Wife Filed For Divorce | Is It a Lost Cause? Is There a Glimmer of Hope?

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  • @GeoffreySetiawan
    @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому +4

    Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts?
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  • @betherealdeal
    @betherealdeal Рік тому +11

    I am 61 years wife of 24 years left and filed for divorce. I did everything to no avail. It has been 6 years now.
    I have learned these truths.
    Men are built to give and women to receive. As a man, let me speak to you men. When a woman isn’t willing to be a recipient of everything and anything about you, respect yourself and respect her wishes. Do not try to force being received anywhere you are not wanted. As much as it hurts you, ‘take your ball and go home’. Guard your dignity like a precious jewel. That’s the only thing you have left. Find peace! You will have bad days and really bad days. At least you’re have you. Don’t get yourself caught up with these young girls here with issues galore. Live your life at peace!

  • @GreyHarleyDood
    @GreyHarleyDood 3 роки тому +30

    Geoffrey,
    I went through your masterclass awhile ago. An I'm sorry I wasn't able to purchase the RR I so badly wish I could but I couldn't step up to it.
    However, every time you drop a video I get so excited. I learn so much from you an I admire you as a coach so much. I've combined lessons from many coaches around the web. 5 months ago I was left, I felt like my situation was so unique haha. Well, me an my ex are taking small steps towards being fully in love better than ever.
    I didn't want to email you this, but I wanted to share with you. Thank you. The results are real when you absolutely do not give up, just man up an build yourself. Bless you man. I felt so defeated but wouldn't back down. The love of my life just spent the last 48 hours with me an I did a big thing, I brought up difficult talk an she opened up deeper than ever. You are a king brother.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому +5

      Hey Jordan, am happy that the videos have helped you re-attract your ex. Thank you for the kind words. 🙂

  • @lukeleonardrasmussen3550
    @lukeleonardrasmussen3550 2 місяці тому +1

    I am not giving up. I'm gonna keep going, bettering myself. I can watch your videos over and over again.

  • @jonnathanguaman1141
    @jonnathanguaman1141 2 роки тому +2

    Hey Geoffrey So my wife doesn’t want the divorce but she says that she wants to separate and be by her self and live the single life I don’t know what does that mean

  • @chrishart1728
    @chrishart1728 2 роки тому +2

    I was terrible at times over the 3 years we were together. Yelling belittling . She has an alcoholic problem before i met her. However i acknowledge to the full that i am accepting of my actions. What can i do when she wants space and yet still drinks and blames me still for her mental state of mind. Have you got some advice please

    • @chrishart1728
      @chrishart1728 2 роки тому +1

      Also we have been apart now 12 month's. I have tried to help in anyway i can . I also been working on my shortcomings with counciling. I got a txt from her saying that i did not respect her space by coming around mowing lawns doing gardens ect. Not sure now what to do? Except give her that space she needs .?

  • @jimdemichele5479
    @jimdemichele5479 2 роки тому +8

    I’m in limbo as my wife of 22 years filed and I’m in an apartment that I hate…we had a bad 2 years with issues with my daughter, and we both didn’t handle them well, hence she’s had it..but says she is keeping her options open. We are spending time together but having that looming over my head is pure hell

    • @jimdemichele5479
      @jimdemichele5479 Рік тому +6

      @@scottverge938 ..she has dropped the divorce pursuit, but we are still separated but communicating better

    • @crazygeechee
      @crazygeechee Рік тому +2

      @@jimdemichele5479I hope you guys work it out

    • @biersmorgen6609
      @biersmorgen6609 Рік тому +3

      U got this man just keep ur cool be bullet proof that's what studs do bro....CREATE SAFETY!!!!!

    • @CallsItLikeISeizeIts
      @CallsItLikeISeizeIts 9 місяців тому

      Yo Bro, where ya at now? How’s it going what happened ? We got ya regardless

    • @jimdemichele9067
      @jimdemichele9067 8 місяців тому

      @@CallsItLikeISeizeIts the divorce unfortunately is almost final

  • @vincentcaudo-engelmann9057
    @vincentcaudo-engelmann9057 8 місяців тому

    Oh my god bro PREACH IT!! Even if this doesn’t end well for me I know I have learned a huge lesson for my life. You have really important talent and message my friend.

