We hope this video is helpful to someone looking at fostering. Feel free to ask any questions below or reach out to us through our website if you have questions. We love hearing from you! Thanks for watching!!!❤️
This was very good information. I was in foster care when I was younger and now as an adult I am considering it. Very good info! Proud of the both of you!
I’m a foster parent who also adopted. One of the saddest days was on a Christmas Eve biological family visit day. My little girl was all dressed up and ready to see her bio mom and she never showed. She came back from that visit devastated. We cried together. I’m so glad she’s now a permanent part of our family . The journey can be difficult but it is worth it.
Oh no, that would be horrible devastating! We had some similar situations when biological mom would not show to meetings. We had to answer a lot of questions and really didn’t know why she wasn’t showing. It was so hard to see the pain in our kids eyes and hearts. You are so correct, the journey is difficult but definitely worth it. 🤗❤️
It's not all ways the parent's fault if you seen the stuff we seen done by the organization to the biological parents your jaw would drop we seen them tell the bio parents one access date knowing quite well it was the day after parent turns up no one there then the carer turns up the next day mothers not there of cause she is the worst person in the world for not showing up for her children which she did, and at the end of the day you can take them on permanent but there still not your child
Hi Farmer2492, yes the system has a lot of problems and we saw a lot of issues while we were fostering. Yes, we even ran into the wrong dates and times given. One of the best things we found while fostering was to be as helpful and loving to the biological parents as we could. We ran into situation where we were the horrible bad people trying to take there kids away, to parents who realized we were there to support and help both the child and the parents. When we started fostering our main objective was reunification with the biological parents, during the time we had a child in our home we strived to get that child everything possible because some times we did not know how much time they would be with us. Yes, there are major problems in every system but our goal is to educate and encourage those who are scared to foster, maybe due to this exact situation you are talking about. Thank you for bring this to light so that other foster parents will be careful of these situations that may arise. Thank you!❤️
@@Zero2FiveFamily i hv a friend who really is great w kids n thinks she likely cant pass the bk grnd check.. Do u kn if they would accept a foster parent who was indicted for a minor felony but it was dismissed but still on her record? Hers was a non violent non drug related thing.
I’m sorry I don’t know the exact answer, I would suggest talking to your local children’s division and they would be able to give you an exact answer.❤️
I grew up in foster care & group homes, over 50 placements all together. The best was when you got a foster family who took you out to pick out your own comforter set & sheets and maybe curtains. Just to make it your room. A lot of times you can get purchase orders from dhs for things like that. As well as clothes, shoes, carseats. Don’t be afraid to ask! They are legally our guardian and i used to call mine all the time when i needed things lol. Its sad my dhs case worker was the only person i steadily had in my life. She was really good to me and i was one of her first cases so she loved me! I was more attatched to her as a kid than she would ever know.❤️
Jenessa, thank you so much for sharing a part of your story with us. It helps us understand what you have gone through and how we can become better foster parents. It brings me to tears thinking you were in over 50 different homes.😢. So glad you had a caseworker that cared so much! Thanks for sharing!🤗❤️
I heard it just takes one significant person/adult in a child's life (to make a difference). Sounds like you had your worker for that! I'm glad you survived and I hope you have happiness in your life!❤
I myself used to be a foster kid, and want to one day become a foster parent, because my days in foster care were some of the most stable and safe i ever had in my life, and i want to give that feeling of safety to other kids in situation like mine. Foster families play such a huge role in a child's life it's hard to imagine unless you've experienced it. It can completely change a persons future. A good foster family can save a child, and even if it's for a short while, it goes a really long way, and a child will never forget a truly great foster family. That being said, becoming a foster parent is still far off for me, since i don't plan on getting kids before I'm financially able to and have created a stable environment for a family. The most important part of raising kids is to know when you're truly able to do so properly.
Henkka Henrik thank you for sharing! I love hearing that you had a great foster experience. I hope some day when you are ready you are able to give the same to a foster child, it’s such a blessing. It comes with its struggles too but it’s so worth it. ❤️🤗
Meanwhile, you might look into training as a CASA if that program exists locally and you have the time. Unlike foster care, which requires certain characteristics of your physical home, worklife and financial situation, being a volunteer CASA mainly involves time for the initial training of ~30 hours and the additional hours of continuing education each year, much of which can be accessed online, and then the time each month to visit the child or sibling group in your one assigned case. As someone who has wanted since childhood to grow up to adopt children from the foster care system, but who has for various reasons not been in a position to move forward on it, I found it a very rewarding way to help children in care. It also was a good fit for my elderly mother, who definitely wouldn't be in a position to foster but has made a great advocate.
i am 18 years old and i have always been very passionate about being a foster parent in the future...it’s something i have thought long and hard about and something i feel so very strongly passionate towards. i know i’m young but i feel that it is very important for me to educate myself as much as possible and i thank you very much for this video it gives me a better understanding of what i am so passionate about thank you guys for your amazing work❤️
Brooke, that is awesome! 🙌. Just cause you are young, don’t let that stop you from pursuing what you are passionate about. You are definitely on the right track learning as much as possible, but some things you will just learn once you have foster children. Each case and child is different so sometimes you have to adjust to meet those needs. Love your passion and desire to grow as much as possible before fostering. Your going to be an amazing parent!🤗❤️
im 16 and ever since i was like 8 ive wanted to adopt 1 or 2 sibling groups because big families are awesome, its cheaper to adopt a sibling group, and most importantly because the siblings are already comfortable with each other and have a bond already which will make them feel more safe and happy. My big fear though is how i would deal with adopting kids being gay. Idk if i would be married or not when adopting. My grandmother is 73 in a few weeks, so i want to have kids as soon as possible so that she can see my kids grow. I loved my great grandmother and want my kids to experience that too.
I appreciate you bringing up - "having them leave, with more than they came with" - I love this philosophy behind foster care! Taking whatever the child is bringing in - a dirty backpack(or backpack full of emotions!) and loving & caring for the child, where when the child leaves & leaves with more than they arrived with. What a great attitude - thank you for sharing!
Yes, they always went home with way more than they came with. It was always a sad day for us when they would leave, never knowing if we would ever see them again. But we knew we did everything possible to make them feel loved and cared for. They will always have a piece of our heart. Thanks so much for watching!🤗❤️
I can feel that the kids in your home leave with a great deal of items that will help them in life but more than that they leave with life skills that will aid them for a life time. This video really inspired me.
Ever since I was 14 I wanted to be a foster parent, I had no true idea what it was gonna be like though, then I got put in foster care at 16, and I’ll tell you, there’s a huge weight that most foster care children carry with them, I’m 18 and still struggling. But I know I can use my experience to help other foster kids and connect to them more. I’m kind of thankful and now know what can come with a child with trauma: Past drug use, tantrums, isolation, paranoia, outburst, ect. I even came into foster care with some of these problems, there was times I felt the whole world was against me and I said some things to my 2nd foster mother I regret. The main problem a lot of foster children face is usually from their own mind, we never know when or if we have to move again, we don’t know if these families even want us and we don’t know what can make them hate us, one second we can be very close and the next we did something wrong and they don’t want us, sometimes it comes straight out of the blue, a phone call from a caseworker telling us to pack up because we have to move the next morning. My first home had me removed since I refused to clean up a strangers puke and I yelled at the daughter for cursing at me when I had to use the bathroom, my caseworker knew it wasn’t my fault since I put in multiple complaints with the family before in the first month but I still blamed myself thinking I shouldn’t have been too prideful, I was surprised when I heard I was getting removed, not from the complaints but from me yelling at someone for calling me names, after all the things they did, the racist things they said, the things they did to the other foster kids, I was the one who was punished and they are still parents, it made me not trust foster parents. It’s also hard to pick your whole life up and move into a place you don’t know with strangers you don’t know. I just want to let some possible foster parents know this too since I’ve talked to a couple of foster kids that do the same and you might not know: A lot of older foster children will try to be their very best in fear that they will have to move, it becomes a problem later on because it starts to get exhausting and our mental health continues to go down hill, then we start to isolate, self criticize, and self sabotage. Not all foster kids do it but a good amount do. I know it won’t be easy but I want to be a foster parent and help these children, and let them know they are safe, loved, and stable. Thank you for the video
Hi Millie May, thank you so much for sharing part of your story. I’m sorry for the things you have gone through, I really wish no child would ever have to go through those experiences. I believe you will make an amazing foster parent and you will be a major benefit to many children in the foster system. Your experiences as bad as they were will help you connect to others going through similar situations. It hurts my heart as I read your story and think about the trauma you had to go through. 😢. Thank you again for reaching out and sharing. 🤗❤️
My fiancé and I are looking into fostering and this comment has given me a huge insight into the mind of a foster child. The last thing I want is for them to fear my judgment of them! Good lord, I’m a hot mess… I was a street kid and then a model, survived DV and multiple SA, subsequent addictions and came through it all just by the skin of my teeth and all I want to do with this newfound stability is share it with anyone else who is going through that hellish cyclone of terror ESPECIALLY a child. I want them to know that I don’t expect anything of them except to try to heal, whatever that means to them.
Jasper Jasper yes that is so true! We just couldn’t pin point the reason this foster child was so anger or sad 😢 The hard part was that the child was non-verbal and could not tell us what was wrong, which made it so tough. 👍❤️
This is incredible! I choked up when you guys talked about the buzzer on the door and the safety and security that it offers them. That's SO important for them to see what a safe environment looks like - especially children who has been in an abusive home.
Thank you!! That was one of our goals while we had foster kids was to try to make them feel safe and secure at our home. You just never know exactly what a child has gone through. Thanks for watching!🤗❤️
The WORST PART: when they send them back to that situation, and you KNOW that bio family does not have it together, and the neglect and abuse will continue.
@@kristiechambers917 As a ward of the state Im recommending you know that we are /were broken.. We have a score to settle...and many of us have nothing to lose... Like befriending a cancerous wolf... Can go either way.. Be ready.
@@ebrakeramires339 thank you I was in a foster home for a few weeks it sucked so I want to say I understand but I Really don't I really just want to help a child who needs it I know the system is flawed and I know alot of foster homes are only in it for a paycheck abs alot of kids are harmed in the foster system and I just want to make sure I can try to prevent that for a child/ren
THANK YOU! When you say they come with nothing, this is absolutely a possibility. While our first placement came with a huge duffel bag of clothes and toys, we had no clue that our infant (who we picked up at the hospital) would not even have a onesie! Thank goodness the emergency social worker at the hospital had one in her bag. Please spread the word....bring an outfit to the hospital to pick up your sweet baby. We felt like such losers :-(
Oh my goodness Jennifer, I know exactly how you feel! We were so unprepared for our first placement, if it hadn't been for the backpack they came with donated by an organization called Bundles of Hope, I don't know what we would have done! LOL! This is such great advice and also a great way for people to support foster and adoptive parents. Keep in touch! We love connecting with other foster parents and sharing advice! :)
I am a Japanese daddy, and thinking about to be a foster parent. Thank you very much for sharing this helpful video because in Japan no experience is shared by foster parents via UA-cam.
