I have a big... BIG... BIIIIGGGGG... muscles!!! HAHAHA!!! What did you think I was going for? That's so DIRTY of you! GAGAGAGA!!! I am the funniest UA-camr ever! Maybe that's the reason why I have TWO (!!!) HOT (!) GIRLFRIENDS. Thanks for being alive, dear val
One thing this channel taught me about charisma is that there is no one size fits all and you should not try to be someone you are not. For my personality, I have found something akin to Chris Evan's charm to be most natural to incorporating into my own social interactions.
Quick question: throwing my head back and laughing like that is something I really WANT to do, but I feel like as a girl it gives off a different impression than when a guy does it. Is that just a false perception on my part or is there something else I should do instead?
Just because it gives a different impression, doesn't mean it gives a bad impression. Some people will like it and other's won't, so it's a great way to differentiate between people you should spend your time around. But like they always say, do callibrate it to the people and the situation. A general rule is to just keep your energy at 1 level above everyone else (in group settings.)
@@peckishcloud My problem is that leaning back and laughing is just so unnatural to me. I’m worried it’s going to come across as fake or excessive. I am a man btw.
@@D00Rb3LL That kind of excessive laughter isn't a necessary thing, but just like any skill you have to develop it. Most situations don't call for it, so I would focus more on laughing deep in the belly, making it feel more natural, and training your mind to focus on the funny to make laughter more common. These things take time, but making it habitual is what will make it feel natural.
Some charming girls I’ve met move their head sideways and use hand/arm expressions when laughing. It’s more subtle but it might be easier for you to adapt yourself and personalize it if you feel like leaning is too much.
Late to this question but my girlfriend has a really drastic laugh when i tell a good one. Head back and a very loud HA that quiets down into more normal hahahas, but I always just go "yeah! I really got her that time" its what I always thought since the beginning
So what about adding some more examples with women to your videos? I'd recommend looking at the cast of Ocean's 8 - those ladies are so fun to watch, their chemistry with each other is pulpable and each one of them has great sense of humour.
Make a video on Draco Malfoy (Harry Potter-movie version). He is a really interesting character but what makes such a huge number of people like him ???!!!!
Ever think that trying to come to conclusions on how to act based on the behavior of an ACTOR who has reasons to behave in a way that garners popularity might not seem like the best idea, that it might not carry over 1:1 to regular people? Being on shows where they're paid to be there won't have them being their genuine selves. Just my 0.02, still fun to watch these clips.
Yeah, it is a play for the audience as much as a play between them. Still worth considering implementing some of the behaviour patterns and have some fun :)
You should do a video on how to recognize if you are being manipulative without meaning to be. And alternative ways to communicate or respond that aren't manipulative.
This is a good video the only flaw is that your examples are all based off of someone that is already center of attention. That already gives you the confidence and social power over others
Real way to get women to obsess over you, be obscenely good looking, have a great personality, have insane career. Chances improve if you're married, get that "can't have him" vibe going too.
I don't know what my issue is. I think overall I just lack confidence or I just don't know how to begin talking. Once I start talking it becomes a breeze
Hi Charlie and Ben , I know that all of your work is planned, But can you make a video about articulation , I think that this is the one of the most important thing to learn. So, Can you please help us out
0:00 - Intro. 0:30 - #1: Speak through a smile. 2:21 - #2: Own the space around you. 5:25 - #3: Use the push-pull method. 7:30 - #4: Be willing to laugh at yourself.
Life is a journey. No one is perfect. We are all works in progress. Even baby steps will get you moving. Everything you could ever want is on the other side of fear.
Need more videos for females, unless I'm missing them?.. I know a lot of these work for women too, but just seems tailored more towards men. Still pretty good content but ya.
I just think that since both of the guys who run this are straight men, their experience is going to naturally be tailored toward straight men. I think there are probably plenty of channels directed towards women specifically who are made by women on UA-cam that might be up your alley. It’s kind of like going on a vegan cooking channel and saying “these are great, but I’d love a good meatloaf recipe”. You’re probably not gonna get that out of a vegan channel, and you probably won’t get worthwhile female advice from a channel by men that is more or less for men. As you said, there are some famous women they use as examples in some of these, however.
Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.
