BABY MOTHERS PUTTING BLACK FATHERS THRU IT!!! IS CHANGING YOUR VIBRATION THE ANSWER? (COMMENT)

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  • @Mathhoffa
    @Mathhoffa  2 роки тому +24

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    • @jordanandrade9310
      @jordanandrade9310 2 роки тому +7

      Let him talk for once

    • @yaboidolla
      @yaboidolla 2 роки тому +1

      And... she wasnt that woman until she became my kids mother

    • @fvllennxvmber8053
      @fvllennxvmber8053 2 роки тому +10

      Math.... Y'all corny for that. Making excuses for your poor choices. And to have *MULTIPLE KIDS?* There's no excuses for continuing to want to impregnate these types of women. Smart seems like the only knowledgeable man in the room.

    • @tkstaccs1055
      @tkstaccs1055 2 роки тому +6

      I know you see all the comments let him Talk you don't know shit sound like the devil himself

    • @truejudah7209
      @truejudah7209 2 роки тому

      💯

  • @tiffanybooker2080
    @tiffanybooker2080 2 роки тому +464

    Hey Yall!! Let's show Smart how many of us think/know he need his OWN SHOW...THUMBS DIS SHIT UP 👍👍👍👍

    • @blessed2453
      @blessed2453 2 роки тому +4

      👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

    • @topgirl8533
      @topgirl8533 2 роки тому +2

      ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

    • @topgirl8533
      @topgirl8533 2 роки тому +4

      Said he’s working on it

    • @tiffanybooker2080
      @tiffanybooker2080 2 роки тому +3

      @@topgirl8533 I hope so. Dat will be so cool. I can listen at him talk all day cuz he be on point

    • @beverlywaits7663
      @beverlywaits7663 2 роки тому +2

      YES Indeed 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @michaelgodsonmoton9192
    @michaelgodsonmoton9192 2 роки тому +230

    Never dismiss wisdom. Smart men learn through their mistakes and wise men learn through others mistakes.

    • @jaybae7315
      @jaybae7315 2 роки тому +8

      Exactly
      People get caught up in the messenger instead of the message

    • @charlesdouglas7179
      @charlesdouglas7179 2 роки тому +1

      Facts 💯

    • @yoootreyy9094
      @yoootreyy9094 2 роки тому

      @@jaybae7315 you got tht from smart 🤣💯

  • @bajanking7894
    @bajanking7894 2 роки тому +212

    Smart waisting his breath on bitter men who chose the wrong woman. Vibrations are real. You are who you attract Period!!!

    • @rgw1380rw
      @rgw1380rw 2 роки тому +18

      That's not an absolute fact.

    • @richardagee4896
      @richardagee4896 2 роки тому +5

      I can honestly say I respect smart. He thought process is strong. Much respect 2 u bruh..

    • @TruthFLA
      @TruthFLA 2 роки тому +10

      It sound like he repeating himself but they keep cutting him off and he starts from the beginning. If they would just let him finish his thought......

    • @deontajohnson5537
      @deontajohnson5537 2 роки тому +5

      They not bitter but every situation isn’t how he’s portraying it my kids mom me and her was great together no arguing nothing bad but soon as we don’t make it petty shit and shit changed all the way up

    • @PicklezTV
      @PicklezTV 2 роки тому +3

      He's right to some extent its not so black and white ....its so many variables

  • @EandDanielsTV
    @EandDanielsTV 2 роки тому +88

    “Every nut was a hug my mother never gave me.”
    That was powerful! Self awareness is key to growth

    • @astreets749
      @astreets749 2 роки тому +2

      Yo that's a bar right there. Who dat??

    • @deidrataylor1360
      @deidrataylor1360 Рік тому

      I felt that too

    • @devoncooperstudios6410
      @devoncooperstudios6410 10 місяців тому

      But it has nothing to do with the conversation. They are talking about being good fathers who barely get to see their children

  • @westgreen7607
    @westgreen7607 2 роки тому +91

    Smart is in the wrong room!!!! They don't understand the knowledge 💯

  • @bryanstanley6673
    @bryanstanley6673 2 роки тому +182

    Smart is an eloquent intelligent young brother. I like how he stays on his square and doesn't get riled up when he's being talked over. He patiently waits his turn and still gets his point across. He can do a lot of good for young men as far as preventative measures going into a relationship/situation, but the practical application when there's already a child involved is another thing. The children are an extension of the mothers for all intents and purposes, so if she doesn't want to do the right thing, it will be extremely difficult to be in the children's life in the capacity that the father may want to.

    • @matthewsalmon431
      @matthewsalmon431 2 роки тому +7

      The best comment on this thread.

    • @QuietBoyMusik
      @QuietBoyMusik 2 роки тому +5

      He needs to stop coming on this show because they ALWAYS try to play him when he's the "smartest" man in the room.

    • @CarlosPerez-ut5ze
      @CarlosPerez-ut5ze 2 роки тому +10

      He only sounds so smart to youngsters... he's smart but sounds dumb a lot of times.

    • @coopc97
      @coopc97 2 роки тому +2

      @@CarlosPerez-ut5ze facts . He was speaking on something he wasn’t or hasn’t experienced n trying to give advice

    • @Lenasevilla-yb4ei
      @Lenasevilla-yb4ei 2 роки тому +3

      @@CarlosPerez-ut5ze dead beat fathers get mad at him

  • @67LOCsiNYC
    @67LOCsiNYC 2 роки тому +166

    Smart in a room full of people who won't even let him get his point across

    • @BRAWLIC215
      @BRAWLIC215 2 роки тому +12

      His point is null in void

    • @dreamersunlimited8005
      @dreamersunlimited8005 2 роки тому +14

      That’s because the men with kids in the room wanted the camaraderie of having other angry men co-sign their emotions. That was wack! Though Smart does not have kids, his suggestion if he could get it out, would have come from a place of logic. I thought that WAS the frequency men operated on? I could be wrong. It became a baby mama bashing session rather than an accountability discussion and how men in their positions can navigate the mess.

