Your Career Advances Quickly When You Heal These Trauma Symptoms
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
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Too many people with Childhood PTSD are held back by trauma symptoms that damage their ability to envision their future, form positive work relationships, and maintain the focus and physical energy needed to get ahead. But healing from your trauma symptoms frees you, and allows you to use the determination and inner resourcefulness common in people who were. abused and neglected as children. In this "best of" compilation, of my videos on the subject of work, I teach the most important symptoms to heal, and share stories from individuals who were challenged on the job by the wounds of their past, and learned to overcome them.
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I have never related so fully to a video in my life. Never. This is a sanity-saver.
Well said, as I sit here with tears streaming down my own face. Sanity saver indeed.
Agreed.
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@@tiffanyfinley4834 I don’t think it’s ever too late to try something new!
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When my husband went to law school it was just me working, then we took custody of his youngest brother, who was starting to go downhill behaviorally. We were BROOKEEE lol! I went to a gallery opening that was super fun and literally just asked to speak with the curator of the show in order to ask how to be a part of it. He saw some of my work on my phone, we got to chatting and I found myself having regular spots in the shows as well as running my own small table at art meets. It didn't pay a ton, but I learned to just seek out opportunities and ASK. I helped me earn some "quality of life" income and maintain my sanity while working, putting my husband through school and raising a teenager! It was tough but the skills and confidence I learned in just putting myself out there were priceless.
That's amazing! Thank you for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Healing from my childhood trauma actually resulted in my changing careers entirely. I was stuck in an executive assistant position I hated, and I gradually came to see that I was wasting most of my talents, which people had been telling me for so long and I sort of understood, but which I couldn't figure out how to change. For years, I just didn't know what I wanted to do. Now I'm in grad school to become a clinical psychologist, and I'm loving it. For the first time in, well, ever, I'm excited about life, about connecting with the people around me, and with the subject matter I'm studying. And I just love people in all their uniqueness. The best thing is that I can use both my brain and my heart in the same job to help people who suffer deeply, unlike what my father told me for years, which was essentially, "Just get a job that will support you. It doesn't matter if it's soul sucking." Nope, Dad, I can actually do something that contributes to more than just a paycheck and that actually makes me feel great while I help others feel better, too." That's golden.
Wow, that's wonderful! Congratulations, thanks for sharing, and thanks for watching with us.
Julie@TeamFairy
So proud of you! About to do something very similar! So nice to see your comment!
In third grade, I faced failure and had to repeat the year at the age of 7. It was traumatic to see my classmates move ahead while I stayed behind. My parents attributed it to my passion for drawing, something I'd been doing since I could hold a pen. I remember crying and asking my siblings if they had experienced the same.
Gradually, I started feeling inferior to my peers. I stopped drawing, distanced myself from friends, and became quiet in class, always choosing the back seat to avoid attention. Despite repeating the class, I faced another failure. Fortunately, my school allowed me to pass to the next class after my mom pleaded, but the real learning happened in grade 4 with a home lesson teacher.
I wasn't dull; I just lacked the support I needed. Over the years, I lost myself, but I only rediscovered my love for drawing two years ago at the age of 20. Repeating a grade didn't teach me anything; it only brought shame. Realizing this after watching your videos and engaging in self-reflection, I appreciate the journey. Thank you! I'm hopeful about reclaiming my self-esteem.
We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Your mom was gone for a couple days sometimes, you had to find food and take yourselves to school??!! I felt that. I love that you're giving back and you're fighting for people who experienced trauma. Thank you for this❤
I started crying within the first five minutes of this video, this explains everything i’m going through right now.
I'm just seeing this and about to go back to grad school after sabotaging it spectacularly last time 12 years ago because of CPTSD. This is helping me so much to feel ok about going back. I'm watching this on New Years and going to committ to the Daily Practice tomorrow. Thanks.
That's amazing! Thanks for sharing, we're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thanks. I already used the Pomodoro technique to great effect today. Really grateful. I can't afford to let CPTSD get disorganized and then dysregulated this time.
At least I can learn/practice these things before. Thanks. You guys are amazing.
Anna I just had the first realization Friday that my managers treat me like my ungrateful, thankless, never satisfied mother. They allow other Business Units to crap all over me and do not protect me while I try, try, try to please them. Like my mom, they are ungrateful, thankless, toxic people. No matter what I do and how hard I work and how much I accomplish, my managers will never be satisfied. Realizing this Friday is why I am aggressively looking for a new role within my organization.