Love to see a video on virtue signaling and the dangers of becoming a persona. Also, surprise us with a video that doesn’t mention charisma university. Everyone loves your content and we look forward to discovering the wisdom you share - let us enjoy the hunt.
Ok so.... whats up with white with blue stripes? 1:40 and then again at 9:15 but have noticed few others. Thise 2 are just almost the exact same. There was one with a woman 9:08 wearing white dress with the stripes. And another with will smith 1:36 with a white flannel with the stripes (i know its not the same but still pretty close)..... its vary interesting 🤔
I liked this and wanted to share it, when I looked it up apparently there is no record of Mr. Lewis ever saying it, but there is a very similar quote from author James Sherman: "You can’t go back and make a new start, but you can start right now and make a brand new ending.”
As someone that used to be obese and recently got into the best shape of my life. Being comfortable in your own body is HUGE. It's a heck of a lot easier to "own the space around you" when you're not self-conscious about how you look or if your love handles are hanging out in a weird way.. Being in great shape boosts your confidence automatically. Once you do that, a lot of the tips being discussed here simply come naturally. That's my personal experience anyway.
When you go from fat to fit and you see women looking at you that never would have before it's incredibly motivating and inspires a lot of confidence. That confidence just amplifies your attractiveness.
1) Speak through a smile. smile through your eyes and be charming. laugh at your own words. do not smile 24/7 like, starting a story, start serious and it gets to the funnier part, you can start smiling and then start laughing. keep the smile genuine. try to guide the conversation to things that actually make you laugh. 2) own the space around you. use your hands when you speak, use gestures. and even when you're not speaking, you can take up space when you laugh. put yoir head back, pur your hand on their shoulder or knee. this way you can slowly make people more comfortable to your touch and so if you're interested in them, you will easily be able to kiss them. also, another way to know if they're really interested or not. take up the space around you. ALSO, do not laugh at everything the other person says, it's cringy 3. Bounce between a) teasing lightly b) complimenting kindly bounce back and forth between this. this is called as the push-pull technique. this makes you less predictable and makes gou moe interesting. they wanna know what you'll say. more likely to work on people who are used to JUST good compliments. they're more likely to be attracted to this. don't just tease and be a jerk or give compliments and be out in the friendzone. 4. don't hide your flaws. own the mistakes that you did. if they jab at you, take it and laugh at it. if you're scared, admit it. Admit being scared, embarrassed. be willing to laugh at your own mistakes and be willing to own them. this shows you're not afraid to be judged. the thing that would bother other people, you're comfortable with it.
i love the video, can you make a video how to react in negative situations because most of these actors you cover are usually in a nice group of people and the energy is always lifted. how about a situation where you really feel uncomfortable? love your channel
Have you considered that you may have adhd? I do and one of the symptoms is that I forget what I'm talking about while I'm talking about it. This doesn't mean you can't go into the conversation with confidence though. Remind yourself that no matter how the convo goes, you'll be ok. Because you will. Then remember that if you mess up or forget you can laugh it off knowing you're human, we all make mistakes, and you will be ok. You've got this! 👍
@@OMGSHEENA Thanks for the comment! :) yeah, I thought of that. I know that I have social phobia but I don't know if it's the cause or consequence of something else, maybe adhd. I'm still looking for the courage to go to therapy. Because of the communication problems I'm very afraid of it.
