Going through a hard time in my adulthood dealing with individuality and my own wants versus feeling indebted to my Asian parents. This podcast was very healing for me. Thank you for this.
They need to lower their standard of living to the absolute minimum. Nursing home, food stamps, public bus. Then you start putting in some money to support THAT lifestyle. Never forget how they would do everything to scrimp and cheap out as much as possible on their own kids, while buying themselves louis vuitton bags, trucks, and a vacation to their countries every year. You still need to raise a family of your own, send your kids to college, and save for your own retirement.
Talking more about Asian parents-children relationships makes a huge difference in asian culture, it is a huge generational problem that we dont know how to deal with. Talking about it and normalizing the conversation should be a necessary healing process
Thank you for another wonderful episode Miki and Kev! This is the only podcast I tune in to every week. Although the future of the podcast is uncertain, I'm just grateful we were able to enjoy these 15 episodes 🥰😊
We are Hispanic. We told our 3 daughters we could not afford private schools. Furthermore we believe children should get part time jobs to chip in for their personal expenses. Like you mentioned we are fortunate to live in California where the best public schools exist. Thus our girls went to Cal., UCLA and U.C.Irvine. Once they were independent (not an Asian concept), we never asked them for money nor did they ever ask us for money. I gave one daughter money to buy a car cash so she would not have to pay interest payments. She paid me back in 6 months. Thus we raised them to be independent of us. We planned for our retirement through our own investments and retirement plans. We would never consider asking our children for money.
I'm happy for you but remember these asians are children of communists. They are grappling with the values their parents taught them and what this country taught them.
Good advice! It may be harsh, but choosing a partner based on financial competency is a must. Having to worry about paying the bills is probably the #1 reason for divorce.
A new subscriber here 🙋♀️ love the content and hopefully you guys will continue :) I can totally relate to what you guys are saying, born in LA, raised in Taiwan, came back for education at 14, and now married for a decade with a 3 year old boy. It’s fun listening to you guys with my husband🫰
Enjoy your episodes alot! Looking forward to hearing you discussing more topics in the future! Keep up the great work! Suggestions for sponsors - mental health help, AAPI communities/companies/apps, your own merchandise lines, etc.
I’m Canadian of Chinese descent, and I find it’s the opposite for myself and all my Asian friends. It’s the parents that are financially contributing to their grown kids, whether it’s money for house, car, or school tuition. Is it really common for kids to pay back Asian parents?
Please make more videos about dealing with Asian parents and not just for kids and college but dealing with them through adulthood. Love these videos!
Yes, we’re all still learning
Going through a hard time in my adulthood dealing with individuality and my own wants versus feeling indebted to my Asian parents. This podcast was very healing for me. Thank you for this.
They need to lower their standard of living to the absolute minimum. Nursing home, food stamps, public bus. Then you start putting in some money to support THAT lifestyle.
Never forget how they would do everything to scrimp and cheap out as much as possible on their own kids, while buying themselves louis vuitton bags, trucks, and a vacation to their countries every year.
You still need to raise a family of your own, send your kids to college, and save for your own retirement.
Talking more about Asian parents-children relationships makes a huge difference in asian culture, it is a huge generational problem that we dont know how to deal with. Talking about it and normalizing the conversation should be a necessary healing process
Thank you for another wonderful episode Miki and Kev! This is the only podcast I tune in to every week. Although the future of the podcast is uncertain, I'm just grateful we were able to enjoy these 15 episodes 🥰😊
We are Hispanic. We told our 3 daughters we could not afford private schools. Furthermore we believe children should get part time jobs to chip in for their personal expenses. Like you mentioned we are fortunate to live in California where the best public schools exist. Thus our girls went to Cal., UCLA and U.C.Irvine. Once they were independent (not an Asian concept), we never asked them for money nor did they ever ask us for money. I gave one daughter money to buy a car cash so she would not have to pay interest payments. She paid me back in 6 months. Thus we raised them to be independent of us. We planned for our retirement through our own investments and retirement plans. We would never consider asking our children for money.
I'm happy for you but remember these asians are children of communists. They are grappling with the values their parents taught them and what this country taught them.
Good advice! It may be harsh, but choosing a partner based on financial competency is a must. Having to worry about paying the bills is probably the #1 reason for divorce.
I’m not even Asian and I’m watching.
Edit: like if you’re doing the same thing.
A new subscriber here 🙋♀️ love the content and hopefully you guys will continue :) I can totally relate to what you guys are saying, born in LA, raised in Taiwan, came back for education at 14, and now married for a decade with a 3 year old boy. It’s fun listening to you guys with my husband🫰
Enjoy your episodes alot! Looking forward to hearing you discussing more topics in the future! Keep up the great work! Suggestions for sponsors - mental health help, AAPI communities/companies/apps, your own merchandise lines, etc.
You two are starting to become your parents before you realize it. I'm in the same situation as you 25 years ago. Lol.
i dont think ive ever seen my parents do more pda than a hug, but my parents kinda hate each other
The English equivalent is filial piety
If financial is the first thing to the relationship, it’s the cooperation
not love. My personal opinion tho.
I’m Canadian of Chinese descent, and I find it’s the opposite for myself and all my Asian friends. It’s the parents that are financially contributing to their grown kids, whether it’s money for house, car, or school tuition. Is it really common for kids to pay back Asian parents?
all they are looking for is for you to care about them when they are older. Don’t just throw them into a nursing home for example
I wish I could sponsor an episode of the podcast since I enjoy it so much. But what I can afford is probably less than the cost to produce 😅
Hi Miki, if we’re not allowed to bring umbrella into home, where did you place your umbrella..
Theres a myth where you can open an umbrella at home, fine with leaving it closed
Asian parents are so alike with east europen!
It's what happens under communism.
What if you don’t have kids nor ever get married
Nobody to depend on 😂
Lol