Temple Grandin Christmas Party With Meltdown For Dessert

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  • @vickykulig5080
    @vickykulig5080 Рік тому +32

    They were totally gaslighting her! By saying things like when she liked living in the west “I’m sure you do but it isn’t home” and when she said their son used to spit in her jello “I’m sure he didn’t” just very condescending towards her…

    • @laceandribbonsviolin
      @laceandribbonsviolin 11 днів тому +1

      I can see both sides. Yes they seemed condescending and they probably were. The first thing is most people assume you muss home so it’s just polite conversation.
      The second thing was glossing over it. Maybe they never saw him act that way; parents protect their kids. And it was their way to smooth over the convo. What would you say? “i know I wasn’t there to see if you did that, but shame on you!”? It was their subtle way of saying a) it was in the past b) Temple, you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. They probably thought “he could have but we’ve seen how much he’s grown since then. Let’s not bring it up; let’s focus on how we can connect moving forward.
      Maybe there was a way the parents could’ve supported both of them and held both of them accountable. It’s just hard to do that when you’re thinking on your feet in polite conversation. Hard for NTs and neurodivergents too. I feel like I’m in both worlds because I’m def neurodivergent but through music I’ve learned so much more about social interaction: to recognize patterns and express myself through music first and then words.

  • @NewLegendPictures
    @NewLegendPictures 8 років тому +220

    Scott's parents talk to her like she's an idiot. She's the most intelligent person in the room.

    • @mightykeefauver1080
      @mightykeefauver1080 7 років тому +9

      New Legend Pictures in scientific sense, yes.
      But she has no social grace, so in this situation it's not a true statement.

    • @amandajudith9536
      @amandajudith9536 4 роки тому +1

      Yeah that’s true

    • @sampeacaml9307
      @sampeacaml9307 4 роки тому +12

      @@mightykeefauver1080 Pesky social grace, without which neurotypicals (in general) won't listen to you.

    • @brandirowe1973
      @brandirowe1973 4 роки тому +2

      She’s very smart

    • @lilbit2870
      @lilbit2870 3 роки тому +19

      @@mightykeefauver1080 actually it's true. It's those that don't understand or embrace the brilliant mind of a person with autism.
      Just bc her social skills are not on par with Nuero-Typicals. Doesn't mean she isn't the smartest person in the room. In fact Temple.is on a genius level unlike those other people.
      So please tell me how exactly she isn't the smartest person in that room?

  • @atiqahdiyana5665
    @atiqahdiyana5665 19 днів тому +18

    Honestly if she was talking to me, I would have been fascinated. Even if it wasn't my field of study. Listening to someone talking passionately about their fav topic is always such a pleasant experience

  • @jaredjds2011
    @jaredjds2011 3 роки тому +89

    Why were they weirded out with what she was saying??? She was literally explaining what she wanted to do.

    • @iandoe8793
      @iandoe8793 Рік тому

      Cause they’re unsympathetic jerks!

    • @IhaytFukkingsocialmedia
      @IhaytFukkingsocialmedia Рік тому

      because there are a lot of judgmental, dismissive assholes in the world.

    • @gabrielp7226
      @gabrielp7226 4 місяці тому +7

      Actually, they got tired of listening to those details about cattle according to Temple Grandin’s mother.

    • @nomiadventurer
      @nomiadventurer 16 днів тому +4

      The comment about their son was a social no no. They obviously don’t believe people should actually be held accountable for their actions by other people that werent there at the time. That concerned the dad a lot.
      The rest of it was just not impressive or interesting to them because it wasnt a popular magazine. And she probably wasnt concise enough or humble enough about her achievements as a woman in the 70s for their taste

    • @vernar.4450
      @vernar.4450 10 днів тому

      Because they’re faking to be nice.
      They are not ’ tired of listening to details ’, Temple didn’t even started the conversation.
      People, mostly Neurotypicals, are really good at hearing without listening, and they look down on autistic people as if we were illiterate.

  • @seanwalsh5717
    @seanwalsh5717 9 місяців тому +8

    0:40 He did spit in her jello. Bullying is one of the most pervasive shared experiences among autistic people.