    • @acmeoneconnect
      @acmeoneconnect 2 роки тому +11

      Yeah smart was definitely kicking some knowledge but once he put some of the responsibility on the dad they wasn't trying to here it.

    • @MultiMackle
      @MultiMackle 2 роки тому +12

      He's speaking ideals and street knowledge hype. He's not a parent. His perspective and frame of reference is not based on anything solid. It's ego. Pride. He should listen more in this situation. That doesn't lessen him by any means

    • @joshrichards1291
      @joshrichards1291 2 роки тому +5

      Because he's talking bullshit.

  • @zuridurkins919
    @zuridurkins919 2 роки тому +138

    Smart knows exactly what he’s talking about. There’s a lot of broken and traumatized fathers in this conversation. Vibrations are everything just listen to him

    • @FloatasWurld
      @FloatasWurld 2 роки тому +13

      The issue isn’t his statement bt his perspective…Any man whose not a father yet? Can only speak from the perspective of a child…Also…Why didn’t you speak to the mothers who need to change their vibrations especially by the time the child is 9??…U hv to be a black father to give wisdom on our perspective💯

    • @fo20boi
      @fo20boi 2 роки тому +2

      @@FloatasWurld Smart is right... he just been smart before all these upset baby daddies

    • @ICEMAN24072
      @ICEMAN24072 2 роки тому +3

      @@fo20boi So he is only smart in the sense he didn't have kids!!

    • @fo20boi
      @fo20boi 2 роки тому +3

      @@ICEMAN24072 Not only but as a mature man you don't sleep with just anybody.

    • @ICEMAN24072
      @ICEMAN24072 2 роки тому

      @@fo20boi This is true but even smarter to just not have kids.Sometimes it's hard to tell who is who

  • @ikke2757
    @ikke2757 2 роки тому +47

    As a father who has a "crazy" ex and who can write a book about the issues I have had with her, SMART is 1000000% correct on this one!!!!!

  • @padrescott2047
    @padrescott2047 2 роки тому +60

    Smart was trying to say if you continue to stay a positive father in your child's life then your child will understand how amazing their father is. Even if their mother is off the wall you still treat her a certain way in front of the child. I feel like we all got that point. As well as not knowing how low quality some parents can be.

    • @emmanuelshaul1358
      @emmanuelshaul1358 2 роки тому

      That's not it. The truth is simple some are bless and some are not that's it. You can do and say whatever you want. GOD bless people because of they heart

    • @eltonshandolo2413
      @eltonshandolo2413 Рік тому

      That's the whole fact

    • @padrescott2047
      @padrescott2047 Рік тому

      @@emmanuelshaul1358 God does bless people because of their heart. As well as your will to be what you can be. I understand that but disagree with your statement. My reason is because good and bad happens to everyone regardless of their heart. Some things are a reflection of you and some things are the reflection of the universe where we have no control. You can always stop at a red light and get hit by a 80mph car. You can always be a bad person and end up financially successful.

  • @williamrichardson57
    @williamrichardson57 2 роки тому +124

    Smart talking to the wrong crowd. Them brothers couldn’t understand his point bcus they so bitter abt they baby moms; didn’t even give him a true ear

    • @remycool8034
      @remycool8034 2 роки тому +4

      True but he didn't ether

    • @williamrichardson57
      @williamrichardson57 2 роки тому +5

      @@remycool8034 yeah but he’s 1 man and it was plenty of times math just out screams him and starts yelling for him to stop after he hears one thing he don’t agree with. Smart didn’t really interject

    • @Hfgv281
      @Hfgv281 2 роки тому +5

      Yup...those men play the victim. They choose women those women and have to own it just as women do when they choose unsuitable men.
      Changing how we navigate co-parenting with difficult humans is basically what's up.
      Makes no sense and does no good sitting around complaining about what the co-parent is like (especially when they been difficult since day one).
      Change the frequency or the suffering (and some of the difficulty) is the fault or cause of the complainer based on choice.
      Just like in the beginning.

    • @Hfgv281
      @Hfgv281 2 роки тому +5

      @ahi flee I'm starting to notice. There's a reason he constantly interrupts and gets loud (to distract) from unpopular opinion.
      While I think parents deserve to be validated in their complaints about their co-parent, the also have to own their shit AND validate the positives of the co-parent as well.
      Otherwise, they're painting a narrative to make other look bad in an attempt to shame them while also painting themselves as victims and the better parent.
      These guys should have left their personal experience out of the convo to help them speak on the topic from an objective place.
      If that happened, they'd see where Smart was coming from.
      There's no place for blame when you're working from a solution focused space.
      People aren't perfect, moms or fathers, yet the two need to find ways to work together as best possible to benefit the kids.
      Indifferences need to be worked out, logically, whether done together or through another process.
      Ideally.
      This requires working from a higher frequency which helps remove ego and see things (the big pictures) more clear.

    • @dimsquaa
      @dimsquaa 2 роки тому

      What is dudes name in the Yankee fitted?

  • @boogs718beats
    @boogs718beats 2 роки тому +22

    Smart should be a professor, if I had a teacher like him in high school I would have went to class

  • @Prime0025
    @Prime0025 2 роки тому +247

    Yo math y'all gotta chill.. Smart know exactly what he's talking about.. Y'all just ain't catching on.. The shit he's talking about is bigger than just being a father.. He's speaking some real life shit

    • @Hfgv281
      @Hfgv281 2 роки тому +19

      Exactly.
      These guys are men boys and are stuck playing the victim.

    • @Poetryforstoners
      @Poetryforstoners 2 роки тому +3

      @@Hfgv281 exactly

    • @lostqueen2398
      @lostqueen2398 2 роки тому +14

      Right he gets so deep then the rest gets lost! We need to wake the fuck up

    • @Hfgv281
      @Hfgv281 2 роки тому +14

      @@lostqueen2398 cognitive dissonance. People get uncomfortable when someone points out what should be obvious to them.

