*Jordan Peterson* PERFECTLY Explains My Life...

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  • @AlexHefner
    @AlexHefner  Рік тому +36

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    • @OverandOutChief1
      @OverandOutChief1 Рік тому +2

      Good review Alex. Check out the GQ interview with Jordan Peterson. He takes off the boxing gloves in that one.

    • @davidt1621
      @davidt1621 Рік тому

      You don't know it yet, Alex, but this video is a gateway like your first rock music reaction and your first political talk video reaction. This one is a slippery slope buddy.

    • @davidt1621
      @davidt1621 Рік тому

      Also, 'word to the wise', if you go all the way down this particular rabbit hole, your wife will have a very strong opinion on the subject.

    • @StudioXander
      @StudioXander Рік тому

      ua-cam.com/video/dVR6TORVC4s/v-deo.html

    • @sarcasmoassholio4208
      @sarcasmoassholio4208 Рік тому

      Id like to see JP analyze Amber Turd. She doesn't seem to agreeable

  • @NickCamokidVisneski
    @NickCamokidVisneski Рік тому +522

    The truth is that genuinely nice guys finish last because we want to make sure she finishes at least twice before we do

    • @EC-dz3fb
      @EC-dz3fb Рік тому +43

      𝐁𝐮𝐡-𝐝𝐮𝐦 𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐡! 🥁

    • @dadouttolunch6486
      @dadouttolunch6486 Рік тому +12

      Hahahahaha

    • @CorndogCrusader
      @CorndogCrusader Рік тому +48

      I mean, you joke, but that's actually true.

    • @ryanforsythe8923
      @ryanforsythe8923 Рік тому +11

      I love girls

    • @jasonknotts5001
      @jasonknotts5001 Рік тому

      That's actually not the truth. Nice guys don't get a chance to finish a girl because they can't get the girl in bed in the first place. High value women EXCLUSIVELY date assholes.

  • @jima6545
    @jima6545 Рік тому +77

    One of the best things I've ever heard,"I want to bring children into this world to be good people."

  • @colleenglanville8293
    @colleenglanville8293 Рік тому +16

    *"Agreeable People Do Not Like Conflict."*
    I'm already hearing a little bit of myself in this video already lol! 😂😂😂

    • @lindagraveline1040
      @lindagraveline1040 Рік тому +1

      I understand. I’m not at all good with conflict.

    • @colleenglanville8293
      @colleenglanville8293 Рік тому +1

      @@lindagraveline1040 A lot of people aren’t, and if you run into those kind of people here it can be quite off putting. Scary stuff lol! 😂

  • @donaldchapman4312
    @donaldchapman4312 Рік тому +34

    Introvert here. I usually find it hard to engage in small talk. It’s hard for me to feign interest in pleasantries. If a subject comes up that is either hypothetical or directly deals with issues of today, I can find myself talking quite a bit on these subjects. However, when I’m hanging around people I’m not familiar with, these don’t seem to be conversations that get brought up. I always feel like that weird guy in the background of the conversation. The joys of life.

    • @lorieakin5771
      @lorieakin5771 Рік тому +4

      You can learn a lot by observing others.
      Bringing up a topic when there's a lull in the conversation will put you quickly in your comfort zone.
      Ask the "what do you think of this" question. Everyone has an option and loves to share them.

    • @hayleybartek8643
      @hayleybartek8643 Рік тому +4

      I'm the same way. I come across as very wooden during small talk.

    • @svengangert2683
      @svengangert2683 Рік тому +5

      Weird. Can't really consider myself an introvert, but I'm a loner with social anxiety. Smalltalk is absolutely no issue for me, I'm actually able to enjoy it and people would never know that I have social anxiety, but I can't stand to be with people, especially large groups, for longer periods of time. It's exhausting to me. The few true friends I have are all rather eccentric, but not to the point where people would consider them weird. Since I was a kid I kinda learned to look at people from a birds eye perspective, which makes them pretty predictable and often boring. I subconciously recognize behavioral patterns in people. That all might sound like I don't like people very much, but it isn't true. For some reason it just takes a lot of energy for me to be social, but I still enjoy it very much.

    • @CelticSpiritsCoven
      @CelticSpiritsCoven Рік тому

      Perhaps I am a natural born conversationalist. Usually I engage in small talk telling someone something helpful that I discovered, and ask what they think about it.
      For instance, the other day I found myself in a social situation, and I began telling someone about how I no longer have to go buy bottled water and carry that heavy thing because I got a home water distiller that gives me better water than bottled water. (everyone hates having to carry that heavy package of bottled water, so it's really a universal thing most people would want to hear about a solution to the problem) So When I asked what that person thought about it, I suddenly had a crowd around me, who heard what I said, and who were then engaging in conversation about their lives. I got to know their spouses names, their children's names, where they work, where they go to church or school, how long they've lived in the city..... all sorts of things. Just because I started a conversation about having a way to no longer need to buy bottled water.
      Maybe this could be a helpful thing to do to be able to break the ice with people. Bring up a subject you are interested in. It doesn't have to be political, it can really be anything.