  • @raea3588
    @raea3588 8 років тому +121

    What I love about this movie is that it's so raw and so real and so true about what it is like to have autism!

  • @HarryPotter87
    @HarryPotter87 10 років тому +144

    I could understand Temple's anger about people and parties. Growing up, I used to isolate myself away from bigger crowds at parties. Truth is, I'm autistic. I love going to gatherings!!

    • @webkinzservicedog2803
      @webkinzservicedog2803 8 років тому +1

      +HarryPotter87 I agree

    • @Shannonbarnesdr1
      @Shannonbarnesdr1 8 років тому +13

      autistics need to be able to go to socisal stuff but enjoyt it in our own way and do it our way and not be forced to doit '' like the normals''... and allow us a way out if we had enough... just ass alot of normal folks will leave, get upset, panic, and so on when they have had too much of this or that

    • @orlandobabe
      @orlandobabe 6 років тому +3

      It makes me think about my mother telling me to my face "I am so glad that you and your sisters were not born autistic" it hurt to hear that. And it still does.

    • @TheRojo387
      @TheRojo387 6 років тому +1

      Kolin Zuver You guys are all stupid. You'll brazenly provoke dehumanising hostility against yourselves by identifying so willingly with an obviously dehumanising label.

    • @DrumWild
      @DrumWild 6 років тому +4

      That room, with all of the people, the lights, and the "Cocktail Effect" of all the voices, is a nightmare. Plus, the people cornering her and firing off question after questions, with suggestions, and no breathing room.
      I never knew why I felt that way until I got my Asperger's diagnosis.
      Whenever I go to a party, I will often know where the coat check room is located, so that I can hide and "re-charge" when needed.
      I don't try to talk at parties, because people will talk over me, and the point will be lost.

  • @HeathRios-e6o
    @HeathRios-e6o 22 години тому

    I love this Temple. Her lectures are amazing and I for one could listen to her talk all day long and soak up the beautiful unfiltered knowledge she has like rays of sunlight. God bless her heart ❤️

  • @lovelyswimmer1
    @lovelyswimmer1 3 роки тому +33

    Those people were very condescending towards her. I'm sorry she had to deal with that.

  • @alittlepieceofearth
    @alittlepieceofearth 19 днів тому +4

    The scene with the mom is absolutely stunning. 1000 points for the writer and each of the actresses. Absolutely beautifully crafted. Well done.

  • @javielalvarez1724
    @javielalvarez1724 7 років тому +55

    I love Temple! She is a person to look up to! I am an autistic guy!

  • @kiwuwuwu
    @kiwuwuwu 4 роки тому +32

    I watched this with my family when I was really young, and I can see it was sort of like my parents way to explain my own autism. I love this movie so much. It really inspires that anyone can truly do anything.
    I don’t know much to say but I love how they did this movie.

  • @CanadianMonarchist
    @CanadianMonarchist 4 роки тому +13

    The actress who plays Mrs. Grandin is gorgeous!

  • @zyxw2000
    @zyxw2000 19 днів тому +2

    Grandin's an extraordinary woman. She spends a great deal of time working to benefit animals.

  • @SepherStar
    @SepherStar 12 років тому +60

    I want to hear all of those details about cattle. In fact, I think I'll go watch a cattle video right now. Cheers:-)

    • @dianatrejo2006
      @dianatrejo2006 7 років тому

      SepherStar 😂🙂

    • @elsakristina2689
      @elsakristina2689 6 років тому +1

      SepherStar I don't know much about cattle but I do know that the Dinka tribe of South Sudan love their cows to the point where they play a big role in their culture. And my uncle used to have about 600 cows on his dairy when he lived there, and I always looked forward to "visiting" them. I even watched the birth of a calf one or two times and I remember I covered my ears because the cow would scream so loud, lol

  • @andrewlien3579
    @andrewlien3579 Рік тому +4

    She’s very smart about animals. I feel happy for her knowledge with animals. I don’t like crowds and parties either because of my autism.

  • @longyearsbehind
    @longyearsbehind 8 місяців тому +2

    Claire Danes and Julia Ormond so much look alike. When I watched Claire Danes in little women years ago I thought she was like spitting image of Julia Ormond then.

