PERFECT RESPONSE. I can tell by these comments there are many close minded sheeple in this world. If something doesn't fit in the 'box' they've been brainwashed to believe, it obviously is 'wrong', has no merit, and is being talked about because people need 'attention' smh. What a shame. I'm so grateful to be openminded.
I definitely understand them. People have to understand we live in a day and age where people are different and want different outside of a typical nuclear family. Life isn't only about the typical nuclear family: mom, dad, kids, and dog. There are so many types of families these days. I understand this as a single person who consistently gets judge for not wanting to be married now. I respect people who make plans for their life, clearly they may be better at communicating than some people that fit the nuclear family.
One time I was listening to a podcast on the history of friendship and it was fascinating. For example, the word "Kin" in the English language used to mean family AND friends! So, I don't see this relationship as being weird at all. As long as a person has companionship and connection with others... then you really have all you need to for a very happy healthy life. Sex is over rated..... it's the companionship and having someone who has your back that matters the most.
I thought about this!!! I thought about finding a best friend because i feel like friendships are closer to family. Romantic love dies off. Friends are the ones who be there for you after your heart broken or go through serious stuff in your life. I feel like friendships are downplayed or underrated. If I’m going to put my all trust in someone why not it be my best friend. We can obviously still have romantic and sexual relationships outside our marriage and if somehow a romantic relationship becomes serious it’ll be similar to polyamory. We’ll have our own romantic partners on the side.
Don't be closed-minded people. Just because you don't understand something doesn't mean it can not exist. It is completely possible for asexual (or otherwise) people to be in loving same sex or opposite sex relationships without intimacy or romance. This comment section sounds like it's stuck in the 1950s. 😑
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Agreed with your comment. I guess people are aware of homosexuality more than they are aware of asexuality. So that this isn’t a homosexual relationship is confusing.
@@alisharo58 Then why would they stand there wearing a symbolic wedding dress with a veil on one of their heads, holding hands and looking lovingly into each other's eyes if they're not calling themselves having a gay marriage? They're messing with people's heads!
@@teenamaree5660 Because symbolism has been divorced from tradition. Bridal dresses and veils are not universal aspects of marriage across time nor location, and marriage was a contractual affair far longer in history than it was an expression of romantic love. They chose a way that legitimizes their commitment to one another legally and culturally, and they had fun doing it. Many people dream of their wedding day. They want the dress and the cake and party, so why not? Just because they aren't marrying a romantic partner, doesn't mean they have to miss out on the experience. A wedding ceremony is not necessary for a marriage. You can sign a paper in front of the judge and be married despite the romanticized notion that a ceremony is needed to show eternal commitment. People have the ceremony and party to celebrate. It's a party, and they wanted to party! 🥳
@@teenamaree5660 Also, gay constitutes same gender romantic and/or sexual attraction, so a wedding without those is not a gay wedding. It's just a wedding with two women who share platonic feelings. Just because someone has preconceived notions about something doesn't mean they are right. Maintaining one's confusion and denial past explanation is choosing to be stubborn. Like two women holding hands can be friends, sisters, girlfriends, etc. A clear liquid could be water or vinegar. The gem could be a diamond or crystal. Appearance and one's idea of what it means are not enough to know. People have to be willing to examine, ask questions, and listen to the answers to understand.
But if you're open to dating..what happens when you fall in love with someone else??? Then what about the family you have buildt with your platonic friend/wife? That's the only part that throws a wrench in this whole situation.
That was my question too. I can understand if they don’t want to wait to have/raise kids, but the marriage/commitment closes off any future relationships.
I'll explain as a polyamourus person. If they can still date then they just have partners outside of the marriage. They can have multiple relationships with multiple different people. As long as everyone consents and communication happens there isn't an issue.
It's not romantic, they just know that they want a friend who they can depend on for life and someone they're comfortable with being around for everything. It may be in some ways intimate, but not romantically intimate, just closer than any usual friend.
