“If you cannot find a good companion to walk with, walk alone, like an elephant roaming the jungle. It is better to be alone than to be with those who will hinder your progress.”
cyantulip thats bullshit, where do you get your facts from? Elephants can survive alone after 12-15 years after puberty they leave the heard, most elephants live solitary lives alone or with another. But they don’t die of lonliness (emotion). They have been shown to show emotion and ‘heart break’ like symptoms such as tears and crying but it has never killed them. One possible article you may be referring to was a biased news feed they titled using the work ‘lonely elephant’ but it had died after 43 years in solitary environment. A younger elphant died when it got lost but the news also labelled it died of ‘lonliness’ not STARVATION and stress.
After living 30 years on this earth, my final conclusion after all my phases in life is like this...... You have to follow your heart and be true to yourself. There is no greater blessing in life than self fulfillment. If somebody comes along who likes you for it, it is better to take the journey of life with them. But never compromise yourself to make someone else happy. That is when everything falls apart.
Val: I'll add to this that compromise is good when both partners actually care about each other. Compromise is borne of empathy. So are relationships (the good ones). If both partners have a common goal that's greater than themselves individually, compromising is logical and they can work out anything together. Gotta have empathy though. My parents never divorced and told me that it was a common decision that my mother would stay at home and look after their kids. It was hard for both; they had three kids to raise and my father didn't always find work. But they believed in family and marriage and now all their kids are stable adults.
Dude, I'm living that right now, its just a shame she wouldn't come with me, although I walked with hers for a good length of time. Parting is such sweet sorrow.
“If you cannot find a good companion to walk with, walk alone, like an elephant roaming the jungle. It is better to be alone than to be with those who will hinder your progress.”
You can't make a blanket statement like that. It's not necessarily true. I can't say that all men are jerks because I know that's not true. It just feels like most of the ones who are "left over" for me to choose from are jerks! Most....but not all!
+Eponine Thenardier - do you know how many kids are born with out the consent of the man ?? No off course cause you don't care !! Better to be safe then Sorry !!
+All Total Coaching You don't know me at all. I believe children need a mother and a father. If a woman wants a baby so badly that she'd lie and say she's on the pill, and the man does not want to be a father, she should be ready to carry the load herself. They should have this conversation *before* they get naked. " *Of* course....better safe *than* sorry."
I've done it once before, many years ago: realized it, and said "I am not what you want." I could keep going without a hitch, but I knew her goals laid beyond me and beyond the relationship I saw for the future. So I sat her down, explained it, and forced myself to part ways. Loved her? Yes. Did she love me? Briefly afterward until the anger caught up with her. But she's married now and happier with someone more her speed, with more common goals in life. She may not think highly of me, bu I know I took the right path so she could find hers.
Years ago a woman told me she didn't want kids. She kept telling me repeatedly. I told her I was neither new or slow so why was she continuously bringing it up and she responded saying maybe she was wasting my time. A gear kicked down in my head and I responded that hmm maybe she was. End of relationship, but it allowed me to go on and meet my daughters Mother and though we are no longer together I have an amazing daughter and a great respectful relationship with her Mum as well. Now recently I stopped dating a Woman and then met a new Woman a few days after. Turns out she's 39 and a few dates in told me she wanted kids and I said I was not in that mind frame and told her the story above and told her I don't want to waste your time because if you're set on that then you need to be free to pursue what you desire. It was as difficult as it was necessary. So guys, take responsibility for not only what you want and ladies too! 🙏👍😃 Thanks Matthew
My dad married a younger woman. He was 50 when he had me. I'm 20 now. Know how old my dad is today? Dead. He is dead. My mom has been widowed for over 10 years now and she doesn't deserve that. Woman really shouldn't date too much older. Only 20 and 30 somethings should be having kids.
I'm sorry about that and my youngest brother says similar things about old parents. My parents were close but I'm the eldest of 7 and my youngest brother is 17 and I'm 33. Dad is 69, mum is 57...dad had a heart attack a few years ago but survived. Thing is... Us 4 older kids can't imagine life without the young two "accidents." We try to do what mum and dad can't anymore. Every day my youngest siblings are amazing, I'm a better person for them and if you lived near us, mum would have you all over a lot. You were v unlucky. Love.
Me Two: your thought process about longevity is screwed up. People die @ any age 20s, 30s,40s.... you can be 24 marred to a 24 and by 35 you could be a widow. It happens all the time. Anyway, you’ve got a little growing up to do. Maybe aging will give you a better perspective on this. Good luck.
Thank Matthew! That's what I wished my male friends in college to understand. They told me to relax, enjoy life and focus one thing at a time, like job, habit or sport. I tried but it's hard. I realize I can't live the same lifestyle as them.
Thanks for the mansplaining. Such wisdom. Never heard of such novelty before. So just go on with the non thinking behaviour then. Live only for your own pleasure and die alone and happy
As men age especially after 40 the risk of having defective sperm rises, autism and chromosome mishaps. It is not solely on the woman's age. It is the man's age as well that can cause birth defects. Honestly with a man's life expectancy to be usually shorter than women's, men have a biological ticking clock as well. Just because he can make a baby doesn't mean or guarantee it will be healthy.
@ J Romeo Please post where you got this information. I've read a little about this and nowhere do i see the age of "40" if anything it's more about the of "55" Men and women are not on the same time frame when it comes to having children. www.verywellfamily.com/does-age-affect-male-fertility-1959934
@@vAndres49erz It's actually the age of 35 when sperm quality decreases, the risk of autism and schizophrenia (because of the father) increases, as does the risk of miscarriage (again, because of older fathers - regardless of the mothers age) and rates of conception decrease (regardless of the mother's age). About 50% of all IVF is because of the male partner only. Do not be conned into thinking you'll find someone who wants to start a family with you at 55 - it's highly, highly unlikely. It's also unlikely you'll be able to, as well as unlikely you'll live to see the kid grow up. Men and women ARE on the same time frame when it comes to having children. Older women even have much higher fertility rates with younger partners - because sperm quality is a critical factor.
@@kp361 If I'm in shape, got my shit together, and at the age of 55 I can still date down and get a woman in her 30's. Let's no be foolish into thinking that's not possible. But, I agree with you on the idea of having kids at an old age is not a good idea, because I won't be around too long. (I personally think once passed 45 it's too old.)
@@vAndres49erz You can find an ugly girl with daddy issues or a golddigger, yeah. Just like a woman can find some strange young boy who has a thing about MILFs. Let's be real here, dude. Hardly a win. And as your fertility starts to decline in your 30s (just like it does for women) if that 30-something wants kids, you're a really bad bet unless she wants those kids to have autism or schizophrenia (which are attributed overwhelmingly to older fathers). Also much higher rates of miscarriage and infertility with older fathers (50% of all IVF is male factor only) because sperm degrades with age, no matter how young the woman is. Better to just plan like women do - if you want kids, as you say, do it before 45, instead of pretending you have all the time in the world. You don't.
Nice one Matt. I got out of a relationship in my 20s with a guy who wanted kids and I didn't, it wasn't fair of me to stop him from having what he wanted and it was the kindest thing I could do. I'd do it again. Last time I got into an LTR I asked him early on if he wanted kids just so I didn't waste his time, life's too short.
Thank you for sharing this message, Matthew. It doesn't apply to me in the direct sense (ie, children, at least not at the moment), but it could even apply to other meaningful goals. If someone is holding you back, then they should *step* back. It so reinforces your message of knowing and setting your standards, and creating value in your life, so I salute you for this one. :)
My girlfriend is in her mid 30's now and I'm mid 20's but neither of us are even thinking about kids. She's never mentioned it and when I asked her she says she's not interested at the moment. So I don't know what to make of it in the long term. She's a career woman and completely independent and I've recently gone back to school with her help so I can finish my master's. I live with her by the way and we've been dating for 2 years and we're getting along fine without kids and I don't think she feels any pressure at all to have them. But if she ever does I don't have a problem giving her kids if it's what she really wants.
Women want to settle in the end too. Being insencere with her and wasting her time makes you a societal jerk and a blight. Stop wasting womens lives. Also for the girls, stop whoring around and get married in your 20's.
Don't stress yourself what is already over. You had your time. Now accept what you can not change anymore. Life is also great without kids. And you can do also social work with kids and younger people. I know this is painful but don't be sadden by the things you cannot change.
Good message you share here! No one will give you back the time you lost in a relationship that Leads nowhere. If you don’t have common goals then don’t drag things on forever just because of convenience.
I see a lot of woman hating here and it is disheartening. Were you men not brought up by your mothers???!?! My mother did a lot more for the family and for us than my useless father ever did. And the reason why I am still a single woman at the age of 39 is because I am so afraid of meeting a man like my father that I never wanted to date. And when I finally dated, i met the wrong guys. It so easy for men coming here just to blame the women for being used cars and all that. Like guys can sleep around all he wants and nobody says a damn thing or bats an eyelid. But girls can't have that right? Jeebus, you guys make me laugh, so much hypocrisy.
vedwyr aw u poor thing, what were u doing during your 20s. So at 39 you've been living a pretty long time. What have you been doing all your life. Sweet princess or are you lying like most females and have finished riding the cock train and is on verge of becoming invincible, walking zombie looking for young sweet guys like me, To have kids with sorry but lots of men have taken advantaged of, don't assume all men are players and bad boys.
Women have all the power in dating game so the set up is not equal so why there should be equal results - its easy for women to get men and for men its hard to get women so using your privileged position should be same thing than others hard work?
If she wants kids she should date someone who wants the same, she can make the decision to leave she shouldn't let her future to be in her partner hands. When im 35 im going to have kids, if im lucky to be in love with someone who wants same that would be great but if not i will adopt on my own, both women and men have no reason to not live de life they want.
That's easier said than done, I dated a guy first he didn't want a kid then he did. He said he wanted to be married for years and have a few kid's we did this for 11yrs to then find out he don't know what wanted. We broke up I loved him
I'm 22 and lost the only man I've ever loved to this. I was hurt, but grateful. He was older, had kids already and knew he didn't want more. And I do. I am thankful he left, I don't think I'd be strong enough to do so.
