I have a friend who loves dolls and she will buy exactly every doll she wants and can afford all through the year. At the end of the year she donates them all to local families for gift-giving. I love that she acquires, enjoys, and shares as a process that gives her joy and then spreads the joy.
For purging if you can re use or repurpose something then that is much better than throwing it in the trash atleast from an eco friendly standpoint. For example we have taken old christmas light strings and ethernet cables that no longer work and use them in the garden in a lattice pattern as "netting" for plants that are vines or things that need support to creep on. Old bookshelves that we no longer need end up being a planter box or bed in the garden, old worn shirts end up being used as cleaning rags in the garage. Obviously not everything can be re-purposed like this but doing this when you can will keep things out of the landfills.
To own less, I do grocery pick up so I am not tempted to shop the other side of the store for things I don't need. It doesn't cost any more and they do the shopping for me, saving me hours and hours! 😁
I don't do pick up as I.dont have transport but I do get mine delivered have done for about 12 years, would cost me more in bus fare and taxi home, so much easier defo life changing x
I don‘t do this bc I would miss the last minute deals, eg I never buy meat full or sale price but when it‘s marked down in the store, then I freeze it till I need it. Also cheese often gets marked down, so expensive otherwise. If everything went to a scheme like Too good to go, I would maybe switch, but I shop more cheaply this way, for the same quality.
I love the 30 day rule. One time I waited. Decided to buy it, but the item was gone! However, I wasn’t that sad so I must not of wanted it that badly after all lol 😂
There’s this weird thing that can happen with frugal living where you own things longer or spend less money overall but still acquire free things, etc and it becomes a different type of clutter. This isn’t meant to reflect on anyone but myself but it is something I am reconfiguring in my own philosophy and minimalist mindset. The one in, one out rule must be kept under these circumstances, especially.
I relate! It has been difficult to say no to things family or friends are getting rid of but every single time I accept it I regret it. The additional clutter and items. Ugh. Lol. Even harder than that is as I purge I am sooo tempted to offer it to my kids ….. because it is so nice and cute…. 😂 unless it is something I feel they really could use, I have stopped doing that. And if I do I tell them that they don’t have to take it and if they do and want to get rid of it an hour later I completely support it.
So true! I used to volunteer in a thrift shop, and I always brought home some cool, super inexpensive high quality item and was so proud of my finds! But stuff is stuff. Now that I'm a minimalist, I only go to the thrift store if I need a specific item.
Having open shelving rather than closed boxes/drawers really helps show what you have. If its something that you hate looking at that often you will be more willing to get rid of it/sell it/donate. Visual clutter is very effective. If you have clothes you are unsure to get rid of put them it the most easily visual spot. You'll either start wearing it more of get rid of it sooner than if it was squished in the back somewhere.
Prescription sun glasses that last for ever. . Goooood ones are MUST. For kids on the beach or whenever is sunny or even blue ones on cloudy days. Love them.
I definitely think about where something is going to live in my home before buying. I'm by no means a minimalist yet, but I have started crafting a much cleaner, more streamlined aesthetic in my home and I find it quite peaceful. The last thing I want are knick knacks back on the shelves, or so many clothes or shoes they are spilling out of closets or drawers that can't hold them all.
We did purchase an inflatable paddle board. Was a worthwhile investment for our health and lifestyle. A few of my friends own them and we go out together regularly. Been wanting one for years and I’m glad I made the purchase. With my lifestyle I will spend on health and fitness as I don’t spend on entertainment. I don’t even have Netflix.
I used to beg for a pet koala when I was a little girl.... ❤️ By the way, one of my favorite things about my husband is how well he takes care of the items he has. It's something that is SO important to me.
I also grew up with the philosophy of "take good care of the things you have, and treat them with respect - there may not be $ to replace them if lost or broken."
Just a tip when you get to hold a koala.... Make sure you are wearing no perfume etc or they will try and get off straight away. Love your videos too. Have learnt so much.
Another thing I consider when I'm purchasing items is how will I dispose of this item. At work, we've been looking at becoming more sustainable with our products' lifecycles, which has inspired me in my home life to also consider this. Not only is it good for the environment, but it's also much less stressful if you know that you can safely and quickly dispose of something.
While I’m “fly by” commenting, lol, the spiritual journey is so at the heart of this. And it’s really not easy. It’s so hard to live mindfully. I happen to live on the edge of an extremely wealthy community that is all about minimalist houses and big picture windows looking in at vast empty living spaces. Much of these peoples lives revolve around curating experiences like expensive vacations but that’s just a different kind of mental clutter. Regardless of your station, you must find stillness and pause. That is an experience too. This is just a reminder to myself and anyone reading not to trade material objects for lifestyle materialism like senseless travel.
I haven't watched this yet, just getting ready to do so. One thing came to my mind when I was watching Minimal Mom was this: I will probably post it on other channels as well, but when deciding whether or not to keep something "practical", ask yourself "If I didn't have this item, is there something else I already have that I could use instead?" If the answer is yes, then the item goes...or the other item that you could use instead goes, depending on which one you like best.
Hi, This Video made me realize that I almost buy something that was not necessary. We needed a blanket and it was on my shopping list for a while,. I was cleaning my kids closet and found old bed spread that now I’m useing as a blanket when I want to get cozy. It works just fine and who cares it has Elsa and Anna characters on it 😂 I just realized how easy for me is to spend money on things that are not that important. I also try to live and spend consciously
I did something similar: revived an old comforter from storage. It had some stains and didn't match the room at all (bright, juvenile colors, and a busy pattern). Rather than buying a new one, I just put a duvet cover on it, which cost a lot less than a new comforter, and is easier to clean.
when i started my recovery from hoarding. my husband and i had one big rule we started in 2020 throughout the week while cleaning have a box fill it with stuff we want to donate. and when we have to go out to another town for things we need we fill the car with those donations and we MUST donate that day! since we live in a small town we basically go to the bigger cities 2 times a month so we put this rule in place and still do this to this day we basically get rid of 5 boxes of stuff and bringing less home i feel tired after since when getting rid of the stuff i had for years is gone the stress leaves my body i feel great after that.
I believe what you said about the Ws ,or conscious buying as I call it ,is one of the most important things to do. I would also add once a year throw everything out of your cupboards, check them , and think if you still want/need them, and just simply remember what you have. If yes, put them back. If no, throw them away/donate/sell them.
Hello Marissa. Another great video. Just wanted to let you know that there's one tip you gave a long time ago that stuck really hard and that is "you can appreciate something without owning it". I was the type of person that had to have everything that had a tweet bird on it or a Betty Boop 😂😂. Otherwise I thought I didn't actually liked them. Now I see merch with them and I look at it, then your voice comes to my mind and I put it back and happily go my way and I've never felt any regret. Yesterday I saw a vintage Betty and my daughter pointed at it and said momy are you gonna take it? And I said no because I didn't need it even though it was precious 😜. Like this many things haven't come in my life because of a couple of voices of wonderful people I follow and that has been an enormous help. Thanks for everything these past years. Big hugs fam💜💜💜💜
I feel this! I love Sleeping Beauty (the Disney movie) and every time I would see something with her on it, I felt I HAD to buy it, especially since she was once so rare to find. Now I would rather have one or two quality collectibles with her on it than everything.
