Letting Go of Sentimental Items
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- Опубліковано 9 вер 2018
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In this video I talk about our relationship with things - specifically the things that we have a deep emotional connection with. How can we let go of our sentimental items?
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Seriously you all need to stop calling me The Bad Boy of Minimalism. It's really harming my clean reputation. Please do not use the hashtag #badboyofminimalism. Thank you.
Of course. I'll never use #badboyofminimalism hashtag.
Nelson you son of a bitch.
That just made me want to use it
so it's #bbom then?
I prefer your vision than Joshua's one
Before you drop it, I said to my self: "he should drop it as a joke.." and you did :)
No you didn't.
I thought he was gonna say at last:"and I'm throwing it away"
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Since u mentionmed Matt in your video
I became a follower 😊
I'm fun of your channel
Lol I knew he was going to drop it too, yet it still made me laugh. :) It's nice that every video has humour in it.
I’ll be honest, I jumped
I jumped on the first thing, even though I KNEW he was about to drop it. I guess the shock factor can still happen even when you can tell something is about to happen.
Me too!
hahahah same
Sameeee
Why you made me jump Mat??
I used to have three sentimental items from my grandfather: an old car from the 80s, one grey cardigan and a pair of classes.
I was very much attached to those things, especially the car. And I feel it was an unhealthy attachment, manly because I didn't use that car and it was just rotting in the front yard. When my mother told me she was selling the car, I was really angry at her. "How can she sell it? It's important to me and one day I will restore it!", I used to think. But then I realised something: that car would become too much of a burden to me if I decided to keep it and it was not going to be a good memory. After discovering minimalism, I could finally let go of it.
The cardigan was a little easier to let go, because I had already learned that lesson with the car. I forgot it outside one day and my dog tore the shit out of it. I wasn't pissed or angry, just a little sad. It was a fine piece of clothing and I liked to wear it.
And what happened to the glasses, you ask? Nothing. I'm still wearing them every single day. I don't want them to break, of course, I want to wear them forever. But I know that one day they might break, as every material thing does, and if that happens, I will be grateful to have been able worn them for so long.
Thanks for your insights, Matt! Keep up the good work.
Reading about your glasses made me think about a camera my grandfather gave me, which I've been using for years. It's at the point where it's developing glitches and it also weighs too much for me (I have M.E.) but I'm very grateful for the years of use I've gotten from it. Using it made me feel close to him.
i like how that comment is structured. We can see your evolution through the 3 items, your reaction to when you lost or will lose them (anger, then a bit of sadness, and finally gratefulness)
The beauty of the glasses and cardigan? You already have pictures of them in all the photos of you wearing them
Dude that intro 😳😁
I know! My heart dropped. I was so sad.
I once had this Matt D'Avella statue. So glad he's on UA-cam and I see him when he uploads. Maybe I don't have to keep the statue anymore
Akshay Balaji take a picture of it.
Travis Lindsey you can’t comment pictures???
MY STOMACH LITERALLY DROPPED hahahahaha
I took a screenshot rather than liking the video Matt
TimFromWales 😂
Now that's funny!
😂😂
h a h a
Omg he made it to your gallery????
This might be overboard-but I’ve started recognizing the things (sometimes literal trash) that if kept for too long can rack up sentimental value based SOLEY on the fact that I’ve kept it for this long!
Now I recognize the things that could rack up empty sentimental value if I keep it too long (coffee sleeves, little pamphlets...a gah-damn pencil from high school??) and get rid of them before they attach 😂
That vase was way too modern to be from 3 generations ago lol
Grandma was a time traveler! ^^
The Modern movement started at the beginning of the 19th Century. I remember people had that style of vase in the 50's and 60's. Modern and Contemporary are two different concepts.
Unrelated but... does your t-shirt match your eyes color? omg
oh my GOSH you're right!! They match exactly!
