It’s common for relationships to hit rough patches, yet there’s always a way to move forward. My own marriage faced serious obstacles, but with the right support, my wife and I overcame them and grew closer. With effort and teamwork, solutions are possible. Don’t give up-answers are attainable.
I’m struggling with significant issues in my relationship and can't imagine losing her. I love and miss her so much, and I’m prepared to do anything to bring her back into my life. I’d be very thankful for any help or advice you could offer.
Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'm grateful for your guidance. I'll quickly search for her online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that adopting this strategy will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her greatly.
@@EllyzGoodwill marriages work when we work them that’s my slogan. When they don’t work someone is refusing to do the work of working things because marriage is work
Mankind O man kind , what a creature we are , the man confessed and admitted his wrong , he confessed his filthy deeds, admitted his wrong , why you need to hear the other side , THAT WHO WE ARE , WE LIKE TO DIG BENEATH THE THE BLOOD OF FORGIVENESS TO EXPOSE THE DETAIL , that’s true corrupt human nature , liked to judge, this why you want to hear the other side , What more do you want, I DID IT I WAS WRONG. what more do you want hear !!!!
I watch Dear Future Wifey for the interviews of "couples". Laterras' ex wife is not there to share her side. We dont get her memory of what occurred. We dont have the liberty of hearing how she felt and what kind of wife she desired to be to Laterras. Just because a man publicly admits to cheating......it does not mean hes an honest man. This may be "HIS TRUTH" versus "THE TRUTH". THERE IS A DIFFERENCE!!!!!!!
@Imthatjackie0808 he's stated on multiple episodes when he refers to her that she didnt want to be on the show to share her story. He also stated she gave him clearance on what he can share. He also shared the house he bought this year was bc she was his realtor. We don't have to believe it. But I doubt every cheating man is liar in all thing in all ways for the rest of their lives.
She went numb when u told her about the others because it. Hurt too much for her to handle. I think in the beginning she really did give her all to u. Then there was the betrayal & she couldn't come back from ...the hurt a women experiences from a man she LOVES & trusts cuts DEEP...Divorce was the best thing for both of you.
And his divorce still isnt valid. He needed to repent to her and the LORD and till his dying day seek to serve and love her as Christ does the church. For him to say God was okay with his divorce is nuts. He broke the vows. He doesn't deserve another wife and I pray he never gets one. His language is all wrong.
@@NB-nh2sfwhy would either one want to stay in a misaligned and broken marriage? I don’t believe God put us on this earth to be unhappy. We all deserved to be treated with that utmost love and respect.
She should not have given half of her self marriage is all she did not come in with all her heart she gave half and half does not work even if your partner has faults you do your part to please God first and allow him to work on your partner. She was defrauding the man not for any good reason
The interviewer did a great job by asking all the important questions giving us the opportunity to see the journey of his growth. He isn't a saint, but he is a great man y'all. May God keep using him as a vessel to transform and inspire our generation.
Laterras, thank you for your transparency and vulnerability. As a Day 1 for DFW, I truly appreciate how you continue to cover your ex-wife, and you stand 10 toes down on owning your part for the demise of your marriage. I am so glad that God is a redeemer of our stories. He does not use an eraser. He simply covers it with the blood, and gives us the opportunity to use the word of our testimony to overcome what the enemy meant for our destruction. Thank you that you did not shrink back even when faced with death of the podcast at 500 subs. You have changed so many lives, including mine. May the host of this podcast gain encouragement as he rises to do the same. 🙏🏾💜
This just popped up. Laterras every time you tell your story I can see your growth. You are doing the work and it is showing. Can I be the little spoon.🫢😂The power of the pivot. Come on 👏🏾👏🏾Very great interview
This guy really puts out way more self-importance than he deserves. There is nothing special or unique about his "story." Men cheat and divorce their wives all the time. Some have regrets, some don't. He's not the first, he won't be last. He didn't invent any of that. The people in the relationship and doing the hard work, day in and day out salvaging their marriage deserve all the credit for saving it. To me, he gives off highly narcissistic vibes. Today he is saving marriages, Tomorrow he will be the solution to peace in the Middle East.