    • @lorieakin5771
      @lorieakin5771 Рік тому +2

      @@svengangert2683 could you possibly be an empath?
      You just described all the characteristics of one.

  • @katiegwynn4495
    @katiegwynn4495 Рік тому +121

    The people who are called *polarizing* are generally not. They are speaking their minds to a world that polarizes them

    • @Dregen1
      @Dregen1 Рік тому +6

      Polarizing and speaking your mind aren't opposites. You can speak your mind and be polarizing.

    • @davehughesfarm7983
      @davehughesfarm7983 Рік тому

      Yes yes yes

    • @Enigma9Sigma
      @Enigma9Sigma Рік тому +6

      Well yes that’s how you become “polarizing”

    • @CosmicMitosis
      @CosmicMitosis Рік тому +1

      @@Enigma9Sigma People aren't like words in a dictionary. You can't factually label somebody as any one thing simply because many people decide to do so.

    • @Enigma9Sigma
      @Enigma9Sigma Рік тому

      @@CosmicMitosis I’m not quite sure what exactly you mean here - I’m not labeling anybody, I’m merely saying that people whom others consider “polarizing” ARE considered such for the very reason that they DO speak their minds (often about issues that are somewhat controversial or not mainstream) ~ I’m not quite sure why that would be problematic?

  • @thatssonerdy4467
    @thatssonerdy4467 Рік тому +105

    Often times someone that is truly genuine is someone that is viewed as both a nice person as well as an asshole. The fact that you are seen as both should reassure you that you have respectable character and admirable perspective. As you are someone who is open to admitting that you can be wrong and have your opinions changed by something that is backed by rational and logic. While at the same being sympathetic to the emotional side as well. As a subscriber since I believe 2016 your character is very apparent...at least to me.

    • @davehughesfarm7983
      @davehughesfarm7983 Рік тому

      Thats me....A number 1 asshole..But have big compassions...

    • @winry2357
      @winry2357 Рік тому +7

      When I first got back into the dating scene a while ago, I talked to my best guy friend for advice. He said that there’s a huge difference between a “nice guy” and a good guy. A “nice guy” just wants to reel you in by acting how he thinks you want him to act. A truly good guy will be kind because it’s his nature, but there are things that he will stand his ground on and he will be open to discussing disagreements, rather than taking them personally. My best guy friend would be viewed as an asshole, he knows that, I know that, it usually works out. You know exactly who he is because he shows you who he is.

    • @Joe-gi3nj
      @Joe-gi3nj Рік тому

      Honestly, I think the people that call Alex an “asshole” are projecting because he’s open to thinkers that these people disagree with.
      Peterson’s work touches a lot on the concept of the ideal, and as JBP’s mentioned, the concept of an ideal is intrinsically Simultaneously a concept of a judge. Comparing yourself to what is ideal intrinsically highlights all of your inadequacies.
      Some people do not like realizing that they aren’t perfect. They would rather think they “are perfect just the way they are”, but this couldn’t be further from the truth (for any of us).
      You aren’t perfect; in fact you’re far from it. You can be so much more than you are currently.
      Instead of recognizing their inadequacies and aiming for what is ideal, they decide to deny or ignore that reality and externalize that and project it as hatred of Jordan Peterson (and Alex for even entertaining him).
      The reality is Alex isn’t an asshole; the people projecting their own insecurities onto him are

  • @tashaelsnau104
    @tashaelsnau104 Рік тому +10

    You're captive because he's passionate. It's so easy to listen to someone who is both passionate and knowledgeable in the subject that they're speaking. I stood and talked to a teacher who taught aerospace (something airplane related) for nearly an hour. He had me so intrigued just by his level of passion and eagerness to teach.

  • @mind5533
    @mind5533 Рік тому +31

    I, too, have been struck by my own fascination as well as the general interest in his lectures online. I recently saw Jordan Peterson live. I went, very curious to see if he was as captivating in person as he is on his videos. It was a packed house. 3100 people absolutely riveted and hanging on his every word for 90 minutes.

