What Men Crave
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- Опубліковано 1 тра 2016
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IN THIS 11 MINUTE VIDEO, JOHN REVEALS SOME OFTEN SECRET DESIRES MEN ARE WANTING, BUT RARELY ASK FOR. - Навчання та стиль
Asking for what I want was huge for me in the last 12 months. I was completely unaware of my passive aggressive behavior, and thinking she should know what I want. Lately, I've been asking directly and she's been responding. It's not always pleasant, but it's always powerful.
Wow, it was so healing to hear a man say "You have every right to be angry." Whew. Thank you, John Wineland 💞
Well, you don't have the "right" to be angry, but of course you can be. Depends how you express it
@@luciiza_2116 I'm not sure what you mean but I think you may be confusing "feeling/being" with "expressing". Everyone has the right to feel angry. Anger is a natural and necessary emotion. It's harmful to pretend that we don't feel how we feel. It's our responsibility to choose the healthiest ways of expressing our emotions. It can also be very healing to have our anger (or any feelings) validated by others, which is what I was originally thanking John for 🩷
@@curandeira.rising You're right, I did confuse it. The problem for me is in the expression, because so many people do it unskilfully and cause damage with it. Of course there's no problem with having it as an emotion, as it's simply there and may or may not be because of an unrighteousness in the world/other person that it's directed to.
I have a problem with calling it a "right" though because anger has no solid ground, i.e. it is false, illusory. It has projections contained within it. It causes damage.
@@luciiza_2116 I hear you. Unhealthy expressions of anger are at the root of so many personal and societal issues. Personally I don't see anger as false or illusory. All of our emotions serve as information, and they always inform us of something real and true within us. Even when we get angry at something and later realize we were projecting, we only got angry because of something real within us. Being triggered by something is a great gift, as long as we use it to learn more about ourselves. Our mind/perceptions can be illusory, but emotions are always telling us a truth about ourselves.
@@curandeira.rising Nope, emotions are illusory! That's my point. When in the heat of anger, it is watched from a place that isn't angry. You can still make valid points of expression, but without the unnecessary charge
To sum it up he is saying men want to feel the divine feminine and im sure women want to feel the divine masculine. Let go of the roles we play in life, get rid of the needing something from others and just be what you already are.
This was beautiful and made me cry because I could feel him speaking from his heart and it just beautifully touched mine. It also highlighted how my heart capacity expanded to hold more love and light. I'm in awe.
I loved this vulnerability. I never thought that men feel guilty for dominating women for eons and now can't say what they want. It makes perfect sense. It's interesting that most of the people commenting are women. I just bet if the subject was -What Women Crave - women would be the majority watching it too. Men are this simple - they are not as curious about figuring out what they want and are more into just receiving it.
From experience, narcissists focused on what they want while the real good men out there focused on how they could make my life and the partnership better. Narcissists want you to be vulnerable and kept in pain without them, good men want you to be Athena Of Women and to feel invincible when going about our daily business. Once he can bring something to the table without a personality disorder, I focus on his needs (sexual, spiritual, etc).
True!
I couldn't agree more. MGTOW is a male narcissist support group.
My 3 favorite points in this talk were: men want range, we respond to training and we are simple.
I know it's been 3 yrs since this post but, yes that's exactly what I got from this x
Something the best I've heard about men ever! !and just the way he talks......I felt every word!
I absolutely loved each minute of that. True longing coming from the awaken masculine heart.
Wow wow wow! My heart has busted into so much love after watching this video. You're spirit is so mesmerizing. The honesty and perfectly painted words made me understand from a place of pure love and acceptance. My boyfriend was listening in while I was playing this and he agreed with everything. And thankfully we are now experiencing balance of all you spoke of. Thank you so much for this talk. It will be saved incase I need a refresh coarse. Please keep your spirit and the art of life flowing to you and through you. 🙏🏼
There's something so captivating about the way he communicates. So grounded, so Authentic. God. Inspiring
Your daughter really touched my heart .. this is the first time I have listened to you and you touched mine too, thank you 🙏
Thank you for sharing. It made me cry. This is what I know I want, thank you for giving me some tools.
I wish men would get curious about women and not label us based on what they don’t understand. It goes both ways
He says men are simple, yet what they are craving is incredible difficult to provide, to be all these things. Have the spirit move through us in how we move?? I just feel hopeless because I can't be all this. Just like they want women to call out their bullshit, I do think men could help us be more like this. Help us to slow down, and trust, and get back into our femininity.
MindOfHerOwn maybe another generation can get back to femininity but not this generation , it’s to late for this generation as you cannot change people inner core. Hopefully one day in the future women can teach this to future generations and make the change but I don’t see it getting better any time soon, I see it getting worse based on what I see from the young ones today.
