Math.... Y'all corny for that. Making excuses for your poor choices. And to have *MULTIPLE KIDS?* There's no excuses for continuing to want to impregnate these types of women. Smart seems like the only knowledgeable man in the room.
Smart is an eloquent intelligent young brother. I like how he stays on his square and doesn't get riled up when he's being talked over. He patiently waits his turn and still gets his point across. He can do a lot of good for young men as far as preventative measures going into a relationship/situation, but the practical application when there's already a child involved is another thing. The children are an extension of the mothers for all intents and purposes, so if she doesn't want to do the right thing, it will be extremely difficult to be in the children's life in the capacity that the father may want to.
That’s because the men with kids in the room wanted the camaraderie of having other angry men co-sign their emotions. That was wack! Though Smart does not have kids, his suggestion if he could get it out, would have come from a place of logic. I thought that WAS the frequency men operated on? I could be wrong. It became a baby mama bashing session rather than an accountability discussion and how men in their positions can navigate the mess.
He's speaking ideals and street knowledge hype. He's not a parent. His perspective and frame of reference is not based on anything solid. It's ego. Pride. He should listen more in this situation. That doesn't lessen him by any means
If you're not married then don't have kids. Plain and simple. Stop having more kids if you didn't do it right with the first one. It's wrong and I would consider it child abuse. You're knowingly setting that kid up for a life of issues. Parents problems are your kids problems. That's how family works. Stop being little boys and start acting like men
@@courtlandwilliams9044 deal w/ the consequences of your own actions & stop creating more problems, more statistics, more stereotypes. They chose to lay down w/ the wrong woman, but complain when she acts crazy like nobody ever told them not to have children out of wedlock… it’s extremely selfish to have unplanned children outside of a relationship.
THANK YOU Of people make this fucking mistake because they are attached to SEX if you ask me personally a lot of these mf baby momma and baby daddies DONT EVEN LIKE EACH OTHER and it’s HORRIBLE
Smart knows exactly what he’s talking about. There’s a lot of broken and traumatized fathers in this conversation. Vibrations are everything just listen to him
The issue isn’t his statement bt his perspective…Any man whose not a father yet? Can only speak from the perspective of a child…Also…Why didn’t you speak to the mothers who need to change their vibrations especially by the time the child is 9??…U hv to be a black father to give wisdom on our perspective💯
@@remycool8034 yeah but he’s 1 man and it was plenty of times math just out screams him and starts yelling for him to stop after he hears one thing he don’t agree with. Smart didn’t really interject
Yup...those men play the victim. They choose women those women and have to own it just as women do when they choose unsuitable men. Changing how we navigate co-parenting with difficult humans is basically what's up. Makes no sense and does no good sitting around complaining about what the co-parent is like (especially when they been difficult since day one). Change the frequency or the suffering (and some of the difficulty) is the fault or cause of the complainer based on choice. Just like in the beginning.
@ahi flee I'm starting to notice. There's a reason he constantly interrupts and gets loud (to distract) from unpopular opinion. While I think parents deserve to be validated in their complaints about their co-parent, the also have to own their shit AND validate the positives of the co-parent as well. Otherwise, they're painting a narrative to make other look bad in an attempt to shame them while also painting themselves as victims and the better parent. These guys should have left their personal experience out of the convo to help them speak on the topic from an objective place. If that happened, they'd see where Smart was coming from. There's no place for blame when you're working from a solution focused space. People aren't perfect, moms or fathers, yet the two need to find ways to work together as best possible to benefit the kids. Indifferences need to be worked out, logically, whether done together or through another process. Ideally. This requires working from a higher frequency which helps remove ego and see things (the big pictures) more clear.
They won't let him speak because they are hurt and dealing with pain. I understand that pain as a father. HOWEVER the brother's point is the mother is scorned she will do what she knows will hurt you. If you change your vibration nothing she does will hurt you and she won't be able to exploit your pain and trigger you and she will stop. She's doing it to trigger you. If you let go and don't allow her to control your emotions she will have no choice but to stop. Hear Saigon talk - he's reacting, he's triggered his bm gonna push those buttons FOREVER if he let's her
That's bullshit because you can change your " vibration" all you want that still doesn't change the situation where she's keeping you from seeing your son or trying to raise your child support.
@@PardonMyPresence there's no court order in our case and i was never on child support because I've always supported my kid. She's still bitter and can't let go. Crazy part is she wouldn't take me to court for child support because she will end up exposing herself and her bs actions to the judge.
@@Foreign84 dang... My ex would take the kids places during my time and wouldn't tell me where they were for days and would delay signing a parental agreement. Apparently it's not kidnapping unless there's a legal parental agreement in place. I paid a fair amount to get the agreement legalized. Now she can't jerk me cause I'd call an amber alert so fast have her face on the news. There's really only 2 options in life. Change the circumstances or learn to not let it affect you. Complaining changes nothing.
I think this conversation speaks to the larger point of how so many of us actively participate in our own self sabotage because of the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves. It’s the internalized limitations and like of optimism we have towards the possibilities of our lives. People undermine how deeply committed you have to be to undoing years of unhealthy internalized narratives. If you decided that there is no positive outcome for your relationship with your child’s parent, that’s a choice! If you decide that there are ways that you can show up in that relationship with new perspectives, behaviors, and self-discipline, that’s a choice!
Smart was trying to say if you continue to stay a positive father in your child's life then your child will understand how amazing their father is. Even if their mother is off the wall you still treat her a certain way in front of the child. I feel like we all got that point. As well as not knowing how low quality some parents can be.
That's not it. The truth is simple some are bless and some are not that's it. You can do and say whatever you want. GOD bless people because of they heart
@@emmanuelshaul1358 God does bless people because of their heart. As well as your will to be what you can be. I understand that but disagree with your statement. My reason is because good and bad happens to everyone regardless of their heart. Some things are a reflection of you and some things are the reflection of the universe where we have no control. You can always stop at a red light and get hit by a 80mph car. You can always be a bad person and end up financially successful.
