I agree with the “loud girl” thing. I’m a reserved person and I still get attention. A lot of girls have disliked me for that reason🤦🏽♀️ they were just jealous and insecure.
Same I stay away from drama and stuff and these girls I used to hang (2-3 years ago)with keep starting mess bc her ex like me and I like him like👏🏽girl👏🏽 he 👏🏽broke👏🏽 up 👏🏽with 👏🏽you 👏🏽get 👏🏽over it 👏🏽
Most insecurities come from traumatic experiences. I think the best thing to do is heal. Before I cut a toxic person off I do see if there's signs that they want help. Not everyone wants to be the way they are sometimes its a cry for help.
Very much so true and I have bad anxiety and insecurities from my trauma that I’m trying to get over for years but for some people it’s easy yes mama u are 100% correct cuz some people cry for help and sometimes don’t have it so they go to other things for help
"You don't have to be loud in order to be seen" This sooooo true. I can enter into a room and snatch attention without saying a word. I kinda hate that though coz I'm a shy person, attention makes me very uncomfortable
Girrrrrl me too. Im kinda okay with the looking, just a little bit; but it makes me nervous when they stare. I dont like when a crowd or more people staring at me at once. It gives me anxiety and sometimes tears form smdgh 🙄😒 .
Another tidbit would be to be cognizant of friends who project their insecurities onto you. I had to cut ties with a friend b/c it seemed as if my presence disrupted her peace. There was a time when we were in the car and I was literally just sitting in the passenger’s seat, scrolling on my phone, and she randomly turned her nose up at me and started laughing saying, “Girl I can’t with you! You just...**laugh** you just so... **laugh**” and she started fake flipping her hair and rolling her eyes to suggest that that’s how I act. When I tell y’all I was confuseeedddd. I literally was like, “...What??” And she said “you just think you better than everybody.” And that was the very last day I talked to her. If my presence is that disruptive, I’ll remove myself b/c I’m not about to endure anyone’s toxic projections.
I had a “friend” who would give passive aggressive compliments. She’d say I love your hair but mines won’t grow or dang sis you lost weight, but that’s cuz you have a great metabolism. Like she’d try to reduce my accomplishment or development or give compliments that cane off more as jealousy. I would always talk her up and help her with her hair and weight loss but after a situation one night, I stopped talking to her. Now she views my every single one of my stories on insta when I stopped following her a while ago 🤷🏾♀️ She only wanted to be around me when I was insecure but when I started to gain attention and look good/feel good, she felt threatened
Rachele Smith I completely understand this because I’ve lost 50 pounds and one of my friends said most people who lose weight gain it back anyway and I felt like that was a pretty negative comment 🤷🏾♀️😒.
@@gracie2367 that's awful. I know how hard it is to lose weight and at some point it feels impossible that you'll ever change- I, for one, congratulate you and wish you maintain it healthily 🥰
So it’s hard to explain through a YT comment because there’s a lot of other context to the situation that’d make the story more clear. This was only one of the things she’d say but she’d also act differently if I got attention from guys, she would always mimic styles or things that I wore, and was a Debbie downer whenever I’d have good news. In short, we bonded through our insecurities and then when I grew past them slowly, it made her jealous. Obviously I can’t speak from her side but it was clear as day to me after I left that situation. In the moment I didn’t believe it either but all the signs were there
I love this topic however I wish you had talked about how anxiety can play into all of these attributes. Part of the reason my anxiety disorder went unchecked through high school and college was because I was mistaking insecurity for what I now know is anxiety and depression. Now i'm on anxiety meds and I no longer do any of the things mentioned in this video. I know that's not everyone's situation but something to consider. Keep up the good content!
There was a time where I was very insecure in myself and my husband told me everyday that I was beautiful and he didn’t understand that I was battling the destruction of being raised up around people who made me think from a very young age that I was just fat and ugly and that’s what I believed since I was young and it took me a while to see how gorgeous I am ...so there are definitely people in this world that just don’t know how to be confident ...I see your saying that everytime a person acts insecure it irritates you but in most people it’s not done to be “extra” or for “attention” it a real problem that takes over your brain and I feel for anyone woman that goes through that right now but please remember you are beautiful and only YOU need to know that! Also, remember don’t think because you have insecurities that you are insecure.YOU ARE HUMAN❤️ and also, how does apologizing to your workers that you are suppose to care about scream insecure? They were late and if an employee was late ...it wouldn’t be taken lightly
Thank you for posting this 🤗 This comment should be pinned. I wasn’t sure how to take her reaction on insecure women. Sometimes there is an underlying issue...
2020 has taught me that it’s so perfectly ok to root for yourself and hype yourself up and acknowledge your beauty. I want all of us to feel that way about ourselves. 🤍
Some of these are also signs of depression such as the putting oneself down so if you have an insecure friend, make sure the reason for their insecurity isn't depression cause we could all use a caring friend now. Loved the video though!
If you have a friend going through depression, notify people who can actually help them. Being there for a friend is good and all, but you will become entangled. Just a little heads up
A lack of boundaries (where she's speaking about allowing bad energy in your life) is something I'm just now realizing I do. I constantly carry a victim mindset because I OPEN myself to being used and walked on. Lord, help me! 😩
i ageee with everything one thing about being loud for me is, im usually quiet and overall an introvert, but when i’m with my friends i get loud sometimes and they even tell me but i get so passionate and excited when i’m talking to them 😭
I had those narcissistic tendencies, however, I never knew I was doing this until a friend told me and ever since then I've been trying to be more aware and if I accidentally interrupt I apologize. Overall, tell the person so they are aware and can adjust otherwise its a your problem.
I'm so proud of you for this. Like honestly, the self awareness and empathy it takes to realize this and change rather than defend yourself. It takes a lot. I wish there were more people like you. Jesus loves you and God bless. Honestly tho I love you for this💓
My issue is always feeling like I need to be liked, at a young age, I've always had a hard time saying no. And what you said about the mean people!!! Omg!!! Setting the tone and not allowing any type of behavior from others. You preaching and I love how you cut it off at ease.