Big hugs, Anna! And a heart full of love and empathy. Wishing no child ever knew hunger, cold and fear.
Selling your art takes marketing, it’s a rare artist that can also market their work, setting up shows, websites etc. I sold thru galleries for a few years and within 2 years I burned out my true creativity since I found I was painting lots of work just to sell, galleries generally take 50% of the sale price & because I wanted to keep my prices on the low side (so real people could afford it) and still make enough to scrape by & keep buying supplies I burned myself out.
Generally the “starving artist” has always been a truism - do your art for you & not to make a living, find a job that connects to your other interests things that inspire you & will only grow your talents ~ at least that’s the way I and many wonderful artist friends have experienced this - Van Gogh never sold a painting in his lifetime many people only gain a following by persisting for decades because they are passionate about their continual creative exploration.
Best of luck!
Customer service reps always are happy and surprised how nice I am to them. They thank me for it sometimes. It's a thankless job, so I understand them now. I used to forget there was another human being on the line or texting me.
I've read your comment twice, and I recognize something very special in what you're saying. Thank you for sharing it. I needed to hear it.
I'm just so grateful for the work you do! I read a lot of psychological stuff, but there is nothing that provides this kind of information like you do. And then your humor and mix of understanding, empathy and love makes you so special again. Thank you!
This is super relatable. I’m a healer, artist and have an interest in permaculture. I spent my twenties and early thirties pursuing making a living at that. I got sober and an opportunity presented itself to help open and run a chain of cannabis stores. I still do healing (strangers cry in my arms often), I make promotional materials and I get to work in a beautiful setting with my plants everywhere 🌱 I pull these talents together to help run a successful business and have never felt more fulfilled in my work. You’ll get there darling, you just need to let your assumptions about yourself and your art go, there are opportunities if you’re open to them ✨
I'm not sure why I'm getting teary eyed over the Empathy part of this video, but as a practitioner of non Violent communication, this brings me so much Joy. I know when I learned to hear the need behind the words being used; it automatically made me less defensive and more understanding and grateful for connecting to the other person's needs, making the interaction feel like we've gotten closer even if the words being used may not sound very kind.
I relate to this so much. I wish I could find a therapist that gets it like you. I am so tired of trying to find help. Love your channel.
Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
I have definitely parentalized most, if not all of my bosses. I almost can't see them any other way...
Try our Daily Practice techniques. It can help w/ stuff like that. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Julie@TeamFairy
I feel like I can’t stand working with other people because I don’t trust them to do anything correctly 😭. I’ll take on so much that I’m overwhelmed & then I resent everyone for doing nothing. I have a high stress job where my physical safety is a concern (psychiatric unit) so being around people that don’t take things as serious as I do drives me crazy.
I just made the choice yo leave a job thay was not resonatimg with my soul and am working with a friend that is doable! Being economical now and paying down debt. Healing.mybpast trauma with therapy. TY Anna
Love your channel and a couple years ago found out 2 of my girlfriends were watching you too and we all laughed at the synchronicity since the three of us had childhood issues with our mothers. You have one of the best channel names on UA-cam. CONGRATS your success because you earned it by helping so many people.
I'm an entrepreneur and trauma hinders me to go forward. I'm working on my mindset. I'm fighting everyday. Needing to charge my worth but afraid, needing to step out but afraid. Dreams need to be fulfilled.
I have lots of materials for that on underearning and trauma-drive procrastination. If you have trauma, you may need to learn re-regulation before you can use the "non-traumatized" tools like mindset!
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you! I've never heard of re-regulation. I will research that.
I tidy up always because if I don’t do this my mind gets crazier can’t have it I loose to much strength thanks Annathe best
A bad interaction at work took me years to get over, in fact I didn't get over it until the that staff person took another job somewhere else, I was so relieved and less anxiety knowing I wasn't gonna bum in to her. She was a Supervisor RN.
Can you do a whole video on gift vs hobby vs vocation? Your explanation of this hit a chord with me! I have found that some things I do produce “meh” and other things I do capture people. It’s weird!