It looks fab
Realizing that most sentimental items really wouldn’t be missed was a great way for me to throw them away. That baby blanket? Throw away. The highschool yearbooks? Throw away. College sweaters and clothes? Throw. Away. But there are somethings that i keep. I have a small printed book that i drew and wrote in the 4th grade. I have another small book that i wrote and drew in the 1st grade. But other things such as real books that i used to collect after i read them i donated them all. Even social media things i have decluttered. I guess it also helped that my previus boss was extremely neat and tidy so he kind of discplined me to be neat and tidy. Not just the things on my desk, but the way i wrote emails, the way i organized my emails and whatnot. The photos on my phone, even the way my computer desktop looks like. Clothes are kinda important to me butttt i guess instead of buying trendy clothes, i just look for “timeless” pieces that are way more expensive but fit me and will last a long time. It’s kind of nice being able to shop like that. Plus i don’t have to keep clearing out my closet every year. WOW WHO IS GOING TO READ THIS -_- haha
this 💓
good comment :)
That bowl is way too large for cereal 😂🌿✌
Hey!! So nice to see you here 😄🌿 And you might be right about that hihi. I actually also love BIG mugs for my tea 🍵
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What’s the most minimalist cereal?
No bowl is too large for cereal.
I gave Matt cool points because of that cereal bowl. Growing up, we believed you had to have at least three servings of cereal during one sitting, or your growth would be stunted! Mixing bowls were golden. 🤣#FruitLoops
I don't know if someone mentioned this but there was a spongebob episode that did what you suggest. Spongebob had a bunch of junk stored in his home and decided to take pictures of all of it then ended up with a bunch of pictures all throughout his home. ☺ thought i share that
I notice ur appearance is getting clean n cleaner. Pleasing to just see u and ur lifestyle.
People keep calling me the bad boy of minimalism and it's troubling me. I need to clean my image up. What ever you do please do not use the hashtag #badboyofminimalism. Thank you.
@@mattdavella i see what u did there 😏 lets make it a trend 🎉 #badboyofminimalism ur welcome 😊
YEET #badboyofminimalism
I'm struggling to understand whether he wants us to use the hashtag or not. Help me, please.
Dude, when you dropped that, my heart dropped lol. I'm glad it's not really an important vase! (joke didn't get old) :]
"Finally I can let go of this thing that's just been hanging around my house and cluttering it up."
*takes picture of girlfriend*
Last 2 videos have a humorous what have you that I’m really digging!
Minimalism:
The Caricature- Own less things because less things = good.
The Reality- Figure out the optimal collection of material possessions, and remove the rest.
Truth!
I really appreciate the fact that your videos are never empty of content. Thanks for always bring new information to us. Cheers
the taking photo trick helped me so much when I moved last year. I was able to throw away so many documents and papers that i'll probably never look at again and definitely never need
You mentioned storage, last weekend I cleaned out my storage unit of 5 years and 8 months and terminated my lease!! Giving back the keys and driving out of there knowing I will not have to pay someone to keep my crap was the best feeling ever! All that money I wasted all those years to store my crap! Now my new place is going to stay minimal thanks to people like you, I needed a wake-up call and videos like yours helped a lot! Thank you!
I rewatch your videos more than once because I always take something away from them and they motivate me. You/your videos are aesthetically pleasing and the content holds true value. THANK YOU FOR MAKING VIDEOS! (And I'm totally signing up for Patreon!)
Your eyes are a very interteresting shade of blue I never saw before. I didnt notice that with your glasses.
They are lenses
@@rcsfjo207 Are they? Interesting. Is it like contact lenses or something?
@@gamergrill9629 As far as I know
@@gamergrill9629 As far as I know, yes he uses them
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It gives me a nostalgic vibe when I want to get rid of some sentimental items. But, at the same time exploring "Minimalism". Thanks brother for such a wonderful video.
Great content Matt. I've just recently started getting into your podcasts. And some of the topics are amazingly relatable. Keep it up!