I'm quite surprised by the comments here, so I'll leave my piece here for someone who may need it. Marriages can be for love, and are more commonly so in the modern era, but primarily they're a way to secure oneself and your family line. Marriages were mostly politically motivated or for the benefits of being married rather than for love alone, if at all. Two best friends marrying for love, despite it not being a romantic love, is securing their relationship and giving them both a life they benefit from. If a romantic partner is introduced it simply means they're an addition to the family unit, not an upgrade. It's well known throughout history that people have married romantically and have had the opportunity to add on to their union legally. This isn't the case now, which is unfortunate as polyamoury has become much more equal in structure and so is acceptable in a way that old polyamoury wasn't. Regardless, partnerships are unique to everyone and this is a great example of a healthy platonic relationship.
Should’ve led with that: they seem to be aromantic and asexual. They don’t have sexual or romantic feelings for anyone (including each other). This made it sound like two heterosexual women decided to get married. Which is more confusing to understand.
And you believe, with al of their lying around kissing and touching, that they're not being romantic and that they're asexual? Then perhaps you'd believe I own a 10 million dollar mansion at Martha's Vineyard!
I was okay with this until they talked about if they found someone to be romantically involved with. I kinda don't understand the getting married part if they are still open to meeting someone and breaking their celibacy. Maybe these BFF's wanted to make sure that when one of them passes, the other would always be financially protected 🤔? Or maybe it's not for me to understand? Don't mind me. I'm in my thoughts. 🤷🏾♀️
The legalities of what marriage brings is what attracts people to platonic marriages from what I've read. It's a way of ensuring that LEGALLY they are bonded and can speak on one another's behalf should serious matters arise (not everyone has or wants someone in their immediate family to do this for them). Them getting married as friends is not about depriving/limiting themselves of someone they may have a true romantic attraction to, they still have that option, as they should. It takes an open mind to understand an agreement like this, because as like they mentioned many people look at friendships as an 'afterthought' and don't hold them to near the standard they would a romantic or sexual relationship. In reality, if we poured just as much effort into friendships as we do romance and sex, you'll find they are just as fulfilling and can enrich our lives on many levels.
They do every single thing a gay couple would do, yet they want you to believe that they are not sexually or romantically involved! These are two apparently physically healthy young women here. No matter who you are, if there's nothing wrong with you, you will have sexual desires crop up at some point, even if it's infrequent! And if you are two people who are very affectionate, sleeping in the same bed, claiming you don't engage in sexual interactions between you, what happens when one of you gets the urge to self gratify in the middle of the night? Do they seriously want people to believe that when that happens, the other one just ignores what's going on and just rolls over and continues sleeping when, all the while, they've been lying around on the couch cuddling and kissing ( whether it's on the cheek or whatever, it's still kissing)! If that's not romance, then I don't know what romance is! Most heterosexual women in marriages, or just in sexual relationships, aren't privileged to that much affection! The best most of them get from their men is a kiss or two in the bedroom, before they go at it! What comes to mind for me is that those two women are engaging in cognitive semantics or, perhaps, what we perceive to be sexual or romantic, versus what actually falls under that umbrella of reasoning. By this, what I'm trying to say (with my limited communication skills) is that perhaps they don't engage in genital to genital sexual relations....that, perhaps they use objects to assist in satisfying each other's urges based on their concern for each other's happiness as Bffs. So, utilizing that convoluted form of reasoning they justify labelling their legal commitment to each other as a platonic marriage. It perplexes me that I can even imagine that mode of thinking. But I'm only able to do so because I was an active lesbian for 15 years...from 1976 - 1991. I wholeheartedly surrendered my life to Jesus Christ in Oct. 1991. In that same hour, the Lord delivered me from acting on those inclinations and I began a scriptural process of recovering from the propensity to behave that way, during the span of the next 10 years. Homosexuality, like alcoholism, is a physical, spiritual and emotional malady. Those who find it doable to act out that way have not yet developed a heartfelt relationship with God (through Christ), which causes them to be emotional unstable when it comes to accepting opposite sex relationships. For that reason, they are able to engage in same sex relations because there's nothing built up in their spirit to keep them from following through with satisfying those forbidden desires.
