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Wait some relatives actually abused me like not criticizing coz my kid spoke English in the village.. guess wat my son is 3years and had gotten speaking issues because of use of different languages and so I decided to use English for him to speak at least .. naye mwe these women 😭 told me how permissive I am🥺
Thanks ladies for Bump Love. Very insightful. We, the men, also watch but from Kamoli and we have learnt good perspectives of the 'other gender'. Keep it up
Hehehe! We welcome your gender for sho! P
I am no where close to being a mother but with the knowledge I am collecting here and my experiences, I know I will be a great mom thank you ladies.
Someone criticized me over something petty in front of my mom. All that while, i grew up knowing I'm mom's least favorite kid. I thought she didnt like me. But mom plain told the criticizer,"my child is so perfect. Her flaws add to her perfection and uniqueness. I love her that way." I cried . Never knew momma would stand up for me. Our parents love us even with all our flaws! Dont criticize anyone"s parenting koz they are doing their best. some wounds never heal so package your info and deliver it well without criticism
Aaaaaaawwwww hugs to you. I hope your false thoughts on being your mom's least favorite were atleast thwarted that day. P
By the way Pumla is very beautiful especially the eyes
Aaaaawwww...lovely compliment. Thank you. P
First off, You look so cute in that dress @ Racheal. I kept looking at how well it suits you.
Now, I don't have kids but I grew up hearing people criticise my parents over one of my siblings. He is an addict, they did their best but failed. They deal with the pain of failure as parents everyday and keep wondering about how differently they should have parented.
Now, the people who love to run their mouths like to tell them to their face about what they should have done and all. It's so annoying and I feel so bad for my parents bcoz I know their sacrifices and lengths they've gone to in order to help their child.
The ladies are right, let's learn to package our criticisms well if we really have to utter them out at all. Or when the parents struggles with their child are glaring, let's just shut up. They are fully aware of the problem and unless they ask, let's not push our unsolicited advice.
'Manuela you have expertise raising kids under four"😀😀😀😀
Oh this was touching,I liked it,I was awarded a scholarship and I am away but I am being blamed for leaving my girls with their father one is 5year and the other one is making 2years , the girls are healthy and looking good but the way MSG's come in like a flood ,it was beginning to stress me and thinking how am too selfish but when I shared with my husband he told me to tell them that if the are concerned they go take care of them , he even told to broke some because they are enemies of progress ,I think the intention of some one tell you should be measured well aba using which units .
Take it from a mom who left her 3yr old son with the dad too to go away and study for a year - Happy Mom = Happy kids. It might not seem like it right now,, but you have made the best decision for both you and your family. Keep going. P
I gave birth to a big baby ( 5kgs) . And by 1year he was like 15kgs and very tall but he wasnt walking . The way everyone was saying i feed my child alot,but there was this specific lady who went extra ...." your child is obese,he will never walk,hes limbs are bold,he has rickets etc....guys i nearly slapped the woman....meanwhile he was always sickly ...stressed about hes health now the weight and not walking.....i ran mad. Went to Nsambya but the doctor said my doctor is very fine but the womans voice kept ringing in my head insisted on breaking my babys legs ....made an appointment but a week to the appointment he made steps since then i will never take any neg critism. Hes very fine now but eeh i nearly ran mad
Oh dear! The opinions can be overwhelming. I'm glad baby begun to walk eventually. It goes to say that we shouldn't give importance to what people think.
@@rachaelmwine thank you Rach
Oh dear! So sorry about your experience.
i can relate my story to yours but for me the criticism came from the father. that hurts right. I have learnt to pay less attention to his criticism sometimes.
Oh sorry, that was so tough
It's good to take criticism even from childless people since we've all been children.
Manuela with the natural consequences I'm sure you are aware but just for other viewers, parents should have a ka limit so they don't end up abusing their kids in the name of discipline.
I think angie has touched on a good point which is if you're offering criticism add some solutions and support too
You.adies your faces glow each time isee you,and shining is it the food your eat.or
Haha Peace! Thanks for the compliment. That glow you speak of was sponsored by Peace (not your name). Hehe! P
#accepting criticism is a life skill. Lots of love from Kenya.
My love for bump love will never die❤
Well done beautiful ladies ,I am learning and taking notes .
Pumla I could listen to you forever- very insightful ❤
Thank you Dr. Nansubuga ❤. P
Pumla, one thing i know for sure, i will one day have a date with you. I love you.
Opinions always on point, as for angie didn’t even notice it was her looking so good
She's always looking great 😊😉
Not a mom yet, but this channel and the conversations soothes my soul.