One item in, one (or two) items out really works for me - it is amazing how lots of little things sneak undetected into the house, creating a mess that needs to be purged later! 😊
Waiting before you buy something is a really good way to determine the actual value of the item to you vs the hyped feeling you get when initially see it and want it then and there.
one thing that has really helped me to become more intentional when buying things is using "real money" to buy these items as opposed to using a card. Every month I withdraw a certain amount of money from my bankaccount and then I can see it reducing in my wallett as the month goes on. I found it to be really grounding and I think more about the things I want and need as I can see the money becoming less over time. This would not however be the case if I was still buying everything with my card, since, at least for me, I tend to check my bank accound very irregularly, and it is not as immediate as my wallett.
Sometimes I have a hard time letting go of stuff I hardly use/ wear (I watched your other video which specifically focuses on this, and that was awesome 😊), then I'll keep it and procrastinate to make use of it. For years this was the thing, but slowly getting there. I've watched some minimalist videos on YT as I am also about this lifestyle and found this video very helpful. Learning to declutter, first in the mind and also in the physical so that I can make space and enjoy what matters, plus there is a joy that comes from giving things away to the less fortunate. Attachment is the biggest factor, but your channel really makes a big difference definetely. Slowly but surely going to push myself this year and break this circle. Thank you for these tips, keep inspiring 😊💛🇿🇦
I like your rule 5 One in One Out & Wait 30 days to buy things. I apply these rules when I play current Modern video games. 5. The One in One out, when I beat a said video game I delete it off my console & never play it ever again. Then for the 30 day rule, I put a digital list on my PSN app of what games I want to buy. I wait until it goes on special. If I like it a lot I will buy it say 50 - 70 % off the initial price.
I find owning less, is freedom from being burdened with that 80% of stuff that I don’t use vs. the 20% of things I do use. I purge constantly, I also rarely go into stores, so the impulse buy is greatly eliminated. I ask myself where will I store it when it is not being used. I shop Amazon, I put things in my “wish list”, and revisit it occasionally, and eventually realize I did not need it after all, then delete it. When I actually need something, it’s there to be purchased and delivered, avoiding the need to go to multiple stores to find the item, risking the “impulse buy” in each one. Life is so much simpler. Your suggestions are right on. …. And yes you need a good pair of sun glasses. I have light color eyes, and have been told by doctors how important they are. Also, I have only one pair that I take good care of, and lasted me many years.
love the idea of revisiting a wishlist. i do that as well to stop impulsive buying. i’ll wait for awhile and realize i didn’t really need what i thought i wanted and i end up rarely buying things on my list
My tip - treat every possession, however small, as if it’s your only one. A good example of this is hairbands - I have got my supply tucked away, and I just have one out. I use that one until it wears out, and then get a new one. Same with pens for example. For clothes, which I love shopping for, I have a running list of things I would like to buy at some point - eg jeans, dressy top etc. if I want to shop I can only buy from those categories
I've never been much of a shopper but I've inherited a lot of what other people think it stuff, but I think is really cool - 200 year letters, journals of WWII, etc. It doesn't own me - I enjoy it! I try to educate (informally) the kids around me about history through these things.
I was thinking about you this morning as I carefully cut the still good elastic band from my husband's worn out boxer shorts. I needed elastic to make my too-big jeans fit me again! Much love from Fort Wayne, Indiana!!
This goes along with #2: Even if you use an item, if another will do what that one does and other things, consider getting rid of the specialized one. My latest example: a potato ricer before whipping potatoes to cut down on lumps (works well). A fork works too. I am working on this rule.
thanks for sharing! As for getting ride of your old shoes - in my opinion! - there is value in having a nice pair of shoes AND an old pair of shoes.. for dirty times & value in having a spare
My 4 year old is puzzle-obsessed. He’s also really into lights. His favorite gift for his birthday last week was a projector light I purchased at the Dollar Tree. That boy is a minimalist and doesn’t even know it.
I love your videos. In this video I suddenly realize how much we are influenced by the advertisements and business selling certain functions to us. Only to realize if we jump out of the box, how multi-functional this things could be.
The wait 30 days rules doesn't apply well to thrift stores and discounts shop since their inventory changes rapidly depending on the donations. I did it once, found something that I wanted but wasn't sure if I needed it. I waited a couple of days, no more than a week and went back to get it. Never found it ever again at that shop and I regretted not buying it on the day I first found it. I went and bought a cheap version instead at the dollars store since I actually needed one, but didn't wanted to pay a lot of money for it so that I could replace it with a better quality one once I found one again at the thrift store.
Totally legit. In those instances I try to consider how sad I'd be to find something gone up on my return, or on the flipside if I'd later maybe be stressed/feel guilty that I bought it :)
Aww I love that your sons goal is to come to Australia and cuddle a Koala! I live in Aus and love it! Yes definitely..experiences over things is so right!
I'm a new subscriber here and I tried to live a mindful and minimal life 5 years ago. Lately, as my life progresses, I notice that I'm falling into the habit of not thinking things through before purchasing and I see now that I ended up with more stuff I don't actually need. Stumbling upon your channel really helped me rekindle my sense of self and where I came from why I started that journey. Thank you for sharing your life values, wisdom, and things that worked out for you.
Hello from Australia, koalas are adorable, hope you and your family can take that trip and enjoy this beautiful country. I really look forward to your videos every Monday morning when I wake up to ride my exercise bike, it makes my ride so much more enjoyable. Thanks for all you do- you are wonderful.
I’ve been doing a bit of decluttering since Christmas, and found some things I didn’t know I had….including a new watch band. Well woulnt you know the day after I found the watch band my old one broke! So it does pay to know what’s in your home 👍
We'd love to have your Family come visit us in Australia! I believe one of the only places your son may be able to hug a Koala is at Australia Zoo, which is in the region where I live, Sunshine Coast in Queensland. Your Family would have an absolutely wonderful time here! A rule I have for owning less is if it's collects dust and I don't treasure it enough to dust it all the time, then it goes! Very very little dust collectors in my home these days 👍🏼
Great summary of some important concepts in minimalism. Minimalism does not have RULES!...this term isn't needed and shouldn't be used in combination with minimalism! Why do Americans, that have discovered an alternative way of living the American Dream of maximalism and hyper consumerism, obsesse about "rules" and "numbers"? Minimalism is personal.. just "have what you need and need what you use."..and do this by having "quality over quantity" and "save before you buy" and "let your stuff work for you, don't work for your stuff." The helpful minimalism concepts in this video: 1: Give your stuff TLC ie look after it so it lasts longer... this goes hand-in-hand with buying quality over quantity. 2: Shop you inventory at home first (think outside the box to use things for multiple purposes..this reduces inventory needed). 3: Value experiences over things (think about it.. we all remember fun days out, holidays etc with family and friends.. but we rarely remember "what presents we got" except one or two very special ones.. experiences are much more valuable). 4: mind your "Ws".. why do i need this?, what will i use it for?, where will i store it? It has to have a home! Ie questions you ask before buying new things. 5: one in, one (or more) out rule 6: wait 30 days to buy... I would add, except when you REALLY need to replace something that has broken eg a toaster, especially if you find it on sale or in a thrift store. 7: make decluttering a habit... we live and evolve, especially kids, so bringing new things home is unavoidable...but regularly decluttering old stuff keeps your inventory in check.