    • @Joe-gi3nj
      @Joe-gi3nj Рік тому +3

      I’ve seen him live twice.
      You could hear a pin drop from the back of the house because everyone was hanging on every word he was saying.
      Both times were an incredible experience, and each time I walked away feeling better for having listened to them.
      Have you listened to his lecture series on the Psychological Significance of the biblical stories?
      Both talks I’ve seen live dove into topics he addresses in much more detail in this lecture series.
      I find Peterson is at his best when he discusses religion, the idea of God, and Christianity.
      If you haven’t listened to this series, I highly recommend it.
      For me, it was a much similar experience as seeing him live (other than the “live” part, obviously)

  • @eylonemuskson4177
    @eylonemuskson4177 Рік тому +43

    Jordan Peterson is a genius. I won't consider him any other way.
    He's changing my life.

    • @serghonest9
      @serghonest9 Рік тому +4

      People in general won't consider him a genius until after his death. Their ego won't let them appreciate him while he's still alive.

    • @eylonemuskson4177
      @eylonemuskson4177 Рік тому +2

      @@serghonest9 I fear you're right honestly, and that's what makes it sad.

    • @jimbalaya007
      @jimbalaya007 Рік тому

      Same.

    • @theradiantdehd3997
      @theradiantdehd3997 Рік тому +4

      @@serghonest9 The truth hurts. Responsibility is hard. Having to pick your words carefully, and having to think about the potential consequences of one’s actions before acting is difficult. He pushes self improvement and human rights, and that’s not a comfortable thing to support and live. The easy path is just to demand that everyone else takes care of you and let’s you do whatever you want. The meaningful path is very much the opposite. Meaning and growth. comes from misery, sacrifice, and pain, and that scares most people.

    • @91GT347
      @91GT347 Рік тому +1

      @@theradiantdehd3997 💯Theres no good without bad.

  • @jimbalaya007
    @jimbalaya007 Рік тому +19

    He's a genius at understanding human psychology in depth and explaining it with clarity and practicality. People's eyes need to be open to this wisdom. I tell my wife every day how important he's becoming to my own mental health and life purpose. Mind blown with each new lecture. 🤯

  • @timsmith1426
    @timsmith1426 Рік тому +6

    Jordan also has a way of making complicated things understandable.

  • @queenofgreen83
    @queenofgreen83 Рік тому +71

    Love seeing the journey you’re going on with these JP videos. Regardless of any politics, I just don’t see how people can be so critical of a man that’s actively trying to help others improve their lives in such practical, applicable ways. Keep up the reactions and the growth!

    • @AutomaticDuck300
      @AutomaticDuck300 Рік тому +6

      Because certain people on Twitter would prefer to remain a victim and get that false sense of moral superiority with very little effort. Because it feeds the ego which is addictive.
      So it’s a lot easier to say “He’s a right wing troll! He’s every bad name in the book!” Because then they don’t have to introspect and do the hard work (and go through the often painful process) of self improvement.

    • @tristrampiper2820
      @tristrampiper2820 Рік тому

      This man if l can call him that is a piece of human garbage. Hate speech wrapped in what seems normal. Try to think

    • @SebastianBeckerPhoto
      @SebastianBeckerPhoto Рік тому

      Because JP is a toxic, mysogynistic a*hole.

    • @wendyreinmiller8992
      @wendyreinmiller8992 Рік тому

      They are critical of JP because they are closed minded and don't want anyone to make them question themselves or their own carved in stone beliefs.

    • @ViolettaVie
      @ViolettaVie Рік тому

      People who attack Peterson don't actually listen to him. They heard he was bad by group think and that must be the truth. Anyone who is curious at least looks into what people say to figure out what the truth is. But the radical left lacks curiosity.

  • @weepingwell
    @weepingwell Рік тому +4

    I maintain that metal heads are the nicest of people. I don't know what the correlation is but I am working on it.

    • @coldmoonlight6361
      @coldmoonlight6361 Рік тому +1

      Same.
      Quite the rabbit hole.

    • @potatos_4_free
      @potatos_4_free Рік тому +2

      We won't be mean to people so maybe it's kind of cathartic to listen to mean sounding music.

  • @colonelb
    @colonelb Рік тому +11

    Hey Alex - if you are gonna have kids someday - DO WATCH all of his Maps of Meaning lectures on UA-cam - they are FULL of essential bits of wisdom like that "socialize by 4" and other things like that that are super important to know. All of my friends with kids who watch Peterson all say, "I wish I had seen these before I started raising my kids", so, that's probably worth knowing. Cheers.

  • @Twitchyx7
    @Twitchyx7 Рік тому +19

    I believe psychology professors have an inherently captivating topic to talk about, and depending on their credentials if they are doctors or highly esteemed in their studies, they have all kinds of real world examples they can draw from for stories and getting a point across. But that is of course aside from Jordan Peterson being a very good and distinguished speaker. I just know I was always ready to go to my Abnormal Psychology course, never missed it. Shout out to Dr. Abramovitch at Texas State University, a brilliant instructor and neuroscientist!

