Taylor Swift shade" probably because Taylor Swift had the "audacity" to have multiple boyfriends, because, yknow. thats totally how women's anatomy gets loose and flabby when (presumably) having a lot of premarital naughties. /s
I mean you can push a whole baby out of there but apparently sex with different partners makes it loose? But then again if you have a lot of sex with one partner nothing happens? Yeah that's totally how anatomy works. /s
I Can't Describe what this subreddit does to my blood pressure levels. The thought that people like this exist in the world in abundance is maddening.
Cool profile picture
@@thegodofimagination why thank you, I find your's aesthetically pleasing as well.
@@briandurio6479 thanks i mainly like it because I am bi so cool seeing the flag less fancy than why you like mine sorry
@@thegodofimagination I like dragons and the color palette is lined up perfectly
I had seen something that helped me dealing with my somewhat abusing family. "We only have one appendix, and yet when it becomes threatening/hurts, we cut it out of our lives". We can do the same about people, even though they are our family. We don't owe them anything and, like Click said, a family is a starting point
Click is so wholesome, he would make a great parent if he ever chose to have a kid/s
Can you imagine those kids name Covid, in like 15 years time, sitting in history classes and the teacher going "so kids, our next topic is going to be the big pandemic of 2020/2021"
When I was 14, I went to a therapist. I made a mistake though of letting my mother and sibling take me, because afterwards, they would question me about what I talked about. I'm conditioned to tell my family everything, even if it gets me in trouble, so like a dumbass, I would tell them and they would laugh at me. I tried again at 17 and my dad took me this time and didn't question me. It helped.
Edit: I'm 18 now (turning 19) and I am again going to therapy. I am driving myself with my dad's guidance on how to get there. I am going to the therapist I saw when I was 14 and she's really helping me. She helped my dad when he needed it and I'm ready to try again. My family, with my sibling's help, have stopped making fun of me for fixing and talking out my problems.
Man I'm so sorry for you it's nice you have atleast one parent who doesn't have a problem with mentality.
Hope you best luck
the fact that i've posted on this subreddit before and relate to every single one is very concerning
Oh hi dad
Our grandparents are insane? I can’t believe you never told us
@Nathaniel Ruppel
Op’s username is “Your Dad” and if he’s posted to this subreddit before then that probably means his parents were insane, which if he’s our dad and his parents were insane that means our grandparents are insane
dad please come back
@@HDDStrider i've never had someone reply with that. it's usually "where's the milk" or "come back". this made me laugh, thanks kiddo lmao
You know, I'm totally okay with the authoritarian option to have parenting require a licence if it's going to prevent more harmful stuff like that from happening to these kids.
19:27 The idea that one "should" be awake at a certain time is probably the most horrible thing I have seen in a while. She should know he has a JOB.
One R. One R and the kids name would have been “Corvid”. It sounds way cooler. Why?
Naming your child after a crow sounds badass NGL
@@sophieasha9069 it does. THAT’S why they should have done that!
now replace the d with an n and now you have Corvin (Xenoblade reference if youre wondering)
@@shadowkingleo7776 nice
if it would be popular, then it would make a literal murder.
a group of crows is a murder of crows.
when you're having a bad day then you see click posted another vid
@Nathaniel Ruppel indeed
Mom: You did great at your recital.
3 months later: You need to do better. You don't wanna do as bad as you did last year!
Me: But you said I did good...
Mom: Do you really want me to lie to you?
Mom * Starts mocking me * (obviously being sarcastic):
Aw you did great! No one saw you mess up!
* Dad joins in *: You didn't fail sweetie!
Hewwo despair queen
@@kumosune588 the despair here is intense
hi click intro
@@kostan55 Nyahhh~ Hewwo hwuman
What is going on here
@@alekskacani3928 idk, all I did was talk about my mother being toxic and then this happened.