This was really useful. Some of the items I am stuck on, I realized as I was listening, I wouldn't even take a photo of. Loving your channel. Thanks.
I would've watched at least 50+ of your videos Matt, and only just now have I realised I hadn't subscribed.!
I watched your documentary and it was an amazing eye-opener.
In the process of asking 'does this possession give me value' to all my things and it makes the process of getting rid of stuff so much easier.
Thanks for all the content and good vibes you put out there, you're a legend!
You totally got me both times! I gasped! Im new to this and just starting to simplify. I appreciate the balanced views!
your channel has been extremely helpful for me as a person with severe ocd. for me, one of my compulsions is to declutter. to the point where i constantly want to live off of, like, one change of clothes and a toothbrush, even though it would actually have a negative impact on my life. watching your videos is a good reminder and set of guidelines (or lack thereof) for me to keep the things that bring value to me, instead of getting rid of shit just because my brain wants me to. so, thanks man. i appreciate your stuff.
OMG!! My heart aches from that intro!! I was sooo into your story and then boom!! 🙊🙈
Recently got rid of many things I don’t need anymore, some of them I barely wore them. I just call my friends to come and pick them up. I feel light and clean with my minimalistic journey and I’m loving every minute of it.
Just tackled our storage space. Now - on to the rest! This was a good video for me because I have tons of sentimental items. Thank you for sharing 👍🏾
This was a great help. We just emptied out our storage unit today and it's waiting to be tackled by me. I am ready to DIVE in but my kids have made and given me and ugh I remember this day and but these wedding shoes and this camping brochure..... I can't wait to start taking pictures! Thank you
I will be sharing this video with my boyfriend. His mother recently died and he has been sorting through literally boxes and boxes of decades-worth of items she has collected over her 90 years, and he knows he needs to pass some on to her grandchildren, keep some and get rid of most, but he cannot seem to get rid of anything. Ive been on my minimalist journey for several months and have told him how less stressful it is to just have what you need, not so much what you “want”. Thank you for your time doing these videos.
THANK YOU. You have mentioned one specific way that changed my perspective in decluttering my stuff - TAKING PICTURES! yes how can't I ever thought of that? Thanks a lot!
Thanks for all the great content Matt! Really appreciated
Matt! I recently got into minimalism and I got rid of so many things, your yt channel has helped me A LOT. You're the kind of minimalist who is not so extreme, and you make it seem like it's all so easy and simple, love it. The funny thing is that I saw your videos long time ago but now you are my number one UA-camr. Also you are SO funny even tho I'm 10 years younger lmao
Thank you this was so helpful. I’m at the beginning of my minimalism journey and this is what I needed to go through my childhood memory tote!
This was really insightful! I never thought of taking pictures of the rings that matter to me and getting rid of them as I go. Really great!!!
I find your productions GREAT! As funny as quality filming and editing! And also talking about minimalism, congrats! Keep doing this please.
I love this background music. Great content Matt, keep you the good work, it continues to inspire me!
I've started taking pictures of items I wanted out of my physical space earlier this year and I love Todd's method of making an album out of the really special items. Super fun idea!
I have started this, taking pictures of things, and that kept and it has been the BEST piece of advice ever!! just wish I did that earlier with things I got rid of
I love all your videos because they add value to my life! Thank you! I'm inspired to be better!
This helped a lot becei am buried in stuff that has no sentimental value to me but absolutely did to those i inherited it from and I've felt obligated to hang on to. Photos! Brilliant. Bless you.
Thank you for this video, I hate it when people take it to extremes. It is so important to me to have stuff from people I love, and I actually use them and they remind me of them so they bring me joy. I mean, isn't that what mininalism is all about? To make your life better and yourself happier?
One of your best videos! Such wise advice, thanks Matt!
I really needed this. As a person who had just been inspired to follow minimalism, this was a question that was bugging me, and now I have an answer :) thanks!!