Me too🥰
I have been trying ko Manuela’s ‘discipline by consequence’ style. And it has not failed me whenever i apply it but some how people take you to be harsh. But i have always proved it resultful in many instances. Thank you Manuel. I now know I have back up😂
Manuela with her natural consequences killed me😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂eeeeh
ooh..just yesterday i was criticised by some folks about letting my son have my fone! that it means i did not train him well and that it is bad manners... trully i was offended coz the circumstances are different! and besides i do what i can to keep him at bay as his mom..having alittle previledge with my fone isnt something i envisioned as bad at his age (6) especially because he watches cartoons with it and i dont have bad content to hide in my fone...i was abit defensive but when i slept on the thought! i realised that at a certain age i will have to restrain him to avoid any curiosity... i will start to keep it away slowly and slowly but its something i had not thought of as a bad thing. besides he studies well, does his homework and holiday package and the cartoons teach him good english!!... jesus..this parenting journey teaches us new things daily!
That phone thing banange. People don't know that screen time can be regulated. Both regarding time and content. And if as a parent you can do that, let Noone steer you off. P
Unless someone comes to you for advise. A beg!!!!!! keep it to yourself.
I think in Africa especially Uganda, abantu people love ebyononese. That's why they just criticise any howly without offering any solution. Ask them if at least they prayed for you.. nothing. Ingenuity just
Good start for the year. Well done ladies. I believe with maturity I have learnt to calm down whenever I hear such, thank God otherwise in my 20z, oh boy I would come for you. We were patented differently and from different backgrounds, definitely we can't be the same however, we need to be kind to ourselves whenever judged. I can only be the best mother to my children regardless and vice versa.
Very many times people have always criticized for how I parent my child but cheeeiiii heeeeeee! I give u what u deserve if it ain't positive,then go to hell. So,someone comes and complains about how a child walks!! Some people can be very funny.
I love U guys banange I am not married and single🤣🤣 no child but yessss I can't miss u and pumlaz hair 🤣🤣🤣 I love it
Comments like a child will heal when they see the father.
Rossett is very smart🥰
Aidah from Saudi Arabia my girl was so stubborn at 4 yes and I used to beat her and people were like why do you hate the girl oh mi
I love your work and with it,my TikTok has grown 🥰🥰keep inspiring us ladies
Very Nice 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. P
Roset am falling in love with your weight. Am soon texting you for tips.
someone criticised over not feeding my 7 year child well all cos of her small size....and i was like wtf!!..yet she eats normally....then anther told me how my child has lugezigezi yet to me i take it as high self esteem and i like it when she speaks her mind,when she asks those questions cos shes at a stage where inquistiveness is so high
Rachel Micah weight has nothing to do with his immunity like you said. My daughter is an excellent eater and takes vitamins and still struggles with low
Immunity. It’s something she is outgrowing slowly. This was a great conversation. As much as it’s good to be open and humble we also have to guard out hearts because not everything that been shared with us is for us.
"Not everything being shared with us is for us". Correct. P
Aways hear to enjoy content and humor.
Commonest comment about my 5bhad been FEEDING. Yr children look juice as they grow bigger....I guess it is because they can feed themselves....
But Manuela, can I gift you another pair of shoes😍😋😁😂. Simububi
Wabula Pumla I feel you on the bukafiriness🤣🤣 nange most Sundays I just want to sleep long, we be tired banange.
We. Be. Tired. P
Rachael that dress🎉🎉❤
I received wrath from the public about pacifiers/soothers...banange winner was your child is not going to talk!! 🙄
As for the zari topic😂😂😂 like pumla said at the start if you are not solid then it feels most like an attack
I love you ladies I relate so much to your words of wisdom happy New year WOMEN.
What alovely topic people will always critisis you no matter what mbu why dont you teach your kids their mothertongue, or teach them to eat everything eeh kiluma.
My mom was always like Manuela she rarely beat us, but she would always give us natural consequences just like that. And I am surely going to practice it with mine because it worked we always knew what to expect.
My baby's are healthy but someone told me he is too heavy I should regulate what he does.
How comes I have never been criticized 🤔🤔from the outsiders 🤔🤔.......am like Madam Rossetti it's my husband that always critize me😔...any way I too criticize him
Maybe your character doesn't give people room to do so but your husband can tear off the layers. P
Hehehe let us talk about non doctors diagnosing our children in public…someone told me my child has syphilis and I should take them for treatment just because they noticed she had sweaty feet…I have never been so mad ..mind you she is just 1
But mine had to but I don't even know how it stopped by the time he was 1.5 I didn't notice it anymore. No doctor diagnose any syphilis, some people 😓
Best discussion to start my year 2023, love you ladies, thank you so much. #motherofteenagers.