  • @baddreams3850
    @baddreams3850 Рік тому +7

    Dude all these lectures are available in full 🌝 on UA-cam. The maps of meaning course changed my life. Especially when reading the required materials and there are even links to assignments

  • @AmaraJordanMusic
    @AmaraJordanMusic Рік тому +7

    Being a kind peacemaker is awesome, as long as we have healthy boundaries we keep, to prevent us from letting people run roughshod over us.

  • @sourgir-wh6xd
    @sourgir-wh6xd Рік тому +24

    💕 I wish I could go back in time and tell my young self NOT to waist my time on the bad boys. Luckily I learned my lesson and found my nice guy who has brought me nothing but love and happiness for past 22 years 😍

  • @GenXfrom75
    @GenXfrom75 Рік тому +3

    My husband and I are complete opposites. Together 19 years... And I'll admit, it's rough at times! Lol *BUT* the *key* is *RESPECT* !!!!

  • @imeleventeen
    @imeleventeen Рік тому +20

    You and your girl should both take the personality trait test that Jordan Peterson and some other experts made

    • @ianwest7763
      @ianwest7763 Рік тому

      If I’m not mistaken, they’re married already?

    • @felipechaves580
      @felipechaves580 Рік тому +1

      I did it with my gf, a lot of fun.

  • @imeleventeen
    @imeleventeen Рік тому +6

    Thank you for this video sir

  • @melbatoast3677
    @melbatoast3677 Рік тому +8

    peterson changed the way i was parenting my son. i realized i was being way too overprotective. im grateful to dr peterson

  • @customcornpop
    @customcornpop Рік тому +5

    It really warms my heart so see Dr Petersons work resonate with you the way it did with so many of us. As you said, lessons we "needed to know growing up".

  • @evhleppard
    @evhleppard Рік тому +5

    I really enjoy listening to Peterson. Very interesting and intelligent man.

  • @lindagraveline1040
    @lindagraveline1040 Рік тому +3

    Love these reactions Alex, keep up the great work. Keep moving forward!

  • @stationdisatrous647
    @stationdisatrous647 Рік тому +23

    Jordan Peterson is one of the great logical thinkers in the world right now. I'm so glad you are doing these videos.

    • @chrisparnham
      @chrisparnham Рік тому

      No, he ain't where are you getting that theory from lol? Have you read his stuff? Peterson is a narcissist, a blowhard whose arguments are fatally compromised by bad faith, petulance, intellectual laziness, and blatant bigotry. He says he's not right-wing and would never be but everything he rants on about is picked up by the usual right-wing morons and oh do they love his stuff. He knows that trash sells and can't help himself. Pay no attention to him he's dangerous and you won't see him around when it all goes wrong.

  • @deplorableeye1628
    @deplorableeye1628 Рік тому +18

    After six decades of being a nice guy, I am happy with my life!

  • @deannascott8050
    @deannascott8050 Рік тому

    This was fascinating. Thanks for sharing.

  • @BlackArr0w
    @BlackArr0w Рік тому +11

    Yes, more Jordan Peterson!! His lectures are always so interesting!

  • @daveking9393
    @daveking9393 Рік тому

    was just about to watch this on his channel, but figured it would be fun to view it with you. thanks for sharing. all the best.

  • @lungabibi775
    @lungabibi775 2 місяці тому

    I love your out-tro 😅😅👏👏 keep the Jordan Peterson videos coming

  • @felixrabbitsoni9204
    @felixrabbitsoni9204 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for your reactions, always enjoy them man, keep it up! :D

  • @sppsports2449
    @sppsports2449 Рік тому +2

    1) Being agreeable certainly has benefits, but it also has drawbacks. In the working world, being disagreeable gives advantages, such as higher salary. But it's also true that disagreeable people have less friends and are more cynical in nature. Agreeable people often have more friends, they have a network, and they're often more optimistic in nature.
    2) You can change your nature. This is what assertiveness training is all about.
    3) You should aim to be agreeable with your loved ones and close friends, while remaining disagreeable in employment. This is the best of both worlds.

  • @D3ADPO3TRY
    @D3ADPO3TRY 10 місяців тому

    Thanks for sharing this. JP is a great human being, and an amazing educator.

  • @harolddeschenes4640
    @harolddeschenes4640 Рік тому +1

    OMG this video made me cry because it's almost as if he could see right through me... How many chances have I had in my life to speak out my mind but I just didn't because I was too afraid of the backlashes.... This man is my new heroe.

