I Don't Want To Be Married Anymore
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
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"I Don't Want to Be Married Anymore: Reigniting the Spark"
In this heartfelt and practical video titled "I Don't Want to Be Married Anymore," viewers will embark on a journey to explore the complexities and challenges that can lead to feelings of discontent in a marriage. This video is designed for individuals who may be questioning their commitment and are seeking ways to rekindle the love and passion they once felt for their spouse.
Throughout the video, a series of expert insight and research-based strategies will be presented, offering viewers a comprehensive guide to understanding why the desire to be married may have faded and how to address these issues head-on. The video will cover various topics, including:
Communication Breakdown: Understanding how communication lapses can lead to disconnection and learning strategies to improve dialogue and empathy between partners.
Rediscovering Each Other: Tips on spending quality time together, engaging in new activities, and appreciating each other's growth and changes over time.
Intimacy and Romance: Exploring the importance of intimacy and romantic gestures in keeping the marital bond strong and how to reignite the spark both emotionally and physically.
Personal Growth and Self-Care: Emphasizing the importance of individual happiness and self-care as a fundamental part of a healthy marriage.
Seeking Help When Needed: Encouraging viewers to seek coaching if the issues are beyond personal resolution and understanding the benefits of professional guidance.
This video aims not only to address the concerns of those who feel they no longer want to be married but also to provide hope and actionable steps to revitalize a relationship that may have lost its way. Whether viewers are looking to make small changes or take significant steps towards improvement, "I Don't Want to Be Married Anymore" offers a compassionate and insightful resource to help them rediscover the joy of being together and restore their desire for marriage and their spouse.
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Trust me guys coach lee is the best in this business
Can't be a marriage anymore if your husband is currently monkey branching and cheating with his coworker. Once he goes outside of marriage and betrayed me, there won't be a marriage anymore. That is a wedding vowel breaker. Never again will I forgive him.
i wonder how much he communicated before this happened. sorry tho
@@mauif7639 he hardly ever communicated effectively. Still doesn't excuse cheating. He did it once before too when we were newly married and everything was perfect. It is a him problem. It's a defect he has. He could've communicated. I was always mature and receptive and willing to work on things to improve it but he never did. He used my chronic illness as the excuse this time which was just shallow. There is more to it but I know my part and what part he didn't play. It was a one-sided relationship toward the end.
Probably narcissist 😂
@@NMTDelightfulMusic yes I'm thinking he had narc traits.
@@lmfisher650 Everybody and their brother is a narcissist these days. A narc is not someone who doesn't want us anymore or who rubs us the wrong way in some way. Sometimes, people row apart, or discover they don't fit together as well as they thought or find others much better suited for them. It's that simple.
Coach Lee, Will you consider making some more content on the "Nothing to Lose Contact" topic, after 3+ months silence from the ex? Also, there isn't much on the ex leaving specifically for someone else whom they perceive to be a better fit. Your videos serve the "broken up with," so it makes sense to create content that assumes your clients are by default the more "valuable" party compared to a mere "rebound." And yet this is not always the case. Sometimes, ex-es do meet people who fit them better. If a marriage is in place, the institution itself roots for the status quo. Relationships (marriages included) end all the time because one person found NOT someone "better," but someone more compatible. I understand that in those cases, we can assume the ex will not come back because they found their real "the one." But I wonder if you could talk about circumstances surrounding such situations, odds for the better match to prevail, etc. Finally, there is the issue of highly intelligent, atypical psych profile ex-es. There's a saying that "good students know all the right answers." For such people, the intricacies of human psychology are not exactly unknowns, so these are much more difficult nuts to crack. Any advice?
Divorced since September, I loved my husband so much but he did so many things wich broke me stepwise and I didn’t even realise it until we were divorced….
After the divorce I thought I could meet the right person for me with whom I could feel safe
So I started dating again
but everytime I met someone all my trauma came up ,
I know I want to marry again and have a family but
today I feel just fear to be not able to love again
I don’t know if it’s a normal feeling
Give yourself a year without dating.Healing takes time. Your ex-husband is on your mind when you do dating. That can't be healthy. Focus on you and do things that you always wanted, but maybe never had time to do. Being single again is not the end of the world. Talking from experience.
I am so sorry to hear this is how you are feeling. I ruined my marriage not doing these things. Despite two kids and 17 years together he is now caught up in a rebound. I don’t know if he’ll ever come back.
We are separated and he is more caught up with her.
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that's sad but you should stay no contact and focus on yourself, remember even if you manage to take him back he won't treat you well
Hi coach, any new/updated videos regarding dumper rebounds and chances of those coming back? I watched all of your existing videos on rebounds but some are 5 years old. Thank you, great content as always.