Darlings I do like and share ur topics from ur titalk clips 😍❤️😘I love you gals though am not much a comentor 💝💞
Mine is about smartphones mbu era "esimu zobona abaana" but when I give him my own they say nothing but when I bought him his own they took it away! Banange olemwa! 🤦♀
Angie and Rosette forget it that you are the only allowed to criticize your husbands, those husbands belong to other women....only talk about your children but forget about men because they are dogs....lol
My dear who hurt you
You need to heal ❤️❤️❤️
@@fionaamongin9455 nobody hurt me, I'm just saying what I see men do.
@@imeidamoraa3966
Oh dear namesake Imelda your attitude about men is not good. In marriage you become one and therefore as partners we have to that trust even if we know their shortcomings or other men hurting us or our friends.
A week end gets productive when I watch these bump love vlogs😘 much love girls❤️
I stop beating after being critiqued. So I agree, criticizing can be taken with a pinch of salt
I live in Canada and I watched you ladies to get a taste of home. How I miss my girlfriends, you remind me of them.
Criticism might not be bad but how is it done, do you criticize me infront of my child or you take me aside and talk to me as an adult. E.g if am disciplining my child the wrong way tova eri just yapping for me in-front of my child cz now my child will see me as weak n disrespect me because she thinks Aunty who or uncle who is the one who’s better
True some unsolicited advice is just annoying. We need a session on how to manage aggressive children. Otherwise thanks for the show
People who come to visit us post delivery and u over talk, please limit your words coz we have just come from a tough period. For example someone saw my baby and was like your baby is so small, u are not feeding him well he is bla bla bla, I just felt like chasing her away from my home
Just like Rachael, I have been criticized about not feeding my kids
And when it comes to school people think they understand very well every school in the country.
Bump love forever ❤️ it's the way pumlar explains things 😂I would love to see when she is annoyed and talking at the same time.
Hahahaahahaaaa! Believe me - You don't want to be anywhere near that scenario 😅. P
I loooooooove Angieeee♥️❤️🥳🥳🥳… ok all the bump love ladies
Changed my maid and I heard neighbors say akana kavudenu that moment I realized my son was doing badly I intentionally improved his diet but the criticism was eye opening
Good topic, but to be honest sometimes those criticism open our eyes and we mould our kids for future, u see Pumlas' Boy survived bukafiirism,,,hahhahaha
Hahahaaaa! Construcrive criticism should be taken well. P
So I and husband are rewarding parents naye looks like we need to change tactics it honestly just breeds self entitled kids.... Heneway this year Mrs Mulondo am saving and saving..... I love love you ladies... So much to learn
If it doesn't feel right, it most likely isn't. Pay attention to your gut but also be kind to yourself. We're all just winging it here. P
Thanks so much bump love.Ladies, u really take us to another level. Thanks for sharing such knowledge.
And please pumla...where do you plait your hair from. I surely need that very hair style pleaseee
Before I watch.... I love love love Racheals dress.
My dear I wish people knew..... I never listen. Me and Me have my kids best interests at heart. The rest is background noise
I was told to stop feeding my child yogurt…that is should force her to take porridge and milk…in simple terms I was told to starve my child because I know she won’t do the porridge and milk
That one was just spreading around "omwavu" mentality. P
oh it happened to me, my son threw tantrums in someone's car over not being allowed to sit close to the window, The driver kept tormenting me about not disciplining my 2-year-old, mbu we over pamper kids bla bla bla...my throat almost burst out thank God I didn't throw it back to him.
Just yesterday I had the breath in and out moment🙃🙂. My uncle telling me how my 3 month old is small because I don't feed her well oooohhh I pretended I was not listening and he went on for some more time, I burst 🤣😂🤣, I swear I was done it is the same thing he says like almost every time he sees us. My baby is healthy, am feeding her just like I fed my first 2 kids but she is just a thin person eh.
Yooo....this has come out at exact time my own mother is criticizing me on how I brought up my daughter...of omukuziza ekyejo cz we talk to our children instead of shouting to a child when they have done something...and a lot more...she has resorted to shouting and backing at her when she's looking for me 🙄🙄
My dota has been somehow slow in every step, so pipo can be like ooh u carry her too much ,en her being small moreover I give her tym in feeding her en they can be like the way u feed her eeee
How I love Pumla 🥰
Pumla, is soooo hilarious yet real &.. I like that about her. I agree with that statement of criticism. When your confident in who you are words don't trigger you!. I like all your different personalites. I feel i have a bit of each of your personalities and mindsets . Manuela come through with that perfectionism, girl i do the same, am loving but shrewd too. Angie her maturity and calmness, creativity are also traits i relate with. Rosette.. her fashion sense and bubbly character ... Rachel .. her humility and being down to earth. .. Perfect blend. Well done Ladies. We see you ,we appreciate you.