  • @wheresthefreedom6442
    @wheresthefreedom6442 Рік тому

    Love these lectures

  • @earthboundmother205
    @earthboundmother205 Рік тому

    This rocked the house and us for me. Love this

  • @mitchkampen
    @mitchkampen Рік тому

    Alex, watching your journey through metal and now Jordan Peterson is very revitalizing to watch. This was me 6 years ago. It's like going through it again for the first time:p

  • @DecapitatedPlaythings
    @DecapitatedPlaythings Рік тому +4

    Hey Alex, we have something in common. I'm also a person who doesn't like to see people fighting or upset so I try to crack a few jokes and hope that they see that the disagreement wasn't worth the fight. I'm always trying to smooth those waters because I prefer a more peaceful atmosphere.

  • @karicastanza5216
    @karicastanza5216 Рік тому +6

    Love the Jordan Peterson videos! We all need to learn more about ourselves and other people. Navigating the social waters of this world is never easy and is doubly worse when one is agreeable. Thanks for sharing!

  • @mneugent7658
    @mneugent7658 Рік тому

    Man, of all the people you react to this brilliant man is thee one you cannot talk over or pause then jump back into without a quick rewind. Every syllable he speaks is important to hear.

  • @scottmoloney7642
    @scottmoloney7642 Рік тому

    Alex you are amazing and you keep doing it keep it up dude

  • @hemlocke7359
    @hemlocke7359 Рік тому

    Thoroughly enjoyed this.😂

  • @ssloestj.4008
    @ssloestj.4008 Рік тому

    I love you Alex. You are so open minded yet skeptical. Love you’ve said you are more agreeable and I love that. You are funny, charismatic, and smart. Such a great voice of influence.

    • @nenmaster5218
      @nenmaster5218 Рік тому

      Dude got hour long video essays made about him just to lisrt all his fails and r/confidentlyincorrect moments thx to "Some More News

  • @grimmliberty7447
    @grimmliberty7447 Рік тому +2

    I have found that as long as you match your mate along One temperamental variable almost exactly, you can help each other grow on all the rest. For my wife and I that's Compassion.

  • @Joe-gi3nj
    @Joe-gi3nj Рік тому +3

    It honestly blows my mind that Peterson is a “controversial figure”.
    I find his actual work to be incredibly profound. (Especially his lecture series on the “Psychological Significance of the Biblical stories”)
    It’s eminently wise, incredibly profound, and refreshing to hear in a culture that has rejected any sense of morality/wisdom that humans have accumulated throughout history.
    I’ve found the people that find him “controversial” are those that only know him from secondary sources, only know him from his protests against compelled speech in Canada (supposed “anti-trans” protests), or have a hard time being reminded that they fall short of what is ideal.
    Jordan Peterson brings an incredibly profound perspective of The ideal, and as he’s mentioned, recognition of the ideal is intrinsically recognition of a judge that highlights our own inadequacies.
    Some people don’t like realizing they aren’t perfect; and they externalize their own projections on to Peterson for reminding them of that.
    These folks will shout “you’re perfect just the way you are”, when in reality couldn’t be further from that.
    The truth is: You aren’t perfect; in fact you’re far from it. You can be so much more than you are currently.
    Instead of wallowing in that (or denying that fact entirely), it’s time to grow up, bear your cross, and manifest that better version of yourself; it isn’t going to happen spontaneously.
    Find the highest possible ideal that you can possibly conceive, and aim for it.
    We’re bound to fall short, but continuously seek to stay on that track will continuously move us closer to that ideal. Seek to adopt the most responsibility that you can bear.
    None of this should be controversial.
    However, it goes against our current hedonistic culture and some people “get angry” if it means instant gratification isn’t involved.
    I truly don’t understand why he is such a Controversial figure, but then again, Christ did say “When the world hates you, remember they hated me first”.

  • @Japhea
    @Japhea Рік тому

    I have been watching your reactions for a good bit now, a little bit of your previous NF reactions, some Metallica, mostly your Skillet reactions, and HEAVILY from your DOOM music reactions, because I flipping LOVE DOOM. You are, in a lot of ways, an opposite of me. However, you point out so many things that I'm like "Yeah!!" and you make a lot of comments in the music and stuff that I'm like "That's what I'm saying!". I connect with you on a level to things, and I'm over here like "Wait, you're so different from me in so many ways. What is this?" I get it now. Like REALLY! I am an extremely agreeable person, and, just like you pointed out, I myself can also calm the waters down from a really heated situation. Even from our vast differences, I think that agreeableness that we both compare to is what gets me so hyped to see you react to something I wanna see. THAT'S CRAZY!! Lol, anyways, I only found out about Jordan Peterson a few days ago and have been going down this rabbit hole pretty vastly since. And I'm EXTATIC that you react to him too!! I'm happy, you're great man :)

  • @Gooochmo
    @Gooochmo Рік тому

    Please start posting links to the videos you react to in the description. Keep killing it!