@shakhir r contrary to popular belief, it's possible for men to leave women I assure you, especially when they try shit test you into not doing so, and you don't fall for it
@@jaymcd8577 Yeah he’s here condoning the excess of the hubris and outrageousness of too many of the opposite sex and allowing and perpetuating society condoning excusing and enabling it against men. He thinks it’ll get him some or that he won’t be targeted next.
Wow. Just found this video Matthew and I am blown away. Thank you for your compassion, your honesty. I know that love is out there for me as an older professional divorced woman. Listening and watching this video gives me the strength to stick to my guns and not settle. Well done Matthew, well done.
Wow, Matthew, so well said! Thank you for taking on this subject this way! This is exactly what is happening according to me. As the pressure rises we women have more challenges by this in our 30s.
As a single man in his 30’s who does want children...if we say we don’t want children yet at this age, it’s not ever going to happen. Same with getting married. Whether divorced or never have found that person, ANY male by age 30 that is still “playing the game” will never ever change. It’s just male cognition and behavior, ladies, hopefully that saves you time and effort in finding what you want...
Totally wrong! If you're in a relationship you have to respect and ensure that it will happen...and not walk away... childs are not oets whom you can bring back to the grossery store
@@charlesdc1233 by what decree in a Democracy does it say any person, male or female, has to “ensure it happens!?” If someone does not want to be married or ever have kids, that is their HUMAN RIGHT. I don’t know where you came up with the metaphor of what I said being compared to taking kids back to a store like they are pets, though 🤦🏼♂️
this is such a nice message you are sharing Matthew. I don't believe I have ever heard this argument being brought up when analyzing relationships. hopefully this influences some men to be more careful when they are playing around long term with women who want something more serious. lovely message!
@shakhir r sadly thats the sad truth... hahahahaha. If he looked like this guy in the video he wouldnt have been divorced. And if he married a woman outside the country he wouldnt either.
@shakhir r I see your point. However, a good number of men "prefer(ed)" to be married with or without knowing the consequences. Warning men in the West about marriage is a relatively recent phenomenon.
I was thinking the same thing too! LMAO Majority of women had too much fun in their 20's and neglected their future life but age caught with them finally. Women in her 30's: "Time to settle with that unattractive guy with attractive resources and slowly develop feelings for him. How did my love life become a nightmare?! At least I'm good at faking'O."
1:00 as a man in my 30s, I do feel the pressure too. But it is less physiological. It is psychological. I don't want to have teenage kids when I am in my 50s. I want to be healthy to be able to be around them.
Isn't that obvious? The same as he said in the video: the guy should leave the relationship. And this is even if he deeply loves her (unless he really wants her more than ever having children).
I'll be blunt, the world doesn't need you if you think your job is to place others in a situation/life-situation of pain and suffering. If your desires call for you to do those things, there is no doubt that there is something deeper within you that is corrupt. If your goal is to hurt people, there is definitely something wrong... Not with the world. But with you. Dreams don't have to be destroyed because of mental scumbags. Whether you're a guy or a lady, be prepared for the possibility that your significant other will stab you in the back. Keep that expectation just to be safe. We're all human, and there is no sexism against the cruel intents of human nature.
I only date women below 30, i'm 34. That doesn't mean that I don't find them attractive, but for women in their 30s kids are a "now or never" thing, so it leaves you no time to develop a deep relationship with them before having kids. This really increases the chances of divorce while kids are young and just a lot of pain for everyone involved. So that is why I date younger women, because we have more time to figure out if we are suited for each other.
How long do you need to “figure it out”? Plenty of men date a woman for 4-5 years, only for it to be “ops, not the one. Bye.” If you’re dating a 28 year old, she would be 33 by the time you decide you don’t love her. Then you go back happily into the market, and she’s there starting over again. Please don’t waste your woman’s time “figuring it out.” There are very specific characteristics you should look for in finding a partner. Most can be identified in 2 years or less if you pay attention. Consistency of character, how she deals with certain situations, her core principles and values, etc
I left my ex fiance for this very reason. He didn't want to settle but wasn't even breaking up. He microcheated on me over the last 6 years and then one of our best friends told me that he asked her on a date. So that was the last straw. I called him up and broke off. I do feel lonely and I have not been able to meet men but I have a high hope.
This is a great topic Matthew! Both sexes have to be aware of what they truly want when it comes to children. Assuming it will naturally lead there is not a smart thing to do. You need to have the discussion in the earlier stages of a relationship. I don't mean the first few dates but you both need to be on the same page for the future. I know many 30+year old women who want children but only date younger guys who aren't even thinking about kids. Knowing that your partner is sincerely on the same path as you is very important!
I guess a big problem is alot of women think they don't want kids until they hit around 30 and then a switch is turned and they start looking for a man to settle down with. The problem is most men in her age range are going to want to date and settle down with younger women. Women who will have less relationship trauma and less fertility complications with having a child. I think alot of women are lied to about pursuing careers. Sometimes I can't tell if this was actually the freedom women wanted or if they were just used and abused by the capitalist system to extract the most labour from women while they are still in their prime. I don't know, maybe i'm off base :/
The man I love with all my heart has done this. He told me he loves me, but it’s unfair to me if he can’t give me everything he thinks “I deserve”. (i.e. a family).
Matthew, this is beautiful! Thank you so much for putting this out here. I am not someone in that kind of predicament but I think this is just a fantastic message you have shared.
I had my 4 kids in my 20 s and early 30 s. the joy of being young and strong when my kids wanted to be active and play sports was priceless. we can biologically reproduce into our 80 s but it is less rewarding when slowed by age.
@I Was Here Look at Arnold Schwartzenneger(used steroids and fucked himself up and still had kids at old age), and look at Harrison Ford. Each had children long after 40 and 50. The younger woman with the older man still produced quality, non-handicapped children who are studs. Furthermore, encouraging men to become fathers as soon as they can is a bit irresponsible, especially since they can almost never provide until their 30s or sometimes 40s--MEN BECOME FATHERS EARLY IN THE GHETTO ALL THE TIME. PLUS men have a harder time getting dates, even if they are very attractive, because women don't have the thirst to bother men for sex all the time. Hell, I see 39 year old hotties cheat on their husbands with legit fat druggy dudes(who supply drugs). Come on.
@I Was Here Look at Arnold Schwarzenegger(used steroids and fucked himself up and still had kids at old age), and look at Harrison Ford. Each had children long after 40 and 50. The younger woman with the older man still produced quality, non-handicapped children who are studs. Furthermore, encouraging men to become fathers as soon as they can is a bit irresponsible, especially since they can almost never provide until their 30s or sometimes 40. Try finding as many female examples of having kids at older ages. On the other hand, MEN BECOME FATHERS EARLY IN THE GHETTO ALL THE TIME, so having kids super early for men is not necessarily or naturally better. Really, there is less than half the pressure on men to have kids early than there is women, IF you defer to the study of nature and not politics. The quality of sperm produced after a man is 40 being bad in any truly concerning way is played up due to some political beliefs of certain folks wanting an impossible equality. A man in his 40s who fathers children is similar to a woman in her 30s producing children. PLUS men have a harder time getting dates, even if they are very attractive, because women don't have the thirst to bother men for sex all the time, plus women have more to lose if they screw up. . But yes, men have to compete harder to even date women, even if they are attractive, even with low-quality women who often demand more for the long-term than their worth. On the other hand, I see 39 year old "hotties" cheat on their husbands with legit fat druggy dudes(who supply drugs).
@@lauragraves4342 wrong, not only You have all the legal and social biases in your favour, but you fail to realize your power because as the liberals love to say, privilege is invisible to those born with it. Women are born rich and at her prime at 19 with the masses of men climbing over each other to get with her at your most sexual market value valuable, all UNEARNED. Men have never had that and always had to work and earn and that’s why we are born poor but (if we play our cards right and achieve and continue to achieve) die rich, as the expression goes. Women are ‘born’ with it without effort or work so that’s why she loses it inevitably. Men have to work for it and maintain for the rest of our lives, BUT OUR advantage is that it isn’t age or youth dependant. Late bloomers are always a thing because our status can be built and the high status male at 50 can get with (without commitment) the best 20 something women at their prime. Think it over
I agree. The honesty is most important . I hate people who deceive and use others for their pleasure , doesn't matter a man or a woman. I just wish all people would respect and be conciderate to each other
Couldn't agree more - if ultimately you don't see similar futures together it's not going to work. It's not fair to ask someone to give up the life they want. That's why I ended my last relationship, I'd rather pursue the possibility than settle for the reality of that never happening for me
I actually cried when u said "lets be kind to eachother" its so difficult these days and its sad that we have to learn about relationships through internet.
Vasectomy without her knowing! Don't let her ruin your life! She's going to be a future single mom anyway. You don't want that life guys. Child support, told when you can see your kids, and being denied the tiniest bit of respect.
@@biffii5568 No. Maybe I can explain it with another example. Being lesbian is not about hating men or being bitter about men. It's about being with a women. MGTOW is about men going their own way. Bitterness is feeling when you want something but you feel helpless. MGTOW is about accepting/choosing that you are going your own way. So you couldn't be bitter. Otherwise you didn't accept/choose to go your own way.You wouldn't be in the state of mgtow yet.
There are just as many good women out there. We too have been burned by little boy men. I however chose to be sterilized because I actually want to live a life with a good man without the pressure of building anymore family members. Where ever I can find him idk. Only time will tell. Until then I attract what I think I deserve. I gotta work on me inside and out❤️
@@down2earth136 right but the good ladies never gave good guys a chance. They wanna be part of the bad bois play list. Not our fault. You women had the choice, we men didnt. Theres a difference.
I’m so glad you have made a video on this and I hope there are men that watch it and take your advice. I agree one hundred percent that if a man really loves a woman, he will let her go so that she has a chance at having that desire of having children fulfilled. I had a man do that for me, and as sad as I was to lose that relationship, I felt so incredibly loved and valued in his act of ending it for my sake. I believe that a man who truly loves a woman will make sacrifices for her and this was a sacrifice that he made for me without me even asking.
