I just want to thank you all for having this discussion in the light... It has truly helped me open my mind and heart!! I was on a ledge and didn't know where to turn or what to think, I have a little more clarity and understanding now!!! ❤❤❤
They have an open marriage not polygany! He’s not making a marital commitment to both women so it’s an open marriage. Big can of worms 🪱diseases headaches to deal with!
She sounds very emotionally aware and healthy in that she at least knows what her ish is and isn’t tryin to project it. They both are very emotionally healthy and aware it seems. 🙌🏽
These labels are too much! She is aroused by men who meet her emotionally, this is normal especially if you have experienced trauma! Her husband just doesn’t turn her on and instead of being honest they have allowed him to go elsewhere. Because half of him is better than no one. Kmt
Can’t even wrap my head around this a woman who loves intimacy. I could have my partner every day. Sometimes I try to have him that often and he does his best to keep up with me but I know when I’ve asked for too much.
I think the only thing that makes this work is the husband knows that he will NEVER meet another woman that would love him unconditionally like that and stay. For her, I think she's not being totally honest about her feelings, but in the end she comfortable that he won't leave because she's giving him everything he wants. She's put on a little weight too. I wonder if she has insecurities about that. I guess they both benefit in a way. It's scary to believe that this is becoming the new norm.
I agree with you. 😊 Polygamy can greatly benefit modern women, when done Biblically. For my list of benefits, take a look at my two part episodes called "How Polygyny Suits Female Hypergamy better than Monogamy" , where I list ten of the reasons from a woman's perspective 🙂
I love this for them. They can literally say that they are best friends. Women call their men their best friends all the time but he can’t come to her and tell her that he’s into another women. Does that really make them your best friend at that point if everyone is hiding their truths? Sounds like she doesn’t desire multiple men but shout out to her for coming up with a solution that works for them. This is the true definition of unconditional love 👏🏽
It should be obvious to even the most amateur observer,, that monogamy does not come natural to the human species (although there are a few animals species on this planet, where monogamy does come naturally. But human beings aren’t one of them). Although Long-term pair bonding does occur within the human species. it doesn’t necessarily mean,, monogamy. Down through human history, diverse cultures throughout the world practiced different relationship styles. Including polygyny, polyandry, polygamy, polyamory/ethical non-monogamy. Where there is consent there is no cheating. Legal government/state controlled or religious controlled or mandated Marriage,, is a made-up concept. It does not exist in nature. But as I mentioned,, pair bonding does comes natural to the human species..
This is not fair to the husband. He has been denied of the intimacy a wife in a loving relation could give him. Sex is more than physical for a married couple it means more closeness. She also has to see a doctor to see if there is something wrong with her. He should go for poligamy and let his needs be satistisfy. There is nothing more frustratating to live and sleep in the same bed with your wife but be denied intimacy. At his age, he don't have to go about looking for a hookup, that"s for teenagers.
Sex should never be na obligation. At that point it becomes non-consesual. Further asexuality and low libido people are not broken and needing to be fixed.
@@davien001 that is a very warped idea of what a relationship is, needless to say marriage. I understand how one comes to have that thought because for a lot of human history many folks have been told you are obligated to meet every need of your partner, regardless of your consent or wants, and if you don't then you fail. The thing is that is a very narrow way and unrealistic way to look at relationships. You will never meet every single need of a person. Doubly so when we factor in that sometimes what a person needs is Not Us. That is why they have friends, family, associates, doctors, lawyers, auto-mechanics. We can love someone deeply but they cannot fill every role or want for us all the time. Setting that standard ultimately undermines the marriage, creating unhealthy insecurities that our worth is based on our ability to either deny ourselves or prove our use. This contributes to unhealthy attachment styles and worsened anxiety. In the worst cases this can also contribute to abuse patterns, minimizing controlling behavior, and generally normalize poor partnership in relationships. Further, obligation is a cold word for what should be consent, communication, agreement, and honesty. One of the classic examples of how toxic the idea of obligation is, is around sexual intercourse. Until fairly recently assaults and violations were seen as justified, coercion was as well, due to it being "obligation" to perform. This was incredibly harmful to the autonomy of women and girls in numerous ways, but also of men and boys. It creates relationships and acts built not on mutual desire but force. It actively turns what should be mutual joy into a chore. How does that benefit anyone? Putting the morals aside here, studies show that having sex out of obligation decreases sexual and relationship satisfaction. Obligation has frequently ben found to negatively impact aspects of partnership once it is no longer a "I want to do this" and once someone isn't able to connect to why they may want to on their own terms. But personally...I would rather my partners enjoy me for the sake of enjoying
@@ClinicallyPolyamNatBLK I'm Nigerian, the culture here is heavy on fulfilling your role to your spouse, wives can even get you in trouble if you don't fulfill your roles including sexually satisfying them so it goes both ways, nobody points a gun to anyones head to do anything, there's just a general understanding during courtship that your body belongs to your spouse now, if either spouse refuses too often then they better get ready to be single.