  • @ambersimpson911
    @ambersimpson911 5 років тому +18

    I can totally relate to her feeling in
    Crowds of people.

  • @sampeacaml9307
    @sampeacaml9307 4 роки тому +18

    - I will never learn how to do that.
    Man, that hit hard.

    • @IhaytFukkingsocialmedia
      @IhaytFukkingsocialmedia Рік тому +3

      it might have helped to teach her how to do a very specific thing, very specific movement and just follow it when she wants to express love.

  • @HingWenYi
    @HingWenYi Рік тому +7

    When your mom is a therapist and you struggled with masking.

  • @annieslots2941
    @annieslots2941 5 років тому +15

    I have autism and I can relate to this. I have anxiety with people. Things have gotten as an adult and I use my coping tools. Her mother reminds me of my mother, who is supportive of my autism with unconditional love.

  • @kh22912
    @kh22912 6 років тому +17

    I can empathize with her. I am not autistic BUT I have some degree of social anxiety which sometimes interferes with me being with too many strangers

  • @macaronifanatic7287
    @macaronifanatic7287 8 років тому +33

    Can relate on every level.

  • @IndridCold
    @IndridCold 7 років тому +26

    This movie and this scene particularly, helped my husband to understand how I was different from him.

    • @BrendaComeaux
      @BrendaComeaux  7 років тому +7

      I'm so glad. It helped me and a lot of others like us.

    • @IndridCold
      @IndridCold 7 років тому +3

  • @stormgirl09
    @stormgirl09 5 років тому +25

    you'd think as you get older you grow out of things or improve coping skills with age but as I get older i just get more and more like her in this scene....except instead of a squeeze machine i just want to stare at my phone or be totally alone....it sucks honestly. I have autism(obviously) and go to day program. i take the paratransit bus and sometimes they have to go out of their typical route to pick up others before dropping us off...i was sick of being on the bus so long with all those people i started to have a meltdown similar to this.....just wishing i was in the comfort of my own room instead of outside in the big ol' world....:/ i think this is one of the reasons why they invented noise canceling headphones....more like "can y'all please just f*** off" headphones are more like it! lol....

    • @BrendaComeaux
      @BrendaComeaux  5 років тому +3

      It's gotten worse for me since hitting menopause.

    • @sampeacaml9307
      @sampeacaml9307 4 роки тому +4

      Well...I don't mind parties every once in awhile, especially when it involves a theme that I like, like Halloween or Tiki or Old-school, but I would not go to a bar dance every night... And I am an Aspie bigender one. I just hate when people walk behind me when I'm on the computer, it always makes me tense up a lot. And I hate when people grab my shoulders by surprise and tease me when I haven't drink my coffee, yet. And strangely enough, I can watch a horror movie because I can predict when the jumpscares will arrive (and make it a game), though I have to wear ear-plugs when I see one in the theater. But I kinda like the adrenaline rush I get with scary movies, in moderation.

  • @elsakristina2689
    @elsakristina2689 6 років тому +15

    I don't experience meltdowns or shutdowns so I don't really know what it's like, but my dad does experience shutdowns, he hates the smell and taste of burnt food and that's a trigger for him. I like parties cause I like to talk to people. But I'm angry that people don't like to listen when we go into detail, and I will never learn to make eye contact either, I hate that. It should go away.

    • @IhaytFukkingsocialmedia
      @IhaytFukkingsocialmedia Рік тому

      omg i dont blame him. my thing is sound. i cant stand soft sounds, i like loud, harsh sounds. i also get triggered by soft gentle movements and touch, like irritating folds on my socks. i like strong hard touch like deep tissue massage. Literally seeing men gently stroke their beards makes me CRAZY and i have to get away.

  • @ChallysAnimatedLife
    @ChallysAnimatedLife 22 дні тому +3

    Why am I not surprised there would be judgement rich people in Bronxville, NY. I know that area very well lol.

    • @zyxw2000
      @zyxw2000 19 днів тому

      So do I. It's just north of me. And years ago, they didn't allow Jews to buy homes. Don't panic; it's not so anymore.

  • @aaronberns8485
    @aaronberns8485 3 роки тому +7

    This movie is so underrated.