If a man loves you truly he would wanna procreate with you. Im a man. I dont wanna get the wrong girl pregnant. I dont want to be connected to her forever through our children
“Men” today don’t make any sense. All they care about is their money which they’ll never enjoy anyway because they’re too busy making more of it. They’ll regret being 70 old sick and alone with no kids to visit them, no grandkids to love, no wife to take care of him. Just a old waste of life with lots of money in the bank.
@@Butterfly-fd6pr Trust me lol you do not want to go there. Men can be fine being alone when women were 18 ir in college they wasted their 20s on the wrong guys. 80% of the male population from ages to 18-25 are not sexually active. There are 80% of men who feel unwanted not only by women but by society because he has no value at age 18 to 25 he was alone. Now you expect a man to be with you when you wasted and ignore him in your good years hell no your not worth it. We are fine alone or dating younger brad pitt is 50 and dating 28 year old you dont want to play the long game women lol we are used to loneliness
@@doingsomething5084 Most men are not Brad Pitt, so do not plan your life around them. I highly doubt Brad Pitt was celibate between 18-25 - and the men who are, are, as I say, not going to suddenly turn into Brad Pitt. What a ridiculous example!
I was born in eastern europe but I live in the states, I'm 30... About 3 years ago my mom had a physical check up so she brought me along so I can translate because her English just never caught on, before the doctor's come in usually a nurse will come in with clipboard ask question fill in boxes and give to the doctor... Now Everytime the nurse asked my mom a question my mom would look at me and I would translate now hence the nurse is around my mom's age... After a few min of doing the translation helping my mother out the nurse kept giving me and my mom this sorrow look and regret where you could notice, before I could ask her about her status she asked me like " is she ur mom?". " Are you translating for her" ect ect, so then I asked her if she had kids n all that stuff, she said in a very sad sorrow voice "Nope, it's just me and my cats" then she looked at the floor for a second and I swore I thought she was gonna break down crying.. I felt really bad for her but she had a chance when she was young to start a family and grow old with like my mom has grown old with me, sister and our Father.
that's why exactly I left her because we didn't agree about it having kids. I love her so much but I let her go to find someone that she can have kids with
I once had the reverse. When I was a lot younger my first bf was 5 years older than me, we were really happy, together for over 2 years. Then he started to talk about getting a house and children and I wanted to go to university at that time. In the end we parted ways, shortly after he married and had 3 kids. It was hard but in the long run the best decision because I could not at that age, give him what he wanted.
and where are you now. single, childless, older and maybe on some type of anti-depressant. Now your older its harder to get a suitable partner that wont lead u on. Society has lied to you and your a product of that lie thats why your watching this video
@@doingsomething5084 Your comment is pure projection. Women are people, just like men. They do not all want to marry and have kids by the time they turn 21. Nor do they need to. Society has lied to YOU and YOU'RE a product of that lie, that's why YOU'RE watching this video. Get a grip and get a life.
I agree 100% and appreciate hearing from a man - honest is the best policy, instead of wasting one another's considerable amount of time and heart ache
@@todoldtrafford women want to be lied to, not told the truth. If he told the truth he wouldnt make money... so which one u wanna pick? Tell the truth and nobody listens or tell a lie and get millions of views.
Tri Le I tell the truth. I see it for what it is. Hussey is pandering to his audience and is giving women a false sense comfort. He knows that women in their 30s and up have bitten more than they can chew. He knows men have no obligation to commit just like women have no obligation to give away attention. Heck he’s dated women in their 20s and not the older women that he preaches to.
@@whathappenedwas7083 no it isn’t. Men are valuable if they can get sex because it’s an accomplishment. For women it is precisely the opposite because literally almost any woman can get a line up of guys willing to have sex with her
I experience the opposite situation. I'm a (nearly) 34 years old woman, and know I don't want children. I always discuss it in, as no need to go deeper in the relation if we don't have the same views. The main reaction that comes back EACH time: "I'll be the one to make you change your mind." Instant red alarm that moves you from the potential case to the jerk case. I don't want to change my mind. It's not a game, nor a car purchase. I made my decision very carefully and never been so happy since.
@@sonicjetson6253 Well, seeing as nearly 40% of people in care homes & hospitals barely have visits from family and friends or no visits at all, I don't think this is a valid reason to have children
Men and woman need to be honest and realistic with their current goals in life and understand that sometimes you will meet someone who will not be on the same page with you. BUT that's ok.
Exactly. Honesty in the beginning is the key. If they don't want children or a family they should make the things clear. It is unfair for us. It's not right for me, when they make the women "waste her time" in a relationship that will never go to a next level. It is a pity that the majority of guys on nowdays think in the same way that many guys on this comment chart. It seems that they expect that we accept things with our mouth and eyes shut. It seems that they don't see us like human, just like a object.
@@Jessica_BR Women in their 20s play games with men, are always indecisive and make things difficult for men, so why should men make things easier to them once they are in their 30s?
@@Jessica_BR Why should we have any mercy or consideration? We as a whole, never received any back in the day before we had hit our stride and prime, from your side, who were at the peak of your feminine looks and used it to manipulate, lie, cheat, and take advantage of us while your side (majority not all) chased the bad boys: irresponsible deadbeats, neck tattoos, gangbangers, married cads, drug dealers. And now that we are hitting our stride you expect us to NOT return the favour, and TAKE OUR TIME? We gotta work on YOUR Schedule. Hence why I encourage eligible straight modern men of today to NOT settle with our counterparts. The exceptions to the rule are too statistically insignificant in number to try anymore, at least as it stands now. Maybe Gen Z can turn it around
Thank you Matthew. I’m really struggling with this. I have wanted to be a mother since I remember and think about it every day. I have had really difficult relationships in the past but I have finally found a good and kind man. I turned 30 last year. However, the pace this relationship is going is frustrating me. We started dating in July 2022 and officially became a couple in January 2023. We do not live together, he said it was too early for him. He is 33 yo and still doing his phD. This is his first real relationship. I have committed in a lease by myself for another year. Literally all my friends have children or are married now. At times I feel lonely. I would not want to rush him, but my biological clock is ticking louder than ever.
gone with the wind fabulous lol unfortunately we have to spend on the ladies if we don't then men don't get what they want. It's just that simple Women want good dick, fuck a man time for all his attention. Men want money and pussy so we have to give in order to get.
You stupid ass. Women pay for their fucking makeup (+ nails, hair) and clothes (accessories, lingerie, perfume, shoes, purse) just to be presentable. Why do you take so much pride in paying a meal? You think we - women can't pay our own meal and just solely rely on you to fill our stomach? Seriously, the makeup we put on our faces properly equal or even more than the bill you paid.
I have encountered the other side of this issue. 6 months ago my husband left me after 12 years of marriage as he wants his own family. I am 56 and he is 39. I am unable to have more children (I have 2 from a previous marriage) as I have gone through menopause. He started feeling that he wanted children of his own after my daughter had a baby in September 2016. He realised that being a step grandfather was not enough for him. I totally understand his feelings as I had 2 children of my own and know the pleasure and pain they can bring to your life. However, he left without even discussing the children issue with me and I found out a couple of weeks later. I have been left heartbroken and trying to move on. 6 months on I still have days of depression but on the whole I have made new friends and joined various groups to help me through this. Family and friends have been amazing and I know that in time the pain will diminish so that I can fully enjoy my life again and not look back with bitterness and regret as to how my life would have been with him. I can now see a better future. I have my own home, full time job and a two lovely children and of course a gorgeous grandson to look after.
If women want kids it's up to them to ask the man well before they get to their 30's. Too many women chase bad boys in their 20's then want to find a good provider in their 30's
"men need to be brave enough to leave..." Next video: "What to do when the coward leaves you..." Ladies you realize this guy makes his money by staring doe-eyed into a camera and spouting fortune cookie style advise, right? He's not your friend, you're his consumers.
@Hello It's K It's true though he's just a panderer, and he's not the only one. These guys do more damage than good. There's no right or wrong or a single cookie cutter solution to relationships, but, I will say there are basic biological drives that make men and women differ. These inner demons for men are to want to sleep around as much as they can, again not every guy does apart from the top % so get that myth out've your head straight away, the reason these top % get the most action..is because you ladies are naturally picking these top %..and that's because you're hypergamous naturally, it's a cruel but basic fact we as guys have to live with. In fact I'm firmly convinced the average woman gets more action than the average guy, easily! All you guys have to do is show up, men naturally have to chase you and work for it, it's always been that way, and you guy's in turn put on you're picky meter. Have t'say also..you guys get to have multiple orgasms but appear to want sex less!? that just baffles me and a lot've guys..but again you're picky is all. For guy's becoming aware of this we call being red pilled, like Neo in the Matrix, once we become aware there's no going back, we never look at women or relationships the same way again, and I've bad news for you ladies, it's catching on..and maybe a factor as to why so many guys are just casually dating and not settling, they don't want to get caught out with your hypergamy in the long run. The modern relationship and dating scene with dating apps is making it too easy to just throw someone away like a tissue the minute they do something you don't like. Both sexes are guilty of this, but, and it has to be said, the relationship always seems in trouble when the gal isn't happy, you make your mind up to end it 6 weeks in advance..don't tell me this isn't true, I've lived it. Don't tell me either you haven't looked at other guys while in a relationship or know guys wealthier, taller and good looking and yearned or fantasised of getting with them instead of the guy your with, that's hypergamy, your natural drive kicking in. Yes men look at other women too, say passing in the street or out in public but that's purely on physical attraction, obviously then if he got to know another woman at close quarters and they start to chime he might develop feelings, and that's up to the integrity of the guy to control that if he's already committed. How do you keep a guy committed? easy, as blunt as this..feed him f*ck him love him. You guy's on the other hand want material comfort and security and that's what drives your hypergamy, depending on age, but usually the older you get, the younger you are it's more attraction and lust as to why you won't settle like guys you're in your sexual prime and will want to sleep around. but also women unlike men have a hard choice to face, keep playing the field or plan for kids, but we're back to the modern dating scene, everything's casual, everything's a fling..people are marrying less and settling later and later. Men especially are I should say because the juice isn't worth the squeeze, if it ever came to divorce the laws aren't even and we get our balls cut off. Even if you tie a guy down then there's the whole other situation of the guy keeping you happy, and you'll gradually most like get bored of him once he's made you comfortable and yearn to look outside of the relationship again and the whole thing starts all over again You know I'm right ; ) So what am I getting at? both sexes need to keep their shit in check, grow up, and realise when they've got someone special on their arm even though they may not be 100% perfect if there's enough there for a commitment put the damn work in, cause we're making the modern dating scene a nightmare and life's short, both sexes pickiness to settle becomes their downfall. Looks fade, passion will subside, but unconditional love lasts , and do expect to make compromises, I'm sorry to tell you but a guy's job isn't constantly making the woman happy in fear of her leaving him, that's childish. So yea no one answer to all this. Is there hope for love, does love even exist? that's up to us. Sorry for making this long winded, but if you're looking for long term commitment but can't seem to get it this might help shed some light, or if you know someone share it with them. Or if you already know all this, I'll shut up talking and go away now.