@davien001 that mindset is one that has a lot of negative psychological impacts. Hopefully over time consent and understanding shit because that idea can make sex lives so much harder and unpleasant
So in essence they are a poly couple because she is asexual. How do they feel about their own child becoming poly as an adult if he wants to? I've had so many conversations about this over the years and even those in traditional poly marriages say there's a serious impact on the children if the women and children are not treated equally🤔 The West is not conducive for this dynamic especially where children are concerned.
Children become adults, and will make their own decisions on how they want to live. The parents will not have an input at that point, and what they think will have little impact.
Weirdos!!! To eachies own but they changing the rules there just in open relationship!!!! Poly I thought was two women. I’m new so I’m lost lol ig there is different kinds
To each his / her own. With all the STD's out here, Poly, open relationship, cheating, etc (none of the above is for me).
I just want to thank you all for having this discussion in the light... It has truly helped me open my mind and heart!! I was on a ledge and didn't know where to turn or what to think, I have a little more clarity and understanding now!!! ❤❤❤
They have an open marriage not polygany! He’s not making a marital commitment to both women so it’s an open marriage. Big can of worms 🪱diseases headaches to deal with!
Great Interview!
She sounds very emotionally aware and healthy in that she at least knows what her ish is and isn’t tryin to project it. They both are very emotionally healthy and aware it seems. 🙌🏽
This is a great interview but i have so many questions. Like if his wife was not A sexual, would he still be cool with the relationship.
Yes he would
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This was an enlightening and engaging discussion about polyamory. Thank you for helping to normalize this topic.
These labels are too much! She is aroused by men who meet her emotionally, this is normal especially if you have experienced trauma!
Her husband just doesn’t turn her on and instead of being honest they have allowed him to go elsewhere. Because half of him is better than no one. Kmt
Ooof. THIS
Does he know he doesn’t fill her emotionally?
Great interview Eric.. he’s a good dude..
I just received knowledge on asexual people. I now understand why the wife is ok with an open marriage or poly relationship. Interesting
Can’t even wrap my head around this a woman who loves intimacy. I could have my partner every day. Sometimes I try to have him that often and he does his best to keep up with me but I know when I’ve asked for too much.
I think the only thing that makes this work is the husband knows that he will NEVER meet another woman that would love him unconditionally like that and stay. For her, I think she's not being totally honest about her feelings, but in the end she comfortable that he won't leave because she's giving him everything he wants. She's put on a little weight too. I wonder if she has insecurities about that. I guess they both benefit in a way. It's scary to believe that this is becoming the new norm.
Seems like codepency to me
💯 agree
💯 agree
She doesn’t seem insecure at all to me. Not sure where you get that from. She seems very comfortable with herself. IMO at least. 🙌🏽 baby.
Why is it scary to you that consensual nonmonogamy becomes normalized?
I agree with you. 😊 Polygamy can greatly benefit modern women, when done Biblically. For my list of benefits, take a look at my two part episodes called "How Polygyny Suits Female Hypergamy better than Monogamy" , where I list ten of the reasons from a woman's perspective 🙂
I appreciate these conversations because polyamory is being polluted by hook up culture. It’s not the same.
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I love this for them. They can literally say that they are best friends. Women call their men their best friends all the time but he can’t come to her and tell her that he’s into another women. Does that really make them your best friend at that point if everyone is hiding their truths? Sounds like she doesn’t desire multiple men but shout out to her for coming up with a solution that works for them. This is the true definition of unconditional love 👏🏽
Their story is so unique
Next year as a commited husband im ready for the jheri
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I'd only agree to a FMF closed triad relationship...