MindOfHerOwn don’t feel so lost, if you believe what these manipulative men are saying you’ll always feel like you’re not good enough.
That’s what he’s conveying. I’m sure he’s a nice man, but the delivery of his message even soft spoken, is manipulation.
You are good enough for the right man and he will be good enough for you.
I know what he’s saying is what he wants and the way he sees it Men compare us to others always have and always will they are competitive creatures. They will communicate that way. I could not get through this video.
I’m not a feminist and I respect men who have confidence, even the ones that don’t I wish they had it for everyone’s sake.
I’m sorry but I there is a God that brings people together and helps to work on their differences. There is such a thing as chemistry as well and someone who needs you in their life. Remember, honor and respect for him and from him. Be blessed and ask God for the right man, you only need one. 💕 I know this message is a year after you wrote it so if “he” hasn’t found you I hope he will soon!
@@create773 You are so kind. You moved me to tears. I am on the spectrum so I struggle with all the subtle nuances of relationships plus I don't fall into a set gender or sexual identity. I can't be the kind of woman that Mat talks about. I went undiagnosed until late 40s so I learned to suppress my true self to try and fit in. I'm trying to find my true self again.
MindOfHerOwn I hope you don’t mind if I write back. Anyhow here it is...I think we all shrink back to what society has done to us, all of us not just women. Some men feel just as hopeless, if we try to fit in and the end result is trying to please everyone....that is really impossible. I remember years ago when I was younger I felt that way too, but believe me there is a God that will show us us the way out. Be confident and all you have to do is call on Him, He shows up in ways we cannot explain or even expect...I believe these are His words for you. May God bless you and free you. I appreciated your sincere comment. Be blessed! 💖
@@create773 It's not to be understood as a set of rules to follow to be an "acceptable" woman. No need to devalue what this guy says.
This is so spot on ...I teach this to women but loved hearing it and will be sharing this! Thank you!
That was beautiful. Not easy to achieve when looking at what a woman needs to be to survive in this world. But such a sense of calm and warmth came while listening to this. It's worth working towards.
I am Specheless!!!
John ,LoVe You Vulnerability,Honesty.
Lady's we are here to learn and LoVe.
His way ll work!!! Leave me with Hope for all of us.
Greatful🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
After a few weeks of watching and intensively practicing what John provided on his website, all this makes so much sense! I simply love this man🙏☀️♥️
You beautiful man. Please continue your work. It is a gift to the world. You touched my heart and I cried.
Surrender is so difficult when men act as if they aren’t phased by anything because they are detached from how they feel
Within themselves. Most men are numbed out. Disconnected from self due to core wounds , usually mother related core wounds. Men act macho but are actually fragile , in the attempt to hide this fragile state , men resist vulnerability. How the hell do u see surrender to a man that’s avoiding being vulnerable and egoless?
I'm a man and what you said is true... but not all are like this. Some are true to their emotions
Vulnerability is strength
hold space and create an environment free from judgement to allow them to express vulnerability.
That’s an excellent observation and a very difficult question for me to answer. It’s frustrating right?
Men are very capable of feeling emotions as intensely as women do, but it is more difficult for some due to conditioning, to express or show them.
There are some men that are very damaged and completely emotionally unavailable (some women too) and I would say that unless that person is trying to get help, or is aware and working on themselves, do not get involved. If red flags are showing up, take notice and move on with kindness xx
the content is so releasing, simple, easy, clear.
And more stunning is the way you pass it. Your slow smoth voice, the time you give yourself to find and place your words. I will do something with it, if thats ok.
Excellent talk, very heartfelt and full of great practical information.
What I noticed was conscious effort to be present and in self-integrity. That must have been intense !! So much good stuff here beyond just the words.
Made me shimmer. The way you talk, very slowly and confidently. Gets right to the core. Thanks for sharing this info. Hope many more women figure this out and the 'fighting' begins to end between men and women.
I loved this video. So glad to welcome and invite men to awakening. We have been waiting for you. ❤️
Your presentation and this content is beautiful and incredible. Life changing. My goal - my resolution for this new decade which coincides with my 60th birthday in a few days - is to put this into practice with my man, to get curious, to *be* curious before assuming, to show him again and again that he loves me well, to acknowledge him, and to inform him often that I trust him on this journey. Thank you. Subscribed.
Had to save this because this is SUCH a sweet video. Thanks, John. When I find my forever man, this'll definitely come in handy!
Thanks for sharing...I love it! This is brilliant advice and information that I have taken to heart and applied.
