That woman of course was rude, but you should have at least brought your daughter outside. Just show some effort to calm her down. Telling people "she is only 1" is no different than 某國人說她只是個孩子.
In the US, there is not a single restaurant in different levels not allow babies or kids. However, people understand the culture kind of know their babies are too small or kids are too young to sit still in certain restaurants. Some restaurants are branded as family restaurants and some are branded as whitecroft restaurants.
@@ben12312066 I don't mind baby crying next to me in a McDonald's. If I am having a business lunch in an upscale restaurant, it is adult's responsibility to deside not to bring their babies to come.
I used to carry my fuzzy baby outside the restaurant and returned after I claimed her down. We could not control how the baby to behave, but we could try our best not to annoy other people.
@@juanlu3958 其實我冇惡意,但佢問我係咪中國人都食狗,我答我係HKger,食狗拉的. communist China 吾止人吃狗.人吃人添.佢問我狗仔名字,我於是玩佢.佢答 I like Chinese food,可以解作喜歡我隻狗仔,或喜歡唐餐,或喜歡食我隻狗仔.我冇咁高道行串番佢,只好傻笑作為下台階
同意你話學校有時小朋友會遇到一些欺淩,如特登行過撞下你,但不同意你教小朋友撞番人，萬一老師看不見你女兒被撞，只看見你女兒撞人,咁就有理說不清。你可要教識囡囡大聲講stop and no , 在這情況下大聲say stop,如小頑皮繼續就告訴老師, 如小朋友自己解決不了問題，家長有時也要向學校投訴, 給小朋友知道父母是站在她那邊支持她, 她並不是孤軍作戰。新移民的小朋友，在學校要認識多些朋友，才不會被孤立,先可以建立到自信心。
You really don’t know Western culture. First, the English woman has her point that she had her privilege to have a quiet and peaceful meal that she paid for. You should hire a babysitter for your baby girl at home and go to have a BD lunch. That’s what Westerners do. Also you are not right to point a knife toward her. That is very impolite I. The eyes of Westerners. You really don’t understand western culture despite having studied in England. You cannot expect Westerners to understand you. After all you are in England should follow their culture. You should apologize and keep quiet.
About that kid's fall, both sides had their point except one side's reaction was blunt. Many years ago, I had a little discussion with a local kindergarten teacher, it was about when to jump in, offer our help. instead of offering physical help, that teacher recommended me asking the kid "'are you ok?" " Do you need my help?" Or "Let me know if you need me." Agree or not, it is a different approach. Wish you success in uk!
Dr, Chiu had made a couple of mistakes. You are a man so you should not make physical contact with other people's children. If it was your wife who helped, there will be no problem. The other issue is when you are in an upscale restaurant, you should not bring small child along. The women was correct in scolding you, I bet other people in the restaurant were annoyed too.
If that woman called my niece/nephew for being “naughty” for that reason, I would sarcastically say: you’re rather naughty picking on a helpless child.
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@tao 2 中角也是不犯仁,但中共戰狼四圍咬人
@tao 2 但是中共殺咁多中角仁,只有歐美肯指責
有人跌倒你扶起佢，錯乜鳩？ 趙博對住啲鬼佬吾好縮，你扶人係你嘅自由，叫佢報警啦
@@lawliman3000 B: 小孩跌倒讓小孩自己爬起來，讓他們學習自己處理困難，往後學會自己保護自己，哭也沒用。 C: 小孩跌倒扶起小孩，保護他們能力未夠時免受傷害。事情本身沒對錯，各有處事方式。有時，知道有問題就已不再是問題，不意識到問題才是問題。
@@cyrusyeungmingfai 重點不是如何教小朋友
善軒老師好! 大家好! 早/午/晚上好!
👍👍支持
如果少數族裔是衝突的起源，你大力還擊不一定每次都能解決，如果你遇到對面是極端種族主義者，你可能會遇到意想不到的災難性效果。如果你有留意英美這邊的本地新聞，你就會發現每一段時間就有一些悲劇源自於這種反擊。如果背景是現場中，大部份人也同意你的道理，對方就有機會因為懼怕群眾壓力讓步，人在外處理這種糾紛這個應該是比較有效的原則。
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good fight back!
self respect!
屋頂塊黑色嘢叫 felt
Looks like discrimination is getting worse just like in Canada and the US
仲攞餐刀😆
Thanks for your sharing! Supoort !
