How to meet negativity bias and sleep peacefully again (Insomnia Insight
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- Опубліковано 11 лют 2025
- In this episode, we explore negativity bias and its impact on insomnia recovery. Learn why your brain focuses on threats and how understanding this can help you overcome sleep struggles. Discover practical tips for shifting towards a more peaceful mindset to achieve better sleep.
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Not sure where to start on your path to sleeping well? Check out these playlists!
This is natto - the perfect place to start learning.
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Success stories - if you need hope and inspiration, this is for you.
• Success stories
Talking insomnia - guests with trouble sleeping or experts share their stories / tips.
• Talking insomnia
Hypnic jerks, hypnic awareness and other common issues.
• Hypnic jerks and more.
Fatal insomnia - for those concerned about ffi and sfi.
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Speed bumps - when you think you had a setback or “relapse.”
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Unrefreshing sleep - when you always feel tired or exhausted.
• Unrefreshing sleep
Momsomnia - if you’re a mom or becoming a mom.
• Momsomnia
Heard online - when you’ve worried about claims made about health problems and insomnia.
• Heard online
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Thanks for all that you do, Daniel. I am a lot better now with sleep thanks to you. I can go for weeks sleeping reasonably well with the odd night or two of poor sleep but I don't worry about it so much. But, when I have an important event I start to worry about not sleeping the night before, even though I have coped well with little or no sleep in the past. So this topic explaining self sabotaging and negativity bias was really helpful. Thank you.
Thanks Daniel. My wife often tells me, especially these last several weeks as I've struggled with sleep, that I "don't let myself" heal. I self-sabotage, hyper-focus on things, etc. And as frustrating as it is to hear this, I feel like she's 100% right.
I'm working on using what I've learned on this channel in more broad strokes, especially as it relates to my anxiety overall. Not arguing with my brain, recognizing when I start ruminating or going down a rabbit hole, and generally allowing myself to feel uncomfortable.
The statement "it's okay to not be okay" takes some time to sink in and appreciate. And to me, it means recognizing that my brain is trying to keep me safe. Why argue with that!? I either think to myself or say out loud, "Brain, thank you for keeping me safe. I hear you and understand what you are trying to do".
Given enough time and practice, I'm hoping to be in a better headspace for both sleep and how I approach life in general!
Thank you again Daniel and the community here. Between both the videos and amazing comments, I'm figuring this thing out.
I agree that consciously thanking your brain helps a lot! I first heard it from a psychologist (fellow anxiety sufferer here) and at first I thought it sounded kind of silly but now I regularly say “thank you brain!” and it really is a great step towards self-compassion.
So so glad you found your way here and no doubt, you’ll see things change, get easier when it comes to sleep and life 😊!
Hi coach Daniel I totally understand what negatîvity bias is as i understand it through it : I'm a sucker for true crîme and I know its because i wanna be as safe as possible and beware of the dangérs around me.
Recently i saw a doctor explaining online how holding in pee for long can cause bladder infections and UTIs. Now for two years i had been struggling bádly with hyperarousal and peeing so frequently that anytime i would start to doze off I'd get these palpitations, jerks and this feeling in bladder that i gotta pee even if I didn't have to. Thats how bad it got. Infact my initial comments were about that when i found one of your videos that addressed it and a few others. I was relieved finding them and made such progress that i was hardly getting up to pee even if i had to I was so relaxed that i didn't get up and slept well.
Now that doc's video really triggered something and I'm afraid I'll have a "big one" . This week was awfûl. I couldn't get that deep restorative sleep and I'm so aware of any sensations that i might miss the signal of peeing.
Im not afraid of staying awake here its a secondary fear or tertiary one its more so that if I'm sleeping without getting up and once i do there's this sharp discomfort and i have to pee. Im scared of getting an infection or a uti if i "prioritize" sleep of this. And before i can convince myself of anything im already experiencing hyperarousal and racing hearts as if my brain's preparing to stay alert in case i miss the signal 😭😭✋🏻. Has anyone had similar concerns?? Am i the only one who has it??? I'm afraid that sleeping well might give me this infection or UTI. Prior when i started well I'd have to wake two or three times but I'd just sleep because thats how relaxed i got. I feel like I've regressed now 😭😭😭
I know my English and grammar is very choppy here and bàd here but I hope you got the gist of it. 😢. I was so relieved seeing this video posted as I was planning on finding another video where you have discussed this topic in a different but the timing is perfect here. I would much appreciate if you help me out here. I still have lots of residual féars and anticipatory anxîety because of next month. 😭😭 Just when I was seeing some light I got hît with darkness again
Hi Sunflowers, there's a video on this channel about "not opening the attachment." I think that might be useful here! I used to check often for health-related things, but finally gave up the chase last summer. I just decided I was done. It was hard at first because the brain wants the habit, but eventually it stopped asking!
I’ve had some experiences where I’m so tired and sleepy, can’t keep my eyes open but my sleep is so weird. I feel like I haven’t been asleep but I have. As soon as I wake I questioned if I was even asleep but I know I was. I wonder if this was my brain being cautious of the threat after some nights of good sleep.
Hi Maddy, this is actually one of the most common experiences that can seem really strange. We call it hyper sleep, check insomnia insight 507 for more, I think that can help much
Hello, Daniel
Thank you. It works.
For last couple of months ive had hypnic jerks problem. They would keep me awake for hours... Tonight, when first one happened i accepted it and gave myself up to them. There was no more...