  • @jbohler33
    @jbohler33 Рік тому

    Keep it up Alex!!! :D

  • @BlueHourProductions
    @BlueHourProductions 10 місяців тому

    "Get off my back Janice!" 😂😂

  • @x3mslayer
    @x3mslayer Рік тому

    I want to hear more about the similarity between the creativeness curve and criminality curve. Such cool conversations~

  • @martapanosian4814
    @martapanosian4814 Рік тому

    Hey Alex a big hug from Uruguay here! Love your last reaction to the AIC - Love hate love. I recomend react to skid row - "quicksand jesus" or the live wembley version of "i remember you ". Thanks!!!! And rock on!!!

  • @dizzyscorpio1
    @dizzyscorpio1 Рік тому

    I am so amazed that I have not heard of this gentleman...I am the "quote" nice person who has become anit social due to being easily taken advantage of or as I have mental health professional put it I have a target that screams out hey easy target...so much of what he says is sooo true and I am going to show him or ask my current psych about him since I am trying to learn how to expand my world outside 2 people..lol Thank you so much for posting this with the thumbnail you did caught my attention right away...its definately opening my eyes that maybe I am not alone in the world feeling the way I do...:D

  • @awesome_by_default
    @awesome_by_default Рік тому

    Paused the video at 10:28 to put in my two cents on that question. I think it's because with creativity comes experimentation. As you're becoming more and more creative you are exploring the world more. Testing your limits.
    I think my biggest problem is being way too low in conscientiousness. I "go with the flow" too much to where I'm stagnating. Time to start planning things, making schedules.

  • @nishantjoshi4392
    @nishantjoshi4392 Рік тому

    Big fan of your communication skills , Alex. You're a nice guy..!
    From India 🇮🇳❤️

  • @cristobal9677
    @cristobal9677 Рік тому

    been a J Peterson fan before he blew up, hes a genius.... his debates are ART

  • @ArjanAJ
    @ArjanAJ Рік тому

    You are so nice, dude! .. and funny 😂

  • @kevinlaunius
    @kevinlaunius Рік тому

    Damn!! I'm taking notes/quotes & hanging them on my fridge!!!!!!!!

  • @naomihoyte7879
    @naomihoyte7879 Рік тому

    I love your reactions to his lectures.
    I wanna see one to his FULL analysis of THE LION KING. The term mindfuck doesnt even come close.

  • @jeffreysmith236
    @jeffreysmith236 Рік тому

    thank you, the meme you posted about steam rising from wounds made me laugh so hard. That is me at parties as well. I will circulate and join in in interesting conversations, almost always with other men, but after a while I will stop caring. I might notice that I am on the outside and will find a distraction. I do remember once that a female friend was mixing shots called silk panties made with blackberry schnapps, those were awesome so I did 8. I definitely stopped caring about not talking with anyone. But that was over fifteen years ago.

  • @EsoxLucius21
    @EsoxLucius21 Рік тому +1

    Alex, you are amazing for bringing this to the masses. Thanks. I agree with whatever you say. Or maybe I don’t.

  • @kristinahammer2757
    @kristinahammer2757 Рік тому

    J.P. is dropping some bombs, brother! Whoo! 💣🤯💯💚

  • @AmaraJordanMusic
    @AmaraJordanMusic Рік тому

    About therapy giving “not exactly assertiveness training,” and it really being about how to negotiate for yourself… not really. It’s generally about distinguishing practical and safe boundaries and learning to hold them so people don’t walk over you.
    In more extreme situations, there may be discussions on how to assert yourself, sure, when working with a very timid individual that’s starting from the very very beginning, but those are far more rare. Generally it’s about finding the line and holding it when faced with pressure.

  • @grimmliberty7447
    @grimmliberty7447 Рік тому +1

    On the Big Five, the trait people get wrong all the time is Neuroticism.
    While it is true that is represents negative emotions, it is also Nature's Danger Sense!
    I am Extremely Low in Neuroticism, rarely experience negative emotions, but also don't fear things I SHOULD.
    My wife balances us out, by pointing to all the potential Dangers around us.

  • @dadouttolunch6486
    @dadouttolunch6486 Рік тому

    Peace friend!
    🤘🇨🇦✌️

  • @spamhere1123
    @spamhere1123 Рік тому +4

    I'm highly conflict averse, but I'm also quite disagreeable. I will avoid conflict, not by smoothing things over or letting someone else have their way, but instead by just avoiding the person entirely. I have zero problems with cutting a person out of my life entirely, and also zero problem if that results in zero people meaningfully in my life. I went a good decade with no friends whatsoever, and no joke, I grew more and became a better person during that time than ever before.