I'm a woman, and had to leave a man I dated for 7 years and another for 2 years because they wanted kids. I don't want them. I'm a career woman, and want that to be my only focus. I've remained single for 7 years because every single guy I met either has kids or wants them. It is quite a sacrifice to let someone go, instead of try to persuade them to follow what you want, but, it's worth it for them. Both are married and have beautiful kids. I'm happy for them, and don't feel I missed out on a thing. :)
Well she doesn't need men's approval. And she seems very happy and confident with the way things are in her life. I don't think I can say that with the majority of MGTOW or commenters on here.
I don't know why ANYONE would give the thumbs down to this video. He speaks total sense. It is the responsibility of BOTH to use contraception. Also, prevent against pregnancy and STD's by using a Condom. Always!
I'm a man in my 40s and done having kids, and that's why I date post-menopausal women in their 50s, so that women in their 30s can do their thing and have kids.
i'm 32 and i knew i didn't want kids since i was 8... i enjoy being a student of life more than anything.. ironically I keep meeting men who want kids...?
thats what i did i left the guy , maybe i wont meet right one who would want to have kids and family with me - thats ok , but staying with him would deny me opportunity to meet that person. that is being honest and mature .
Matt, I broke it off with my husband to pursue a career and stability in my life... We were alway pursuing his dream never mine or my happiness... I was the giver he was the taker... I wanted more!!!
Don't just assume all women want kids. Talk to her first instead of taking this advice and running away and ghosting her because you think she might want kids.
Relatedly, if women really do want a family and kids, my opinion is that they should really focus on finding the right person sooner rather than later, by getting themselves out there socially, learning how to grow and foster relationships, how to be a good future mother and wife to build attraction / value, giving people a chance per dating (even if they offhand don't seem to be Mr right), etc to find the right person so they don't have to rush more later and can find someone they really want to settle down with. For themselves, and for their future kids, since as women get older, the risks of health problems for them and the children go up. It is more on the women to do this (methinks) or at least to be present socially and open to meeting new people and building relationships. Guys have some responsibility to ask girls out, but we also have a lot of pressure post college in forming our careers. And a girl can always ask guys out as well. I think most guys would appreciate that and see it as a good char trait, showing initiative, assuming the girl is high value and doesn't come off as desperate. Anyway, ranting a bit. That all said, even if you're past the age of bearing children, adoption is still a possibility. Good video point, I definitely think in any serious relationship, there should be discussion on whether kids are planned or not. If it's a deal breaker for you but your partner is meh or opposed to it, then that should be the sign that they're not wanting the same things in life as you, and it's likely best to move on.
I am very open and understanding when it comes to relationship. The problem is man cannot live without another woman. I don't mean to generalized them but i am only telling based on my experience. Some men that when you give them their freedom they become abusive. So i chose to be single rather than staying on that toxic relationship. No matter how strong the woman is when that man is a fucking shit you would likely want to live alone.
Ok, but sperm isn't immune to aging. Just as a man can have a child in his 50, A woman can still too as long as she hasn't gone through menopause. Doesn't mean either is good or healthy for the child or parent. The figures about men, age and fertility The average time to pregnancy if a man is under 25 is just over 4.5 months but nearly two years if a man is over 40 (if the woman is under 25). There is a five-fold increase in time to pregnancy if the male partner is aged over 45 years. For couples having IVF, the risk of not having a baby is more than five times higher if the male partner is aged 41 or older. The volume of a man’s semen and sperm motility (the ability of sperm to move towards an egg) decrease continually between the ages of 20 and 80. The risk of miscarriage is twice as high for women whose male partner is aged over 45 than for those whose partners are under 25. Children with fathers aged 40 or older are more than five times as likely to have an autism spectrum disorder than children fathered by men aged under 30.
Iono where she got her numbers... but its the womans job to.carry.the baby... the older she gets the higher the chance of miscarriage... not because of the mans sperm. Lols where the hell did you get this study? Medical field btw.
“If you cannot find a good companion to walk with, walk alone, like an elephant roaming the jungle. It is better to be alone than to be with those who will hinder your progress.”
Curiousnessify, absolutely! I agree with that 100%.
I'm alone 😭
Elephants actually live in herds. They can die of loneliness if they are deprived of the company of other elephants. So, maybe not the best example...
@@cyantulip It's actually a great example. It means If women don't get their priorities in line, the human species will die off.
cyantulip thats bullshit, where do you get your facts from? Elephants can survive alone after 12-15 years after puberty they leave the heard, most elephants live solitary lives alone or with another. But they don’t die of lonliness (emotion). They have been shown to show emotion and ‘heart break’ like symptoms such as tears and crying but it has never killed them. One possible article you may be referring to was a biased news feed they titled using the work ‘lonely elephant’ but it had died after 43 years in solitary environment. A younger elphant died when it got lost but the news also labelled it died of ‘lonliness’ not STARVATION and stress.
After living 30 years on this earth, my final conclusion after all my phases in life is like this...... You have to follow your heart and be true to yourself. There is no greater blessing in life than self fulfillment. If somebody comes along who likes you for it, it is better to take the journey of life with them. But never compromise yourself to make someone else happy. That is when everything falls apart.
Val: I'll add to this that compromise is good when both partners actually care about each other. Compromise is borne of empathy. So are relationships (the good ones). If both partners have a common goal that's greater than themselves individually, compromising is logical and they can work out anything together. Gotta have empathy though.
My parents never divorced and told me that it was a common decision that my mother would stay at home and look after their kids. It was hard for both; they had three kids to raise and my father didn't always find work. But they believed in family and marriage and now all their kids are stable adults.
Dude, I'm living that right now, its just a shame she wouldn't come with me, although I walked with hers for a good length of time. Parting is such sweet sorrow.
“If you cannot find a good companion to walk with, walk alone, like an elephant roaming the jungle. It is better to be alone than to be with those who will hinder your progress.”
Love that saying.
Is being selfish a bad thing?
And here is my message don't believe when they say they are on the pill they are not ! You have been warned !!
You can't make a blanket statement like that. It's not necessarily true. I can't say that all men are jerks because I know that's not true. It just feels like most of the ones who are "left over" for me to choose from are jerks! Most....but not all!
+Eponine Thenardier - do you know how many kids are born with out the consent of the man ?? No off course cause you don't care !! Better to be safe then Sorry !!
+All Total Coaching You don't know me at all. I believe children need a mother and a father. If a woman wants a baby so badly that she'd lie and say she's on the pill, and the man does not want to be a father, she should be ready to carry the load herself. They should have this conversation *before* they get naked. " *Of* course....better safe *than* sorry."
+fake name - spot on
+Sari Na exactly what the first guy said
I've done it once before, many years ago: realized it, and said "I am not what you want." I could keep going without a hitch, but I knew her goals laid beyond me and beyond the relationship I saw for the future. So I sat her down, explained it, and forced myself to part ways. Loved her? Yes. Did she love me? Briefly afterward until the anger caught up with her. But she's married now and happier with someone more her speed, with more common goals in life. She may not think highly of me, bu I know I took the right path so she could find hers.
I don't know wether you're a good person or not, but at least you did the right thing.
@@MsSusiePan how long did you string her on?
Years ago a woman told me she didn't want kids. She kept telling me repeatedly. I told her I was neither new or slow so why was she continuously bringing it up and she responded saying maybe she was wasting my time. A gear kicked down in my head and I responded that hmm maybe she was. End of relationship, but it allowed me to go on and meet my daughters Mother and though we are no longer together I have an amazing daughter and a great respectful relationship with her Mum as well. Now recently I stopped dating a Woman and then met a new Woman a few days after. Turns out she's 39 and a few dates in told me she wanted kids and I said I was not in that mind frame and told her the story above and told her I don't want to waste your time because if you're set on that then you need to be free to pursue what you desire. It was as difficult as it was necessary. So guys, take responsibility for not only what you want and ladies too! 🙏👍😃 Thanks Matthew
Well done Simon
Don't get caught because she wants a child. Both man and woman must be ready to have kids, simple
your life wud be ruined if u get caught
My dad married a younger woman. He was 50 when he had me. I'm 20 now. Know how old my dad is today? Dead. He is dead. My mom has been widowed for over 10 years now and she doesn't deserve that. Woman really shouldn't date too much older. Only 20 and 30 somethings should be having kids.
Your father was a very wise man .
Aww. I'm sorry. That's sad!
I'm sorry about that and my youngest brother says similar things about old parents. My parents were close but I'm the eldest of 7 and my youngest brother is 17 and I'm 33. Dad is 69, mum is 57...dad had a heart attack a few years ago but survived. Thing is... Us 4 older kids can't imagine life without the young two "accidents." We try to do what mum and dad can't anymore. Every day my youngest siblings are amazing, I'm a better person for them and if you lived near us, mum would have you all over a lot. You were v unlucky. Love.
That's women for you though, obviously your mother still wanted to reproduce but picked an older man..
Me Two: your thought process about longevity is screwed up. People die @ any age 20s, 30s,40s.... you can be 24 marred to a 24 and by 35 you could be a widow. It happens all the time. Anyway, you’ve got a little growing up to do. Maybe aging will give you a better perspective on this. Good luck.
