I think you've genuinely come in to your own as a creator, and your intentional, soft, quiet content is so important. So many youtubers, with their high energy and screaming, make for an exhausting watching experience(now granted, I love me a high energy vid). But I love the grace of this. It makes me happy to have watched you grow.
I realized in 2018, at age 31, that I was living a life I didn't want, becoming a person I didn't want to be, and that I didn't know what my purpose was in life. It was a very painful year for me and I ended up quitting my job, moving across the country, and essentially starting over. I had to let go of an idea I had of myself and learn to define myself without thinking about wealth, power, status, labels, material things, etc. I never thought I was chasing the wrong things until I realized that I wasn't really living my life, but enduring it.
I’m Japanese. I’m high school student and now have been studying English for the entrance examination for university school.Your English pronounce is very clearly for me and it’s useful for my study. I’m cheering for you!!
Safiya Nygaard and Natalia Taylor are UA-camrs that speak very clearly as well. They might be able to help you as well as Ingrid (a lot of people watch them to learn English, according to the comments at least haha :)).
Letting go of friendships that were very one-sided. It was tough because I would think about the times when I was so close to that person and it would drive me to try and keep the friendship alive, but sometimes things don't work out and that's ok.
Same here. Some things were just not working out anymore and I eventually came to the realization that I'd rather not have a person in my life, than constantly worrying about if that person actually wants me in theirs.
You're such a lady boss. Thank you for making content that actually matters. Honestly, I've let go of the "beauty community" on UA-cam and on all other social media. I stopped watching and following a lot of the old UA-camrs that I used to really enjoy. I did this because I genuinely think that it's healthier to live my life without surrounding myself with product placements. I found myself longing for material things that I actually don't care about and wishing I had lifestyles that I actually don't want. You're the only former "beauty guru" that I still follow, because you're authentic, and I appreciate you.
I significantly downsized how many people I follow on social media. I found myself just scrolling through my feed, not really paying attention to the posts. I now follow only people I want to keep up with, and it has actually had a bigger impact than I expected it to!
In 2018 I left behind the belief that I’m “not a morning person” and started getting up at 5am to go to the gym and have breakfast and pamper myself in the mornings. Turns out I love it and I actually am a morning person and I was missing out all those years I thought I “needed” to stay up late and sleep until the last possible minute before rushing out the door.
I'm so happy for you. I've been sleeping in until the last minute and skip breakfast. I feel trapped in an endless cycle. The thing is I sleep early too....
I let go of people, jobs, ideas, that dont serve me positively or bring value to my life. I'm 26, and I feel like I've been slowly progressing, especially in the last year, into the person Im supposed to be 😊
What an awesome video! I also have given up buying excessive amounts of clothes and make up and wearing and using up what I have and spending time with positive people and letting go of toxic people. I still love one glass of wine, but after that I totally agree with you on not drinking at social events. This was so well put together.
I'm 41 and finally let go of everyone else's drama, I mean this in a way that If something comes up in conversation about someone or something that I know I always say something positive to revert the conversation
In 2018, I was forced to stand up for myself a lot, even if it meant losing important people in my life. I used to be terrified of that. So in 2019, I’m leaving behind any guilt or bitterness that resulted after I stood up for myself. I don’t have to try and mend those friendships. I know in my core being and soul that I did what was right for me. I don’t have to feel bad about cutting out people who actively stood against me or feel bitter that they did so anymore. I’m leaving them behind, and I will no longer feel shameful about my decision. It feels SO good to write that out!
Victoria Meschino I went through the same thing!!! I’ve had to let go of certain friendships and I’m glad that I did - my life is so much better now! So happy that you’ve found happiness now, I wish you all the best!
I let go of a toxic friendship. She was my best friend for several years but it got to the point where she was taking advantage of me. It was costing me a lot of my sanity trying to maintain the friendship while she kept hurting me over and over, so I just let it go. It sucked at first because she was my only close friend that lives in the same city as me, but it was the best decision and I'm getting better and building relationships with new people.
I LOVE how thoughtful your content has been lately! This was such an interesting video to watch. I've also been trying to shift my perspective on working out-- I'm trying to run more because I want to be strong and healthy and energetic, and I'm trying to leave my physical appearance completely out of my running goals. This is a great video and I really enjoyed hearing about your experience and perspective! (also, side note, I LOVE that lip color on you!!!)
When I think of Ingrid, "thoughtful" is the first word that comes to mind :) I thought this was a great video, too! I hope the running goes well for you, Natalie!
I let go of Twitter, Instagram and Facebook consume so much of my time. Now when I'm with a friend or even just relaxing on my own, I turn off my phone and allow myself to be fully present in the moment. It has been life changing!
I’m letting go of feeling bad about not being able to do something. Whether it’s not feeling well enough to go to a social event, or workout... I’m focusing on allowing myself the space to heal. I loved this video and all of the thought put into your videos and life lately. Keep it up.
Learning not to beat myself up over friendships that were toxic and at the bottom of it, based on sexism. I used to think I should have done something more or I said the wrong thing, or I took things too personally but sometimes people are not compatible in perspective or personality.
Thank you for being so vulnerable, Ingrid! In 2018, I started to let go of my fear of having really difficult conversations with people I love. I'm naturally someone who HATES conflict, and I used to think that one disagreement was a death sentence for a relationship. I'm slowly accepting that disagreements and difficult conversations are a natural part of relationships, and sometimes working through them can actually make your relationships stronger.
Hi Ingrid. I just want to say this - I've been watching your videos from the very beginning. Your audience might be smaller one nowadays, but you content is so important! It's something you should be very proud of.
Something that I think I naturally let go of in the past year is the need to always be around people. I'm very much an extrovert and I've always put my self worth and value in what other people thought of me and how many people wanted to hang out with me. So, the habit I gained is learning to enjoy time by myself and being ok with not always being busy and surrounded by people. Thank you for this thoughtful, insightful video!
Another refreshing video. Thank you, Ingrid for your commitment to bringing us thoughtful videos that legitimately add value to our lives. For me, I am learning to let go of toxic relationships. About a year ago, I heard someone say, "You don't have to be friends with people you don't like." This was stunning to me and confusing. Despite that, it was attractive, so I explored that. After some soul searching and reflection, I made the decision to step away from several friendships. It was really hard. I celebrated my 31st birthday last weekend with a brunch with friends. As I sat there at the table and looked around I was so deeply humbled as I enjoyed the reward for my hard work. Each and every person there is someone who I feel one hundred percent relationally safe and supported with one hundred percent of the time. It was awesome and totally worth the work and discomfort. To anyone out there struggling with friends and debating on whether or not to let go and move on, I really encourage you to access your average mental health before and after spending time with that person. We all deserve to have friends that support and love us unconditionally.