I dont think he nor the host said he invented anything or that he did something uncommon. Sharing your story ( whatever it is regardless of commonality) helps those who are stuck in it and feel isolated on the issue. Check out his podcast and hear his guests. Some married 30+ years, some on the brink of divorce and overcame it others divorced and some never married. It definitely breaks down so many aspects of relationship and gets beyond the surface, so ppl dating/married can get to depth and not stay stuck on the superficial parts.
I have heard his podcast many times. . That is why I made the comments. He is not saving marriages. The people who do the hard work required to overcome challenges saved their marriage. He simply told a story of his life. What people do with that information is up to them and them alone. @@eebz5
@@eebz5 You are correct, The host nor his guest said he invented anything. I was the one who said he is acting like he has done something special or invented something new. The people who saved their marriages are the two people who committed to do the hard work required. They are the only ones who deserve all of the credit. For anyone to say he saved anyone marriage is arrogant. All this dude did was tell a story about his life. What people do with that information is up to them and the work they put in is what counts. We only have his version of events His wife has her version, which surprisingly he doesn't have her on his podcast to tell her truth and a hard a real honest and open discussion. I wonder why.
@queenadventures4258 your viewpoint is strong with no research. He's spoken of his ex many times as they maintain relationship. He wanted her to come in and since she doesn't care for the spotlight, she declined yet gave him clearance to speak on their past. I would love to share more, but I see it being pointless. Check out his podcast to balance your perspective. It has saved marriages and given singles and married ppl insight on how to better in relationship to avoid unnecessary hardship & divorce. Some ppl state the obvious as if it is profound. Clearly ppl in the marriage chose to work on it. Many use tools provided 3rd parties such as his podcast. Enjoy. Good bye.
Maybe she was not vulnerable to him cause of the company he kept, evil communication corrupts good manners, although if she felt that way and he knew that way, then why get married in the first place, People dont struggle 2gether anymore, but leave and divorce and then have the nerves to look for another spouse in GOD, GOD forgive us all
His cheating had nothing to do with his wife... It was as a result of his desires which didn't align with God's. The wife needed help and he didn't help her
I see a lot of comments saying that she might have closed up because of trauma from the relationships but i think it might have been childhood related trauma. For the fact that she didnt even want to go to church and that she was aware that she isn't giving herself fully into the marriage. It looks like it is something that she learnt from the very young age. To withhold parts of herself and isolate either it sex , love or community. She put a lot of effort into protecting herself and i see parts of me in that and i hope she is has learnt to open herself to healing and living life fully 🙏.
The power of the pivot!! I need to learn that. I recently retired, I'm better however it's definitely been an adjustment. "Submit to the season. Mourn the death of that season and go to the next season"
Not every woman or man is meant to be married. Some people should live alone because they do not know how to open up themselves to love and be loved. Love is about being affectionate, touching and kissing and all that good stuff and some people are just not into that. If you're not then stay by yourself..
Laterras cheated on his wife before they married. I think it was multiple times too. She probably didn't feel safe enough in the marriage to trust him and open up. Guys seem to think that they can get both- live a sexually loose lifestyle pre-marriage and get a 100% of a woman in marriage. It's very difficult to build a house on a verified weak foundation. They probably should not have gotten married. Love and the desire for a healthy marriage is not enough.
The cheater is a piece of 💩!!! Period !!! The fact that ur put ur thing in every hole is disgusting !!! And u have no regard for ur body and self !!! If u cheat once ….. u MUST LEAVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!……… If u cannot get what you wanted, u must tell ur spouse and leave !!! Don’t cheat while u r in it !!! Cheating means u r spoiling ur body with nonsense…..and ask urself how u treat ur wife how she feels about u !!!
The ex wife sounds like she didn’t want to be vulnerable to him. I wonder if he did something before the marriage that caused her to withhold so much emotionally and physically.