John, what a powerful insightful talk about the inner workings of men and what a gift it is for us to be so different from men. It's what attracts us to each other and it's why we need each other for Love, balance, well-being, happiness and fullfillment. I'ld love to have you on our show to talk about this at greater length. Great job
I enjoyed this. It isn’t revelatory in any way. It’s just that it hasn’t been spoken about very much. My main takeaway from John’s speaking about masculine/feminine energy is that this exchange and this vulnerability that must be shared between a couple is a two-way street. I’ve listened to some of his interviews and podcasts and he does stress the importance of men building and maintaining trust with their partner. That’s so important. And communication obviously. Trust and communication are core pillars at the heart of all solid relationships. Be they romantic, personal or professional. But! What John teaches on top of this about the feminine and masculine energy is quite revelatory, reaffirming, new and at the same time familiar. It connects with something men and women, masculine and feminine people feel, but struggle to express. I found this very helpful. 🙏
This is everything, Thank you John. Thank you Rich for inviting this man to speak.Lead me, hold space, feel into this, into me, into us. THat us all I want to speak into the heart of the divine masculine. So much depth and so much space in this open flow of love. I am here to hear you, men. I am grateful fo you, fo this work, for your honesty and bravey. Thank you John. TO slow down, to do less, to try less. TO listen to you, men is learn to love you- AS you are. I will do my best to contemplate this wisdom daily, in all of the work and play. Deeply curious- and fully trusting life. Trusting men, Trusting the divine. Loving all of our differences, our needs, our boundaries, our intention to come into union and creates something extraordinary out of every moment we get to experience, learn, and revere each other. Now what do we want to create? Love, space, truth, joy, prosperity. Unity.
It's my first time with you. A man with an open soul. . . Thank you
Really cool.. how u took time, sort of felt u were channeling.. I enjoyed the moving part like her hips move r like the ocean.. The right guy would appreciate that..
Thanks John, love n light 💚💫💝
Beloved❤ With much softest and deep devotion I thank you for this transition and truth. It is a delight to hear the voice of our men, my soul is in blossom. Your words land deep in my inner chambers and on ready and fertile ground. Come, let us play together and remember that it is really that gracious ❤
Outstanding information!! I'm so glad I found your channel. I have subscribed and I look forward to learning more. Thank you so very much!!
this made me cry in the best way
thank you so much dear. keep up the soul work! x
This was amazing talk thank you from the bottom of my heart... I hope this helps my future 🙏 ❤
Spot on, love this and love your vulnerability John xxxxxxxx
What a wonderful talk from a wonderful man. Thank you.
I just found you, Claire brought me here. I saw a clip about her passing and even though I didn't know anything about her or her journey. I found myself watching her you tube channel and following her story. My heart broke for a beautiful young woman I had never met. Finding her led me to finding you. My lessons to be learned are many and I look forward to what you have to teach......
Thank you. It’s very wise and even showing vulnerability to know this and say this. Thank you
So very illuminating, thank you!!!
Incredible work and teachings. Thank You!
Beautiful! Thank you for all the work you do! ♥️
This is truly beautiful ❤ thank you so much for this. This truly changed something in me ❤️
John: This is absolutely beautiful ... Thank you ❤️
I listened to this video and it was easy to understand how he is showing the differences between men and women - very useful information that i have been teaching.
This is so powerful. Thank you.
This is one of the best videos I have listened to in a while. I loved all of it and especially the part where you shared how the Patriarchy behaved prior and that we should not put up with men’s bullshit.
Women usually put up with men’s bullshit when we do not know ourselves and are desperate just to have someone in our lives. There are many levels to this and especially important for us to truly to Know Thyself.
I especially like when you suggested how we move our bodies around y’all, even while making tea. I am so aware of this and also recognize when a man does not respond in appreciation it is time to leave.
It usually means they are not interested in you for true companionship.
Many thanks.
Omg perfection..this was respectfully put and definitely understood..
What an amazing video. I have been happily married for 10 years to an amazingly awesome man & everything you spoke of is right on. This truly touched me & is kind of scary how well it hit home. My husband & I have a beautiful relationship & we are always striving to make it better & better but there are always things that can be worked on. After listening to you I now know of many different ways I can handle certain situations to make things better between us, the biggest one being how I definitely let him know when I think he screwed up but I don't give him enough credit or attention when he truly tries & is giving me exactly what I want & that isn't fair of me. I know that sometimes I take advantage of or just don't appreciate enough the wonderful man I have in my life all over me thinking he's the same & sees things the same as I do, but that's not true. What is so true is that men & women are different in so many ways & celebrating the differences is an amazing perspective that brings us closer instead of worrying & getting angry over why we don't think the same or see things a certain way or feel the same way. Thank you for speaking from the heart, this gave me a lot of peace & more appreciation for my relationship.