I've followed the 30-day strategy to an extent by taking a picture of things that catch my eye in store. Similarly, I use Pinterest to bookmark styles and brands I don't want to lose track of. This gets the "fun shopping" out of my system and often later I'll look back and be so glad I didn't actually buy the things, lol My other rule for myself is to not compromise on any purchase if I can help it. If something doesn't quite fit perfectly, if the quality or design does not fulfill my preferences to a T, I do not get to bring it home. It was a little tough at first, but more often than not, I've been rewarded by waiting. The "winners" usually cost a little more money, but I SO love the items I've bought that I'm less likely to get tired of them AND they're also likely to last much longer than my passed-up purchases!
Love your videos. My stuff totally owns me. We only do what we want to do. However your videos do show me ways to manage my stuff. My stuff expands to fill the flat surfaces available. Have to go now. My stuff is calling.
You came up on utube and i watched late morning in pjs...i have cleared out dvds..mostly my adult childrens...and untiliy room drawers and desk drawers...and sideboard drawers....i can believe how much ive done...next are my clothes....did sewing room and kitchen just before christmas
A thought about the wait 30 days rule. I buy on Amazon once a month. Basically through the month I put stuff in my cart as I think I need. Then I edit the cart through the month to stay under budget and as priorities/needs adjust. Then at payday, I double check the budget, double check the cart to make sure it's stuff I really need or can afford, and THEN I place the order. If there's something I REALLY want, but is low priority, I'll place it on a wish list for my birthday😜
I do this too! I try to use only my credit card rewards for things I don’t really need but would like and it is amazing how when the rewards gift card comes in, I find half the stuff I “wanted” doesn’t end up getting purchased because I didn’t really “want” it like I thought!
And thank you for pouring your heart into this. I know it must get tiresome to repeat the same things over and over when your viewers have an “a-ha” moment. You are appreciated.
I definatly shop with a list and I do my own shopping for exercise. Each week I find that we buy alot of the same items so that gives me a time saver staple list to start with each week
As I am still in the process of reducing my stuff I try to even avoid one in one out. If a pair of shoes is ripped up and has to go I think about if I really have to replace them. And my best tip for online shopping: put things in your cart, make a screenshot and wait at least one day or more. Often I forget about it so I didn‘t really need it. Glad you bought sunglasses, this is a must!
Another advantage to putting an item in an online cart and waiting is that many retailers will remind you of items left in cart and offer a coupon/ discount to complete the purchase. If you still really want the item you can benefit from the discount. Often though after waiting and thinking further about the item, I decide not to buy it even though I wouldn't have to pay full price.
Honestly the best tip to own less is to declutter konmari style. Once you reflect on why you have so many things and why you dont want them anymore it helps assessing future purchases
😊 On hugging a Koala. Just a word of advice, it is illegal to hold a koala in some states in Australia. (Such as Victoria, where I live) But you can hold on if you travel to the gold coast in Queensland. They are really cute but their claws are super sharp. 😊🤗🐨
Baby stuff is a great area where you don't need all the things that we've been encouraged to buy for babies. When you think of how few months that item is going to get used, it's mostly silly Also 2nd hand items are a huge savings though always buy a new car seat to make sure it meets all safety standards.
These tips are good even if you aren't wanting to be a minimalist, just not be overrun with stuff! I've been gradually culling my wardrobe over the past few months and once it's where I want it, then I will definitely be following the one in/one out rule.
I take several months before making a purchase (mostly because of financial reasons and laziness), but it does help me decide if it's a good choice or not. I often get tempted to buy a product, but I quickly remind myself that I already have something at home that can satisfy the need (e.i. garlic press, mandoline, etc... I just use a knife for everything- sharpening my skills instead of owning more stuff ) And last but not least, it's keeping things that are good to me, but waiting till it's broken or in disrepair before replacing it or sometimes throw away and wait a while to see if I can make without. (Again financial reasons and laziness to shop are big factors here)
During the pandemic I had to store some of my clothes because I gained weight. I recently lost all the pandemic weight and I think lost more weight. I'm now "shopping" my stored clothes. It feels great cause it really feels like shopping and the plus side is, I already like the clothes I own. Though I've been tempted to buy new jeans cause some of my old jeans are too big for me now
In your wardrobe do the basic colors you like which appear to be blue denim color. Tan. Add white Keep shades the same in the tan and blue so you can switch bottoms and tops. To look casual but high end muted colors are best You can add dark browns blacks winter. Spring summer white
Years ago, I went on a date with someone I met on a dating app. I was already on the fence, but when he said he values things more than experiences, I knew I was out.
concerning shoes you've talked about in this video: quite some time ago I read a podiatric advice about wearing different types of footwear during the day if you stand/walk/work on your feet a lot. thats my situation, and i have recently counted all my shoes (regret to admit I own 7 pairs :/ ) but! I change them often during the day - I swap rigid steel toe caps for sneakers or comfy loafers - for healthy feet reasons. I like your suggestions very much though :D
1) One of my big ‘rules’ that may seem obvious but it really does help me make less purchases…is that I cannot buy anything on Credit ( credit card debt.) if I don’t have the money, I don’t buy it. Simple, but not always easy, and yet very effective. 2) I also really do live by the minimalist concept of ‘less but better’. I make a real effort ( a ‘rule’), to buy the absolute best quality item I can reasonably afford ( no debt) and I am finding when I buy an item that is better quality, it’s not just that it lasts longer generally but I usually really like the item so much more then any cheaper ( especially fast fashion clothing items) item that I am so much more CONTENT and SATISFIED with the item both initially and long term that I buy less overall because I am so happy and satisfied with the ‘ better’ item. I don’t continue to have this sense of the item just not quite being what I really wanted or liked. I spend a bit more to get what I really want and love and then I’m done. Not continuing to look for the sense of satisfaction. Mostly this applies to my wardrobe but even to everyday things like my dishes or shower curtain.
Using a thirty day list has saved me ton$$$. Also when i'm at the grocery store and want something that isn't on my list, I write it down for my next weeks list ( this tells me I wanted it for it's use, not impulse).
Thank you very much! I wear glasses all the time, so my eye doctor suggested that I use a UV filter on my regular glasses. That way, I don’t have to go to prepare of prescription sunglasses.
I'm in that chapter of life where I'm recognizing that some of the things I have I will never use again. The nest is empty, my body is not as robust. I no longer need the tools for making feasts, constructing DIY projects, cultivating a large garden or embarking on rustic adventures. I have been donating to "lending libraries" or non-profits that can put these to use to serve the community, as these things are still useful. I also follow the 30-day rule, keeping lists or putting items in my online shopping carts, but not completing the purchase, as well as the one-in-two-out rule. Most of what I purchase these days is an item that replaces or is an improvement on something I already own, in which case the incoming item must offer an enhancement for its purpose. It must be more durable, more versatile, more efficient, or occupy less space than the item (or two or three) it replaces.