They keep saying "you dont understand cuz you dont have kids" the GAG is.......Smart clearly has more wisdom since he DID NOT FALL into the trap like them!!! They SHOULD be taking notes lol
Yeeessssss I felt this smart definitely DID NOT fall in the trap like they complaining asses did knowing the women they were having sex with RAW shouldn’t not have been made mothers
@@miffycarter3876 THAT part!!! If men & women have multiple bm's/bd's they needa take a break from sex and focus on themselves and their kids foreal like why do people keep setting themselves up to be in these situations?.........Lack of love, rejection, lack of self control, its just too much lacking in the black community & its refreshing to know that a lot of us are waking up to the traps set by our adversaries and breaking up the black home and not having stable healthy relationships are just some of the things that needs to stop. We gotta start somewhere. I'm glad they had this conversation but I wish it was more problem solving and solution based. They working tho👌🏽👌🏽 much respect to these men
That's what I'm saying Mamas like wtf they on!!!??!?! Cause I say the same and I dont have kids either! I grew up without a pops that shit sucked!! Nahhh
Give my guy Smart his own show already , his consciousness is levels ahead of everyone in the room and I think it gets them feelin some type of way reason why they dispute everything he says
"Is the issue to be in the child's life or repair the relationship with the mother" that is strong these guys are NOT focused on their kids! If you have joint custody and live in the same city you can get 50% of there time.
That's why it's important to get married before you have kids. You really need to know the person that you're trying to create life with before you take on the biggest responsibility in life.
They not bitter but every situation isn’t how he’s portraying it my kids mom me and her was great together no arguing nothing bad but soon as we don’t make it petty shit and shit changed all the way up
Yo math y'all gotta chill.. Smart know exactly what he's talking about.. Y'all just ain't catching on.. The shit he's talking about is bigger than just being a father.. He's speaking some real life shit
Changing your vibration is definitely the key. I raised five children while being divorced from their mother I know what I'm talkin about. So you can't pull that you don't got no children card on me
No matter how manly a dude might think he is or looks if he has a feminized spirit a women will pick up on it and in her subconscious mind she's not arguing with a man she's arguing with a female. She will perceive and eventually treat this man as if he a female it's wasn't until I broke that feminine spirit in me did shit start going good for me and my son's mother. She married happy I'm happy we co parent and it's all love now. When you think like a women all you'll see is a women's faults When you think like a man all you see is a women's greatness
@@rickjames6902 Some of these women love a feminine dude, but will play the hell out of a masculine dude. They'll pick up on the fact, you won't be manipulated by them then seek the counterproductive drama they prefer.
Man first time on this channel and came across this is a real testimony to what good fathers go through. I've been in that situation and trust me not fun and I am a average Joe compared to these guys. I've lost jobs because of going to court just to get custody of my son. I tell yall this I've never changed how I was, I just knew that I was getting taking of because I am a good person. At the end I got full custody of him and life has never been better. I'll tell yall this stay course , stay positive and your child will grow to see whats real love and what bitterness looks like. Y'all have a blessed day
ALL of these brothers had valid points. I have 3 children. One with a “baby mother” and two with my wife. I. Had to change my vibration!! After my son’s mother and I didnt work out. I went through every agonizing frustration there could be with co-parenting. The system doesn’t not care about visitation as much as they do child support. Men usually get the bad end of the deal and life isn’t fair However we did choose to sleep with these women. WE have to accept that and keep it positive. I made sure at least the next time i had children we were in equal accord. Married and on the same page .
Smart is 100% right..I had to change myself & it changed my kids father..It didn’t happen over night but he started to change, slowly over time..I worried about how I reacted & myself and things started to slowly change & here we are 5yrs later with the best co-parent relationship..These men are speaking from bitterness..Worry about yourself & your kids and that’s all you need to worry about..Unless the mother is harming your kid or placing them in harm, don’t worry about her at all & what she do & react to..Keep going to court until that child is old enough to voice his/her own opinion about where they want to be..To bitter parents aren’t going to get anywhere but playing the blame game..
Some women are so bitter from the relationship not working out that they keep the kid from seeing their father out of spite! No matter how positive you are towards them or how much you change your vibration to attract a more positive healthy co parenting relationship with them. I witnessed my son’s father go through a terrible custody battle so he could keep the rights to see his daughter (from a previous relationship). He did everything to keep the co parenting peaceful. From positive vibrations to being respectful to putting HIMSELF on child support just to be able to be on good terms but nothing worked. After all of that his daughters mom accused him of child abuse just to stop joint custody! He’s been fighting in court to see his daughter ever since. He’s such a great dad and the only one who suffers the most is the kids. Especially when they’re old enough to know what’s going on.
This is the only thing I agree with him with. Changing vibration means, take control over your thoughts on how you think she’s controlling you with the child. It’s basically fighting without showing emotion. Don’t get frustrated over what she’s doing.. when my daughter mother tried to get me upset and said I’ll never see my daughter again, I said “Ok” I’ll make another one..
If the child is living in the mother's house with her, and the father only gets the kid on the weekend in holidays. The mother will have influence over the child thoughts about how he or she feels about their father.
Their not going to open the Torah because they believe it was written and given to us by the white man instead of opening it for themselves and seeking knowledge. Shalom ach and All praises to The Most High.
@@Zion_1010-And go,get thee to them of the captive,unto the children of my people,and tell them,"Thus saith the Lord God;"whether they hear,or whether they forbear.Read verbatim in Ezekiel 3:11.
@@WauniasJIsrael Most definitely, planting the seed is important too. I just wished we weren't so stiff necked as a people. Hopefully, they are not given unto their folly. Be blessed.
@@Zion_1010-And we know that all the things work together for the good to them that love God,to them who are the called according to his purpose.Read verbatim in the book of Romans 8:28.
Smart is speaking FACTS. This is exactly what I did with my son's mother. I changed how I felt about our situation, the situation changed. I had the same custody agreement, same support payment, same arrears and court dates as every other guy in family court. I got custody of my son at age 10, he lived with me and I raised him thru graduating high school. Before I changed, I felt like I was stuck in the system like everybody else... I had to change my thoughts (vibrations) first and then my situation changed. (Side note... this doesn't just work for child custody cases either)
A close friend had a child with a woman who was extremely bitter that he would not marry her and married someone else. His child's mother used every trick in the book, including having his daughter tell the family court that he molested her. All of the years of fighting and going back and forth to court nearly ruined his relationship with his wife. He had a dream...he won't share the dream...and he decided that he would no longer take part in any foolishness with his child's mother. He didn't care what she said, what she did, or how she acted... My friend was 1000% dedicated and committed to doing everything and anything in his power to make a positive change. He treated his child's mother with nothing but kindness and respect. He took all the BS she could throw at him and didn't say one unkind word or retaliate in any way shape or form. It took 2.5 years for things to change. Out of nowhere, his child's mother called him on the phone to ask about summer plans and schedules. Things continued to improve each and every year. His child is now in their mid-20s, a graduate student, and doing great. The entire family gets together for birthdays and events and no one is fighting. All because my friend decided enough was enough. He stood up like a man, changed his vibration (attitude-behavior-character), and focused on what was most important... His child and his peace of mind.
