2:24 intrusive thoughts are normal thoughts that we pay attention to and care too much about, seeing it as danger. They are just content. Our reaction to them is the issue. 4:57 our brain creates thoughts. We can't stop this. Sometimes the body does random stuff! Focusing on them will only increase them, a bit like a Facebook algorithm 6:12 nothing is intrusive... They aren't something to get rid of. 7:39 thoughts don't have to be meaningful 8:04 impossible to choose or get rid of thoughts. We can choose how we respond and defuse from them, creating distance... You can't turn off your brain or thoughts
Wonderful episode today guys, I love that you guys always reassure this “intrusive” thought issue us people including myself make out of ourselves at times for no literal reason other than responding in fear and panic. So thankful or the great team behind dare truly :)
Jesus i never thoght someone else felt the same way when you said that tour client felt the only thoughs he had were the ones he actively made himself think. I also have this with my actions. I feel that if i dont react i will just freeze forever. Will start implementing the method today. Thanks
Here are some tips i found. The things is one can invent any thing to help deal with this. It’s not the tool that matters but something that is unique and works for you . It resolves around the idea of disasscoiating from thoughts. 1. Disassociate= one has to make an intention to know that the THOUGHTS ARE NOT ME. So they are thoughts that are dropped in your head. But balance that out with some responsibility. That is, thoughts only identify with you , when one speak its out or one acts on it. ( therefore, being angry at someone can always be controlled) . Therefore, long as one doesn’t do anything about it , they stay as thoughts. ( this doesn’t mean one stays in fear of acting a thought out. It just means, one is aware of a choice to not do it. Kind of like the Harry Potter IMPERIO curse, where Harry has the choice to say NO.) 2. IDEAS= now this where one can have fun with. We can imagine a source of thoughts . This helps us visually be conscious of ignoring it. If we say that the brain is the source of dropping these thoughts , we blame ourselves . So imagine an outside source and make it funny or neutral. For eg, one can imagine all thoughts coming from that silly minion cartoon. Or one can imagine any planet sending us thoughts. When one does this it helps make us identify thoughts having an outside source with the purpose of making their impact no so strong by identifying as coming from within is .it also helps us be aware of our power to ignore . This power , is called free will. The choice. You can use anything that you find neutral or funny , this will vary from person to person,and have that as a source of all thoughts. Thank it , when it gives you a useful idea, or makes you remember something, and say NOPE when it says fearful things or curiosity things. You can say actually that’s interesting but I’m not really curious about this . ( meditation helps identify this OBSERVER , the one making the choice ) 3. Rule of X seconds= since we get 1000s of thoughts with some scary thoughts specially about family or health, the longer we hook to it, the more it persists into a spiral. Like the ladies gave example of repetitive nature on what one focuses on. So one can invent a rule for oneself. That whatever scary thought comes, I’ll give it 7 seconds or 10 seconds, to see what it is and let it pass. Gradually, the time can be reduced and one may no longer even need it. The problem happens, when we start exploring the thought , and wonder what if l this is natural, any thought that comes, we do question it’s feasibility. It could be an idea for a job, or a task to do. So we do require a moment to interpret it, so we can use our free will. 4. Note taking= have a notebook in hand or simply use your mobile phone. Our minds are also scared that it might forget something and miss out on something. And the urgency of an idea takes over. So just have a book or mobile app in handy , as handy as one can make it. And then whenever an idea or a task comes or an interesting idea to look up, just note it down. It tells the brain that thankyou I have noted and acknowledged. This helps the brain to calm down from this urgency and “pressure”. And empties our mind space to maintain focus on what ever one is doing. You will also realize many things you note, you will hardly care about doing them any way later. Like an idea comes urgently to watch a movie . So you note the movie title down. And just later, you will realize actually I don’t care for the movie anymore. 5. Visualization = this is a flow state one can have if not for point 2. To imagine in mind a stream of water. On which the winter leaves (which are thoughts) fall and float away. And have this awareness at all times . So as soon as a thought comes which is weird , inticing, label them as leaves. L for leaves, L for Low vibe . (Low vibes are jealousy, hatred, guilt, anger, fear, lack,doubt,. ) and imagine them fall on the river that’s just passing away. Another visualization tool is to have a flower gun. Whenever a low vibe thought comes, use your imagination to turn it into a flower as it falls on the stream. 6. Exhaustion= now initially, all of this continuous monitoring can feel exhausting but it’s only for initial training period because one has been chronically anxious and the mind needs to relearn and re collaborate. After a few days, this becomes so natural. Mediation practise further adds to the progress. With time, once someone realises that doing all above didn’t yield any harm , the mind calms down and the frequency of danger thoughts become less. The initial exhaustion of this monitoring is well worth the exhaustion and panics of living in anxiety which affects health . The above tools are playful in nature , on purpose, so to keep it as a game . Therefore, one is encouraged to develop their own imagination using the same underlying principles. Hope that helps :)
Great video.. just what I needed.. an issue few a couple of people (narcissists) making comments to and about me. And me over thinking. Thanks, again for a timely video that helps me.. Keep up the work crew.❤️
You are masters 🙏🤗❤️ I will keep watching this again and again. It really addresses my anxious mind very well. Thank you so much. How perfectly Michelle depicted my friend anxiety. Hahaha that's hilarious 8:11
Anyone having things like almost like paranoid thoughts?? Like i looked at a girl on the street abd a thought came in my mind that she's a witch or something like that... It was for a moment anf i shook it off.