She held back from day 1. That’s so sad. She withheld sex and emotional intimacy. She also didn’t go to church.. unequally yoked spiritually, physically, emotionally.
I’m a lot confused. According to the Bible, he should not get remarried. Did his wife pass away? It does not sound like she cheated on him. Would he not then be committing adultery if he remarries?
She opened the door. It's never your fault..My husband opened the door too and I am currently in a predicament too like you. I pray that God will help me.
This is only one side of the story people. You need to hear both sides before you cast judgments. Stop blaming the wife when you have yet to hear her side of the story.
Check out his podcast. She gave him permission to speak on it. She didnt want public attention so she didnt come on the podcast. He has spoken on all of hia shortcomings and withheld parts about her out of respect. They maintain some level of relationship just not romantic.
Did God, approve your relationship or marriage? Did you go to counseling before you got married? Why did you have major problems so early in your marriage? Did God give you signs about your relationship?
Wow, the comments in this section amaze me and makes me sad as a young husband. The response from women to men cheating has been the same since I could remember being a little boy. It’s always that the man must’ve did something to her or didn’t do the right magical steps to get her to open up or is just a dog. He clearly said she never fully opened up and that led to him finding it somewhere else, which is a common problem in many marriages as I’ve learned. I’m not validating what he did, it was completely wrong and hurtful to her. I was that child that had glimpses of my Dad’s infidelity and it hurt me so bad. I felt betrayed and felt for my mother. So I’m not saying it’s ok. What I am saying is that maybe the problem isn’t always the husband but a women’s past sexual experiences and thoughts around sexuality. I always see videos about all other relationship problems from but rarely around sexuality and understating how our experiences can manifest into our sexual relationships and how we go about sex. Hearing stories about the sexual abuse that many women have endured it short from tragic. But is it being addressed, confronted, understood and healed? From what I can see, the answer is barely. Many women, especially black, have their sexuality’s chained by warped beliefs and experiences through their upbringing. Of course that affects the marriage bed, but because it isn’t being addressed and a man goes and finds the WRONG solution, that gets hyper-focused on and used as the scapegoat as to why the marriage did not work. Even though it takes two to tango. And I’m tired of it, we need more men to open up these conversations with their ladies instead of just trying to solve the problem themselves because it always leads to him stepping out of the marriage, them getting divorced, and reinforcing the narrative from women that men are inherently cheaters, dogs and mess-ups. We need that more men that are bold like Kevin Samuel RIP🕊️. Even though I always didn’t agree with how he said things, I loved that he had the conversations, which is what a lot of men don’t do. To finish, I’m blaming women or trying to make men the victims. What I am saying is that we need to willing to dig deeper instead of going to the conclusion that men are the sole problem and reason for failed relationships.
Truth is we fall into God's grace not out of it ♥️ . Think about it the Biblical definition of grace is m: A free gift from God that is undeserved and cannot be earned
Well Laterras I have looking at Podcasts for a few weeks they are informative and outstanding. When it's time for your person God will give her to you let's be clear the Devil hears prayers too so be careful to discern which one is for you. Now don't abandon the Podcast when you do 😂😂😂😂😂
Scripture says God hates divorce but Scripture also states He Himself is divorced. He gave Israel a certificate of divorce and sent her away and made a new bride from the church of Jesus Christ. People act like divorce is the unpardonable sin. Like we could be forgiven of murder, stealing, lying, and every other sin and be given grace to start again but not divorce? Jesus taught that marrying a woman who been "sent away/dismissed" was adultery but you have to read the Bible in context of what was going on. Firstly, He was addressing a culture of women being dismissed WITHOUT being legally divorced in which case to marry her was indeed committing adultery because she was still married. Secondly, He was talking to Jews under the Law to highlight the impossible nature of achieving salvation by Law. There were no Christians at that point in time. He said not one jot or tittle of the law will pass away UNTIL ALL IS FULFILLED. Well Jesus fulfilled it all for us. That's not an excuse to flagrantly sin but to free us from the burden of the Law. Romans says the Law was a school master to bring us to Christ. Now we are in Christ we are under grace not Law. He has given us a new nature that desires to please Him so we do not use this grace as a license to sin. But divorce is not the unpardonable sin. God is a God of restoration and forgiveness. Even when David had murdered Bathshebas husband to cover his adultery and took her as his own, God did not send David to hell. He didnt even tell David that they could not be together. He blessed them with a son and even chose THEIR son to be the next King. What kind of unfathomable grace is that? We cannot compute it because we are not like that. But God says, I am not like you. My ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts. Mercy will always triumph over Law in God's sight. Be free to love your husband and build a life together without living under condemnation. It is for freedom that Christ set you free. Our sins are forgiven. Allow yourself to receive His grace and be blessed. He does not hold our sins against us. They have all been nailed to the cross.