    • @est.inthe80s
      @est.inthe80s 2 роки тому +6

      Nah hes incorrect hes just hoping to be right pay attention to what he said

  • @MoneTheGreatiAm
    @MoneTheGreatiAm 2 роки тому +216

    They keep saying "you dont understand cuz you dont have kids" the GAG is.......Smart clearly has more wisdom since he DID NOT FALL into the trap like them!!! They SHOULD be taking notes lol

    • @miffycarter3876
      @miffycarter3876 2 роки тому +15

      Yeeessssss I felt this smart definitely DID NOT fall in the trap like they complaining asses did knowing the women they were having sex with RAW shouldn’t not have been made mothers

    • @MoneTheGreatiAm
      @MoneTheGreatiAm 2 роки тому +18

      @@miffycarter3876 THAT part!!! If men & women have multiple bm's/bd's they needa take a break from sex and focus on themselves and their kids foreal like why do people keep setting themselves up to be in these situations?.........Lack of love, rejection, lack of self control, its just too much lacking in the black community & its refreshing to know that a lot of us are waking up to the traps set by our adversaries and breaking up the black home and not having stable healthy relationships are just some of the things that needs to stop. We gotta start somewhere. I'm glad they had this conversation but I wish it was more problem solving and solution based. They working tho👌🏽👌🏽 much respect to these men

    • @ishamdunn4203
      @ishamdunn4203 2 роки тому +6

      False

    • @Poetryforstoners
      @Poetryforstoners 2 роки тому +10

      That's what I'm saying Mamas like wtf they on!!!??!?! Cause I say the same and I dont have kids either! I grew up without a pops that shit sucked!! Nahhh

    • @Poetryforstoners
      @Poetryforstoners 2 роки тому +3

      @@ishamdunn4203 fact, cry somewhere fool

  • @acmeoneconnect
    @acmeoneconnect 2 роки тому +70

    Smart was kicking great knowledge they just wasn't having it🤦‍♂️

  • @stevendiamond8476
    @stevendiamond8476 2 роки тому +99

    If you're not married then don't have kids. Plain and simple. Stop having more kids if you didn't do it right with the first one. It's wrong and I would consider it child abuse. You're knowingly setting that kid up for a life of issues. Parents problems are your kids problems. That's how family works. Stop being little boys and start acting like men

    • @Skywalker721
      @Skywalker721 2 роки тому +11

      Accountability 🤝💯

    • @Poetryforstoners
      @Poetryforstoners 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you!!!!

    • @courtlandwilliams9044
      @courtlandwilliams9044 2 роки тому +2

      So what you’re saying is basically deal with the consequences of her attitude no matter what the circumstances are?

    • @Skywalker721
      @Skywalker721 2 роки тому +24

      @@courtlandwilliams9044 deal w/ the consequences of your own actions & stop creating more problems, more statistics, more stereotypes. They chose to lay down w/ the wrong woman, but complain when she acts crazy like nobody ever told them not to have children out of wedlock… it’s extremely selfish to have unplanned children outside of a relationship.

    • @miffycarter3876
      @miffycarter3876 2 роки тому +9

      THANK YOU Of people make this fucking mistake because they are attached to SEX if you ask me personally a lot of these mf baby momma and baby daddies DONT EVEN LIKE EACH OTHER and it’s HORRIBLE

  • @richardgraham5598
    @richardgraham5598 2 роки тому +26

    Smart is on a level above. His wisdom deserves his own platform.!!!!!!!

  • @Reppintimefitness
    @Reppintimefitness 2 роки тому +43

    Salute all black fathers 🔥💯🔥

  • @machomane5264
    @machomane5264 2 роки тому +38

    Give my guy Smart his own show already , his consciousness is levels ahead of everyone in the room and I think it gets them feelin some type of way reason why they dispute everything he says

  • @generalnsj
    @generalnsj 2 роки тому +112

    That's why it's important to get married before you have kids. You really need to know the person that you're trying to create life with before you take on the biggest responsibility in life.

    • @Skywalker721
      @Skywalker721 2 роки тому +33

      Men just smash w/o thinking shit through & then blame the women for being themselves. Why did you lay w/ a women w/ these type of character flaws?

    • @dreamersunlimited8005
      @dreamersunlimited8005 2 роки тому +8

      @@Skywalker721 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Super FACTS!!!

    • @jesseonyenka
      @jesseonyenka 2 роки тому +6

      Nowadays its hard to marry because women already have the mindset of money

    • @nms6431
      @nms6431 2 роки тому

      exaccccttttlllyyyy!...

    • @blutooth6348
      @blutooth6348 2 роки тому +4

      Nowadays these bitches play two roles you’ll never knows if she loves you! Until after the judge says she’s entitled to 40% of your income

  • @mircleskyler
    @mircleskyler 2 роки тому +180

    Smart is woke and I noticed he speaks a lot of things that are actually written in the Bible.

    • @joephantom8288
      @joephantom8288 2 роки тому +9

      Chicks always burglarizing conversation👎

    • @funzone3207
      @funzone3207 2 роки тому +15

      SOMEBODY tell the guy who thinks he smart that WOMEN lost their WISDOM along time ago I teach my WOMEN they don't teach me 💩and most of them just raising kids they ain't teaching them nothing

    • @TheOGway
      @TheOGway 2 роки тому

      Ctfu

    • @eznum1
      @eznum1 2 роки тому +1

      And?? What does that mean? A lot of shitty things are written in the Bible also

    • @nms6431
      @nms6431 2 роки тому +2

      as well as super ova these niggas heads🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @Mahagony1985
    @Mahagony1985 2 роки тому +24

    "Is the issue to be in the child's life or repair the relationship with the mother" that is strong these guys are NOT focused on their kids! If you have joint custody and live in the same city you can get 50% of there time.