There are newer ones in the Emergency Breakup Kit. I will be doing some more in the future. Thanks for suggesting.
Please don't take a dumper back who enters a rebound relationship after a breakup. They're not the right person for you anymore. get out
Hi everyone and Coach Lee it would really mean a lot if anyone could give some insight to my situation. My gf had broken up with me a multiple times before, they weren’t really “real” break ups but it was painful. After some work I could tell she was distant and I told her that I want her to be happy and I don’t want her to feel forced and she decided to walk away. It wasn’t a falling out and at least to the best of my knowledge and based off what she said she deeply loved me but she couldn’t seem to give me what I need and that made me anxious. Since then she’s reached out and I’ve reached out a few times just regarding some logistical things but we said we’d be open to talking in the future. I told her given the situation and that I seem to overwhelm her it would be best if she was the one to reach out bc I need to work on being able to give people space. I did this because I want to move on but of course I still love her and deep down hope we may have a chance. Did I make the wrong decision? She said “sounds good” and actually reached out the next day, but it was something logistical; not about us.
My ex just broke up with me because of some financial issues i put her through and other stuff. Anyway Should pay her back all the money i owe? Is this considered breaking no contact? I plan to pay her a little at a time. Also what do i do with all this mail. She blocked me btw
Politely pay her money back but prepare yourself to get out as there is a high likelihood she wants to enter a rebound relationship
What to do when they repeatedly message me asking for help with things, they arent serious about returning my things, and I know i can hangout with them whenever I want. They also still say I love you.
Is no contact needed in this situation and let them ask me to hangout or should i use that opprtunity to create positive moments?
Fred and Rose West were a couple. They shared a hobby.
How should i handle no contact when there are still lots of things to manage, like banking contracts, insurance, apartements and so on? Just contact ex specific for those things or wait as long as possible and then clarify such things?
That is the main problem, every time I had to approach my ex for these matters we had a fight
@@PersianHotties I can imagine... and then the no contact period resets itself, as we had to talk again to each other and maybe even see us..
It's 2 months my ex dumped me. But he constantly contact me every single day. Is there is explanation for this? He also wants go out sometimes. He wants me being with him at the New Year🤯🤯
Then he didn't dump you. Play the unassuming role and hang out, unless he specifically said he offers friendship only.
so why don't you want to hangout with him? accept his offer and get back together
@@PersianHotties because he doesn't want relationships. He doesn't know what he wants. I stick to no contact
Hey Coach Lee. This question isn't all to related to your video, but I wanted to post it on a recent one so you might see.
Do you think no-contact should include blocking your ex from seeing your social media posts, stories, etc? If they are able to glimpse into your life and see how you are doing, will they still bother to reach out/ask and care?
Thanks very much.
"What do you have to lose?" As a woman, you lose a lot to live in a classical marriage setting. Men tend to believe it's easy to be taken out of social circles and "provided for." But mentally and emotionally, we are social creatures and there's nothing worse than completely losing your autonomy and put at the mercy of a man's decisions - which often occurs given he's the one bringing home the financials. I cannot agree with the classical marriage portion of this video. It may work for some, but I believe those cases are rarer than society wants people to believe.
I don't think you have a video on monkey branching. Would like to hear your take on it and how no contact plays out towards it.
If they monkey branch in less than 6 months I can tell you she has personality disorder and you'd better off to forget her for good because even if she is back you'll experience much worse relationship than before
Hey Coach Lee, you should make an updated video on short-term relationships and what to do. Me and my ex were together for 2 months and I’ve almost reached 1 month of no contact. So I’m not sure if I should eventually reach out since my window of opportunity is shorter since you mentioned this in an old video. A part of me doesn’t want to risk it because wouldn’t me reaching out after 1.5 months give her an ego boost due to me initiating since it shows in her mind that I’ll be the one always initiating?
Coach lee please do a video on how to get your wife back when divorce has been filed and she is trying to push you away to get the divorce over the line
Coach Lee is the best! 😃
He is - his videos helped me tremendously.
What if ur wife leaves u and says were broken up now so the marriage doesn’t matter anymore. She broke up 3 months ago i tried to tell her we are still legally married i apologized for past mistakes sincerely. She says that she just doesn’t want to go through the paper process but if i want to get a divorce its fine with her. we have been separated for over 2 months now basically no contact apart from two times of me breaking it. I can’t get her out of my head and she doesn’t even care about me anymore. I told her i wont file for divorce so she doesn’t have any stress with the paperwork but at what point do i stop caring for her. She has most likely already had intimacy with someone else . She said she just wants to be free and enjoy the single life because shes still young 26 and we were our first relationship love and everything. been together for 9 and a half years been through so much and im working on my flaws everyday but she can’t see it because of no contact. I want the marriage but she doesnt what should i do now.