I’ve let go of doing everything to please my family. As a senior in high school there is so much pressure to be what your parents want and I’ve spent most of my life trying to do that. My mom has a plan for me and it isn’t me. She actually passed away in December and it broke my heart. I’ve done so much reflecting and this finally allowed me to truly be myself because I know that she’ll be proud of me no matter what. I felt like I had to go to college, but after talking to my dad I came to the conclusion that I’m not ready. It’s not the path I want to go down yet. Now, I’m doing a teaching program in Thailand and Vietnam from June to February. Thank you for this beautiful video Ingrid! Inspiring as always!
thanks for encouraging us all to think more critically about our habits, ingrid! ❤️ i let go of bottling up my feelings in 2018. i think from a young age, women (and men, hello toxic masculinity) are taught to put their feelings aside for fear of appearing weak or inconveniencing others. i had a big aha moment after a breakup in 2018 when i realized what a significant negative impact this habit has had on my relationships of all types. i’ve committed myself to expressing my feelings about the words or actions of those that i care about in order to avoid toxic resentment and passive aggression. it’s already served me well this year.
This is probably my favorite video you've ever made. I've been watching you since I was a teenager and now that I am in my mid-twenties, these concepts are the kinds of things I am most interested in talking and thinking about. Thank you!
I let go of feeling like I have to keep in contact with people if they're negatively impacting my mebtal health. It was really hard, as we all feel like you just have to put up with family regardless of how they act. But in the end, I'm the only one who can take control of my mental health, so tgat was one thing I just had to let go of in order to give myself my best chance 💚
I gave up binge drinking and now rarely touch alcohol. It’s really cool to know you’re also facing social situations without a drink. It’s been five months for me now which I had thought was impossible. Not all my problems are solved, but it’s at least getting off the hamster wheel, and finding forward IS a direction open to me ❤️
Love this video. You are very wise. My life has changed so much in the past 5 years since getting MS. I have let go of sooooo much, all for the better & it is all helping in so many ways. 😉
I’ve been watching you for so long and seeing your journey has been amazing. You’re such a wise soul! I’d love to see a q and a with a twist - old Questions you have previously answered and have a different answer for now.
I relate to all of this. It's good to keep learning to love things about yourself, and to continue learning from your "mistakes". One habit I've learned to let go is letting anxiety hold me back. I am now trying to recognise and be okay with it, and transforming it into excitement instead!
i feel as though ive struggled with everything youve been talking about in these videos (why you stopped shopping, your financial journey, this!) and its helped me come to realize my own toxic traits when it comes to punishing myself. this is awesome, thank you so much.
I've learn the same things as you!! I've learn to stop worrying all the time about what my friends think of me and other people. True friends will love you just the way you are. If the conversation doesn't come naturally, don't force yourself, just be yourself
I also recognized that I was trying to fill a void within myself with "things." This year I am working on "admiring not acquiring" and like you said only spending money on things I love.
Girl! I have been watching your channel for years and years, and I have to say, I LOVE how your content has changed, shifted, and become more thoughtful and responsible. I feel like we're both on the same path and trajectory. Thank you for using your platform responsibly and being a good role model. Get it, girl!
Ingrid. Love this video!!! I let go of: 1. The idea that live was going to fall into my lap. 2. The idea that I didn’t deserve to be healthy and love my body 3. Buying new clothes (only thrifted) 4. Binge drinking
I let go of letting other people define who I was, particularly my parents. I’m 25 and I was scared of branching out of my shell of who I made myself be for other people. It’s been absolutely freeing to let go of that person and actually be who I was inside on the outside
It's been so lovely to witness you growing and changing over the years. Old Ingrid was also fab but I always finish your videos feeling comfortable with my own instincts and blissfully free of any angst that I need to buy something or look better on the outside.
I just love you Ingrid. I did the same thing this past year with the social anxiety. I “let go” of my insecurities surrounding making new friends and became more of a YES person when people invited me places. I ended up finding not one but two amazing groups of women to connect with. I really enjoy your content. I always have. I’ve been a subscriber for a long long time! You’ve really grown to be someone I truly admire & I hope one day our paths cross.
In 2018, I realized that self-love is extremely important. Love is sometimes something you need to give yourself rather than expecting others to love you because how you treat yourself reflects on how others perceive you. For instance, I am trying not to use negative self talk as a conversation starter or in a lull of a conversation. Instead, I ask people more questions about their lives and when asked about myself I don’t talk about what I can’t do/or I am bad at. Don’t get me wrong, I still admit when I am wrong and if I have faults, because I am still self aware. My saying of 2019 is “fake it until you make it” I will tell myself that I’m being my best self, then I will be my best self.
I will be 25 in two months and so many changes have been going on since the start of this new year. I went to NYC during Christmas time and I came back home a completely different person. I met this person up there that made me realize I was not really living the life I wanted or dreamed of. It was an eye opening experience and the change is awkward and uncomfortable but I know it’s part of this journey called life. I have decided to live a minimalistic life and it is a hard thing to do when you’re used to shopping literally every weekend. I’m incorporating self-care, reading more books, journaling, drinking more water, and really trying to discover who I really am. Thank you Ingrid for allowing us to reflect on our thoughts with your good words of advice. P.S. please start a podcast
Thank you so much for talking about social anxiety! I feel like as we get older it's something that gets way less acceptable to talk about but it's something that I really struggle with - especially as more work-related events have come into my life.
I love these types of videos from you, Ingrid! My 2018 had a lot of downs including the death of an immediate family member, and it made me feel like I needed to cling to whatever I felt was good in my life, even if it wasn't. But then I had a moment of realization where I was keeping a lot of physical things and people around me that were making my life a lot worse instead of helping me heal. Learning to let those things go and those friendships move on helped so much. Life lessons are so weird when they hit you out of nowhere, but they always seem to come at the perfect time.
Wow, what a role model you are for establishing coping mechanisms and not just giving into anxiety and fears. Thank you so much for sharing, this is inspiring!
I totally agree that change is incremental and happens when you are patient and committed. In 2018 I let go of my dependence on other people to make me happy. I've been much more mindful of what things bring me joy and learning how to be more present in the moment and affirm that I am capable of doing what I need for myself. It's been a tough year and lesson to learn but I feel a lot better moving forward in 2019. Loving the thoughtful content, and really happy to hear how positive and mindful your 2018 was.
Hi Ingrid! I loved this video idea so much! In 2018, I stopped biting my nails. Now, that might seem like a simple little thing at first, but to me, biting my nails symbolizes my anxiety, and a coping mechanism for stress and nervousness that I had had for over ten years. Thank you so much for sharing these things with us, your voice and thoughts are so powerful and loaded with wisdom, I deeply enjoy watching your videos, every day more and more. Sending love from Argentina!