So everytime i want to take a relationship seriously i've got to marry that person. At this point i would have married even my mom. This so dumb and stupid and illogical.
Why get married? The whole sanctity of marriage has been ruined, can they not just be best friends? And then you are involving children into the confusion!! This is madness
Soulmates come in many forms.❤
So true! People don’t seem to get this
PERFECT RESPONSE. I can tell by these comments there are many close minded sheeple in this world. If something doesn't fit in the 'box' they've been brainwashed to believe, it obviously is 'wrong', has no merit, and is being talked about because people need 'attention' smh. What a shame. I'm so grateful to be openminded.
THIS
I definitely understand them. People have to understand we live in a day and age where people are different and want different outside of a typical nuclear family. Life isn't only about the typical nuclear family: mom, dad, kids, and dog. There are so many types of families these days. I understand this as a single person who consistently gets judge for not wanting to be married now. I respect people who make plans for their life, clearly they may be better at communicating than some people that fit the nuclear family.
One time I was listening to a podcast on the history of friendship and it was fascinating. For example, the word "Kin" in the English language used to mean family AND friends! So, I don't see this relationship as being weird at all. As long as a person has companionship and connection with others... then you really have all you need to for a very happy healthy life. Sex is over rated..... it's the companionship and having someone who has your back that matters the most.
I thought about this!!! I thought about finding a best friend because i feel like friendships are closer to family. Romantic love dies off. Friends are the ones who be there for you after your heart broken or go through serious stuff in your life. I feel like friendships are downplayed or underrated. If I’m going to put my all trust in someone why not it be my best friend. We can obviously still have romantic and sexual relationships outside our marriage and if somehow a romantic relationship becomes serious it’ll be similar to polyamory. We’ll have our own romantic partners on the side.
That's why I'm here too ahah. I had this idea and I wanted to see if someone did it for real. I think it's genius
A marriage is a legal contract. Romanticizing marriage is actually a new concept.
Finally someone gets it
This!!
Exactly. Also ehm let's stop with setting possible goals for people, I am totally on board with this
Don't be closed-minded people. Just because you don't understand something doesn't mean it can not exist. It is completely possible for asexual (or otherwise) people to be in loving same sex or opposite sex relationships without intimacy or romance. This comment section sounds like it's stuck in the 1950s. 😑
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Agreed with your comment. I guess people are aware of homosexuality more than they are aware of asexuality. So that this isn’t a homosexual relationship is confusing.
FACTS
@@alisharo58 Then why would they stand there wearing a symbolic wedding dress with a veil on one of their heads, holding hands and looking lovingly into each other's eyes if they're not calling themselves having a gay marriage? They're messing with people's heads!
@@teenamaree5660 Because symbolism has been divorced from tradition. Bridal dresses and veils are not universal aspects of marriage across time nor location, and marriage was a contractual affair far longer in history than it was an expression of romantic love.
They chose a way that legitimizes their commitment to one another legally and culturally, and they had fun doing it.
Many people dream of their wedding day. They want the dress and the cake and party, so why not? Just because they aren't marrying a romantic partner, doesn't mean they have to miss out on the experience.
A wedding ceremony is not necessary for a marriage. You can sign a paper in front of the judge and be married despite the romanticized notion that a ceremony is needed to show eternal commitment. People have the ceremony and party to celebrate. It's a party, and they wanted to party! 🥳
@@teenamaree5660 Also, gay constitutes same gender romantic and/or sexual attraction, so a wedding without those is not a gay wedding. It's just a wedding with two women who share platonic feelings.
Just because someone has preconceived notions about something doesn't mean they are right. Maintaining one's confusion and denial past explanation is choosing to be stubborn.