  • @ilovejettrooper5922
    @ilovejettrooper5922 Рік тому

    @Alex Hefner
    @10:21 There's a match because "creativity" is the more relatable form of "openness" - which he uses on the BIG5 personality test he has - which (roughly) reduces to "messes around with boundaries". Now, that has utility in being creative - because you get to try out new versions of an old thing, roughly speaking, and sometimes the old thing in a new form is a rocket that's now re-usable, or a car that's now electric, or a reactor going from needing a building to being in Iron Man's suit ;) - but it also has the risk of people not respecting the boundaries of other people, places, or ideas, which is a problem if those boundaries are *necessary*.

  • @coreyhurst5640
    @coreyhurst5640 Рік тому +1

    Alex I'm in the same boat but I get away from conflict like you said you smooth it out I get away from it

  • @johnmclaughlin763
    @johnmclaughlin763 Рік тому

    Most people say I’m a nice guy. I never thought of this as an impediment to success. I chose my career early on and have found success by our society’s standards. I just don’t fully equate agreeableness and “nice” although I understand the similarities and accept the interchangeability for the purpose of this discussion. But I agree wholeheartedly that agreeableness holds people back quite often. I see it in patients all the time. Within the confines of our private interaction they make useful recommendations for their boss, they say brilliant things that would help them advance.
    So, although usually we are discussing a different chief complaint, I often ask, “Why don’t you tell your boss exactly what you just told me?” And, ultimately, they fear public judgement more than anything in the world. Dr. Peterson is doing a great good for the world here. It is one of the top messages to help those around us self-actualize. But the power of an overly negative, judgmental parent? It cannot be overstated in my humble opinion. I grew up as a missionary doctor’s kid in the jungle of Panama in the 70s. There wasn’t any judgement. Heck, we were just trying to make enough sandles out of old tires to keep our poor friends from getting foot fungi. So severe judgment may be a bigger problem in the first world. I’m not sure. But I’d love to hear some other opinions on it. Hope everyone feels blessed today.

  • @gangrene11
    @gangrene11 6 місяців тому

    wow. I know what I want, and I am still agreeble.

  • @OhioCruffler
    @OhioCruffler Рік тому

    Love it.

  • @TheNitelite10
    @TheNitelite10 Рік тому

    This is so enriching! Can this channel get anymore quality?

  • @wilksy2008
    @wilksy2008 Рік тому

    Bruh. Less than 5 seconds in, “noice! 😏” 😂 I’m here for it! 🕺🏻

  • @YTCBlackStar
    @YTCBlackStar Рік тому +1

    There's a difference between a good person vs a nice person. Knowing this difference is key.

    • @savsmiles3042
      @savsmiles3042 Рік тому

      Or a nice person and a kind person.
      Good is subjective

    • @royalecrafts6252
      @royalecrafts6252 Рік тому

      @@savsmiles3042 I am for sure not a kind person

  • @stephenwium497
    @stephenwium497 Рік тому

    Alex!! Firstly, I'm loving the content man!! Secondly, you should check out his Forest FIre and Be A Monster speeches. Lastly, have you checked out his biblical lectures?

  • @sabrinacle
    @sabrinacle Рік тому

    Jordan Peterson is like our cosmic dad

  • @jeanmarie9797
    @jeanmarie9797 Рік тому

    That's me too Alex! Smoothing the waters and I thought it was a good thing. Turns out I didn't know how to negotiate at all!

  • @thekingslime8334
    @thekingslime8334 Рік тому

    when you think of ideas constantly good or bad the creativity can come in ways of "how to get what you want" from bad things in ways ppl are against trying cuz your creativity is giving you plans and ideas. possibility

  • @MrEtown87
    @MrEtown87 Рік тому +10

    Yes Alex, these are the kinds of informative clips of JPs I hoped you would react to, the lectures, amazing stuff. Small nit pick though, not trying to be a prick here, I honestly don't mind you not pausing to speak over most of your videos, music & movies etc but this man chooses his words very carefully and missing as little as half of a sentence from JP when you speak to the camera can mean potentially missing a valuable piece of information or even a revelation for yourself. So basically I'm nicely asking if in future you could (for JP lecture clip reactions especially), pause the clip for a moment when you want to add your thoughts. But of course also feel free to tell me to piss off because you will do things the way you want to and exercise your trait of disagreeableness!

    • @nerdyginger7430
      @nerdyginger7430 Рік тому

      bro. just go watch the actual video. tf?