See the look she made when he mentioned cheating she def was cheating before saying fuck it we poly
It should be obvious to even the most amateur observer,, that monogamy does not come natural to the human species (although there are a few animals species on this planet, where monogamy does come naturally. But human beings aren’t one of them). Although Long-term pair bonding does occur within the human species. it doesn’t necessarily mean,, monogamy. Down through human history, diverse cultures throughout the world practiced different relationship styles. Including polygyny, polyandry, polygamy, polyamory/ethical non-monogamy. Where there is consent there is no cheating. Legal government/state controlled or religious controlled or mandated Marriage,, is a made-up concept. It does not exist in nature. But as I mentioned,, pair bonding does comes natural to the human species..
But considerations have to be made for unplanned pregnancies and STDs. In spite of how careful you are, these outcomes are always possible.
@@melstarr1864taking precautions isn’t difficult. It’s 2024..bc, contraception, abortion is a thing.
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This is not fair to the husband. He has been denied of the intimacy a wife in a loving relation could give him. Sex is more than physical for a married couple it means more closeness. She also has to see a doctor to see if there is something wrong with her. He should go for poligamy and let his needs be satistisfy. There is nothing more frustratating to live and sleep in the same bed with your wife but be denied intimacy. At his age, he don't have to go about looking for a hookup, that"s for teenagers.
Sex should never be na obligation. At that point it becomes non-consesual. Further asexuality and low libido people are not broken and needing to be fixed.
You're obliged to satisfy your partners needs, that's why it's a marriage, not a friendship.
@@davien001 that is a very warped idea of what a relationship is, needless to say marriage. I understand how one comes to have that thought because for a lot of human history many folks have been told you are obligated to meet every need of your partner, regardless of your consent or wants, and if you don't then you fail.
The thing is that is a very narrow way and unrealistic way to look at relationships. You will never meet every single need of a person. Doubly so when we factor in that sometimes what a person needs is Not Us. That is why they have friends, family, associates, doctors, lawyers, auto-mechanics. We can love someone deeply but they cannot fill every role or want for us all the time. Setting that standard ultimately undermines the marriage, creating unhealthy insecurities that our worth is based on our ability to either deny ourselves or prove our use.
This contributes to unhealthy attachment styles and worsened anxiety. In the worst cases this can also contribute to abuse patterns, minimizing controlling behavior, and generally normalize poor partnership in relationships.
Further, obligation is a cold word for what should be consent, communication, agreement, and honesty. One of the classic examples of how toxic the idea of obligation is, is around sexual intercourse. Until fairly recently assaults and violations were seen as justified, coercion was as well, due to it being "obligation" to perform. This was incredibly harmful to the autonomy of women and girls in numerous ways, but also of men and boys. It creates relationships and acts built not on mutual desire but force. It actively turns what should be mutual joy into a chore. How does that benefit anyone?
Putting the morals aside here, studies show that having sex out of obligation decreases sexual and relationship satisfaction. Obligation has frequently ben found to negatively impact aspects of partnership once it is no longer a "I want to do this" and once someone isn't able to connect to why they may want to on their own terms.
But personally...I would rather my partners enjoy me for the sake of enjoying
@@ClinicallyPolyamNatBLK I'm Nigerian, the culture here is heavy on fulfilling your role to your spouse, wives can even get you in trouble if you don't fulfill your roles including sexually satisfying them so it goes both ways, nobody points a gun to anyones head to do anything, there's just a general understanding during courtship that your body belongs to your spouse now, if either spouse refuses too often then they better get ready to be single.
@davien001 that mindset is one that has a lot of negative psychological impacts. Hopefully over time consent and understanding shit because that idea can make sex lives so much harder and unpleasant
This definetly not poly
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He said....i can get this from this person who CARES for me. He feels unloved
She doesn't love him
Open relationship. At least they’re honest.
So in essence they are a poly couple because she is asexual. How do they feel about their own child becoming poly as an adult if he wants to?
I've had so many conversations about this over the years and even those in traditional poly marriages say there's a serious impact on the children if the women and children are not treated equally🤔
The West is not conducive for this dynamic especially where children are concerned.
Children become adults, and will make their own decisions on how they want to live. The parents will not have an input at that point, and what they think will have little impact.
She dated outside the relationship as well. So it’s not all bc of him.
@@abiodun-b9💯 There are many ways to get there and worrying about what others believe only keeps you from your happiness. That’s what I’ve found.
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Weirdos!!! To eachies own but they changing the rules there just in open relationship!!!! Poly I thought was two women. I’m new so I’m lost lol ig there is different kinds
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She seems delusional I’m sorry lol
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