The magnitude that her videos peg me is so paralyzing sometimes I feel like UA-cam doesn't exist and she is sitting behind me and speaking straight to me ABOUT ME NO JOKE 🤦♀️‼️
I can really relate to the work place dynamics described in this video.I was dog piled in work .I had taken a job where I was underemployed there was much jealousy and I was percieved as a threat. Eventually due to absenteeism and implicated lack of capability I was dismissed.I knew I was suffering wuth trauma symptoms but used alcohol for around nine years I got clean did a Masters degree and was thinking of going further in academia also I have trained in another linked area which I was thinking of starting a business in .I have not worked fir fifteen years I seem stuck now with all these thoughts of encountering people who treated badly again in work.I sm paralysed with fear and can't moce foward and make decisions I know this is due to this trauma .I feel so sad my life has been dreadfully hard.
omg, I had a friend like the toxic worker/ friend and it was a terrible roller coaster, until I got off it. I decided that my Sanity was more important than having company. Now, I feel a little bit that I'm on the other side of the spectrum and feel a little isolated..
The subtle difference between having a gift to give to others and having a gift given to you by birth is very, very interesting, as is the distinction between gift and talent. Wonderful.
Oh, that's a very different reframing.
I Appreciate Listening to You. Thank You so much.
I am Literally healing as I Sit here. 💜⚘️
I related very much to the competitive narcissist coworker. I had a coworker/friend for 15 years who treated me just like this. She ran me down for a long time, mostly focusing on how stupid my prior career (which I loved and wanted to return to) was. Yet she constantly took classes filled with students who wanted to be in that career, always complaining about how foolish they were. I didn't understand why she took so many classes in a field she hated, but then one day, on one of the many occasions she blew up and insulted me, she threw it in my face that she wanted my career for herself. That was the last time we hung out. She saw me at a grocery store in passing and thanked me for "all the information." The truth was that she was pumping me for information that would lead to her getting everything I had lost. I was shocked that I never saw thru her.
I find at my jobs, i end up being the person others seek out to down load their feelings to. Its like a slow march of people who come to me. I like helping people but it disrupts my job. I personally enjoy helping and listening to others more than i enjoy my real job..is this a normal thing? Im i in the wrong career?
@crappychildhood fairy. Do you have any videos or advice aviht someone who always looks dishellved ? I have no self esteem to wear much nice clothes, I always feel too tired to do anything neat and tidy with my hair and make up. I'd love to be this made up, professional person. It instead no matter how early I wake up, I can't bring myself to look in the mirror and spend the time to look presentable. Is this a common thing for people that have cptsd ? I wash, or shower. I clean my teeth and I go to work, the girls all looks so fresh, awake and tidy. Then I rock in, looking so "untogether" I get too over whelmed with how to look, what to do.... And it's a self esteem thing. But I am on probation at the moment for three months... I started off looking clean and tidy with a made up face, now I am over stimulated and over exhausted that I can't activate the motivation to put effort into my appearance. Is this a thing ? My mother and father never looked very put together either, but still... I am 38 and I know better. The people can do it... I get up at 6 am every single morning yet I lounge around till the very last minute and then rush out the door 😢 almost being late sometimes. Why do I do this ? I think it's a disassociated feeling. I just numb out and play on social media and mindlessly scroll untill I need to be somewhere... Or evev now. I should be in bed but here I am avoiding my bedtime, even though I know I need to be up at 6 am. Can you please talk about why I rock into work, looking and feeling so insecure. It's awful I feel so ashamed when I see my Co workers looking polished and tidy. I actally feel embarrassed and I blush about my unwashed hair and bare face and unruly brows. But still...... I can't seem to start being a person who has the energy to have a good routine
I uninstalled some social media apps becuase I wasted so much time on them. Now I only check social media when I feel like it and I really barely check it now because I’m not really missing anything. Some social media also had me comparing myself to others who aren’t even really what we see in their real life. Comparison is the thief of joy. Then for getting my appearance together I watch UA-cam for style inspiration and it motivates me to get myself together
Thank u for ur honesty regarding ur history and professional background.
thx so much, Anna.
Thanks!
Could we please have details on the art online program?! It sounds lovely for me and others who might be stuck at home during different times. Thank you for all you do, Fairy!
I'm resonating with a lot of these trauma symptoms and this is not the first video i'm watching of yours about this subject and i find myself always in these videos except i don't have a childhood trauma i had a normal childhood i think ! So my question is can someone have a trauma from a previous lives like he's born with certain trauma that he can't even remember if you believe spiritual theories?! Thank you so much ❤
There are also theories about inherited stuff in the DNA - Like if your grandma was raped during the war , even though she never told anyone and you don' t know about this, you might carry it inside of you as if you yourself experienced that trauma..