趙博！很同意你說法，我支持你👍👍👍💪💪💪💫💫💫😄😄😄
趙博·贊同你的分析及處理方法·👍🏻👍🏻
想知道單官司打完未？結果如何？
good talk
That woman of course was rude, but you should have at least brought your daughter outside. Just show some effort to calm her down. Telling people "she is only 1" is no different than 某國人說她只是個孩子.
10幾分中仍哭喊之中，有人不耐烦是常情，未有衝突前抱出餐廳待安静始回可避免不快出现
點可能喊十幾分鐘，只有幾次發出聲音
在法國一般不會帶幼童到正式餐廳，寧可請babysister待在家中，假如在餐廳小孩鬧起來，父母會把小孩抱到餐廳外等他安静下來再回去用餐。我想這也算文化差異。
@@ben12312066 Yes, this is the proper way that we should do.
In the US, there is not a single restaurant in different levels not allow babies or kids. However, people understand the culture kind of know their babies are too small or kids are too young to sit still in certain restaurants. Some restaurants are branded as family restaurants and some are branded as whitecroft restaurants.
@@ben12312066 I don't mind baby crying next to me in a McDonald's. If I am having a business lunch in an upscale restaurant, it is adult's responsibility to deside not to bring their babies to come.
If a restaurant has high chairs then fair game to bring young kids. Consider yourself bad luck if someone’s kids are noisy, just like on the plane.
我反覺得是個人期望和為自己的選擇負責任的問題多於文化差異的問題,如對方期望在這餐館吃頓寧靜的午飯,對方自己就首先需為自己嚴選合適的用餐地點,如明知餐廳是會有小朋友在此用餐的話,就需考慮是否仍選擇去這餐廳用膳,而不是要求外在環境去遷就自己或強迫其他人去配合/滿足您個人的期望! 不竟外在很多的環境和因素都不是人能預計或掌控得到的,我們各人自己只可盡量做好自己的部份和為自己的選擇負責任吧了！🙏🙏
之前看過有新聞報導有外國人坐飛機時因她未夠一歲的嬰兒大哭影響到其它乘客，母親立刻站起向週邊的乘客道歉及請大家吃糖，其實母親一早都已預料到baby會影響別人，所以已經帶備好糖果上飛機。所以説one year old並非是理所當然的，做父母的應該抱嬰兒到餐廳外面安撫才是最合適的做法。
退一步是不會海闊天空
I used to carry my fuzzy baby outside the restaurant and returned after I claimed her down. We could not control how the baby to behave, but we could try our best not to annoy other people.
I would do the same.
きのこのやつからシチュー取れるの知ってるかなぁ
youtubemn.com/watch?v=r4cAwV3cAJM
ボウル作ってキノコ病の牛に向かって右クリックでキノコシチュー採れますよ
Some people take their restless child outside for them to vent and get the wiggles out. Usually it was the Dad.
Totally agree! That’s how you can be considerate. I don’t think Mr. Chiu handled the situation in a appropriate way.
是calm her down. 不是claimed her down.
你做得啱👍
支持赵博
I lived in Melbourne, Australia. Feeling the same
趙博，你好。我同意對無理的欺凌不應退縮，不過你在餐廳一事，似乎未必與此有關。睇返咁多人的回應，可能同文化不同有關多D，睇來你的做法有改善的空間。該名女人可能都係有問題，但是之後你用叉向人實在不好，這只好給人很好斗的印象。我不知該名女人是否知道你來自香港，如果是的話，那只會給她一個印象，就是香港人不知規矩，並且喜歡好勇斗狠，然後把這種印象傳開去，這樣對在英的香港人都無好處。希望你在英國繼續努力！
这是文化不同的问题啦，当你话"只是个小孩"，就是话"不管我事" 或 "我不会settle小孩"。这在马来西亚的高端餐厅也一样。除非在平民餐厅又唔同啦!
有細路大哂
我來美國五年，身邊除了血親並沒有亞裔，更沒有華裔，我平時也都跟不同人接觸，去不同地方，怎麼就沒那麼多衝突呢？奇怪。
thanks for sharing
so funny!!
Good sharing
多謝分享，趙博。希望你們一家繼續生活愉快，身體健康 ❤
同意✅不要害怕衝突，學習面對，人生功課。Fight back係保護自己，女孩子更需要學😊
只要不是無中生有的衝突就好，中國領事館最愛叫中國留學生編造這種東西。
香港人成日自以為是, 成日將自已價值觀代入其他人
Gavin and family keeps on moving forward be positive
多謝能說真心話真好!