So now that I’m an adult with adult money, I’ve been doing the thing in which you invest in really good boots instead of needing to keep buying cheap boots. My mother and father grew up poor so they thought I was crazy at first. But then they saw that I just kept taking care of them and realized maybe the investment wasn’t such a bad idea after all. I am proudly converting the people in my life (who have the ability to do so) into buying less but better: period underwear instead of pads every month, safety razors that do the job for ages (seriously. I’m still pretty young but I’ve already had mine for seven years. I think I’ll have it for the rest of my life), linen sheets that get softer with each wash and last for at least a decade, full-on leather boots that can be cleaned, conditioned, and repaired instead of faux leather that rips and can’t be remedied… It feels really good to be at a point in my life that I have the option to live this way. I honestly never thought it would be financially possible.
Wow, when I was a kid my goal was to have stuff and things and more stuff. Your kid wants to hug a Koala? You're doing life right. Enjoying your videos
Sometimes I struggle with getting rid of the thing I’m replacing. The new item is usually slightly different and works better for some situations but not for others and so I justify keeping both, especially coats and shoes. I try to catch myself when I do this and sometimes I return the new item if it’s not actually an upgrade. I ended up keeping the old sneakers because they didn’t seem as worn out as they did when I ordered the new ones, then I decide they can be my back door/gardening shoes. Argh! Silly brain.
Life is getting better everyday with less! More free time to do things that I actually enjoy doing! Then I add in small bits and pieces as I go along. This is mainly due to the fact that I got rid of a lot….even food wise, I just get a small amount at any given time and basically use it before over adding….keep up the videos as always! ❤
Isn't it great! Fewer linens and spare towels means the laundry can't build up into a scary amount that takes the whole day! A minimal wardrobe means I have to do laundry weekly, and it's just two loads ( one gets hung on hangers, damp, straight out of a short spin in the dryer, and the load of socks etc gets sorted into bins in the drawer (why would I fold undies? Socks are all identical so don't need pairing)
@@MyFocusVaries omg socks are all identical I freakin love that one! Washing and linen - absolutely it has changed my life and I still get rid of some as I go lol. I don’t even own much at all! Glad others do the same as me.
I'm so glad to come back to watching your channel after returning from a brief stint in Uganda! I did bring back gifts for those I give gifts to, and a few things for myself (two dresses and a bracelet from Uganda itself, and my favorite as far as not taking up extra space - a rubber tulip from the Amsterdam airport to add to a flower arrangement with flowers from other events and memories). But as new things come in, I'm trying to be good and follow that rule of managing what comes in and goes out, and continuing to peel the onion. :) My biggest takeaway for my home life from staying with our friends in a third world country was that here I tend to think that I am limited in resources by my *money.* Don't waste electricity because it will cost more. Don't waste food because it is wasting money. You can have as much of X as you earn money to pay for it. Staying in a house with nine other people and having lights, phone charging, and a cpap machine on solar; having limited data that we'd have to pay more for if we got a bit too chatty with people back home; seeing the consequences on an island where the people cut down most of their trees for firewood - it reminded me not to view my own resources as limitless, and to appreciate them more.
I see this lady on videos and shorts with the most beautiful home. I love everything she does in her home however I wud be so stressed. It's not minimal. Too much to take care of and I get bored of things easily. NO TURNING BAC FROM WHAT I HAVE LEARNED FROM A TO ZEN LIFE . And yes I use to buy stuff to impress people that cud care less. I can buy most whatever I want but now I save money and time. I now feel bad for people that are so obsessed with their stuff. And their home does not look lived in. It looks perfect in a sad way
I appreciate your acknowledgment that owning less is not always the best case. I admire your honesty and open mindedness to adjusting your lifestyle based on new information. Your presentation style is lovely and I’ll check out more of your videos!
I love beautiful clothes, things that were given to me when I was a child and my 40 year old Christmas decorations. What I am serious about is quality. I like Natural Materials only. No Plastic.
Love love your videos! I learn a lot from them and i love the peacefulness of your rooms. But! You have a giant home so your stuff seem to be less in there. We have a small house with roughly similar amount of stuff but it feels cluttered. Another thing is that you live abroad, we tend to not buy as much things/keep things when we dont probably live in our permanent place -as we dont obviously want to move with a lot of belongings. In a totally permanent home I think its harder to resist the temptation to keep stuff to a minimum. But we are trying😅 love you
I appreciate your thoughts and clarification about sunglasses. But…as someone who raised two boys in Wisconsin, I am astonished that any boy that age still had two matching gloves\mittens…most boys I have known tend to lose gloves/mittens one at a time throughout the winter while on the playground, at the sledding hill/ on the school bus or just really anywhere. My, now adult, sons now brag to me about having gloves last more than one season😅
Hmmm....kids need shades, too. And it takes a while to teach them to wear them and keep up with them. On prescription glasses, when it's time for new one (and frames are outgrown), it's wear the new, keep the old for backup where we can find them, and any remaining are donated for reuse. (Most opticians in the US collect them and pass them on for you.)
I struggle with my kitchen and pantry so much stuff Can u Do a video or kitchen tour I need to get ideas how to declutter or organize… So overwhelmed with my failed systems
Please like this video and comment with any "rules" you have for owning less! Watch 👉 20 THINGS I DON'T OWN: ua-cam.com/video/jyCGEMTsa34/v-deo.html
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I have a friend who loves dolls and she will buy exactly every doll she wants and can afford all through the year. At the end of the year she donates them all to local families for gift-giving. I love that she acquires, enjoys, and shares as a process that gives her joy and then spreads the joy.
I love this! 😍
That is a nice thing to do. Also, it points out that her need to buy is fulfilling a different need than materialism.
@gracekelly7610 It varies every year, usually she finds about 8-12. Sometimes she fixes up dolls with new clothes and accessories to make a set.
@gracekelly7610 She donates them away every year, so she doesn't have any unless she's started again for the year.
And 90% of those kids aren’t in need and will toss those dolls away in 3 days or less . Nice 👍
For purging if you can re use or repurpose something then that is much better than throwing it in the trash atleast from an eco friendly standpoint. For example we have taken old christmas light strings and ethernet cables that no longer work and use them in the garden in a lattice pattern as "netting" for plants that are vines or things that need support to creep on. Old bookshelves that we no longer need end up being a planter box or bed in the garden, old worn shirts end up being used as cleaning rags in the garage. Obviously not everything can be re-purposed like this but doing this when you can will keep things out of the landfills.
To own less, I do grocery pick up so I am not tempted to shop the other side of the store for things I don't need. It doesn't cost any more and they do the shopping for me, saving me hours and hours! 😁
Grocery pickup has changed my life! I get overwhelmed and make bad decisions when faced with all of the STUFF in the store.
I don't do pick up as I.dont have transport but I do get mine delivered have done for about 12 years, would cost me more in bus fare and taxi home, so much easier defo life changing x
I don‘t do this bc I would miss the last minute deals, eg I never buy meat full or sale price but when it‘s marked down in the store, then I freeze it till I need it. Also cheese often gets marked down, so expensive otherwise. If everything went to a scheme like Too good to go, I would maybe switch, but I shop more cheaply this way, for the same quality.