So you don' t even have to take on reincarnation beliefs, the carried over unresolved trauma of your ancestors lives on
in you...
@@mellifergold thank you for your insight even the accuracy of your exemple is real one of my deceased grand mother was a servant in house of noble she was so pretty as my parents say so she could be a subject of sexual harassment in that house i don't know because i was born with a complex i was always avoiding any kind of contact with the opposite gender i've always been afraid if boys, men in general i never knew why ! Now I'm starting to understand a little bit what it might have happened in the past.
@@freebee9172 Oh boy , I am sorry to have hit the mark here..
- so much suffering...
For this particular " theme" to hit , you don' t even need a personal story - as apparently we also carry collective trauma / karma ( ? )...
-Over the centuries so many women were badly suppressed, violated , beaten and broken by men that every woman alive now on some level feels something of that - some perhaps just very faintly , for others ( like you perhaps ) it is
a tangible thing, a living threat so that they avoid men altogether...
Childhood and adult trauma. Just realized now.
@@hddh8974 trust me I'm Grateful and i have problems linked to some kind of trauma that i probably don't remember because i've suffered so much for a long time without knowing why?!!
Is it just me or did it seem odd that she introduced herself 3x by 12min
Psych-k . the emotion code/body code/belief code and body somatic relase also reaaaallly help
Wonderful person, you are worthy..we only have one life to live..I'm 69, soon to be 70..ready to create a new me, new life..restore you & reprogram ur mind. Yes, you can do it.
Bless
I love your attitude!!
It's a little late for me at 63yrs old, but you're absolutely right. In fact, my trauma held me back to the degree where I wouldn't even take the chance to advance in life. I always believed that I was just good enough to be a laborer my entire life, which I was. My conscience told me to use my back and not my mind to make a living. ✌️😎
I'm going on 70 used to lift 100 lbs of flour when I was younger, but now I'm finding people that I click with that are willing to understand and be patient with me. Don't get me wrong I still get triggers but it just makes me stronger. I've learned to accept people the way they are and do the best I can. I'm going to a soup kitchen and going into volunteer work maybe it may lead to other things but all you can do is try. We all have a better outlook once we try something new. It's a leap of faith. Best luck to you
Really sorry to hear that. You never know you could still do it. You’ve got time.
I will be 65 in August and I absolutely don't believe it's too late for anything. I know myself better now than ever.
I hope this doesn't sound presumptuous, but it's never too late to heal - and healing is a gift both for yourself and others. You could have a wonderful life forward, and you could also help younger people toward a healthier path. I come from a culture that respects age and experience, and while I've come to the realization that everybody ages but not everybody grows, it is heart-warming to see older people too, realize that they have healing to do. That humility takes courage, and I wish you the best
@cheriequinlan9444 I was referring to my career path. I am now retired, living on Cape Cod and enjoying life like never before. Like you, I not only know myself better but love myself better than I ever have. Life is good and many new doors are opening for me. I thank God for everything. 🙏🙏🙏✌️😎
Yes! I feel like I have to “come out” about my issues. I have in fact, done exactly that all all my jobs. It always goes bad for me. I’m going to try to keep it together at my new job I start tomorrow!
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Props on your new job yay! Good luck and remember: sometimes trauma makes you its bitch and when that happens... be kind to yourself.
All the best.
Omg me too. Feel I need to 'come out' about my trauma.
If I had to describe the affect CPTSD has had on my life…..It’s like I’m watching a fun merry go round and everyone is having fun on it. Every time I try to get on, I’m flung off, can’t get a place to hang on or find my footing. I watch even children easily get on and off but I just can’t seem to even do what a child can do.
I started watching before I realized it's 2 and a half hours!
Definitely worth the investment of my time so far! (15 minutes in...)
I have a customer service job that has no upward mobility in my position but it pays more than any job I can get with a stupid B.S. ( bachelors in science) Isn’t that wild?