@@zoeydeutch6768 @Zoey Deutch Don't be afraid of therapy. A good therapist that is the right fit for you will listen to you and offer tools to cope with and/or overcome the obstacles that your brain is creating. Try online therapy if it's easier a lot of health insurance companies are starting to cover online therapy now. Your brain, like mine, may work differently from some, but that doesn't make it broken or bad. As simple as it sounds breathing is the best tool I've found for almost every issue I have and I have so many issues I offer subscriptions. But seriously, feeling anxious? Take a deep breath and let it out slowly counting backwards from ten. (Also if you have someone you trust near by, hold their hand. Skin to skin contact releases dopamine and other "feel good" hormones) Feeling angry? Take a deep breath, close your eyes, remember something that makes you feel calm (think of something ahead of time to be your go to so that you'll remember it when upset), smile and let the breath out slowly. Got the hiccups? Take a quick deep breath that expands your chest pulling shoulders back and hold it for 5 seconds and release slowly (gasping when scared or holding breath expands diaphragm which is what really helps hiccups), Can't stop crying, having IBS issues or experiencing pain? You guessed it .. slow deep breaths in, slow puckered breaths out (like you're blowing out candles slowly) Rapid short breaths when in pain or otherwise can cause hyperventilation so slow breathing can be vital. I had a boss that used to ask every new trainee what the number one rule in a knife fight is. Most would say bring a gun or don't forget the knife etc but the answer is to "remain calm" and I've found this to be true of almost any situation. The best way to remain calm, or atleast appear calm is to take slow deep breaths, in my experience. Even if someone is verbally attacking you, arguing etc just tune them out, hum if you have to (it helps tune out inner or outer noise, and take deep slow breaths until you're ready to continue. Obviously if you're in physical danger remove yourself from the situation if you can, breathing can't stop a knife or a fist or bullets but it can help you to think clearly and calm your body and mind. Also you'd be surprised how much standing with good posture, chin up, shoulders back etc., will influence your ability to feel confident. Good luck!
I don't necessarily agree with that. You want to be successful, if you get rejected or fail that means you main a mental mistake or error, which is going against a competitive work environment that shuns errors. You want to feel confident and have a long history of successful experiences to draw from. If you keep getting rejected, you get numb and slowly turn into a loser.
Seems like a warning is appropriate: be VERY careful when touching other people in public, especially people you don't know. The two Chrises can do it because they're obviously friends and enjoy being around each other. But for those of us who aren't gorgeous Hollywood stars, it can be very easy to invade someone's physical space in an unpleasant way without meaning to. Read the room, always.
I prefer this kind of charisma to the 'cool guy', it makes people around you feel better about themselves and it's just a more positive vibe.
Yeah definitely play your personality strengths if you are a warm person he warm. If you are chill be chill :)
@@IsaacJoshi Totally agree. I think too many people try to force the wrong style for them
Save the Uygur people. Byctt China! who is kllng them. Byctt France who banned religious freedom.
@@disciplinado2190 I'm happy to donate some vowels if you're running short.
@@Sifar_Secure I'm happy to share some knowledge if you'll benefit.
I was smiling the whole time while watching this. Chris Evans' smile is contagious for sure.
Jeez. He's a 10. Of course he's perfect. Therefore not a good role model for the 90%
Oops noticed after reading this
I think Gordon Ramsey could be a very interesting person to be analysed on this channel.
No you donut
Also that missing lamb sauce
@@kalpeshrawat418 He found the lamb sauce
His Charisma is like Gandhi’s Flip Flops
For being a bad person?
Him: the first tip is to smile
Me in the middle of a pandemic: 😷😷😷 am I charming enough yet?
Smile through your eyes. And oyeah listen with you ears
Indian?
@@fzfzfzfz499 yeah
As someone who works in retail, its trivially easy to smile through the mask.
@@sanasafeena2416 yeah feels terrible
Simple: just be a movie star. Works every time.
At the end of the day this the rule number one 😂
I have a big... BIG... BIIIIGGGGG... muscles!!! HAHAHA!!! What did you think I was going for? That's so DIRTY of you! GAGAGAGA!!! I am the funniest UA-camr ever! Maybe that's the reason why I have TWO (!!!) HOT (!) GIRLFRIENDS. Thanks for being alive, dear val
@@AxxLAfriku big appetite, ego, head, nose
Charisma on Command - ''The way to fake a genuine smile is to ....''
Well I mean there is Brie Larson... 😳
1) Speak through a smile;
2) Own the space around you;
3) Use the push-pull method; and
4) Be willing to laugh at yourself.
you copied the list from the description
@@FireJach they summarized the video so people don’t have to sit thru lmao
Thank you
Ty dude these talks ramble with no decent summation
And star in an all-time, record breaking, blockbuster movie.
Chris is naturally a cool, charming guy.
Yes, Chris
One thing this channel taught me about charisma is that there is no one size fits all and you should not try to be someone you are not.
For my personality, I have found something akin to Chris Evan's charm to be most natural to incorporating into my own social interactions.
Yeah 👍
My notes on this video...