Very good show. She married a man she never really gave herself too. She also said, our marriage isnt going to be based on sex! Sounds like she knew going in he did not have his heart. She was cold and numb! IMO
I’m curious why this is so one-sided against her. Maybe the question should be why was she cold/numb? Perhaps he never made her feel emotionally safe. There’s more to this than just his side of the demise of the marriage.
Thank you both for sharing with transparency. And it will be beautiful to see you and your wifey @dearfuturewifey; growth and development as well. 💪 🙌 👏 Also this is my first-time visiting your podcast @ManWithinPodcast great interview 👍
It’s common for relationships to hit rough patches, yet there’s always a way to move forward. My own marriage faced serious obstacles, but with the right support, my wife and I overcame them and grew closer. With effort and teamwork, solutions are possible. Don’t give up-answers are attainable.
I’m struggling with significant issues in my relationship and can't imagine losing her. I love and miss her so much, and I’m prepared to do anything to bring her back into my life. I’d be very thankful for any help or advice you could offer.
Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'm grateful for your guidance. I'll quickly search for her online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that adopting this strategy will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her greatly.
You should... I promise you will not regret it
@@EllyzGoodwill marriages work when we work them that’s my slogan. When they don’t work someone is refusing to do the work of working things because marriage is work
Until you hear the ex wife’s story, pls withhold your comments. His story is from his perspective ONLY.
Mankind O man kind , what a creature we are , the man confessed and admitted his wrong , he confessed his filthy deeds, admitted his wrong , why you need to hear the other side , THAT WHO WE ARE , WE LIKE TO DIG BENEATH THE THE BLOOD OF FORGIVENESS TO EXPOSE THE DETAIL , that’s true corrupt human nature , liked to judge, this why you want to hear the other side , What more do you want, I DID IT I WAS WRONG. what more do you want hear !!!!
Yes , rightly said.
They’re always 3 sides to a story! His side Her side and the truth! Amen 🙏🙏.
I watch Dear Future Wifey for the interviews of "couples".
Laterras' ex wife is not there to share her side. We dont get her memory of what occurred. We dont have the liberty of hearing how she felt and what kind of wife she desired to be to Laterras.
Just because a man publicly admits to cheating......it does not mean hes an honest man. This may be "HIS TRUTH" versus "THE TRUTH".
THERE IS A DIFFERENCE!!!!!!!
Exactly. This man seems suspect to me. I think he likes men too.
That Part!!!!
@Imthatjackie0808 he's stated on multiple episodes when he refers to her that she didnt want to be on the show to share her story. He also stated she gave him clearance on what he can share. He also shared the house he bought this year was bc she was his realtor. We don't have to believe it. But I doubt every cheating man is liar in all thing in all ways for the rest of their lives.
She went numb when u told her about the others because it. Hurt too much for her to handle. I think in the beginning she really did give her all to u. Then there was the betrayal & she couldn't come back from ...the hurt a women experiences from a man she LOVES & trusts cuts DEEP...Divorce was the best thing for both of you.
Yep
Your former wife didn’t give herself fully to you bc for some reason, she never felt 100% safe/vulnerable with you.