Early in my career, I would get dysregulated (I called it “psyching myself out”), constantly overthinking or anxiously needing validation. Felt like deer in the headlights. It got better
I have often wondered exactly how I developed CPTSD, since my parents weren't exactly abusive or neglectful (though, they were/are both very traumatized themselves). The money issue is definitely a huge influence, I'm starting to realize. I don't even want to think about money most of the time, maybe because it's too painful to remember that I was bullied in school for wearing shabby clothes, or the fear of having friends come over because I would be ashamed for them to see how I lived... It seems so silly now, but I can see how my ideas about money came about, and how I get such anxiety when I need to make a big purchase or when an emergency comes up. I'm always trying to take the cheap route, which often ends up with me spending more money.
Partly it’s about learning the difference between thrifty and wise, and being cheap. 🙂
Yep. I’ve been an easy target for people who would take advantage of my vulnerability. I feel that the workplace puts such a spotlight or magnifying glass on anyone with mental fragility. It’s hard to learn how to play the game and compartmentalize everything in your head while simultaneously trying to make wise decisions.
Have you considered trying a support group that meets regularly, maybe even on Zoom? Finding a safe place of support outside workplace helped me. I used a 12 step for codependency online and then got into a trauma support group that my workplace EAP (employee assistance program) found for me. Also on zoom.
Treating and making decisions that I would make for a best friend...for myself...helped me also overcome some boundary issues. Its easier for me to picture how good outcomes should go if I picture a good outcome for friend; then, I take that action for myself. We are our own best friend, after all.
Best to you!
@@mtaylor7307 I had no idea there were support groups for the workplace. I have never considered any 12 step group either because I didn’t grow up around addiction. Didn’t know there were 12 steps for anything other than addiction. I’ll look into these groups you’ve mentioned. I already spent a year and a half in a DBT group, and I’ve had my personal therapist for over 5 years.
@@CarrieMHB222 Good to hear you are already participating in counseling and treatment as part of your healing journey, and checking out resources here on UA-cam, like The Fairy. It's important to always prioritize our selfcare!
Most employers starting from a medium company size offer an Employee Assistance Program or EAP /EAR that will give a free set number of phone counseling sessions that are confidential, not reported to your employer, which will not only discuss with you any topic, but will help locate other resources like counselling or support groups with options, like work with your insurance benefits, based on your income or sliding scale fee, reduced fee, or even free. Look for this toll-free EAP /EAR number in your benefits package or it may be located on the wall that has other employment posters in a break room. Human resources could also supply you the number to call.
@@CarrieMHB222 Did you also know about this with the National Alliance For Mental Health association? NAMI Peer-to-Peer is a free, eight-session educational program for adults with mental health conditions who are looking to better understand themselves and their recovery. This is free and may also have more options.
Glad you commented here!
Take good care of you. :-)
EDIT: UA-cam doesn't allow to post links but NAMI is online and has a toll-free hotline number.
Spot on. Best post here!
Is there such a thing as crap- fitting to a wrong city ?
Tried so hard for so many years but nothing worked out here...When I heard people talk about how staying in a dysfunctional relationship cut them off from truly thriving , I suddenly got an insight : yes, this is me , only the bad relationship being the one with the town, I should never have moved here ( equivalent to " I really shouldn' t have married that person...) In the wrong relationship you just can' t win no matter what effort you put in...
Same here
@@gaylaaustin7468 How do we know it is the place as such and not something else we overlooked ?
One way of finding out would obviously be to move...but you don' t want to find yourself in
another wrong place..🤕
@@mellifergold Agreed. Before moving again, it seems necessary to identify what is the bad fit. Before moving to escape my narc and his flying monkeys I did research about cultural diversity, the political atmosphere, etc. UA-camrs have great insights into specific cities or States.
@@hddh8974 there is just a fear of ending up in an even worse place... ( For the town as such is pretty, many would like to live here...) - Not knowing where to go instead, really.
@@hddh8974 Interestingly, the elderly lady I met sitting on a bench outside ( while enjoying
" just being "...) did exactly that - (and mirrored it for me) : crap- fitting to this place ! She told herself again and again " this really is a nice place, isn' t it..."
- Her son had moved her here but she was from another part of the country - which - although far less attractive , would have felt much more like
the real thing for her...
In Underearners Anonymous, we call the alternation between overfuctioning and underfunctioning "Exersion/Exhaustion." I have been thru that over and over - pushing so hard, trying to make that my norm, but inevitably crashing when I could not sustain it.
Thanks for sharing!