So sorry to hear about your story, it must be so hard at the time. Very glad you live to tell. Wishing you good luck in the future.
Well said 👍
may be just tell social service .
趙慱，多謝分享
趙博所説的第一個案，同意這是文化差異。第二個個案，在餐館裏小孩子哭鬧，在加拿大這裏，一般都是家長會帶小孩子到餐廳外面安撫，待小孩子安靜後才返回用餐，不致影響其他客人。第三個個案，是你原業主的個人問題。他可能根本沒有買保險。因為保險公司不會拖着客戶不作賠償維修的，屋頂吹走這是很大件事，通常保險會在一兩日內，用木板封住屋頂，稍後就派人重新做一個屋頂。保險公司工會對於賠償維修是有時限的。我自己從事保險行業，是知道這些規例的。
沒有哭鬧，只有少量聲響，剛到餐廳，大家都未有野食
很多人喜歡報喜不報憂 謝謝你客觀地分享真實事例
你曾經講過留在香港的人別心存僥倖，你留在英國也別心存僥倖沒有種族歧視
Eye for an eye is in the old testament. We are all under grace now :)
多謝分享. 加油
趙博的餐廳事件不是岐視就算發生在香港都有這人會不喜歡小朋友嘈. 例如在机上一樣有, 小心用詞. 否則大家便變了玻璃心!
是否歧視當事人感受最清楚
@@cynthia587 一般是「當局者迷」，否則，一方說「是否歧視，當事人感受最清楚」，另一方亦會說「當時小朋友吵鬧的聲音是否干擾其她，她感受最清楚」....
欣賞你，爭取公義👍
本人70歲，女性，來英兩年。我習慣獨居，買了近市中心apartment ，日常獨來獨往。有被騷擾或歧視的經驗，我的結論是因為我係一個人，而且是老女人，找我開心最好不過。青少年較喜歡做這些。我女為此買了個哨子給我。我英文唔好，聽唔明佢哋說乜都有好處。曾見過十幾歲的男童在街欺凌同伴，起腳踢，當時得我一人，我大叫stop ，他們鳥獸散。
居住屋苑沒有香港人，鄰居十分nice。
對外地人不友善到處都有，在香港我有歧視不當行為的大陸人。
❤ thanks for shared it.
Thank you
係嘅，細路仔喺餐廳喊嘅話，一定要抱出面，因為確實非常非常之擾人。趙生如果無做此事，或准備去做，就稍有不當。
Karen 到处都有
多謝你。
趙博士,我對你好失望
公理原則是你不影響別人,別人也不應影響你
你應該解決你女兒聲音問題, 絕對不應用眼神和食具去恐嚇別人
這行為跟大陸人有什麼分別?
要從事件的起點來看,對嗎?
別醜化我們香港人
強國基因😢
每日一like 👍🏻
對這video拍攝有少少建議：背景梳化頂部 猶如一把刀把你個頭分開兩半，視覺上不好看。
支持趙博！
😊你應該要融入英國社會, 下次用英式幽默同個女人講建議佢去墓地用餐一定夠安靜。
白人問我狗仔名字
我答 Chinese Food
佢地反應好快, I like Chinese Food
我還未諗到點回應
@@wanggok 真是厲害，原來罵人可以這麼罵
@@wanggok ??
@@juanlu3958 其實我冇惡意,但佢問我係咪中國人都食狗,我答我係HKger,食狗拉的. communist China 吾止人吃狗.人吃人添.佢問我狗仔名字,我於是玩佢.佢答 I like Chinese food,可以解作喜歡我隻狗仔,或喜歡唐餐,或喜歡食我隻狗仔.我冇咁高道行串番佢,只好傻笑作為下台階
Cursing is a very Chinese style response.
Thank you very much for sharing! Much appreciated!