I let go of negative self talk and could see what a huge difference that made in just 2 months of working to be more encouraging and positive in how I speak to myself. If I wouldn't say it to my best friend I will no longer say it to myself. Huge mind shift there made a much bigger impact far sooner than I could have anticipated and has definitely put me on a better path :)
I've let go of letting money be the source of my problems. I feel blessed for such a great support system who want nothing but the best for me. So now I'm motivated to excel in school for once in my life and get that graduate degree not only to make my loved ones proud but to feel like I really deserve it.
I totally get what you mean about exercise! Ive recently restarted going to the gym, and this time I totally changed my mental attitude to it. This time I enjoy it more and actually want to go rather than feeling likeI should go and feeling guilty when I dont.
Thank you, Ingrid! What an inspiring video. Your list mirrors mine in a lot of ways, probably bc I recently turned 30 and resolved to leave lots of habits in my 20s. Things like: accepting myself as a constant work in progress, challenging my self- judgmental voice, and being grateful for what my body can do instead of criticizing its parts and appearance. Thank you again, happy belated birthday, and keep shining that light! ☀️
I really appreciate this video because I’ve been going through a lot of rethinking and learning about myself lately.. one thing I chose to let go of in 2019 has been not feeling obliged to explain my decisions to everyone who asks.. in that way, to be unapologetically where I want to be in every moment. It’s been working out all right so far.. and has saved me a lot of time to do things that I enjoy :)
One of the things I really made an effort to stop doing was complaining to others about arguments in my relationship. I would find that often when I would recount things to others their opinions and perspectives would overshadow my own and if I had already moved on from the argument it would bring it up again. By doing this it's truly allowed me to rectify the issue with my SO and avoid having things resurface that were already dealt with.
These were great habits to let go of! Especially the part about not having a drink in a social setting. I know far too many 20 something-year-olds (my age) who are alcoholics because they use alcohol as a social lubricant. Many of them can't have a good time or good conversation sober because of how dependent they are on alcohol! I learned how to be better in social situations by giving up this idea that everyone in the room is looking at me. I dropped the habit of being hyperfocused on myself and started embracing the "what can I learn from this" mentality. Most people are not looking at you or judging you intensely....they are also just as worried about how you think of them. Instead of focusing on myself, I think "what could I learn from this stranger?" and "what stories do they have or knowledge can they pass on to me?" The hardest part is breaking the ice, but most people are very eager to talk about themselves and share things with you. I love the "outside of work what do you care about?" question! I also dropped the habit of thinking "one day I will be confident." You can be confident any day...it really truly is all in your head and the only thing stopping you from believing that is yourself.
Excellent, excellent video!!! I support everything you said. I had to leave the youtube beauty community because I developed a shopping addiction and always felt so horrible I couldn't afford a constant stream of new makeup, shoes, clothes, and $80 candles. I actually felt like a failure because I wasn't keeping up. I found the self empowerment community and never looked back! I'm now training to be a licensed professional counselor and am so excited you are posting conscious content like this. I am transforming my relationship to food this year. I'm super busy and really beat myself up for not eating perfectly all the time. That has got to change! Thanks again Ingrid!
I just did a video about letting go of fear. I find that fear is at the bottom of a lot of the things we are unwilling to let go of, whatever that may be. It keeps us from enjoying life. I also did a declutter of my bedroom and feel SO much better.
You’ve always been like a mentor to me, Ingrid. Even down to skincare. But this made me really want to think about the things that are important to me. Thank you for offering really important perspective on things that most of us don’t think about. I appreciate you ❤️
Ingrid, I would love for you to make a video focusing on ways you take care of yourself! This is something I struggle with daily, as I find myself constantly neglecting my own needs. I'd love to hear your advice :)
I let go of watching youtubers that are vapid and brought nothing but drama and an icky feelings into my life. I now like to watch youtube videos that somehow better my life and help me grow as a person.
I've recently started watching your videos again because I feel that our values and morals have realigned 😊 I loved everything you shared in this video and really appreciate your mindfulness and kindheartedness. I really feel like you are speaking directly to me when you say certain things
In 2018 I realized that for years, I had been subconsciously taking on responsibility for my friends' feelings...I have always been a good listener and I love when my friends open up to me. But whether positive or negative, I was letting the ups and downs of their lives consume me to a point of mental anguish unlike anything I had ever experienced in a friendship. So I took a big step back and committed myself to staying at a distance when I knew that the things they were sharing with me might be too much for me to handle. And I changed the way I responded to those friends, remaining compassionate but without allowing their situations to weigh so heavily on me. I found the balance between separating myself from their problems and still being supportive when they needed me. In one case it resulted in the end of a close friendship that had lasted for 8 years (which was heartbreaking but necessary), and in other cases I've made existing friendships much stronger and healthier! Others' burdens are not mine to bear.
I can’t tell you how much this resonates with me. I used to be in a friendship that almost turned me into that person, I almost felt like I was living their life, fighting their battles and having their dialogue in my head guiding me about my own life. I had to take a SERIOUS step back and think about why I wasn’t so consumed and why I felt like I wasn’t my own individual. Ive been working on developing new friends and getting rid of some of the ideas that person was projecting onto me. I’m coming back to myself every day and staring to feel like myself day by day. I need to lead my own life and be cared for who I am. I don’t want to change and take on other people’s problems anymore.
I no longer worry about having an important job that has alot of money attached to it. My energy goes into new experiences and being a great foster mom with a lovely animal rescue.
I am working very diligently on no longer taking on the roll of being the “fixer”. It is no longer my “job” to try to make everyone in my life happy. People must work on the own stuff and commit to their own changes. I have stopped taking on the sadness of other people. I can empathize and offer quiet comfort, but, I no longer allow their moods to impact mine negatively.
I've been a LONG time subscriber and I must say that in the last few months, you've produced some of the best content on your channel. I love how much more thoughtful and intentional you have become and your content really speaks for itself. 😌🙏🏻 Thank you for this 💓
This year, I want to let go of being hard on myself, and I want to replace that habit with reassuring myself that I'm always doing the best that I can. Towards the end of last year, I stopped being so materialistic and instead turned towards spirituality during hard times. That was one of the best things that I have ever done for myself. Actually I think it was Ingrid that informed me through another video about how extremely wasteful the fashion industry is. And as far as I'm concerned, buying the "next big thing" of ANYTHING never lead to long term happiness for me. Search for your happiness on the inside, not out 🙏💞
Thanks for sharing this, Ingrid! In 2018 I let go of shying away from things where there’s a hard conversation in between where you are and where you want to/think you deserve to be, specifically around money.
I wish I wasn’t so scared and and self conscious and had such low self esteem. I wish I started sooner on my journey to self love. All those nights I spent in my room crying about how I looked, I wasted my time and youth being upset about not being or looking good enough. I wish lost weight. It would’ve help my confidence. I would’ve spent less time worrying about how I look. I’m still very young but I regret so much. I wish I would’ve told myself to hold the people I love closer. I have so much to say.