I relate to what he's saying at 5:16 tho
I have a lot of health issues and some of them cause me massive amounts of pain and my mom likes to either prevent me from taking my pain medication or hiding it from me when I really need it.
When I had to get surgery all they gave me was Tylenol and she took it away saying I shouldn't rely on drugs.
It's not like I take them every day either. I only take them when it gets to the point where I can't even move anymore.
Yay! More Insane Parents!
More things to add to my list of what not to do as a parent ^_^
To me, its more things to add to my list about why I don't deserve to to be a parent.
More things to add to my list of why I should stay single and not bother
@@Froge4291 relatable.
@@Froge4291 same here. The whole having kids thing because you're a woman never appealed to me, even when I was a child. Plus, I suspect I'm asexual/aromantic so 🤷♀️ either that or I'm an insane daydreaming nerd.
@@Phoebe5448 ok
what is with parents only letting there kids listen to christen music like let theme listen to what they want to listen to just make sure it is age apropriet like dont let a 5 year old listen to snoop dog and eminem obviesly but dont make them listen to a type of music that is how they grow to hate that music also im christen i listen to what ever music i want to and i am bi and play mtg yugioh and pokemon and watch anime im really happy my family is normal
Honestly i feel bad for parents with for example homophobic parents because it makes them feel that there's something wrong with being part of the LGBTQ+ even though it's completely normal. And that's not the only thing parents can do wrong. I get mad at my parents sometimes, we all do, but honestly, i should be happy to have a kind, supportive family who doesn't judge me for being pansexual, and so many other things that lot's of poeple judge. Also, hi Denki, how are you and the rest of the Bakusquad?
@@bee_dice im good so is kirishima and mina i have not heard from the rest of the squad i have found eri and she is good but board and i have heard from deku and some otheres from 1a and have also heard from toga no im not the traitor i just found toga randomly and no she did not stab me
@@xxblueflame-reaperxx2266 Pffft oki doki.
hello denki :D
@@annabellefrancescaa hi :D
I am really lucky. I have a mom who made sure I got help when I showed a bunch of symptoms of mental illness and the help worked. My mom isn't strict but she sets rules and boundaries. But her mom was abusive and strict and would beat my mom if my mom got lower than an A. My mom stopped the cycle of abuse, so I am lucky. I actually have a good family
That gives me hope for humanity. I'm so scared of bringing a child into this world because I never want them to deal with the kind of shit my brother and I had to go through that really screwed up our lives.
So, apparently my crush decided to ignore me, but there is Clicky who’s making me laugh. :‘3
The Click is your crush now
FellsBadMan
>gacha life profile pic
seems reasonable enough for him /s
„Please do not harass the Gacha community. It’s only a small minority which is bad“ didn’t work for you huh?
@@elke539 learn to read
i left a small sign that it was sarcasm
15:06 - I needed this. And somehow, a kind stranger on the internet managed to give me more comfort than my family could in the past 6-7 years as a whole. Thank you, Click.
“Family is a starting point, not a guarantee.” As a child and adolescent therapist, I have tried to convey that many times and I’m stealing that phrasing. Your videos make me happy :)
Yeah, this subreddit is painfully relatable. Enough that even when I'm out of that environment, I'm _still_ paying for their mistakes and neglect. Is it scary to be _the adult_ sometimes? Yes.
But being far enough away to not ever have to see them again? *Absolutely Liberating!*
Fun fact: everyone rushed to comments to write something
Absolitely
no ? I actually watched the vid then went to the comment section..
@Rachael Elkins good to know by a total stranger online 🥴
Sometimes children are more mature than their parents in these situations and it shouldn't have been like that at all
life is often disappointing, yeah
my aunt and uncle were super controlling when I was a kid. They had a babysitter and a house maid bc they had three children so I went over to play a lot. No tv allowed unless it was for a dvd - which they watched on their own in their room first to see if the movie had anything they didn't approve, lots of rules and anything bad you did was stupidity. No computers, etc. The three of them, two girls, one boy, shared a "room" upstairs that was supposed to be a living room space, beside the only upstairs room. So, no doors. Eventually they created a barrier to separate my male cousin from the others. They also punished them by spanking. Honestly, I am glad that nowadays they are more relaxed parents and my now almost adult cousins get more privacy and get to have normal teenage lives. Don't know why it changed though.