    • @MrEtown87
      @MrEtown87 Рік тому +1

      @@nerdyginger7430 I have, thanks "bro". Re-read my message and you'll realize its point is to benefit Alex, you clearly missed the point. Pay more attention, go clear your room

  • @notyourbusiness4254
    @notyourbusiness4254 Рік тому

    In regard to your point of "if i had Jordan Peterson as my professor I wouldn't have skipped as much/would've paid more attention" I think there would've been an extremely minute difference at best and it's the same reason why you weren't invested in the other teachers' lectures : you didn't go there in order to hear Mr. McConaughey's lecture on astrophysics(random examples) you went there because you wanted a college degree, same as everyone else. The reason you think you would've enjoyed Peterson's lectures more is because you are willingly seeking them, at your own schedule and interest, which means you have already committed your own time and interest into the subject without anyone else telling you. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.

  • @rosetyler5368
    @rosetyler5368 Рік тому

    9:00 mark. What it's all about, my friend. That's the best part about kids. Leaving your legacy in the form of a good human being who will have kids and so on.

  • @brendan3081
    @brendan3081 Рік тому

    without trading childhood horror stories i think you and I had very similar up bringings and i too have been the peace keeper agreeable one for most of my life.....ill admit though that at 27 ive gotten to a point where im resentful of having to be that person because those around cant take care of their own shit and that causing me to have to put my own life on hold.

  • @F13thvoorhees
    @F13thvoorhees Рік тому +1

    Isn't it great to listen to someone talk... And everything makes sense. 😅

  • @JKM395
    @JKM395 Рік тому

    Dude. Nice segue into the add. Getting all professional on us. I've already got one, or I'd check them out.
    Don't worry. He's calling me out as well. It made me a great bodyguard, but it's been a problem in other areas.

  • @solavita306
    @solavita306 Рік тому

    Dr. Peterson says Being a Human Being is Hard Work. He also says no one is exempt from this fact. So if you want change the world for the better, if you want to improve your own circumstances, if you want to be something positive and good in someone else's life, quit sniveling and griping in the corner, show up and put in the work. I love that man.

  • @HereIsWisdom1318
    @HereIsWisdom1318 Рік тому

    8:39-Any more than is absolutely necessary!

  • @blitztim6416
    @blitztim6416 2 місяці тому

    A lot of good advice in a short period of time.

  • @colleenglanville8293
    @colleenglanville8293 Рік тому

    *"GET OFF MY BACK JANICE!!! IT'S A F**KING PRINGLE'S CAN!!!"*
    I died of laughter lol! 😂😂😂

  • @sticktoyourdrums8177
    @sticktoyourdrums8177 Рік тому

    It's all about how you exercise your creativity during those important years. If you don't have a constructive outlet, you will use it to create chaos.

  • @UncensoredScion
    @UncensoredScion Рік тому +2

    Alex, when you give the "I'll be the peacemaker" style part, are you saying in a round about way "if I have to take the heat for this, I'm okay with that."
    because it seems to sound like you are.

  • @LukeCrompton91
    @LukeCrompton91 Рік тому

    Huxley - Flesh and Bone

  • @Tampahop
    @Tampahop Рік тому +5

    Jordan Peterson tends to be able to put things in simple terms for you to understand and make it interesting at the same time. I can compare this to many professors I had in college that could put me to sleep in two minutes.

  • @Bella_Love_123
    @Bella_Love_123 Рік тому

    Please react to more Peterson! :)

  • @luisbarrera1
    @luisbarrera1 Рік тому

    I could listen to JP all freaking day long!!!!!

  • @danielwarrenguitar
    @danielwarrenguitar Місяць тому

    One of the main differences between college and high school is that by college the students are supposed to be self-motivated to learn, so it is not the job of the college professor to motivate you to learn.

  • @TheMacister
    @TheMacister Рік тому

    Try to watch the podcast jocko willink 98 with Jordan, they review the full series of classes and books

  • @natl5692
    @natl5692 Рік тому +1

    This is also a society thing. As a french (yes we 're rude and everything) but we learn to disagree and be critical. We learn it in the private sphere but also in school

  • @franklyncheatum2324
    @franklyncheatum2324 Рік тому

    Regarding the correlation between creativity and criminality . . . The first is the ability to think of alternatives that most people don't realize are there. The latter comes from the tendency to act in ways that most people don't find acceptable. If you're not creative, disregarding those that have been habituated to crime, you tend to not think of criminal acts very often as alternatives to doing what society asks of you.

  • @d.j.cuthbertson4585
    @d.j.cuthbertson4585 Рік тому

    Be a good man, not a nice guy. Also I wanna know what video that clip of the two dudes after the human centipede part was🤣