I seriously need you in my life 😩 you are literally saying everything I agree with and why I don’t have friends 😔 😂 because I’m pretty picky about who I let around me. Ppl are evil these days. Have to be careful
The way you described examples of narcissism is also a symptom of ADHD and is a way that people try and relate by telling their own stories, and tend to interrupt without meaning to and accidentally cut others off. Isn't always narcissism :)
This is what I always tend to do. Whenever someone tells me about something it reminds me of how i went maybe through the same situation and how I can relate to them and what theyre telling me.some people dont like it when I do that, so idk if its okay or not
@@angeliquegroenewald4938 now that you know, you can try to be more considerate. For example, let them complete what they’re saying and ask them at least one question about it before bringing up your experience so that they can feel listened to. You’ll probably have better conversations this way too
She’s talking about people who try to one up someone in a conversation. You can tell the difference between someone trying to relate to you and someone trying to one up you.
The one sign about being insecure where you don't accept compliments easily can have two sides to it. Sometimes, at least for me I've had people give me compliments but then they turn around and say something negative about me so then they never really meant it. I take the compliment for what it's worth but I just feel that with that sign some people might not take to compliments very well because they aren't used to people being genuine about what they say. Though I really loved the video, helped me gain some insight. :)
i feel like i am so nervous when talking to people, i have a hard time with conversation so i try to relate to whatever they are talking about which i realize probably comes off as narcissistic. i’m just socially inept 😭 i need to work on that
Do a segment on Insecurity within a relationship. For example, your man having female friends that you don’t know or never was introduced to? Or your man flirting with other women online? How do feel or deal ? Is there boundaries? What if you are in a marriage would that change your thinking? Would love to hear your thoughts..
Every relationship is different because each individual want different things and have different values. I’ll say whatever feels right and it’s about respect/honesty/trust. Look at healthy relationship and look at signs for abuse and leave or communicate. If nothing changes...leave.
How do you feel about it? Is this a committed relationship? Ever asked him? What is being said? How does he feel if you did the same? . .....Got to be careful about "friends" and flirting because people wait for their turn.
@@msch3891 I think it’s inappropriate and to me seems disloyal. But I’ve been called insecure because of How I want to know my Husband female friends. In the beginning I snooped to find out my answers. They say if you go looking for something you’ll find it, but I feel like it shouldn’t be there for me to find! We are all different. He says everything is not for me to know and I’m not used to that. I’m pushing him away because of my insecurities and so I try my best to go on but it hurts my heart to be real, I keep praying about it. I try to treat people the way I wish to be treated so I don’t entertain no men. I guess flirting is ok and normal but when you start texting and talking all the time the inappropriate conversations start and that crosses the line... when you start sharing thoughts and emotions lines start to cross. I’ve always been told emotional cheating is the worst...and I used to think that physical is the worst, but as I’ve grown older I do now see that emotional cheating can be more damaging... and you what are your thoughts? Oh and I’m married 14 years but who says it’s about me 👀..Tell me your thoughts should we just let men be men and do their thang and not worry so much? I’m still learning to let go and Let God have his way because God will deal with all of us in his own way if we are doing wrong...
@@texasbeu2y I’m married and I set clear boundaries with my husband. Every relationship is different but I’m not going to let someone call me insecure off of what I feel comfortable and uncomfortable with just as I listen to my partner’s boundaries too.
no, no & no. Your man should treat you how he wants you treat him. Period. It’s only you & him, these outside people are irrelevant. There should be no flirting w people in real life or online. That’s embarrassing & disrespectful. Not normal or okay at all. God made man & woman to unite as one. Everything between y’all needs to be TRANSPARENT. Tuh “ there’s things you don’t need to know” 💀💀 how disrespectful. Y’all are supposed to be partners & bestfriends. Respectful & loyal. Everything should be known idc. You’re not insecure my love. You want honesty & respect & he BUGGIN acting childish & disrespectful. I strongly suggest praying to God for both of y’all & focus on God as partners.
Yes girl. I grew so confident since I moved out of my mom's. I'm rebuilding myself from the ground up. When someone compliments me, I can't help but smile, pose up some more, do a lil spin. It's such a nice feeling when someone confirms something you knew (I dress up to look good after all).
If someone is truly confident in themselves, do they have to keep reminding others that they are confident? For example, saying things like "my body is so perfect," "I never have a problem with anyone" "Anyone who comes into contact with me loves me"
Idk.....i have friends who will say, "girl i am so pretty," or "girl my body is poppin today," bc it is. They wont say it to just anyone, but to me or other mutual friends bc they know we agree and will hype them, and i have no issues w people like that. I will hype my girl up and she will do the same for me. But some people need to let it be known regulardless, and that does get aggravating
And sometimes you just got haters and you need to make it clear that you typically are copacetic with others and this person coming at you is unorthodox. But obvs, these are not hard and fast rules
I mean yes and no. Some people really tryna make themselves known that their THE best and that can be so condescending and annoying. Like we get it, you're good looking and successful, you said that for the thousandth time this week. It's irritating. But also you should tell yourself your pretty and not let people bring you down, correct them that you're successful or beautiful or something. But don't like overdo it because then you're becoming condescending and nobody likes that.
Usually you can sense if it's genuine or not. There's people who you can just feel them exude confidence without having to say much, but aren't too timid to let themselves or others know that they know they're pretty/handsome. But there's other people who tell themselves that on purpose to get other people to agree when a lot of times they really don't feel that way about themselves. They usually mask it with fake confidence to see what other people would say. And those are the annoying ones that you can tell that are insecure right off the bat.
I hope this didn't go over anyone's head. I'm overcoming over explaining myself I use to not care what people thought about me but I don't know what changed
Same I was in a situation where I felt I needed to explain myself to EVERYONE and suddenly everyone knew my business. If anyone else is struggling with this please heed my warning not everyone is worth your energy and if you say no to something you don't have to explain yourself!