@@Woeschhuesli Our store doesn't do much for markdowns so you are lucky! My impulse buys would exceed what I would save anyway! 😂
I shop with a carefully preplanned lists to accomplish the same thing. 😊🌴
“The more stuff you own, the more your stuff owns you.” Soooo true!
"Voluntary Servitude"
Isn't that a quote from "Fight Club," by Chuck Palahniuk? 😆😆😆
@@peterjlearn You just broke the first rule of Fight Club 😜
How is that true? I believe it past a certain amount of stuff, where your space is cluttered. But I don't believe it as an overall rule.
«I value my time, freedom and peace of mind over my material possessions”. This is downright brilliant
I love the 30 day rule. One time I waited. Decided to buy it, but the item was gone! However, I wasn’t that sad so I must not of wanted it that badly after all lol 😂
There’s this weird thing that can happen with frugal living where you own things longer or spend less money overall but still acquire free things, etc and it becomes a different type of clutter. This isn’t meant to reflect on anyone but myself but it is something I am reconfiguring in my own philosophy and minimalist mindset. The one in, one out rule must be kept under these circumstances, especially.
As someone who used to bring home all the stuff they found on the side of the road and take other people’s decluttered stuff - I get this. 😌
I absolutely relate!
I relate! It has been difficult to say no to things family or friends are getting rid of but every single time I accept it I regret it. The additional clutter and items. Ugh. Lol. Even harder than that is as I purge I am sooo tempted to offer it to my kids ….. because it is so nice and cute…. 😂 unless it is something I feel they really could use, I have stopped doing that. And if I do I tell them that they don’t have to take it and if they do and want to get rid of it an hour later I completely support it.
So true! I used to volunteer in a thrift shop, and I always brought home some cool, super inexpensive high quality item and was so proud of my finds! But stuff is stuff. Now that I'm a minimalist, I only go to the thrift store if I need a specific item.
Having open shelving rather than closed boxes/drawers really helps show what you have. If its something that you hate looking at that often you will be more willing to get rid of it/sell it/donate. Visual clutter is very effective. If you have clothes you are unsure to get rid of put them it the most easily visual spot. You'll either start wearing it more of get rid of it sooner than if it was squished in the back somewhere.
Prescription sun glasses that last for ever. . Goooood ones are MUST. For kids on the beach or whenever is sunny or even blue ones on cloudy days. Love them.
Your first rule is your best rule! 👍🏼
I definitely think about where something is going to live in my home before buying. I'm by no means a minimalist yet, but I have started crafting a much cleaner, more streamlined aesthetic in my home and I find it quite peaceful. The last thing I want are knick knacks back on the shelves, or so many clothes or shoes they are spilling out of closets or drawers that can't hold them all.
We do a lot of “free” things. Our favourite family or even solo activity is going to the beach.
We did purchase an inflatable paddle board. Was a worthwhile investment for our health and lifestyle. A few of my friends own them and we go out together regularly. Been wanting one for years and I’m glad I made the purchase. With my lifestyle I will spend on health and fitness as I don’t spend on entertainment. I don’t even have Netflix.
I used to beg for a pet koala when I was a little girl.... ❤️ By the way, one of my favorite things about my husband is how well he takes care of the items he has. It's something that is SO important to me.
I also grew up with the philosophy of "take good care of the things you have, and treat them with respect - there may not be $ to replace them if lost or broken."
Just a tip when you get to hold a koala.... Make sure you are wearing no perfume etc or they will try and get off straight away. Love your videos too. Have learnt so much.
Another thing I consider when I'm purchasing items is how will I dispose of this item. At work, we've been looking at becoming more sustainable with our products' lifecycles, which has inspired me in my home life to also consider this. Not only is it good for the environment, but it's also much less stressful if you know that you can safely and quickly dispose of something.
While I’m “fly by” commenting, lol, the spiritual journey is so at the heart of this. And it’s really not easy. It’s so hard to live mindfully. I happen to live on the edge of an extremely wealthy community that is all about minimalist houses and big picture windows looking in at vast empty living spaces. Much of these peoples lives revolve around curating experiences like expensive vacations but that’s just a different kind of mental clutter. Regardless of your station, you must find stillness and pause. That is an experience too. This is just a reminder to myself and anyone reading not to trade material objects for lifestyle materialism like senseless travel.
Traveling is not senseless. You learn a lot.
@@heathermccall8015 I said senseless travel not that all travel is senseless.
I haven't watched this yet, just getting ready to do so. One thing came to my mind when I was watching Minimal Mom was this: I will probably post it on other channels as well, but when deciding whether or not to keep something "practical", ask yourself "If I didn't have this item, is there something else I already have that I could use instead?" If the answer is yes, then the item goes...or the other item that you could use instead goes, depending on which one you like best.
Hi, This Video made me realize that I almost buy something that was not necessary. We needed a blanket and it was on my shopping list for a while,. I was cleaning my kids closet and found old bed spread that now I’m useing as a blanket when I want to get cozy. It works just fine and who cares it has Elsa and Anna characters on it 😂 I just realized how easy for me is to spend money on things that are not that important. I also try to live and spend consciously
Nice! We have a penguin blanket under grandma’s quilt in the winter and it’s SO FUZZY. Cool minimalists don’t mind character blankets. 😉😎
I did something similar: revived an old comforter from storage. It had some stains and didn't match the room at all (bright, juvenile colors, and a busy pattern). Rather than buying a new one, I just put a duvet cover on it, which cost a lot less than a new comforter, and is easier to clean.
when i started my recovery from hoarding. my husband and i had one big rule we started in 2020 throughout the week while cleaning have a box fill it with stuff we want to donate. and when we have to go out to another town for things we need we fill the car with those donations and we MUST donate that day! since we live in a small town we basically go to the bigger cities 2 times a month so we put this rule in place and still do this to this day we basically get rid of 5 boxes of stuff and bringing less home i feel tired after since when getting rid of the stuff i had for years is gone the stress leaves my body i feel great after that.
I believe what you said about the Ws ,or conscious buying as I call it ,is one of the most important things to do. I would also add once a year throw everything out of your cupboards, check them , and think if you still want/need them, and just simply remember what you have. If yes, put them back. If no, throw them away/donate/sell them.
Hello Marissa. Another great video. Just wanted to let you know that there's one tip you gave a long time ago that stuck really hard and that is "you can appreciate something without owning it". I was the type of person that had to have everything that had a tweet bird on it or a Betty Boop 😂😂. Otherwise I thought I didn't actually liked them. Now I see merch with them and I look at it, then your voice comes to my mind and I put it back and happily go my way and I've never felt any regret. Yesterday I saw a vintage Betty and my daughter pointed at it and said momy are you gonna take it? And I said no because I didn't need it even though it was precious 😜. Like this many things haven't come in my life because of a couple of voices of wonderful people I follow and that has been an enormous help. Thanks for everything these past years. Big hugs fam💜💜💜💜
I feel this! I love Sleeping Beauty (the Disney movie) and every time I would see something with her on it, I felt I HAD to buy it, especially since she was once so rare to find. Now I would rather have one or two quality collectibles with her on it than everything.