A few years ago, I was living in my car. I had fallen victim to the idea that the pursuit of my “dreams” should take priority over everything else. Eventually I realized that that was foolish and began working full time while going to school full time. 2018 was filled with 7 day, 90 hour work weeks. I missed my anniversary, I worked through illness, put myself in the hospital, and became severely depressed. 2019 I made a commitment to peruse peace and made the decision to leave my job for more flexible, part time position. It’s terrifying, as I’m always afraid of ending back at square one, but it’s what is right for me right now.
I loved this video! One thing that I want to let go of in 2019 is not feeling obligated to have someone tag along with me if I want to see a new movie or if I want to try a new restaurant. I want to try exploring certain experiences on my own and not rely on people so much for when I want to try something new :)
Thank you, Ingrid! Your videos are very calming and reassuring... it's like you are giving us all a hug and saying that it will all be OK! With all the social media telling us to do things, to buy things, to keep going, to try this and also that... you remind us that sometimes we don't need to do anything, we just need to have a break, to stop for a moment and think about what we really want and who we are
This is wonderful and valuable. I have discovered in 2018 that it is ok not to always be working or stressing about tasks. That I can relax and enjoy time without having to be productive. Thank you for a wonderful video
'Outside of work, what do you care about?'...Love this question! This will definitely stick with me and I will for sure use this in future conversations! Great video! xx
I lost my dad in October 2018 (unexpectedly due to West Nile virus). He was my best friend. So, one thing that I noticed that changed about myself or my “habit” that I let go of was constant shopping. I wasn’t shopping everyday or anything like that. But like you mentioned in the video, I only starting to buy things that I really wanted. I began to transfer that energy to experiences and spending time with others. I’ve noticed myself less attached to material items and have parted ways with lots of my personal belongings that I hadn’t used or felt excited about anymore. Great video, Ingrid. :)
2018 was the year I let go of being walked all over at work. I'm speaking up when something is wrong. I'm speaking up when I see someone ELSE being walked all over. I'm speaking up when something doesn't make sense. It's a huge shift for me!
I've been trying to let go of how I imagine things are going to be and how hard I try to make them the way I want when it is clearly not going to happen. This has been saving me a lot of stress. I'm also trying to let go of who I imagine myself to be, who I envisioned I would be and accept who I actually am. For example, I always imagined myself being in politics or activism but it mostly emotionally destroys me rather than ever being productive so I have to kind of let that go or find a way to transform how I participate. Instead of sharing my opinions on the internet or in a bar debate (which just upsets me in the end), I want to try to do more positive things, like donating money or I don't know what. I'm still figuring this all out though! Love your vids Ingrid :)
I LOVED what you said about being grounded in social situations. I've been thinking about that for a couple days and how I overthink everything I say and then feel embarrased afterwards. It's exhausting and it feels like I'm never happy after a social situation because of how much I think about everything I did or said. You put all those feelings into words and they make so much sense. Thank you. I hope I can become more confident about it in the near future. Hugs!! ❤
I really enjoyed your perspective on engaging in social situations without alcohol. I too am an anxious person who often uses alcohol to feel more comfortable in those situations, I will certainly begin trying to go without it.
This was so helpful! Specifically on how you deal with anxiety in large social settings. I am so happy to hear your words on shifting your focus onto others as a solution to anxiety, but also as a way to just be more present and thoughtful. Last year was the first I’ve ever really understood that I deal with anxiety, so I’m going to use 2019 as my trial year to figure out what works best for me - meditation, openly talking about my anxiety when it hits, your method of focusing on others rather than myself, and just drinking water!! So far that’s my list of effective habits, but I’m excited to refine it!
So happy to watch this :) I feel like 2018 was the year when I realized I had to let go of things I can't change. 2019 has been about implementing these changes, but also not punishing myself (to use your phrase) when I fall short. One thing that's helped has been improv. I've been taking classes since last July, and it's helped me feel better about the awkward moments because you'll find the fun part of a scene. Improv has helped me ignore the thoughts vying for my attention and focus on what's important. It's also helped me find something I love doing :)
yes thank you.. Alcohol does not help Anxiety it HURTS!!! Alcohol is a depressant!!!! I really really really wish ppl would see this. I see other Big youtubers talk about how bad their Anxiety is and then I see them drink. And I write comments telling them hey stop drinking it will help SOOOOO much but they continue drinking and they are actually making their anxiety WORSE in the long run ... So Thank you for this!!
So I used to be terrified of conflict and of talking to new people, I'm an only child which isn't really something that lends to a lot of practice with social situations as a kid. I've started experimenting with different ways to get involved in other people's lives, and I even asked a friend in my class on a date. Steps in the right direction, I'd say.
Thank you Ingrid. This year I came to a realization with myself and want to just reach for who I am really am . I’m so glad you uploaded this because it had just help me with some more clarity on my journey.
Oh my goodness, I can relate to this video soooo much. I am in the process of letting go those same exact habits, and I started that in the latter half of 2018. It's been a really eye opening experience. One habit I'd like to let go of in 2019 is not relying so heavily on technology to be my "pacifier." Thanks for continuing to make beautiful and meaningful content Ingrid!
I love this video Ingrid! Something I've left behind in 2018 is people pleasing and it feels really good. I pretty much stopped this towards the last half of 2018 and I'm feeling much happier about my life!
I think you've genuinely come in to your own as a creator, and your intentional, soft, quiet content is so important. So many youtubers, with their high energy and screaming, make for an exhausting watching experience(now granted, I love me a high energy vid). But I love the grace of this. It makes me happy to have watched you grow.
Mehek Naresh so well-said!
I realized in 2018, at age 31, that I was living a life I didn't want, becoming a person I didn't want to be, and that I didn't know what my purpose was in life. It was a very painful year for me and I ended up quitting my job, moving across the country, and essentially starting over. I had to let go of an idea I had of myself and learn to define myself without thinking about wealth, power, status, labels, material things, etc. I never thought I was chasing the wrong things until I realized that I wasn't really living my life, but enduring it.
Mandy YAY congrats! So glad you didn’t act in a “it’s too late” mindset.
Congrats! I am going through the same process myself right now and I can relate. Giving up those labels is hard! Glad to hear you’re well.
My 20s have been me “enduring” too. This is inspiring to hear, thank you for sharing!!
Same process here, at 31 yo too ! The best is coming 🤗 sending you love and support from Paris
Thank you for sharing this! It's very helpful and inspirational to see that it is possible to change what you don't like. Wishing you all the best!
I’m Japanese. I’m high school student and now have been studying English for the entrance examination for university school.Your English pronounce is very clearly for me and it’s useful for my study. I’m cheering for you!!
Wishing you the best of luck in your university entrance examination, Haru!
Fluffy Toffee Thank you!I’ll do my best!
Haru Good luck! Your English looks good don’t forget to use articles!
Safiya Nygaard and Natalia Taylor are UA-camrs that speak very clearly as well. They might be able to help you as well as Ingrid (a lot of people watch them to learn English, according to the comments at least haha :)).
