Yandy & Mendeecees: Is Love Worth Fighting For? 💔 Love & Hip Hop Atlanta
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- Опубліковано 9 кві 2024
- Yandy and Mendeecees' relationship as they know it is approaching a point of no return.
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Once Yandy found out that her husband wouldn’t ride for her if she was in jail she lost respect for him.
📌 Rightfully so.
For sure 😅
When was this? I missed something
@@Just-YOLANDA-T.CLove and hip hop family reunion
Yeah he should have never let that thought leave his head. That's INSANE
See this is why I will never do a bid with a dude. You sacrifice so much money, time, energy, no sex, all while your holding him down just for him to get out and tell you he doesn't want to watch the kids for a week while your on a business trip.
Right for him to get out and have the nerve to say the bs that he said to her. That's why I call him Manfeces 😂
That's her husband not her boyfriend and that man is saying he feeling single in a marriage....he saying he need love and yandy is not giving it to him ...😂😅
She doesn’t understand a partnership a marriage she wants to be the boss and delegate what even he does she will not let him be the man because of how they got together she was never feminine in they marriage a wife sets the tone and how can she set the tone if she is never there
@@LoveNiki47 I never said he can't or shouldn't compromise... But we are all watching the same show... Yandy definitely moves around a lot they both need to listen to each other
Exactly… his bid, brought out the independence she has developed and he’s willing to leave because he feels deprioritized. I’m not even a fan of Yandy and saw this coming a few seasons back.. he was in love with the “wishful” or “aspiring” Yandy, not the one that made it… I’ll never do a bid with a dude again.
As a man I am infuriated with Mendeecees. Yandy held down this relationship when he effed up. She was a single parent holding down the household, being mother and father, putting her dreams and desires on hold, having to put up with two atrociously awful ex-things of Mendeecees, having to deal with the disrespect from his mother and the frustration from her friends..... only for him to be insecure that he isn't stepping up and feeling shame and guilt and can't get his 'ish together because Yandy is now finding her new groove! I'm proper vexed big time. I'd love a sit down with him to point this all out!
He needs to be very careful otherwise he will lose his rock Yandy! She is a great woman and any other man....a real man... would love to have her in his life! Get your ish together Mendeecees!
Like she supposed to. If was other way around he would do the same. U can’t be so busey That u for get you have a husband at home.
@@TeteWhitehe told her if it was the other way around he would not do the same. 😂
@@TeteWhiteI don’t think she leaves him out or think she don’t have a husband at home I think he jealous of her she gotta hold her business down because if he bring more money in the house she don’t have to be so busy
@@TeteWhiteYour comment actually wreaks of absolute Nonsense, Narcissism and Ign.rance😏 Seek help and fast😏
@@TeteWhiteHe was supposed to go with her! He decided not to go! His fault!
She did it alone for so long and I think she is still in that mindset
right and quite frankly he needs to recognize that and make her feel secure enough to realize that she can fall back. She is not the only one that has to do work here.
It’s not that she’s still in that mindset, it’s that she’s finally free from having to maintain that mindset and may now be over exercising that freedom. It’s understandable. She may just have to reign it in a touch and prioritize her family before it falls apart
@@LaurenKChannel Hun you said a whole mouth full. I absolutely agree!✔️✔️✔️
For so long it was four years
💯 Not including years prior, she did have a life before him. Gotta know the back story to understand her present/future. 💯
If it was the other way around he would tell her he’s providing and taking care of his family such a double standard Smfh
no he wont he already told her he wouldnt ride for her if she was in jail. how you get that that DAY she shoulda left.
Facts
You’re absolutely correct. Total double standard.👍
Right
The woman is not supposed to be the provide his the man of the house he can do that she’s too independent
Imagine holding down a man when he went to prison. When he got out, he dragged on marrying you. Told you that if the tables were turned, he wouldn’t hold you down. And now has the *audacity* to try and guilt trip you out of pursuing your passions because he has none…
This just shows no matter how much a woman gives up for a relationship, a selfish, entitled, egotistical man will still find something to complain about. If he wanted things to be like they were before he went to prison, he shouldn’t have did the things that put him there.
Child, boo...
BAM!!! You summed it up perfectly!!!! THIS! Ladies today need to take note!!!
The audacity of him smfh!
Well, she could have left him
That part!!!!!
A man is your worst hater. He wants her full attention but she’s held him down. She’s did all she had to she wants to live her life a little . For him to say he don’t think yandy love him is ungrateful
How get them is how you lose them at the end
She can love him and not be in love with him. And I think this is the issue here. Her family isn't her greatest accomplishment it no longer brings her fulfillment, and that's clear.
He ponk this is about a woman neglecting her man and not fulfilling his needs ofc you wouldn’t understand that you don’t date women
He may have eyes somewhere else, so he starting to nitpick things at home.