Here are some tips i found. The things is one can invent any thing to help deal with this. It’s not the tool that matters but something that is unique and works for you . It resolves around the idea of disasscoiating from thoughts. 1. Disassociate= one has to make an intention to know that the THOUGHTS ARE NOT ME. So they are thoughts that are dropped in your head. But balance that out with some responsibility. That is, thoughts only identify with you , when one speak its out or one acts on it. ( therefore, being angry at someone can always be controlled) . Therefore, long as one doesn’t do anything about it , they stay as thoughts. ( this doesn’t mean one stays in fear of acting a thought out. It just means, one is aware of a choice to not do it. Kind of like the Harry Potter IMPERIO curse, where Harry has the choice to say NO.) 2. IDEAS= now this where one can have fun with. We can imagine a source of thoughts . This helps us visually be conscious of ignoring it. If we say that the brain is the source of dropping these thoughts , we blame ourselves . So imagine an outside source and make it funny or neutral. For eg, one can imagine all thoughts coming from that silly minion cartoon. Or one can imagine any planet sending us thoughts. When one does this it helps make us identify thoughts having an outside source with the purpose of making their impact no so strong by identifying as coming from within is .it also helps us be aware of our power to ignore . This power , is called free will. The choice. You can use anything that you find neutral or funny , this will vary from person to person,and have that as a source of all thoughts. Thank it , when it gives you a useful idea, or makes you remember something, and say NOPE when it says fearful things or curiosity things. You can say actually that’s interesting but I’m not really curious about this . ( meditation helps identify this OBSERVER , the one making the choice ) 3. Rule of X seconds= since we get 1000s of thoughts with some scary thoughts specially about family or health, the longer we hook to it, the more it persists into a spiral. Like the ladies gave example of repetitive nature on what one focuses on. So one can invent a rule for oneself. That whatever scary thought comes, I’ll give it 7 seconds or 10 seconds, to see what it is and let it pass. Gradually, the time can be reduced and one may no longer even need it. The problem happens, when we start exploring the thought , and wonder what if l this is natural, any thought that comes, we do question it’s feasibility. It could be an idea for a job, or a task to do. So we do require a moment to interpret it, so we can use our free will. 4. Note taking= have a notebook in hand or simply use your mobile phone. Our minds are also scared that it might forget something and miss out on something. And the urgency of an idea takes over. So just have a book or mobile app in handy , as handy as one can make it. And then whenever an idea or a task comes or an interesting idea to look up, just note it down. It tells the brain that thankyou I have noted and acknowledged. This helps the brain to calm down from this urgency and “pressure”. And empties our mind space to maintain focus on what ever one is doing. You will also realize many things you note, you will hardly care about doing them any way later. Like an idea comes urgently to watch a movie . So you note the movie title down. And just later, you will realize actually I don’t care for the movie anymore. 5. Visualization = this is a flow state one can have if not for point 2. To imagine in mind a stream of water. On which the winter leaves (which are thoughts) fall and float away. And have this awareness at all times . So as soon as a thought comes which is weird , inticing, label them as leaves. L for leaves, L for Low vibe . (Low vibes are jealousy, hatred, guilt, anger, fear, lack,doubt,. ) and imagine them fall on the river that’s just passing away. Another visualization tool is to have a flower gun. Whenever a low vibe thought comes, use your imagination to turn it into a flower as it falls on the stream. 6. Exhaustion= now initially, all of this continuous monitoring can feel exhausting but it’s only for initial training period because one has been chronically anxious and the mind needs to relearn and re collaborate. After a few days, this becomes so natural. Mediation practise further adds to the progress. With time, once someone realises that doing all above didn’t yield any harm , the mind calms down and the frequency of danger thoughts become less. The initial exhaustion of this monitoring is well worth the exhaustion and panics of living in anxiety which affects health . The above tools are playful in nature , on purpose, so to keep it as a game . Therefore, one is encouraged to develop their own imagination using the same underlying principles. Hope that helps :)
2:24 intrusive thoughts are normal thoughts that we pay attention to and care too much about, seeing it as danger. They are just content. Our reaction to them is the issue.