CoralRief43 Thank you for your advice!!
Letting go of friendships that were very one-sided. It was tough because I would think about the times when I was so close to that person and it would drive me to try and keep the friendship alive, but sometimes things don't work out and that's ok.
Same here. Some things were just not working out anymore and I eventually came to the realization that I'd rather not have a person in my life, than constantly worrying about if that person actually wants me in theirs.
You're such a lady boss. Thank you for making content that actually matters.
Honestly, I've let go of the "beauty community" on UA-cam and on all other social media. I stopped watching and following a lot of the old UA-camrs that I used to really enjoy. I did this because I genuinely think that it's healthier to live my life without surrounding myself with product placements. I found myself longing for material things that I actually don't care about and wishing I had lifestyles that I actually don't want.
You're the only former "beauty guru" that I still follow, because you're authentic, and I appreciate you.
Aquarium I really struggled with the beauty community last year and unsubscribed from many people as well. Shirt really hit the fan!
yes, yes, yes!!! I went through the same exact thing! Thanks for saying exactly what I was thinking
I significantly downsized how many people I follow on social media. I found myself just scrolling through my feed, not really paying attention to the posts. I now follow only people I want to keep up with, and it has actually had a bigger impact than I expected it to!
I'm gonna try that
In 2018 I left behind the belief that I’m “not a morning person” and started getting up at 5am to go to the gym and have breakfast and pamper myself in the mornings. Turns out I love it and I actually am a morning person and I was missing out all those years I thought I “needed” to stay up late and sleep until the last possible minute before rushing out the door.
Sarah Good for you! I can totally relate on this
Interesting... l have been a night owl for years, l should try to morning thing out as well 😊 thanks for sharing!
Try it and let me know what you think! You might hate it, but you might surprise yourself and love it as much as I do! Good luck either way!
I'm so happy for you. I've been sleeping in until the last minute and skip breakfast. I feel trapped in an endless cycle. The thing is I sleep early too....
I let go of people, jobs, ideas, that dont serve me positively or bring value to my life. I'm 26, and I feel like I've been slowly progressing, especially in the last year, into the person Im supposed to be 😊
Love these deeper video, Ingrid. You have a powerful voice, can’t wait to see what the future has in store for you! 😘
What an awesome video! I also have given up buying excessive amounts of clothes and make up and wearing and using up what I have and spending time with positive people and letting go of toxic people. I still love one glass of wine, but after that I totally agree with you on not drinking at social events. This was so well put together.
I'm 41 and finally let go of everyone else's drama, I mean this in a way that If something comes up in conversation about someone or something that I know I always say something positive to revert the conversation
In 2018, I was forced to stand up for myself a lot, even if it meant losing important people in my life. I used to be terrified of that. So in 2019, I’m leaving behind any guilt or bitterness that resulted after I stood up for myself. I don’t have to try and mend those friendships. I know in my core being and soul that I did what was right for me. I don’t have to feel bad about cutting out people who actively stood against me or feel bitter that they did so anymore. I’m leaving them behind, and I will no longer feel shameful about my decision. It feels SO good to write that out!
Victoria Meschino I went through the same thing!!! I’ve had to let go of certain friendships and I’m glad that I did - my life is so much better now! So happy that you’ve found happiness now, I wish you all the best!
I let go of a toxic friendship. She was my best friend for several years but it got to the point where she was taking advantage of me. It was costing me a lot of my sanity trying to maintain the friendship while she kept hurting me over and over, so I just let it go. It sucked at first because she was my only close friend that lives in the same city as me, but it was the best decision and I'm getting better and building relationships with new people.
I LOVE how thoughtful your content has been lately! This was such an interesting video to watch. I've also been trying to shift my perspective on working out-- I'm trying to run more because I want to be strong and healthy and energetic, and I'm trying to leave my physical appearance completely out of my running goals. This is a great video and I really enjoyed hearing about your experience and perspective! (also, side note, I LOVE that lip color on you!!!)
When I think of Ingrid, "thoughtful" is the first word that comes to mind :) I thought this was a great video, too! I hope the running goes well for you, Natalie!
i let go of...my job! it was a position i could no longer grow mentally or spiritually in, so i left. thanks for sharing your journey soul sister
I let go of Twitter, Instagram and Facebook consume so much of my time. Now when I'm with a friend or even just relaxing on my own, I turn off my phone and allow myself to be fully present in the moment. It has been life changing!
I’m letting go of feeling bad about not being able to do something. Whether it’s not feeling well enough to go to a social event, or workout... I’m focusing on allowing myself the space to heal. I loved this video and all of the thought put into your videos and life lately. Keep it up.
I love how thoughtful your content has been recently, it feels like a really comfortable space for reflection and I’ve really been enjoying it!
I am in the process of letting go of my regrets from the past. It’s refreshing to be able to focus on what makes me happy in this current moment.
Learning not to beat myself up over friendships that were toxic and at the bottom of it, based on sexism. I used to think I should have done something more or I said the wrong thing, or I took things too personally but sometimes people are not compatible in perspective or personality.
Hey Ingrid! Thank you for sharing with us 💓
One of the habits I left in 2018 is hating my flaws and imperfections
Thank you for being so vulnerable, Ingrid! In 2018, I started to let go of my fear of having really difficult conversations with people I love. I'm naturally someone who HATES conflict, and I used to think that one disagreement was a death sentence for a relationship. I'm slowly accepting that disagreements and difficult conversations are a natural part of relationships, and sometimes working through them can actually make your relationships stronger.
Hi Ingrid. I just want to say this - I've been watching your videos from the very beginning. Your audience might be smaller one nowadays, but you content is so important! It's something you should be very proud of.
Something that I think I naturally let go of in the past year is the need to always be around people. I'm very much an extrovert and I've always put my self worth and value in what other people thought of me and how many people wanted to hang out with me. So, the habit I gained is learning to enjoy time by myself and being ok with not always being busy and surrounded by people. Thank you for this thoughtful, insightful video!
Another refreshing video. Thank you, Ingrid for your commitment to bringing us thoughtful videos that legitimately add value to our lives. For me, I am learning to let go of toxic relationships. About a year ago, I heard someone say, "You don't have to be friends with people you don't like." This was stunning to me and confusing. Despite that, it was attractive, so I explored that. After some soul searching and reflection, I made the decision to step away from several friendships. It was really hard. I celebrated my 31st birthday last weekend with a brunch with friends. As I sat there at the table and looked around I was so deeply humbled as I enjoyed the reward for my hard work. Each and every person there is someone who I feel one hundred percent relationally safe and supported with one hundred percent of the time. It was awesome and totally worth the work and discomfort. To anyone out there struggling with friends and debating on whether or not to let go and move on, I really encourage you to access your average mental health before and after spending time with that person. We all deserve to have friends that support and love us unconditionally.