One item in, one (or two) items out really works for me - it is amazing how lots of little things sneak undetected into the house, creating a mess that needs to be purged later! 😊
Waiting before you buy something is a really good way to determine the actual value of the item to you vs the hyped feeling you get when initially see it and want it then and there.
one thing that has really helped me to become more intentional when buying things is using "real money" to buy these items as opposed to using a card. Every month I withdraw a certain amount of money from my bankaccount and then I can see it reducing in my wallett as the month goes on. I found it to be really grounding and I think more about the things I want and need as I can see the money becoming less over time. This would not however be the case if I was still buying everything with my card, since, at least for me, I tend to check my bank accound very irregularly, and it is not as immediate as my wallett.
Take inventory. Take pictures of stored items.
Sometimes I have a hard time letting go of stuff I hardly use/ wear (I watched your other video which specifically focuses on this, and that was awesome 😊), then I'll keep it and procrastinate to make use of it.
For years this was the thing, but slowly getting there. I've watched some minimalist videos on YT as I am also about this lifestyle and found this video very helpful. Learning to declutter, first in the mind and also in the physical so that I can make space and enjoy what matters, plus there is a joy that comes from giving things away to the less fortunate. Attachment is the biggest factor, but your channel really makes a big difference definetely. Slowly but surely going to push myself this year and break this circle.
Thank you for these tips, keep inspiring 😊💛🇿🇦
I like your rule 5 One in One Out & Wait 30 days to buy things. I apply these rules when I play current Modern video games. 5. The One in One out, when I beat a said video game I delete it off my console & never play it ever again. Then for the 30 day rule, I put a digital list on my PSN app of what games I want to buy. I wait until it goes on special. If I like it a lot I will buy it say 50 - 70 % off the initial price.
I find owning less, is freedom from being burdened with that 80% of stuff that I don’t use vs. the 20% of things I do use. I purge constantly, I also rarely go into stores, so the impulse buy is greatly eliminated. I ask myself where will I store it when it is not being used. I shop Amazon, I put things in my “wish list”, and revisit it occasionally, and eventually realize I did not need it after all, then delete it. When I actually need something, it’s there to be purchased and delivered, avoiding the need to go to multiple stores to find the item, risking the “impulse buy” in each one. Life is so much simpler. Your suggestions are right on. …. And yes you need a good pair of sun glasses. I have light color eyes, and have been told by doctors how important they are. Also, I have only one pair that I take good care of, and lasted me many years.
love the idea of revisiting a wishlist. i do that as well to stop impulsive buying. i’ll wait for awhile and realize i didn’t really need what i thought i wanted and i end up rarely buying things on my list
My question is why pay rent or a mortgage for huge empty spaces? Personally minimalism is cold.
My tip - treat every possession, however small, as if it’s your only one. A good example of this is hairbands - I have got my supply tucked away, and I just have one out. I use that one until it wears out, and then get a new one. Same with pens for example. For clothes, which I love shopping for, I have a running list of things I would like to buy at some point - eg jeans, dressy top etc. if I want to shop I can only buy from those categories
I do the same thing with my hair ties 😊
@@jessicaf7236 it makes a real difference, right? I truly believe it’s these small acts that make minimalism easy
I've never been much of a shopper but I've inherited a lot of what other people think it stuff, but I think is really cool - 200 year letters, journals of WWII, etc. It doesn't own me - I enjoy it! I try to educate (informally) the kids around me about history through these things.
I was thinking about you this morning as I carefully cut the still good elastic band from my husband's worn out boxer shorts. I needed elastic to make my too-big jeans fit me again! Much love from Fort Wayne, Indiana!!
I love the energy of your apartament. Space has a healing power!
This goes along with #2: Even if you use an item, if another will do what that one does and other things, consider getting rid of the specialized one. My latest example: a potato ricer before whipping potatoes to cut down on lumps (works well). A fork works too. I am working on this rule.
thanks for sharing! As for getting ride of your old shoes - in my opinion! - there is value in having a nice pair of shoes AND an old pair of shoes.. for dirty times & value in having a spare
My 4 year old is puzzle-obsessed. He’s also really into lights. His favorite gift for his birthday last week was a projector light I purchased at the Dollar Tree. That boy is a minimalist and doesn’t even know it.
I love your videos. In this video I suddenly realize how much we are influenced by the advertisements and business selling certain functions to us. Only to realize if we jump out of the box, how multi-functional this things could be.
The wait 30 days rules doesn't apply well to thrift stores and discounts shop since their inventory changes rapidly depending on the donations. I did it once, found something that I wanted but wasn't sure if I needed it. I waited a couple of days, no more than a week and went back to get it. Never found it ever again at that shop and I regretted not buying it on the day I first found it. I went and bought a cheap version instead at the dollars store since I actually needed one, but didn't wanted to pay a lot of money for it so that I could replace it with a better quality one once I found one again at the thrift store.
Totally legit. In those instances I try to consider how sad I'd be to find something gone up on my return, or on the flipside if I'd later maybe be stressed/feel guilty that I bought it :)
Aww I love that your sons goal is to come to Australia and cuddle a Koala! I live in Aus and love it! Yes definitely..experiences over things is so right!
I'm a new subscriber here and I tried to live a mindful and minimal life 5 years ago. Lately, as my life progresses, I notice that I'm falling into the habit of not thinking things through before purchasing and I see now that I ended up with more stuff I don't actually need. Stumbling upon your channel really helped me rekindle my sense of self and where I came from why I started that journey. Thank you for sharing your life values, wisdom, and things that worked out for you.
Hello from Australia, koalas are adorable, hope you and your family can take that trip and enjoy this beautiful country. I really look forward to your videos every Monday morning when I wake up to ride my exercise bike, it makes my ride so much more enjoyable. Thanks for all you do- you are wonderful.
Are koalas agressive? I watched film with agressive koalas.
@Anastazja Serce They're eucalyptus eating fiends that must be stopped! Hug the trees not the cute koalas.
I’ve been doing a bit of decluttering since Christmas, and found some things I didn’t know I had….including a new watch band. Well woulnt you know the day after I found the watch band my old one broke! So it does pay to know what’s in your home 👍
We'd love to have your Family come visit us in Australia!
I believe one of the only places your son may be able to hug a Koala is at Australia Zoo, which is in the region where I live, Sunshine Coast in Queensland.
Your Family would have an absolutely wonderful time here!
A rule I have for owning less is if it's collects dust and I don't treasure it enough to dust it all the time, then it goes!
Very very little dust collectors in my home these days 👍🏼
Great summary of some important concepts in minimalism.
Minimalism does not have RULES!...this term isn't needed and shouldn't be used in combination with minimalism!
Why do Americans, that have discovered an alternative way of living the American Dream of maximalism and hyper consumerism, obsesse about "rules" and "numbers"?
Minimalism is personal.. just "have what you need and need what you use."..and do this by having "quality over quantity" and "save before you buy" and "let your stuff work for you, don't work for your stuff."
The helpful minimalism concepts in this video:
1: Give your stuff TLC ie look after it so it lasts longer... this goes hand-in-hand with buying quality over quantity.
2: Shop you inventory at home first (think outside the box to use things for multiple purposes..this reduces inventory needed).
3: Value experiences over things (think about it.. we all remember fun days out, holidays etc with family and friends.. but we rarely remember "what presents we got" except one or two very special ones.. experiences are much more valuable).