Then, i "tried" not to think of anything and keep my mind in "void", just observing racing heart, thoughts that came etc. And IT WORKS!
Not that in the first night ive slept for 8h. No. But every time i woke up, i fell asleep. Without any effort, without waiting for it. Just being calm.
In my head its like im floating above myself and calmly observing what is happening. Without judging. Accepting being awake.
Thank you again.
Anytime! Thanks so much for sharing this wonderful insight here 😊
Hello Dr. I’ve been struggling with insomnia for about a month
I have general health anxiety but I’m so afraid I will get brain damage if I only average sometimes 1-2 hours a night. Can anyone offer me some reassurance
Wonderful insight
does anyone had trouble sleeping after watching something scary ?
i can't stop thinking about it when i'm in bed and it makes it difficult to fall asleep and for some reason my brain refuses to belive that everthing will be back to normal and that it just a matter of time, because i went through something similair and because i recovered by watching daniel, my brain thinks that this time it won't work
can anyone tell me if it's normal and what i really want to know is if i will sleep soundly again
Right now I’ve been struggling with some late cold symptoms and ongoing aches and pains and the anxiety over feeling bad has really messed with relaxing during the repeated wake-ups
Hi Laurie, sorry ti hear but - seeing like you that it’s not cold symptoms that lead to a struggle, but our fears that they may lead to a struggle….it can help so much.
Because then we see there’s no circumstances we need for leaving the struggle, just clarity and understanding and self kindness
My problem with sleeping is people to the point where I wonder if I’m slightly autistic I’m so sensitive. I’ve had this problem for 37 years. I’ve lost friends because of it because they don’t understand. I won’t even make arrangements now to do anything in case I don’t sleep the night before and I’m gradually losing a lot friends, everybody’s circumstances I think will affect the individual minus loneliness if somebody says anything to upset me my heart starts racing then calms down then starts again. I can only describe it like my head is a block of frozen ice and it takes about five hours for it to thaw, out breathing hypnosis up and down going to the wee drinking tea I hate being like this
Hang in there, sorry to hear about what’s been happening, but so glad you found your way here. Of course some of us are a bit more sensitive and may naturally have a bit lighter sleep…but still have 0 insomnia.
Because insomnia is all about a fear of not sleeping, changing our lives because we are so scared of not getting sleep.. and what we teach can change things so life gets easy and sleep too, regardless of whether we are in the spectrum or not
I'm sorry Daniel but I no longer click on or watch your videos because watching insomnia content brings back all my scary memories with it. I'm almost fully healed from my somniphobia+insomnia, but everytime I get a notification from your channel or see others sharing their experiences, it kinda reminds me of the dark past and makes me a little anxious. I've been focusing on things outside of sleep and stopped consuming insomnia content. So everytime I see a video of yours on myr feed, for some reason it kind of scares me, maybe that phase of my life has traumatized me to the point that any reminder of my insomnia phase brings so much anxiety to me. I hope I can heal from this fully. Your videos have helped me soooo much in healing from my issues, but I'm also sorry that I just can't watch your videos anymore 😢
Bharathia, don’t be sorry, this is very normal and understandable. It’s like when we have a sunburn, for a time it’s wise to stay away from the sun to allow the skin to heal. Our brain and body just wants us to get some time for things to settle.
I’m so glad our way has been so helpful, and when it’s time, we will see you back 😊
does anyone had trouble sleeping after watching something scary ?
i can't stop thinking about it when i'm in bed and it makes it difficult to fall asleep and for some reason my brain refuses to belive that everthing will be back to normal and that it just a matter of time, because i went through something similair and because i recovered by watching daniel, my brain thinks that this time it won't work
can anyone tell me if it's normal and what i really want to know is if i will sleep soundly again
How do you stop fearing the fear of not sleeping?
Hi John, it’s really like everything else we are scare of… not attempting to get away from it when it happens. So oddly, the times you feel scared of being scared of not sleeping, that’s the opportunity to not try to figure out what to do or escape. Then the fear of fear of not sleeping fades
what about underlying physiological issues.. Like i believe i have brain inflammation affecting my sleep stages when i take anti inflammatories i sleep much better and longer with less waking..
Hi Mike, there’s a video called insomnia insight 513 on this. Believing we have a brain inflammation definitely can cause insomnia, a brain inflammation no. A brain inflammation can only disrupt our sleep
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 yeh thats how i feel more disrupted sleep
Hi sir i have overcome my insomnia but still i wake multiple times in a night but i will fall sleep within minutes, i want to eliminate those wake time , i dont have angry , anxiety about sleep ,pls help me sir
Yes help please
Hi, I’m very glad the insomnia isn’t here anymore 😊 And you know, these brief awakenings- every single human has them. We wake up many times per hour to scan the environment to make sure it’s still safe to sleep.
Once we kind of flag these awakenings as odd or abnormal, we remember them. But when we no longer think they’re odd or strange, we no longer remember anymore
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 yes.i will accept that but my brother didn't awake even a single time in night how this possible. Sir I want to increase my height for this sleep is very important.before insomnia I didn't have this problem I was slept entire night without any awake.
@pratheevrajj4705 oh believe me, your brother wakes up many many times, or he’s an alien!!
But, he can also share the secret to sleeping well with you. If you ask him what he does to not wake up a single time, he will shrug and go… “uh, don’t know”
That’s the secret, nothing!
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 but befor insomnia I didn't wake even single time in night but after insomnia this type of issuse coming . How this is possible