The Pressure of Sensuality
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- Опубліковано 17 вер 2024
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Bhante really knows what he's talking about. This men are so real. One sees they are talking from experience.
Fantastic . Thank you so much for sharing the teachings in such a clear and practical way. 🙏
Thank you
"The work works"- Yes, it does.
Strange as it sounds, what has helped me so much is solitude.
One thing that I must acknowledge: I have truly progressed because it doesn't have the power that it once had. My mindfulness and peace within are so much stronger. It periodically arises but now lacks the appeal that it once had.
This talk is fantastic, Bhantes. My gratitude to you two sirs.
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Excellent Bhantes! Thank you for your practical guidance. This talk is very helpful.
Thank you Bhante, again you taught me something valuable.
"Sensual desires aversions are still coming but do the work" Very encouraging words. Thank you Bhanthe
"Sensual cravings are short and leave lasting dissatisfaction"- The Buddha.
Great teaching. Now, let's do.
Thanks so much 🙏
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Thank you! Can you expand a bit on what we should exactly dwell on, like the objects/concepts/emotions/etc. that cause attraction and sensual desire? Or more simple, how does the "work" look like in practice?
Because for me, sensual desire does not only come from an outer object that creates sexual attraction, rather it seems like there is a kind of randomness to it when it arises - sometimes loneliness, frustration, boredom etc. can fuel it and I have a hard time grasping the exact responsible triggers. Hope this is understandable. Many thanks!
Strictly speaking sensual desire is never rooted in an outer object. As the Suttas say, by not being developed in regard to your own body, that's how sensual desire is there.
What you should dwell on is:
- your own INTERNAL relationship with your body BEFORE a sensual itch arises
- when sensual itch does arise be mindful of it on the level of the body INTERNALLY, which is where it is, and don't give in to acting towards the outer associations of the itch (i.e. sensual objects you are attracted to)
- last but not least, when a painful feeling is present (eg. loneliness, frustration, boredom) endure it, instead of seeing an escape from it in the pleasure obtained through the senses.
@@HillsideHermitage Thank you so much!
Thank you for answering my question! Please specify the relationship we might have to our own bodies.
I have not experienced that sexual thoughts or fantasies about my own body arise in my mind, I mean, that would be absurd. But still, I believe that the perception of what I conceive as my body can not be separated from the perception of other bodies.
Please expand on what you mean by "you should dwell on...your own INTERNAL relationship with your body".
Best regards and Metta from Germany!
No, it's not about having thoughts or fantasies about your own body. That's still external. The internal aspect is the physicality of the sensual pressure/itch that is there SIMULTANEOUS to any thoughts you might be having. Not acting out of that physical pressure, even in your thoughts, is how you become "developed in regard to your own body".
The only way to succeed in seeing this, is through sufficient sense restraint and withdrawal from the sense objects. Anything shorter than that will result in exactly that: misconceiving external thoughts and perceptions of your body, for that physicality of internal that is there at the same time.
For the nature of these most internal misconceivings regarding your own form see MN 1.
@@HillsideHermitage Thank für answering my questions! No it was a rethorical question to make obvious the absurdity, but regarding the physicality of the pressure which is simultaneously enduring while thoughts are present, that's where my focus should be.
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Thank you!
Can you do a talk on the 8 Dhammas mentioned in AN 8.53 to Gotami.
Specially what they mean, what their signs and features are in the mind, as well as their expression in terms of livelihood, and how to abandon the unwholesome side and develop the wholesome side of them.
"As for the qualities of which you may know, ‘These qualities lead to dispassion, not to passion; to being unfettered, not to being fettered; to shedding, not to accumulating; to modesty, not to self-aggrandizement; to contentment, not to discontent; to seclusion, not to entanglement; to aroused persistence, not to laziness; to being unburdensome, not to being burdensome’: You may categorically hold, ‘This is the Dhamma, this is the Vinaya, this is the Teacher’s instruction"
These dhammas struck me as very good guidelines for structuring ones life and aligning the mind in accordance with the Dhamma. But some of them are not often talked about. Therefore i think it would be great to have them fleshed out in a talk.
I love this topic. I've done 2 four month celibacy periods with Goenka meditation retreats interlaced. This was the happiest time of my life. Libido was turned off most of the time. Do you expect more and more of this as i continue with retreats and daily practice? Thanks
Good job having the microphone close to him this time. Sometimes it's hard to hear or just sounds too distant.
PS. The crows and flies analogies were effective!
Dear sir, how could one be aware of the craving, aversion, and delusion, and the thoughts of craving, aversion and delusion while also being aware of surrounding? Usually when craving or Aversion arises, I have to stop being aware of surrounding and get absorbed at the feeling and thoughts.
If you enjoy your dog's presence, how it that "not" sensuality? You felt how the dog felt, the dog felt how you felt. Am i misunderstanding the word sensuality? If we pet a blind mouse on the head and feed him bread, and take pleasure from the mouse being fed instead of killed- if that is not sensuality, then what is?
Taking pleasure in a mouse being fed and not killed is a pleasure of compassion. And no, that's not the same as pleasure of sensuality.
Bhante, what defines sensuality? eg would sensory deprivation be considered sensuality?
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-Sensuality is any type of pleasure that is based on craving that would invade your mind and remain. Pleasure that would obsess, pressure, control you, that you cannot so "no" to or remain unperturbed by.
It's the pleasures of sexuality, food, distraction, entertainment. Pleasures that are underlied by passion.
Those are the types of pleasures that are addressed by the five or eight precepts.
-No, sensory deprivation is not sensuality, but it might not be much wiser either, depending on what a person is expecting from it.
@@HillsideHermitage expecting a taste of death maybe, if thats how it works.
Thank you for clarifying, Bhante
@@alecogden12345 it's actually the aversion to pain, it's just stupid in simple terms.
Why do y’all have pets?