舉餐刀個下正🤣👏
如果換了是一個日本人家庭，或許他們會默默鞠躬，然後離場，找家「同聲同氣」的日本料理，輕鬆地享受。何必在寄人籬下（即移民）的大環境下，與白人爭論？出街食飯沒有什麼大不了，有需要「據理力爭」嗎？😊 據理力爭，不應是為意氣之爭！！在外吃飯，只是 one-off （一次過）的場面，無庸大動肝火😊。
同意你話學校有時小朋友會遇到一些欺淩,如特登行過撞下你,但不同意你教小朋友撞番人，萬一老師看不見你女兒被撞，只看見你女兒撞人,咁就有理說不清。你可要教識囡囡大聲講stop and no , 在這情況下大聲say stop,如小頑皮繼續就告訴老師, 如小朋友自己解決不了問題，家長有時也要向學校投訴, 給小朋友知道父母是站在她那邊支持她, 她並不是孤軍作戰。新移民的小朋友，在學校要認識多些朋友，才不會被孤立,先可以建立到自信心。
英國有老佛爺咩？
多謝！You are Great Dad & Good Husband 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
趙博, 😀😀
在西方文化， 如果小孩子在餐館裏哭鬧，一般都是家長帶小孩子到餐廳外面安撫，待小孩子安靜後才返回用餐，不致影響其他客人. 如果家長不及時處理自己小孩子的哭鬧, 會被視作非常自私.
加油 💪💪
無影響到人，唔嘈，其他人仲同我細女玩，係果個女人問題
@@gctalk 趙博, 😀😀
講明白一D, 在西方文化，小孩子在餐廳喊, 就會影響到其他客人;
當然，不同嘅人會有不同嘅回應方法;
果個女人D態度係惡劣;
其他人同你細女玩都係因為唔想聽到佢喊, 所以逗她開心;
亦都係一種禮貌嘅方法同你講 '爸爸，你個女喊呀';
他們都期望你帶你細女到餐廳外面安撫;
侍應想要賺所有客人嘅貼士, 所以唔會得罪任何一方, 唔會涉及呢件事;
就係因為太麻煩, 太不方便, 所以西方家長唔帶太细的孩子去餐廳;
在西方文化生活, 要小心, 更敏感, 照顧其他人的感受;
香港唔同, 在香港太嘈太快太忙, 沒有人會花太多時間去觀察同關心別人的感受;
加油 💪💪
西方文化係講緊邊個地方？住左倫敦7年，未見個有家長咁做
@@s021126 多數五眼國家嘅人喺法國餐廳或意大利餐廳都會咁做;
係一種非常基本嘅禮貌;
如果你住左倫敦7年, 未見個有家長咁做, 可能是因為你沒有小孩子，所以你沒注意到;
@@sysopr 多謝你既解釋
我既意思係我見過好多local 既父母都係就咁由得佢地既仔女嘈吵同食到D野通地都係。
咁可能係我無去過D高價位既餐廳啦。。。
感謝分享🙏🏻
多謝趙先生分享
You really don’t know Western culture. First, the English woman has her point that she had her privilege to have a quiet and peaceful meal that she paid for. You should hire a babysitter for your baby girl at home and go to have a BD lunch. That’s what Westerners do. Also you are not right to point a knife toward her. That is very impolite I. The eyes of Westerners. You really don’t understand western culture despite having studied in England. You cannot expect Westerners to understand you. After all you are in England should follow their culture. You should apologize and keep quiet.
支持趙博，我都會這樣做！
Yes, need to fight back if circumstances is possible. This is the way I taught my children
About that kid's fall, both sides had their point except one side's reaction was blunt.
Many years ago, I had a little discussion with a local kindergarten teacher, it was about when to jump in, offer our help. instead of offering physical help, that teacher recommended me asking the kid "'are you ok?" " Do you need my help?" Or "Let me know if you need me."
Agree or not, it is a different approach.
Wish you success in uk!
You understand the western way of life. You must have lived in the western world for long time.
I agree with your view on how to handle bullies. 👍
Dr, Chiu had made a couple of mistakes. You are a man so you should not make physical contact with other people's children. If it was your wife who helped, there will be no problem. The other issue is when you are in an upscale restaurant, you should not bring small child along. The women was correct in scolding you, I bet other people in the restaurant were annoyed too.
亞洲小朋友，就係怕事，好易被人蝦，原因各半，唔好只怪人地蝦，亦要責之於己，怕事退縮，唔去企硬，只會令問題更加嚴重
支持趙博教小朋友方法
很喜歡有這樣的一個爸爸，為你的小朋友感恩!🤗😘
寄人屋簷下，那可不低頭?文雅稱移民，俗稱走難!今年交電費煤氣費都交窮你!