You guys are amazing for fostering. Can't imagine how traumatic family visits can get for these children and how it affects your relationship with them after the family members leave.
Life with Sam and Tiff yes our first placement really struggled with the visits. They only were with us for about a month and went to live with their grandparents and the rest of their siblings. I can’t imagine what they were going through they were both nonverbal so it was hard to know what exactly they needed and were going through.
I am guardian to a 16yr old. He visits his mom & still has behavior issues when he comes home from a visit. He's been with me 4yrs. Some kids will always struggle.
Yes and sadly a lot of the times they will Stop visits claiming kids are exhibiting behaviors after the visits. But Ofcourse they are they have feelings. Its very confusing to see your parents and not be going home with them. Kids handle emotions differently Ofcourse they are upset, i would be more worried if they were not upset.
I just happened to watch a program on children being abandoned or given away and it broke my heart. I wish I had the stamina and room to foster children because they would get love and attention May you two be blessed for all you do for these children coming in and out of your homes. Big Kudos to you both.
Awe, thank you Espie Espino, it breaks our heart knowing what some kids have gone through and do go through. There are so many ways to get involved and help even if your unable to foster. Fostering is tough but so rewarding when your making a difference in those kiddos lives and give them love and security when they need it the most. 🤗❤️
Loving the channel! Just found it while researching! I am a single 23 y/o from Nebraska with the calling for foster care! Thanks so much for sharing your experiences!
Ali Mae Wilson that’s awesome!! So glad you found our channel. What part of Nebraska are you from, Jared grew up in Nebraska. Love 💕 that you have a calling for foster care, let us know if you have questions or can help in any way.😁❤️
That is so awesome! Let us know if there is anything we can do to help or if you have any questions. Love hearing you take that first step and listening to what God has told you. 😊❤️👍
This was a great video! As a former social worker everything stated was right on target. I think understanding the time commitment is critical (ie: therapy appts, case management appt, visitations, Dr appts)
Hi Decla Green, I’m so sorry, I have heard stories of that happening. I can’t imagine what you have faced and pray for those going through similar situations right now. We will always fight for those in foster care and strive to build relationships with biological parents to help in anyway possible. Thanks for reaching out!🤗❤️
I’m so glad we discovered your channel! We are also a family grown through adoption. We have three children adopted from orphanages in Ukraine, one child adopted from U.S. foster care, and we’re not done growing yet. We’re enjoying get caught up on your past videos.
I heard you mention the door buzzer and was immediately alarmed but holy crow, what an amazing way to work it into both favors!! You guys are rocking it and I’ve been teetering on foster care for such a long time, this video has really helped so thank you!
So glad it was helpful, yes we didn’t know how to stop the wondering around the house and scaring the snot out of us in the middle of the night and then we came up with the alarm idea. We then realized it could make them feel secure too, it worked both ways. Fostering is tough but so worth it.😁❤️
My niece was Foster Mother Like your experience, she had a 6 year old and she eould get up in tje middle of the night and wonder around the house. My niece placed an alarm on her door so she'd know if she was out of her room. The case worker told her to take the alarm off the door. Telling her that a child should never feel as though their in jail, not free to walk around her home. I believe the 6 year old knew how to work that social worker. Keep in mind that she started to foster this 6 year old and then adopted her. The alarm issue came up when the adoption had already went through. She already had her for 2 years and they were still following up.on.the case. I believe it may have been due to other siblings in the situation.
Foster mama of 3 (relative) and bio mama to 1. This was perfect! I am shocked at how few fostering info videos there are and there are no real authentic ones for relative placements. 😭
Thank you, that means a lot. We hope and pray that others will see our family and desire to give other children a permanent loving and caring home. Thanks so much for watching and the support! 🤗❤️
I'm 64 my wife and I live on a farm and have been exploring sharing some love, and our house with children, I raised my son's and they are both unmarried, I was hoping for grandkids sooner, in my heart a home is just not the same without hearing kids laugh and play, videos like this steer us in the right direction to going ahead and giving a kid a stable environment, Thanks
That’s awesome, that sounds exactly like our kid’s previous foster family. They wanted grandkids so bad, so they said if their kids don’t give them grandkids by a certain time they would begin fostering so they could have grandkids in their home. So that’s what they did, they are such a blessing to us and the kids. The kids now consider them grandparents and we visit them quite often, we couldn’t ask for a better situation.🤗❤️
My name is Eva. I’m 25 years old and I just closed on my first home. I am starting to get settled in and I would love to foster a child. I used to volunteer for an orphanage when I was younger and there was a little boy named jamie who wanted me to adopt him but I was only 15 years old then. It was heartbreaking having to explain to him why I couldn’t. Ever since I always knew I wanted to adopt. I don’t make a lot of money at the moment, but I make enough to sustain my home. Do you guys think I could be a potential foster parent?
Most Definitely you could be a Foster Parent!!!!👍🙌👏❤️. What an amazing story you have! Congrats on the new home!🥳 🎉 Let us know if we could be of any help or any questions we could maybe answer.🤗❤️
do it! kids need to be adopted or fostered. the sooner you take them out of their bad situation the sooner that they will recover. idk what im trying to say but you get what i mean haha good luck on your journey and good luck with your job!
@Bland Cook’n that’s so awesome!!! You’ll do amazing! We’ll be praying for you this week, that you won’t be nervous and for the foster kid/children. I remember being right where you probably are, reach out to others and don’t hesitate to ask for help especially if it’s your first placement. Feel free to reach out to us anytime too. 🤗❤️🙏
I am seriously considering becoming a foster parent. Its something I have always wanted to do, even when I was growing up. I may have some strange questions lol Its very easy to see how genuine you and your husband are. This is the first video of yours I am seeing and already feel comfortable in asking any type of question. So, as a first time Foster parent, how can you prepare clothing if you do not know the age and gender ahead of time? Have you felt as though your case worker or “the system” took advantage of you or put too much on you or was overly judgmental towards you for any reason?
Hi Susan, we love that you feel comfortable asking us any question and ask away. We still are learning and there’s a lot we don’t know and ask others ourselves. So we were so unprepared when we first started we had nothing and then our first placement came and the foster children’s caseworker told us to leave the child’s possession outside due to where they had come from.😬. We actually left their stuff in a trash bag in the garage until the day they went to live with relatives. We had nothing for them, thank goodness the caseworker gave us a backpack from a ministry which helped us get them cleaned up for the first night so I could run to Walmart to get some clothes. We knew right then we were going to build a stash of clothes, boys and girls, infant to 10 yr old sizes. So we started hunted nice clothes down at gentle used stores and Goodwill(for some reason our Goodwill gets brand new clothes from department store and they are awesome, I’ve never found one as nice as the one locally. So we spent maybe $200-$300 on clothes and lots of thrift stores to have a nice assortment of clothes for any child we would foster, we always sent them home with a nice stash of good clothes, too 😁. Plus we kind of enjoyed the hunt, finding name brand, new looking clothes for $2-$3 bucks each, it’s a good feeling.❤️
Susan, the second part of your question, we did at times but we strived to focus on the child and helping them out as much as possible while they were in our care. We had lots of unique situations and challenges, but we found there are lots of resources to help, you may just have to ask and do some searching. We also have some very close friends who foster and adopted and helped us tremendously when we struggled. One, good example again was our first placement, we were not prepared!😳. Both kids where 3&4 and non-verbal and several other thing going on. That was extremely tough for us, thank goodness we stuck with fostering. Otherwise we would of had our kids!🤗❤️. Thanks so much for the questions, love them!👍
@@Zero2FiveFamily I LOVE thrift and bargain shopping!!! I have a slogan I made up....the less you spend, the more you get! Hehe Thanks for your replies and sharing your experiences!!!
I just connected with a county social worker and will be looking into being a foster parent here in California. Thank you so very much for your video! All the best to you and your kids.
You two are kind and loving people ❤️ who make this world a better place. Thank you for all that you do. (It's good to know there are people like you willing to help children in need)
Thank you so much. That means a lot! We still feel like we could improve a lot, our goal is to make our videos encouraging and informational and that the quality does not cause someone to not want to watch! Thanks for watch!🤗❤️
Very helpful video. As a family, we're praying to Foster to Adopt. This helped with a little bit of anxiety I might have had. Will be following! God Bless!
TheBalcony Farms 🙌🙌🙌 We will pray this week for your family. I know the anxiety of the decision to foster and adopt. We just had to turn it over to God and trust Him which was hard for me. Let us know how it goes and if there is any way we can help we would love too. 🤗❤️
Love your video!! House inspection was done last week, I'm just waiting for the 1st placement, very nervous on this journey. Greetings from California.
It's so scary but so wonderful! Congratulations and please keep us posted on your progress. If there is anything we can do for you, don't hesitate to holler! ❤️
Thank you so much or making this video! The buzzer and art projects are great ideas. Safety is the best gift you can provide for a child in these situations.
TastemyAtrocity thank you! 😊. The kids love the art projects, hoping to make new art pieces for their rooms soon. Yes, safety and security. We tried to always let them know what we were going to do and not surprise them at first with things. It seemed to help with them trusting us and a sense of security knowing our routine. Thanks for watching!🤗❤️
Hi Kimberly, some how I missed your comment, I’m sorry! Thank you, we aren’t perfect but trying to do our best at providing a loving, caring, secure home for our kids, all while having fun.🤗❤️
That is so awesome!!!🤗🙌. Love hear when other take the steps to foster a child or children. It was definitely one of the best decisions we have made. I hope you will feel the same way. It will be tough at times but hang in there, you will make a huge difference in that child’s life. Thanks for watching!😁❤️
My brother and sister in law are finishing their meetings/traning and will be approved to foster right away, I will share this with them, I'm sure a lot of this is the same as Canada, maybe not the Medicade part
Jesse Boulter that’s awesome, love hearing when others are taken the step to foster. It’s scary but so worth it. Yes, not sure on how the adoption process works and what’s covered in Canada.😁👍
Such an important video, and such sweet And kind people, pretty selfless to care, not only about the children but also to care enough about children to be frank about the duties, expectations and emotional involvement the other possible foster parents can expect.. great job guys , your hero’s for sure, nice job 👍
Oh, thank you so much! This means a lot to us. We are so driven to help and encourage others in foster care. Sometimes I think there is just no way to be completely prepared for foster care but we want to help as much as we can! Thanks so much for your involvement in the foster system! It is truly a labor of love, determination, and boldness! ❤️
So awesome!! So glad we could help. We actually have several friends that are working on their home study right now too. They had quite a few delays due to COVID but I think they are just about completed all their classes and home study. Let us know how everything goes, we love hearing others stories. Thanks for reaching out!🤗❤️
This makes my heart so happy Sonya!! We always tell the kids not to think they can't help just because they're young and that the best thing they can do right now is to show love to the kids they meet who are in foster care. ❤️ You are amazing! Please keep us posted and let us know if there is anything we can do for you!!