And his divorce still isnt valid. He needed to repent to her and the LORD and till his dying day seek to serve and love her as Christ does the church. For him to say God was okay with his divorce is nuts. He broke the vows. He doesn't deserve another wife and I pray he never gets one. His language is all wrong.
@@NB-nh2sfare you the ex wife? Let’s not caste stones. We are all sinners in need of our Savior
@@NB-nh2sfwhy would either one want to stay in a misaligned and broken marriage? I don’t believe God put us on this earth to be unhappy. We all deserved to be treated with that utmost love and respect.
She should not have given half of her self marriage is all she did not come in with all her heart she gave half and half does not work even if your partner has faults you do your part to please God first and allow him to work on your partner. She was defrauding the man not for any good reason
@@womenspowerhouryikes. Were you in their marriage?
The interviewer did a great job by asking all the important questions giving us the opportunity to see the journey of his growth. He isn't a saint, but he is a great man y'all. May God keep using him as a vessel to transform and inspire our generation.
thanks so much and very well said!
Just really would like to hear the wife’s side of this story!
Laterras, thank you for your transparency and vulnerability. As a Day 1 for DFW, I truly appreciate how you continue to cover your ex-wife, and you stand 10 toes down on owning your part for the demise of your marriage. I am so glad that God is a redeemer of our stories. He does not use an eraser. He simply covers it with the blood, and gives us the opportunity to use the word of our testimony to overcome what the enemy meant for our destruction. Thank you that you did not shrink back even when faced with death of the podcast at 500 subs. You have changed so many lives, including mine. May the host of this podcast gain encouragement as he rises to do the same. 🙏🏾💜
This just popped up. Laterras every time you tell your story I can see your growth. You are doing the work and it is showing. Can I be the little spoon.🫢😂The power of the pivot. Come on 👏🏾👏🏾Very great interview
This guy really puts out way more self-importance than he deserves. There is nothing special or unique about his "story." Men cheat and divorce their wives all the time. Some have regrets, some don't. He's not the first, he won't be last. He didn't invent any of that.
The people in the relationship and doing the hard work, day in and day out salvaging their marriage deserve all the credit for saving it. To me, he gives off highly narcissistic vibes. Today he is saving marriages, Tomorrow he will be the solution to peace in the Middle East.
Excellent comment. There's something about him that doesn't ring true. Can't stand the word 'wifey'.
I dont think he nor the host said he invented anything or that he did something uncommon. Sharing your story ( whatever it is regardless of commonality) helps those who are stuck in it and feel isolated on the issue. Check out his podcast and hear his guests. Some married 30+ years, some on the brink of divorce and overcame it others divorced and some never married. It definitely breaks down so many aspects of relationship and gets beyond the surface, so ppl dating/married can get to depth and not stay stuck on the superficial parts.
I have heard his podcast many times. . That is why I made the comments. He is not saving marriages. The people who do the hard work required to overcome challenges saved their marriage.
He simply told a story of his life. What people do with that information is up to them and them alone. @@eebz5
@@eebz5 You are correct, The host nor his guest said he invented anything. I was the one who said he is acting like he has done something special or invented something new.
The people who saved their marriages are the two people who committed to do the hard work required. They are the only ones who deserve all of the credit. For anyone to say he saved anyone marriage is arrogant.
All this dude did was tell a story about his life. What people do with that information is up to them and the work they put in is what counts.
We only have his version of events His wife has her version, which surprisingly he doesn't have her on his podcast to tell her truth and a hard a real honest and open discussion. I wonder why.
@queenadventures4258 your viewpoint is strong with no research. He's spoken of his ex many times as they maintain relationship. He wanted her to come in and since she doesn't care for the spotlight, she declined yet gave him clearance to speak on their past. I would love to share more, but I see it being pointless. Check out his podcast to balance your perspective. It has saved marriages and given singles and married ppl insight on how to better in relationship to avoid unnecessary hardship & divorce. Some ppl state the obvious as if it is profound. Clearly ppl in the marriage chose to work on it. Many use tools provided 3rd parties such as his podcast. Enjoy. Good bye.