I appreciate you bruthas for this conversation. I just became a dad June 9th and me and the mother of my son are completely at odds. Thank our lucky stars for these Gods right here. ...vibration is a magnet tho.
I can’t rock with you men that won’t accept responsibility for impregnating the wrong women! You can just say “oh I was young” and that’s the excuse. Nah. If you know better and are doing better as a grown man….reconcile what the younger you did way back when and continue to grow. You can’t just treat a woman badly, break up with her, mature over there ten years later then come back and says she’s immature!
Wait what are you talking about? Men are naturally built to be sexually active. It's a curse for younger men because once you hit puberty the urge to have sex and fornicate with women is at an all time high. If I meet a girl when I was 19 and she gets pregnant and then we break up her holding that grudge over my head 10 years later is ridiculous and you're just hurting the child at that point.
@@joshrichards1291 I’m not saying that the woman is solely holding a grudge against him. I just want the man to acknowledge that he could have caused, helped, or encouraged her ill feelings. Since the man is grown and mature years later….attempt to reconcile your immature behavior with that woman then proceed being a stand up dude. Don’t just breeze past the hurt like it ain’t nothing! That’s what fuels the venom. You don’t have to kiss her butt or nothing like that. Just admit you may have handled things wrong in the past. It can’t hurt if she’s already being petty. Just a suggestion.
@@dreamersunlimited8005 no no no she needs to understand her feelings towards him and parenting. They are two separate issues. You can't change the past at all. But a MATURE woman understand the value a man role is to a child. All she's doing is hurting the kids and doing psychological damage to that child due to keep him or her from their biological father who actually wants to be there. Because i can hate your guts but i won't let that affect the patenting side of things
@@Foreign84 I don’t disagree. I’m merely saying that in most cases immature guys handle relationships badly especially when they are young. If that’s the case, these “now grown men” need to acknowledge the aftermath of their immaturity, ATTEMPT to reconcile that old behavior, and move forward with the mature interactions. I live by never leaving anything on the table someone can hold against me or throw in my face. I disarm my opponent by acknowledging their angle before they do. Being a woman, I know the conversations I’ve had over the years and all “we” want is to feel like we mattered enough to apologize. The woman could have been immature in the past as well. I’m just addressing what a man could do from his position in the situation.
Knowledge is what you learn, the information you've received but wisdom is how you apply what you've learned, it's how you apply the knowledge. The wise ones attain their knowledge vicariously by listening and observing.
The shit Smart was talkin bout is what i had to do to make my situation more easier... he’s really tryna say “it’s starts with you.” Clearly Saigon & Math had really bad situations... everybody different. Not everyone can’t control themselves when they’re angry... that shit ain’t easy when it’s a person you trusted pushing all of the buttons on you. Respect to all of these brothers.
Smart is absolutely correct, and having children or not has nothing to do with his knowledge on the situation. Its Universal Law which holds true no matter the circumstances. Most men love to hold women accountable when they clump all men in one category based on their experience. They love to say "oh you messing with the wrong niggas" or "then why you keep dating ain't shit men" as a response to it. So why doesn't the same accountability apply to men who find themselves in these situations with these women who they claim to be so unreasonable. A few things probably happened. You knew she was crazy when you met her and you ignored it cause you didn't care how that would translate to motherhood or Co-parenting cause you ain't plan that far/ her "craziness" about or over you stroked your ego and now it's not fun anymore lol/ or you didn't know any better and weren't aware of yourself enough to even have a desire to filter out the good ones from the bad based on real knowledge of what that truly is, where in that case you have no other choice but to deal with the consequences of making decisions without consciousness and make better choices going forward.
You are absoluteley correct. If most people had this mindset accountability is not something people like to take cause if they do their is no one to blame for their own personal bad Decision making.
Of course a woman would agree to this nonsense because holding women accountable is foreign to women like you. how do you justify a woman hurting her child just to get back t a man and keeping a an away from his children?
@@joshrichards1291 Nowhere in anything I stated did I say that women shouldn't be held accountable. You assumed and inserted that. My comment was based on what the gentleman in the video are discussing. ALL humans should be held accountable for their transgressions. Right is right and wrong is wrong period. To clarify my point since you misunderstood my intention, take accountability for your choices. Live with them, learn from them. PERIOD. And lastly sir you cant even imagine as much as you try what a "Women like me" is. lol Just like I don't know and don't wish to know anything about you.
The truth is that a lot of men don't like putting in the work of raising kids. They would rather complain about the woman being difficult instead of taking the steps necessary to be in their children's lives. They love to rant and throw a fit occasionally to make people think they're making an attempt. In reality, they enjoy their child-free life and the ability to do what they want without having that responsibility.
Facts the most sense came from smart, the only man in the room wit NO kids speaking the most facts, everybody else jus uses they situations as facts when they ain't beat to try nothing new to fix it
Brothers this is good stuff, I have raised four adult daughters 34, 28, 25 & 22 and I am also divorced after almost 20yrs of marriage. Thank you for calling out and checking the younger Brother who doesn't have his own children or has been married because I am personally sick and tired of Black men who don't have their own children speaking on raising their own children. Apples and Oranges are different fruits for a reason!!!
I’ve had the same situations as these men. Three women, three children. Once I got my vibration together eventually they changed theirs towards me. Whether it changed for others. I agree with smart.
Smart Right I have two daughters I also see we’re Math and Saigon Comin from too… I got two girls me and my wife have been married for Ten Years I understand the vibrations quote what you bring in is what you get out Even with the Partner you choose. Problem Is Men Change their Vibration AFTER the Problem has already started and it’s hard to fix BITTERNESS and Spite
100% Vibration I believe that shit. It's like the law of attraction, energy what you put out yes teach brother. And remember it's sad that everybody wont make we all cant go it aint enough room
Y’all gotta understand changing YOUR vibration doesn’t change another but it changes YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE with another. It’s simple, either you get it or you don’t. But thts wtf going on rather u like it or not
smart im a father and what you talking about is real. its not about how they moving its you and how you move they bullshit aint going to matter after a while. real shit
Wow I just sent this to my youngest son, he's a great father. He's torn because all he knows is his kids. Lived, raised . Now she took the kids and he is broken 💔 it's for the best but this storm is too much for him. They have been together since 17yrs old and now he's 28 (working since high school, good dude). Smh this pod cast is excellent for both my son's to watch. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Smart Is on point he Is really talking about vibration frequency and energy , If you understand energy then you get it , its very easy to bash the woman when you dont understand her energy or even your's. Some Cats just wanna sleep with anything with no accountability
Just started watching and they show their hand and ignorance every time they have Smart on the show. He’s too smart to be in that room! No pun intended.