Great video! I just finished foster care classes in Cleveland, OH. I am excited to begin this journey. The information about the clothes was crucial. Thank you
My experience was horrific. My grandchild taken from my daughter, I was out of State. Long story short, they made me suffer 10 months thru visits and possibly him being adopted away. Thank God the judge returned him to me for my faithfulness at visits and court. Now I am a foster mom to his brother, also my grandchild. Is tough
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. It would definitely be tough going through that with family and the possibility of him being adopted. Your amazing for taking in and raising your grandkids!🤗❤️
My fiance and I just started the classes to become foster parents and we are both excited and overwhelmed. I guess our biggest apprehension is how to make it work with us both working 8-5 jobs and that we are starting with nothing besides a full size bed. We have never had children so we don't have anything for them. We will for sure start going to threft stores to stock up.
Zoe, that’s awesome!!!👏🙌👍. That sounds exactly how we started out, we had nothing and slowly made changes as we started fostering. We started off with a couple twin beds and then got a bunk bed and then another and another that way we could rearrange to make everyone comfortable and fit best in our small home. It’s definitely a struggle when your both working the best thing we found was to split up and not both go to everything together that way we could save our time off and not use both our days off for the same thing. It was hard for us to do because we wanted to go to everything together but knew this would be best if we had more things come up. Normally, we would both go to the first court meeting of our foster kids, so the family and judge knew we were there to support the kiddos. Then we would normally, just both go to the really important meetings and court hearings. It’s definitely overwhelming, exciting, fun, sad, frustrating, and really we experienced almost every emotion while fostering. You’ll do amazing and I know you’ll find a way to make it work while both working. Thank you for wanting to make a difference in those children’s lives!🤗❤️
One of you will need a flexible work schedule. What I experienced was a huge time commitment in doctor, dentist, therapist, family visitation, IEP meetings and numerous other needs my fosters came with. In the long term placements you eventually get all the catch up work done and life becomes less hectic, but understand the first 6 months can be overwhelming.
As a ward of the state Im recommending you know that we are /were broken.. We have a score to settle...and many of us have nothing to lose... Like befriending a cancerous wolf... Can go either way.. Be ready.
One thing I just learned from your video also is that it seems like being nervous is completely normal. Even though you know you’re doing the right thing and being a huge blessing to these children, it’s normal to feel a little nervous. 😬😌
Yes, we were definitely nervous and a little under prepared! 😬. It’s perfectly normal, there is generally quite a bit unknown and everything is new for the foster family and the foster kids which leads to the nervousness. Just remember there are lots of people out there willing to help and want to help you out. Our caseworkers, friends, and family helped us out tremendously which helped with the nervousness too.🤗❤️
Thank you so much! I absolutely love my Nebraska hat, I’ve been a Husker fan since I was 12, might caused a little tension in my house since my dad worked for the University of Oklahoma!😂
Regarding family visitation and post-visitation behavior, the parents are not supposed to discuss any specifics of the case with the children, and are especially not supposed to make promises to the children around the case. If the visitations are supervised, particularly by the caseworker or a professional visitation supervisor, they can often nip this in the bud. But most visitations are not so closely watched--they are either monitored (i.e., supervisor or caseworker within earshot but not watching all that closely) or unsupervised, or the supervisor may be an approved relative, friend, or someone else who is new to the process. What often happens is that the parent may make statements about how soon the child will be able to return back home, may blame the child for the removal, or may talk down the caseworker, the child welfare department, or the foster parents during the visit. This will only serve to make the child angrier, more anxious, and less compliant. It can be heartbreaking when this happens.
It’s sad to think of the child reacting so much to family visits. Thank you for the video. Great point about teeth/dental care and being identified in education system.
Yes, it was definitely sad 😢 to go through and super hard to know exactly what was going on since the child was non-verbal. We wanted so bad to help them yet we didn’t know exactly how to at the time, it was all new to us. I couldn’t even imagine what they were facing. We just made sure to keep showing them they are loved and safe in our home.🤗❤️
This is so relevant...you guys sound just like me...I'm a single 'Empty Nester' Foster Parent ...my kids are grown and out of the house...I've got 2 kiddos placed .. two weeks turned 8 months...yes that happened... Your advice right down to the motion detector with sound...I've done that too...🤗👍🥰
Nat that is awesome, loving hearing when God has placed the desire to fostering children on their heart. 💞 When we first started our journey we had all kinds of doubts and fears. We wanted a large family but didn’t think we could afford or even have room in our small house for a large family, but we did. We made our small house work and watched our finances like crazy! It took some changing around on our part but was so worth it!🤗 Knowing that you are giving a child a safe, caring, and loving home! So worth it! Thanks for the support! Let us know if there is anything we can do to help! ❤️
😁. It kind of got out of hand but was so handy to have so many clothes. The older kids would get excited about all the new clothes and when they would they would leave we would send them with boxes of extra clothes. It was just one way we could help them because most the time they didn’t have a lot of clothes normally just a set or two. 🤗❤️
Zena, that’s awesome! It was a tough decision and challenging at times but fostering was what we needed to do. We knew we were being obedient to what God wanted us to do but was not easy to make that jump to start. 🤗❤️
I’ve spent so many hours thinking about future fostering, so I have thought a lot about a clothing stash. I’m going to sort by color and size, gendered clothing mixed together because subtle support is important, in clear containers, hopefully with a system for kids to repack and exchange the clothes themselves. 💜
I just found you on here. This was really good information. I just signed up for the orientation class that will be held in less than a month. I’m single, but my family is very supportive. Thank you for posting this.
Ms. Ana so glad you found us!!!🤗. That is awesome so excited for you! I hope your class will be better than some of the classes we took, at times we wanted to give up during our foster classes. So glad we didn’t! So glad your family is supportive, if there is any way we can help or support you, we would love to help! Let us know how your journey goes! Love to hear about! 💕😁
Yes! "Comes with nothing" is common (former foster kid here) ive got baby stuff stocked up but I love going to thrift store clearance sales where they do $5 bags of clothes and its like giant paper grocery bags!
@@Zero2FiveFamily yes! I wear pretty much exclusively thrifted clothes so only makes sense my future kiddos will have the same. Getting certified soon, orientation is next month!
Hi Kelly, that’s so awesome! I seems like yesterday we were starting our journey. It was scary and exciting all at the same time. Thanks for following, sorry we been super busy lately and haven’t put to many new videos out lately. Hopefully that will change shortly. Let us know if you have any questions or there is anything we can do to help as you start your journey. 🤗❤️
Hi Lucie Lou, that’s awesome! I’ve actually never heard of her, I’ll have to look her up. I’ve read quite a few foster care books but nothing by Cathy Glass. 🤗❤️
This video is so helpful and hearing from yalls personal experiences through your foster care journey with so many children will help many people. Not only people who are already in the process of starting their own foster care journey but to encourage others to look into foster care and starting their own process and journey that maybe they were scared to do bc of the unknown. The classes can only teach so much but to hear straight from someone with the experiences of having foster children come through your home is another level of help and information. Also I love how y’all explained the alarm for the rooms. I can’t imagine what some of the children go through in their short lives and the trauma the experienced and I’m sure many have fears of what could happen especially During the night so I’m sure that helped them fell more safe to sleep.
Awe, thank you! Yes, we felt like our classes could of done better with helping us prepared for receiving our first placement. Each class is probably a little different but our foster classes were not the best, but our adoption classes were amazing. We were both nervous going into it and I can’t even imagine what a child is going through.😢. But definitely one of the best decisions we have ever made.🤗. Thanks for watching and commenting, love it!😁❤️
As a ward of the state Im recommending you know that we are /were broken.. We have a score to settle...and many of us have nothing to lose... Like befriending a cancerous wolf... Can go either way.. Be ready.
This. Thank you for sharing this reality. This is why we do what we do and wish and pray we can do more. Please know that we care and there are many many others out there like us who care for you. And, Jesus loves you. ❤️
We just finished our final fostering class last night... we have TB tests, physicals, fingerprinting, and rabies updates this week and next and then we are close to finishing up our application!
That’s so exciting! It’s a huge process and feels great when it’s done, doesn’t it? I’m so happy for you guys keep us posted and give us a shout if you have any questions. 😀
Yes! It was so hard at first because so many people want to help out and have the best of intentions. We learned pretty quick how to read our kiddos and how to not feel bad about saying, "No, thank you." Thanks for watching and for your encouragement! :)
I am thinking to foster and you made me feel more comfortable understanding the tips you guys discussed. Thank you for sharing your valuable information
So glad we were able to make you more comfortable. Let us know if you have any specific questions, we would love to help. It was super nerve racking when we first got started. We depended on so many people, since we were pretty much clueless on how anything worked, but it all worked out.😉. Thanks so much for watching and commenting!🤗❤️
Case managers are very different. I have been a foster child myself and I have also had DCF in my life several times due to my addiction which I am now in recovery from. The last worker I had was a voluntary case because of me being on methadone and accept the case open and my worker was amazing. Got me all sorts of things like cribs and bassinets and was able to get my children and daycare and when they were diagnosed autistic they made sure that early intervention did their job . But then there was all the times that I probably should have lost my oldest child and I didn't. Also I live in Boston where are DCF system sucks and many many children have died in foster care
Yes, so true, I have heard so may great stories about caseworkers/case managers and even bad ones. Thank goodness we were blessed with amazing caseworkers. I cant imagine how tough their job would be. Actually, two weeks ago we had the opportunity to sit down with a previous caseworker and interview her. The video is coming out on Sunday morning. It was awesome to hear her prospective on everything.😁. So glad you are recovering from your addiction, they can be super tough to beat. 🙌👍❤️🤗
@@Zero2FiveFamily addiction is probably the worst thing to ever happen to me and to my neighborhood. I can't even count how many people I've lost including my younger brother
Addiction is Horrible, we have had to deal with family members/relatives that have struggled with addiction and still do. It’s sad!😅 My heart goes out to you!❤️
You guys are great! Honestly you would brighten any kids lives! I had no idea they paid for daycare! that’s a huge deal btw..why don’t they provide that for single mothers that are struggling? That makes no sense.