Like two women holding hands can be friends, sisters, girlfriends, etc. A clear liquid could be water or vinegar. The gem could be a diamond or crystal.
Appearance and one's idea of what it means are not enough to know. People have to be willing to examine, ask questions, and listen to the answers to understand.
But if you're open to dating..what happens when you fall in love with someone else??? Then what about the family you have buildt with your platonic friend/wife? That's the only part that throws a wrench in this whole situation.
That was my question too. I can understand if they don’t want to wait to have/raise kids, but the marriage/commitment closes off any future relationships.
I'll explain as a polyamourus person. If they can still date then they just have partners outside of the marriage. They can have multiple relationships with multiple different people. As long as everyone consents and communication happens there isn't an issue.
@@alisharo58 Thank you for shedding light on it for me.
Facts!
Exactly I find this to be dumb and tbh who doesn’t want to experience good sex while married to your soulmate? 🤷🏿♀️🙄
So beautiful. More people should do this if sexual intimacy and sexual needs are not high on your priority of needs. It is romantic but not sexual.
No, it is not.
It's not romantic, they just know that they want a friend who they can depend on for life and someone they're comfortable with being around for everything. It may be in some ways intimate, but not romantically intimate, just closer than any usual friend.
I'm quite surprised by the comments here, so I'll leave my piece here for someone who may need it. Marriages can be for love, and are more commonly so in the modern era, but primarily they're a way to secure oneself and your family line. Marriages were mostly politically motivated or for the benefits of being married rather than for love alone, if at all. Two best friends marrying for love, despite it not being a romantic love, is securing their relationship and giving them both a life they benefit from. If a romantic partner is introduced it simply means they're an addition to the family unit, not an upgrade. It's well known throughout history that people have married romantically and have had the opportunity to add on to their union legally. This isn't the case now, which is unfortunate as polyamoury has become much more equal in structure and so is acceptable in a way that old polyamoury wasn't. Regardless, partnerships are unique to everyone and this is a great example of a healthy platonic relationship.
Pretty cool. This is an old concept brought to the 21st century. For those that this resonates with, more power to you.
Should’ve led with that: they seem to be aromantic and asexual. They don’t have sexual or romantic feelings for anyone (including each other).
This made it sound like two heterosexual women decided to get married. Which is more confusing to understand.
And you believe, with al of their lying around kissing and touching, that they're not being romantic and that they're asexual? Then perhaps you'd believe I own a 10 million dollar mansion at Martha's Vineyard!
@@teenamaree5660 They do it for fun, kissing or touching doesn't always relate to romance.
I was okay with this until they talked about if they found someone to be romantically involved with. I kinda don't understand the getting married part if they are still open to meeting someone and breaking their celibacy. Maybe these BFF's wanted to make sure that when one of them passes, the other would always be financially protected 🤔? Or maybe it's not for me to understand? Don't mind me. I'm in my thoughts. 🤷🏾♀️
Perhaps they adjusted their vows?
I agree, that’s the only part that confuses me.
The legalities of what marriage brings is what attracts people to platonic marriages from what I've read. It's a way of ensuring that LEGALLY they are bonded and can speak on one another's behalf should serious matters arise (not everyone has or wants someone in their immediate family to do this for them).
Them getting married as friends is not about depriving/limiting themselves of someone they may have a true romantic attraction to, they still have that option, as they should.
It takes an open mind to understand an agreement like this, because as like they mentioned many people look at friendships as an 'afterthought' and don't hold them to near the standard they would a romantic or sexual relationship. In reality, if we poured just as much effort into friendships as we do romance and sex, you'll find they are just as fulfilling and can enrich our lives on many levels.
@@rare2find0918 Thanks for taking the time to provide insightful input. It helped me to better understand their choice.
There is likely no true celibacy in that sordid connection!
I want this!