Yo math !!! Big homie I'm a fan and a father, and a business owner...I'm also under the same beliefs as this young brother...I can explain everything he's trying to explain...he's right but needs g guidance
about 8 outta 10 black dads incl myself saying the same thing! Smart’s knowledge is pure regurgitation: wisdom isn’t personal experience- some experiences amount to pure folly. According to me, wisdom is the Application of Understanding gained from Knowledge.
Smart is a brother speaking from a proactive perspective. Everybody else speaking from an experience perspective. People can learn from both. 2 heads are better than 1, all these brothers blessed us with knowledge. Peace
Listen I wanna feel sorry for homie in the chair across from Math....but you getting all these chicks pregnant and didnt know they was gonna be a traxh co parent ? I understand things "happen" but can we please as black men stop getting the wrong chicks pregnant cause most of us in our heart to heart KNOW shawty was crazy from the jump!
They knew they were crazy but they had all the physical appeals or were a good fuck. 1 baby mama situation with one kid before marriage I can give a pass. But this trend of 5-6 baby mamas and no wife is just insanity to me.
Don't push him out the conversation because he don't have children. He's a very smart man he wasn't dumb enough to fall into the same trap y'all fell in.
Personal responsibility goes both ways. I almost feel these days only the father has the expection to be a man, and the woman can be a clout chasing diva with no goals or ambition. Not having a father is the absolute worst upbringing for a kid with no context.
The double standard def exist.....I came to understand women are driven by their emotional state...this may come off sexist but a woman emotions dictate behavior more prominently then men. And whose holding her accountable when she makes mistakes....most time it comes from family or friends but if she don't respect them, then you already know how she going to treat you. It's messed up cause the system can't change behavior only people can and most don't want to change judging by their actions. Best you can do is let time run its course and instill proper behavior when you have ya children. Examples of said behavior is the best teacher IMO
They don't get it because of what Smart said at the beginning. Subconsciously we as men can't imagine it being better for us because of everything we've seen up to the point of now. If you truly change your mindset and live by it is when you see the difference. I have custody of all my children because I stayed strong in the belief that I would always be in there life. It wasn't easy but I never went in with a defeated mind state.
Just because you have experience in an area doesn’t mean you learned from that experience, and not having experience in an area doesn’t necessarily mean you have no knowledge in that area. Stupid people will beat you down with their experiences.
I disagree Israel,cause it is written,"He maketh the barren woman to keep house,and to be a joyful mother of children.Praise ye the LORD!"Read verbatim as it is in the book of the Psalms 113:9.
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Let him talk for once
And... she wasnt that woman until she became my kids mother
Math.... Y'all corny for that. Making excuses for your poor choices. And to have *MULTIPLE KIDS?* There's no excuses for continuing to want to impregnate these types of women. Smart seems like the only knowledgeable man in the room.
I know you see all the comments let him Talk you don't know shit sound like the devil himself
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Never dismiss wisdom. Smart men learn through their mistakes and wise men learn through others mistakes.
Exactly
People get caught up in the messenger instead of the message
Facts 💯
@@jaybae7315 you got tht from smart 🤣💯
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Said he’s working on it
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Smart is an eloquent intelligent young brother. I like how he stays on his square and doesn't get riled up when he's being talked over. He patiently waits his turn and still gets his point across. He can do a lot of good for young men as far as preventative measures going into a relationship/situation, but the practical application when there's already a child involved is another thing. The children are an extension of the mothers for all intents and purposes, so if she doesn't want to do the right thing, it will be extremely difficult to be in the children's life in the capacity that the father may want to.
The best comment on this thread.
He needs to stop coming on this show because they ALWAYS try to play him when he's the "smartest" man in the room.
He only sounds so smart to youngsters... he's smart but sounds dumb a lot of times.
@@CarlosPerez-ut5ze facts . He was speaking on something he wasn’t or hasn’t experienced n trying to give advice
@@CarlosPerez-ut5ze dead beat fathers get mad at him
Smart is in the wrong room!!!! They don't understand the knowledge 💯
“Every nut was a hug my mother never gave me.”
That was powerful! Self awareness is key to growth
Yo that's a bar right there. Who dat??
I felt that too
But it has nothing to do with the conversation. They are talking about being good fathers who barely get to see their children
Smart in a room full of people who won't even let him get his point across
His point is null in void
That’s because the men with kids in the room wanted the camaraderie of having other angry men co-sign their emotions. That was wack! Though Smart does not have kids, his suggestion if he could get it out, would have come from a place of logic. I thought that WAS the frequency men operated on? I could be wrong. It became a baby mama bashing session rather than an accountability discussion and how men in their positions can navigate the mess.
Yeah smart was definitely kicking some knowledge but once he put some of the responsibility on the dad they wasn't trying to here it.
He's speaking ideals and street knowledge hype. He's not a parent. His perspective and frame of reference is not based on anything solid. It's ego. Pride. He should listen more in this situation. That doesn't lessen him by any means
Because he's talking bullshit.
If you're not married then don't have kids. Plain and simple. Stop having more kids if you didn't do it right with the first one. It's wrong and I would consider it child abuse. You're knowingly setting that kid up for a life of issues. Parents problems are your kids problems. That's how family works. Stop being little boys and start acting like men
Accountability 🤝💯
Thank you!!!!
So what you’re saying is basically deal with the consequences of her attitude no matter what the circumstances are?
@@courtlandwilliams9044 deal w/ the consequences of your own actions & stop creating more problems, more statistics, more stereotypes. They chose to lay down w/ the wrong woman, but complain when she acts crazy like nobody ever told them not to have children out of wedlock… it’s extremely selfish to have unplanned children outside of a relationship.
THANK YOU Of people make this fucking mistake because they are attached to SEX if you ask me personally a lot of these mf baby momma and baby daddies DONT EVEN LIKE EACH OTHER and it’s HORRIBLE
Smart is on a level above. His wisdom deserves his own platform.!!!!!!!
Smart knows exactly what he’s talking about. There’s a lot of broken and traumatized fathers in this conversation. Vibrations are everything just listen to him
The issue isn’t his statement bt his perspective…Any man whose not a father yet? Can only speak from the perspective of a child…Also…Why didn’t you speak to the mothers who need to change their vibrations especially by the time the child is 9??…U hv to be a black father to give wisdom on our perspective💯
@@FloatasWurld Smart is right... he just been smart before all these upset baby daddies
@@fo20boi So he is only smart in the sense he didn't have kids!!
@@ICEMAN24072 Not only but as a mature man you don't sleep with just anybody.