4:57 our brain creates thoughts. We can't stop this. Sometimes the body does random stuff! Focusing on them will only increase them, a bit like a Facebook algorithm
6:12 nothing is intrusive... They aren't something to get rid of.
7:39 thoughts don't have to be meaningful
8:04 impossible to choose or get rid of thoughts. We can choose how we respond and defuse from them, creating distance... You can't turn off your brain or thoughts
Wonderful episode today guys, I love that you guys always reassure this “intrusive” thought issue us people including myself make out of ourselves at times for no literal reason other than responding in fear and panic. So thankful or the great team behind dare truly :)
Jesus i never thoght someone else felt the same way when you said that tour client felt the only thoughs he had were the ones he actively made himself think. I also have this with my actions. I feel that if i dont react i will just freeze forever. Will start implementing the method today. Thanks
Here are some tips i found. The things is one can invent any thing to help deal with this. It’s not the tool that matters but something that is unique and works for you . It resolves around the idea of disasscoiating from thoughts.
1. Disassociate= one has to make an intention to know that the THOUGHTS ARE NOT ME. So they are thoughts that are dropped in your head. But balance that out with some responsibility. That is, thoughts only identify with you , when one speak its out or one acts on it. ( therefore, being angry at someone can always be controlled) . Therefore, long as one doesn’t do anything about it , they stay as thoughts. ( this doesn’t mean one stays in fear of acting a thought out. It just means, one is aware of a choice to not do it. Kind of like the Harry Potter IMPERIO curse, where Harry has the choice to say NO.)
2. IDEAS= now this where one can have fun with. We can imagine a source of thoughts . This helps us visually be conscious of ignoring it. If we say that the brain is the source of dropping these thoughts , we blame ourselves . So imagine an outside source and make it funny or neutral. For eg, one can imagine all thoughts coming from that silly minion cartoon. Or one can imagine any planet sending us thoughts. When one does this it helps make us identify thoughts having an outside source with the purpose of making their impact no so strong by identifying as coming from within is .it also helps us be aware of our power to ignore . This power , is called free will. The choice. You can use anything that you find neutral or funny , this will vary from person to person,and have that as a source of all thoughts. Thank it , when it gives you a useful idea, or makes you remember something, and say NOPE when it says fearful things or curiosity things. You can say actually that’s interesting but I’m not really curious about this . ( meditation helps identify this OBSERVER , the one making the choice )
3. Rule of X seconds= since we get 1000s of thoughts with some scary thoughts specially about family or health, the longer we hook to it, the more it persists into a spiral. Like the ladies gave example of repetitive nature on what one focuses on. So one can invent a rule for oneself. That whatever scary thought comes, I’ll give it 7 seconds or 10 seconds, to see what it is and let it pass. Gradually, the time can be reduced and one may no longer even need it. The problem happens, when we start exploring the thought , and wonder what if l this is natural, any thought that comes, we do question it’s feasibility. It could be an idea for a job, or a task to do. So we do require a moment to interpret it, so we can use our free will.
4. Note taking= have a notebook in hand or simply use your mobile phone. Our minds are also scared that it might forget something and miss out on something. And the urgency of an idea takes over. So just have a book or mobile app in handy , as handy as one can make it. And then whenever an idea or a task comes or an interesting idea to look up, just note it down. It tells the brain that thankyou I have noted and acknowledged. This helps the brain to calm down from this urgency and “pressure”. And empties our mind space to maintain focus on what ever one is doing. You will also realize many things you note, you will hardly care about doing them any way later. Like an idea comes urgently to watch a movie . So you note the movie title down. And just later, you will realize actually I don’t care for the movie anymore.
5. Visualization = this is a flow state one can have if not for point 2. To imagine in mind a stream of water. On which the winter leaves (which are thoughts) fall and float away. And have this awareness at all times . So as soon as a thought comes which is weird , inticing, label them as leaves. L for leaves, L for Low vibe . (Low vibes are jealousy, hatred, guilt, anger, fear, lack,doubt,. ) and imagine them fall on the river that’s just passing away.
Another visualization tool is to have a flower gun. Whenever a low vibe thought comes, use your imagination to turn it into a flower as it falls on the stream.
6. Exhaustion= now initially, all of this continuous monitoring can feel exhausting but it’s only for initial training period because one has been chronically anxious and the mind needs to relearn and re collaborate. After a few days, this becomes so natural. Mediation practise further adds to the progress. With time, once someone realises that doing all above didn’t yield any harm , the mind calms down and the frequency of danger thoughts become less. The initial exhaustion of this monitoring is well worth the exhaustion and panics of living in anxiety which affects health . The above tools are playful in nature , on purpose, so to keep it as a game . Therefore, one is encouraged to develop their own imagination using the same underlying principles.