    • @sugarsholivetrue6321
      @sugarsholivetrue6321 2 роки тому +2

      Exactly they are not good fathers as they claim they are and it shows

  • @ComeOnNow100
    @ComeOnNow100 2 роки тому +46

    Changing your vibration is definitely the key. I raised five children while being divorced from their mother I know what I'm talkin about. So you can't pull that you don't got no children card on me

  • @PardonMyPresence
    @PardonMyPresence 2 роки тому +30

    They won't let him speak because they are hurt and dealing with pain. I understand that pain as a father. HOWEVER the brother's point is the mother is scorned she will do what she knows will hurt you. If you change your vibration nothing she does will hurt you and she won't be able to exploit your pain and trigger you and she will stop. She's doing it to trigger you. If you let go and don't allow her to control your emotions she will have no choice but to stop. Hear Saigon talk - he's reacting, he's triggered his bm gonna push those buttons FOREVER if he let's her

    • @joshrichards1291
      @joshrichards1291 2 роки тому +4

      That's bullshit because you can change your " vibration" all you want that still doesn't change the situation where she's keeping you from seeing your son or trying to raise your child support.

    • @Foreign84
      @Foreign84 2 роки тому +7

      Exactly why i stop giving AF. My son gonna have wake up on his own. She took him to England behind my back

    • @PardonMyPresence
      @PardonMyPresence 2 роки тому +1

      @@Foreign84 be honest. Did You have legal custody? Do you still pay child support?

    • @Foreign84
      @Foreign84 2 роки тому +5

      @@PardonMyPresence there's no court order in our case and i was never on child support because I've always supported my kid. She's still bitter and can't let go. Crazy part is she wouldn't take me to court for child support because she will end up exposing herself and her bs actions to the judge.

    • @PardonMyPresence
      @PardonMyPresence 2 роки тому +1

      @@Foreign84 dang... My ex would take the kids places during my time and wouldn't tell me where they were for days and would delay signing a parental agreement. Apparently it's not kidnapping unless there's a legal parental agreement in place. I paid a fair amount to get the agreement legalized. Now she can't jerk me cause I'd call an amber alert so fast have her face on the news. There's really only 2 options in life. Change the circumstances or learn to not let it affect you. Complaining changes nothing.

  • @jayjordan9275
    @jayjordan9275 2 роки тому +11

    I want to meet Smart because everything he’s saying is absolute true. Men are equally in pain or angry as the mothers. You have to change self.

  • @toya8888
    @toya8888 2 роки тому +36

    Some women are so bitter from the relationship not working out that they keep the kid from seeing their father out of spite! No matter how positive you are towards them or how much you change your vibration to attract a more positive healthy co parenting relationship with them. I witnessed my son’s father go through a terrible custody battle so he could keep the rights to see his daughter (from a previous relationship). He did everything to keep the co parenting peaceful. From positive vibrations to being respectful to putting HIMSELF on child support just to be able to be on good terms but nothing worked. After all of that his daughters mom accused him of child abuse just to stop joint custody! He’s been fighting in court to see his daughter ever since. He’s such a great dad and the only one who suffers the most is the kids. Especially when they’re old enough to know what’s going on.

    • @rellb.7444
      @rellb.7444 2 роки тому +3

      💯 but, let men vibrate higher to fix all the issues of bitter person that could care less about your personal "frequency"

    • @zionssoldierofwar7194
      @zionssoldierofwar7194 2 роки тому +5

      Yea he is vibrating higher but The Most High will see him through. May not be now but eventually the child sees who the toxic one is.

  • @myfathersson3751
    @myfathersson3751 2 роки тому +59

    They don't care about the outcome they're being petty because they're allowed to be.

    • @rickjames6902
      @rickjames6902 2 роки тому +4

      No matter how manly a dude might think he is or looks if he has a feminized spirit a women will pick up on it and in her subconscious mind she's not arguing with a man she's arguing with a female. She will perceive and eventually treat this man as if he a female it's wasn't until I broke that feminine spirit in me did shit start going good for me and my son's mother. She married happy I'm happy we co parent and it's all love now. When you think like a women all you'll see is a women's faults
      When you think like a man all you see is a women's greatness

    • @jameslouis5359
      @jameslouis5359 2 роки тому

      @@rickjames6902 How did you break out of this fem spirit tho i

    • @Hfgv281
      @Hfgv281 2 роки тому

      Yup .. they're stuck on victim mode and seeing the mother's as the problem.

    • @rgw1380rw
      @rgw1380rw 2 роки тому +2

      @@rickjames6902 Some of these women love a feminine dude, but will play the hell out of a masculine dude. They'll pick up on the fact, you won't be manipulated by them then seek the counterproductive drama they prefer.

  • @SoulQueenWu
    @SoulQueenWu 2 роки тому +18

    I think this conversation speaks to the larger point of how so many of us actively participate in our own self sabotage because of the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves. It’s the internalized limitations and like of optimism we have towards the possibilities of our lives. People undermine how deeply committed you have to be to undoing years of unhealthy internalized narratives. If you decided that there is no positive outcome for your relationship with your child’s parent, that’s a choice! If you decide that there are ways that you can show up in that relationship with new perspectives, behaviors, and self-discipline, that’s a choice!

  • @jaybae7315
    @jaybae7315 2 роки тому +7

    I like how Smart’s mind works. And I like the fact he is on some accountability shit. That’s what a grown ass man as well as woman does.

    • @tamunosakiwestscott-bloack2229
      @tamunosakiwestscott-bloack2229 Рік тому +1

      He has no children and so he can theorise all day as his child and rescources and dignity are not on the line.

    • @tabbypanda82
      @tabbypanda82 7 місяців тому

      @@tamunosakiwestscott-bloack2229yeah he’s SMART ‼️‼️‼️💯💯💯

  • @420fellowship2
    @420fellowship2 2 роки тому +18

    ALL of these brothers had valid points. I have 3 children. One with a “baby mother” and two with my wife. I. Had to change my vibration!! After my son’s mother and I didnt work out. I went through every agonizing frustration there could be with co-parenting. The system doesn’t not care about visitation as much as they do child support. Men usually get the bad end of the deal and life isn’t fair However we did choose to sleep with these women. WE have to accept that and keep it positive. I made sure at least the next time i had children we were in equal accord. Married and on the same page
    .

  • @BrianGarcia-kc4vi
    @BrianGarcia-kc4vi 2 роки тому +9

    Smart is a fuckin gem . Bro needs to start his own podcast asap

  • @Sangotayo
    @Sangotayo 2 роки тому +21

    This is the only thing I agree with him with. Changing vibration means, take control over your thoughts on how you think she’s controlling you with the child. It’s basically fighting without showing emotion. Don’t get frustrated over what she’s doing.. when my daughter mother tried to get me upset and said I’ll never see my daughter again, I said “Ok” I’ll make another one..