The narcissistic people one I FELT IN MY SOUL. Always cutting people off and trynna make situations about them. Literally made me realise I have 2 narcissistic friends and that’s gonna change very soon. As a 16 year old, I really needed this advice, so thanks Isi!
I’ve also noticed that (in my life), a lot of narcissistic/self-centred people tend to have no siblings, or have a false perception of themselves. So used to receiving all the attention from their parents that they can’t handle not being the centre of attention in their friendship groups, or firmly believing that they’re the best/prettiest and therefore deserve all the attention.
They also tend to be jealous (for example when realising someone’s outfit is cuter, or when people are more drawn to/ are paying more attention to someone else) and actually extremely rude (for example proceeding to make underhand comments about that person’s outfit in an attempt to lower that person’s confidence and also increase their own) most of the time without even realising it.
Their apologies are also really half-hearted, often slyly shifting blame, and tend to include stupid endearments like “bby” or “hun” as well as emojis like 🥺 or 😘 which decrease the value of the whole apology.
Totally agree, it’s a false perception of oneself. More importantly, like she stated in the video it’s best to cut those type of people off because true happiness is when a person value themselves and others with genuine compassion, love, loyalty, and trust. Dealt with so narcissistic ppl when it was time for them to reciprocate same great/ positive caring energy you gave them. They will ghost you because from the very beginning it was only about self not about building a sold foundation in the relationship. If you keep them around it only leads to feeling miserable not truly filled like God almighty created us to be. Pray for them and focus on what God has planned. ❤️🙏
@@yasminlucky7939 aww no don’t be, this is just based on my life :) but do continuously check yourself just to make sure you haven’t been unintentionally rude, we all do sometimes :))))
I have trust issues and assume that if anyone compliments me then they're lying. I say thank you but don't believe them, especially since they're only from other women.
It’s called low self esteem! Know your worth, Love Yourself! It’s a journey that takes time and patience! Everyone suffers with insecurity at one point or another in there lifetime; it’s something within that needs work! However you have to work on wether its childhood issues, ect... psychotherapy is needed and it’s nothing wrong with it!
I got a compliment from a guy at my job today. I said Awe Thank You. I walked away mumbling oh god. It’s all the male attention at work can be too much. I just wanna do my job and go home. I’m scarred from all the creeps.
As an artist, I been practicing to accept compliments on my artworks! I use to reverse uno and said "No, yours! " but learned to accept and say thank you! same with my appearance! I'm still working on loving myself but it actually makes me feel better hearing it and accepting it! I use to feel awful going in circles and it gets tiring then you tell yourself that you wish the small talk went better...make life easier and allow it in..it's good for mental health
I needed to hear that part when you said"you set the tone for how you allow people to treat you"I needed that fr .Also when someone told me I was really pretty I just didnt answer not because I'm cocky and I didnt appreciate the compliment it was in security.
You forgot the “friend” that compliments you via shade! 👀😒 I’ve had the friend say you’re pretty for a ____ girl! Just fill in the blank and its probably been said. And ppl that show up with what you had on and act like they don’t remember they copied you!😒😒😒
Yes my mom always told me don’t allow anyone to treat me any type of way and to stand up for myself.. she told me the exact same thing of you set the tone for how people treat you
The last sign I definitely can say I have a horrible habit of doing. I specifically realized it during quarantine how almost every time someone gives me a compliment I cannot just accept it and that is something I am definitely trying to work on.
Omg YESSS!! I always have a tendency to over explain myself especially at work. I’ve done it so much over the years even my family has realized it’s become a problem 😥 It’s hard but I’m working on it everyday
My bf tells me I’m im pretty all the times I try to hush even though I feel like I’m not I still tell him thank you but I’m working on it after this video ‼️💞
I swear I never knew that was a sign of insecurity but it makes soo much sense!!! I’ve had so many friends that were overly self centered. Always turning the conversation onto them and whenever I had something to say or contribute then it turns to mocking or putting me down in some way. Crazzzzzy how I put up with people like this, definitely shows I was comfortable letting “confident” talkative people put me down
I 100% understand you. I am virgo too and a few years ago I cut off my 'friends' who kept telling me I was not gonna do well in life. Those types of people are not welcome in my life anymore.
Wow the part about “not allowing bad vibes, bad energy” 👏🏾 I wish I would’ve known about this, I’ve recently cut this out of my life. Ironically it’s left me sort of alone as far as friends because I don’t allow just anyone into my life anymore. I still have a lot of things to work on in order to be less insecure. This was such an informative video!! Really caused me to self reflect 😌
The last one gets to me because I get complaints all the time about how good I am and there would be times where I don’t even see myself as someone that’s good or someone that’s their own boss. I thank you because I needed to see this video 💯💯💯💯💯💯
People are not just mixing confidence with cockiness but also humility with insecurity. Being insecure or believing you’re not good enough doesn’t mean you’re HUMBLE. And believing that no one is better than you or you’re not better than anyone doesn’t mean your cocky or insecure. Please know the difference between these terms💛
My big thing that I had to overcome was taking compliments, I was heavily bullied all the way through secondary school for my looks/weight and after a while I started to believe everything they were saying to me. Then after I left school whenever someone said something nice to me I would instantly assume they were kidding or lying. It's been four years since I left school and I'm just now feeling confident, I wear what I want now and don't think about what anyone thinks of me I know I look good, it took a hell of a journey and I still have a way to go but I'm getting there :)
Im thirteen right now and this is exactly whats happening to me. Ive been bullied all my life and now I reserve myself from certain clothes cause of my weight. And sometimes sit in the dark and think about every negative thing people have said.
@@darkskingirljojo5179 That’s exactly what I used to do it so horrible but then I found out a few years ago that what I was going through was anxiety and I learnt a few things that helped me like breathing exercises and stuff. Just know that you are worth a million times more then those horrible people that bully you it just shows that they are insecure and they are trying to bring you down for it but you are gonna get through this and it will take a while but if you surround yourself with good people you will slowly regain your confidence and I hope for you it’s soon ☺️💜
Definitely would struggle with the second example you gave! I would literally compare myself to my friends and wouldn’t share ideas or anything personal with them in fear that they would do better.. but I ended losing good people that way and have been working on my sense of individuality since then!