Exactly. They'll pay people to take away bio kids from poor parents but don't offer those perks to parents... Imagine if you got paid all that to have kids. Why is it just foster parents that get paid?
Hi Lorraine, you are more than welcome to ask us any questions. We have fostered 7 children and done some respite. Thanks for question and watching!😁❤️
My husband and I WANT the older children. They are the ones we want to help, we feel they need us most. We want to help a teen get on track for a successful life on their own, with love, support, and mentorship from us. We don't need the money. Our children are grown and it's just us in a big house. But we are afraid, if I'm being honest. The things that are being told about the lack of support for the foster parents are scary. We've been told that there are so many limitations on the help you can provide. We just want to love a child like one of our own. ❤ I REALLY want to do this. But I don't know where to start!
Crissieburdette4654 I totally understand what you are feeling, I had many of the same feelings when we first started. We were fortunate to have many great case workers and team during our time fostering. To build a good support team around you may take some time and will grow over time. At first we had no one but as time went on we met many foster family’s and had many case workers we could lean on and ask for help or questions. We strived to build those relationships early on, which helped tremendously. Each state is different on what is allowed and not allowed. Here in Missouri we felt that there were many gray area and some rules/limitations would be overlooked if it is in the benefit of the child. There are definitely some rules that do make it hard to provide everything we believed would be beneficial to the child which made it tough for us. But we just keep the mindset that while the child was in our care we were going to love and care and strive to help that child in every way we possible could. We had to do some pushing back with caseworkers and voice our opinion and state what we thought was best for the child many times. We now look back on the struggles and we are so glad we were the voice for the children and can see the difference it made. I would suggest reaching out to your local childrens division and discuss what you would like to do. You may even want to look into respite care, which is watching kids for a short period of time. Through respite you could start making relationships with other foster family’s and start build a relationship with the caseworkers before going all in. Love hearing your heart. Thanks for sharing and let us know if there is anything we can do to help walk you through the process or help support. ❤️🤗
Hi there - I just wanted to pop some encouragement to you. I used to support 6 teenagers in my house. I met my daughter when she had just turned 16, and she is now 23. Helping her to learn, heal, and grow has been incredible, and now our family is preparing to welcome more kids into our home. My best advice would be to follow your heart and focus on getting to know your teen and spending quality time together - and giving them full control of the car stereo:) Often, the system puts a lot of pressure on these kids to be independent and develop skills. The best gift I gave my teen was to validate her feelings and prioritize her fun. You've got this! Take your time!
That’s awesome, love hearing when others are fostering! There are so many kids that need a loving home 🏠. Thank you for taking that step of faith and opening your home to those beautiful kiddos.🤗❤️
My husband and I are gonna be fostering for the first time 0-6 year olds and as the process keeps moving along I am starting to get very nervous. I saw stories of foster kids that acted out that would kick or hit or throw tantrums and now I'm worried that all the kids are going to be like this and that I won't know what to do or be able to handle it. My husband and I really want to foster to be able to help this kids to love them for however long they are with us for, to be a safe place for them while their lives have become chaotic. But, I've never had children, I can't actually have children of my own because of medical reason like ever. My husband and I can't afford to adopt to have kids in our lives. So, we came to fostering and we believe that it's a wonderful way to get to help children to make an impact on their lives and be able to be around kids is a bonus. So, I'm wondering if my nervous that is mixed with my excitement is normal? Or does it mean I shouldn't be doing this? I really want to foster, I was adopted and almost ended up in the foster system but was adopted before that happened. I'm just worried about not know what to do or how to help these children.
Hi Constance, thank you for sharing. We were at that exact place early on where we couldn’t afford to adopt. We ended up taking a step of faith and trusting that God would provide in which ever direction He would take us. After several years of trying to adopt internationally and then domestically, we ended up down the fostering path. It was scary and exciting all at the same time just like you say your experiencing. I think that’s normal. Part of the amazing benefit of fostering is that there is a huge support system that is there to help if needed or you have questions. There are also so many other foster parents out there that would love to help on your journey. The one thing you have to do is ask for help, which was hard for us, but there were so many resources and people that came along side us and helped guide us through different situations. We couldn’t have done it without them. We didn’t really know that so many resources existed until we were fostering. We were fortunate to have some amazing caseworkers ourselves and also the children had some amazing caseworkers that were so helpful. Thanks again for sharing! Let us know if we can help in any way.🤗❤️
Thanks for all the information and the great compassion you two have. Hubby and I are almost home alone now,and we have a lot of compassion and love to show
You guys are awesome, thank you for this informative video. We are just licensed and waiting for our first placement. I really loved the canvas idea and the bell! Thanks!
ashley thompson thank you!😊. Congrats on getting licensed for fostering! That’s super exciting! I still remember every little detail about our first placement. The canvas paintings are great way to make the child feel at home. I think we are going to have the kids make new canvas paintings here pretty soon. They had a blast make their last ones. Thanks for watching!🤗❤️
I don't know what the healthcare and daycare assistance is for foster kids in my country, but at least i now know to ask about it. Thanks! (having foster kids would be pretty far in the future, if I decide to do that)
We hope this video is helpful to someone looking at fostering. Feel free to ask any questions below or reach out to us through our website if you have questions. We love hearing from you! Thanks for watching!!!❤️
Your family is beautiful.... We are her to support you along your journey!!! 😊
Brianna Lynn thanks!
This was very good information. I was in foster care when I was younger and now as an adult I am considering it. Very good info! Proud of the both of you!
@@doloressolis4665 thank you! Fostering was one of the best decisions we ever made. Not going to say it was easy but they changed my heart forever. ❤️
What state are you in?
I’m a foster parent who also adopted. One of the saddest days was on a Christmas Eve biological family visit day. My little girl was all dressed up and ready to see her bio mom and she never showed. She came back from that visit devastated. We cried together. I’m so glad she’s now a permanent part of our family . The journey can be difficult but it is worth it.
Oh no, that would be horrible devastating! We had some similar situations when biological mom would not show to meetings. We had to answer a lot of questions and really didn’t know why she wasn’t showing. It was so hard to see the pain in our kids eyes and hearts. You are so correct, the journey is difficult but definitely worth it. 🤗❤️
It's not all ways the parent's fault if you seen the stuff we seen done by the organization to the biological parents your jaw would drop we seen them tell the bio parents one access date knowing quite well it was the day after parent turns up no one there then the carer turns up the next day mothers not there of cause she is the worst person in the world for not showing up for her children which she did, and at the end of the day you can take them on permanent but there still not your child
Hi Farmer2492, yes the system has a lot of problems and we saw a lot of issues while we were fostering. Yes, we even ran into the wrong dates and times given. One of the best things we found while fostering was to be as helpful and loving to the biological parents as we could. We ran into situation where we were the horrible bad people trying to take there kids away, to parents who realized we were there to support and help both the child and the parents. When we started fostering our main objective was reunification with the biological parents, during the time we had a child in our home we strived to get that child everything possible because some times we did not know how much time they would be with us. Yes, there are major problems in every system but our goal is to educate and encourage those who are scared to foster, maybe due to this exact situation you are talking about. Thank you for bring this to light so that other foster parents will be careful of these situations that may arise. Thank you!❤️
@@Zero2FiveFamily i hv a friend who really is great w kids n thinks she likely cant pass the bk grnd check.. Do u kn if they would accept a foster parent who was indicted for a minor felony but it was dismissed but still on her record? Hers was a non violent non drug related thing.
I’m sorry I don’t know the exact answer, I would suggest talking to your local children’s division and they would be able to give you an exact answer.❤️
I grew up in foster care & group homes, over 50 placements all together. The best was when you got a foster family who took you out to pick out your own comforter set & sheets and maybe curtains. Just to make it your room. A lot of times you can get purchase orders from dhs for things like that. As well as clothes, shoes, carseats. Don’t be afraid to ask! They are legally our guardian and i used to call mine all the time when i needed things lol. Its sad my dhs case worker was the only person i steadily had in my life. She was really good to me and i was one of her first cases so she loved me! I was more attatched to her as a kid than she would ever know.❤️
Jenessa, thank you so much for sharing a part of your story with us. It helps us understand what you have gone through and how we can become better foster parents. It brings me to tears thinking you were in over 50 different homes.😢. So glad you had a caseworker that cared so much! Thanks for sharing!🤗❤️
I'm so sorry that you got shuffled around to 50 different homes that's so sad. I hope you are doing well in life now .. Gods got a plan for your life
What a testimony, I’m happy to you have some good memories. So very sorry that you had to go through the system.
Thank you so much!
I heard it just takes one significant person/adult in a child's life (to make a difference). Sounds like you had your worker for that! I'm glad you survived and I hope you have happiness in your life!❤
I myself used to be a foster kid, and want to one day become a foster parent, because my days in foster care were some of the most stable and safe i ever had in my life, and i want to give that feeling of safety to other kids in situation like mine. Foster families play such a huge role in a child's life it's hard to imagine unless you've experienced it. It can completely change a persons future. A good foster family can save a child, and even if it's for a short while, it goes a really long way, and a child will never forget a truly great foster family.
That being said, becoming a foster parent is still far off for me, since i don't plan on getting kids before I'm financially able to and have created a stable environment for a family. The most important part of raising kids is to know when you're truly able to do so properly.
Henkka Henrik thank you for sharing! I love hearing that you had a great foster experience. I hope some day when you are ready you are able to give the same to a foster child, it’s such a blessing. It comes with its struggles too but it’s so worth it. ❤️🤗
10/10 agree ❤. So many people have children before they can truly provide for them and it's heartbreaking. It's not a race and I don't get the rush.