    • @montgomeryeugene7903
      @montgomeryeugene7903 9 місяців тому +1

      If the child is living in the mother's house with her, and the father only gets the kid on the weekend in holidays. The mother will have influence over the child thoughts about how he or she feels about their father.

  • @haroldburgess4458
    @haroldburgess4458 2 роки тому +23

    I understand everything Smart is speaking and I have a son!!! He's speaking #Facts!!!

  • @jcgizzle
    @jcgizzle 2 роки тому +19

    Smart is speaking FACTS. This is exactly what I did with my son's mother. I changed how I felt about our situation, the situation changed.
    I had the same custody agreement, same support payment, same arrears and court dates as every other guy in family court. I got custody of my son at age 10, he lived with me and I raised him thru graduating high school. Before I changed, I felt like I was stuck in the system like everybody else... I had to change my thoughts (vibrations) first and then my situation changed. (Side note... this doesn't just work for child custody cases either)

  • @mikmikmiik
    @mikmikmiik 2 роки тому +6

    Smart needs his own show.He possesses true knowledge of self.I love to hear him speak.

  • @R34L100
    @R34L100 2 роки тому +10

    KEEP SMART ON THE SHOW!

  • @queenqueens2075
    @queenqueens2075 2 роки тому +14

    Omg stop cutting him off, Smart way to deep for y’all

  • @MrOtisWilliams
    @MrOtisWilliams 2 роки тому +5

    "That shit be hell for good fathers." I felt that (pause)

  • @blmatter8883
    @blmatter8883 2 роки тому +5

    Smart is 100% right..I had to change myself & it changed my kids father..It didn’t happen over night but he started to change, slowly over time..I worried about how I reacted & myself and things started to slowly change & here we are 5yrs later with the best co-parent relationship..These men are speaking from bitterness..Worry about yourself & your kids and that’s all you need to worry about..Unless the mother is harming your kid or placing them in harm, don’t worry about her at all & what she do & react to..Keep going to court until that child is old enough to voice his/her own opinion about where they want to be..To bitter parents aren’t going to get anywhere but playing the blame game..

  • @worldmeetsgirl23
    @worldmeetsgirl23 2 роки тому +60

    Smart is absolutely correct, and having children or not has nothing to do with his knowledge on the situation. Its Universal Law which holds true no matter the circumstances. Most men love to hold women accountable when they clump all men in one category based on their experience. They love to say "oh you messing with the wrong niggas" or "then why you keep dating ain't shit men" as a response to it. So why doesn't the same accountability apply to men who find themselves in these situations with these women who they claim to be so unreasonable. A few things probably happened. You knew she was crazy when you met her and you ignored it cause you didn't care how that would translate to motherhood or Co-parenting cause you ain't plan that far/ her "craziness" about or over you stroked your ego and now it's not fun anymore lol/ or you didn't know any better and weren't aware of yourself enough to even have a desire to filter out the good ones from the bad based on real knowledge of what that truly is, where in that case you have no other choice but to deal with the consequences of making decisions without consciousness and make better choices going forward.

    • @musicfiles5004
      @musicfiles5004 2 роки тому +11

      You are absoluteley correct. If most people had this mindset accountability is not something people like to take cause if they do their is no one to blame for their own personal bad Decision making.

    • @joshrichards1291
      @joshrichards1291 2 роки тому +2

      Of course a woman would agree to this nonsense because holding women accountable is foreign to women like you. how do you justify a woman hurting her child just to get back t a man and keeping a an away from his children?

    • @worldmeetsgirl23
      @worldmeetsgirl23 2 роки тому +10

      @@joshrichards1291 Nowhere in anything I stated did I say that women shouldn't be held accountable. You assumed and inserted that. My comment was based on what the gentleman in the video are discussing. ALL humans should be held accountable for their transgressions. Right is right and wrong is wrong period. To clarify my point since you misunderstood my intention, take accountability for your choices. Live with them, learn from them. PERIOD. And lastly sir you cant even imagine as much as you try what a "Women like me" is. lol Just like I don't know and don't wish to know anything about you.

    • @ericmclean4291
      @ericmclean4291 2 роки тому +7

      The truth is that a lot of men don't like putting in the work of raising kids. They would rather complain about the woman being difficult instead of taking the steps necessary to be in their children's lives. They love to rant and throw a fit occasionally to make people think they're making an attempt. In reality, they enjoy their child-free life and the ability to do what they want without having that responsibility.

    • @oprahthegodson2948
      @oprahthegodson2948 2 роки тому +1

      Facts the most sense came from smart, the only man in the room wit NO kids speaking the most facts, everybody else jus uses they situations as facts when they ain't beat to try nothing new to fix it

  • @dreamersunlimited8005
    @dreamersunlimited8005 2 роки тому +31

    I can’t rock with you men that won’t accept responsibility for impregnating the wrong women! You can just say “oh I was young” and that’s the excuse. Nah. If you know better and are doing better as a grown man….reconcile what the younger you did way back when and continue to grow. You can’t just treat a woman badly, break up with her, mature over there ten years later then come back and says she’s immature!

    • @acmeoneconnect
      @acmeoneconnect 2 роки тому +6

      Absolutely. Unfortunately alot of men also women wasnt past down the right knowledge .

    • @joshrichards1291
      @joshrichards1291 2 роки тому +3

      Wait what are you talking about? Men are naturally built to be sexually active. It's a curse for younger men because once you hit puberty the urge to have sex and fornicate with women is at an all time high. If I meet a girl when I was 19 and she gets pregnant and then we break up her holding that grudge over my head 10 years later is ridiculous and you're just hurting the child at that point.