Step 1: Look like a Hollywood stud
Step 2:
Mission completed
Have a giant member, too. I’m sure that helps in the confidence department
Step 3: Profit
@@cltnthecultist No I'm afraid it doesn't.
Step 2: be incredibly rich.
No one can replicate the perfection of that man 😰
Yes finally, I've been wanting a video on him! I'm personally inspired by the loving character he portrays as Captain America.
Quick question: throwing my head back and laughing like that is something I really WANT to do, but I feel like as a girl it gives off a different impression than when a guy does it. Is that just a false perception on my part or is there something else I should do instead?
Just because it gives a different impression, doesn't mean it gives a bad impression. Some people will like it and other's won't, so it's a great way to differentiate between people you should spend your time around. But like they always say, do callibrate it to the people and the situation. A general rule is to just keep your energy at 1 level above everyone else (in group settings.)
@@peckishcloud My problem is that leaning back and laughing is just so unnatural to me. I’m worried it’s going to come across as fake or excessive. I am a man btw.
@@D00Rb3LL That kind of excessive laughter isn't a necessary thing, but just like any skill you have to develop it. Most situations don't call for it, so I would focus more on laughing deep in the belly, making it feel more natural, and training your mind to focus on the funny to make laughter more common. These things take time, but making it habitual is what will make it feel natural.
Some charming girls I’ve met move their head sideways and use hand/arm expressions when laughing. It’s more subtle but it might be easier for you to adapt yourself and personalize it if you feel like leaning is too much.
Late to this question but my girlfriend has a really drastic laugh when i tell a good one. Head back and a very loud HA that quiets down into more normal hahahas, but I always just go "yeah! I really got her that time" its what I always thought since the beginning
This channel is the most legit channel of this kind.
It's been a long time Charisma, where have you guys been?
I'd love to hear more about push-pull method because it didn't understand it entirely.
there is nothing like this anywhere. I never paid for any of their stuff but free stuff alone helped me a lot!!!
Okay there's no way I can remember all the things you've discussed all over I do appreciate it.
A mentor is what sounds amazing
So what about adding some more examples with women to your videos? I'd recommend looking at the cast of Ocean's 8 - those ladies are so fun to watch, their chemistry with each other is pulpable and each one of them has great sense of humour.
Wow I notice that I do most of this right but sometimes I do put my self in the box when I get in my head.
He’s just perfect 😩❤️❤️❤️
Make a video on Draco Malfoy (Harry Potter-movie version). He is a really interesting character but what makes such a huge number of people like him ???!!!!
There is a reason why i love Chris Evans so much
Confidence is key!
as a drummer I can confirm, the push pull technique is really effective.
Ever think that trying to come to conclusions on how to act based on the behavior of an ACTOR who has reasons to behave in a way that garners popularity might not seem like the best idea, that it might not carry over 1:1 to regular people? Being on shows where they're paid to be there won't have them being their genuine selves. Just my 0.02, still fun to watch these clips.
Yeah, it is a play for the audience as much as a play between them. Still worth considering implementing some of the behaviour patterns and have some fun :)
You should do a video on how to recognize if you are being manipulative without meaning to be. And alternative ways to communicate or respond that aren't manipulative.
Please breakdown Daniel Cormier of the UFC. He is a very charismatic person who makes friends with everyone.
His weigh ins are legendary! My favorite is when he played rock paper scissors with the other guy 🤣
@@Gchildwarrior Yup!
Touch is a top tip during the pandemic😂
This is a good video the only flaw is that your examples are all based off of someone that is already center of attention. That already gives you the confidence and social power over others
Real way to get women to obsess over you, be obscenely good looking, have a great personality, have insane career.
Chances improve if you're married, get that "can't have him" vibe going too.
In my opinion " just be you" that's the best way to be better person
You should do a video on Tiffy(TinaRina) from RawTime. The way she handles prank callers exudes confidence & charisma
I don't know what my issue is. I think overall I just lack confidence or I just don't know how to begin talking. Once I start talking it becomes a breeze
Please do a video on Noah Reid’s kind confidence!