I had this idea and then I looked for someone who did it. You can't have an original idea anymore!! 😁😂
Today’s society is getting stranger and more complicated each day.
Absolutely!!!!!
Right
Crazy by the minute
True
Exactly
This is what you call having your cake and eating it too.
As an asexual, I approve of cake. :)
Polyamory 😄 this a a form of it for sure!
YES!! It can be!! ^w^
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What do you mean by this...kindly explain
I Don't Understand they Sleep in the same bed.
They want physical closeness. Getting in bed doesn't have to equate to sex.
My friend has to share a bed with her sister and I don’t see anyone complaining about that
@@kimm3306 Apple and Oranges.
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They do every single thing a gay couple would do, yet they want you to believe that they are not sexually or romantically involved! These are two apparently physically healthy young women here. No matter who you are, if there's nothing wrong with you, you will have sexual desires crop up at some point, even if it's infrequent! And if you are two people who are very affectionate, sleeping in the same bed, claiming you don't engage in sexual interactions between you, what happens when one of you gets the urge to self gratify in the middle of the night? Do they seriously want people to believe that when that happens, the other one just ignores what's going on and just rolls over and continues sleeping when, all the while, they've been lying around on the couch cuddling and kissing ( whether it's on the cheek or whatever, it's still kissing)! If that's not romance, then I don't know what romance is! Most heterosexual women in marriages, or just in sexual relationships, aren't privileged to that much affection! The best most of them get from their men is a kiss or two in the bedroom, before they go at it! What comes to mind for me is that those two women are engaging in cognitive semantics or, perhaps, what we perceive to be sexual or romantic, versus what actually falls under that umbrella of reasoning. By this, what I'm trying to say (with my limited communication skills) is that perhaps they don't engage in genital to genital sexual relations....that, perhaps they use objects to assist in satisfying each other's urges based on their concern for each other's happiness as Bffs. So, utilizing that convoluted form of reasoning they justify labelling their legal commitment to each other as a platonic marriage. It perplexes me that I can even imagine that mode of thinking. But I'm only able to do so because I was an active lesbian for 15 years...from 1976 - 1991. I wholeheartedly surrendered my life to Jesus Christ in Oct. 1991. In that same hour, the Lord delivered me from acting on those inclinations and I began a scriptural process of recovering from the propensity to behave that way, during the span of the next 10 years. Homosexuality, like alcoholism, is a physical, spiritual and emotional malady. Those who find it doable to act out that way have not yet developed a heartfelt relationship with God (through Christ), which causes them to be emotional unstable when it comes to accepting opposite sex relationships. For that reason, they are able to engage in same sex relations because there's nothing built up in their spirit to keep them from following through with satisfying those forbidden desires.
Awesome couple
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
This is ridiculous
I am a little confused here.
As you should.
If I were you, I would turn away from this mess!
Which part(s) confused you?
aro ace
So everytime i want to take a relationship seriously i've got to marry that person. At this point i would have married even my mom. This so dumb and stupid and illogical.
No because you’re a different person. Jesus people are illiterate
What in the foolishness 🤯 (best friendship), everyday it’s something else people have too much time on their hands 👎🏾
The world is def ending
This is stupid. Why not just live as roommates? What happens when one of you meet someone you actually do like romantically?
I am so sick of all of this nonsense!! Grow up people!!
Why get married? The whole sanctity of marriage has been ruined, can they not just be best friends? And then you are involving children into the confusion!! This is madness
✝️...Nothing less.
Amen! This is just another manner of promoting same sex marriage!
This is a real trad marriage. You think folks in the day who were from arranged marriage were in romantic love?
@@markfuller2446 What's a trad?
@@teenamaree5660 Traditional.
🙄 2021
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How gross!!!
Very!!!!!
@@derwine.watson3710 Cry about it.
There's nothing gross about it, if one of them was male than I'm sure no one would be complaining
We followed them and lost our way. Everything about this is ??????
Ummm no.👎🏽
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