Caleb@TeamFairy
Thank you agin for your valuable informative teachings! Sadly, I've been at the same low position for over 10 years now for varied reasons, but not for lack of trying to promote. I've used your daily practice for nearly 2 years and do EMDR therapy, which has helped me gain more emotional sobriety. However, I still have massive anxiety when interviewing for a promotion, regardless of the constant self-love I extend to myself, or the numerous classes, youtube courses, power of positive thinking, or analyzations I've gone through. I'm fairly certain that my prior work reputation is what keeps me down and I will eventually "need to move out to move up", which is another story altogether. 😢
That sounds like a good idea! Anxiety is a bitch! Tip: look into Irene Lyon's free resources and courses. She has a unique approach to healing the traumatized nervous system beyond EMDR, therapy, and writing. Somatic experiencing is part of it. I wish you all the best!
Thank you Anna for your practical advice regarding finances and career. I took it on board and asked my employer for a pay rise - ended up getting it!!
How wonderful, congratulations! Well done! 🙌🎉🌞
Woo-hoo!
Trauma from a horrific relationship that I was trapped into multiple times....has destroyed my innerstanding of myself. It's completely disabling.
You are so perfectly on point! I love everything I learn from you!!!
Why am I just now Learning about this and why the heck have I never heard Cptsd mentioned in counseling? Well, spilt milk, and I've got a lot of work to do. Sign me up please!?
Great video! I’m trying to be more organized but it’s a sore spot because every thing had to be in its spot but away nicely, growing up. My parents came over to my house once and one pair of shoes was by my bedroom door. They both put me down because of it. Never comment how clean my house looked and smelled. And I had just cleaned the day before. But kept on about the shoe. One thing, one thing out of place. I stopped being sooo neat. Clean yes, neat and organized no.
This video means so much. It's a lonely, scary feeling. Love to you all ❤ .
Much love to you! ❤
Feel like you ❤
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God bless you for making this video 🥹 My heart is filled with hope as I'm currently applying for jobs. I knew something was out of place but now I know not to beat myself up about it. Thank you ❤🙏
I worked at a phone service job where we answered tax questions and they taught us that people can hear the smile on your face. It's true. If you go into a phone call happy, it makes the call so much easier. I still use that in my now other job. I've got good interactions on the phone, even with people who are emotional or even angry. I can almost always turn it around.
So much of the advice given in this video is spot on. I love it.
Yes, when I’m on a call, it really is possible to make someone’s day a little better…and it’s always a joy and surprise when i get a positive customer service rep on the phone 📱 and I always make an effort to acknowledge them and point out how friendly/positive they are
Thanks for your comment
I’ve been thinking about becoming a mobile notary/loan signing agent but I feel stuck. The process feels so overwhelming.
Try daily practice to work on getting un-stuck, little by little:
bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Julie@TeamFairy
I am so glad I found you, your videos are my go to when I feel lost and out of control.
You are the close trusted loved one that I needed as a child.
Your work is invaluable and i hope you never stop posting videos.
I just wish I could have you as a therapist.
I finally regulated finally it’s just a miracle thanks Anna your approach is so calming even if your a little tough love I listen more 😮😊
“Start where you are, and change the thing in front of you” 💎 now I feel prepared and ready to finally go to bed before I make my journey to work tomorrow! All the best C.C. Fairy!
I think she may have adhd. That can eventually cause doing mundane things to feel impossible after yrs of masking. Plus all the other symptoms that can look just like cptsd or even be compounded by cptsd. Personally I think she could get evaluated & put on a stimulant if it’s adhd. The difference in functioning for me has been life changing! I was a late diagnosis.
i started asking myself, why i’m atrracted to chaotic workplaces. for the last 8 years didnt realize it was my C-PTSD
Were do i start not so much money alone isoleded and lost helthy People and job becurse of my crapfit and no boundaries.in shame and start losing fait. were do i begin so out of my real self and love .
Haha being a “Klingon” aka being a “cling-on” in bad situations. Great video, Anna. People don’t talk about this topic enough.
This resonates so much with me ❤ /Karin from Sweden
Trauma Begets More Trauma 😮
Currently in the bathroom at work crying because I'm dealing with this while on shift today
I'm so sorry to hear that. We're all sending you support and encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
One thing I didn’t hear mention are sexual advances in the work place. Once that happens, it’s a spiral.