Hi Charlie and Ben ,
I know that all of your work is planned,
But can you make a video about articulation , I think that this is the one of the most important thing to learn. So, Can you please help us out
@Charisma on on Command haha Scammers are here 😂
Dont reply to the no. in the reply . Thats a fake channel and trying to scam . Beware!
0:00 - Intro.
0:30 - #1: Speak through a smile.
2:21 - #2: Own the space around you.
5:25 - #3: Use the push-pull method.
7:30 - #4: Be willing to laugh at yourself.
Well what a perfect opportunity for the needy people it will feel like family there's a lot of help (:
Life is a journey. No one is perfect. We are all works in progress. Even baby steps will get you moving. Everything you could ever want is on the other side of fear.
Need more videos for females, unless I'm missing them?.. I know a lot of these work for women too, but just seems tailored more towards men. Still pretty good content but ya.
I just think that since both of the guys who run this are straight men, their experience is going to naturally be tailored toward straight men. I think there are probably plenty of channels directed towards women specifically who are made by women on UA-cam that might be up your alley. It’s kind of like going on a vegan cooking channel and saying “these are great, but I’d love a good meatloaf recipe”. You’re probably not gonna get that out of a vegan channel, and you probably won’t get worthwhile female advice from a channel by men that is more or less for men. As you said, there are some famous women they use as examples in some of these, however.
I do this with my friends almost constantly and my female friends….. a few years of doing this later and I’m still single 😢
Is this guys course worth it someone who done it plz tell
Love these videos! I wish I could afford Charisma University, but nearly $600 just seems a bit pricey! Thanks for making these videos tho :)
I can offer charisma University just 200usd for you.
these videos are so interesting to watch. we'll see if I can actually apply the principles 😅
Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.
YESSS. I want this.
Dude's a sociopath... probably not a good one to break down and try to emulate.
Love to see a video on virtue signaling and the dangers of becoming a persona. Also, surprise us with a video that doesn’t mention charisma university. Everyone loves your content and we look forward to discovering the wisdom you share - let us enjoy the hunt.
I don't know chris evans but he seems to do all of those things without thinking which means the tip here is just to ...be chris evans?
I watch all these charisma on command videos for tips only to realize these are things I already do without knowing it. I graduated lol
PLEASE MAKE ONE ON SEBASTIAN STAN
Tip #1 be tall and good looking. Smiling, being stoic, or literally whatever will be charismatic.
A little self-pity there, I see.
@@JaysonT1 a little cynical.. but no pity party here
you should do a video on the jake paul vs ben askren press conference
simply be too handsome that everyone will like anything you say or do 😂
Can you please do an analysis on Eren Yeager
3:15
I do this accidentally all the time. If somethings really funny I’m falling over
Haven't met Chris Evans, he seems really sweet. But anytime I see him in interviews I feel like I'm watching someone in a manic episode.
Such excellent advice.
As a homosexual male, my cousin can confirm that this video is very useful for him
I don’t see this behavior as charming I see it as someone testing my boundaries.
You are the first one to have seen through all this fakery. - well done - you are a rare person in this age of vanity and attention seeking
1, 2, 3 Be good looking and 4, 5 Don't be ugly 😉
Whos done Charisma university and it actually transformed your social skills?
Can you analyze dylan o brien ?
All these could quickly become creepy if you're not good looking.
If I'd look like Chris Evans I'd be charming too and even if not people wouldn't care
My smile is crooked so I’m not much of a fan of It.
He's just a Gemini ❤️
This also reminds me of sykunno.....
I wonder if I could use this in my next job interview 🤔🤣
A man can wear nothing better than fame, money, confidence, beauty, or prove you are a leader of men
I love it.
So has there been any studies if this works for us girls when trying to find out if another girl likes her?
2:42...u don't talk to me about chaos if u haven't watched this interview
Do Tom Hardy please!
If everyone becomes charismatic, no one will be.
Chris evans is a public relations dream client 😁😋
Shahrukh Khan is the most charming person in the world when u are gonna make a video on him ?
It's not about Indian or American it's about personality.