I love this! Being an insecure person working on her confidence i can understand a lot of this. However the narcissistic point doesn't scream insecurity to me...I get your point it seems like they cover up a insecurity by expressing their "successes" and "great looks", I just think that's extreme pride and background is taken into account they clearly lack humility...🤷🏽♀️
I have all of these issues to the point where I've just completely isolated myself and have no real life friends now. I think my main issue is that I have an avoidant personality, as well as dependent disorder. I don't think it's possible for me to not feel insecure at this point being this way... It's really sad and I envy women with your personality/demeanor. I am that person who is reserved and walks into a room and receives compliments but will never believe them and I don't wish that on anyone. >w< I enjoyed this video even though it hit very close to home.
You look so beautiful & your hair is so niceee! This list is definitely facts & I really used to be some of those a couple years ago. It’s amazing to see how far I’ve come. Love the video ❤️
I don’t usually comment but this video was EVERYTHING !!!👏🏾👏🏾 I’m in my 2nd yr of college (prestigious PWI) and I always felt behind, grades weren’t looking hot, plus my applications were turned down to get involved in things. It’s just hard to keep up with people who have access to more things. But u helped me remember that I just have to level up and grow, not to compete, but to be better for myself bc I wouldn’t have been there if I didn’t belong. Pray we have more influencers like u!! 💜🙏🏾
Thumb up!! Instagram gang strong!!
STRONG STRONG!!💪🏾 I SEE YALL❤️❤️😂
Yup we lit af
I use to be 10000% good on me...til I had a massive stroke and hv 0 confidence, even hating pics of myself now. Its a total life change
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I agree with the “loud girl” thing. I’m a reserved person and I still get attention. A lot of girls have disliked me for that reason🤦🏽♀️ they were just jealous and insecure.
YESS ME TOO! (Also YOURE gorgeous)
Same I stay away from drama and stuff and these girls I used to hang (2-3 years ago)with keep starting mess bc her ex like me and I like him like👏🏽girl👏🏽 he 👏🏽broke👏🏽 up 👏🏽with 👏🏽you 👏🏽get 👏🏽over it 👏🏽
Same, I keep to myself alot.
@@BruhWhy5 I don’t even like talking to people I get all sweaty and nervous my face turns red and get hot idk what’s wrong with me
@@vivid5203 thank you💖
Most insecurities come from traumatic experiences. I think the best thing to do is heal. Before I cut a toxic person off I do see if there's signs that they want help. Not everyone wants to be the way they are sometimes its a cry for help.
Very much so true and I have bad anxiety and insecurities from my trauma that I’m trying to get over for years but for some people it’s easy yes mama u are 100% correct cuz some people cry for help and sometimes don’t have it so they go to other things for help
Exactly
Well said, sis 👍🏾
That is such a great observation. I will try to remember that.
I love how Isi is so strong and stands with her standards. Really a good role model😌❤
I really appreciate that❤️
"Accepting compliments with good grace is a way to let other people practice kindness, whether you're comfortable with the praise or not."
You’re not better than nobody cuz God can snatch that in the blink of an eye! Isi tell ehm!
True sis
"You don't have to be loud in order to be seen" This sooooo true. I can enter into a room and snatch attention without saying a word. I kinda hate that though coz I'm a shy person, attention makes me very uncomfortable
Same here girl. Sometimes I dress down to avoid it but being tall doesn’t help either lol
@@chelseakatsidzira7153 giiiiirrrrlllll! I do that too. I'm always on jeans, a top and sneakers, nothing fancy but wow, it dosnt help
You should feel happy lol
Girrrrrl me too. Im kinda okay with the looking, just a little bit; but it makes me nervous when they stare. I dont like when a crowd or more people staring at me at once. It gives me anxiety and sometimes tears form smdgh 🙄😒 .
Another tidbit would be to be cognizant of friends who project their insecurities onto you. I had to cut ties with a friend b/c it seemed as if my presence disrupted her peace. There was a time when we were in the car and I was literally just sitting in the passenger’s seat, scrolling on my phone, and she randomly turned her nose up at me and started laughing saying, “Girl I can’t with you! You just...**laugh** you just so... **laugh**” and she started fake flipping her hair and rolling her eyes to suggest that that’s how I act. When I tell y’all I was confuseeedddd. I literally was like, “...What??” And she said “you just think you better than everybody.” And that was the very last day I talked to her. If my presence is that disruptive, I’ll remove myself b/c I’m not about to endure anyone’s toxic projections.
YES!! Sometimes I don’t even be in they peripheral vision, but they’ll turn they WHOLE body around just to look at me and say something 🙄
Thiiiiiiiiis! Proud of you for letting her go! ❤️💪🏾
Preach!
@@AuroraFox444 Those people have some problems 😤
@@koyance Girl, coworkers can be so catty and messy for no reason at all. Just phony for no reason.
I had a “friend” who would give passive aggressive compliments. She’d say I love your hair but mines won’t grow or dang sis you lost weight, but that’s cuz you have a great metabolism. Like she’d try to reduce my accomplishment or development or give compliments that cane off more as jealousy. I would always talk her up and help her with her hair and weight loss but after a situation one night, I stopped talking to her. Now she views my every single one of my stories on insta when I stopped following her a while ago 🤷🏾♀️ She only wanted to be around me when I was insecure but when I started to gain attention and look good/feel good, she felt threatened
Rachele Smith I completely understand this because I’ve lost 50 pounds and one of my friends said most people who lose weight gain it back anyway and I felt like that was a pretty negative comment 🤷🏾♀️😒.