I’ve let go of doing everything to please my family. As a senior in high school there is so much pressure to be what your parents want and I’ve spent most of my life trying to do that. My mom has a plan for me and it isn’t me. She actually passed away in December and it broke my heart. I’ve done so much reflecting and this finally allowed me to truly be myself because I know that she’ll be proud of me no matter what. I felt like I had to go to college, but after talking to my dad I came to the conclusion that I’m not ready. It’s not the path I want to go down yet. Now, I’m doing a teaching program in Thailand and Vietnam from June to February. Thank you for this beautiful video Ingrid! Inspiring as always!
thanks for encouraging us all to think more critically about our habits, ingrid! ❤️
i let go of bottling up my feelings in 2018. i think from a young age, women (and men, hello toxic masculinity) are taught to put their feelings aside for fear of appearing weak or inconveniencing others. i had a big aha moment after a breakup in 2018 when i realized what a significant negative impact this habit has had on my relationships of all types. i’ve committed myself to expressing my feelings about the words or actions of those that i care about in order to avoid toxic resentment and passive aggression. it’s already served me well this year.
Girl, you have no idea of how much I relate to everything you're sharing. I really understand you. ❤️
This is probably my favorite video you've ever made. I've been watching you since I was a teenager and now that I am in my mid-twenties, these concepts are the kinds of things I am most interested in talking and thinking about. Thank you!
I've been making a conscious effort to not have my guard up all of the time and to be more genuine with how I speak to people and how I'm feeling!
I let go of feeling like I have to keep in contact with people if they're negatively impacting my mebtal health. It was really hard, as we all feel like you just have to put up with family regardless of how they act. But in the end, I'm the only one who can take control of my mental health, so tgat was one thing I just had to let go of in order to give myself my best chance 💚
I gave up binge drinking and now rarely touch alcohol. It’s really cool to know you’re also facing social situations without a drink. It’s been five months for me now which I had thought was impossible. Not all my problems are solved, but it’s at least getting off the hamster wheel, and finding forward IS a direction open to me ❤️
Ingrid dear, you are easily one of the most inspiring person in this world! ♥️
Love this video. You are very wise. My life has changed so much in the past 5 years since getting MS. I have let go of sooooo much, all for the better & it is all helping in so many ways. 😉
I’ve been watching you for so long and seeing your journey has been amazing. You’re such a wise soul! I’d love to see a q and a with a twist - old
Questions you have previously answered and have a different answer for now.
I relate to all of this. It's good to keep learning to love things about yourself, and to continue learning from your "mistakes". One habit I've learned to let go is letting anxiety hold me back. I am now trying to recognise and be okay with it, and transforming it into excitement instead!
i feel as though ive struggled with everything youve been talking about in these videos (why you stopped shopping, your financial journey, this!) and its helped me come to realize my own toxic traits when it comes to punishing myself. this is awesome, thank you so much.
I've learn the same things as you!! I've learn to stop worrying all the time about what my friends think of me and other people. True friends will love you just the way you are. If the conversation doesn't come naturally, don't force yourself, just be yourself
I also recognized that I was trying to fill a void within myself with "things." This year I am working on "admiring not acquiring" and like you said only spending money on things I love.
Girl! I have been watching your channel for years and years, and I have to say, I LOVE how your content has changed, shifted, and become more thoughtful and responsible. I feel like we're both on the same path and trajectory.
Thank you for using your platform responsibly and being a good role model. Get it, girl!
hearing you talk about listening to learn more about others instead of worrying about yourself really encourages me to do the same. love you Ingrid 💞
Ingrid. Love this video!!!
I let go of:
1. The idea that live was going to fall into my lap.
2. The idea that I didn’t deserve to be healthy and love my body
3. Buying new clothes (only thrifted)
4. Binge drinking
I let go of letting other people define who I was, particularly my parents. I’m 25 and I was scared of branching out of my shell of who I made myself be for other people. It’s been absolutely freeing to let go of that person and actually be who I was inside on the outside
It's been so lovely to witness you growing and changing over the years. Old Ingrid was also fab but I always finish your videos feeling comfortable with my own instincts and blissfully free of any angst that I need to buy something or look better on the outside.
I just love you Ingrid. I did the same thing this past year with the social anxiety. I “let go” of my insecurities surrounding making new friends and became more of a YES person when people invited me places. I ended up finding not one but two amazing groups of women to connect with.
I really enjoy your content. I always have. I’ve been a subscriber for a long long time! You’ve really grown to be someone I truly admire & I hope one day our paths cross.
In 2018, I realized that self-love is extremely important. Love is sometimes something you need to give yourself rather than expecting others to love you because how you treat yourself reflects on how others perceive you. For instance, I am trying not to use negative self talk as a conversation starter or in a lull of a conversation. Instead, I ask people more questions about their lives and when asked about myself I don’t talk about what I can’t do/or I am bad at. Don’t get me wrong, I still admit when I am wrong and if I have faults, because I am still self aware. My saying of 2019 is “fake it until you make it” I will tell myself that I’m being my best self, then I will be my best self.
I will be 25 in two months and so many changes have been going on since the start of this new year. I went to NYC during Christmas time and I came back home a completely different person. I met this person up there that made me realize I was not really living the life I wanted or dreamed of. It was an eye opening experience and the change is awkward and uncomfortable but I know it’s part of this journey called life. I have decided to live a minimalistic life and it is a hard thing to do when you’re used to shopping literally every weekend. I’m incorporating self-care, reading more books, journaling, drinking more water, and really trying to discover who I really am. Thank you Ingrid for allowing us to reflect on our thoughts with your good words of advice. P.S. please start a podcast
Thank you so much for talking about social anxiety! I feel like as we get older it's something that gets way less acceptable to talk about but it's something that I really struggle with - especially as more work-related events have come into my life.
I love these types of videos from you, Ingrid! My 2018 had a lot of downs including the death of an immediate family member, and it made me feel like I needed to cling to whatever I felt was good in my life, even if it wasn't. But then I had a moment of realization where I was keeping a lot of physical things and people around me that were making my life a lot worse instead of helping me heal. Learning to let those things go and those friendships move on helped so much. Life lessons are so weird when they hit you out of nowhere, but they always seem to come at the perfect time.
Wow, what a role model you are for establishing coping mechanisms and not just giving into anxiety and fears. Thank you so much for sharing, this is inspiring!
I totally agree that change is incremental and happens when you are patient and committed. In 2018 I let go of my dependence on other people to make me happy. I've been much more mindful of what things bring me joy and learning how to be more present in the moment and affirm that I am capable of doing what I need for myself. It's been a tough year and lesson to learn but I feel a lot better moving forward in 2019. Loving the thoughtful content, and really happy to hear how positive and mindful your 2018 was.
You are so genuine and I love your transition to an intentional being!!! ♥️ Thank you for sharing!