Some people aren’t meant to be married but become close friends and I think that’s what make people confused. I hope they remain friends.
Maybe she was not vulnerable to him cause of the company he kept, evil communication corrupts good manners, although if she felt that way and he knew that way, then why get married in the first place, People dont struggle 2gether anymore, but leave and divorce and then have the nerves to look for another spouse in GOD, GOD forgive us all
Discernment is a gift from god is so beautiful
The grass and flowers may wither but he's word stands forever
Romans 7 1-3
You cheated but you come here sneakly blaming her 🙄 you are divorced because you wanted to go ahead and mess up with other women.
He's been profiting from his story ever since.
Wow! Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability.
He’s not saying something very important to this issue. I believe he just didn’t want to be married anymore and found a way out🤷🏾♀️
And uses this story wherever he goes. He comes across as insincere and hiding a secret.
His cheating had nothing to do with his wife... It was as a result of his desires which didn't align with God's.
The wife needed help and he didn't help her
THAT PART
I see a lot of comments saying that she might have closed up because of trauma from the relationships but i think it might have been childhood related trauma. For the fact that she didnt even want to go to church and that she was aware that she isn't giving herself fully into the marriage. It looks like it is something that she learnt from the very young age. To withhold parts of herself and isolate either it sex , love or community. She put a lot of effort into protecting herself and i see parts of me in that and i hope she is has learnt to open herself to healing and living life fully 🙏.
Laterras has grown in his relationship in christ,which definitely would make him an amazing husband.
He has. All the interviews he gets to host clearly demonstrates his journey, regrets and he working to do better.
Love always from Cameroon
delusional. You’ll buy a wolf ticket from anyone who mentions the Lord’s name.
The power of the pivot!! I need to learn that. I recently retired, I'm better however it's definitely been an adjustment. "Submit to the season. Mourn the death of that season and go to the next season"
Not every woman or man is meant to be married.
Some people should live alone because they do not know how to open up themselves to love and be loved.
Love is about being affectionate, touching and kissing and all that good stuff and some people are just not into that.
If you're not then stay by yourself..
It’s only flipped because it’s a fallen world. Unfortunately. But so proud of you. Thanks for sharing!
The man is humble. His wife seems to be self righteous and may be his wife was secretly dating someone else.
Honest man. Thank you for your truth.
Laterras cheated on his wife before they married. I think it was multiple times too. She probably didn't feel safe enough in the marriage to trust him and open up. Guys seem to think that they can get both- live a sexually loose lifestyle pre-marriage and get a 100% of a woman in marriage. It's very difficult to build a house on a verified weak foundation. They probably should not have gotten married. Love and the desire for a healthy marriage is not enough.
The cheater is a piece of 💩!!!
Period !!!
The fact that ur put ur thing in every hole is disgusting !!!
And u have no regard for ur body and self !!!
If u cheat once ….. u MUST LEAVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!………
If u cannot get what you wanted, u must tell ur spouse and leave !!!
Don’t cheat while u r in it !!!
Cheating means u r spoiling ur body with nonsense…..and ask urself how u treat ur wife how she feels about u !!!
The ex wife sounds like she didn’t want to be vulnerable to him. I wonder if he did something before the marriage that caused her to withhold so much emotionally and physically.
She definitely didn’t feel emotionally “safe” with him.
He cheated before marriage as well.
May God continue to bless this podcast "Man Within" very good interview
From what I heard him say previously he cheated in dating and marriage and she wasn’t his type! She was a virgin!
She wasn't a virgin.
She held back from day 1. That’s so sad. She withheld sex and emotional intimacy. She also didn’t go to church.. unequally yoked spiritually, physically, emotionally.
so he says
I’m a lot confused. According to the Bible, he should not get remarried. Did his wife pass away? It does not sound like she cheated on him. Would he not then be committing adultery if he remarries?
Leaving does not fix the problem but repentance does.
She opened the door. It's never your fault..My husband opened the door too and I am currently in a predicament too like you. I pray that God will help me.