Thank Matthew! That's what I wished my male friends in college to understand. They told me to relax, enjoy life and focus one thing at a time, like job, habit or sport. I tried but it's hard. I realize I can't live the same lifestyle as them.
Well, it’s obvious! If you are not a man you can’t live as a man!!!
Men you don’t have to marry. If your happier single be single. Same with women.
Thank u sam. Its nice to hear a man say that.
Thanks for the mansplaining. Such wisdom. Never heard of such novelty before. So just go on with the non thinking behaviour then. Live only for your own pleasure and die alone and happy
@@Babesinthewood97 read one of Paul’s epistles. He even said it, you don’t have to marry.
But women aren’t happier being single
@@longydongy1004 Speak for yourself
As men age especially after 40 the risk of having defective sperm rises, autism and chromosome mishaps. It is not solely on the woman's age. It is the man's age as well that can cause birth defects.
Honestly with a man's life expectancy to be usually shorter than women's, men have a biological ticking clock as well. Just because he can make a baby doesn't mean or guarantee it will be healthy.
@ J Romeo Please post where you got this information. I've read a little about this and nowhere do i see the age of "40" if anything it's more about the of "55"
Men and women are not on the same time frame when it comes to having children.
www.verywellfamily.com/does-age-affect-male-fertility-1959934
and he can't live enough to see his grandchildren
@@vAndres49erz It's actually the age of 35 when sperm quality decreases, the risk of autism and schizophrenia (because of the father) increases, as does the risk of miscarriage (again, because of older fathers - regardless of the mothers age) and rates of conception decrease (regardless of the mother's age). About 50% of all IVF is because of the male partner only. Do not be conned into thinking you'll find someone who wants to start a family with you at 55 - it's highly, highly unlikely. It's also unlikely you'll be able to, as well as unlikely you'll live to see the kid grow up. Men and women ARE on the same time frame when it comes to having children. Older women even have much higher fertility rates with younger partners - because sperm quality is a critical factor.
@@kp361 If I'm in shape, got my shit together, and at the age of 55 I can still date down and get a woman in her 30's. Let's no be foolish into thinking that's not possible. But, I agree with you on the idea of having kids at an old age is not a good idea, because I won't be around too long. (I personally think once passed 45 it's too old.)
@@vAndres49erz You can find an ugly girl with daddy issues or a golddigger, yeah. Just like a woman can find some strange young boy who has a thing about MILFs. Let's be real here, dude. Hardly a win. And as your fertility starts to decline in your 30s (just like it does for women) if that 30-something wants kids, you're a really bad bet unless she wants those kids to have autism or schizophrenia (which are attributed overwhelmingly to older fathers). Also much higher rates of miscarriage and infertility with older fathers (50% of all IVF is male factor only) because sperm degrades with age, no matter how young the woman is. Better to just plan like women do - if you want kids, as you say, do it before 45, instead of pretending you have all the time in the world. You don't.
Nice one Matt. I got out of a relationship in my 20s with a guy who wanted kids and I didn't, it wasn't fair of me to stop him from having what he wanted and it was the kindest thing I could do. I'd do it again. Last time I got into an LTR I asked him early on if he wanted kids just so I didn't waste his time, life's too short.
I don't normally comment but, Matthew, thank you so much for saying this. It feels really good to hear it said out loud - for both men and women.
i have no interest in kids and never have at and now at 33 im in a spot where why do i wanted to ruin my mid 30s and 40's hell even 50s with a child
Kids esrly is good if you are lucky to have a virgin that treasures a good man. If not then having older kids is another thing.
@Awhol Lotta Whoopass
I'm 35. I'm on my own 2 feet. No dependants. Just enjoying what I turned into.
@Awhol Lotta Whoopass
😎👍
Thank you for sharing this message, Matthew. It doesn't apply to me in the direct sense (ie, children, at least not at the moment), but it could even apply to other meaningful goals. If someone is holding you back, then they should *step* back.
It so reinforces your message of knowing and setting your standards, and creating value in your life, so I salute you for this one. :)
Bravo, well said Matthew, Some people don't see this at all... I am so glad you have posted this....
My girlfriend is in her mid 30's now and I'm mid 20's but neither of us are even thinking about kids. She's never mentioned it and when I asked her she says she's not interested at the moment. So I don't know what to make of it in the long term. She's a career woman and completely independent and I've recently gone back to school with her help so I can finish my master's. I live with her by the way and we've been dating for 2 years and we're getting along fine without kids and I don't think she feels any pressure at all to have them. But if she ever does I don't have a problem giving her kids if it's what she really wants.
You sound like such a good and kind man 😊
This is the worst thing about dating. The pressure of time. I'd love to be able to enjoy dating without wondering if I'm wasting time. It's so unfair.
Biology is "unfair"? lol. Wow, we've reached a new benchmark in entitlement.
Women want to settle in the end too. Being insencere with her and wasting her time makes you a societal jerk and a blight. Stop wasting womens lives. Also for the girls, stop whoring around and get married in your 20's.
Don't stress yourself what is already over. You had your time.
Now accept what you can not change anymore. Life is also great without kids.
And you can do also social work with kids and younger people.
I know this is painful but don't be sadden by the things you cannot change.
@@firstnamelastname2111 Girls who aren't married in their 20s aren't all 'whoring around'. This is largely a male fantasy.
@@firstnamelastname2111 no, tonight i will hook up with my f buddy🤗🤪
Good message you share here! No one will give you back the time you lost in a relationship that Leads nowhere. If you don’t have common goals then don’t drag things on forever just because of convenience.
I see a lot of woman hating here and it is disheartening. Were you men not brought up by your mothers???!?! My mother did a lot more for the family and for us than my useless father ever did. And the reason why I am still a single woman at the age of 39 is because I am so afraid of meeting a man like my father that I never wanted to date. And when I finally dated, i met the wrong guys. It so easy for men coming here just to blame the women for being used cars and all that. Like guys can sleep around all he wants and nobody says a damn thing or bats an eyelid. But girls can't have that right? Jeebus, you guys make me laugh, so much hypocrisy.
vedwyr aw u poor thing, what were u doing during your 20s. So at 39 you've been living a pretty long time. What have you been doing all your life. Sweet princess or are you lying like most females and have finished riding the cock train and is on verge of becoming invincible, walking zombie looking for young sweet guys like me, To have kids with sorry but lots of men have taken advantaged of, don't assume all men are players and bad boys.
Women have all the power in dating game so the set up is not equal so why there should be equal results - its easy for women to get men and for men its hard to get women so using your privileged position should be same thing than others hard work?
@@Arandomuser3662 omg you are fucked up troll
If she wants kids she should date someone who wants the same, she can make the decision to leave she shouldn't let her future to be in her partner hands. When im 35 im going to have kids, if im lucky to be in love with someone who wants same that would be great but if not i will adopt on my own, both women and men have no reason to not live de life they want.
That's easier said than done, I dated a guy first he didn't want a kid then he did. He said he wanted to be married for years and have a few kid's we did this for 11yrs to then find out he don't know what wanted. We broke up I loved him
I'm 22 and lost the only man I've ever loved to this. I was hurt, but grateful. He was older, had kids already and knew he didn't want more. And I do. I am thankful he left, I don't think I'd be strong enough to do so.
Uh plenty of.older guys without kids why him?
My ex didn't want kids but a Mortgage...no thanks, bye.
Good for you. You're a smart boy
@shakhir r hah! nope other way round actually, bye!
@shakhir r contrary to popular belief, it's possible for men to leave women I assure you, especially when they try shit test you into not doing so, and you don't fall for it
@Brutus Tan sounds like buddy ; )
@@jaymcd8577 Yeah he’s here condoning the excess of the hubris and outrageousness of too many of the opposite sex and allowing and perpetuating society condoning excusing and enabling it against men. He thinks it’ll get him some or that he won’t be targeted next.
Wow. Just found this video Matthew and I am blown away. Thank you for your compassion, your honesty. I know that love is out there for me as an older professional divorced woman. Listening and watching this video gives me the strength to stick to my guns and not settle. Well done Matthew, well done.
Wow, Matthew, so well said! Thank you for taking on this subject this way! This is exactly what is happening according to me. As the pressure rises we women have more challenges by this in our 30s.
"We play paintball, they play with live ammunition."
Good one.
As a single man in his 30’s who does want children...if we say we don’t want children yet at this age, it’s not ever going to happen. Same with getting married. Whether divorced or never have found that person, ANY male by age 30 that is still “playing the game” will never ever change. It’s just male cognition and behavior, ladies, hopefully that saves you time and effort in finding what you want...
What's wrong with saying.. i don't know.. or not sure, everybody has their valid reasons
@@YardenZada
I want a family. But, I want to do it correctly.
Totally wrong! If you're in a relationship you have to respect and ensure that it will happen...and not walk away... childs are not oets whom you can bring back to the grossery store
@@charlesdc1233 by what decree in a Democracy does it say any person, male or female, has to “ensure it happens!?” If someone does not want to be married or ever have kids, that is their HUMAN RIGHT.
I don’t know where you came up with the metaphor of what I said being compared to taking kids back to a store like they are pets, though 🤦🏼♂️
@@collegebro85 THANK YOU.
this is such a nice message you are sharing Matthew. I don't believe I have ever heard this argument being brought up when analyzing relationships. hopefully this influences some men to be more careful when they are playing around long term with women who want something more serious. lovely message!
Thank you Matthew for such an important and relevant and sensitively discussed topic and issue
Matthew Hussey - "Men, be brave and leave her".
Tom Leykis - "Pump her and dump her".
@shakhir r sadly thats the sad truth... hahahahaha. If he looked like this guy in the video he wouldnt have been divorced. And if he married a woman outside the country he wouldnt either.
@shakhir r I see your point. However, a good number of men "prefer(ed)" to be married with or without knowing the consequences.
Warning men in the West about marriage is a relatively recent phenomenon.
I was thinking the same thing too! LMAO
Majority of women had too much fun in their 20's and neglected their future life but age caught with them finally.
Women in her 30's: "Time to settle with that unattractive guy with attractive resources and slowly develop feelings for him. How did my love life become a nightmare?! At least I'm good at faking'O."
@@NNWillieProject men think they don't age. Hell yeah they do. Way faster than women.