  • @craigosborne8348
    @craigosborne8348 3 роки тому +4

    Life changing insight. Thank you Geoffrey. Have you thought of doing a program on money management? I’m facing separation due to my horrific money issues.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому +1

      Hi Craig, our program is designed for complete life transformation. You should sign up and join our free masterclass to see how we can help.
      relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

  • @doctorbius
    @doctorbius 2 місяці тому

    Can this apply to men?

  • @CallsItLikeISeizeIts
    @CallsItLikeISeizeIts 9 місяців тому +2

    Guys you have to,run the race, even if facing what seems like insurmountable obstacles. You have to,run the race. You may win, you may lose, but you will KNOW that you gave it your best, but acknowledge that sometimes your best is not enuff. But at the least, you can hold your head high , and know for the rest of,your life, that you ran the race! And you won’t have any regrets. Then improve yourself, acknowledge your shortcomings, work on them , and be a better MAN.

  • @nealsnikeris6962
    @nealsnikeris6962 2 роки тому +6

    Unfortunately in my marriage right now I am not the breadwinner..I am a stay at home dad. So purchasing the program at this time is not an option for me without going behind my wife’s back-which would devastate the marriage beyond repair.
    BUT, in just a month from watching these videos alone, my wife has gone from having “no hope” to “maybe willing to try”….she says she still wants space, but to be honest, it’s probably what we both need and I’m just excited to be able to finally get back to being the man I know that I can.
    Thank you Geoffrey!!!

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому +2

      Absolutely love it my man! Keep becoming the man that you and your partner know you can be.
      Let me know how I can help.

    • @nealsnikeris6962
      @nealsnikeris6962 2 роки тому +1

      @@GeoffreySetiawan actually, any advice on “planting seeds” would be amazing! Some day a guide similar to the healing emotions one would be so great.
      My wife is deployed in the navy and will be home in 3 weeks. She is adamant that she DOES NOT want to discuss marriage for the summer-understandable as she’s been gone 6 months-so that’s my biggest challenge I anticipate!

    • @nealsnikeris6962
      @nealsnikeris6962 2 роки тому +8

      Update…she returned home from a 6-month deployment in July…things between us are great and we are both happier than ever!

    • @CallsItLikeISeizeIts
      @CallsItLikeISeizeIts 9 місяців тому

      How are things now bro?

    • @nealsnikeris6962
      @nealsnikeris6962 9 місяців тому

      Still pretty good! Ups and downs for sure but we are having much better discussions when bad shit does happen!

  • @jimdemichele9067
    @jimdemichele9067 9 місяців тому +2

    The divorce unfortunately is closer to being final as she will not relent, however my daughter and I are ironically better than ever

  • @denisgracias1140
    @denisgracias1140 2 роки тому

    Thankyou so much for your content, very eye opening.

  • @rplm8186
    @rplm8186 2 роки тому +1

    What if she is already talking to someone new?

  • @waggoneer
    @waggoneer Рік тому +1

    When do you give up? Only when they remarry? Or is it just to grow an a person, not be fixated on "the one" and move on in peace?

    • @CallsItLikeISeizeIts
      @CallsItLikeISeizeIts 9 місяців тому

      Yes , all you said. Pick your arse up, and start marching to your own beat, move forward away from the wreck at the side of road. The further you go the better you become. You MUST accept 100% of your 50% responsibilities. Grow your self and be the best MAN you can be, but you must work on all the baggage that contributed to the breakup, or your doomed to repeat. You are only truly a man until you can walk away from ANY Pusey. Including your wife’s. It’s a 50/50 chance , so,either you work it out or move on. But you MUST move forward and enter the race and run the race, acknowledging that you might lose that race in the worst case, but in the best case, you will forever know that you ran your best race, but you didn’t win, that means you will, have no regrets, as opposed to never showing up,to the race, not running the race and forevermore wondering what might the outcome be. You are not giving up, but evolving. Stay strong

  • @bernielady5164
    @bernielady5164 2 роки тому

    Ok, help me understand, when the ex and I, have very satisfying connection, should I untether from that or what ? And how ?