@@gracie2367 that's awful. I know how hard it is to lose weight and at some point it feels impossible that you'll ever change- I, for one, congratulate you and wish you maintain it healthily 🥰
Yes girl shed that bad energy
Tikoya Floyd Fr, I see nothing wrong with that she said. Sometimes it’s about your perception and not about what is said to you. 🤷🏾♀️
So it’s hard to explain through a YT comment because there’s a lot of other context to the situation that’d make the story more clear. This was only one of the things she’d say but she’d also act differently if I got attention from guys, she would always mimic styles or things that I wore, and was a Debbie downer whenever I’d have good news. In short, we bonded through our insecurities and then when I grew past them slowly, it made her jealous. Obviously I can’t speak from her side but it was clear as day to me after I left that situation. In the moment I didn’t believe it either but all the signs were there
I love this topic however I wish you had talked about how anxiety can play into all of these attributes. Part of the reason my anxiety disorder went unchecked through high school and college was because I was mistaking insecurity for what I now know is anxiety and depression. Now i'm on anxiety meds and I no longer do any of the things mentioned in this video. I know that's not everyone's situation but something to consider. Keep up the good content!
Yessss! I have anxiety too and I’m about to get on meds, wish me luck!
Dang I wonder what you taking because the meds I had made me sick. Tried 2 different kinds.
Same
AGREED!!!!
Thank you! I recently had this same realization
It’s the hat for me 😍 this video was facts!!!! 🗣🗣
Yes my fav color too 💛💛💛
SAME!!! 💛💛💛
100% 🧢
how does she not have a million subscribers yet????
Ikr ....right we need to keep these subs coming
*Signs into my whole families account to subscribe*
It takes longer for black people to get big in UA-cam
Exactly
Ok, in other words: we’re all a little insecure 🤷🏾♀️
EXACTLY, Insecurities are normal, everyone has at least one and it a sign of humility which this generation seems to lack.
Difference between insecurities and insecure. We all have insecurities, but we're not all insecure.
No ma'am we all moment but not a consistent basis and maybe even insecure thoughts but never act on those thoughts
Everyone has some insecurity, be it in a relationship or on your own.
Not insecure...just have a few insecure moments😂
There was a time where I was very insecure in myself and my husband told me everyday that I was beautiful and he didn’t understand that I was battling the destruction of being raised up around people who made me think from a very young age that I was just fat and ugly and that’s what I believed since I was young and it took me a while to see how gorgeous I am ...so there are definitely people in this world that just don’t know how to be confident ...I see your saying that everytime a person acts insecure it irritates you but in most people it’s not done to be “extra” or for “attention” it a real problem that takes over your brain and I feel for anyone woman that goes through that right now but please remember you are beautiful and only YOU need to know that! Also, remember don’t think because you have insecurities that you are insecure.YOU ARE HUMAN❤️ and also, how does apologizing to your workers that you are suppose to care about scream insecure? They were late and if an employee was late ...it wouldn’t be taken lightly
Say it again ‼️
right like me i grow around family and fake people that will just talk about this one thing is i believed
you have a good man.
Thank you for posting this 🤗 This comment should be pinned. I wasn’t sure how to take her reaction on insecure women. Sometimes there is an underlying issue...
@@caligirl4467 exactly and one thing I don’t tolerate is letting another woman beat another woman down because she’s getting her shit together!!!
2020 has taught me that it’s so perfectly ok to root for yourself and hype yourself up and acknowledge your beauty. I want all of us to feel that way about ourselves. 🤍
Some of these are also signs of depression such as the putting oneself down so if you have an insecure friend, make sure the reason for their insecurity isn't depression cause we could all use a caring friend now. Loved the video though!
If you have a friend going through depression, notify people who can actually help them. Being there for a friend is good and all, but you will become entangled. Just a little heads up
@@DragonFellowship true true. dont want compassion fatigue
A lack of boundaries (where she's speaking about allowing bad energy in your life) is something I'm just now realizing I do. I constantly carry a victim mindset because I OPEN myself to being used and walked on. Lord, help me! 😩
I feel this
i ageee with everything
one thing about being loud for me is, im usually quiet and overall an introvert, but when i’m with my friends i get loud sometimes and they even tell me but i get so passionate and excited when i’m talking to them 😭
i even lower my tone a bit because sometimes i don’t notice 😂 i immediately feel self-conscious.
@@christinem8799 same sis
Same! Lol😆
Same HERE! They be telling me all the time to lower my voice. So bad😭
i found my people, i feel yall 😭😭💗💗
Just a Beauty Gang member vouching for the fact that we are HELLA STUPID LIT!
And that’s on Periodt !!!💅🏾✨
“They don’t know me from a bag of chips and I don’t know them from a cup of juice!” 😂😂😂 I love thiss.
*you said what NEEDED to be said* 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I had those narcissistic tendencies, however, I never knew I was doing this until a friend told me and ever since then I've been trying to be more aware and if I accidentally interrupt I apologize. Overall, tell the person so they are aware and can adjust otherwise its a your problem.
I'm so proud of you for this. Like honestly, the self awareness and empathy it takes to realize this and change rather than defend yourself. It takes a lot. I wish there were more people like you. Jesus loves you and God bless. Honestly tho I love you for this💓
@@theninjasquad3956 Thank you so much 😊🙏🏾 I really do appreciate your words of encouragement.
This needed to be said, but also thanks cuz as a 16 y.o. I NEEDED to check MYSELF......... and maybe some other people🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🙄😗🤣
Same. I feel like i m being peer pressured into being more mature it sucks
My issue is always feeling like I need to be liked, at a young age, I've always had a hard time saying no. And what you said about the mean people!!! Omg!!! Setting the tone and not allowing any type of behavior from others. You preaching and I love how you cut it off at ease.
Sameeeee
Sanmeee
Same
I FELT THATTTT “as soon as you decide to be confident, people wanna call you cocky”
I seriously need you in my life 😩 you are literally saying everything I agree with and why I don’t have friends 😔 😂 because I’m pretty picky about who I let around me. Ppl are evil these days. Have to be careful
Omg yesss🤦🏽
Agreed
Same gurl I ain’t got time for negative and tiring energy🤷🏽♀️
Me neither sis 😭
The way you described examples of narcissism is also a symptom of ADHD and is a way that people try and relate by telling their own stories, and tend to interrupt without meaning to and accidentally cut others off. Isn't always narcissism :)
This is what I always tend to do. Whenever someone tells me about something it reminds me of how i went maybe through the same situation and how I can relate to them and what theyre telling me.some people dont like it when I do that, so idk if its okay or not
@@angeliquegroenewald4938 now that you know, you can try to be more considerate. For example, let them complete what they’re saying and ask them at least one question about it before bringing up your experience so that they can feel listened to. You’ll probably have better conversations this way too
She’s talking about people who try to one up someone in a conversation. You can tell the difference between someone trying to relate to you and someone trying to one up you.