@@fo20boi This is true but even smarter to just not have kids.Sometimes it's hard to tell who is who
Smart should be a professor, if I had a teacher like him in high school I would have went to class
Smart talking to the wrong crowd. Them brothers couldn’t understand his point bcus they so bitter abt they baby moms; didn’t even give him a true ear
True but he didn't ether
@@remycool8034 yeah but he’s 1 man and it was plenty of times math just out screams him and starts yelling for him to stop after he hears one thing he don’t agree with. Smart didn’t really interject
Yup...those men play the victim. They choose women those women and have to own it just as women do when they choose unsuitable men.
Changing how we navigate co-parenting with difficult humans is basically what's up.
Makes no sense and does no good sitting around complaining about what the co-parent is like (especially when they been difficult since day one).
Change the frequency or the suffering (and some of the difficulty) is the fault or cause of the complainer based on choice.
Just like in the beginning.
@ahi flee I'm starting to notice. There's a reason he constantly interrupts and gets loud (to distract) from unpopular opinion.
While I think parents deserve to be validated in their complaints about their co-parent, the also have to own their shit AND validate the positives of the co-parent as well.
Otherwise, they're painting a narrative to make other look bad in an attempt to shame them while also painting themselves as victims and the better parent.
These guys should have left their personal experience out of the convo to help them speak on the topic from an objective place.
If that happened, they'd see where Smart was coming from.
There's no place for blame when you're working from a solution focused space.
People aren't perfect, moms or fathers, yet the two need to find ways to work together as best possible to benefit the kids.
Indifferences need to be worked out, logically, whether done together or through another process.
Ideally.
This requires working from a higher frequency which helps remove ego and see things (the big pictures) more clear.
What is dudes name in the Yankee fitted?
Smart was kicking great knowledge they just wasn't having it🤦♂️
They won't let him speak because they are hurt and dealing with pain. I understand that pain as a father. HOWEVER the brother's point is the mother is scorned she will do what she knows will hurt you. If you change your vibration nothing she does will hurt you and she won't be able to exploit your pain and trigger you and she will stop. She's doing it to trigger you. If you let go and don't allow her to control your emotions she will have no choice but to stop. Hear Saigon talk - he's reacting, he's triggered his bm gonna push those buttons FOREVER if he let's her
That's bullshit because you can change your " vibration" all you want that still doesn't change the situation where she's keeping you from seeing your son or trying to raise your child support.
Exactly why i stop giving AF. My son gonna have wake up on his own. She took him to England behind my back
@@Foreign84 be honest. Did You have legal custody? Do you still pay child support?
@@PardonMyPresence there's no court order in our case and i was never on child support because I've always supported my kid. She's still bitter and can't let go. Crazy part is she wouldn't take me to court for child support because she will end up exposing herself and her bs actions to the judge.
@@Foreign84 dang... My ex would take the kids places during my time and wouldn't tell me where they were for days and would delay signing a parental agreement. Apparently it's not kidnapping unless there's a legal parental agreement in place. I paid a fair amount to get the agreement legalized. Now she can't jerk me cause I'd call an amber alert so fast have her face on the news. There's really only 2 options in life. Change the circumstances or learn to not let it affect you. Complaining changes nothing.
Smart is woke and I noticed he speaks a lot of things that are actually written in the Bible.
Chicks always burglarizing conversation👎
Ctfu
And?? What does that mean? A lot of shitty things are written in the Bible also
as well as super ova these niggas heads🤦🏾♀️
A lot of people don’t understand this concept… he is smart lol..
I think this conversation speaks to the larger point of how so many of us actively participate in our own self sabotage because of the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves. It’s the internalized limitations and like of optimism we have towards the possibilities of our lives. People undermine how deeply committed you have to be to undoing years of unhealthy internalized narratives. If you decided that there is no positive outcome for your relationship with your child’s parent, that’s a choice! If you decide that there are ways that you can show up in that relationship with new perspectives, behaviors, and self-discipline, that’s a choice!
Smart was trying to say if you continue to stay a positive father in your child's life then your child will understand how amazing their father is. Even if their mother is off the wall you still treat her a certain way in front of the child. I feel like we all got that point. As well as not knowing how low quality some parents can be.
That's not it. The truth is simple some are bless and some are not that's it. You can do and say whatever you want. GOD bless people because of they heart
That's the whole fact
@@emmanuelshaul1358 God does bless people because of their heart. As well as your will to be what you can be. I understand that but disagree with your statement. My reason is because good and bad happens to everyone regardless of their heart. Some things are a reflection of you and some things are the reflection of the universe where we have no control. You can always stop at a red light and get hit by a 80mph car. You can always be a bad person and end up financially successful.
They keep saying "you dont understand cuz you dont have kids" the GAG is.......Smart clearly has more wisdom since he DID NOT FALL into the trap like them!!! They SHOULD be taking notes lol
Yeeessssss I felt this smart definitely DID NOT fall in the trap like they complaining asses did knowing the women they were having sex with RAW shouldn’t not have been made mothers
@@miffycarter3876 THAT part!!! If men & women have multiple bm's/bd's they needa take a break from sex and focus on themselves and their kids foreal like why do people keep setting themselves up to be in these situations?.........Lack of love, rejection, lack of self control, its just too much lacking in the black community & its refreshing to know that a lot of us are waking up to the traps set by our adversaries and breaking up the black home and not having stable healthy relationships are just some of the things that needs to stop. We gotta start somewhere. I'm glad they had this conversation but I wish it was more problem solving and solution based. They working tho👌🏽👌🏽 much respect to these men
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That's what I'm saying Mamas like wtf they on!!!??!?! Cause I say the same and I dont have kids either! I grew up without a pops that shit sucked!! Nahhh
@@NyceNigha fact, cry somewhere fool
I like how Smart’s mind works. And I like the fact he is on some accountability shit. That’s what a grown ass man as well as woman does.
He has no children and so he can theorise all day as his child and rescources and dignity are not on the line.
@@tamunosakiwestscott-bloack2229yeah he’s SMART ‼️‼️‼️💯💯💯
Salute all black fathers 🔥💯🔥
salute!!!
Give my guy Smart his own show already , his consciousness is levels ahead of everyone in the room and I think it gets them feelin some type of way reason why they dispute everything he says
"Is the issue to be in the child's life or repair the relationship with the mother" that is strong these guys are NOT focused on their kids! If you have joint custody and live in the same city you can get 50% of there time.
Exactly they are not good fathers as they claim they are and it shows
I want to meet Smart because everything he’s saying is absolute true. Men are equally in pain or angry as the mothers. You have to change self.