  • @coleenkulaw1447
    @coleenkulaw1447 2 місяці тому

    My husband has already filed for divorce, we were married 25yrs. I worked on my short comings & have made the changes I needed to make for myself & him. There’s no going back to that old person I was, but it’s too late for us the divorce will be final soon, maybe by November. I had hoped & prayed I had been this better person before he made up his mind to divorce me & file so quickly. I’m so sad, but have to accept the impending divorce.

  • @po5541
    @po5541 2 роки тому +1

    Yup I'm tethered to my wife unreal

  • @aaronwoodard4413
    @aaronwoodard4413 Рік тому

    What if someone is incarcerated and wife has filed for divorce? How can can he possibly save the marriage?

  • @Cinthia1215
    @Cinthia1215 2 роки тому

    Do your courses apply to women as well?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому +2

      Hi Cinthia Hernandez,
      I will tell you two things.
      1) Watch more of my content, and this answer with be very evident. That my program of building emotional safety & trust and learning how to work through conflicts, misunderstandings, and differences as a team is a basic human need and relationship principle.
      2) Yes, I have roughly 18% of my clients who are women, and it doesn't matter what culture, race, gender, age, preference, etc. These principles apply to everyone.

    • @Cinthia1215
      @Cinthia1215 2 роки тому

      @@GeoffreySetiawan thank you. Though right now things feel extremely hopeless. My husband says he is 100% certain that a divorce must happen and he needs to leave. He does not believe someone can change in a matter of months or a few years. He wants out and nothing else. It’s hard to remain strong. I feel so alone.

  • @laurainrevison1162
    @laurainrevison1162 2 роки тому

    BTW...I've meet many people that have tried killing themselves by thinking they are failures. Failure means a change of direction. It does not always mean a negative thing. BTW...Im already buying furniture since mine filed and says they love me....all the while was already filing when we were reconciling...so what about that? Im only good for everything accept unconditional love and having a family with. So, they said lied about them wanting kids the whole 13 year relationship. They smirked when they told me they filed. They are mad that they have to buy out our property...since I am a series of business transactions according to the court.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому

      Hi Laura,
      Please checkout my list of clients below and you tell me if your situation is any more dire or worse than the one you are facing.
      My clients have chosen to grow in the right and massive ways and now have restored hope within their partner once again.
      ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html

  • @stevengonzales6288
    @stevengonzales6288 3 роки тому +3

    I have given up on her we don’t text or call her feel there’s no hope the divorce date is coming up in two months I’ve learned to live without her and I’m pretty sure she learned to live with out me because that’s what she’s wanted so her planet is almost completeI don’t blame her for being so selfish I’m not gonna forgive her for the rest of my life but I’m starting to feel better about what happened as far as being myself and I kind a like it I don’t know I’m not responsible for anybody else for me

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому

      Hi Steven,
      We definitely do offer 1:1 consultations through our Relationships Revival program. If you’d like to learn more about it, you can begin by joining our masterclass here.
      relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
      At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program.
      And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
      Client Review Videos:
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  • @roberthester2657
    @roberthester2657 3 роки тому +3

    My wife said she wants a divorce and can’t forgive me for saying F this marriage I haven’t seen her in 5 weeks

    • @tonianina299
      @tonianina299 3 роки тому +3

      True love never die don't give up anything in life all hope isn't lost

    • @tonianina299
      @tonianina299 3 роки тому +1

      Hello getting back your ex shouldn't be a problem anymore....

    • @tonianina299
      @tonianina299 3 роки тому

      I know a powerful healer that can restore back broken relationship and marriage without delay

    • @tonianina299
      @tonianina299 3 роки тому

      What's>App the healer.......