4: mind your "Ws".. why do i need this?, what will i use it for?, where will i store it? It has to have a home! Ie questions you ask before buying new things.
5: one in, one (or more) out rule
6: wait 30 days to buy... I would add, except when you REALLY need to replace something that has broken eg a toaster, especially if you find it on sale or in a thrift store.
7: make decluttering a habit... we live and evolve, especially kids, so bringing new things home is unavoidable...but regularly decluttering old stuff keeps your inventory in check.
I've followed the 30-day strategy to an extent by taking a picture of things that catch my eye in store. Similarly, I use Pinterest to bookmark styles and brands I don't want to lose track of. This gets the "fun shopping" out of my system and often later I'll look back and be so glad I didn't actually buy the things, lol
My other rule for myself is to not compromise on any purchase if I can help it. If something doesn't quite fit perfectly, if the quality or design does not fulfill my preferences to a T, I do not get to bring it home. It was a little tough at first, but more often than not, I've been rewarded by waiting. The "winners" usually cost a little more money, but I SO love the items I've bought that I'm less likely to get tired of them AND they're also likely to last much longer than my passed-up purchases!
Love your videos. My stuff totally owns me. We only do what we want to do. However your videos do show me ways to manage my stuff. My stuff expands to fill the flat surfaces available. Have to go now. My stuff is calling.
You came up on utube and i watched late morning in pjs...i have cleared out dvds..mostly my adult childrens...and untiliy room drawers and desk drawers...and sideboard drawers....i can believe how much ive done...next are my clothes....did sewing room and kitchen just before christmas
A thought about the wait 30 days rule. I buy on Amazon once a month. Basically through the month I put stuff in my cart as I think I need. Then I edit the cart through the month to stay under budget and as priorities/needs adjust. Then at payday, I double check the budget, double check the cart to make sure it's stuff I really need or can afford, and THEN I place the order.
If there's something I REALLY want, but is low priority, I'll place it on a wish list for my birthday😜
I do this too! I try to use only my credit card rewards for things I don’t really need but would like and it is amazing how when the rewards gift card comes in, I find half the stuff I “wanted” doesn’t end up getting purchased because I didn’t really “want” it like I thought!
And thank you for pouring your heart into this. I know it must get tiresome to repeat the same things over and over when your viewers have an “a-ha” moment. You are appreciated.
I definatly shop with a list and I do my own shopping for exercise. Each week I find that we buy alot of the same items so that gives me a time saver staple list to start with each week
As I am still in the process of reducing my stuff I try to even avoid one in one out. If a pair of shoes is ripped up and has to go I think about if I really have to replace them. And my best tip for online shopping: put things in your cart, make a screenshot and wait at least one day or more. Often I forget about it so I didn‘t really need it. Glad you bought sunglasses, this is a must!
Do african people wear sunglassess? When they are reach, such for example african politicans, use they sunglassess common? I doubt.
Another advantage to putting an item in an online cart and waiting is that many retailers will remind you of items left in cart and offer a coupon/ discount to complete the purchase. If you still really want the item you can benefit from the discount. Often though after waiting and thinking further about the item, I decide not to buy it even though I wouldn't have to pay full price.
Honestly the best tip to own less is to declutter konmari style. Once you reflect on why you have so many things and why you dont want them anymore it helps assessing future purchases
Another wonderful uplifting positive and worthy video to watch thank you so much Marissa have a great week love you!
Thanks Linda and love to you 😘
After watching this video, a good question to ask myself, "Do I love this enough to let it own me?"
😊 On hugging a Koala. Just a word of advice, it is illegal to hold a koala in some states in Australia. (Such as Victoria, where I live) But you can hold on if you travel to the gold coast in Queensland. They are really cute but their claws are super sharp. 😊🤗🐨
I really want to save. The desire to save is stronger than the desire to spend.
We're about to have a baby and I plan to use our cookie cooling rack as an extra drying rack for bottles and pump parts if needed
Good brainstorming there 👍
Baby stuff is a great area where you don't need all the things that we've been encouraged to buy for babies. When you think of how few months that item is going to get used, it's mostly silly Also 2nd hand items are a huge savings though always buy a new car seat to make sure it meets all safety standards.
I've never worn sunglasses. But I have 8 million books. And I want more.
These tips are good even if you aren't wanting to be a minimalist, just not be overrun with stuff! I've been gradually culling my wardrobe over the past few months and once it's where I want it, then I will definitely be following the one in/one out rule.
Love the way you explain things. So simple and easy to understand. Thanks you so much .
I take several months before making a purchase (mostly because of financial reasons and laziness), but it does help me decide if it's a good choice or not.
I often get tempted to buy a product, but I quickly remind myself that I already have something at home that can satisfy the need (e.i. garlic press, mandoline, etc... I just use a knife for everything- sharpening my skills instead of owning more stuff )
And last but not least, it's keeping things that are good to me, but waiting till it's broken or in disrepair before replacing it or sometimes throw away and wait a while to see if I can make without. (Again financial reasons and laziness to shop are big factors here)
Great advice! Thank you for sharing ❤
During the pandemic I had to store some of my clothes because I gained weight. I recently lost all the pandemic weight and I think lost more weight. I'm now "shopping" my stored clothes. It feels great cause it really feels like shopping and the plus side is, I already like the clothes I own. Though I've been tempted to buy new jeans cause some of my old jeans are too big for me now
In your wardrobe do the basic colors you like which appear to be blue denim color. Tan. Add white Keep shades the same in the tan and blue so you can switch bottoms and tops. To look casual but high end muted colors are best You can add dark browns blacks winter. Spring summer white
Years ago, I went on a date with someone I met on a dating app. I was already on the fence, but when he said he values things more than experiences, I knew I was out.
The 5 and the 6 rules are my favorites 👍💪😘Bises
we bought a wedding gift yesterday and the shopping bag looked so nice we didn't bother giftwrapping the item 🤑
Happy Lunar New Year !!
Thank you and happy Lunar New Year! 🐰 🎉
concerning shoes you've talked about in this video: quite some time ago I read a podiatric advice about wearing different types of footwear during the day if you stand/walk/work on your feet a lot. thats my situation, and i have recently counted all my shoes (regret to admit I own 7 pairs :/ ) but! I change them often during the day - I swap rigid steel toe caps for sneakers or comfy loafers - for healthy feet reasons. I like your suggestions very much though :D
Your home just calms me❤️
1) One of my big ‘rules’ that may seem obvious but it really does help me make less purchases…is that I cannot buy anything on Credit ( credit card debt.) if I don’t have the money, I don’t buy it. Simple, but not always easy, and yet very effective. 2) I also really do live by the minimalist concept of ‘less but better’. I make a real effort ( a ‘rule’), to buy the absolute best quality item I can reasonably afford ( no debt) and I am finding when I buy an item that is better quality, it’s not just that it lasts longer generally but I usually really like the item so much more then any cheaper ( especially fast fashion clothing items) item that I am so much more CONTENT and SATISFIED with the item both initially and long term that I buy less overall because I am so happy and satisfied with the ‘ better’ item. I don’t continue to have this sense of the item just not quite being what I really wanted or liked. I spend a bit more to get what I really want and love and then I’m done. Not continuing to look for the sense of satisfaction. Mostly this applies to my wardrobe but even to everyday things like my dishes or shower curtain.