  • @evahoerler2304
    @evahoerler2304 6 років тому +19

    I love her so much. I wish I was like her. People on the spectrum are more evolved. Stay awesome ✌

  • @iandoe8793
    @iandoe8793 3 роки тому +7

    1:30 I have those thoughts all the time. Also, I like her mom but I don’t like how she is defending the idiots at the party, why can’t she just agree 100% with Temple?

  • @higherground337
    @higherground337 2 роки тому +7

    I think I might be autistic and I can't understand what Temple did "wrong" in this scene. Was it bringing negativity into the conversation when she mentioned the badly designed systems? I'd love to listen to Temple talk in depth about cattle at a party, even though I'm not interested in cattle. I love it when people are passionate about what they do. Isn't that what life's all about?

    • @Nepthu
      @Nepthu 7 місяців тому +2

      What she did was awkward, not "wrong." First off, the guy was a snob, so when she mentioned the name of her publication, it didn't sound prestigious in his eyes. Then when she mentioned good and bad "moos," it sounded childlike. Her unusual tone of voice and darting eyes combined with the subject matter was off-putting. The main problem is that she was talking to a snob.

  • @WhatWouldNinjaDo1
    @WhatWouldNinjaDo1 7 місяців тому +2

    01:52 I tear up everytime

  • @Bozewani
    @Bozewani 8 років тому +17

    i too endured institutional ableism in my high school proved them wrong did my doctorate in international law from Oxford work at the international criminal court speak 13 languages have an amazing girlfriend raw raw just raw

    • @emmabritton5923
      @emmabritton5923 7 років тому

      Roman Soiko albeism is being albino

    • @TheRojo387
      @TheRojo387 6 років тому

      Emma Britton "Ableism", he said, which means "discrimination based on ability/disability".

    • @Bozewani
      @Bozewani 5 років тому

      yes I was oppositionaly ocd odd bipolar dperssed to heal from all that abuse takes a long more then tim hortons free beer and free pizza @@TheRojo387

    • @TheRojo387
      @TheRojo387 5 років тому

      @@Bozewani Long time, no see, Roman!

  • @BrendaComeaux
    @BrendaComeaux  12 років тому +30

    I understand. I think people must be sick of me spitting out facts, but I can't see myself chatting about things that don't matter. I can give you a complete his as to the cause of the Rwandan genocide, but I have no idea who the kardashians are, or what they do.

    • @dianatrejo2006
      @dianatrejo2006 7 років тому +1

      Brenda Comeaux 😂 Same

    • @CanadianMonarchist
      @CanadianMonarchist 4 роки тому +3

      I would much rather discuss the causes of the Rwandan genocide than the Kardashians.

    • @The_Notorious_N.O.E.
      @The_Notorious_N.O.E. 4 роки тому +2

      Everything i know about the Kardashians i learned against my will 🙄

    • @lydiaboll2872
      @lydiaboll2872 2 роки тому +1

      Same. I could tell you all about how Poland was treated by the Russians before WWI, but I can’t remember anything I learned in 11th grade Physical Science.

  • @Sdoddi
    @Sdoddi 3 роки тому +6

    i want to hear more about cattle than the casual conversation.

  • @mariafox9226
    @mariafox9226 5 років тому +9

    You need to relabel this title. She’s not having a meltdown at all. Parties and shouting can be sensory overloads for people with autism.

  • @kmlkml6048
    @kmlkml6048 6 років тому +6

    This movie gives me strength to go ahead with my autistic child. Hope god has kept something special for him aswell.

    • @abigailtrumbo178
      @abigailtrumbo178 Рік тому

      I know this is an old comment but autism, ADHD, etc. exist for a reason. Your child is important and made for something other than average. I’m parenting an ADHD child whom I now suspect may be on the autistic spectrum too and it’s so clear that these are not broken people….they are unique and insightful. Expecting them to be usual is what breaks them.

  • @hannahlynn8028
    @hannahlynn8028 3 роки тому +4

    Did she really go in details about the cattle though? she spoke a few sentences, same as other people do, to give a little context. she just didn't have social graces, that's all

  • @selbst105
    @selbst105 4 роки тому +2

    thank you for the video. there are important thoughts in the film.

