Good information except for the "give just a few choices" part. When someone does that to me it really ticks me off because it feels like they're trying to control me and coerce/manipulate me and define my parameters for me. I'd rather be asked questions like "Where would you like to go shopping?" or "What would you like for lunch?" or if I don't know all the choices I'd rather see a list and choose from them all because if somebody else picks only 2 I might not like either of them. I had a "friend" who used to do this and it was not for my benefit but more her own convenience if she didn't feel like going to certain places for instance when we did our grocery shopping together. Needless to say, she is no longer in my life.
You make a great point! Using only a couple of choices can backfire depending on the person's age. Personally, I enjoy having multiple choices to pick from. When I go shopping with a friend, we usually pick a few places from a list. If I'm shopping online for computer accessories, I like to compare multiple products before I settle on one. In other situations, I find many choices less appealing. I use choices very differently with children than adults. For a 6 year old with autism whom struggles staying focused and listening, using 2-3 choices can be very effective in getting them to be productive and content. With an 18 year old with autism, I might ask things like "what game would you like to play now" or "what dinner recipe would you prefer to make tonight". If the adult struggles deciding I gently guide him or her with suggestions.
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Good information except for the "give just a few choices" part. When someone does that to me it really ticks me off because it feels like they're trying to control me and coerce/manipulate me and define my parameters for me. I'd rather be asked questions like "Where would you like to go shopping?" or "What would you like for lunch?" or if I don't know all the choices I'd rather see a list and choose from them all because if somebody else picks only 2 I might not like either of them. I had a "friend" who used to do this and it was not for my benefit but more her own convenience if she didn't feel like going to certain places for instance when we did our grocery shopping together. Needless to say, she is no longer in my life.
You make a great point! Using only a couple of choices can backfire depending on the person's age. Personally, I enjoy having multiple choices to pick from. When I go shopping with a friend, we usually pick a few places from a list. If I'm shopping online for computer accessories, I like to compare multiple products before I settle on one. In other situations, I find many choices less appealing.
I use choices very differently with children than adults. For a 6 year old with autism whom struggles staying focused and listening, using 2-3 choices can be very effective in getting them to be productive and content. With an 18 year old with autism, I might ask things like "what game would you like to play now" or "what dinner recipe would you prefer to make tonight". If the adult struggles deciding I gently guide him or her with suggestions.