Hi Ingrid! I loved this video idea so much! In 2018, I stopped biting my nails. Now, that might seem like a simple little thing at first, but to me, biting my nails symbolizes my anxiety, and a coping mechanism for stress and nervousness that I had had for over ten years. Thank you so much for sharing these things with us, your voice and thoughts are so powerful and loaded with wisdom, I deeply enjoy watching your videos, every day more and more. Sending love from Argentina!
I let go of negative self talk and could see what a huge difference that made in just 2 months of working to be more encouraging and positive in how I speak to myself. If I wouldn't say it to my best friend I will no longer say it to myself. Huge mind shift there made a much bigger impact far sooner than I could have anticipated and has definitely put me on a better path :)
I've let go of letting money be the source of my problems. I feel blessed for such a great support system who want nothing but the best for me. So now I'm motivated to excel in school for once in my life and get that graduate degree not only to make my loved ones proud but to feel like I really deserve it.
I totally get what you mean about exercise! Ive recently restarted going to the gym, and this time I totally changed my mental attitude to it. This time I enjoy it more and actually want to go rather than feeling likeI should go and feeling guilty when I dont.
Thank you, Ingrid! What an inspiring video. Your list mirrors mine in a lot of ways, probably bc I recently turned 30 and resolved to leave lots of habits in my 20s. Things like: accepting myself as a constant work in progress, challenging my self- judgmental voice, and being grateful for what my body can do instead of criticizing its parts and appearance. Thank you again, happy belated birthday, and keep shining that light! ☀️
Ingrid, I’ve been loving your videos recently. It’s so nice when you get really real and honest. Please keep up the amazing work💕💕
I loved this - especially the idea of eliminating mindless shopping. Love your sweater!
I really appreciate this video because I’ve been going through a lot of rethinking and learning about myself lately.. one thing I chose to let go of in 2019 has been not feeling obliged to explain my decisions to everyone who asks.. in that way, to be unapologetically where I want to be in every moment. It’s been working out all right so far.. and has saved me a lot of time to do things that I enjoy :)
One of the things I really made an effort to stop doing was complaining to others about arguments in my relationship. I would find that often when I would recount things to others their opinions and perspectives would overshadow my own and if I had already moved on from the argument it would bring it up again. By doing this it's truly allowed me to rectify the issue with my SO and avoid having things resurface that were already dealt with.
These were great habits to let go of! Especially the part about not having a drink in a social setting. I know far too many 20 something-year-olds (my age) who are alcoholics because they use alcohol as a social lubricant. Many of them can't have a good time or good conversation sober because of how dependent they are on alcohol!
I learned how to be better in social situations by giving up this idea that everyone in the room is looking at me. I dropped the habit of being hyperfocused on myself and started embracing the "what can I learn from this" mentality. Most people are not looking at you or judging you intensely....they are also just as worried about how you think of them. Instead of focusing on myself, I think "what could I learn from this stranger?" and "what stories do they have or knowledge can they pass on to me?" The hardest part is breaking the ice, but most people are very eager to talk about themselves and share things with you. I love the "outside of work what do you care about?" question!
I also dropped the habit of thinking "one day I will be confident." You can be confident any day...it really truly is all in your head and the only thing stopping you from believing that is yourself.
Excellent, excellent video!!! I support everything you said. I had to leave the youtube beauty community because I developed a shopping addiction and always felt so horrible I couldn't afford a constant stream of new makeup, shoes, clothes, and $80 candles. I actually felt like a failure because I wasn't keeping up. I found the self empowerment community and never looked back! I'm now training to be a licensed professional counselor and am so excited you are posting conscious content like this. I am transforming my relationship to food this year. I'm super busy and really beat myself up for not eating perfectly all the time. That has got to change! Thanks again Ingrid!
I just did a video about letting go of fear. I find that fear is at the bottom of a lot of the things we are unwilling to let go of, whatever that may be. It keeps us from enjoying life. I also did a declutter of my bedroom and feel SO much better.
You’ve always been like a mentor to me, Ingrid. Even down to skincare. But this made me really want to think about the things that are important to me. Thank you for offering really important perspective on things that most of us don’t think about. I appreciate you ❤️
Ingrid, I would love for you to make a video focusing on ways you take care of yourself! This is something I struggle with daily, as I find myself constantly neglecting my own needs. I'd love to hear your advice :)
I let go of watching youtubers that are vapid and brought nothing but drama and an icky feelings into my life. I now like to watch youtube videos that somehow better my life and help me grow as a person.
I've recently started watching your videos again because I feel that our values and morals have realigned 😊 I loved everything you shared in this video and really appreciate your mindfulness and kindheartedness. I really feel like you are speaking directly to me when you say certain things
In 2018 I realized that for years, I had been subconsciously taking on responsibility for my friends' feelings...I have always been a good listener and I love when my friends open up to me. But whether positive or negative, I was letting the ups and downs of their lives consume me to a point of mental anguish unlike anything I had ever experienced in a friendship. So I took a big step back and committed myself to staying at a distance when I knew that the things they were sharing with me might be too much for me to handle. And I changed the way I responded to those friends, remaining compassionate but without allowing their situations to weigh so heavily on me. I found the balance between separating myself from their problems and still being supportive when they needed me. In one case it resulted in the end of a close friendship that had lasted for 8 years (which was heartbreaking but necessary), and in other cases I've made existing friendships much stronger and healthier! Others' burdens are not mine to bear.
I can’t tell you how much this resonates with me. I used to be in a friendship that almost turned me into that person, I almost felt like I was living their life, fighting their battles and having their dialogue in my head guiding me about my own life. I had to take a SERIOUS step back and think about why I wasn’t so consumed and why I felt like I wasn’t my own individual. Ive been working on developing new friends and getting rid of some of the ideas that person was projecting onto me. I’m coming back to myself every day and staring to feel like myself day by day. I need to lead my own life and be cared for who I am. I don’t want to change and take on other people’s problems anymore.
I no longer worry about having an important job that has alot of money attached to it. My energy goes into new experiences and being a great foster mom with a lovely animal rescue.
I am working very diligently on no longer taking on the roll of being the “fixer”. It is no longer my “job” to try to make everyone in my life happy. People must work on the own stuff and commit to their own changes. I have stopped taking on the sadness of other people. I can empathize and offer quiet comfort, but, I no longer allow their moods to impact mine negatively.
I've been a LONG time subscriber and I must say that in the last few months, you've produced some of the best content on your channel. I love how much more thoughtful and intentional you have become and your content really speaks for itself. 😌🙏🏻
Thank you for this 💓
This year, I want to let go of being hard on myself, and I want to replace that habit with reassuring myself that I'm always doing the best that I can. Towards the end of last year, I stopped being so materialistic and instead turned towards spirituality during hard times. That was one of the best things that I have ever done for myself. Actually I think it was Ingrid that informed me through another video about how extremely wasteful the fashion industry is. And as far as I'm concerned, buying the "next big thing" of ANYTHING never lead to long term happiness for me. Search for your happiness on the inside, not out 🙏💞
Thanks for sharing this, Ingrid! In 2018 I let go of shying away from things where there’s a hard conversation in between where you are and where you want to/think you deserve to be, specifically around money.