I love Your films. Lately I've watched quite a few of Yours productions and I'm very impressed - such a value, such a peace, such a beautiful peace of your work. Stunning and soothing.
Tomorrow is gonna be a photo-day! I'm so gratefull to You.
Also, I regret I just got to know your channel and subscribed, not few years ago.
With regards
Biggest sentimental hoarder
This is a great tip. Why didn't I think of that over so many years I've had trouble getting rid of sentimental things?
Love your lifestyle and your style. I have de-cluttered over a month ago, especially my wardrobe, and have no regrets. Keeping it simple is the easiest thing to keep. 😂
Great tip! Was struggling with this. Your videos are awesome, not only content wise but artistically as well.
Congratulations on hitting 1 million subscribers! Excellent work!
Excellent! Thank you so much for this content! 🤙🏼
I truly love this approach remembering sentimental items.
Good video! Finally fresh and good idea about these things.
Coz every single minimalist is just telling - you don’t use it, get rid of it. And sometimes you just simply don’t want to get rid of things you don’t use.
And photography is a good idea how you can keep the memory
This advice really helped me with getting rid of my old clothes. As I took a picture of every meaningful piece it made some of the weight of letting go, go.
I took photos of my 93 pickup before we sold it. It was my first car and in the 2 years of owning I grew attached to it. But it had alot of problems because the past owner, my sis, does not know how to take care of cars lol. Hurt to let it go but at the end of the day it was for the best and I'm not out their in the street with a wrench every week
I love your videos! I've really been trying to de-clutter lately and this helps a lot.
Please keep uploading helpful videos like this! Subscribed about 3 weeks ago and thanks to youre videos i was able to improve my life in various ways...Greetings from Germany :D
Bruh ur slick af now. U goin to be minimalist fashion guru now?
UGH. I do not have an addictive personality, but your videos/style is something I need. Rock on.
youtube finally requests something really good .they are kind of calming and nice to watch. eventhough your editing and cinematography is held quite simple as expected from a minimalist, it is still entertaining, which amazes me because i normally need some crazy shit to make me laugh.
Still on top of my favorite UA-camrs. Great inspiration. Great way of living Minimalism. Keep going.
You have no idea hoe much i needed this video. Thank you !
Haha that intro. 😄 But yeah I agree, it's important to make a distinction between actual important items, and things that can be let go of. I personally also ALWAYS use the picture tip. It really works. 🌿✌
I think this video filled the “mini heart attack” quota for the day thank you very much
Matt, your videos are taking over my UA-cam feed!
I'm so glad I found your channel!!
This is great advice. I’m taking photos of all my kid’s stuff and then donating it to Goodwill!
I have all the memories stored on my laptop without the physical, material burden. After all, It’s the memory that matters, not the actual physical thing.
I made a big pile of all the things and then took photos before donating.
I dont think it’s healthy to hold onto physical things. They become baggage. That weigh down, physically and mentally.
Great video 😊, love the idea of the photos. Thank you
I love your videos. You are a real video creator, well done!
Whoa, couldn't recognize you at first without the glasses :) Keep up the good work
Good tips!!! Thanks. Funny about the dishes breaking, I actually laughed out loud!
Thankss Matt! 🤍 This is really valuable tip
Sentimental things are what I really struggle with, mostly items given to me by three specific people; I still have regret about the items from those people that I've given away already, so I need to work out how to change this. I don't find taking pictures of them helps unfortunately.
Just found your channel through your getting up before 6am video. Good stuff, looking forward to exploring your work more! x
So, it is Jan 1st and I stumbled upon your channel and I'm so glad that I did because I do wanna make some changes related to what you talk about (:
Happy 2019!
I do feel your videos is giving me a new perspective on Minimalism. I love your content it does help my life and it's fun to see your videos!