I’m confused by him saying getting in like bunny’s the first year. They dated for 7 did they practice abstinence during the dating phase?
I got a birthday coming up soon all be 48 this year it's a lot to unpack
Thank you Laterras! This is helpful on so many levels...
Laterras has grown and his knowledge is so helpful.
This is only one side of the story people. You need to hear both sides before you cast judgments. Stop blaming the wife when you have yet to hear her side of the story.
THIS
Check out his podcast. She gave him permission to speak on it. She didnt want public attention so she didnt come on the podcast. He has spoken on all of hia shortcomings and withheld parts about her out of respect. They maintain some level of relationship just not romantic.
He married someone that didn't need sex and didn't desire sex.
Absolutely enjoyed every single moment! 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Did God, approve your relationship or marriage? Did you go to counseling before you got married? Why did you have major problems so early in your marriage? Did God give you signs about your relationship?
If u have kids …. I feel so sorry for them !!!
Hopefully they will be somehow ok
I'm having a hard time overcoming certain things l neglect my self worth sometimes l feel unworthy and l really shouldn't feel that way
This man is a walking contradiction. He still talks as if his divorce was needed and okay. 🙄
Wow it's God. Thanks Laterras. New subscriber here.
God is all knowing
Happy thanksgiving 🦃
Wow, the comments in this section amaze me and makes me sad as a young husband. The response from women to men cheating has been the same since I could remember being a little boy. It’s always that the man must’ve did something to her or didn’t do the right magical steps to get her to open up or is just a dog. He clearly said she never fully opened up and that led to him finding it somewhere else, which is a common problem in many marriages as I’ve learned. I’m not validating what he did, it was completely wrong and hurtful to her. I was that child that had glimpses of my Dad’s infidelity and it hurt me so bad. I felt betrayed and felt for my mother. So I’m not saying it’s ok.
What I am saying is that maybe the problem isn’t always the husband but a women’s past sexual experiences and thoughts around sexuality. I always see videos about all other relationship problems from but rarely around sexuality and understating how our experiences can manifest into our sexual relationships and how we go about sex. Hearing stories about the sexual abuse that many women have endured it short from tragic. But is it being addressed, confronted, understood and healed? From what I can see, the answer is barely. Many women, especially black, have their sexuality’s chained by warped beliefs and experiences through their upbringing. Of course that affects the marriage bed, but because it isn’t being addressed and a man goes and finds the WRONG solution, that gets hyper-focused on and used as the scapegoat as to why the marriage did not work. Even though it takes two to tango.
And I’m tired of it, we need more men to open up these conversations with their ladies instead of just trying to solve the problem themselves because it always leads to him stepping out of the marriage, them getting divorced, and reinforcing the narrative from women that men are inherently cheaters, dogs and mess-ups.
We need that more men that are bold like Kevin Samuel RIP🕊️. Even though I always didn’t agree with how he said things, I loved that he had the conversations, which is what a lot of men don’t do.
To finish, I’m blaming women or trying to make men the victims. What I am saying is that we need to willing to dig deeper instead of going to the conclusion that men are the sole problem and reason for failed relationships.
I like the Buffalo analogy!
Truth is we fall into God's grace not out of it ♥️ . Think about it the Biblical definition of grace is m: A free gift from God that is undeserved and cannot be earned
I have been going crazy living by myself it's hard sometimes
Beautiful demonstrate, we should stand around.
Well Laterras I have looking at Podcasts for a few weeks they are informative and outstanding. When it's time for your person God will give her to you let's be clear the Devil hears prayers too so be careful to discern which one is for you. Now don't abandon the Podcast when you do 😂😂😂😂😂
Please pray for me am worried l might hafe to have back surgery
I'm trying to grow in education it's hard sometimes l do fall short of the glory of god little bit
I'm trying to thrive and flourish but it isn't always smooth sailing
I got a lot of anxiety when l really need to relax
I never should have been cheating 😔
100% with CHRIST 100% in mariage. I like it.