For situations in that level of marriage crisis, I suggest that you get my free mini-course on saving a marriage at myexbackcoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis/
Exact same thing happen to me word for word. Stay no contact. Prepare yourself to live your best life by bettering yourself and flaws. She will come back but be ready to take it at your pace. Dont do it for her. She messed up so make her work for it back. If you rush into it over. If you can deal with her sleeping with other people then take her back on your terms. If not, keep it moving bro. It's best for you.
As @CiluhStyle1 said, focus on yourself. Sit down and write a short list of the task that you want to achieve (in short-, mid- and long-term perspective) to make your life better and start cracking. Focus on those targets fully, make them happen. Focus the energy of the breakup to transform you and forget her for now. Make sure you are devoted to kids, if you got some. It might take time for you, till you distinguish the difference between love and rejection, it gets usually much better after half year first. Once you really know you still love her, you want that relationship, set yourself an internal deadline (something like 6 months or longer; yeah so long) for her to reflect on your changes. If she doesn’t value who you become and doesn’t start to lean back to you by then, let her go. Notice, that you won’t give up, you make a decision to let her go...
I am in the similar shoes. 16y together, 11y married, 3 kids; breakup in April 2023. My deadline is the end of January 2024...
forget her, even if she's back she won't be the person you want. I bet you she has an affair with another guy that's why she doesn't care about you anymore
Hi coach! He broke up on 26/12. Im sure he haas doubts about it.
He still has our photo as his profile picture on FB, and all the other ones. He didnt say to his family what happend.
And i still have our photo as my whatsapp profile picture as well.
Should I remove it?
Coach Lee .. happy new year.. thanks to your advice my ex reached out after 86 days of no contact however he only wished that i am doing well ... I was really happy but i remembered your words.. so i answered politely and did not carry the conversation ... he did not text me back afterwards.. it feels like he is saying goodbye again.
I got encouraged by my ex's recent text, but then I googled his words, "I wish you well.". In the dating world this phrase is similar to a company using a phrase of "future endeavors.". Sadly it's not as encouraging as we'd like.
@@JKNat9004 i wonder why he felt like doing that especially after I started to actively move on ... cruel indeed... now I am struggling to not send him a happy new year text 🙃
@@lazydaisy4453 As someone who has initiated the breakup in the past, I know there's often an urge to say something in respect to the friendship inside the dating relationship. Another way to say what I mean is, the dumper will want to ease their conscience by acknowledging the good about the person they broke up with, that's not always a romantic feeling for the dumper. When the dumpee goes no contact, the dumper will have more space and time to mull over things.
Don't do it. Hard as it is
@@NotJoeBiden_LGBFJB I didn't send him a happy new year text and he didn't either... i new his text wasn't an invitation for me to text him but to be honest I am disheartened... I expected him to text me something on new year 💔
More marriage videos plzzz
Hello couch. Hey I’ve been in no contact for 21 days after a 1 month breakup. Last night I took down all her pictures off my Facebook was that a bad move ? My entire page was full of our trips. We had a good relationship and was engaged sense april but broke up in November. This is her second time she has broken up. Reason we broke up I had said some meanful things. Anyways it’s a tough break up and still want her back I applied no contact. I then deactivated my account after the breakup when I came back after two weeks seen that she was already going to parties. It hurt me and I blocked her. Then see your videos about taking my losses and unblocked her. I did that and two days later she blocked me everywhere in social media. She even had her friends and family delete me from friends. I guess this gone the wrong way.
Hi Alberto, You most likely didn't cause further harm by taking down her pictures from Facebook.
@@RealCoachLee could you please send me a link where I can set up a couch call ? Thank you.
Sounds like at this point, keeping NC is the best option for you. It seems like you have been too available for her, give her the gift of missing you, become a mistery for her not knowing what you are up to. When she is intrigued enough, she will most likely reach out. No Contact is a long term investement that usually pays very well. It's not easy, but is extremely rewarding. Keep that in mind my friend.
Coach, My boyfriend recently broke up with me. I have been in NC. We have been in communication regarding our dog only. My question is, should I reach out on the anniversary of his fathers passing? I want him to know that I am still there for him.
I understand why you want him to "know you're there for him," but the answer is no, you should not. It hurts, but breakup recovery can be a LONG process, and if you reach out, you will be assuring him that you are still there, which will NOT motivate him to move towards you.
@@immuta-bull1722 A tough pill to swallow. :(
Nope. NC is the only option.
How would you feel if he doesn’t respond? NC. Hold on to your power.