Thanks for the inclusive feedback Cossy. We appreciate you too. P
@@pumlanabachwa8668 Your welcome
So I had my sister's kukyala and I had to travel with my 11 month old girl and because I was the matron I had to give her to someone as the function was going on......hehehe this girl comes and tells me how irresponsible I am choosing to be with my sister as the baby is crying back door 😂
My 6 year old daughter has been very skim since birth. I've taken all kinds of abuse in the name of criticism from all kinds of people. Immune to words but ehhhh people are very nosy I tell you.
Thanks ladies
Our aunt always told my mum not to allow us wear trousers with an excuse that we look good in dresses 😂😂😂 UpTo now she complains when we visit that she doesn't see us in dresses
I am just proud of how am raising my kids. The rest don't need to tell me how to do it. My kids aren't anyone's kids so I can't raise them the they raise theirs! Wamma thx Pumla,ako kabamale
As for me am not good at talking horrible criticism from people who have kids as well we all know children are different work better on urs I also try to do better coz people can be too much me put u wer u belong there and then.thnx for the show ba dea
This was a hilarious but educative episode. I love Manuela’s style of discipline on the uniform
It was one time my son was making 3years and I was preparing his birthday and someone said for how long will do this? Don't u think it's too much, But I took it easy coz I know I will do it so long as am alive.
Wow Pumla!!! Great insight 🙌
Ladies l love you so much thx for the show
My twins are 11 and one time we met a lady on our to shopping and you know how that kavubuka smell can start early she told me in my face how am not ensuring the children are not showering well.
I felt bad i talked to them when we came back home.
Leero nkedde😍😍
Yeeeesss. Mbu my son was looking malnourished. Meanwhile I'm a Nutritionist and it was my workmates talking...I fired back n asked them, between me and you, who is the Nutritionist?..Don't you think I would have enrolled him to our program if there was a problem...oba nze simanyi mulimu gwange...
Bambi, I felt very attacked in all ways including knowledge of my profession...
Pole Sana.
Sorry about this. I'm sure it hits different when it's even your field of expertise. P
It does
@flourish. Asante sana
Nice show
Thanks to you all ladies from Bump Love
I really love you mamaz
From Nairobi Kenya 🇰🇪
It was years ago l think My Ruth was around 10 months.we were in this hospital and she started sucking her thumb,this elderly lady tells me ohhh no this child is being neglected by the maid blah blah.unknown to her that it was me taking care of my child,l did everything for my baby.l told madam hold it there this baby is not neglected because l literally take care of her by myself.
Kyoka banange! P
Oh yes
Guard your heart
Thank you so much ladies
But MR. MULONDO 😂😂😂😂😂
Well said my ladies much love ❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹
I really enjoyed this💃💃💃💃♥️♥️♥️
Manuela we r together in the natural way of consequences management. They have a longer impact on the children though heart breaking to u the parent.
I remember dropping my child one day with socks without shoes at school coz she had lost her shoe the previous day.chic came back with her shoe the next day🙈
I absolutely love you ladies! The group dynamics are so balanced. Much love from Namibia😍...
P.S I have learnt so many local phrases from you guys and Kansiime😅...if i ever visit Uganda, I think i'll fit right in, everything will be Kawa 😅
I love you gals 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Me too my bby was brown wen young but later she changed the color to chocolate but there's this person kept on asking wat happened to your baby all the time.l was Abt to tell them a word but as a mother l kept quiet.
For shuwa this one you should have told them some words 😅. P
The problem is the approach......all the same I hate those funny comments or questions concerning me as a mum. My second son took long to walk, wuiyee.... the comments????/ Now my boy is big, charming, at the university now. One sis in law even today I don't feel comfortable with her due to the many bad comments she ever made about my lovely boy. Generally anything about my family I'm very reserved and protective.
So wise ladies
I love you 💖💖
I am a first time mother but afraid of a tear. How do I avoid it
Hey Flavia. I'm.not sure I get your question. Please rephrase with details. Thanks. P
Parenting is tricky but I ve uncle who never wanted comment on their dota ..right now chased away from home becoz of bad manners and drugs .too much love ,protection and rebuking people who always cristised about her behaviours spoilt her to core .
After many years of rehabilitation she became pregnant and dumped them her baby of 1month and half to them went back her lifestyle now all the shame and disappointment hitting them .we who grew by our own re now mothers and doing well .
Moral of story be watchful what people tell u about ur children. Thank u
Yes, men don't like "labeling their children. But I like that they are protective that way.
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