@@saffyaaffy826 ha...keep telling yourself that.
1:00 as a man in my 30s, I do feel the pressure too. But it is less physiological. It is psychological. I don't want to have teenage kids when I am in my 50s. I want to be healthy to be able to be around them.
My dad had me at 58 😅
@@Brenda-ny1gw Wow dad was a late bloomer. We are grateful to him to have you in this world, though anyways
This by far is the most powerful and honest video you have done. love love love this. Xx
When a divorce bill comes through, let's see how kind each sexes will be to each other, mate, that was a beautiful Oscar nominated speech right there!
haha these comments cracking me up a bit. Thanks for the laugh
LOL
Your bad divorce has nothing to do with this video.
What if is the other way around? If the guy wants kids and you don't? Not everyone is a 'ticking clock woman'.
Maria Cristina Pedroza i was just gonna ask this!!! he needs to make a video about this
Isn't that obvious? The same as he said in the video: the guy should leave the relationship.
And this is even if he deeply loves her (unless he really wants her more than ever having children).
Well, do the same shit a guy should do. Leave.
Donate his samen..
Maria Cristina Pedroza
Then go away and live alone. What is your purpose in man's life as a woman if you don't want kids?
I'll be blunt, the world doesn't need you if you think your job is to place others in a situation/life-situation of pain and suffering.
If your desires call for you to do those things, there is no doubt that there is something deeper within you that is corrupt.
If your goal is to hurt people, there is definitely something wrong... Not with the world. But with you.
Dreams don't have to be destroyed because of mental scumbags. Whether you're a guy or a lady, be prepared for the possibility that your significant other will stab you in the back. Keep that expectation just to be safe. We're all human, and there is no sexism against the cruel intents of human nature.
+Fantasy Fangs:this comment ot yours's excellent!!
+ramfaki Correction:"...of* yours.. "
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Wow thank you. Will do just that. Been thinking about it for months but it’s time.
Thank you Mathew! This is relevant & needed for so many people! 😙
Truth beautifully spoken. I could stand to hear more truth like this on youtube.
I only date women below 30, i'm 34. That doesn't mean that I don't find them attractive, but for women in their 30s kids are a "now or never" thing, so it leaves you no time to develop a deep relationship with them before having kids. This really increases the chances of divorce while kids are young and just a lot of pain for everyone involved. So that is why I date younger women, because we have more time to figure out if we are suited for each other.
How long do you need to “figure it out”? Plenty of men date a woman for 4-5 years, only for it to be “ops, not the one. Bye.”
If you’re dating a 28 year old, she would be 33 by the time you decide you don’t love her.
Then you go back happily into the market, and she’s there starting over again.
Please don’t waste your woman’s time “figuring it out.” There are very specific characteristics you should look for in finding a partner. Most can be identified in 2 years or less if you pay attention.
Consistency of character, how she deals with certain situations, her core principles and values, etc
It is not even sane to bring a kid into this messed up world right now
The world's messed up? How exactly?
Yes there's a lot of suffering, but there is so much more progress.
Vanilla Guerilla, I agree.
@@LucidTrading lol, progress? With Trump in the white house?
So let's not bring any child in the world for another 100 years. See what happens. Extinction.... modern first world human are so delusional.
@@mdruhulaminshikder9295 not delusional, they are retards.
I left my ex fiance for this very reason. He didn't want to settle but wasn't even breaking up. He microcheated on me over the last 6 years and then one of our best friends told me that he asked her on a date. So that was the last straw. I called him up and broke off. I do feel lonely and I have not been able to meet men but I have a high hope.
This is a great topic Matthew! Both sexes have to be aware of what they truly want when it comes to children. Assuming it will naturally lead there is not a smart thing to do. You need to have the discussion in the earlier stages of a relationship. I don't mean the first few dates but you both need to be on the same page for the future. I know many 30+year old women who want children but only date younger guys who aren't even thinking about kids. Knowing that your partner is sincerely on the same path as you is very important!
I guess a big problem is alot of women think they don't want kids until they hit around 30 and then a switch is turned and they start looking for a man to settle down with. The problem is most men in her age range are going to want to date and settle down with younger women. Women who will have less relationship trauma and less fertility complications with having a child.
I think alot of women are lied to about pursuing careers. Sometimes I can't tell if this was actually the freedom women wanted or if they were just used and abused by the capitalist system to extract the most labour from women while they are still in their prime. I don't know, maybe i'm off base :/
na i whipe my a** with what women want. I keep wasting your time
The man I love with all my heart has done this. He told me he loves me, but it’s unfair to me if he can’t give me everything he thinks “I deserve”. (i.e. a family).
Matthew, this is beautiful! Thank you so much for putting this out here. I am not someone in that kind of predicament but I think this is just a fantastic message you have shared.
Thank you for making this video
I had my 4 kids in my 20 s and early 30 s. the joy of being young and strong when my kids wanted to be active and play sports was priceless. we can biologically reproduce into our 80 s but it is less rewarding when slowed by age.
That’s not true men’s fertility starts to go down after 40
@I Was Here Look at Arnold Schwartzenneger(used steroids and fucked himself up and still had kids at old age), and look at Harrison Ford. Each had children long after 40 and 50. The younger woman with the older man still produced quality, non-handicapped children who are studs. Furthermore, encouraging men to become fathers as soon as they can is a bit irresponsible, especially since they can almost never provide until their 30s or sometimes 40s--MEN BECOME FATHERS EARLY IN THE GHETTO ALL THE TIME.
PLUS men have a harder time getting dates, even if they are very attractive, because women don't have the thirst to bother men for sex all the time. Hell, I see 39 year old hotties cheat on their husbands with legit fat druggy dudes(who supply drugs). Come on.
@I Was Here Look at Arnold Schwarzenegger(used steroids and fucked himself up and still had kids at old age), and look at Harrison Ford. Each had children long after 40 and 50. The younger woman with the older man still produced quality, non-handicapped children who are studs. Furthermore, encouraging men to become fathers as soon as they can is a bit irresponsible, especially since they can almost never provide until their 30s or sometimes 40.
Try finding as many female examples of having kids at older ages. On the other hand, MEN BECOME FATHERS EARLY IN THE GHETTO ALL THE TIME, so having kids super early for men is not necessarily or naturally better. Really, there is less than half the pressure on men to have kids early than there is women, IF you defer to the study of nature and not politics.
The quality of sperm produced after a man is 40 being bad in any truly concerning way is played up due to some political beliefs of certain folks wanting an impossible equality. A man in his 40s who fathers children is similar to a woman in her 30s producing children. PLUS men have a harder time getting dates, even if they are very attractive, because women don't have the thirst to bother men for sex all the time, plus women have more to lose if they screw up.
. But yes, men have to compete harder to even date women, even if they are attractive, even with low-quality women who often demand more for the long-term than their worth. On the other hand, I see 39 year old "hotties" cheat on their husbands with legit fat druggy dudes(who supply drugs).
@@robotgirl552 it's basic science unless you are an uncultured swine
your sperm deteriorates. Sperm banks dont take sperm over 39. Sperm over 45 is 3 x more likely to cause schizophrenia
To women, all power.
To men, all consequence.
MGTOW Red Pill will free you.
We ladies hit the wall much sooner. I don't think the power is on my side, lol. 💜🍺 cheers.
Everyone suffers the consequences
@@lauragraves4342 wrong, not only You have all the legal and social biases in your favour, but you fail to realize your power because as the liberals love to say, privilege is invisible to those born with it. Women are born rich and at her prime at 19 with the masses of men climbing over each other to get with her at your most sexual market value valuable, all UNEARNED. Men have never had that and always had to work and earn and that’s why we are born poor but (if we play our cards right and achieve and continue to achieve) die rich, as the expression goes. Women are ‘born’ with it without effort or work so that’s why she loses it inevitably. Men have to work for it and maintain for the rest of our lives, BUT OUR advantage is that it isn’t age or youth dependant. Late bloomers are always a thing because our status can be built and the high status male at 50 can get with (without commitment) the best 20 something women at their prime. Think it over
It's not about color or gender it about class. We live in a classist society.
I agree. The honesty is most important . I hate people who deceive and use others for their pleasure , doesn't matter a man or a woman. I just wish all people would respect and be conciderate to each other
Couldn't agree more - if ultimately you don't see similar futures together it's not going to work. It's not fair to ask someone to give up the life they want. That's why I ended my last relationship, I'd rather pursue the possibility than settle for the reality of that never happening for me
I actually cried when u said "lets be kind to eachother" its so difficult these days and its sad that we have to learn about relationships through internet.
It's becz that the kind of world we are living inn. Chasing over materialistic thingss. But, do u really cried for what he saidd?? Literally
keep crying. karma is a Mother Effer. you all want to be "kind" after you´ve been unkind to others. your punishment of misery is just starting
Vasectomy without her knowing! Don't let her ruin your life!
She's going to be a future single mom anyway. You don't want that life guys. Child support, told when you can see your kids, and being denied the tiniest bit of respect.
So MGTOW is for men who have been burned by women, and are now bitter? And choose to ve alone? I'm murky on the details here.
@@biffii5568 No. Maybe I can explain it with another example.
Being lesbian is not about hating men or being bitter about men. It's about being with a women. MGTOW is about men going their own way.
Bitterness is feeling when you want something but you feel helpless.
MGTOW is about accepting/choosing that you are going your own way. So you couldn't be bitter. Otherwise you didn't accept/choose to go your own way.You wouldn't be in the state of mgtow yet.
There are just as many good women out there. We too have been burned by little boy men. I however chose to be sterilized because I actually want to live a life with a good man without the pressure of building anymore family members. Where ever I can find him idk. Only time will tell. Until then I attract what I think I deserve. I gotta work on me inside and out❤️
@Brutus Tan Brutus being brutally honest. Tu-Shay sir... Best Way to be! :)
@@down2earth136 right but the good ladies never gave good guys a chance. They wanna be part of the bad bois play list. Not our fault. You women had the choice, we men didnt. Theres a difference.