That's why it's important to get married before you have kids. You really need to know the person that you're trying to create life with before you take on the biggest responsibility in life.
Men just smash w/o thinking shit through & then blame the women for being themselves. Why did you lay w/ a women w/ these type of character flaws?
@@Skywalker721 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Super FACTS!!!
Nowadays its hard to marry because women already have the mindset of money
exaccccttttlllyyyy!...
Nowadays these bitches play two roles you’ll never knows if she loves you! Until after the judge says she’s entitled to 40% of your income
As a father who has a "crazy" ex and who can write a book about the issues I have had with her, SMART is 1000000% correct on this one!!!!!
Thank you brother
Smart needs his own show.He possesses true knowledge of self.I love to hear him speak.
Smart waisting his breath on bitter men who chose the wrong woman. Vibrations are real. You are who you attract Period!!!
That's not an absolute fact.
I can honestly say I respect smart. He thought process is strong. Much respect 2 u bruh..
It sound like he repeating himself but they keep cutting him off and he starts from the beginning. If they would just let him finish his thought......
They not bitter but every situation isn’t how he’s portraying it my kids mom me and her was great together no arguing nothing bad but soon as we don’t make it petty shit and shit changed all the way up
He's right to some extent its not so black and white ....its so many variables
Yo math y'all gotta chill.. Smart know exactly what he's talking about.. Y'all just ain't catching on.. The shit he's talking about is bigger than just being a father.. He's speaking some real life shit
Exactly.
These guys are men boys and are stuck playing the victim.
@@Hfgv281 exactly
Right he gets so deep then the rest gets lost! We need to wake the fuck up
@@lostqueen2398 cognitive dissonance. People get uncomfortable when someone points out what should be obvious to them.
Nah hes incorrect hes just hoping to be right pay attention to what he said
I understand everything Smart is speaking and I have a son!!! He's speaking #Facts!!!
KEEP SMART ON THE SHOW!
We fell into the Trap lets Give the guy WHO DIDNT, a Ear💯💯
Changing your vibration is definitely the key. I raised five children while being divorced from their mother I know what I'm talkin about. So you can't pull that you don't got no children card on me
respect
They don't care about the outcome they're being petty because they're allowed to be.
No matter how manly a dude might think he is or looks if he has a feminized spirit a women will pick up on it and in her subconscious mind she's not arguing with a man she's arguing with a female. She will perceive and eventually treat this man as if he a female it's wasn't until I broke that feminine spirit in me did shit start going good for me and my son's mother. She married happy I'm happy we co parent and it's all love now. When you think like a women all you'll see is a women's faults
When you think like a man all you see is a women's greatness
@@rickjames6902 How did you break out of this fem spirit tho i
Yup .. they're stuck on victim mode and seeing the mother's as the problem.
@@rickjames6902 Some of these women love a feminine dude, but will play the hell out of a masculine dude. They'll pick up on the fact, you won't be manipulated by them then seek the counterproductive drama they prefer.
Man first time on this channel and came across this is a real testimony to what good fathers go through. I've been in that situation and trust me not fun and I am a average Joe compared to these guys. I've lost jobs because of going to court just to get custody of my son. I tell yall this I've never changed how I was, I just knew that I was getting taking of because I am a good person. At the end I got full custody of him and life has never been better. I'll tell yall this stay course , stay positive and your child will grow to see whats real love and what bitterness looks like. Y'all have a blessed day
Smart is a fuckin gem . Bro needs to start his own podcast asap
ALL of these brothers had valid points. I have 3 children. One with a “baby mother” and two with my wife. I. Had to change my vibration!! After my son’s mother and I didnt work out. I went through every agonizing frustration there could be with co-parenting. The system doesn’t not care about visitation as much as they do child support. Men usually get the bad end of the deal and life isn’t fair However we did choose to sleep with these women. WE have to accept that and keep it positive. I made sure at least the next time i had children we were in equal accord. Married and on the same page
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Smart is 100% right..I had to change myself & it changed my kids father..It didn’t happen over night but he started to change, slowly over time..I worried about how I reacted & myself and things started to slowly change & here we are 5yrs later with the best co-parent relationship..These men are speaking from bitterness..Worry about yourself & your kids and that’s all you need to worry about..Unless the mother is harming your kid or placing them in harm, don’t worry about her at all & what she do & react to..Keep going to court until that child is old enough to voice his/her own opinion about where they want to be..To bitter parents aren’t going to get anywhere but playing the blame game..
every nut felt like a hug my mother never gave me. bruh i felt this deep in my soul..
Some women are so bitter from the relationship not working out that they keep the kid from seeing their father out of spite! No matter how positive you are towards them or how much you change your vibration to attract a more positive healthy co parenting relationship with them. I witnessed my son’s father go through a terrible custody battle so he could keep the rights to see his daughter (from a previous relationship). He did everything to keep the co parenting peaceful. From positive vibrations to being respectful to putting HIMSELF on child support just to be able to be on good terms but nothing worked. After all of that his daughters mom accused him of child abuse just to stop joint custody! He’s been fighting in court to see his daughter ever since. He’s such a great dad and the only one who suffers the most is the kids. Especially when they’re old enough to know what’s going on.
💯 but, let men vibrate higher to fix all the issues of bitter person that could care less about your personal "frequency"
Yea he is vibrating higher but The Most High will see him through. May not be now but eventually the child sees who the toxic one is.
"That shit be hell for good fathers." I felt that (pause)
I'm going threw so much bs because of my ex wife using my kids as leverage because she's bitter. Man so many brothers going threw this.
This is the only thing I agree with him with. Changing vibration means, take control over your thoughts on how you think she’s controlling you with the child. It’s basically fighting without showing emotion. Don’t get frustrated over what she’s doing.. when my daughter mother tried to get me upset and said I’ll never see my daughter again, I said “Ok” I’ll make another one..
If the child is living in the mother's house with her, and the father only gets the kid on the weekend in holidays. The mother will have influence over the child thoughts about how he or she feels about their father.
Give not thy soul unto a harlot,that thou loose thine inheritance!Read verbatim as it is in the book of the Ecclesiasticus 9:6.
Their not going to open the Torah because they believe it was written and given to us by the white man instead of opening it for themselves and seeking knowledge. Shalom ach and All praises to The Most High.
@@Zion_1010-And go,get thee to them of the captive,unto the children of my people,and tell them,"Thus saith the Lord God;"whether they hear,or whether they forbear.Read verbatim in Ezekiel 3:11.
@@WauniasJIsrael Most definitely, planting the seed is important too. I just wished we weren't so stiff necked as a people. Hopefully, they are not given unto their folly. Be blessed.