    • @dreamersunlimited8005
      @dreamersunlimited8005 2 роки тому +6

      @@joshrichards1291 I’m not saying that the woman is solely holding a grudge against him. I just want the man to acknowledge that he could have caused, helped, or encouraged her ill feelings. Since the man is grown and mature years later….attempt to reconcile your immature behavior with that woman then proceed being a stand up dude. Don’t just breeze past the hurt like it ain’t nothing! That’s what fuels the venom. You don’t have to kiss her butt or nothing like that. Just admit you may have handled things wrong in the past. It can’t hurt if she’s already being petty. Just a suggestion.

    • @Foreign84
      @Foreign84 2 роки тому +6

      @@dreamersunlimited8005 no no no she needs to understand her feelings towards him and parenting. They are two separate issues. You can't change the past at all. But a MATURE woman understand the value a man role is to a child. All she's doing is hurting the kids and doing psychological damage to that child due to keep him or her from their biological father who actually wants to be there. Because i can hate your guts but i won't let that affect the patenting side of things

    • @dreamersunlimited8005
      @dreamersunlimited8005 2 роки тому +4

      @@Foreign84 I don’t disagree. I’m merely saying that in most cases immature guys handle relationships badly especially when they are young. If that’s the case, these “now grown men” need to acknowledge the aftermath of their immaturity, ATTEMPT to reconcile that old behavior, and move forward with the mature interactions. I live by never leaving anything on the table someone can hold against me or throw in my face. I disarm my opponent by acknowledging their angle before they do. Being a woman, I know the conversations I’ve had over the years and all “we” want is to feel like we mattered enough to apologize. The woman could have been immature in the past as well. I’m just addressing what a man could do from his position in the situation.

  • @WauniasJIsrael
    @WauniasJIsrael 2 роки тому +16

    Give not thy soul unto a harlot,that thou loose thine inheritance!Read verbatim as it is in the book of the Ecclesiasticus 9:6.

    • @zionssoldierofwar7194
      @zionssoldierofwar7194 2 роки тому

      Their not going to open the Torah because they believe it was written and given to us by the white man instead of opening it for themselves and seeking knowledge. Shalom ach and All praises to The Most High.

    • @WauniasJIsrael
      @WauniasJIsrael 2 роки тому +2

      @@zionssoldierofwar7194-And go,get thee to them of the captive,unto the children of my people,and tell them,"Thus saith the Lord God;"whether they hear,or whether they forbear.Read verbatim in Ezekiel 3:11.

    • @zionssoldierofwar7194
      @zionssoldierofwar7194 2 роки тому

      @@WauniasJIsrael Most definitely, planting the seed is important too. I just wished we weren't so stiff necked as a people. Hopefully, they are not given unto their folly. Be blessed.

    • @WauniasJIsrael
      @WauniasJIsrael 2 роки тому +1

      @@zionssoldierofwar7194-And we know that all the things work together for the good to them that love God,to them who are the called according to his purpose.Read verbatim in the book of Romans 8:28.

  • @tashirai9169
    @tashirai9169 2 роки тому +6

    The man with the no kids be speaking truth and the group of men luv to shut him down. He seems to be the smartest one no baby mother.

  • @FreshToDeaph
    @FreshToDeaph 2 роки тому +6

    every nut felt like a hug my mother never gave me. bruh i felt this deep in my soul..

  • @StarSixtySeaven
    @StarSixtySeaven 2 роки тому +34

    Y’all gotta understand changing YOUR vibration doesn’t change another but it changes YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE with another. It’s simple, either you get it or you don’t. But thts wtf going on rather u like it or not

  • @wangusdangus4961
    @wangusdangus4961 2 роки тому +8

    S/O to all the real Father's out there.. stay solid, and maintain that strong relationship with your child/children.. it's hard but it's fair

  • @rashonjesus9800
    @rashonjesus9800 2 роки тому +8

    Man first time on this channel and came across this is a real testimony to what good fathers go through. I've been in that situation and trust me not fun and I am a average Joe compared to these guys. I've lost jobs because of going to court just to get custody of my son. I tell yall this I've never changed how I was, I just knew that I was getting taking of because I am a good person. At the end I got full custody of him and life has never been better. I'll tell yall this stay course , stay positive and your child will grow to see whats real love and what bitterness looks like. Y'all have a blessed day

  • @musicfiles5004
    @musicfiles5004 2 роки тому +38

    Smart Is on point he Is really talking about vibration frequency and energy , If you understand energy then you get it , its very easy to bash the woman when you dont understand her energy or even your's. Some Cats just wanna sleep with anything with no accountability

    • @megamonke2195
      @megamonke2195 2 роки тому

      I agree, but not with all that energy stuff

  • @Poetryforstoners
    @Poetryforstoners 2 роки тому +20

    Listen I wanna feel sorry for homie in the chair across from Math....but you getting all these chicks pregnant and didnt know they was gonna be a traxh co parent ?
    I understand things "happen" but can we please as black men stop getting the wrong chicks pregnant cause most of us in our heart to heart KNOW shawty was crazy from the jump!

    • @APD089191
      @APD089191 2 роки тому +3

      They knew they were crazy but they had all the physical appeals or were a good fuck. 1 baby mama situation with one kid before marriage I can give a pass. But this trend of 5-6 baby mamas and no wife is just insanity to me.

  • @malcolmjenkins6452
    @malcolmjenkins6452 2 роки тому +4

    I’ve had the same situations as these men. Three women, three children. Once I got my vibration together eventually they changed theirs towards me. Whether it changed for others. I agree with smart.

  • @KGptwon
    @KGptwon Рік тому +2

    I'm going threw so much bs because of my ex wife using my kids as leverage because she's bitter. Man so many brothers going threw this.

  • @hamptonsfnst2014
    @hamptonsfnst2014 2 роки тому +1

    Knowledge is what you learn, the information you've received but wisdom is how you apply what you've learned, it's how you apply the knowledge.
    The wise ones attain their knowledge vicariously by listening and observing.

  • @riqqi
    @riqqi 2 роки тому +6

    I appreciate you bruthas for this conversation. I just became a dad June 9th and me and the mother of my son are completely at odds. Thank our lucky stars for these Gods right here.
    ...vibration is a magnet tho.