This is only possible when the union is from God and God at the centre of it.
I am lacking emotional needs lately but l do need more self control
I really need some deliverance one day
Walking testimony
My adopted daughter is very beautiful at least they still let me talk with her she getting married soon
This is real Life and marriage
I have been in a lot of pain
You're not alone.
Merry Christmas happy new year
Girl are you OK you seem unhinged!
I really should be working on my breathing exercises
I'm a weakness Christian too l feel like a lost soul and l feel like a loser sometimes
Please pray for me am looking forward to my dentures
I still have my ups and downs
Idk when all ever get my driver's license back that's the last thing l need right now things take time
…..but is it discipline or LOW TESTOSTERONE ❓ I think it’s just low ‘T’ 🤷🏾♀️
I'm going through menopause
CR MY FOREVER FAMILY❤❤❤
I do need to break a generational curses one day
I been trying to keep it two myself little bit
I had one year soberity l was doing so good
Hi I'm married to a man that was married before and I feel I am to hell for it
Scripture says God hates divorce but Scripture also states He Himself is divorced. He gave Israel a certificate of divorce and sent her away and made a new bride from the church of Jesus Christ. People act like divorce is the unpardonable sin. Like we could be forgiven of murder, stealing, lying, and every other sin and be given grace to start again but not divorce? Jesus taught that marrying a woman who been "sent away/dismissed" was adultery but you have to read the Bible in context of what was going on. Firstly, He was addressing a culture of women being dismissed WITHOUT being legally divorced in which case to marry her was indeed committing adultery because she was still married. Secondly, He was talking to Jews under the Law to highlight the impossible nature of achieving salvation by Law. There were no Christians at that point in time. He said not one jot or tittle of the law will pass away UNTIL ALL IS FULFILLED. Well Jesus fulfilled it all for us. That's not an excuse to flagrantly sin but to free us from the burden of the Law. Romans says the Law was a school master to bring us to Christ. Now we are in Christ we are under grace not Law. He has given us a new nature that desires to please Him so we do not use this grace as a license to sin. But divorce is not the unpardonable sin. God is a God of restoration and forgiveness. Even when David had murdered Bathshebas husband to cover his adultery and took her as his own, God did not send David to hell. He didnt even tell David that they could not be together. He blessed them with a son and even chose THEIR son to be the next King. What kind of unfathomable grace is that? We cannot compute it because we are not like that. But God says, I am not like you. My ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts. Mercy will always triumph over Law in God's sight. Be free to love your husband and build a life together without living under condemnation. It is for freedom that Christ set you free. Our sins are forgiven. Allow yourself to receive His grace and be blessed. He does not hold our sins against us. They have all been nailed to the cross.
I seem to be little bit bitter and prideful
I do lack self control little bit l do need more self control
Getting out of that muck and mire is good there's been a lot of set backs
I need to learn how to have some patience
Please pray for me Florence lunsford Christiana lunsford
My back hurts alot
I do lack integrity little bit
I need better alignment
I been married and divorced before when l was young we weren't growing it's was just wacko little bit
I'm in my single season l get way too lonely
It's hard sometimes
I really should live a disciplined life
I have been educationing myself
Very good show. She married a man she never really gave herself too. She also said, our marriage isnt going to be based on sex! Sounds like she knew going in he did not have his heart. She was cold and numb! IMO
I’m curious why this is so one-sided against her. Maybe the question should be why was she cold/numb? Perhaps he never made her feel emotionally safe. There’s more to this than just his side of the demise of the marriage.
Agreed. @@candicane1
Shame is all around me
I feel like am missing something
I do lack disabline a little bit
Thank you both for sharing with transparency. And it will be beautiful to see you and your wifey @dearfuturewifey; growth and development as well. 💪 🙌 👏 Also this is my first-time visiting your podcast @ManWithinPodcast great interview 👍
thank you! So glad you enjoyed it.
@sathiyamesam you're welcome 😊
I had issues
I think it's hard to be a Christian at least am reading it little bit