Meanwhile, you might look into training as a CASA if that program exists locally and you have the time. Unlike foster care, which requires certain characteristics of your physical home, worklife and financial situation, being a volunteer CASA mainly involves time for the initial training of ~30 hours and the additional hours of continuing education each year, much of which can be accessed online, and then the time each month to visit the child or sibling group in your one assigned case. As someone who has wanted since childhood to grow up to adopt children from the foster care system, but who has for various reasons not been in a position to move forward on it, I found it a very rewarding way to help children in care. It also was a good fit for my elderly mother, who definitely wouldn't be in a position to foster but has made a great advocate.
i am 18 years old and i have always been very passionate about being a foster parent in the future...it’s something i have thought long and hard about and something i feel so very strongly passionate towards. i know i’m young but i feel that it is very important for me to educate myself as much as possible and i thank you very much for this video it gives me a better understanding of what i am so passionate about thank you guys for your amazing work❤️
Brooke, that is awesome! 🙌. Just cause you are young, don’t let that stop you from pursuing what you are passionate about. You are definitely on the right track learning as much as possible, but some things you will just learn once you have foster children. Each case and child is different so sometimes you have to adjust to meet those needs. Love your passion and desire to grow as much as possible before fostering. Your going to be an amazing parent!🤗❤️
I'm also watching this as a young person, doing my research for the future!
im 16 and ever since i was like 8 ive wanted to adopt 1 or 2 sibling groups because big families are awesome, its cheaper to adopt a sibling group, and most importantly because the siblings are already comfortable with each other and have a bond already which will make them feel more safe and happy.
My big fear though is how i would deal with adopting kids being gay. Idk if i would be married or not when adopting. My grandmother is 73 in a few weeks, so i want to have kids as soon as possible so that she can see my kids grow. I loved my great grandmother and want my kids to experience that too.
If you want to help a good choice might be becoming a big brother or sister to help.
@@Zero2FiveFamily we would.love to be a foster kid to adopt. What should we do to start?
I appreciate you bringing up - "having them leave, with more than they came with" - I love this philosophy behind foster care! Taking whatever the child is bringing in - a dirty backpack(or backpack full of emotions!) and loving & caring for the child, where when the child leaves & leaves with more than they arrived with. What a great attitude - thank you for sharing!
Yes, they always went home with way more than they came with. It was always a sad day for us when they would leave, never knowing if we would ever see them again. But we knew we did everything possible to make them feel loved and cared for. They will always have a piece of our heart. Thanks so much for watching!🤗❤️
I can feel that the kids in your home leave with a great deal of items that will help them in life but more than that they leave with life skills that will aid them for a life time. This video really inspired me.
Ever since I was 14 I wanted to be a foster parent, I had no true idea what it was gonna be like though, then I got put in foster care at 16, and I’ll tell you, there’s a huge weight that most foster care children carry with them, I’m 18 and still struggling. But I know I can use my experience to help other foster kids and connect to them more. I’m kind of thankful and now know what can come with a child with trauma: Past drug use, tantrums, isolation, paranoia, outburst, ect. I even came into foster care with some of these problems, there was times I felt the whole world was against me and I said some things to my 2nd foster mother I regret. The main problem a lot of foster children face is usually from their own mind, we never know when or if we have to move again, we don’t know if these families even want us and we don’t know what can make them hate us, one second we can be very close and the next we did something wrong and they don’t want us, sometimes it comes straight out of the blue, a phone call from a caseworker telling us to pack up because we have to move the next morning. My first home had me removed since I refused to clean up a strangers puke and I yelled at the daughter for cursing at me when I had to use the bathroom, my caseworker knew it wasn’t my fault since I put in multiple complaints with the family before in the first month but I still blamed myself thinking I shouldn’t have been too prideful, I was surprised when I heard I was getting removed, not from the complaints but from me yelling at someone for calling me names, after all the things they did, the racist things they said, the things they did to the other foster kids, I was the one who was punished and they are still parents, it made me not trust foster parents. It’s also hard to pick your whole life up and move into a place you don’t know with strangers you don’t know. I just want to let some possible foster parents know this too since I’ve talked to a couple of foster kids that do the same and you might not know: A lot of older foster children will try to be their very best in fear that they will have to move, it becomes a problem later on because it starts to get exhausting and our mental health continues to go down hill, then we start to isolate, self criticize, and self sabotage. Not all foster kids do it but a good amount do. I know it won’t be easy but I want to be a foster parent and help these children, and let them know they are safe, loved, and stable. Thank you for the video
Hi Millie May, thank you so much for sharing part of your story. I’m sorry for the things you have gone through, I really wish no child would ever have to go through those experiences. I believe you will make an amazing foster parent and you will be a major benefit to many children in the foster system. Your experiences as bad as they were will help you connect to others going through similar situations. It hurts my heart as I read your story and think about the trauma you had to go through. 😢. Thank you again for reaching out and sharing. 🤗❤️
God bless you!! I wish you all the best! You deserve it💕
My fiancé and I are looking into fostering and this comment has given me a huge insight into the mind of a foster child. The last thing I want is for them to fear my judgment of them! Good lord, I’m a hot mess… I was a street kid and then a model, survived DV and multiple SA, subsequent addictions and came through it all just by the skin of my teeth and all I want to do with this newfound stability is share it with anyone else who is going through that hellish cyclone of terror ESPECIALLY a child. I want them to know that I don’t expect anything of them except to try to heal, whatever that means to them.
I am helping out fostering families with taking some things down to Joplin to fostering contest for all of there families just saying that now
There is always a reason for anger... it's not for "no reason at all." It may be directed toward you... but they have a reason!
Jasper Jasper yes that is so true! We just couldn’t pin point the reason this foster child was so anger or sad 😢 The hard part was that the child was non-verbal and could not tell us what was wrong, which made it so tough. 👍❤️
@@Zero2FiveFamily some times there mad at the foster parents because they also blame them for being taken away......
Graciela Campa yes that is true! It was so tough for us to know what it was since they were non-verbal.
Try an NVC parenting book and let me know how it works out: it takes a LOT of energy for kids with trauma
Dude chill! I don’t think they meant that there was no reason for the anger just that they weren’t able to figure it out at the time.
This is incredible! I choked up when you guys talked about the buzzer on the door and the safety and security that it offers them. That's SO important for them to see what a safe environment looks like - especially children who has been in an abusive home.
Thank you!! That was one of our goals while we had foster kids was to try to make them feel safe and secure at our home. You just never know exactly what a child has gone through. Thanks for watching!🤗❤️
The WORST PART: when they send them back to that situation, and you KNOW that bio family does not have it together, and the neglect and abuse will continue.
Yes, that was part of the reason we held off from fostering so long, but we knew we had to do something.🤗❤️
This is exactly why my husband is so worried about it
@@kristiechambers917 As a ward of the state Im recommending you know that we are /were broken.. We have a score to settle...and many of us have nothing to lose... Like befriending a cancerous wolf... Can go either way.. Be ready.
@@ebrakeramires339 thank you I was in a foster home for a few weeks it sucked so I want to say I understand but I Really don't I really just want to help a child who needs it I know the system is flawed and I know alot of foster homes are only in it for a paycheck abs alot of kids are harmed in the foster system and I just want to make sure I can try to prevent that for a child/ren
@@kristiechambers917 Nobel.. Thank you
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THANK YOU! When you say they come with nothing, this is absolutely a possibility. While our first placement came with a huge duffel bag of clothes and toys, we had no clue that our infant (who we picked up at the hospital) would not even have a onesie! Thank goodness the emergency social worker at the hospital had one in her bag. Please spread the word....bring an outfit to the hospital to pick up your sweet baby. We felt like such losers :-(
Oh my goodness Jennifer, I know exactly how you feel! We were so unprepared for our first placement, if it hadn't been for the backpack they came with donated by an organization called Bundles of Hope, I don't know what we would have done! LOL! This is such great advice and also a great way for people to support foster and adoptive parents. Keep in touch! We love connecting with other foster parents and sharing advice! :)
It seems when foster parents go through training, these things should be said. I'm a human service worker and I'm working on being a foster mom.
Maybe some of us that aren't current foster parents can help with some goody bags. Maybe that's my calling instead of being a foster parent again ?
I am a Japanese daddy, and thinking about to be a foster parent. Thank you very much for sharing this helpful video because in Japan no experience is shared by foster parents via UA-cam.
JJの図書館 that is so awesome!👏👍. I don’t know how fostering works Japan but would love to hear how it goes. Thanks for watching!🤗❤️
You guys are amazing for fostering. Can't imagine how traumatic family visits can get for these children and how it affects your relationship with them after the family members leave.
Life with Sam and Tiff yes our first placement really struggled with the visits. They only were with us for about a month and went to live with their grandparents and the rest of their siblings. I can’t imagine what they were going through they were both nonverbal so it was hard to know what exactly they needed and were going through.
I am guardian to a 16yr old. He visits his mom & still has behavior issues when he comes home from a visit. He's been with me 4yrs. Some kids will always struggle.
Yes and sadly a lot of the times they will
Stop visits claiming kids are exhibiting behaviors after the visits. But Ofcourse they are they have feelings. Its very confusing to see your parents and not be going home with them. Kids handle emotions differently Ofcourse they are upset, i would be more worried if they were not upset.
I just happened to watch a program on children being abandoned or given away and it broke my heart. I wish I had the stamina and room to foster children because they would get love and attention May you two be blessed for all you do for these children coming in and out of your homes. Big Kudos to you both.
Awe, thank you Espie Espino, it breaks our heart knowing what some kids have gone through and do go through. There are so many ways to get involved and help even if your unable to foster. Fostering is tough but so rewarding when your making a difference in those kiddos lives and give them love and security when they need it the most. 🤗❤️
I love the idea of the door buzzers to help them to feel safer. And I love the painting idea too. Thanks for sharing your experiences.
Alexandra Sutliff thank you! We love sharing and hope we can help and encourage others through the foster process.❤️
Thank your for this information! When I get a house and get my career stabilized I want to look into fostering with my partner.
You are welcome! Love share our experiences. Thanks for watching! 🤗❤️
Start as a foster mentor to get some experience.
We are there! My dear husband and I are finally in a place where we can do it and will do it!!! This week, we submitted our application packet ❤
Wooooooohoooooo! That’s so exciting! 🙌👏👍
Loving the channel! Just found it while researching! I am a single 23 y/o from Nebraska with the calling for foster care! Thanks so much for sharing your experiences!
Ali Mae Wilson that’s awesome!! So glad you found our channel. What part of Nebraska are you from, Jared grew up in Nebraska. Love 💕 that you have a calling for foster care, let us know if you have questions or can help in any way.😁❤️
Zero 2 Five Family I’m from Franklin but I attend Wayne State!
Ali Mae Wilson 👍😊 Jared grew up just outside of Beatrice in a small town called Virginia.
I’m from Nebraska as well and was raised in the foster care system ❤️
Nebraska!!! 🙌❤️🙌
"It might have hot a little out of hand at the beginning".....AWESOME.
