Woman Claims Mom Acted Like ‘Complete Lunatic’ At Sister’s Wedding, Family Hasn’t Recovered
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- Danielle claims that growing up, there was no structure or stability in her life, and that her home was “very violent.”
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“My mother was absent, checked out, and neglectful,” she says. “There were a lot of arguments, a lot of physical fighting, a lot of emotional and verbal abuse as well.” She says the “blowouts” often occurred between her and her mother, starting when she was 12.
“Very unreliable,” is how Danielle’s older sister, Wendy, describes their mom when she was growing up. “She told me at a pretty young age that she wanted to be my friend and not necessarily my mother,” she says.
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The siblings say they have tried to confront their mother, Janet, about her behavior, but she often gets defensive. They say Wendy’s wedding day almost eight years ago turned into a disaster because of Janet - and the family has yet to recover. Watch the video above to learn what happened.
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At least the siblings are supportive of each other..
Kinda have to be 😂
That's all that matters
I guess that kind of abuse forces them together, they need some kinda anchor
Yes thank God for that
Lmao not like it was gonna come from anywhere else 😂😂
Who ruins their own child’s wedding over their own selfish feelings!?!! This lady needs serious mental help!
Chris Watt’s mother would
My father. Which is why we don't have a relationship. Actually it was him trying to my ex's new mother in law to help him keep my kids so I couldn't move then to a better environment. Like I said toxic is toxic. If you're toxic to me your toxic to my kids. Point blank.
Uber Karen
my mom is just like her
I'm surprised that my mom didn't try something like this bc she wasn't the center of attention.
Mom's miserable and doesn't want anyone else to be happy either. That's why she ruined the wedding. Spite.
@Petal Blossom the mother is what you call a Narcissist, this includes: Selfishness, Manipulative, Calculating, these people are often at times emotionally, mentally, verbally or physically abusive, controlling, they are good at playing the victim. I should know I live with a Narcissistic person my father.
@@MsWiccanpriestess same but mine died 4 years ago
Lmao
Wiccan Priestess I had a mother like that as well. You had to cater to her, she was like a child. Big temper tantrums, attention on her at all times. If she wasn’t happy, she would bring down everybody else around with her. I didn’t really realize or digest that she was a narcissist.
My mother is good for ruining special moments.
don’t be shy, start posting full episodes
Thank you!!
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I see no dislikes
Just like he used to!
I think we should appreciate what they are posting. If you want full episode we will be fine with you posting
Why would you want a relationship with that woman?
Blood and DNA doesn't make someone a parent.
Thank you
@Journeystomake Alkebulan I agree, it was all about not being centre of attention and that is really sad when you can't be happy for your own Daughter; let her have her day
It's because at the end of the day, that is their mother. Cuttimg parents out of your life is hard. I know. I've done it. You have this fantasy that one day, they will become better people and you will have a good relationship. But at some point you realize that that is just a fantasy and you feel like somerhing in you just died.
Facts
Kr H
had to do the same thing with my grandma. she even attacked me like a rabid animal and then calls up other family that *actually did her wrong* in jamaica and tells them a butchered, one sided story. no has ever brought out that side of me before and it sucks because she forced my hand. had to *completely* disown her to her face and she *still* lives with me. but yeah, something definitely died inside. 😭
“She wanted to control everything” ITS HER WEDDING AS SHE SHOULD
ewww her taunting her daughter with "you gonna hit me?!”... she obviously has her own deep issues she needs to deal with on her own.
The daughters admitted they did beat on their mom 🤷♀️
She's following her mum around.. The mum keeps telling her to go away and leave her alone
She’s hit before ! How is she supposed to feel ?
@@Psychoanalytical87 Yeah... When someone tells you to back off you should. You don't trap an angry animal - you shouldn't trap a furious person either. Flight or fight.
@@bobrown582 I'd punch her too if I were them
You know it's gonna be bad when they call the mom by her first name lol
My mother was like this, manipulative selfish neglectful didn't teach us anything. Some people have no business having children.
Very sorry you didn’t have a mom you deserved.
Same. We're stronger and better off without them.
Cymru Corpse ....same.....
Same here. Mine wasn't invited to my wedding. Hadn't seen her since she threw me out when I turned 16. We had to have the police explain she'd be arrested if she did what she threatened and ruined my wedding! Some people should never be parents.
I swear, they need to make this a law; go to a college or a school to be able to have children.
“You’re NOT going to ignore ME! If you don’t PAY ATTENTION to me-I WILL make my unhappiness known to all & ruin your day!”
It kills me how she felt entitled to having involvement. If you aren't present for your children, they learn not to need you. If you bring drama to the table, they remove your chair.
@@truthhurts8312 Well said!
That's sad..
It's sad this mother has to make even the special day in her kids life all about her.