@@Zion_1010-And we know that all the things work together for the good to them that love God,to them who are the called according to his purpose.Read verbatim in the book of Romans 8:28.
Smart is speaking FACTS. This is exactly what I did with my son's mother. I changed how I felt about our situation, the situation changed.
I had the same custody agreement, same support payment, same arrears and court dates as every other guy in family court. I got custody of my son at age 10, he lived with me and I raised him thru graduating high school. Before I changed, I felt like I was stuck in the system like everybody else... I had to change my thoughts (vibrations) first and then my situation changed. (Side note... this doesn't just work for child custody cases either)
A close friend had a child with a woman who was extremely bitter that he would not marry her and married someone else. His child's mother used every trick in the book, including having his daughter tell the family court that he molested her. All of the years of fighting and going back and forth to court nearly ruined his relationship with his wife. He had a dream...he won't share the dream...and he decided that he would no longer take part in any foolishness with his child's mother. He didn't care what she said, what she did, or how she acted... My friend was 1000% dedicated and committed to doing everything and anything in his power to make a positive change. He treated his child's mother with nothing but kindness and respect. He took all the BS she could throw at him and didn't say one unkind word or retaliate in any way shape or form. It took 2.5 years for things to change. Out of nowhere, his child's mother called him on the phone to ask about summer plans and schedules. Things continued to improve each and every year. His child is now in their mid-20s, a graduate student, and doing great. The entire family gets together for birthdays and events and no one is fighting. All because my friend decided enough was enough. He stood up like a man, changed his vibration (attitude-behavior-character), and focused on what was most important... His child and his peace of mind.
Yes They R Telling The Truth Some Mother’s R Like That And That’s Sad 😞
I appreciate you bruthas for this conversation. I just became a dad June 9th and me and the mother of my son are completely at odds. Thank our lucky stars for these Gods right here.
...vibration is a magnet tho.
I can’t rock with you men that won’t accept responsibility for impregnating the wrong women! You can just say “oh I was young” and that’s the excuse. Nah. If you know better and are doing better as a grown man….reconcile what the younger you did way back when and continue to grow. You can’t just treat a woman badly, break up with her, mature over there ten years later then come back and says she’s immature!
Absolutely. Unfortunately alot of men also women wasnt past down the right knowledge .
Wait what are you talking about? Men are naturally built to be sexually active. It's a curse for younger men because once you hit puberty the urge to have sex and fornicate with women is at an all time high. If I meet a girl when I was 19 and she gets pregnant and then we break up her holding that grudge over my head 10 years later is ridiculous and you're just hurting the child at that point.
@@joshrichards1291 I’m not saying that the woman is solely holding a grudge against him. I just want the man to acknowledge that he could have caused, helped, or encouraged her ill feelings. Since the man is grown and mature years later….attempt to reconcile your immature behavior with that woman then proceed being a stand up dude. Don’t just breeze past the hurt like it ain’t nothing! That’s what fuels the venom. You don’t have to kiss her butt or nothing like that. Just admit you may have handled things wrong in the past. It can’t hurt if she’s already being petty. Just a suggestion.
@@dreamersunlimited8005 no no no she needs to understand her feelings towards him and parenting. They are two separate issues. You can't change the past at all. But a MATURE woman understand the value a man role is to a child. All she's doing is hurting the kids and doing psychological damage to that child due to keep him or her from their biological father who actually wants to be there. Because i can hate your guts but i won't let that affect the patenting side of things
@@Foreign84 I don’t disagree. I’m merely saying that in most cases immature guys handle relationships badly especially when they are young. If that’s the case, these “now grown men” need to acknowledge the aftermath of their immaturity, ATTEMPT to reconcile that old behavior, and move forward with the mature interactions. I live by never leaving anything on the table someone can hold against me or throw in my face. I disarm my opponent by acknowledging their angle before they do. Being a woman, I know the conversations I’ve had over the years and all “we” want is to feel like we mattered enough to apologize. The woman could have been immature in the past as well. I’m just addressing what a man could do from his position in the situation.
Knowledge is what you learn, the information you've received but wisdom is how you apply what you've learned, it's how you apply the knowledge.
The wise ones attain their knowledge vicariously by listening and observing.
S/O to all the real Father's out there.. stay solid, and maintain that strong relationship with your child/children.. it's hard but it's fair
The shit Smart was talkin bout is what i had to do to make my situation more easier... he’s really tryna say “it’s starts with you.” Clearly Saigon & Math had really bad situations... everybody different. Not everyone can’t control themselves when they’re angry... that shit ain’t easy when it’s a person you trusted pushing all of the buttons on you. Respect to all of these brothers.
Smart is absolutely correct, and having children or not has nothing to do with his knowledge on the situation. Its Universal Law which holds true no matter the circumstances. Most men love to hold women accountable when they clump all men in one category based on their experience. They love to say "oh you messing with the wrong niggas" or "then why you keep dating ain't shit men" as a response to it. So why doesn't the same accountability apply to men who find themselves in these situations with these women who they claim to be so unreasonable. A few things probably happened. You knew she was crazy when you met her and you ignored it cause you didn't care how that would translate to motherhood or Co-parenting cause you ain't plan that far/ her "craziness" about or over you stroked your ego and now it's not fun anymore lol/ or you didn't know any better and weren't aware of yourself enough to even have a desire to filter out the good ones from the bad based on real knowledge of what that truly is, where in that case you have no other choice but to deal with the consequences of making decisions without consciousness and make better choices going forward.
You are absoluteley correct. If most people had this mindset accountability is not something people like to take cause if they do their is no one to blame for their own personal bad Decision making.
Of course a woman would agree to this nonsense because holding women accountable is foreign to women like you. how do you justify a woman hurting her child just to get back t a man and keeping a an away from his children?
@@joshrichards1291 Nowhere in anything I stated did I say that women shouldn't be held accountable. You assumed and inserted that. My comment was based on what the gentleman in the video are discussing. ALL humans should be held accountable for their transgressions. Right is right and wrong is wrong period. To clarify my point since you misunderstood my intention, take accountability for your choices. Live with them, learn from them. PERIOD. And lastly sir you cant even imagine as much as you try what a "Women like me" is. lol Just like I don't know and don't wish to know anything about you.
The truth is that a lot of men don't like putting in the work of raising kids. They would rather complain about the woman being difficult instead of taking the steps necessary to be in their children's lives. They love to rant and throw a fit occasionally to make people think they're making an attempt. In reality, they enjoy their child-free life and the ability to do what they want without having that responsibility.