Ok so.... whats up with white with blue stripes? 1:40 and then again at 9:15 but have noticed few others. Thise 2 are just almost the exact same. There was one with a woman 9:08 wearing white dress with the stripes. And another with will smith 1:36 with a white flannel with the stripes (i know its not the same but still pretty close)..... its vary interesting 🤔
Or just be yourself
+ be handsome
If your wallet is as heavy as thors hammer, guess what! U dont need to 😂😂
Can you do jimin from bts
Omg does Chris know about this 😂😂
Video suggestion: TommyInnit video idk lol
Can you make videos for women ?😊
At this point i dont even know if im breathing correctly.
TAG style in poker means Tight and aggressive...
Is it just me, or they have already made a video on that with the exact same examples?
Video suggestion: how to never run out of social battery
PLEASE. I can't tell you how much this is needed as an introvert
People are exhausting. We could use this.
I imagine you just have to not overextend yourself in social situations.
Impossible.
I'm extroverted, but because I'm the very high energy animated kind of extrovert, people exhaust me after a while, so this would help a lot.
*“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”*
*―C. S. Lewis*
My favorite author :) :) :)
I liked this and wanted to share it, when I looked it up apparently there is no record of Mr. Lewis ever saying it, but there is a very similar quote from author James Sherman:
"You can’t go back and make a new start, but you can start right now and make a brand new ending.”
I thought that was Annie Wilkes...🤔
@@TheCpj1976 Yeah the first guy who said it lived 6000bc in Mesopotamia.
@@ReasonAboveEverything know first guys name?
As someone that used to be obese and recently got into the best shape of my life. Being comfortable in your own body is HUGE. It's a heck of a lot easier to "own the space around you" when you're not self-conscious about how you look or if your love handles are hanging out in a weird way.. Being in great shape boosts your confidence automatically. Once you do that, a lot of the tips being discussed here simply come naturally. That's my personal experience anyway.
100% truth
Legendary man 💪
When you go from fat to fit and you see women looking at you that never would have before it's incredibly motivating and inspires a lot of confidence. That confidence just amplifies your attractiveness.
Agreed. Was also overweight. Haven't gotten to my goal yet but I see the difference.
what if you're short?
Don't forget to be physically gorgeous while you apply these techniques.
Oh I almost frogot ( Changes face shape)
@@connorbetancourt5605 perfection.
@@forgetfulstranger thank you😂😂😂
Ofc
Wow genius who would have thought that
1) Speak through a smile.
smile through your eyes and be charming. laugh at your own words. do not smile 24/7
like, starting a story, start serious and it gets to the funnier part, you can start smiling and then start laughing. keep the smile genuine. try to guide the conversation to things that actually make you laugh.
2) own the space around you.
use your hands when you speak, use gestures. and even when you're not speaking, you can take up space when you laugh. put yoir head back, pur your hand on their shoulder or knee. this way you can slowly make people more comfortable to your touch and so if you're interested in them, you will easily be able to kiss them. also, another way to know if they're really interested or not. take up the space around you. ALSO, do not laugh at everything the other person says, it's cringy
3. Bounce between
a) teasing lightly
b) complimenting kindly
bounce back and forth between this. this is called as the push-pull technique. this makes you less predictable and makes gou moe interesting. they wanna know what you'll say. more likely to work on people who are used to JUST good compliments. they're more likely to be attracted to this. don't just tease and be a jerk or give compliments and be out in the friendzone.
4. don't hide your flaws.
own the mistakes that you did. if they jab at you, take it and laugh at it. if you're scared, admit it. Admit being scared, embarrassed. be willing to laugh at your own mistakes and be willing to own them. this shows you're not afraid to be judged. the thing that would bother other people, you're comfortable with it.
where is 5th i cant find in this fckng video
@@antalyalyaync1423 is be yourself (:
The 5th is to sign-up and pay for the course they’re offering.
Goat
Tbh, You deserve more likes..........
Please Do a video of “how to talk to someone that we haven’t spoken or seen since the pandemic started?” I love your videos, great job
What a great idea!!!
Give them an F-ing hug. 😁
That's so specific lol
dude, i need it
Be better than you were before, physically, mentally, socially. It will be SUPER noticible!
I would love to see how these techniques work for an average looking non celebrity.
i love the video, can you make a video how to react in negative situations because most of these actors you cover are usually in a nice group of people and the energy is always lifted. how about a situation where you really feel uncomfortable? love your channel
He has
@@alw2839 is their a link? Whats the title?