Thank for the great advice.. I am truly looking forward to following what God told me to do and becoming a foster mom
That is so awesome! Let us know if there is anything we can do to help or if you have any questions. Love hearing you take that first step and listening to what God has told you. 😊❤️👍
This was a great video! As a former social worker everything stated was right on target. I think understanding the time commitment is critical (ie: therapy appts, case management appt, visitations, Dr appts)
This means so much to us! Thank you for your kind words, we love social workers! ❤️
Yes, this gives me so much to think about. Like how am I going to be a resource parent while being single and working full time?
Thank you for being foster parents. I am a foster child and been with my family for 54 years never adopted.
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It is all taken away when they go home... it's harder than you know. I thank you for your efforts...
Hi Decla Green, I’m so sorry, I have heard stories of that happening. I can’t imagine what you have faced and pray for those going through similar situations right now. We will always fight for those in foster care and strive to build relationships with biological parents to help in anyway possible. Thanks for reaching out!🤗❤️
I’m so glad we discovered your channel! We are also a family grown through adoption. We have three children adopted from orphanages in Ukraine, one child adopted from U.S. foster care, and we’re not done growing yet. We’re enjoying get caught up on your past videos.
That’s awesome! Thanks for watching!🤗❤️
I heard you mention the door buzzer and was immediately alarmed but holy crow, what an amazing way to work it into both favors!! You guys are rocking it and I’ve been teetering on foster care for such a long time, this video has really helped so thank you!
So glad it was helpful, yes we didn’t know how to stop the wondering around the house and scaring the snot out of us in the middle of the night and then we came up with the alarm idea. We then realized it could make them feel secure too, it worked both ways. Fostering is tough but so worth it.😁❤️
My niece was Foster Mother
Like your experience, she had a 6 year old and she eould get up in tje middle of the night and wonder around the house. My niece placed an alarm on her door so she'd know if she was out of her room. The case worker told her to take the alarm off the door. Telling her that a child should never feel as though their in jail, not free to walk around her home. I believe the 6 year old knew how to work that social worker. Keep in mind that she started to foster this 6 year old and then adopted her. The alarm issue came up when the adoption had already went through. She already had her for 2 years and they were still following up.on.the case. I believe it may have been due to other siblings in the situation.
Foster mama of 3 (relative) and bio mama to 1. This was perfect! I am shocked at how few fostering info videos there are and there are no real authentic ones for relative placements. 😭
Thank you, that means a lot. We hope and pray that others will see our family and desire to give other children a permanent loving and caring home. Thanks so much for watching and the support! 🤗❤️
6:41 "The things that you do during the time that you have them sets them up for a better future."
Queen Kitty that is so TRUE!!! 🤗❤️
I'm 64 my wife and I live on a farm and have been exploring sharing some love, and our house with children, I raised my son's and they are both unmarried, I was hoping for grandkids sooner, in my heart a home is just not the same without hearing kids laugh and play, videos like this steer us in the right direction to going ahead and giving a kid a stable environment, Thanks
That’s awesome, that sounds exactly like our kid’s previous foster family. They wanted grandkids so bad, so they said if their kids don’t give them grandkids by a certain time they would begin fostering so they could have grandkids in their home. So that’s what they did, they are such a blessing to us and the kids. The kids now consider them grandparents and we visit them quite often, we couldn’t ask for a better situation.🤗❤️
@@Zero2FiveFamily aw Thank you for the feel good
My name is Eva. I’m 25 years old and I just closed on my first home. I am starting to get settled in and I would love to foster a child. I used to volunteer for an orphanage when I was younger and there was a little boy named jamie who wanted me to adopt him but I was only 15 years old then. It was heartbreaking having to explain to him why I couldn’t. Ever since I always knew I wanted to adopt. I don’t make a lot of money at the moment, but I make enough to sustain my home. Do you guys think I could be a potential foster parent?
Most Definitely you could be a Foster Parent!!!!👍🙌👏❤️. What an amazing story you have! Congrats on the new home!🥳 🎉 Let us know if we could be of any help or any questions we could maybe answer.🤗❤️
do it! kids need to be adopted or fostered. the sooner you take them out of their bad situation the sooner that they will recover. idk what im trying to say but you get what i mean haha
good luck on your journey and good luck with your job!
How did you volunteer at the orphanage? I'm 26 and interested in helping with my time
The buzzer on the bedroom door idea is great! That would be very reassuring for a child.
It was amazing for both us and the kids! 🙌Thank for watching!🤗❤️
Thank you!! We are literally getting our first placement on Thursday. To say we're nervous is an understatement!
@Bland Cook’n that’s so awesome!!! You’ll do amazing! We’ll be praying for you this week, that you won’t be nervous and for the foster kid/children. I remember being right where you probably are, reach out to others and don’t hesitate to ask for help especially if it’s your first placement. Feel free to reach out to us anytime too. 🤗❤️🙏
Hey @Bland Cook’n we’ve been praying for you all hope all is going well!😁
My family has been a foster family since July 2020 and I CAN'T RELATE MORE TO ALL THIS STUFF. I'm crying actually..
What a blessing your family is to those kiddos. Love hearing other families stories. Thanks for watching!🤗❤️
I am seriously considering becoming a foster parent. Its something I have always wanted to do, even when I was growing up. I may have some strange questions lol Its very easy to see how genuine you and your husband are. This is the first video of yours I am seeing and already feel comfortable in asking any type of question. So, as a first time Foster parent, how can you prepare clothing if you do not know the age and gender ahead of time? Have you felt as though your case worker or “the system” took advantage of you or put too much on you or was overly judgmental towards you for any reason?
Hi Susan, we love that you feel comfortable asking us any question and ask away. We still are learning and there’s a lot we don’t know and ask others ourselves. So we were so unprepared when we first started we had nothing and then our first placement came and the foster children’s caseworker told us to leave the child’s possession outside due to where they had come from.😬. We actually left their stuff in a trash bag in the garage until the day they went to live with relatives. We had nothing for them, thank goodness the caseworker gave us a backpack from a ministry which helped us get them cleaned up for the first night so I could run to Walmart to get some clothes. We knew right then we were going to build a stash of clothes, boys and girls, infant to 10 yr old sizes. So we started hunted nice clothes down at gentle used stores and Goodwill(for some reason our Goodwill gets brand new clothes from department store and they are awesome, I’ve never found one as nice as the one locally. So we spent maybe $200-$300 on clothes and lots of thrift stores to have a nice assortment of clothes for any child we would foster, we always sent them home with a nice stash of good clothes, too 😁. Plus we kind of enjoyed the hunt, finding name brand, new looking clothes for $2-$3 bucks each, it’s a good feeling.❤️
Susan, the second part of your question, we did at times but we strived to focus on the child and helping them out as much as possible while they were in our care. We had lots of unique situations and challenges, but we found there are lots of resources to help, you may just have to ask and do some searching. We also have some very close friends who foster and adopted and helped us tremendously when we struggled. One, good example again was our first placement, we were not prepared!😳. Both kids where 3&4 and non-verbal and several other thing going on. That was extremely tough for us, thank goodness we stuck with fostering. Otherwise we would of had our kids!🤗❤️. Thanks so much for the questions, love them!👍
@@Zero2FiveFamily I LOVE thrift and bargain shopping!!! I have a slogan I made up....the less you spend, the more you get! Hehe Thanks for your replies and sharing your experiences!!!
Love it!👍❤️
Wow there are people like you guys in the world makes me love this life more
Thank you!
I just connected with a county social worker and will be looking into being a foster parent here in California. Thank you so very much for your video! All the best to you and your kids.
That is so exciting!!!🤗🙌👏 Love to hear how fostering goes for you in California. Thank you for watching and glad we could help!😁❤️
You two are kind and loving people ❤️ who make this world a better place. Thank you for all that you do. (It's good to know there are people like you willing to help children in need)
Awe, thank you!!!🤗❤️
I’ve just been recommended your channel. I can’t believe the quality of your videos.
Thank you so much. That means a lot! We still feel like we could improve a lot, our goal is to make our videos encouraging and informational and that the quality does not cause someone to not want to watch! Thanks for watch!🤗❤️
Thank you for the love that you share with the kids. It's folks like you guys who change the world !
Awe, thank you!🤗❤️
Very helpful video. As a family, we're praying to Foster to Adopt. This helped with a little bit of anxiety I might have had.
Will be following! God Bless!
TheBalcony Farms 🙌🙌🙌 We will pray this week for your family. I know the anxiety of the decision to foster and adopt. We just had to turn it over to God and trust Him which was hard for me. Let us know how it goes and if there is any way we can help we would love too. 🤗❤️
Thank you to all of the foster parents. It takes very special people to care for these children and I admire you all greatly.
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Such a selfless thing that your have done. It’s so very hard and I admire you both very much.
Awe, thank you! It’s been an amazing journey, tough but amazing!❤️
Love your video!! House inspection was done last week, I'm just waiting for the 1st placement, very nervous on this journey. Greetings from California.
It's so scary but so wonderful! Congratulations and please keep us posted on your progress. If there is anything we can do for you, don't hesitate to holler! ❤️
Thank you so much or making this video! The buzzer and art projects are great ideas. Safety is the best gift you can provide for a child in these situations.
TastemyAtrocity thank you! 😊. The kids love the art projects, hoping to make new art pieces for their rooms soon. Yes, safety and security. We tried to always let them know what we were going to do and not surprise them at first with things. It seemed to help with them trusting us and a sense of security knowing our routine. Thanks for watching!🤗❤️
Omg! This made me cry! You actually look like good foster parents!
Hi Kimberly, some how I missed your comment, I’m sorry! Thank you, we aren’t perfect but trying to do our best at providing a loving, caring, secure home for our kids, all while having fun.🤗❤️
Thanks for the information. I’ve been praying about being a foster mom. It is something I am beginning to make room for in my life.
That is so awesome!!!🤗🙌. Love hear when other take the steps to foster a child or children. It was definitely one of the best decisions we have made. I hope you will feel the same way. It will be tough at times but hang in there, you will make a huge difference in that child’s life. Thanks for watching!😁❤️
My brother and sister in law are finishing their meetings/traning and will be approved to foster right away, I will share this with them, I'm sure a lot of this is the same as Canada, maybe not the Medicade part
Jesse Boulter that’s awesome, love hearing when others are taken the step to foster. It’s scary but so worth it. Yes, not sure on how the adoption process works and what’s covered in Canada.😁👍
Such an important video, and such sweet
And kind people, pretty selfless to care, not only about the children but also to care enough about children to be frank about the duties, expectations and emotional involvement the other possible foster parents can expect.. great job guys , your hero’s for sure, nice job 👍
Awe, thank you Brooke. The true hero’s are those foster kiddos and the things they face. 🤗❤️
Very informative video. I've been a foster parent for years & don't even think about this anymore. Glad u made this video for newbies!!