那位女士應該是「指駡你」而不是你的女兒, 作為父母的已習慣自己小朋友的扭計方式及程度, 但沒必要讓旁人suffer.
多年前, 有對父母聲受到半島酒店歧視, 不接待他們的手推車上的小孩, 在網上聲討半島酒店, 最終得到大量負評, 他們弄到要躹躬道歉的地步。
入門問禁, 切記！
我都會好似你咁！做好自己但唔可以忍受唔合理嘅事！支持你！💪🏻
英美澳加， 個人認為加拿大是對不同種族最包容國家。個人經驗：外國人尊重據理力爭對手。
其實係香港，一般有禮貌即家長，見到自己子女騷擾到別人，不理大騒擾或小騷擾，都應先帶走或控制，唔係有人嘈你又嘈就冇問題，係個人修養問題，也是家教的問題。過往對趙博都好尊重，但聽完呢件事就有啲失望，幫親不幫理，而且這不過係帶個女出一出去餐廳，哄完女就沒事的小事。
博士今次似蝗虫，骚擾其他人之后重要發爛渣？
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非常認同趙博的分享
做好自己，先禮後兵，審時度勢，據理力爭👍👍👍👍
趙博啱嘅👍👍👍①全世界任何地方都有各種各樣嘅歧視，歧視會永恆存在於人類當中。有人視而不見，係扮嘢，扮正確。②人與人之間係一定會互相歧視嘅，只係有各種各樣嘅唔同，而唔會無。但係作為一個文明人，歧視人唔可以歧視到出面，譬如使用惡言惡語、惡形惡相。③作為客人（即移民）要盡量融入當地文化，作為主人，亦應該盡量忍讓一下客人（即移民），要互相理解，有衝突應該坦誠交換意見，咁樣係可以接受嘅。但如果出現武力衝突，被襲擊的一方一定要做出正確嘅回應（包括法律、理論抗爭與動作防衛。可以合法買鎗嘅話，我一定會買）。我“接受”歧視，我經常去日本，見到好多大陸人嘅行為（以下省略一萬字）。我嘅尊容係似乜？大家心照，咁樣之下，日本人歧視華人面孔嘅人（如我）係完全合情合理，我會體諒，但日本人係唔會發出面嘅，而且禮貌甚好，當佢扮嘢，都令人感動。人唔好太過扮正確正義，我哋香港人都歧視南亞人，但香港人又算好，我未見過香港人當面侮辱南亞人。
支持、非常好的分享本人都很認同趙博的回應方式。
非常同意趙博， 你愛家人，更❤️正義公理👍🎉
個女跌傾，其實很多鬼佬都會下意識去扶起來，趙生遇到的是個別極端例子，我覺得沒必要檢討😂
加油！！！！支持！！！
其實知道個女嘅schedule，點解要喺佢瞓覺嘅時候帶佢出去呢？小朋友喺一個陌生嘅地方係好難入睡所以會更加扭計呢點我諗做父母嘅應該要明白，有時為咗小朋友係要作出某一些犧牲。人哋俾錢嚟餐廳食嘢亦冇諗到會遇到呢啲情況，顧及其他人感受係最基本嘅禮貌，所以抱小朋友出去等佢瞓着再入嚟，件事就已經解決咗!
If that woman called my niece/nephew for being “naughty” for that reason, I would sarcastically say: you’re rather naughty picking on a helpless child.
白人叫孩子是 honey, 我向他們說我叫孩子是 stingy pig.我向他們解釋後都拍手叫好
我有帶小朋友去高級餐廳用餐的權利，待應亦因此有準備，即係餐廳係歡迎小朋友，怪責父母係無道理。 有次搭長途飛機遇到小朋友，嘈足幾乎全程，都埋怨過點解要帶初生嬰兒搭飛機，其實對初生嬰兒都幾危險，唯有下次醒水，坐機尾遠離Bulkhead位置。
Noise Cancelling headset, 咩都聽唔到。
@@江邵酩 best solution 👍
I need to stay at least 3-4 rows away from bulkhead.
趙生，餐廳個單擺明係你吳啱，請反省！
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加油！😀
希望你們一家人移民英國,每天都是開開心心!健康平安~😊
趙博好，祝你們一家人在英國健康愉快❤
Sharing stories living overseas. Priceless. 有意思 👍。 Thanks Dr. Chiu 🫡🫡🫡
很好❤加油
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不懂身教，惨惨惨
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