Thank you. This is helping me to understand better some things I didn’t know and remind me of things I did. 😌👍 thank you.
i'm reading all the comments and i just love that women want you to be exact....LOL...just what women want! women are NOT all the same. Apply this man's words to YOUR situation. he's actually giving you the gift of figuring out how this applies to you and your love. it's meant to be "vague". figure it out for yourself, no one else. that's the beauty. THIS IS A GIFT. (and i'm a woman who is so thankful for this insight.)
Well said, thought and processed
Thank you John. What gift you gave us women 🙏
Stunning!! Thank-you!
That is so helpful!! Thank you!!♡♡
Thank you for sharing that with us!
I love this, super grateful! Tears! ✨💖🙏🏽
Beautiful!! thank you
Wow - love this thank you :)
This is so eleoquently expressed and therefore can be received. I see. I hear. I understand. 🙏👑
He nailed us....
So deep. I will take all of this to heart ❤️
Sharing our deepest emotions its spot on for me. 👌😊
I revisit this often💙 never fails to move me
So I followed this advice and went there and told him how I felt, desire, longing and all, he called me scary. I think most people are not ready for this.
Don't forget that being raised by women. We are taught that our needs are wrong. And we are taught to serve.
Must be intetesting thing to see,cause i have seen the opposite. The Girls are told what they want and that their needs come last and are wrong as well as the boys are valued much more than the girls so much so that girls are darn near not protected.
BlackDoll Nerd I cannot believe you’d make that comment in this day and age
@@willnill7946
It honestly goes both ways, depending on certain factors like culure, religion, the family's mentality...etc.
@@luolumen6816 religion is big factor for old school souls. Is waiting for marriage a buzz kill vibe because a man cant take care of on his own, until he has (and his partner) worked to be loyal to one person.
Profound - thank you!
John
This is so stunning. Thank you. xo
Beautiful speech
Honestly #1 is the most important to me, and I'm a very not "typical" man. I'm a bit if a femme, I don't watch sports, I can talk about my feelings, etc. But I'm a man.
Most of my youth I felt like there was no real difference between men and women and little by little I can understand as I understood myself more and more of that that was complete foolishness. It's okay for us to be different, even with our endless variety we're not the same.
Thank you, deeply.
Thank you
I loved this.
Lots of things I have known, but not understood. Thank you for the clarity.
My husband thanks yous too 😉
Wow this was great esoteric info :)
Listening to you makes me feel good as a woman, proud to be who I am. I look for authentic relationships
This touched me so deeply
i really love this ❤
VERY ENLIGHTENING AND INSPIRING☺
I really liked this video.
I can hear that he spoke out of his heart and I appreciate his openness. However I feel like that most of the things he mentioned are also characteristics that I look for in a man and in a relationship. Especcially the part about vulnerability and feeling like the other person "needs" us, or is in pain when we aren't with them. I think that this desire to feel needed by a partner is not strictly gendered but goes both ways.
Either way, it is always a good thing to hear another persons perspective.
Touched me deeply.
Thank you so much🙏🙏🙏
soooo beautiful!!!!!!! thank you!!!!
Beautiful!
Cept the whole moving your hips part when making tea, the ''it's not how she thinks, it's how she moves'', kinda liked this video. The range part is spot on seriously, also, I would have added: surrender as much as we surrender ourselves!
right. always asking women to trust and give in like it's one sided
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Ugh!!! 😑
He’s so present. I love listening and watching him. He’s not particularly the “HOTTEST” guy, but becuz he “knows” it makes him extremely attractive. Thank you John for being so attractive. And thank you for understanding we need to be angry sometimes ☺️
Calling all humans, this is really great
How bout one for what women crave and mutual communication ?
No shortage of that whatsoever. It is found in every single magazine, every channel, every talk show, every day. 😆
Beautiful ❤
Love this. Thank you John.
I don’t think women understand how much men don’t really care about your education, your job or how much money you make. We care more about what kind of person you and and how you treat us and others. I see women on dating sites writing all these things about their great job and life, lawyer, doctors etc and a lot of us men just swipe left because of that. For women it’s the opposite so you all really need to understand how men thinks or marriage rates will continue to drop and there will be a lot of unmarried, unhappy, and childless 40 and 50 year olds.
Right on !👍🏻so true
Respect
Really well done, John.
Thanks Brother, I appreciate that
No one should surrender to anyone, that's just bunk.