Oh, thank you so much! This means a lot to us. We are so driven to help and encourage others in foster care. Sometimes I think there is just no way to be completely prepared for foster care but we want to help as much as we can! Thanks so much for your involvement in the foster system! It is truly a labor of love, determination, and boldness! ❤️
We had our first home study today and we are about to start training. This video was so informative!
So awesome!! So glad we could help. We actually have several friends that are working on their home study right now too. They had quite a few delays due to COVID but I think they are just about completed all their classes and home study. Let us know how everything goes, we love hearing others stories. Thanks for reaching out!🤗❤️
I am only 14 years old and I swear this is so helpful cause I want to be a foster parent ❤️I think you guys are everyday heros😭I love you guys
This makes my heart so happy Sonya!! We always tell the kids not to think they can't help just because they're young and that the best thing they can do right now is to show love to the kids they meet who are in foster care. ❤️ You are amazing! Please keep us posted and let us know if there is anything we can do for you!!
Great video! I just finished foster care classes in Cleveland, OH. I am excited to begin this journey. The information about the clothes was crucial. Thank you
Thank you Charmon M! Congratulations on finishing your classes, that is so exciting. Have you completed the home study yet?🤗❤️
My experience was horrific. My grandchild taken from my daughter, I was out of State. Long story short, they made me suffer 10 months thru visits and possibly him being adopted away. Thank God the judge returned him to me for my faithfulness at visits and court. Now I am a foster mom to his brother, also my grandchild. Is tough
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. It would definitely be tough going through that with family and the possibility of him being adopted. Your amazing for taking in and raising your grandkids!🤗❤️
@@Zero2FiveFamily Thx so much
My fiance and I just started the classes to become foster parents and we are both excited and overwhelmed. I guess our biggest apprehension is how to make it work with us both working 8-5 jobs and that we are starting with nothing besides a full size bed. We have never had children so we don't have anything for them. We will for sure start going to threft stores to stock up.
Zoe, that’s awesome!!!👏🙌👍. That sounds exactly how we started out, we had nothing and slowly made changes as we started fostering. We started off with a couple twin beds and then got a bunk bed and then another and another that way we could rearrange to make everyone comfortable and fit best in our small home. It’s definitely a struggle when your both working the best thing we found was to split up and not both go to everything together that way we could save our time off and not use both our days off for the same thing. It was hard for us to do because we wanted to go to everything together but knew this would be best if we had more things come up. Normally, we would both go to the first court meeting of our foster kids, so the family and judge knew we were there to support the kiddos. Then we would normally, just both go to the really important meetings and court hearings. It’s definitely overwhelming, exciting, fun, sad, frustrating, and really we experienced almost every emotion while fostering. You’ll do amazing and I know you’ll find a way to make it work while both working. Thank you for wanting to make a difference in those children’s lives!🤗❤️
One of you will need a flexible work schedule. What I experienced was a huge time commitment in doctor, dentist, therapist, family visitation, IEP meetings and numerous other needs my fosters came with. In the long term placements you eventually get all the catch up work done and life becomes less hectic, but understand the first 6 months can be overwhelming.
They aren't telling you how much running you'll have to do??
We start classes tonight :) home study in a few weeks. Thanks for these tips
That’s so awesome, how was the class? 🤗❤️
As a ward of the state Im recommending you know that we are /were broken.. We have a score to settle...and many of us have nothing to lose... Like befriending a cancerous wolf... Can go either way.. Be ready.
One thing I just learned from your video also is that it seems like being nervous is completely normal. Even though you know you’re doing the right thing and being a huge blessing to these children, it’s normal to feel a little nervous. 😬😌
Yes, we were definitely nervous and a little under prepared! 😬. It’s perfectly normal, there is generally quite a bit unknown and everything is new for the foster family and the foster kids which leads to the nervousness. Just remember there are lots of people out there willing to help and want to help you out. Our caseworkers, friends, and family helped us out tremendously which helped with the nervousness too.🤗❤️
Very well done. I like Your NE "quilt " hat ! And last...thanks for making a difference !!!
Thank you so much! I absolutely love my Nebraska hat, I’ve been a Husker fan since I was 12, might caused a little tension in my house since my dad worked for the University of Oklahoma!😂
Regarding family visitation and post-visitation behavior, the parents are not supposed to discuss any specifics of the case with the children, and are especially not supposed to make promises to the children around the case. If the visitations are supervised, particularly by the caseworker or a professional visitation supervisor, they can often nip this in the bud. But most visitations are not so closely watched--they are either monitored (i.e., supervisor or caseworker within earshot but not watching all that closely) or unsupervised, or the supervisor may be an approved relative, friend, or someone else who is new to the process.
What often happens is that the parent may make statements about how soon the child will be able to return back home, may blame the child for the removal, or may talk down the caseworker, the child welfare department, or the foster parents during the visit. This will only serve to make the child angrier, more anxious, and less compliant. It can be heartbreaking when this happens.
This is some great information regarding family visitations. Thanks for sharing!🤗❤️
It’s sad to think of the child reacting so much to family visits. Thank you for the video.
Great point about teeth/dental care and being identified in education system.
Yes, it was definitely sad 😢 to go through and super hard to know exactly what was going on since the child was non-verbal. We wanted so bad to help them yet we didn’t know exactly how to at the time, it was all new to us. I couldn’t even imagine what they were facing. We just made sure to keep showing them they are loved and safe in our home.🤗❤️
You nailed this video. I agree absolutely. The family visits are so terrible.
Thank you, @imaginempress!❤️
This video helped me a lot, because I was to be a foster parent when I have my own place.
That’s awesome! 🤗❤️
This is so relevant...you guys sound just like me...I'm a single 'Empty Nester' Foster Parent ...my kids are grown and out of the house...I've got 2 kiddos placed .. two weeks turned 8 months...yes that happened...
Your advice right down to the motion detector with sound...I've done that too...🤗👍🥰
Thank you @michellehood3345 Your amazing for taking those kiddos and loving on them. 🙌🤗❤️
This is great! I hope to be in a position to foster children in the future.
Nat that is awesome, loving hearing when God has placed the desire to fostering children on their heart. 💞 When we first started our journey we had all kinds of doubts and fears. We wanted a large family but didn’t think we could afford or even have room in our small house for a large family, but we did. We made our small house work and watched our finances like crazy! It took some changing around on our part but was so worth it!🤗 Knowing that you are giving a child a safe, caring, and loving home! So worth it! Thanks for the support! Let us know if there is anything we can do to help! ❤️
@@Zero2FiveFamily Thank you so much!!
God bless you and your big heart. You are wonderful and seem to really care for the children who come to your home.
Patricia Johnsonson thank you! Wanted every child to know they are loved and safe at our house! 🤗❤️
When you open that closet it put smile to my face imagine theirs ☺️
😁. It kind of got out of hand but was so handy to have so many clothes. The older kids would get excited about all the new clothes and when they would they would leave we would send them with boxes of extra clothes. It was just one way we could help them because most the time they didn’t have a lot of clothes normally just a set or two. 🤗❤️
Thank you for the canvas idea to make their room and bed feel more like their own!
Madeline Knoblock your super welcome, it’s fun and definitely makes the kids rooms feel like theirs. 🤗❤️
Great video. I am thinking about fostering / adoption. god bless ! Awesome tips!
Love hearing that, thank you!❤️
You are very special people. Thank you for all you do.
Thank you!!🙌🤗❤️
Thank you I’m very curious about this since our church is talking about considering it
Zena, that’s awesome! It was a tough decision and challenging at times but fostering was what we needed to do. We knew we were being obedient to what God wanted us to do but was not easy to make that jump to start. 🤗❤️
God be
Less you abundantly! I’m so impressed
Connie, thank you!! Same to you, hope you have a blessed Christmas!🎄 🤗❤️
I’ve spent so many hours thinking about future fostering, so I have thought a lot about a clothing stash. I’m going to sort by color and size, gendered clothing mixed together because subtle support is important, in clear containers, hopefully with a system for kids to repack and exchange the clothes themselves. 💜
That’s awesome!🤗❤️
I just found you on here. This was really good information. I just signed up for the orientation class that will be held in less than a month. I’m single, but my family is very supportive. Thank you for posting this.
Ms. Ana so glad you found us!!!🤗. That is awesome so excited for you! I hope your class will be better than some of the classes we took, at times we wanted to give up during our foster classes. So glad we didn’t! So glad your family is supportive, if there is any way we can help or support you, we would love to help! Let us know how your journey goes! Love to hear about! 💕😁
Yes! "Comes with nothing" is common (former foster kid here) ive got baby stuff stocked up but I love going to thrift store clearance sales where they do $5 bags of clothes and its like giant paper grocery bags!
Yes, so often they come with nothing! We love thrift stores or gently used clothing stores, there the best!👍🤗❤️
@@Zero2FiveFamily yes! I wear pretty much exclusively thrifted clothes so only makes sense my future kiddos will have the same. Getting certified soon, orientation is next month!
That’s so exciting!!🙌😁 Thats also where we get most our clothes.
We are just barely starting on our journey. So excited to get some little ones. You guys are so down to earth. New follower over here!
Hi Kelly, that’s so awesome! I seems like yesterday we were starting our journey. It was scary and exciting all at the same time. Thanks for following, sorry we been super busy lately and haven’t put to many new videos out lately. Hopefully that will change shortly. Let us know if you have any questions or there is anything we can do to help as you start your journey. 🤗❤️
I’m not a FC but i do read Cathy Glass’s memoirs. Worth a read. All of these points are pointed out in her books about what it’s like to be a FC.
Hi Lucie Lou, that’s awesome! I’ve actually never heard of her, I’ll have to look her up. I’ve read quite a few foster care books but nothing by Cathy Glass. 🤗❤️
@@Zero2FiveFamily this comment was for those new to FC, you guys obviously have been at it a long while already :)
I’m still interested in reading her perspective and hear her story. Thanks for sharing!😁❤️
Thanks for this video!!! Last tip is ESPECIALLY helpful bc sleeping schedules are life in our house!!
Your welcome @HarbysBarbie So glad it was helpful.🤗❤️
This was awesome! we cared for many children! And ready to do it again! 6ou had great tips about alarms on their doors.