As an ADHD person, thank you for saying this 💜
Thank you for this because I was looking for somebody to comment that this is an ADHD symptom #anADHDmom
The one sign about being insecure where you don't accept compliments easily can have two sides to it. Sometimes, at least for me I've had people give me compliments but then they turn around and say something negative about me so then they never really meant it. I take the compliment for what it's worth but I just feel that with that sign some people might not take to compliments very well because they aren't used to people being genuine about what they say. Though I really loved the video, helped me gain some insight. :)
Some people says it to make you feel good or to win you, so personally, I don't like much of compliments!
Agreed!
That’s how I feel I feel like some people are just fake and we don’t need fake people in our lives
Yep. Backhanded compliments are a real thing. We have to be discerning. No need to accept what isn't genuine.
i feel like i am so nervous when talking to people, i have a hard time with conversation so i try to relate to whatever they are talking about which i realize probably comes off as narcissistic. i’m just socially inept 😭 i need to work on that
Same
Same sis💜
Do a segment on Insecurity within a relationship. For example, your man having female friends that you don’t know or never was introduced to? Or your man flirting with other women online? How do feel or deal ? Is there boundaries? What if you are in a marriage would that change your thinking? Would love to hear your thoughts..
Every relationship is different because each individual want different things and have different values. I’ll say whatever feels right and it’s about respect/honesty/trust. Look at healthy relationship and look at signs for abuse and leave or communicate. If nothing changes...leave.
How do you feel about it? Is this a committed relationship? Ever asked him? What is being said? How does he feel if you did the same? . .....Got to be careful about "friends" and flirting because people wait for their turn.
@@msch3891 I think it’s inappropriate and to me seems disloyal. But I’ve been called insecure because of How I want to know my Husband female friends. In the beginning I snooped to find out my answers. They say if you go looking for something you’ll find it, but I feel like it shouldn’t be there for me to find! We are all different. He says everything is not for me to know and I’m not used to that. I’m pushing him away because of my insecurities and so I try my best to go on but it hurts my heart to be real, I keep praying about it. I try to treat people the way I wish to be treated so I don’t entertain no men. I guess flirting is ok and normal but when you start texting and talking all the time the inappropriate conversations start and that crosses the line... when you start sharing thoughts and emotions lines start to cross. I’ve always been told emotional cheating is the worst...and I used to think that physical is the worst, but as I’ve grown older I do now see that emotional cheating can be more damaging... and you what are your thoughts? Oh and I’m married 14 years but who says it’s about me 👀..Tell me your thoughts should we just let men be men and do their thang and not worry so much? I’m still learning to let go and Let God have his way because God will deal with all of us in his own way if we are doing wrong...
@@texasbeu2y I’m married and I set clear boundaries with my husband. Every relationship is different but I’m not going to let someone call me insecure off of what I feel comfortable and uncomfortable with just as I listen to my partner’s boundaries too.
no, no & no. Your man should treat you how he wants you treat him. Period. It’s only you & him, these outside people are irrelevant. There should be no flirting w people in real life or online. That’s embarrassing & disrespectful. Not normal or okay at all. God made man & woman to unite as one. Everything between y’all needs to be TRANSPARENT. Tuh “ there’s things you don’t need to know” 💀💀 how disrespectful. Y’all are supposed to be partners & bestfriends. Respectful & loyal. Everything should be known idc. You’re not insecure my love. You want honesty & respect & he BUGGIN acting childish & disrespectful. I strongly suggest praying to God for both of y’all & focus on God as partners.
Yes girl. I grew so confident since I moved out of my mom's. I'm rebuilding myself from the ground up. When someone compliments me, I can't help but smile, pose up some more, do a lil spin. It's such a nice feeling when someone confirms something you knew (I dress up to look good after all).
If someone is truly confident in themselves, do they have to keep reminding others that they are confident? For example, saying things like "my body is so perfect," "I never have a problem with anyone" "Anyone who comes into contact with me loves me"
Idk.....i have friends who will say, "girl i am so pretty," or "girl my body is poppin today," bc it is. They wont say it to just anyone, but to me or other mutual friends bc they know we agree and will hype them, and i have no issues w people like that. I will hype my girl up and she will do the same for me. But some people need to let it be known regulardless, and that does get aggravating
And sometimes you just got haters and you need to make it clear that you typically are copacetic with others and this person coming at you is unorthodox. But obvs, these are not hard and fast rules
I mean yes and no. Some people really tryna make themselves known that their THE best and that can be so condescending and annoying. Like we get it, you're good looking and successful, you said that for the thousandth time this week. It's irritating. But also you should tell yourself your pretty and not let people bring you down, correct them that you're successful or beautiful or something. But don't like overdo it because then you're becoming condescending and nobody likes that.
Actually this Makes so much Sense. Alotta ppl let it Known evry second n like lack humbleness
Usually you can sense if it's genuine or not. There's people who you can just feel them exude confidence without having to say much, but aren't too timid to let themselves or others know that they know they're pretty/handsome. But there's other people who tell themselves that on purpose to get other people to agree when a lot of times they really don't feel that way about themselves. They usually mask it with fake confidence to see what other people would say. And those are the annoying ones that you can tell that are insecure right off the bat.
I hope this didn't go over anyone's head.
I'm overcoming over explaining myself I use to not care what people thought about me but I don't know what changed
Same I was in a situation where I felt I needed to explain myself to EVERYONE and suddenly everyone knew my business. If anyone else is struggling with this please heed my warning not everyone is worth your energy and if you say no to something you don't have to explain yourself!