  • @RamonaLeigh
    @RamonaLeigh 7 років тому +10

    My all time favourite movie ever.

  • @azcardguy7825
    @azcardguy7825 21 день тому

    The woman that plays her mother in this movie is absolutely terrific

  • @megspitzer9406
    @megspitzer9406 4 роки тому +5

    This is how I feel when I go to weddings and Bar/Bat Mitzvahs. These events are just not my taste of interest.

  • @morbid_corner
    @morbid_corner 3 роки тому +5

    I can relate so much!

  • @cochiefemeralds3616
    @cochiefemeralds3616 4 роки тому +6

    I have autism and cPTSD and always get invalidated so I know

  • @JoJo-zz7el
    @JoJo-zz7el 3 роки тому +5

    Sia could never🙄

  • @roseystudio10
    @roseystudio10 3 роки тому +3

    I actually want to hear about those cattle now...

  • @LuisAngel-wh4my
    @LuisAngel-wh4my 7 років тому +6

    I do have high-functional autism

  • @hereford89
    @hereford89 Рік тому +3

    I want to watch it . I know that feeling when you know what something and you explain it and ppl look at you stupid . This scene angers me because that's how my life is sometimes. I know I'm different. But ppl act like they are alot smarter . It's annoying. I'm on the spectrum. I understand this scene

  • @BodaciousWench
    @BodaciousWench 10 днів тому

    She didn’t have meltdown for dessert. She got upset because people didn’t care about what she was talking about.

  • @eurekal1903
    @eurekal1903 5 років тому +3

    In the name of lion king we should get cattle systemized

  • @Alina-pf3ob
    @Alina-pf3ob 16 днів тому

    They refused to admit their son was a bully, that's say a lot about them.

  • @namelessnick9791
    @namelessnick9791 6 років тому +3

    3:00 best ending to a video ever

  • @robwarren4998
    @robwarren4998 2 роки тому +2

    I don’t see autism as a disability. I see it as a different ability.

    • @broistyping
      @broistyping 2 роки тому +2

      hi, im autistic, and i, along with the majority of autistic people, really dont like when people use terms like "different ability" or "special needs" for us. its fine to just call us autistic and/or disabled. those arent bad words. please dont feel the need to avoid them.

    • @Ottophil
      @Ottophil 11 місяців тому

      @@broistypinghi I’m autistic. I hate when we tell other people what words to say. Let them say what they want. Not everyone needs to be corrected.

  • @Blancanieves1996
    @Blancanieves1996 4 роки тому +1

    I am interesting in a temple grandin conversation theme

  • @athoscolon8629
    @athoscolon8629 3 роки тому +1

    You like 👍 the west I like 👍 the east side location Florida

  • @michellespencer8838
    @michellespencer8838 5 днів тому

    I will be 60 12,,02 and I believe I suffer this I've always had these same triggers tics all of it it's very s ary

  • @sophiehanssel2017
    @sophiehanssel2017 5 років тому +2

    She's a woman with autism like me😊

  • @tomcat7843
    @tomcat7843 День тому

    It funny when snooty people find i am a farmer they always start makeing stupid jokes. My response is you can disparage farmers all you want..just dont do it with your mouth full

  • @mattiassanchez8003
    @mattiassanchez8003 7 років тому +4

    That part was almost great, though it was ruined when temple says "I will never learn how to do that". It just doesn't match with the scene...

    • @StikWitClassics
      @StikWitClassics 6 років тому +7

      It does because she's saying she doesn't know how to communicate with her eyes how she shows love.

  • @ameliabuckley3964
    @ameliabuckley3964 7 років тому +1

    Movie name? :) I work with autistics as a TA in an autistic school and this looks interesting, I love Temple!

  • @Blancanieves1996
    @Blancanieves1996 5 років тому +1

    Temple yo se como te sientes

  • @ElizabethHurtado-py8ur
    @ElizabethHurtado-py8ur 5 годин тому

    ⬆️🇺🇲🖊️

  • @annabelledoulton2421
    @annabelledoulton2421 Рік тому

    Imagine if it were male. We would the difference be?