Wendy, thank you! That is awesome, we actually miss fostering and the relationships you make through it.🤗❤️
This video is so helpful and hearing from yalls personal experiences through your foster care journey with so many children will help many people. Not only people who are already in the process of starting their own foster care journey but to encourage others to look into foster care and starting their own process and journey that maybe they were scared to do bc of the unknown. The classes can only teach so much but to hear straight from someone with the experiences of having foster children come through your home is another level of help and information. Also I love how y’all explained the alarm for the rooms. I can’t imagine what some of the children go through in their short lives and the trauma the experienced and I’m sure many have fears of what could happen especially During the night so I’m sure that helped them fell more safe to sleep.
Awe, thank you! Yes, we felt like our classes could of done better with helping us prepared for receiving our first placement. Each class is probably a little different but our foster classes were not the best, but our adoption classes were amazing. We were both nervous going into it and I can’t even imagine what a child is going through.😢. But definitely one of the best decisions we have ever made.🤗. Thanks for watching and commenting, love it!😁❤️
As a ward of the state Im recommending you know that we are /were broken.. We have a score to settle...and many of us have nothing to lose... Like befriending a cancerous wolf... Can go either way.. Be ready.
This. Thank you for sharing this reality. This is why we do what we do and wish and pray we can do more. Please know that we care and there are many many others out there like us who care for you. And, Jesus loves you. ❤️
Thank you for sharing, I’m in the process of getting this done and this video really help me.
Stephanie, that’s so awesome! 🙌👏
We just finished our final fostering class last night... we have TB tests, physicals, fingerprinting, and rabies updates this week and next and then we are close to finishing up our application!
That’s so exciting! It’s a huge process and feels great when it’s done, doesn’t it? I’m so happy for you guys keep us posted and give us a shout if you have any questions. 😀
What is the rabies update about?
Love your point about visitors. People probably mean well but the children are not animals at the zoo. Good point! 😊
Yes! It was so hard at first because so many people want to help out and have the best of intentions. We learned pretty quick how to read our kiddos and how to not feel bad about saying, "No, thank you." Thanks for watching and for your encouragement! :)
I am thinking to foster and you made me feel more comfortable understanding the tips you guys discussed. Thank you for sharing your valuable information
So glad we were able to make you more comfortable. Let us know if you have any specific questions, we would love to help. It was super nerve racking when we first got started. We depended on so many people, since we were pretty much clueless on how anything worked, but it all worked out.😉. Thanks so much for watching and commenting!🤗❤️
Case managers are very different. I have been a foster child myself and I have also had DCF in my life several times due to my addiction which I am now in recovery from. The last worker I had was a voluntary case because of me being on methadone and accept the case open and my worker was amazing. Got me all sorts of things like cribs and bassinets and was able to get my children and daycare and when they were diagnosed autistic they made sure that early intervention did their job . But then there was all the times that I probably should have lost my oldest child and I didn't. Also I live in Boston where are DCF system sucks and many many children have died in foster care
Yes, so true, I have heard so may great stories about caseworkers/case managers and even bad ones. Thank goodness we were blessed with amazing caseworkers. I cant imagine how tough their job would be. Actually, two weeks ago we had the opportunity to sit down with a previous caseworker and interview her. The video is coming out on Sunday morning. It was awesome to hear her prospective on everything.😁. So glad you are recovering from your addiction, they can be super tough to beat. 🙌👍❤️🤗
@@Zero2FiveFamily addiction is probably the worst thing to ever happen to me and to my neighborhood. I can't even count how many people I've lost including my younger brother
Addiction is Horrible, we have had to deal with family members/relatives that have struggled with addiction and still do. It’s sad!😅 My heart goes out to you!❤️
@@Zero2FiveFamily thank you
My husband and I are wanting to be foster parents and we live in Missouri too and I was in foster care as a teenager. Thanks for the video.
Emily, that’s so exciting!!! Let us know if we can be of any help or you have questions. ❤️🤗
You guys are great! Honestly you would brighten any kids lives! I had no idea they paid for daycare! that’s a huge deal btw..why don’t they provide that for single mothers that are struggling? That makes no sense.
Exactly. They'll pay people to take away bio kids from poor parents but don't offer those perks to parents... Imagine if you got paid all that to have kids. Why is it just foster parents that get paid?
God bless you and your husband. May I ask how many children you have fostered
Hi Lorraine, you are more than welcome to ask us any questions. We have fostered 7 children and done some respite. Thanks for question and watching!😁❤️
Y'all are awesome. Thanks for sharing.
Awe, thank you Jessica! Hope it was helpful.
@@Zero2FiveFamily Yes it was. Thanks 😊
My husband and I WANT the older children. They are the ones we want to help, we feel they need us most. We want to help a teen get on track for a successful life on their own, with love, support, and mentorship from us. We don't need the money. Our children are grown and it's just us in a big house. But we are afraid, if I'm being honest. The things that are being told about the lack of support for the foster parents are scary. We've been told that there are so many limitations on the help you can provide. We just want to love a child like one of our own. ❤
I REALLY want to do this. But I don't know where to start!
Crissieburdette4654 I totally understand what you are feeling, I had many of the same feelings when we first started. We were fortunate to have many great case workers and team during our time fostering. To build a good support team around you may take some time and will grow over time. At first we had no one but as time went on we met many foster family’s and had many case workers we could lean on and ask for help or questions. We strived to build those relationships early on, which helped tremendously. Each state is different on what is allowed and not allowed. Here in Missouri we felt that there were many gray area and some rules/limitations would be overlooked if it is in the benefit of the child. There are definitely some rules that do make it hard to provide everything we believed would be beneficial to the child which made it tough for us. But we just keep the mindset that while the child was in our care we were going to love and care and strive to help that child in every way we possible could. We had to do some pushing back with caseworkers and voice our opinion and state what we thought was best for the child many times. We now look back on the struggles and we are so glad we were the voice for the children and can see the difference it made. I would suggest reaching out to your local childrens division and discuss what you would like to do. You may even want to look into respite care, which is watching kids for a short period of time. Through respite you could start making relationships with other foster family’s and start build a relationship with the caseworkers before going all in. Love hearing your heart. Thanks for sharing and let us know if there is anything we can do to help walk you through the process or help support. ❤️🤗
Hi there - I just wanted to pop some encouragement to you. I used to support 6 teenagers in my house. I met my daughter when she had just turned 16, and she is now 23. Helping her to learn, heal, and grow has been incredible, and now our family is preparing to welcome more kids into our home. My best advice would be to follow your heart and focus on getting to know your teen and spending quality time together - and giving them full control of the car stereo:) Often, the system puts a lot of pressure on these kids to be independent and develop skills. The best gift I gave my teen was to validate her feelings and prioritize her fun. You've got this! Take your time!
Hi! This was so informative. I just filled out the application to become a foster parent today. It's something I wanted to do since I was very young.
Jacqueline that is so exciting!❤️ 👏🙌
That closet warmed my heart
Awe, thank you! We might of gone a little overboard. 🤭. But it sure is nice to know they have what they need and multiple options.❤️🤗
Thank you for this! Much needed. I start foster care this weekend ❤️ GOD bless you guys.
That’s awesome, love hearing when others are fostering! There are so many kids that need a loving home 🏠. Thank you for taking that step of faith and opening your home to those beautiful kiddos.🤗❤️
@@Zero2FiveFamily absolutely ❤️❤️
God bless the both of you 🙏❤️
Awe, thank you!❤️
I love you guys. Thank you for the things you do for these children ❤️ You are the epitome of wonderful people.
Thank you Lauryn, but we are nothing special those little kiddos are the amazing ones!!🤗❤️
My husband and I are gonna be fostering for the first time 0-6 year olds and as the process keeps moving along I am starting to get very nervous. I saw stories of foster kids that acted out that would kick or hit or throw tantrums and now I'm worried that all the kids are going to be like this and that I won't know what to do or be able to handle it. My husband and I really want to foster to be able to help this kids to love them for however long they are with us for, to be a safe place for them while their lives have become chaotic. But, I've never had children, I can't actually have children of my own because of medical reason like ever. My husband and I can't afford to adopt to have kids in our lives. So, we came to fostering and we believe that it's a wonderful way to get to help children to make an impact on their lives and be able to be around kids is a bonus. So, I'm wondering if my nervous that is mixed with my excitement is normal? Or does it mean I shouldn't be doing this? I really want to foster, I was adopted and almost ended up in the foster system but was adopted before that happened. I'm just worried about not know what to do or how to help these children.
Hi Constance, thank you for sharing. We were at that exact place early on where we couldn’t afford to adopt. We ended up taking a step of faith and trusting that God would provide in which ever direction He would take us. After several years of trying to adopt internationally and then domestically, we ended up down the fostering path. It was scary and exciting all at the same time just like you say your experiencing. I think that’s normal. Part of the amazing benefit of fostering is that there is a huge support system that is there to help if needed or you have questions. There are also so many other foster parents out there that would love to help on your journey. The one thing you have to do is ask for help, which was hard for us, but there were so many resources and people that came along side us and helped guide us through different situations. We couldn’t have done it without them. We didn’t really know that so many resources existed until we were fostering. We were fortunate to have some amazing caseworkers ourselves and also the children had some amazing caseworkers that were so helpful. Thanks again for sharing! Let us know if we can help in any way.🤗❤️
You two are fabulous. Thank you for this video.
Well, I don’t know about that but thank you! 😁❤️
Just finished our homestudy on the 8th and waiting to get it back to sign and open our home
That’s so exciting!!!!🙌🤗❤️Congrats!
Thanks for all the information and the great compassion you two have. Hubby and I are almost home alone now,and we have a lot of compassion and love to show
That’s so awesome! Are you thinking of fostering?🤗❤️
God bless you for all the good you do❤
Elaine J, thank you!🤗❤️
You guys are awesome, thank you for this informative video. We are just licensed and waiting for our first placement. I really loved the canvas idea and the bell! Thanks!
ashley thompson thank you!😊. Congrats on getting licensed for fostering! That’s super exciting! I still remember every little detail about our first placement. The canvas paintings are great way to make the child feel at home. I think we are going to have the kids make new canvas paintings here pretty soon. They had a blast make their last ones. Thanks for watching!🤗❤️
I don't know what the healthcare and daycare assistance is for foster kids in my country, but at least i now know to ask about it. Thanks!
(having foster kids would be pretty far in the future, if I decide to do that)
Wow the door buzzer idea is amazing!
It definitely helped! Thanks for watching.👍