@@connorbetancourt5605 Go to his profile and scroll through them. Apologies I don't have any links.
@@alw2839 oh your fine
Check out his How To Command Respect During Conflict
I hate myself because I’m nervous in every conversation and in the middle of a sentence I forget what I’m talking about.
You got this, Zoey!
Keep putting yourself out there and tell yourself the truth, which is you don’t have to be anyone but yourself. Have fun
Have you considered that you may have adhd? I do and one of the symptoms is that I forget what I'm talking about while I'm talking about it. This doesn't mean you can't go into the conversation with confidence though. Remind yourself that no matter how the convo goes, you'll be ok. Because you will. Then remember that if you mess up or forget you can laugh it off knowing you're human, we all make mistakes, and you will be ok. You've got this! 👍
@@OMGSHEENA Thanks for the comment! :) yeah, I thought of that. I know that I have social phobia but I don't know if it's the cause or consequence of something else, maybe adhd. I'm still looking for the courage to go to therapy. Because of the communication problems I'm very afraid of it.
Don't worry hun! I have this problem too and it gets embarrassing at times but you have to just let it go and understand that you're only human 👍🏻😁
@@zoeydeutch6768 @Zoey Deutch Don't be afraid of therapy. A good therapist that is the right fit for you will listen to you and offer tools to cope with and/or overcome the obstacles that your brain is creating. Try online therapy if it's easier a lot of health insurance companies are starting to cover online therapy now. Your brain, like mine, may work differently from some, but that doesn't make it broken or bad. As simple as it sounds breathing is the best tool I've found for almost every issue I have and I have so many issues I offer subscriptions. But seriously, feeling anxious? Take a deep breath and let it out slowly counting backwards from ten. (Also if you have someone you trust near by, hold their hand. Skin to skin contact releases dopamine and other "feel good" hormones) Feeling angry? Take a deep breath, close your eyes, remember something that makes you feel calm (think of something ahead of time to be your go to so that you'll remember it when upset), smile and let the breath out slowly. Got the hiccups? Take a quick deep breath that expands your chest pulling shoulders back and hold it for 5 seconds and release slowly (gasping when scared or holding breath expands diaphragm which is what really helps hiccups), Can't stop crying, having IBS issues or experiencing pain? You guessed it .. slow deep breaths in, slow puckered breaths out (like you're blowing out candles slowly) Rapid short breaths when in pain or otherwise can cause hyperventilation so slow breathing can be vital. I had a boss that used to ask every new trainee what the number one rule in a knife fight is. Most would say bring a gun or don't forget the knife etc but the answer is to "remain calm" and I've found this to be true of almost any situation. The best way to remain calm, or atleast appear calm is to take slow deep breaths, in my experience. Even if someone is verbally attacking you, arguing etc just tune them out, hum if you have to (it helps tune out inner or outer noise, and take deep slow breaths until you're ready to continue. Obviously if you're in physical danger remove yourself from the situation if you can, breathing can't stop a knife or a fist or bullets but it can help you to think clearly and calm your body and mind. Also you'd be surprised how much standing with good posture, chin up, shoulders back etc., will influence your ability to feel confident. Good luck!
the more you get rejected.. the less you care about it ....the less fear you have for it.... the better you perform
I see you on every video bro 😂
I don't necessarily agree with that. You want to be successful, if you get rejected or fail that means you main a mental mistake or error, which is going against a competitive work environment that shuns errors. You want to feel confident and have a long history of successful experiences to draw from. If you keep getting rejected, you get numb and slowly turn into a loser.
Seems like a warning is appropriate: be VERY careful when touching other people in public, especially people you don't know. The two Chrises can do it because they're obviously friends and enjoy being around each other. But for those of us who aren't gorgeous Hollywood stars, it can be very easy to invade someone's physical space in an unpleasant way without meaning to. Read the room, always.
Another thing to do is laugh at the jokes they really care about. It makes them feel like you understand them, and often promotes a feeling of empathy
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@@prepperjonpnw6482 Haha, good catch, thank you
If these celebrities see themselves picked apart on these videos, I bet they come away with a serious complex.
Video suggestion: do a breakdown of the character "Jimmy McGill" from the show Better Call Saul.