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      @tonianina299 3 роки тому

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  • @2atalkandpolitics422
    @2atalkandpolitics422 9 місяців тому +1

    I’m digging in and inch by inch I’m gonna change not for her but for me. I want her back not need her back. She says she would need to see massive permanent change and her mind changed. I got her to give me 3 months before she files the papers since we have a family vacation in may. I have 3 months for God to work, work on me and to show her I’m taking her serious to change. I have abandonment issues and my inner child killed my marriage. She says our relationship is over, the I love you but I’m not in love with you

  • @stevengonzales6288
    @stevengonzales6288 3 роки тому +4

    I thing is I don’t want to heal I have no life and that’s the way I choose to live the pandemic is almost over maybe I’m not about to go out by myself and do things because everything is opening up because after 25 years I had my wife and we did things together it’s just not the same when everything opens back up going back to normal there is normal for me seeing everybody go to Disneyland and stuff like that I just can’t see myself doing stuff like that by myself or without her but eventually I will I’m almost done thinking about her every day I’m getting over that already

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому

      Hi Steven,
      We definitely do offer 1:1 consultations through our Relationships Revival program. If you’d like to learn more about it, you can begin by joining our masterclass here.
      relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
      At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program.
      And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
      Client Review Videos:
      ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
      Client Review Screenshots:
      drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing

    • @porcelli5566
      @porcelli5566 3 роки тому

      I feel this !

  • @ayahliedredcandy6157
    @ayahliedredcandy6157 2 роки тому

    thanks for advising....if how many give a chance patner but not to change a gambling every time wants...then demanding is not give wants a mad and yelling and accusing ...not trusting money...and account bankruptcy about gambling...file divorce...

  • @aau541
    @aau541 2 роки тому

    @Geoffrey, Isn't all these too rational and ignoring women emotions? So you change into a better man with whom she might keep her love up and live happily forever but now she feels no love anymore, she is apathetic and indifferent towards you and you finally start changing as a man.. All your ideas sound very rational but is that gonna re-create those emotions and dead feelings of love in her? I got it.. those pillars, frameworks, safety and trust etc.. but if the love feeling has died already sometime ago and she finally admits it to herself and everyone.. is it really realistic to expect the love come back in her heart?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому +1

      Always seems impossible until it's done. And it's been done many times - so this is not some unproven theory :)
      Proof? See below:
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      This third and forth videos are two recent client stories with Liam Rose and Andrew Wade,
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      This fifth video is another recent client story of one of my clients, Jason Newman. He quit his high paying job to come work for me, because this program changed his life in ways un-imaginable.
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      This final link is to our current collection of client stories:
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  • @goyim8858
    @goyim8858 3 роки тому

    What about 4.5 years seperate. No new partners or divorce 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому

      Hi Jim L, in my business I have seen many of my clients reconcile their marriage and several years apart. Check out some of my client stories to see just fixable your relationship may be.
      ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html

  • @stevengonzales6288
    @stevengonzales6288 3 роки тому +2

    Why would I want her back she’s the one that initiated the break up so why even try there’s no contact no contact rule doesn’t work how do I know if she wants to work on it if she doesn’t want to be contacted I replaced love in my heart for her with anger and hate and it’s going to be there for the rest of my life and that’s the way I choose to live and nothings going to change it

    • @JCredible86
      @JCredible86 3 роки тому +2

      Don't be hateful, just love yourself better than she ever could. If she doesn't want contact then don't contact her live your life for you. Focus on yourself. Don't worry about her and you'll be fine

    • @stevengonzales6288
      @stevengonzales6288 3 роки тому +1

      After 25years being with this now woman she was 18 when I met her and I was 30 for me it’s Hard to let go but eventually I will it may take longer than expected I love my life that’s why I’m not gonna do anything rash right now she’s in with depression so I have to respect that

    • @chiefskingdom4151
      @chiefskingdom4151 3 роки тому +3

      @@stevengonzales6288 After 17 years my wife who i met when she was 18 tells me shes unsure about our future because she never got to “live the life”.

    • @stevengonzales6288
      @stevengonzales6288 3 роки тому

      @@chiefskingdom4151 let her go let her live her life but You have to ask yourself would you take her back after she’s shown all her royal royal oats because if you leave for a while how do you know what she did I can do that my wife’s been gone for eight months and we’re getting divorced so even him for thinking about getting back I would really really had to think about that I probably wouldn’t take her back I wouldn’t want me back but in your case we’re all different

    • @stevengonzales6288
      @stevengonzales6288 3 роки тому

      She’s been gone so long that I fell out of love for her I never thought I would but it happened I catch myself talking in my sleep about her and then I tell myself it’s over still I can’t believe it but whatever I have to be like that whatever in this stage I am worried about moving on because I live my life through karma and what comes around goes around and believe me it does I have proof