If narcissist personality disorder was a person....wow!!
The crazy thing is, most narcissists act exactly the same. It's insane.
My parents are the exact copy just about 0.01 percent less insane about some issues
So Narcissus?
There’s one in a public office.
@@mariaweston5477 Yeah
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Okay ... ?? Lol
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Ha!!
I hope the siblings just support and talk to each other. I had a parent like that in my life and once I became an adult I had to not allow them in my life anymore.......They died without any of their grown kids at their bedside. This is what will happen to the mom if she isn't careful.
I have a father like that and yeah that's the end I'm planning to give him.😑
That’s so sad. I hope you both have healed from that..
@@SynterraSteen well the think is he is a good father up until 2 years back and they he began to hurt me and my mom through words 😑 psychological abuse is worst and I decided to ignore him and get through with my life.
Sad part is all these years of love he gave to me and my mom was fake and he just showed his true color , so yeah my entire childhood is build with fake love.
@@pavithra7818 I dont think it was fake love. He still loves you he's just bitter right now. Bitter ppl don't realize how mean and selfish they become. Don't give up on him.
That's the dictionary definition of selfish,she actually said she couldn't believe her daughter wanted control of the situation...that situation being her own wedding,SMDH!
At least her children turned out better.
Take Mom at her word. She does NOT want you in her life. She is now older, broke, and needs a place for her sorry butt to land. THIS WILL GET WORSE! RUN!!!
I would lock my mother out the church if she did some shiii like this they too patient with this lady
That's why I'm going to try to have one of my, or my fiances friends be sort of a security guard and kick people out if they act up like this. It's ridiculous. I'm not spending thousands on a wedding and having you make a day about love and me, about you and your issues.
Call the 🚔
They should've just kicked her out, call the police on her
A melt down!! You're not 5 ..it's your daughter's wedding..GROW UP
My parents are both like this. They're divorced now and don't have to deal with each other but they really made it hard for my brother and I to grow up in a safe home. Now that I'm an adult, I've had to stop all communication with my parents because of their outbursts/ constant overstepping of boundaries. The biggest thing my parents taught me is sometimes nothing is better than something.
Must be hard to leave your toxic family, I'm happy you found peace and got out. My mom finally woke up at the age of 58 and decided to cut off her toxic brothers. They ruined her life, but she didn't want to leave them because she was scared to be alone without a family.
@@Hope_SH95 Mourning the loss of a family member while they're still walking this earth is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I'm sending your mother and you many healthy healing vibes.
@@bmoisgood3228 thank you so much!
It’s so sad that so many of US can relate to having shitty parents like this
@@Meangirl22 it's hard!
“She wanted control over the situation” ummmm it’s kinda HER wedding
"She kinda wanted to have control over the situation" - Welll... Duh? It's her wedding?
From someone who had an absolute sociopath as a mother, who literally stacked up on meds to kill me and my brother along with all the other stuff (many times)... I'd say good riddance and I salute you all for making such a huge effort to try and better this (even while she isn't worth it)!
@Lurking Buddha Oh, you're right, whoops! It cut to her right after her mother talking and she was still on video, so I mistook it
Toxic... toxic. What a horrible thing to do to your daughter on her special day. Someone who "tore their lives apart" ... SHE DID THAT!!!
That lady is a narcissist. It's best to love her from a distance.
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Don't love narcissists at all.
@@malas.7276 Easier said than done. A good fraction of the time don't get to choose the kind of people that end up in our lives.
Why this woman acting like a 12 yo kid JEEZ
@@frogmanjr sounds about right!🤟
Shes immature yes but my 11 year old acts nothing like that 😞
Well as far as the wedding goes, everyone basically does what the bride wants; even the groom.
Why would they want a relationship with her, she just wants everyone to be miserable just like her, just live her alone
Exactly! I have a mother that is like this that I cut out of my life however half my family says I should still try to have a relationship with her because we are biologically related. Some people hold onto this idea that biological family is the most important thing, and that we owe people love/devotion simply because we are related through blood. It’s very old thinking.
all kids deserve parents, but not all parents deserve kids
Why was the mother even invited to the wedding? Early on, my husband and I had a detailed discussion on whose parents might be allowed to live with us. As it turned out, we never had to follow through, but we were prepared.
Mom has never matured emotionally beyond teen level. She's probably also a narcissist who can't put her children first even on their wedding day. Sad.
Reminds me of that mom who wore a white dress and was chanting “THANK YOU JESUS” in her daughter’s wedding 😂
When I saw the caption that's what I thought it was, until I saw the photo and the upload time. 😂
@@shelbielynne9609 omg right? 😂😂😂
exactly lol
@Barbara Cox lol
It's her wedding her guest list
This is exactly why it’s okay to cut ties with people in your family, even your parents. Set that boundary and go no contact until they get help and show clear signs of improvement and willingness to change. This woman is a raging narcissist, she acts like an absolute child
"She wanted to control her wedding" uhh... yeah. She's in charge of the wedding...?