Stuff like this makes me realize how lucky I am to have my mom. If it wasn't for her enrolling me in a summer program thing which I usually hayed, I would have never met my current friend group.
9:11
This is literally what my mom said to me when I came out as bisexual.
And again when I said I wanted to become a male.
And then AGAIN when my councilor told my mother about my suicidal thoughts and what I was doing to my body and she said "Sweetheart, it's alright, it's just middle school."
It took 3 months for my dad to realize that I was having these thoughts. (I told my mom about 3 months ago.)
I've had them for 4 years.
And I'm just now being told that, if I seem like I need it, I can see a therapist.
Don't think the school told my parents about the time I attempted to commit suicide. ;-;
And my mom wasn't even the one who wanted to get me a therapist. My DAD, who has depression and anxiety and takes antidepressants, found out and said "Honey, it's shit. ((he was talking about depression and suicide and cutting)) Don't ever think of doing it. If you need someone to talk to, me and your mother are here. And if you don't feel comfortable talking to us, we can see about getting you a therapist. Alright? Now dry up, before you cry into my eyeball." He may be a piece of shit at times, but he's good when it comes to depression and stuff like that..
It's nice to see that your father cares about your mental health. I hope you're doing better now btw.
@@stardrop5075 It is nice, considering he never had someone growing up. I haven't improved at all, but thanks.
@@kb42208 I really hope you're doing better. I support you, and i hope everything turns out allright.
@@bee_dice Thank you. You're a sweetheart.
@@kb42208 Also please ignore me h o r r i b l e spelling.
Edit: *my
These videos really make me appreciate my parents. I am so lucky to have such great parents who actually care about me.
Having an incredibly hard time with my dad right now and hearing this stuff weirdly makes me feel better. I know cursed stuff is your M/O but hearing you sprinkle in the positive stuff is great
Here in my city, you can not go to any day care or public school without proof of vaccine shots (unless they’ve gotten a note from doctors saying child is allergic). No if, buts or maybes! You can be up to 2weeks late without vaccinations but strongly discouraged.
My dad was always making fun of me when I was a child , I grew up with a lack of self-esteem and anxiety.
He used to say things like "you are walking so weirdly it makes you look like a psychopath" or "you look like a crazy weirdo".
If you look closely, Click’s lamp reflects on his pupils, making him look like a machine.
it is not an illusion...
The thing about the mountain thing is that "today" is the top of the mountain, wich means that everything from that day will be a downhill, a painful downhill
Time to try and make it wholesome:
At the end of the day, you realise that it wasn't much of a rocky mountain and more a grassy hill. Of course, if you go up and down that hill multiple times, there'll be a good chance that you'll end up with the same result as if you go down the rocky mountain once.
If you have the power to make whatever is bothering you stop, then do so, don't let the people who think they can control you manipulate you into not doing so.
If you *don't* have the power to make it go away, then just try and relax, close your eyes, and it'll be over as fast as it started.
At the end of the day, you have all of the next day to climb back up the Hill of Hopes and not down the Mountain of Misery
When something like this is talked about, it leaves a burning passion for my future kids to be the best they can be. I don't want to let my kids to fall the same path I went to, and all of your future kids have the greatest goals in life. As well as myself and for the current generation.
yeah when I am with my dad I am almost never allowed to in a bad mood with being told to lose the attitude or being bombarded with questions, it is annoying as hell
This guy be put here spitting some amazing advice and then not even a second later he's laughing at his own very bad joke. Amazing.