  • @tinyepperson
    @tinyepperson 2 роки тому +7

    Yes They R Telling The Truth Some Mother’s R Like That And That’s Sad 😞

  • @kotaalmigh7y692
    @kotaalmigh7y692 2 роки тому +17

    Hes not making the woman accountable for there action I wish I could've been in the room

    • @jesseonyenka
      @jesseonyenka 2 роки тому +2

      fr

    • @renebleu8711
      @renebleu8711 2 роки тому +2

      Men are excepting this behavior from women. We got to have standards.

  • @voraciouschild9226
    @voraciouschild9226 2 роки тому +2

    It's EVERY OTHER WEEKEND because you FAILED to MARRY like you were supposed to do.
    Love DOES NOT conquer a bitter baby mama.

  • @Rabi_aa
    @Rabi_aa 2 роки тому +5

    Smart always spittin facts!

  • @PicklezTV
    @PicklezTV 2 роки тому +4

    The hate for the father usually is more than the love of their child

  • @2legit2quitfitness
    @2legit2quitfitness Рік тому +1

    Brothers this is good stuff, I have raised four adult daughters 34, 28, 25 & 22 and I am also divorced after almost 20yrs of marriage.
    Thank you for calling out and checking the younger Brother who doesn't have his own children or has been married because I am personally sick and tired of Black men who don't have their own children speaking on raising their own children.
    Apples and Oranges are different fruits for a reason!!!

  • @desmondmays3028
    @desmondmays3028 2 роки тому +2

    100% Vibration I believe that shit. It's like the law of attraction, energy what you put out yes teach brother. And remember it's sad that everybody wont make we all cant go it aint enough room

  • @ladarionaustin2179
    @ladarionaustin2179 2 роки тому +3

    Smart Right I have two daughters I also see we’re Math and Saigon Comin from too… I got two girls me and my wife have been married for Ten Years I understand the vibrations quote what you bring in is what you get out Even with the Partner you choose. Problem Is Men Change their Vibration AFTER the Problem has already started and it’s hard to fix BITTERNESS and Spite

  • @solardapoet1674
    @solardapoet1674 2 роки тому +5

    about 8 outta 10 black dads incl myself saying the same thing! Smart’s knowledge is pure regurgitation: wisdom isn’t personal experience- some experiences amount to pure folly. According to me, wisdom is the Application of Understanding gained from Knowledge.

  • @akelly47
    @akelly47 Рік тому +1

    Just started watching and they show their hand and ignorance every time they have Smart on the show. He’s too smart to be in that room! No pun intended.

  • @sinceimwavey
    @sinceimwavey 2 роки тому +1

    Math in his feelings rn . And I love math ‼️

  • @taLLdavidproduction
    @taLLdavidproduction 2 роки тому +15

    Personal responsibility goes both ways. I almost feel these days only the father has the expection to be a man, and the woman can be a clout chasing diva with no goals or ambition. Not having a father is the absolute worst upbringing for a kid with no context.

    • @jman1562001
      @jman1562001 2 роки тому +5

      The double standard def exist.....I came to understand women are driven by their emotional state...this may come off sexist but a woman emotions dictate behavior more prominently then men. And whose holding her accountable when she makes mistakes....most time it comes from family or friends but if she don't respect them, then you already know how she going to treat you. It's messed up cause the system can't change behavior only people can and most don't want to change judging by their actions. Best you can do is let time run its course and instill proper behavior when you have ya children. Examples of said behavior is the best teacher IMO

  • @trethevillain
    @trethevillain 2 роки тому +19

    Just because you have experience in an area doesn’t mean you learned from that experience, and not having experience in an area doesn’t necessarily mean you have no knowledge in that area. Stupid people will beat you down with their experiences.

  • @jaybae7315
    @jaybae7315 2 роки тому +1

    I wish they could’ve been intelligent and patient enough to hear Smart out and learn something regardless of him NOT having kids. He speaking facts.

  • @travelingwithvanessa
    @travelingwithvanessa 2 роки тому +1

    Listening to INSIGHTFUL young men like Smart Guy and WISE elders like Sean Bigga are two reasons I watch this channel. It shows there is hope in the future for Black men when they put the right brilliant minds together. Magnetic energy was so "higher level" knowledge. I applaud this young man for getting away from street knowledge and embracing wisdom. Sean Bigga tries to get through to these males quite often, but rarely is he permitted to speak.

  • @heatsquadflame1423
    @heatsquadflame1423 2 роки тому +6

    My brother Math, Smart is right to a certain extent about vibration and subconscious mind. Basically what his trying to say is when you change the way you look at things, things you looking change cos you can't keep practicing negative and expect a positive result. A change of feeling is a change of destiny. You should get him on the show more

  • @vsthebest215
    @vsthebest215 2 роки тому +4

    That ninja in the NY cap is thorough!

  • @chrisvigo4880
    @chrisvigo4880 2 роки тому +1

    Smart is a brother speaking from a proactive perspective. Everybody else speaking from an experience perspective. People can learn from both. 2 heads are better than 1, all these brothers blessed us with knowledge. Peace

  • @tanyaisrael9819
    @tanyaisrael9819 Рік тому +1

    Wow I just sent this to my youngest son, he's a great father. He's torn because all he knows is his kids. Lived, raised . Now she took the kids and he is broken 💔 it's for the best but this storm is too much for him. They have been together since 17yrs old and now he's 28 (working since high school, good dude). Smh this pod cast is excellent for both my son's to watch. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @WauniasJIsrael
    @WauniasJIsrael 2 роки тому +9

    I disagree Israel,cause it is written,"He maketh the barren woman to keep house,and to be a joyful mother of children.Praise ye the LORD!"Read verbatim as it is in the book of the Psalms 113:9.

  • @svpcharls
    @svpcharls 2 роки тому +6

    Yo Smart stay droppin gems on this show n they keep interrupting him and downplaying what he says. They'll catch it on the replay....

  • @EvrythngLame
    @EvrythngLame 2 роки тому

    Been waiting to share this one gawd...