This video is the one that I was most excited to get to on my watch list because my biological Mom is a hoarder and I feel like her influences weighed heavily on me and I subconsciously picked up some her habits and reasoning to keep things in my life. On another note, OMG. I was invested in that sentimental story about the vase that you made me physical react when you "dropped" it, second time around with the coffee cup ... yup got me there too. Oh, and I re-winded the video just to hear you say "shit" again :) Great video through and through.
actually loving your sense of humour!
you got me screaming twice when you dropped the mug and vase, sense of humour on point.
Taking pictures of items is genius! I already take pictures of invitations or things in paper form that people give me, so I can throw away the actual paper, but this takes it to a whole other level! ☺️ I’m so glad I saw this video.
Really awesome video!
So fun and frustrating though haha
But really brought me a very clear answer about my questions.
Thank you !✨
I love your Videos! are so relaxing and useful. Thank u Matt😁
I love the idea of taking a photo of the item, also sort of takes the guilt out of getting rid of it, and as Todd said, the giver probably won't even be upset you got rid of their gift, they'll just be happy to meant something to you.
It's hard for me but I've been trying to declutter my life so I love my screensaver because it's a combination of pictures I've taken from my long gone pets, landscapes from my parents village, some selected screenshots from the games I've played so, taking pictures of other kind of things I want to remember is a nice idea that fits perfect for me, thanks!
My late grandmother left me a ton of old jewelry that wasn't my style. I couldn't figure out what to do with it. Finally it hit me that I should have tested it for lead a long time ago. It was a bit pricey (about $3 per swab) but easy to do at home and I'm so glad I did. The vast majority of it had dangerous levels of lead; scary to think I'd had them in my room for so long! I took pictures of those items, pitched them, and kept the rest. Now my home is safer and a lot less cluttered! And I have a reasonable number of items to keep as mementos, instead of being overwhelmed. :)
A few years ago, the "taking a picture"-method was fortunately a great way for me to get rid of all the things that were important to me, more like a "landmark" in my brain-memory-bank than the item itself. I store them actually in a cloudspace and I found out that it is also very handy for congratulation/holiday cards (the cards which were written by people who actually took time to think about a nice text).
Great Video, great advices.
(and yes, I had to laught at the second drop again xD good one)
I just love your videos !!! Funny with valuable information!
I loved this video so much that I took a picture of it! :)
I have been practicing minimalism approach to my lifestyle for two weeks now. I am 29 I have been a compulsive idiot for 15 years, buying unecessary stuff. Now, I an trying to sell all those things. It was hard really hard to take this steps. However, you trully inspired me Matt I hope I saw your videos as early as possible. Anyhow, wish me luck guys😊
You have such a great personality. Great video.
Love your Furniture style!!
Love this so much! Great advice!
Haha, thanks for the video, Matt! Since I've been watching your videos I feel less worried about the things I left behind to become a minimalist. Anxious to see videos of Iceland 😁
Thanks for this video. Sentimental items are what I really struggle with, not helped by times I've gotten rid of things then obsessed over them so much that I've spent hours online trying to find replacements! In our house, when growing up, gifts were very much symbols of love and that's stuck with me - getting rid of sentimental things feels like I'm discarding the love or the person. I'm trying to work on that as I'm really drawn to minimalism. I like stuff but hate the clutter and want space that is calm; and I'm fed up having to hunt for things or buy replacements because I've 'lost' them! I also have chronic health problems and just don't have energy to waste, so having a lot less stuff and more space would make a huge difference. Matt, I hope you write a book about minimalism, that would be awesome.
I like ur content... A LOT!... Keep em coming brother...☺️
i have a little "memory box" in my home, one of those Kallax boxes from Ikea. If something is to big for the box it's not worth holding on to. The box is filled with photographs, postcards, keychains, jewlerry, all kinds of stuff that has memories attached to it. Looking through the box from time to time makes me happy and it compresses the clutter into one tucked away space cube.