The narcissistic people one I FELT IN MY SOUL. Always cutting people off and trynna make situations about them. Literally made me realise I have 2 narcissistic friends and that’s gonna change very soon. As a 16 year old, I really needed this advice, so thanks Isi!
Being confident in yourself is a journey, but if you really want it, then you gonna get it😚❤❤
Thank you sis, much love from 🇰🇪
I’ve also noticed that (in my life), a lot of narcissistic/self-centred people tend to have no siblings, or have a false perception of themselves. So used to receiving all the attention from their parents that they can’t handle not being the centre of attention in their friendship groups, or firmly believing that they’re the best/prettiest and therefore deserve all the attention.
They also tend to be jealous (for example when realising someone’s outfit is cuter, or when people are more drawn to/ are paying more attention to someone else) and actually extremely rude (for example proceeding to make underhand comments about that person’s outfit in an attempt to lower that person’s confidence and also increase their own) most of the time without even realising it.
Their apologies are also really half-hearted, often slyly shifting blame, and tend to include stupid endearments like “bby” or “hun” as well as emojis like 🥺 or 😘 which decrease the value of the whole apology.
Totally agree, it’s a false perception of oneself. More importantly, like she stated in the video it’s best to cut those type of people off because true happiness is when a person value themselves and others with genuine compassion, love, loyalty, and trust. Dealt with so narcissistic ppl when it was time for them to reciprocate same great/ positive caring energy you gave them. They will ghost you because from the very beginning it was only about self not about building a sold foundation in the relationship. If you keep them around it only leads to feeling miserable not truly filled like God almighty created us to be. Pray for them and focus on what God has planned. ❤️🙏
I feel attacked lol. I'm an only child
@@yasminlucky7939 aww no don’t be, this is just based on my life :) but do continuously check yourself just to make sure you haven’t been unintentionally rude, we all do sometimes :))))
I have trust issues and assume that if anyone compliments me then they're lying. I say thank you but don't believe them, especially since they're only from other women.
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It’s called low self esteem! Know your worth, Love Yourself! It’s a journey that takes time and patience! Everyone suffers with insecurity at one point or another in there lifetime; it’s something within that needs work! However you have to work on wether its childhood issues, ect... psychotherapy is needed and it’s nothing wrong with it!
I got a compliment from a guy at my job today. I said Awe Thank You. I walked away mumbling oh god. It’s all the male attention at work can be too much. I just wanna do my job and go home. I’m scarred from all the creeps.
There’s usually something behind insecurities! Work to figure out what those things are and seek help. Growth is a beautiful thing 😌✨
I can’t be the only who has been noticing that she is glowing. Sis your absolute gorgeous
This video opened my eyes to many insecurities that I have. Dang, I got some work to do 😭😭😭
Made me realize that I am insecure in some ways. Thank you for this video. Learning and growing everyday 👑🙏🏾
“You don’t have to be loud to be seen” 💯 energy don’t lie
I bet your watching this video with your legs crossed 😂💕
Yep, chloe yazmean's and now isi's 🤣🤣🤣
You put a camera in my room or sumn👀😂
@@christinahanson2490 I'm deadd
Lol. True. How u know??
No I'm laying on my stomach
As an artist, I been practicing to accept compliments on my artworks! I use to reverse uno and said "No, yours! " but learned to accept and say thank you! same with my appearance! I'm still working on loving myself but it actually makes me feel better hearing it and accepting it! I use to feel awful going in circles and it gets tiring then you tell yourself that you wish the small talk went better...make life easier and allow it in..it's good for mental health
I needed to hear that part when you said"you set the tone for how you allow people to treat you"I needed that fr .Also when someone told me I was really pretty I just didnt answer not because I'm cocky and I didnt appreciate the compliment it was in security.
Same, I used to ignore it but then they would keep doing it and then I worried if it's too late to set the tone. Not anymore now.
Same!! I needed that.. and the compliment part too.. I would ignoe compliments or just try to dish out a better one to the person lol
@@Taangxx Lol. Same. I feel obligated to give them one in return.
thank youuu.. i really needed to hear thisss LITERALLY🥺!!
Imma 2nd that.
Imma 3rd that
Imma fourth that
You forgot the “friend” that compliments you via shade! 👀😒 I’ve had the friend say you’re pretty for a ____ girl! Just fill in the blank and its probably been said. And ppl that show up with what you had on and act like they don’t remember they copied you!😒😒😒
Shady compliments are the worst 🙄
@@AmariHetep Yessss, they are! And there’s always that one so called friend or family member that does it.
Uughh i hate those
Those aren’t friends✂️ off. It’s amazing how low key keeping toxic people in your life can affect you subconsciously and mentally.
Oh, like a backhanded compliment?
Yes my mom always told me don’t allow anyone to treat me any type of way and to stand up for myself.. she told me the exact same thing of you set the tone for how people treat you
The last sign I definitely can say I have a horrible habit of doing. I specifically realized it during quarantine how almost every time someone gives me a compliment I cannot just accept it and that is something I am definitely trying to work on.
Love when a strong woman reaches out to make others strong ❤️😭i love your videos girl
Omg YESSS!! I always have a tendency to over explain myself especially at work. I’ve done it so much over the years even my family has realized it’s become a problem 😥 It’s hard but I’m working on it everyday
My bf tells me I’m im pretty all the times I try to hush even though I feel like I’m not I still tell him thank you but I’m working on it after this video ‼️💞
I have to work on that too
I swear I never knew that was a sign of insecurity but it makes soo much sense!!! I’ve had so many friends that were overly self centered. Always turning the conversation onto them and whenever I had something to say or contribute then it turns to mocking or putting me down in some way. Crazzzzzy how I put up with people like this, definitely shows I was comfortable letting “confident” talkative people put me down
I 100% understand you. I am virgo too and a few years ago I cut off my 'friends' who kept telling me I was not gonna do well in life. Those types of people are not welcome in my life anymore.