Such great tips, thank you.
Love hearing your kid’s goals to visit Australia! Would love to see your minimalist packing list
Sure! Here is a blog post with tips + our exact packing list: atozenlife.com/minimalist-travel-packing/ 🐨❤️
I like the One In, One Out rule.
Using a thirty day list has saved me ton$$$. Also when i'm at the grocery store and want something that isn't on my list, I write it down for my next weeks list ( this tells me I wanted it for it's use, not impulse).
Nice.
Thank you very much! I wear glasses all the time, so my eye doctor suggested that I use a UV filter on my regular glasses. That way, I don’t have to go to prepare of prescription sunglasses.
I'm glad you got new socks!! I splurge on Smartwool socks because without them I'm cold all over!
I'm in that chapter of life where I'm recognizing that some of the things I have I will never use again. The nest is empty, my body is not as robust. I no longer need the tools for making feasts, constructing DIY projects, cultivating a large garden or embarking on rustic adventures. I have been donating to "lending libraries" or non-profits that can put these to use to serve the community, as these things are still useful.
I also follow the 30-day rule, keeping lists or putting items in my online shopping carts, but not completing the purchase, as well as the one-in-two-out rule. Most of what I purchase these days is an item that replaces or is an improvement on something I already own, in which case the incoming item must offer an enhancement for its purpose. It must be more durable, more versatile, more efficient, or occupy less space than the item (or two or three) it replaces.
So now that I’m an adult with adult money, I’ve been doing the thing in which you invest in really good boots instead of needing to keep buying cheap boots. My mother and father grew up poor so they thought I was crazy at first. But then they saw that I just kept taking care of them and realized maybe the investment wasn’t such a bad idea after all. I am proudly converting the people in my life (who have the ability to do so) into buying less but better: period underwear instead of pads every month, safety razors that do the job for ages (seriously. I’m still pretty young but I’ve already had mine for seven years. I think I’ll have it for the rest of my life), linen sheets that get softer with each wash and last for at least a decade, full-on leather boots that can be cleaned, conditioned, and repaired instead of faux leather that rips and can’t be remedied…
It feels really good to be at a point in my life that I have the option to live this way. I honestly never thought it would be financially possible.
My problem is holiday decor. Im a sucker for target and dollar tree items. I am trying to be more mindful when choosing items.
Wow, when I was a kid my goal was to have stuff and things and more stuff. Your kid wants to hug a Koala? You're doing life right. Enjoying your videos
Sometimes I struggle with getting rid of the thing I’m replacing. The new item is usually slightly different and works better for some situations but not for others and so I justify keeping both, especially coats and shoes. I try to catch myself when I do this and sometimes I return the new item if it’s not actually an upgrade. I ended up keeping the old sneakers because they didn’t seem as worn out as they did when I ordered the new ones, then I decide they can be my back door/gardening shoes. Argh! Silly brain.
In 20 years I learned to throw them out. It was a hard way :):):).
Life is getting better everyday with less! More free time to do things that I actually enjoy doing! Then I add in small bits and pieces as I go along. This is mainly due to the fact that I got rid of a lot….even food wise, I just get a small amount at any given time and basically use it before over adding….keep up the videos as always! ❤
Awesome progress my friend 👏
Isn't it great! Fewer linens and spare towels means the laundry can't build up into a scary amount that takes the whole day! A minimal wardrobe means I have to do laundry weekly, and it's just two loads ( one gets hung on hangers, damp, straight out of a short spin in the dryer, and the load of socks etc gets sorted into bins in the drawer (why would I fold undies? Socks are all identical so don't need pairing)
@@MyFocusVaries omg socks are all identical I freakin love that one! Washing and linen - absolutely it has changed my life and I still get rid of some as I go lol. I don’t even own much at all! Glad others do the same as me.
Love using the library instead of owning books!
The shoe drawer is neat, but I would keep each pair in a box or the plastic shoe box in the drawer.
I'm so glad to come back to watching your channel after returning from a brief stint in Uganda! I did bring back gifts for those I give gifts to, and a few things for myself (two dresses and a bracelet from Uganda itself, and my favorite as far as not taking up extra space - a rubber tulip from the Amsterdam airport to add to a flower arrangement with flowers from other events and memories). But as new things come in, I'm trying to be good and follow that rule of managing what comes in and goes out, and continuing to peel the onion. :)
My biggest takeaway for my home life from staying with our friends in a third world country was that here I tend to think that I am limited in resources by my *money.* Don't waste electricity because it will cost more. Don't waste food because it is wasting money. You can have as much of X as you earn money to pay for it. Staying in a house with nine other people and having lights, phone charging, and a cpap machine on solar; having limited data that we'd have to pay more for if we got a bit too chatty with people back home; seeing the consequences on an island where the people cut down most of their trees for firewood - it reminded me not to view my own resources as limitless, and to appreciate them more.
I see this lady on videos and shorts with the most beautiful home. I love everything she does in her home however I wud be so stressed. It's not minimal. Too much to take care of and I get bored of things easily. NO TURNING BAC FROM WHAT I HAVE LEARNED FROM A TO ZEN LIFE . And yes I use to buy stuff to impress people that cud care less. I can buy most whatever I want but now I save money and time. I now feel bad for people that are so obsessed with their stuff. And their home does not look lived in. It looks perfect in a sad way
I appreciate your acknowledgment that owning less is not always the best case. I admire your honesty and open mindedness to adjusting your lifestyle based on new information. Your presentation style is lovely and I’ll check out more of your videos!
I love beautiful clothes, things that were given to me when I was a child and my 40 year old Christmas decorations. What I am serious about is quality. I like Natural Materials only. No Plastic.
Love your Videos. Thanks☺️
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Love your editing Marisa, great tips too 👍
Linking your identity to experiences or things is nearly the same thing, both are finite
Love love your videos! I learn a lot from them and i love the peacefulness of your rooms. But! You have a giant home so your stuff seem to be less in there. We have a small house with roughly similar amount of stuff but it feels cluttered. Another thing is that you live abroad, we tend to not buy as much things/keep things when we dont probably live in our permanent place -as we dont obviously want to move with a lot of belongings. In a totally permanent home I think its harder to resist the temptation to keep stuff to a minimum. But we are trying😅 love you
Buy your kids slippers for cold floors, get some rugs.
I appreciate your thoughts and clarification about sunglasses. But…as someone who raised two boys in Wisconsin, I am astonished that any boy that age still had two matching gloves\mittens…most boys I have known tend to lose gloves/mittens one at a time throughout the winter while on the playground, at the sledding hill/ on the school bus or just really anywhere. My, now adult, sons now brag to me about having gloves last more than one season😅
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Hmmm....kids need shades, too. And it takes a while to teach them to wear them and keep up with them.
On prescription glasses, when it's time for new one (and frames are outgrown), it's wear the new, keep the old for backup where we can find them, and any remaining are donated for reuse. (Most opticians in the US collect them and pass them on for you.)
I struggle with my kitchen and pantry so much stuff
Can u Do a video or kitchen tour
I need to get ideas how to declutter or organize…
So overwhelmed with my failed systems