Thank you for saying that, because someone shattered my dreams and It's so hard, so incredibly hard
I’m so glad you have made a video on this and I hope there are men that watch it and take your advice. I agree one hundred percent that if a man really loves a woman, he will let her go so that she has a chance at having that desire of having children fulfilled. I had a man do that for me, and as sad as I was to lose that relationship, I felt so incredibly loved and valued in his act of ending it for my sake. I believe that a man who truly loves a woman will make sacrifices for her and this was a sacrifice that he made for me without me even asking.
If a man loves you truly he would wanna procreate with you. Im a man. I dont wanna get the wrong girl pregnant. I dont want to be connected to her forever through our children
Newest comments are always the best comments.
If a man loves a woman to this overbearing extent which he is describing, why on earth would he not want to have a child with her? Makes no sense
Because not everybody wants to have Kids, its that easy
“Men” today don’t make any sense. All they care about is their money which they’ll never enjoy anyway because they’re too busy making more of it. They’ll regret being 70 old sick and alone with no kids to visit them, no grandkids to love, no wife to take care of him. Just a old waste of life with lots of money in the bank.
Maybe he ain’t ready
@@Butterfly-fd6pr Trust me lol you do not want to go there. Men can be fine being alone when women were 18 ir in college they wasted their 20s on the wrong guys. 80% of the male population from ages to 18-25 are not sexually active. There are 80% of men who feel unwanted not only by women but by society because he has no value at age 18 to 25 he was alone. Now you expect a man to be with you when you wasted and ignore him in your good years hell no your not worth it. We are fine alone or dating younger brad pitt is 50 and dating 28 year old you dont want to play the long game women lol we are used to loneliness
@@doingsomething5084 Most men are not Brad Pitt, so do not plan your life around them. I highly doubt Brad Pitt was celibate between 18-25 - and the men who are, are, as I say, not going to suddenly turn into Brad Pitt. What a ridiculous example!
I was born in eastern europe but I live in the states, I'm 30... About 3 years ago my mom had a physical check up so she brought me along so I can translate because her English just never caught on, before the doctor's come in usually a nurse will come in with clipboard ask question fill in boxes and give to the doctor... Now Everytime the nurse asked my mom a question my mom would look at me and I would translate now hence the nurse is around my mom's age... After a few min of doing the translation helping my mother out the nurse kept giving me and my mom this sorrow look and regret where you could notice, before I could ask her about her status she asked me like " is she ur mom?". " Are you translating for her" ect ect, so then I asked her if she had kids n all that stuff, she said in a very sad sorrow voice "Nope, it's just me and my cats" then she looked at the floor for a second and I swore I thought she was gonna break down crying.. I felt really bad for her but she had a chance when she was young to start a family and grow old with like my mom has grown old with me, sister and our Father.
So well said, thank you for this, Matthew! :)
that's why exactly I left her because we didn't agree about it having kids. I love her so much but I let her go to find someone that she can have kids with
I once had the reverse. When I was a lot younger my first bf was 5 years older than me, we were really happy, together for over 2 years. Then he started to talk about getting a house and children and I wanted to go to university at that time. In the end we parted ways, shortly after he married and had 3 kids. It was hard but in the long run the best decision because I could not at that age, give him what he wanted.
and where are you now. single, childless, older and maybe on some type of anti-depressant. Now your older its harder to get a suitable partner that wont lead u on. Society has lied to you and your a product of that lie thats why your watching this video
@@doingsomething5084 dude, what's your problem? Learn how to spell before you comment on another's person's life.
@@doingsomething5084 Your comment is pure projection. Women are people, just like men. They do not all want to marry and have kids by the time they turn 21. Nor do they need to. Society has lied to YOU and YOU'RE a product of that lie, that's why YOU'RE watching this video. Get a grip and get a life.
@@doingsomething5084 after your comment it seems like you re on anti depresants. Women dont owe you sh*t but babies? Get a life pos
@@doingsomething5084 Dude, what's wrong with you?
I agree 100% and appreciate hearing from a man - honest is the best policy, instead of wasting one another's considerable amount of time and heart ache
How are you doing Melissa
Thank you for this Matthew.
Video title "How to make money off appealing women"
If there is a market for it, why not? Psychotherapists profiting off mental ilness, doesn't make it any less needed. And he seems genuine enough.
But he’s making money off of giving them what they want to hear instead of the truth.
@@todoldtrafford hahhahaah damn truth
@@todoldtrafford women want to be lied to, not told the truth. If he told the truth he wouldnt make money... so which one u wanna pick? Tell the truth and nobody listens or tell a lie and get millions of views.
Tri Le I tell the truth. I see it for what it is. Hussey is pandering to his audience and is giving women a false sense comfort. He knows that women in their 30s and up have bitten more than they can chew. He knows men have no obligation to commit just like women have no obligation to give away attention. Heck he’s dated women in their 20s and not the older women that he preaches to.
Ask about her college years. I bet there's plenty of Chad and Tyrones.
What do Chads and Tyrones have to do with the video man?
Ask him about his college years, bet there's plenty of thots. 😂 silly argument. People love and are prone to mistakes
You’re self conscious and it’s smelly.
@@whathappenedwas7083 no it isn’t. Men are valuable if they can get sex because it’s an accomplishment. For women it is precisely the opposite because literally almost any woman can get a line up of guys willing to have sex with her
@@ianoua3161 Are you a black woman?
And it applies to more than the dream of having children. God, my sigh was so heavy.
Great message man, I salute you.
I experience the opposite situation. I'm a (nearly) 34 years old woman, and know I don't want children. I always discuss it in, as no need to go deeper in the relation if we don't have the same views. The main reaction that comes back EACH time: "I'll be the one to make you change your mind." Instant red alarm that moves you from the potential case to the jerk case. I don't want to change my mind. It's not a game, nor a car purchase. I made my decision very carefully and never been so happy since.
I completely agree with everything you said.
Its been 5 yrs since this comment. You're 39 now. Do you regret your decision?
@@sonicjetson6253 Nope 😊
@@melilondon I'm curious how you're going to manage when you're old and frail. Eg. In case of an unfortunate hospital stay.
@@sonicjetson6253 Well, seeing as nearly 40% of people in care homes & hospitals barely have visits from family and friends or no visits at all, I don't think this is a valid reason to have children
Men and woman need to be honest and realistic with their current goals in life and understand that sometimes you will meet someone who will not be on the same page with you.
BUT that's ok.
Exactly. Honesty in the beginning is the key. If they don't want children or a family they should make the things clear. It is unfair for us. It's not right for me, when they make the women "waste her time" in a relationship that will never go to a next level. It is a pity that the majority of guys on nowdays think in the same way that many guys on this comment chart. It seems that they expect that we accept things with our mouth and eyes shut. It seems that they don't see us like human, just like a object.
Jéssica PS you know why they think this way?
@@Jessica_BR Women in their 20s play games with men, are always indecisive and make things difficult for men, so why should men make things easier to them once they are in their 30s?
@@__a6290 You said it.
@@Jessica_BR Why should we have any mercy or consideration? We as a whole, never received any back in the day before we had hit our stride and prime, from your side, who were at the peak of your feminine looks and used it to manipulate, lie, cheat, and take advantage of us while your side (majority not all) chased the bad boys: irresponsible deadbeats, neck tattoos, gangbangers, married cads, drug dealers. And now that we are hitting our stride you expect us to NOT return the favour, and TAKE OUR TIME? We gotta work on YOUR Schedule. Hence why I encourage eligible straight modern men of today to NOT settle with our counterparts. The exceptions to the rule are too statistically insignificant in number to try anymore, at least as it stands now. Maybe Gen Z can turn it around
Thank you Matthew. I’m really struggling with this. I have wanted to be a mother since I remember and think about it every day. I have had really difficult relationships in the past but I have finally found a good and kind man. I turned 30 last year. However, the pace this relationship is going is frustrating me. We started dating in July 2022 and officially became a couple in January 2023. We do not live together, he said it was too early for him. He is 33 yo and still doing his phD. This is his first real relationship. I have committed in a lease by myself for another year. Literally all my friends have children or are married now. At times I feel lonely. I would not want to rush him, but my biological clock is ticking louder than ever.
Thank you Matthew, Love your way of sending the info. Xoxo from Puerto Rico
Why should men care? women don't care that we have to risk rejection or pay for dates they truly don't, in fact they demand these things of men.
gone with the wind fabulous lol unfortunately we have to spend on the ladies if we don't then men don't get what they want. It's just that simple
Women want good dick, fuck a man time for all his attention.
Men want money and pussy so we have to give in order to get.
Man up = femspeak for "shut up and do as we say."
You stupid ass. Women pay for their fucking makeup (+ nails, hair) and clothes (accessories, lingerie, perfume, shoes, purse) just to be presentable. Why do you take so much pride in paying a meal? You think we - women can't pay our own meal and just solely rely on you to fill our stomach? Seriously, the makeup we put on our faces properly equal or even more than the bill you paid.
Ayanokoji Oi, Tofu brain. Do you realize how stupid you sound right now?
Ayanokoji Not gonna argue with you, piece of trash.
Is the modern term baby rabies?
I have encountered the other side of this issue. 6 months ago my husband left me after 12 years of marriage as he wants his own family. I am 56 and he is 39. I am unable to have more children (I have 2 from a previous marriage) as I have gone through menopause. He started feeling that he wanted children of his own after my daughter had a baby in September 2016. He realised that being a step grandfather was not enough for him. I totally understand his feelings as I had 2 children of my own and know the pleasure and pain they can bring to your life. However, he left without even discussing the children issue with me and I found out a couple of weeks later. I have been left heartbroken and trying to move on. 6 months on I still have days of depression but on the whole I have made new friends and joined various groups to help me through this. Family and friends have been amazing and I know that in time the pain will diminish so that I can fully enjoy my life again and not look back with bitterness and regret as to how my life would have been with him. I can now see a better future. I have my own home, full time job and a two lovely children and of course a gorgeous grandson to look after.
Wow! Matthew what a beautiful message to put out there. Thank you
If women want kids it's up to them to ask the man well before they get to their 30's.
Too many women chase bad boys in their 20's then want to find a good provider in their 30's
Haha grow up! That's not true! I did not WHORE around in my 20s! Ugh this is such a tired arguement!