I wish I wasn’t so scared and and self conscious and had such low self esteem. I wish I started sooner on my journey to self love. All those nights I spent in my room crying about how I looked, I wasted my time and youth being upset about not being or looking good enough. I wish lost weight. It would’ve help my confidence. I would’ve spent less time worrying about how I look. I’m still very young but I regret so much. I wish I would’ve told myself to hold the people I love closer.
I have so much to say.
A few years ago, I was living in my car. I had fallen victim to the idea that the pursuit of my “dreams” should take priority over everything else. Eventually I realized that that was foolish and began working full time while going to school full time. 2018 was filled with 7 day, 90 hour work weeks. I missed my anniversary, I worked through illness, put myself in the hospital, and became severely depressed. 2019 I made a commitment to peruse peace and made the decision to leave my job for more flexible, part time position. It’s terrifying, as I’m always afraid of ending back at square one, but it’s what is right for me right now.
Maureen Kirk you can do it!
I loved this video! One thing that I want to let go of in 2019 is not feeling obligated to have someone tag along with me if I want to see a new movie or if I want to try a new restaurant. I want to try exploring certain experiences on my own and not rely on people so much for when I want to try something new :)
Thank you, Ingrid! Your videos are very calming and reassuring... it's like you are giving us all a hug and saying that it will all be OK! With all the social media telling us to do things, to buy things, to keep going, to try this and also that... you remind us that sometimes we don't need to do anything, we just need to have a break, to stop for a moment and think about what we really want and who we are
This is wonderful and valuable. I have discovered in 2018 that it is ok not to always be working or stressing about tasks. That I can relax and enjoy time without having to be productive. Thank you for a wonderful video
'Outside of work, what do you care about?'...Love this question! This will definitely stick with me and I will for sure use this in future conversations! Great video! xx
I love seeing how other people are growing! And I love how intentional you are being in everything.
Thank you for sharing a deeper side of you today. It took a lot of courage❤️🙏
In 2018, I left the habit of doing everything by myself, to accept help or reach for it when I need it. I accept others into my life.
I lost my dad in October 2018 (unexpectedly due to West Nile virus). He was my best friend. So, one thing that I noticed that changed about myself or my “habit” that I let go of was constant shopping. I wasn’t shopping everyday or anything like that. But like you mentioned in the video, I only starting to buy things that I really wanted. I began to transfer that energy to experiences and spending time with others. I’ve noticed myself less attached to material items and have parted ways with lots of my personal belongings that I hadn’t used or felt excited about anymore. Great video, Ingrid. :)
2018 was the year I let go of being walked all over at work. I'm speaking up when something is wrong. I'm speaking up when I see someone ELSE being walked all over. I'm speaking up when something doesn't make sense. It's a huge shift for me!
I've been trying to let go of how I imagine things are going to be and how hard I try to make them the way I want when it is clearly not going to happen. This has been saving me a lot of stress. I'm also trying to let go of who I imagine myself to be, who I envisioned I would be and accept who I actually am. For example, I always imagined myself being in politics or activism but it mostly emotionally destroys me rather than ever being productive so I have to kind of let that go or find a way to transform how I participate. Instead of sharing my opinions on the internet or in a bar debate (which just upsets me in the end), I want to try to do more positive things, like donating money or I don't know what. I'm still figuring this all out though! Love your vids Ingrid :)
In 2018, I stopped working with businesses that I didnt agree with their morals! Took awhile but I feel much better where I spend my $$.
Happy birthday! I love this kind of content from you. I've let go of the habit of self-destructive thoughts.
I LOVED what you said about being grounded in social situations. I've been thinking about that for a couple days and how I overthink everything I say and then feel embarrased afterwards. It's exhausting and it feels like I'm never happy after a social situation because of how much I think about everything I did or said. You put all those feelings into words and they make so much sense. Thank you. I hope I can become more confident about it in the near future. Hugs!! ❤
feeling* grounded (is that he right way? English is not my first language) 😅
I really enjoyed your perspective on engaging in social situations without alcohol. I too am an anxious person who often uses alcohol to feel more comfortable in those situations, I will certainly begin trying to go without it.
Hello Ingrid!
Great that in beauty industry someone(You🙏🕊❤) raise awareness about this!
Spiritual awakening 🙏🕊❤
You are killing it with the great content, Ingrid!
This was so helpful! Specifically on how you deal with anxiety in large social settings. I am so happy to hear your words on shifting your focus onto others as a solution to anxiety, but also as a way to just be more present and thoughtful. Last year was the first I’ve ever really understood that I deal with anxiety, so I’m going to use 2019 as my trial year to figure out what works best for me - meditation, openly talking about my anxiety when it hits, your method of focusing on others rather than myself, and just drinking water!! So far that’s my list of effective habits, but I’m excited to refine it!
So happy to watch this :) I feel like 2018 was the year when I realized I had to let go of things I can't change. 2019 has been about implementing these changes, but also not punishing myself (to use your phrase) when I fall short.
One thing that's helped has been improv. I've been taking classes since last July, and it's helped me feel better about the awkward moments because you'll find the fun part of a scene. Improv has helped me ignore the thoughts vying for my attention and focus on what's important. It's also helped me find something I love doing :)
yes thank you.. Alcohol does not help Anxiety it HURTS!!! Alcohol is a depressant!!!! I really really really wish ppl would see this. I see other Big youtubers talk about how bad their Anxiety is and then I see them drink. And I write comments telling them hey stop drinking it will help SOOOOO much but they continue drinking and they are actually making their anxiety WORSE in the long run ... So Thank you for this!!
Proud of you Ingrid! I loved your article in R29 too
Great video Ingrid. I too have stopped mindlessly shopping and my friends recognize the importance as well.
So I used to be terrified of conflict and of talking to new people, I'm an only child which isn't really something that lends to a lot of practice with social situations as a kid.
I've started experimenting with different ways to get involved in other people's lives, and I even asked a friend in my class on a date. Steps in the right direction, I'd say.
Thank you Ingrid. This year I came to a realization with myself and want to just reach for who I am really am . I’m so glad you uploaded this because it had just help me with some more clarity on my journey.
Oh my goodness, I can relate to this video soooo much. I am in the process of letting go those same exact habits, and I started that in the latter half of 2018. It's been a really eye opening experience. One habit I'd like to let go of in 2019 is not relying so heavily on technology to be my "pacifier." Thanks for continuing to make beautiful and meaningful content Ingrid!
I love this video Ingrid! Something I've left behind in 2018 is people pleasing and it feels really good. I pretty much stopped this towards the last half of 2018 and I'm feeling much happier about my life!