Facts the most sense came from smart, the only man in the room wit NO kids speaking the most facts, everybody else jus uses they situations as facts when they ain't beat to try nothing new to fix it
Brothers this is good stuff, I have raised four adult daughters 34, 28, 25 & 22 and I am also divorced after almost 20yrs of marriage.
Thank you for calling out and checking the younger Brother who doesn't have his own children or has been married because I am personally sick and tired of Black men who don't have their own children speaking on raising their own children.
Apples and Oranges are different fruits for a reason!!!
That ninja in the NY cap is thorough!
Smart the rapper
Went with my pops once in the week fri-sunday
I’ve had the same situations as these men. Three women, three children. Once I got my vibration together eventually they changed theirs towards me. Whether it changed for others. I agree with smart.
Smart need to set this one out , you have no kids so you only on the outside looking in you don’t know what like but he is very intelligent 💯
Smart Right I have two daughters I also see we’re Math and Saigon Comin from too… I got two girls me and my wife have been married for Ten Years I understand the vibrations quote what you bring in is what you get out Even with the Partner you choose. Problem Is Men Change their Vibration AFTER the Problem has already started and it’s hard to fix BITTERNESS and Spite
100% Vibration I believe that shit. It's like the law of attraction, energy what you put out yes teach brother. And remember it's sad that everybody wont make we all cant go it aint enough room
The man with the no kids be speaking truth and the group of men luv to shut him down. He seems to be the smartest one no baby mother.
That dude smart he very knowledgeable
Y’all gotta understand changing YOUR vibration doesn’t change another but it changes YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE with another. It’s simple, either you get it or you don’t. But thts wtf going on rather u like it or not
Spot on 💯💯🙏🏽
smart im a father and what you talking about is real. its not about how they moving its you and how you move they bullshit aint going to matter after a while. real shit
Alot of times you as a Dad give in to not deal with stress you still have to work and try to be pleasant and time is something u don't have enough of
Smart is too Smart for y'all salute my brother
Omg stop cutting him off, Smart way to deep for y’all
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To any and everyone here. With our differences, let us agree that atleast you have men in a building and speaking how they feel. It's a open board.
Smart always spittin facts!
Smart is right some ppl just don't wanna change
This was so true good father's go through it it's designed to break the family up to feed our kids for jail
Wow I just sent this to my youngest son, he's a great father. He's torn because all he knows is his kids. Lived, raised . Now she took the kids and he is broken 💔 it's for the best but this storm is too much for him. They have been together since 17yrs old and now he's 28 (working since high school, good dude). Smh this pod cast is excellent for both my son's to watch. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Yo Smart stay droppin gems on this show n they keep interrupting him and downplaying what he says. They'll catch it on the replay....
Smart is way over their heads!!!!
Smart Is on point he Is really talking about vibration frequency and energy , If you understand energy then you get it , its very easy to bash the woman when you dont understand her energy or even your's. Some Cats just wanna sleep with anything with no accountability
I agree, but not with all that energy stuff
Just started watching and they show their hand and ignorance every time they have Smart on the show. He’s too smart to be in that room! No pun intended.
Yo math !!! Big homie I'm a fan and a father, and a business owner...I'm also under the same beliefs as this young brother...I can explain everything he's trying to explain...he's right but needs g guidance
I don’t wanna hear someone without kids talking to me about kids and the kids mother
about 8 outta 10 black dads incl myself saying the same thing! Smart’s knowledge is pure regurgitation: wisdom isn’t personal experience- some experiences amount to pure folly. According to me, wisdom is the Application of Understanding gained from Knowledge.
Smart is a brother speaking from a proactive perspective. Everybody else speaking from an experience perspective. People can learn from both. 2 heads are better than 1, all these brothers blessed us with knowledge. Peace
Listen I wanna feel sorry for homie in the chair across from Math....but you getting all these chicks pregnant and didnt know they was gonna be a traxh co parent ?
I understand things "happen" but can we please as black men stop getting the wrong chicks pregnant cause most of us in our heart to heart KNOW shawty was crazy from the jump!
They knew they were crazy but they had all the physical appeals or were a good fuck. 1 baby mama situation with one kid before marriage I can give a pass. But this trend of 5-6 baby mamas and no wife is just insanity to me.
I’m calling it. These ninjas are close minded
Hes not making the woman accountable for there action I wish I could've been in the room
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Men are excepting this behavior from women. We got to have standards.
They always cut smart off when he bout to make a point
Don't push him out the conversation because he don't have children. He's a very smart man he wasn't dumb enough to fall into the same trap y'all fell in.
Once the kid is born that shit don't matter. Our vibration will never affect a bitter woman. Period
Smart need his own ..... everyone in that room can't even understand or keep up
Smart know EXACTLY what he talking about😂😂
The hate for the father usually is more than the love of their child
SMART, they dont wanna listen bc they dont want to have ownership
Y'all gotta stop cutting each other off lol everybody making good points
that part smart says about his mother n how every nut felt like the hug my mother never gave me hit me deep cos thats my reality , it so true
Personal responsibility goes both ways. I almost feel these days only the father has the expection to be a man, and the woman can be a clout chasing diva with no goals or ambition. Not having a father is the absolute worst upbringing for a kid with no context.
The double standard def exist.....I came to understand women are driven by their emotional state...this may come off sexist but a woman emotions dictate behavior more prominently then men. And whose holding her accountable when she makes mistakes....most time it comes from family or friends but if she don't respect them, then you already know how she going to treat you. It's messed up cause the system can't change behavior only people can and most don't want to change judging by their actions. Best you can do is let time run its course and instill proper behavior when you have ya children. Examples of said behavior is the best teacher IMO
They don't get it because of what Smart said at the beginning. Subconsciously we as men can't imagine it being better for us because of everything we've seen up to the point of now. If you truly change your mindset and live by it is when you see the difference. I have custody of all my children because I stayed strong in the belief that I would always be in there life. It wasn't easy but I never went in with a defeated mind state.
Just because you have experience in an area doesn’t mean you learned from that experience, and not having experience in an area doesn’t necessarily mean you have no knowledge in that area. Stupid people will beat you down with their experiences.
Thank you
What the young brother is trying to say can't no one knock you off your square when your vibing correctly
I love the show but talking over a person b4 he makes a point has to stop
I wish they could’ve been intelligent and patient enough to hear Smart out and learn something regardless of him NOT having kids. He speaking facts.
I disagree Israel,cause it is written,"He maketh the barren woman to keep house,and to be a joyful mother of children.Praise ye the LORD!"Read verbatim as it is in the book of the Psalms 113:9.
Smart God will protect you through
They ain't tryna hear smart they still hanging on the emotional hurt from the past it's obvious