Yes I would like to see that addressed too
11:27 Worf was a Klingon who stayed in a bad situation. Picard was a weak-spined commander who would never let him display his true honor and daring valor in battle. Don't be Worf.
A little two late Ann. My job definitely caused me to open the portal to hell. 😂 Oh wow. Exactly what they said, I cause chaos.
We weren’t poor, yet it was enforced every day that we had to be frugal. There was never money for anything (which wasn’t true).
There was a lot of fear around all kinds of things. My parents are afraid of the world. It’s like they never grew up
I wish I found you in my 20s. I went from fwaning people pleasing to freeze mode. I was crap fitting in friendships. It's only now in last few years I started understanding these things. I was bullied and shamed as I have ptosis and some other issues in my eye. Now, I procrastinate like never before.
I'm so glad you're here now! -Calista@TeamFairy
Big picture, jobs that are more advanced where I can see and make decisions are much easier for me. I need to see the details, but I'm better at knowing and seeing the big picture. I make better decisions this way.
My manager is hostile, rude, disrespectful, but I am able to work and perform well because of the daily practice. I'm not crazy. My manager is VERY unpleasant to work for. He is a lot like my mother who was ungrateful and thankless no matter how hard I worked or performed. This is why I'm looking for a new role within my organization. My job is to heal and manage the trauma triggers, but my manager does not have the right to mistreat or disrespect me.
'Coming out' in a workplace that accommodates it can be extremely helpful too. I've had good experiences with that.
2:08:00 and 2:14:00 to the end
I am finding it hard to cope with things and having people coming to me with there problems Charlie
Now I realize, most of my problems have stemmed from cptsd. I've been in the dark for a long time and now I get where I come from and how it affected me until today. I hope I can heal. Any tips?
Counseling with you is it possible I’m very interested my childhood was full of trauma and it’s trickled into my adulthood. I’d like to get some help.
I def have times I can’t speak up for myself. Doubt myself even tho I’m know as good as them. Getting better tho ❤
This video 🫶🏼
What happens when you have a fear of feeling like you'll let someone down because you feel like you are unreliable or that they'll see the real you for the waste of time you feel like?
Discernmetn from someone I trist hit me hard yesterday night, but so..necessary!
Tools & Mentors, ...need to stop and watch this later, thanks again.
In new Zealand and trying to get them to give me a job with late morning starts as I can't fully function due to thyroid I've let a lot as employers down, I choose to quit but I do want money and do enjoy work, 11am - 6pm, born intellectually disabled so what can I do haha too late to study can't do it
Good luck to you! It's good that you know what schedule would suit you best. I hope you can find something that fits.
Julie@TeamFairy
What is your special writing and meditation.
bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Julie@TeamFairy
Jesus. This is the story of my life.
I was misdiagnosed with bipolar 18 years ago and have been on ssd for this whole time truly thinking i couldn't ever work again. I was a vet tech for 10 years before i had a breakdown and got fired. I'm off the unnecessary meds and feel better than i have in 20 years. Now that I've discovered this channel and started doing the daily practice i feel like i may actually be able to join the workforce again in a meaningful way. 50 year old single mom who loves this channel!!!!!❤❤
So glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Oooh my God. This IS me.
Getting enough sleep is really important to me. However, it's not uncommon for me to have the type of dreams, whilst sleeping that 'showcase' my CPTSD. I also have plenty of hang ups and self-defeating habits during the day but feel I am starting to break unhelpful cycles and turn a corner mentally now. Thanks for all your amazing content! ❤
You are so welcome! You may also like Daily Practice. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
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Excellent advice!
That sounds good.
I'm so sick of crapfitting. That much I know, I just need to figure out the rest. 1:11:34
We absolutely understand. The Daily Practice (a free course) can be a good first step. If you want to go deeper, Anna has a whole course on healing CPTSD.
Free Daily Practice: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Healing CPTSD course: bit.ly/CCF_HCPTSD
Nika@TeamFairy
thank you Anna ❤
Omg this is exactly what I needed
Glad you're here! -Calista@TeamFairy
thank you ❤
Thank you!!! ❤
I have always felt profoundly affected by childhood experiences and indeed a good many experiences in adult life. Impromptu coping strategies have often been of limited long-term benefit. However, having now discovered your outstanding videos this is providing me with a wealth of great advice and encouragement that I'm sure will make a considerable difference to my life.