Sounds like she flew into a narcissistic rage. She wanted control and for it to be about her. She want supply. Her action are classic narcissist tropes at this point. Anyone with minimal knowledge about narcissim could see it.
*"Seeing somebody who had absolutely tore our lives apart and destroyed my dreams was more than I could take and I had a total meltdown"*
Do you think its occured to her yet that her daughter looks at her and feels the same thing? Or is she still the _innocent victim_ who has _no idea_ how _any of this could have happened_ 😟😢☹
Whenever the comments open, we have to roast the people on this show
We get the opportunity and we take it 🤣
So I understand this situation a lot and to answer your question at least for me it’s the wanting to have a mother a complete family
Loser they are tho right 😂
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Ruby ♥ Dude I’m like seeing them every where now tho 😂🤣
“Wanted to be my friend, not my mom.” Friends their age make better friends, and moms need to be moms. When you are a mom, it is no longer all about you.
I feel bad for both the daughter and her husband. To have your big day ruined because of your mother/ mother in law sucks.
They were more patient than I would be. If my parents were acting up on my wedding day, I'd kick them out until they have control over themselves.
I would've gone no contact with her immediately after that. I don't understand why they want this unstable person in their lives.
My mom told me if I had my wedding plans the way my BF and I planned them, she should “try everything in [her] power to ruin it and make [me] regret it.”
All because my BF and I want to challenge wedding gender norms with me in a black dress and him in a white suit
That actually sounds really cute... Heck, I might even hang on to that idea for later. I hope it went well for you
Girl do it, we are playing Panic at the disco to walk out to, you just gotta go for it man
@@charliecole6341 I'm not even close to getting married (as in, I've never even have a boyfriend) but I'll definitely put a pin in that idea for later
Get a restraining order or bouncers if you and your boyfriend marry. In case your mom’s threat is genuine
Do it!
Never invite narcs to anything. Not even a phone call.
I think their mom could have avoided becoming like this if she had treated her trauma after her separation. We need to work on ourselves and heal as soon as possible, or we'll ruin our entire life, and our children.
Nat, totally agree with you.
She wanted control of her own wedding ? Shocker
Wait what? The bride wanted control over her own wedding and wanted to have fun with her friends? What a crazy woman /s.
I'm glad the siblings support each other and have love for each others. I can't stand that woman at all. It's all about her and her life and her feelings.
It’s never a good sign if a parent acts as a friend instead of a parent.
That wedding wasn’t supposed to be about the mom, she’s already had 3 weddings!!
No one needs a mom like that in their lives. Time to move on ladies, she's not going to change, because she doesn't think she did anything wrong.
Its almost always the parents fault. My mom was, and still is an alcoholic. She has mental issues, and was yelling and screaming every day, when I was a child. She still does. She has never been able to see her own mistakes. Everything is always everyone else fault.
Narc
Seeing things like this makes me appreciate my mother so much. I hit the jackpot in the lottery for mothers i wouldnt swap mine for all the money in the world.
That woman is depressed, lonely, she's not maternal-some people aren't, and I'm pretty sure she has high blood pressure (it makes people very emotional and upset constantly). She needs therapy.
Why the heck did they invite her to the wedding at all??
Some people just should not procreate
This hits home, this is my mom ... toxic & selfish & doesn’t ever understand how she’s in the wrong.
1:34 sounds like the relationship I have with my mother,I fully understand what she is feeling in that moment and I hope she can do whats right and what she feels is right.
Wow this is crazy. It’s so harsh to steal someone’s thunder on THEIR wedding day but for it to be the mom doing it? That’s brutal!
My mom acts exactly like this! She has done and said many terrible things, is selfish, abusive, has anger and substance abuse issues, and so much more. Well, now that I'm older her number is blocked, she has no idea where or even what state I live in, she has no idea we had a wedding and will never meet my children nor will I ever speak to her again. The best part is she has no one, no pension, no retirement, and no savings, so she will be living on the street as an old woman because she couldn't bother to be a good mother and person. If you have parents like this, you NEED to cut them out of your life without remorse, do it for yourself now, not tomorrow! I had no father or grandparents but I STILL cut her out happily, because no parent is better than a shitty parent, the sooner you realize this, the better. If your biological family sucks, make your own with a partner and great friends
Destroyed MY dreams says all you need to know about her!
Mother is really gonna hate herself when she is alone in an old folks home. I’m a resident assistant and you can tell who was a good parent and who wasn’t. The ones that aren’t die unhappy and alone.
OMG. A bride who wants control over her own wedding?! How dare she!!