Hope that helps :)
Great video.. just what I needed.. an issue few a couple of people (narcissists) making comments to and about me. And me over thinking. Thanks, again for a timely video that helps me.. Keep up the work crew.❤️
You are masters 🙏🤗❤️ I will keep watching this again and again. It really addresses my anxious mind very well. Thank you so much. How perfectly Michelle depicted my friend anxiety. Hahaha that's hilarious 8:11
Awesome, thanks ladies 👌
Anyone having things like almost like paranoid thoughts?? Like i looked at a girl on the street abd a thought came in my mind that she's a witch or something like that... It was for a moment anf i shook it off.
What about when intrusive thoughts are real memories as in cptsd and ptsd! Can same strategy be applied?
Thankx guys 🙏🙌👍
Is this similar to the approach as discussed in MCT?
No dare response for racing thoughts
Here are some tips i found. The things is one can invent any thing to help deal with this. It’s not the tool that matters but something that is unique and works for you . It resolves around the idea of disasscoiating from thoughts.
1. Disassociate= one has to make an intention to know that the THOUGHTS ARE NOT ME. So they are thoughts that are dropped in your head. But balance that out with some responsibility. That is, thoughts only identify with you , when one speak its out or one acts on it. ( therefore, being angry at someone can always be controlled) . Therefore, long as one doesn’t do anything about it , they stay as thoughts. ( this doesn’t mean one stays in fear of acting a thought out. It just means, one is aware of a choice to not do it. Kind of like the Harry Potter IMPERIO curse, where Harry has the choice to say NO.)
2. IDEAS= now this where one can have fun with. We can imagine a source of thoughts . This helps us visually be conscious of ignoring it. If we say that the brain is the source of dropping these thoughts , we blame ourselves . So imagine an outside source and make it funny or neutral. For eg, one can imagine all thoughts coming from that silly minion cartoon. Or one can imagine any planet sending us thoughts. When one does this it helps make us identify thoughts having an outside source with the purpose of making their impact no so strong by identifying as coming from within is .it also helps us be aware of our power to ignore . This power , is called free will. The choice. You can use anything that you find neutral or funny , this will vary from person to person,and have that as a source of all thoughts. Thank it , when it gives you a useful idea, or makes you remember something, and say NOPE when it says fearful things or curiosity things. You can say actually that’s interesting but I’m not really curious about this . ( meditation helps identify this OBSERVER , the one making the choice )
3. Rule of X seconds= since we get 1000s of thoughts with some scary thoughts specially about family or health, the longer we hook to it, the more it persists into a spiral. Like the ladies gave example of repetitive nature on what one focuses on. So one can invent a rule for oneself. That whatever scary thought comes, I’ll give it 7 seconds or 10 seconds, to see what it is and let it pass. Gradually, the time can be reduced and one may no longer even need it. The problem happens, when we start exploring the thought , and wonder what if l this is natural, any thought that comes, we do question it’s feasibility. It could be an idea for a job, or a task to do. So we do require a moment to interpret it, so we can use our free will.
4. Note taking= have a notebook in hand or simply use your mobile phone. Our minds are also scared that it might forget something and miss out on something. And the urgency of an idea takes over. So just have a book or mobile app in handy , as handy as one can make it. And then whenever an idea or a task comes or an interesting idea to look up, just note it down. It tells the brain that thankyou I have noted and acknowledged. This helps the brain to calm down from this urgency and “pressure”. And empties our mind space to maintain focus on what ever one is doing. You will also realize many things you note, you will hardly care about doing them any way later. Like an idea comes urgently to watch a movie . So you note the movie title down. And just later, you will realize actually I don’t care for the movie anymore.
5. Visualization = this is a flow state one can have if not for point 2. To imagine in mind a stream of water. On which the winter leaves (which are thoughts) fall and float away. And have this awareness at all times . So as soon as a thought comes which is weird , inticing, label them as leaves. L for leaves, L for Low vibe . (Low vibes are jealousy, hatred, guilt, anger, fear, lack,doubt,. ) and imagine them fall on the river that’s just passing away.
Another visualization tool is to have a flower gun. Whenever a low vibe thought comes, use your imagination to turn it into a flower as it falls on the stream.
6. Exhaustion= now initially, all of this continuous monitoring can feel exhausting but it’s only for initial training period because one has been chronically anxious and the mind needs to relearn and re collaborate. After a few days, this becomes so natural. Mediation practise further adds to the progress. With time, once someone realises that doing all above didn’t yield any harm , the mind calms down and the frequency of danger thoughts become less. The initial exhaustion of this monitoring is well worth the exhaustion and panics of living in anxiety which affects health . The above tools are playful in nature , on purpose, so to keep it as a game . Therefore, one is encouraged to develop their own imagination using the same underlying principles.
Hope that helps :)