Aww, Isi gonna be an amazing mother with her daughters✨❤️
Or sons😅
Wow the part about “not allowing bad vibes, bad energy” 👏🏾
I wish I would’ve known about this, I’ve recently cut this out of my life. Ironically it’s left me sort of alone as far as friends because I don’t allow just anyone into my life anymore. I still have a lot of things to work on in order to be less insecure. This was such an informative video!! Really caused me to self reflect 😌
I’m definitely guilty of not accepting compliments 😭
Just came from live😂😂Girl it’s midnight in the uk and I’m ready to watch at anyyy time
lol love you so much🥰❤️❤️
Girl I’m here from THE LIVEE!!!
I love the car analogy right on the head 👏🏾👏🏾
The last one gets to me because I get complaints all the time about how good I am and there would be times where I don’t even see myself as someone that’s good or someone that’s their own boss. I thank you because I needed to see this video 💯💯💯💯💯💯
Yep I’m definitely an “over-explainer”
People are not just mixing confidence with cockiness but also humility with insecurity. Being insecure or believing you’re not good enough doesn’t mean you’re HUMBLE. And believing that no one is better than you or you’re not better than anyone doesn’t mean your cocky or insecure. Please know the difference between these terms💛
My big thing that I had to overcome was taking compliments, I was heavily bullied all the way through secondary school for my looks/weight and after a while I started to believe everything they were saying to me. Then after I left school whenever someone said something nice to me I would instantly assume they were kidding or lying. It's been four years since I left school and I'm just now feeling confident, I wear what I want now and don't think about what anyone thinks of me I know I look good, it took a hell of a journey and I still have a way to go but I'm getting there :)
Queen.❤️
Im thirteen right now and this is exactly whats happening to me. Ive been bullied all my life and now I reserve myself from certain clothes cause of my weight. And sometimes sit in the dark and think about every negative thing people have said.
@@darkskingirljojo5179 That’s exactly what I used to do it so horrible but then I found out a few years ago that what I was going through was anxiety and I learnt a few things that helped me like breathing exercises and stuff.
Just know that you are worth a million times more then those horrible people that bully you it just shows that they are insecure and they are trying to bring you down for it but you are gonna get through this and it will take a while but if you surround yourself with good people you will slowly regain your confidence and I hope for you it’s soon ☺️💜
@@andimolloy845 🥰 Thank you. Made me feel a little better that Im not the only one who experience that and theres people who have overcome.
@@darkskingirljojo5179 Glad I could help 😊💜
Definitely would struggle with the second example you gave! I would literally compare myself to my friends and wouldn’t share ideas or anything personal with them in fear that they would do better.. but I ended losing good people that way and have been working on my sense of individuality since then!
I love this! Being an insecure person working on her confidence i can understand a lot of this. However the narcissistic point doesn't scream insecurity to me...I get your point it seems like they cover up a insecurity by expressing their "successes" and "great looks", I just think that's extreme pride and background is taken into account they clearly lack humility...🤷🏽♀️
People who sabotage conversations and don't even want to hear your feedback to what they're rambling about!!
....That's how you get in car accidents...🙌🏾
I'm convinced I'm the ONLY man that watches your channel 😂😂 but aye! Like josh always says! No shame in my game lol! 🤷🏾♂️
I just came from your live hey everyone
I have all of these issues to the point where I've just completely isolated myself and have no real life friends now. I think my main issue is that I have an avoidant personality, as well as dependent disorder. I don't think it's possible for me to not feel insecure at this point being this way... It's really sad and I envy women with your personality/demeanor. I am that person who is reserved and walks into a room and receives compliments but will never believe them and I don't wish that on anyone. >w< I enjoyed this video even though it hit very close to home.
Thank You for this!!! Whew self check time 😭🙌🏽🙏🏽
A lot of this spoke to me. Gees. I learned so much. Thanks for this.
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The way I NEEDED this video!!. I feel like I grow every time I watch your girl talks thank you🤎 #parttwo
Thank you, this was so needed to my soul. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿💯💯💯💖💖💖
I had to watch this video twice cause WOW!! Everything in here is just facts and I needed to hear it!!😭😭❤❤
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The live !!! Love you girl
! Tell us the truth TOOOO-DAY!
Wow so relatable! 👍🏾
Facts love you queen you look TOO good I’m glad you know it ✨✨
thanks for the girl talk! yes confidence!
Preach!!! 🗣👏🏾 & those eyebrows are slayed underneath that hat sis! Lol Love this look on you! ❤️
Girl we missed the girl talks!!! We glad you back 🤭❤️
Love this girl talk segment!! You are gorgeous! Love and light 😊
Hella stupid lit!!!! #part2
Keep dropping this wisdom sis!
I definitely struggle with over explaining and receiving compliments. I’m working through it though and needed this!!
I NEEDED THIS. 😍 Especially the peer pressure to change my opinions/ perceptions. I still find myself pressured sometimes.
Thank you for this. This was a great reminder for me 💞
I love how she goes Siiiiis ♥️♥️♥️
Preach sista! I was nodding my head the whole time I'm just glad I'm not the only girl who notices these things smh.
I needed to here this haven’t even finished the video but I just know I needed to hear it 😂
You look so beautiful & your hair is so niceee! This list is definitely facts & I really used to be some of those a couple years ago. It’s amazing to see how far I’ve come. Love the video ❤️
I love these girls talks. I used to explain my every action but lately I am trying to cut that habit. it not needed to explain to everyone. #part2
I don’t usually comment but this video was EVERYTHING !!!👏🏾👏🏾 I’m in my 2nd yr of college (prestigious PWI) and I always felt behind, grades weren’t looking hot, plus my applications were turned down to get involved in things. It’s just hard to keep up with people who have access to more things. But u helped me remember that I just have to level up and grow, not to compete, but to be better for myself bc I wouldn’t have been there if I didn’t belong. Pray we have more influencers like u!! 💜🙏🏾
Definitely needed this girl talk!!! 💯💯💯💯
Thank you beauty👍🙂
All these are pure facts, Great video ❤
ISI knows what’s she wants and does not want. She also is not the one to play with and has morals. Role model material 💗💗