  • @jking3684
    @jking3684 2 роки тому +2

    Saigon hit the nail on the head with that baby moms story , 100% Artifacts

  • @trabucks
    @trabucks 2 роки тому +7

    They ain't tryna hear smart they still hanging on the emotional hurt from the past it's obvious

  • @nightmarefamily375
    @nightmarefamily375 2 роки тому +15

    I love the show but talking over a person b4 he makes a point has to stop

  • @unclejj9600
    @unclejj9600 2 роки тому +2

    Alot of times you as a Dad give in to not deal with stress you still have to work and try to be pleasant and time is something u don't have enough of

  • @aerobertson
    @aerobertson 2 роки тому +1

    I love this podcast man change the vibration😂😂😂😂😂

  • @wealthofsocietywos9324
    @wealthofsocietywos9324 2 роки тому +7

    Yo math !!! Big homie I'm a fan and a father, and a business owner...I'm also under the same beliefs as this young brother...I can explain everything he's trying to explain...he's right but needs g guidance

  • @chitown6189
    @chitown6189 2 роки тому +3

    Smart need his own ..... everyone in that room can't even understand or keep up

  • @aundraythomas3233
    @aundraythomas3233 2 роки тому +2

    Every nut feel like a hug my mother never gave me 💯

  • @glendockins1226
    @glendockins1226 2 місяці тому

    Excellent !!!!! 💛💛💛

  • @rosebud1559
    @rosebud1559 2 роки тому +12

    Selective breeding is important. There’s levels to classes of people, every man or woman is not on the same level and is not in the same class. If a man impregnates a lower level/lower energy class female, it’s because they to are of lower level/lower class and they signed up to deal with lower level/lower class bullshit until he raises his standards/status/level/class and until she does the same. a man can be a great father but have low level/low class/low standards/low status ways and mentality and that’s why they chose the same in who they laid down with...everyone attracts things and people based on where they are, knowingly or unknowingly

    • @Chaddron
      @Chaddron 2 роки тому

      What If A Higher Vibrational Dude Went 2School & Grew Up In Areas Where Lower Vibrational Women Are The Norm - So He Sleeps With What's Available In Babylon Harlots & Boom That's His Fault Because The Norm Is Harlots Everywhere In Babylon- Lol

  • @antucoblack2652
    @antucoblack2652 2 роки тому +8

    11:28 The face Math makes LMFAO! Exactly how everyone listening to Smart feels at that moment.

  • @redayvn
    @redayvn 2 роки тому +2

    Listen, I've been telling my husband for years, you can't control how she ACTS in the situation, but you can control your narrative w/in that situation by still stepping up in the necessary ways w/in your power. My husband has dealt w/ the blocked calls, the BM striving for full control of the narrative with their son, and even the toxicity spilling over onto the child. Like I tell him, eventually she'll hit that "brick wall", and it's gonna crumble on top of her due to her own actions. This chick has spent 10+ years being mad at my husband for nothing, basically b/c he didn't wanna create a facade of a family unit w/ her. As a woman, I have no problem in saying that some women are hella calculated and manipulative, and will go any lengths to try and tear down the father. It's very unfortunate. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @Chaddron
      @Chaddron 2 роки тому +1

      Been Through The Same - It Was Like Fighting The Devil For 18Years - All Because I Didn't See Wifey Material In Her - I Was Young & Dumb & Didn't Know The Pain That Would Come From Sleeping With A Low Vibrational Women Could Bring

  • @tkoking5417
    @tkoking5417 2 роки тому +15

    Men can get primary custody but most men aren't told that. Especially if she doesn't have job & your the sole provider. Been through that court system & it is horrible for men in general.

    • @trabucks
      @trabucks 2 роки тому +3

      I went thru the court early because she lost her crib and got sole custody for the past years life been great!!!

    • @johnalba4406
      @johnalba4406 2 роки тому

      Depends the state

    • @johnalba4406
      @johnalba4406 2 роки тому

      Massachusetts is a mother state

    • @APD089191
      @APD089191 2 роки тому

      I read an article that says most men whom have been told about sole custody refused it or won’t even ask for it.
      Truth is, men either don’t trust themselves in being able to raise kids or they just don’t want the burden.

  • @itsK1NGZ
    @itsK1NGZ 2 роки тому +3

    Y'all gotta stop cutting each other off lol everybody making good points

  • @ogodesala
    @ogodesala 2 роки тому +1

    At 3 minutes of Smart speaking: Simply put= we are responsible for the mates we choose. 💡

  • @Bdphonorat
    @Bdphonorat Рік тому

    So many valid points made

  • @sunnialiber4868
    @sunnialiber4868 2 роки тому +5

    Some of these brothers are too lazy to think. The childless brother makes a lot of sense, keep mocking him until you get hit by child support by a petty crazy baby mama who will make sure your kid hates you.

  • @WauniasJIsrael
    @WauniasJIsrael 2 роки тому +4

    Be not jealous over the wife thy bosdom,and teach her not an evil lesson against thyself!Read verbatim as it is written in the book of Ecclesiasticus 9:1.

  • @greenheadblackvoodochild2487
    @greenheadblackvoodochild2487 2 роки тому +1

    that part smart says about his mother n how every nut felt like the hug my mother never gave me hit me deep cos thats my reality , it so true

  • @2gutta4radio
    @2gutta4radio 2 роки тому

    U killn em wit yo podcast bro I'm locked df in

  • @misspiscesdreamz
    @misspiscesdreamz 2 роки тому +4

    I understand they saying Smart doesn't have kids so he doesn't understand but some people have wisdom about situations they never experienced and should not be dismissed cuz everything he said was the truth. Sometimes it can take someone on the outside of a situation to see things more clearly.
    Watched this again.... and they MAD corny! Smart was right about change your vibration. It will change everything. I've changed my vibration and it changed my bd vibration.

  • @cleveland216..
    @cleveland216.. 2 роки тому +10

    The Guys need to Learn Universal Law

  • @theculturewatch2414
    @theculturewatch2414 2 роки тому +2

    This dude Math is setting ignorance records weekly lmaooooo

  • @gorillagangebk
    @gorillagangebk Рік тому +1

    We fell into the Trap lets Give the guy WHO DIDNT, a Ear💯💯