Then you could be the kind that does it once married.
Enigmatic Spirit, you have an avatar of a woman but quite clearly you are a man. Us women are not gullible.
+Liz: look more closely. I'm just a guy... who is easy on the eye.
Women like to ride the cock carousel in their 20's with broke beta Chad's and look for beta cucks with money in their 30's.
i wish have watch this video few years ago. THANK YOU. LOVE FROM ALGERIA
How are you doing
this was a very honest message Matt..Thanks
Very good statement. Thanks for reminding me of this. Cheers
"men need to be brave enough to leave..." Next video: "What to do when the coward leaves you..."
Ladies you realize this guy makes his money by staring doe-eyed into a camera and spouting fortune cookie style advise, right? He's not your friend, you're his consumers.
Best analysis about the video, straight to the point of what really he want to say.
@Hello It's K It's true though he's just a panderer, and he's not the only one. These guys do more damage than good. There's no right or wrong or a single cookie cutter solution to relationships, but, I will say there are basic biological drives that make men and women differ. These inner demons for men are to want to sleep around as much as they can, again not every guy does apart from the top % so get that myth out've your head straight away, the reason these top % get the most action..is because you ladies are naturally picking these top %..and that's because you're hypergamous naturally, it's a cruel but basic fact we as guys have to live with. In fact I'm firmly convinced the average woman gets more action than the average guy, easily! All you guys have to do is show up, men naturally have to chase you and work for it, it's always been that way, and you guy's in turn put on you're picky meter.
Have t'say also..you guys get to have multiple orgasms but appear to want sex less!? that just baffles me and a lot've guys..but again you're picky is all.
For guy's becoming aware of this we call being red pilled, like Neo in the Matrix, once we become aware there's no going back, we never look at women or relationships the same way again, and I've bad news for you ladies, it's catching on..and maybe a factor as to why so many guys are just casually dating and not settling, they don't want to get caught out with your hypergamy in the long run.
The modern relationship and dating scene with dating apps is making it too easy to just throw someone away like a tissue the minute they do something you don't like. Both sexes are guilty of this, but, and it has to be said, the relationship always seems in trouble when the gal isn't happy, you make your mind up to end it 6 weeks in advance..don't tell me this isn't true, I've lived it. Don't tell me either you haven't looked at other guys while in a relationship or know guys wealthier, taller and good looking and yearned or fantasised of getting with them instead of the guy your with, that's hypergamy, your natural drive kicking in. Yes men look at other women too, say passing in the street or out in public but that's purely on physical attraction, obviously then if he got to know another woman at close quarters and they start to chime he might develop feelings, and that's up to the integrity of the guy to control that if he's already committed. How do you keep a guy committed? easy, as blunt as this..feed him f*ck him love him.
You guy's on the other hand want material comfort and security and that's what drives your hypergamy, depending on age, but usually the older you get, the younger you are it's more attraction and lust as to why you won't settle like guys you're in your sexual prime and will want to sleep around. but also women unlike men have a hard choice to face, keep playing the field or plan for kids, but we're back to the modern dating scene, everything's casual, everything's a fling..people are marrying less and settling later and later. Men especially are I should say because the juice isn't worth the squeeze, if it ever came to divorce the laws aren't even and we get our balls cut off. Even if you tie a guy down then there's the whole other situation of the guy keeping you happy, and you'll gradually most like get bored of him once he's made you comfortable and yearn to look outside of the relationship again and the whole thing starts all over again
You know I'm right ; )
So what am I getting at? both sexes need to keep their shit in check, grow up, and realise when they've got someone special on their arm even though they may not be 100% perfect if there's enough there for a commitment put the damn work in, cause we're making the modern dating scene a nightmare and life's short, both sexes pickiness to settle becomes their downfall. Looks fade, passion will subside, but unconditional love lasts , and do expect to make compromises, I'm sorry to tell you but a guy's job isn't constantly making the woman happy in fear of her leaving him, that's childish. So yea no one answer to all this. Is there hope for love, does love even exist? that's up to us.
Sorry for making this long winded, but if you're looking for long term commitment but can't seem to get it this might help shed some light, or if you know someone share it with them. Or if you already know all this, I'll shut up talking and go away now.
@@jaymcd8577 Put very well indeed
@@jaymcd8577 i didn't like the 1st half of your post, but then came the 2nd half.. Wewt!
@@alsillman7049 My post?
I'm a woman, and had to leave a man I dated for 7 years and another for 2 years because they wanted kids. I don't want them. I'm a career woman, and want that to be my only focus. I've remained single for 7 years because every single guy I met either has kids or wants them. It is quite a sacrifice to let someone go, instead of try to persuade them to follow what you want, but, it's worth it for them. Both are married and have beautiful kids. I'm happy for them, and don't feel I missed out on a thing. :)
Do you not think that you were being rather selfish, in being with them at all and wasting their time?
You see how she strung along these dudes and catches no flak
Delainey Johnson
You will once you'll be a dry fish inside and outside and no men will be looking at you with admiring eyes.
Except geriatrics.
Well she doesn't need men's approval. And she seems very happy and confident with the way things are in her life. I don't think I can say that with the majority of MGTOW or commenters on here.
Enjoy being alone at 65
I don't know why ANYONE would give the thumbs down to this video. He speaks total sense. It is the responsibility of BOTH to use contraception.
Also, prevent against pregnancy and STD's by using a Condom. Always!
Deeply appreciate sharing these thoughts as a man! Thank you!
Thank you for validating what I had to do...I was 23 she was 10y older..
@@odeltor8703 lols got him good.
@@odeltor8703 its okay... beta couldnt get a girl his age. Let him have some fun in the sun
I'm a man in my 40s and done having kids, and that's why I date post-menopausal women in their 50s, so that women in their 30s can do their thing and have kids.
nico3641 their awesome raw dogg no unexpected pregnancy
That's disgusting bro
@Abel B. Women in their 20's don't want men in their 40's unless they're rich , don't fool yourself bro !
@@TheLindaDZ What do you mean by being rich ? The man Just need to stable financially, and be in shape
Your banging old blood, taste some fresh meat
Wow! So much wisdom!
Most beautiful and truthful words Matthew, Amen😘
i'm 32 and i knew i didn't want kids since i was 8... i enjoy being a student of life more than anything.. ironically I keep meeting men who want kids...?
cord-so is there a committed relationship with actual intimacy in your plans-or is your life going to be an endless series of men seeking offspring?
bademoxy i am in a committed relationship with someone who doesn’t want kids too, thankfully i found him a year ago :) but before things sucked a bit
I am single and dont want kids.. We should chat...
thats what i did i left the guy , maybe i wont meet right one who would want to have kids and family with me - thats ok , but staying with him would deny me opportunity to meet that person. that is being honest and mature .
Curious if you met the one yet?
thank you for this video
Matt, I broke it off with my husband to pursue a career and stability in my life... We were alway pursuing his dream never mine or my happiness... I was the giver he was the taker... I wanted more!!!
beautifully said Matthew 💙
Don't just assume all women want kids. Talk to her first instead of taking this advice and running away and ghosting her because you think she might want kids.
Beautiful message and video.
Relatedly, if women really do want a family and kids, my opinion is that they should really focus on finding the right person sooner rather than later, by getting themselves out there socially, learning how to grow and foster relationships, how to be a good future mother and wife to build attraction / value, giving people a chance per dating (even if they offhand don't seem to be Mr right), etc to find the right person so they don't have to rush more later and can find someone they really want to settle down with. For themselves, and for their future kids, since as women get older, the risks of health problems for them and the children go up.
It is more on the women to do this (methinks) or at least to be present socially and open to meeting new people and building relationships. Guys have some responsibility to ask girls out, but we also have a lot of pressure post college in forming our careers. And a girl can always ask guys out as well. I think most guys would appreciate that and see it as a good char trait, showing initiative, assuming the girl is high value and doesn't come off as desperate. Anyway, ranting a bit.
That all said, even if you're past the age of bearing children, adoption is still a possibility.
Good video point, I definitely think in any serious relationship, there should be discussion on whether kids are planned or not. If it's a deal breaker for you but your partner is meh or opposed to it, then that should be the sign that they're not wanting the same things in life as you, and it's likely best to move on.
I am very open and understanding when it comes to relationship. The problem is man cannot live without another woman. I don't mean to generalized them but i am only telling based on my experience. Some men that when you give them their freedom they become abusive. So i chose to be single rather than staying on that toxic relationship. No matter how strong the woman is when that man is a fucking shit you would likely want to live alone.
That street goes both ways...
What do you mean he can’t live without another woman? You mean they want two woman?
Ok, but sperm isn't immune to aging. Just as a man can have a child in his 50, A woman can still too as long as she hasn't gone through menopause. Doesn't mean either is good or healthy for the child or parent.
The figures about men, age and fertility
The average time to pregnancy if a man is under 25 is just over 4.5 months but nearly two years if a man is over 40 (if the woman is under 25).
There is a five-fold increase in time to pregnancy if the male partner is aged over 45 years.
For couples having IVF, the risk of not having a baby is more than five times higher if the male partner is aged 41 or older.
The volume of a man’s semen and sperm motility (the ability of sperm to move towards an egg) decrease continually between the ages of 20 and 80.
The risk of miscarriage is twice as high for women whose male partner is aged over 45 than for those whose partners are under 25.
Children with fathers aged 40 or older are more than five times as likely to have an autism spectrum disorder than children fathered by men aged under 30.
...& what's the time for 45 yr olds when trying to make mouth babies?
The kid need a father not mistakin for a grandfather yes it's not good to have a kid when you are too old man have limits as woman do
Iono where she got her numbers... but its the womans job to.carry.the baby... the older she gets the higher the chance of miscarriage... not because of the mans sperm. Lols where the hell did you get this study? Medical field btw.
@@TriLe-nz4oq older the man's sperm the higher chance she can't even get pregnant. You can Google any of the facts I listed. Copy paste.
@dcosb09 2014...
Thank you for making this video, Matthew 😘
Courageous action that creates value is the path of no regret.
The white Derrick Jaxn
Lmao
Me: 30 years old and single 😬
Great message!!
Great video, soooo on point!!!