Wow this “mom” is delusional. Of course her daughter wanted control over the situation, and based on how this woman “parented” her kids it is pretty clear why the daughter didn’t want her mom to be part of the wedding.
3:16 No lady, YOU ruined everyones lives along with the men you brought in. Accountability isnt that hard when you genuinely want to change.
Why do these adults even want a relationship with a self absorbed screaming maniac? Move, change your phone number, she wants to be left alone, so leave her alone! Get her far away from ever having any contact or influence with your own children.
That lady is just sad and unhappy and she wants the samething for her kids. That sucks.
Shameful! My mother would never have been invited to my wedding. This certainly wasn’t the first indication that she’s got issues!
Fascinating that the son didn’t see it until so many years later. I wasn’t believed either. A familiar tale.
I would have never allowed her to the wedding. NEVER
Why would you even invite someone that unstable and agressive to your big day?? As if it isn't stressful enough on ones wedding.
Such pain in this family. Probably generational for this mother.
If 2 kids are saying the same thing it is most likely true.
That mom needs to get a grip and be gone until then.
If you're gonna have kids, you need a strong will. You need to know that you should never give up or pick someone else over your children.
Why would you want a relationship with this person. Looks like a vicious cycle to me. Feeding off of each other. Toxic
i’m excited they left the comments on
If you're so unhappy with your childhood... why are you apart of your mom's life as an adult.
Cut your ties and move on.
I live 600 miles away from my mother and keep it text message only. Relationships are not always like movies or TV shows. It’s ok to walk away peacefully and live your own life without narcissistic people.
Maybe the mum should have realised that if her daughter was more into seeing her father who she hasnt seen in years, and not being with her mum, that maybe her mum was embarrassing and should change.
How unfortunate for a child to not enjoy their wedding due to the antics of mom.
It's ok to block someone like that from your life. Family or not. You have to protect yourself.
Why did she invite her to the wedding.
Why is this edited like a PowerPoint I would make in grade 8
LOL!
omg why even have the mom at the wedding??? That sounds like someone you cut ties with a longggggg time ago.... Just a ticking time bomb, and on your most special day, smh .......
Who recordred this?That daughter will have to get her own place!
Very sad situations. Obviously the mother needs help. As a family, they have a lot of work to do if they choose to work on things. Blood does not mean family. Once I moved away from home I set a boundary with almost my entire family and I was a better person because of it. I hope they find healing and peace
I think she has emotionally unstable personality disorder (BPD) tbh
And maybe npd
Just because you can have kids doesn't mean you should.
The siblings should stay family without the old toxic troll... let her go, don’t let her poison the whole family tree, cut her branch off the tree and drop it. Family is not only blood, if they harm or disrespect you, you have the absolute right to cut that person from YOUR life, you only get one life, don’t let her make you miserable throughout it.
I didn’t cut my mother out, when she passed away I felt more relief than grief and that made me feel super guilty... I grieved the loss of my Mum, not not the loss of the woman. It was sad to say my mum passed, but I missed the concept of mum rather than the actual physical person.
What kind of mother would ruin her daughter’s wedding day? Seriously? First, she complains that she’s not a part of the wedding, then she yells at her ex husband?
Why would you even invite this terrible mother to your wedding if you knew she would act like a crazy person
It’s called trauma bonding. They didn’t think she’d be crazy at the wedding. They don’t understand that Mom is a full-blown narcissist.
Why is the mom acting as if it’s not her fault in the video 🤦🏻♂️WHEN CLEARLY SHE’S THE ONE RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYTHING
Weird - in other clips of this episode the mother claims her children are living in the past and should let it all go and move on.... yet she sees her ex for the first time after 15 years at her daughters wedding and has a complete meltdown?! So they have to move on from the past but she's allowed to hold 15 year grudges and ruin her own daughters wedding as a result? Some people really shouldn't have kids
"No! No! No! ... They're all gonna laugh at you!"
Notice how she made it about her. Her life. Her Dream. Of becoming the matriarch of a family that her grandmother or mother had over her.
This brings back such horrible memories....go no contact and save yourselves!
The wedding story is EXACTLY the same as a wedding story I read on Reddit ages ago. It must be the same people!
Oh my god it's like I'm looking at my own mum watching this, almost everything to a T except from the fact that it was my graduation day and not a wedding.
Arguably the worst day of my life.
@seducedPigeon, I am sorry that happened to you at graduation day. That is truly one of the happiest days in life. I hope you went out with your friends that night and had fun, instead of crying over your moms demons that rule over her
The mom said she was her friend not her mom... wow
This whole story breaks my heart
Typical narcissist behavior
Daughter: I'd like to have control of my wedding.
Mom: ...and I took that personally.
I wonder what the incentive is besides receiving Dr Phil's help. They have to get some sort of monetary compensation.
Yeah, and they get to be on TV. A lot of people want that, thus they are willing to be exploited.