@@sharnanbarreauny6535As a woman who’s dated both, men are the biggest headaches because they tend to chase perfection while women tend to be more compromising and understanding which, is why she stuck by him choosing to be a jailbird while he’s commented he wouldn’t have done the same in return. I don’t like Yandy but she’s done a lot for him, raised his sons he had with other baby mamas and foot the bill for everything. Also, So many men conveniently forget that they have to fulfill their wives needs too. That man starved her emotionally and sexually while he was away in prison for years. He’s in no position to make demands and should focus on making it up to his wife and kids for not being there due to his own selfish choices. Such a double standard, women have to be perfect partners while men get to be useless in the relationship because let’s be honest, Mendeecees doesn’t really bring anything to the table besides baby mamas, debt and humiliation. If men held themselves to the same standards they try to impose on women, they’d be listen to and respected more.
Lmao this the same man that said out his mouth he wouldn’t hold his wife down like she did for him if the tables turned. Sorry Yandy ain’t wrong
He is speaking up without acting up, pouring his heart out and asking her to hear him. This is beautiful I pray over them.
This is manipulation 101😂😂
Yes, it is beautiful.. THIS is what marriage looks like in REAL life. I’m no fan of Yandy but I get her finally being able to do things she’s wanted to do while he was gone and now he’s here so she doesn’t have to figure out what to do with the kids.. I also understand Mendeecee because men have needs 🙄 lol JK but for real men have needs, they want to feel loved, they want to feel needed. And right now Yandy is at a point in her life where she really doesn’t need him financially. Women need security! Once we establish security on our own, we’re looking at the man like 🫤 “Yandy’s face at 4:36”.. I don’t want them to divorce.. I hope they seek counseling 🫶🏾🩷
@@STackinDreI bet your single
He literally said he would not hold her down if she was the one who had to go to prison. He can’t watch his kids for a week while she did for 4 years?! He is ridiculous. He has no respect at all to even complain. He is ungrateful
@@Beyondblessed261what does her being single have to do with it. A man with several baby mommas, a clingy mother and jail time is no price. Especially if he can’t even watch his kids for a week. He is a weak man. So if she is single and didn’t settle for an idiot, she did everything right and you who would be proud over being with a loser looks stupid
I understand both sides. Mendeecees misses his wife before he left for prison. When he came out she was hustling & I’m guessing he felt like he was being forgotten. Yandy had to pull up her big girl panties and make sure the family was good. They need to talk it out, get to a common ground, & find the love again.
I agree with what you say as well❤. They also need counseling like he suggested so that both of their needs can get met with the understanding of each other’s love language. Divorce should not be an optional mindset for this type of situation. No infidelity involved, no physical abuse, no mishandling of finances…. If this can’t get worked out by the grace of God then they don’t ever need to marry anyone else ever again in life. These are just feelings that they are dealing with..
Agreed well said!! He just felt forgotten. Je not jealous or envy of her success she can always be a boss mom and get her money nothing is absolutely wrong with that . All he saying is I miss you being at home with me and I want to have quality time with me more and work a little less
💯
She wasn't his wife then remember she lied about them being married big fake wedding
Period..
He’s upset about nothing, he ain’t say one thing that he’s actually upset about. He’s just complaining about what he thinks her motives are, but hasn’t asked her specifically. 🤷🏿♂️ this is what happens when you marry somebody dumb. 😅😅😅
Exactly. I've been seeing this all over Instagram this morning and see people commenting how emotionally intelligent he is 🤔 And I definitely disagreed That is not and far from emotional intelligence that is mental abuse. He's guilt tripping, pointing the finger and not being very supportive. He really needs to get a hobby
THIS!!!
Yall heard the man!!
@@raychelgray8217preach!
How dare him?? 😂😂😂
He's not up to par so he's guilt shaming Yandy. Hes the man he feels she's out doing him instead of loving and and helping him. He's immature she's too much woman for him. She deserves to live on her terms she has sacrificed enough. Dont let him dim your light Yandy you are a great woman. It's nothing wrong with giving all you gave and sacrificed to yourself. Don't let his mental instability shrink your greatness. Keep living, doing self care, meditating, creating, and live and be happy . He can't live thru you he must be his own man and bring that to you. Bless up Yandy 🙏🏾💝💯💃🏾👍🏾🎊
Well ok! Your comment just caught me up to all of this. I had no idea they were going through this. I feel bad for her. She's so special and has a bright light in her.
Ladies this is why , when you’re more successful than your husband , this happens .
Same thing I said. This why women say don’t date down
He just needs to find a hobby to fill up his time they should be fine afterwards
Indeed
Control and to treat their husbands like a son
No it’s not . This is when you don’t listen to your partner
Welp how many yrs did this woman wait on her husband while doing all of this on her own with no help no backbone no support no breaks and now that her husband is home he can't carry the torch for a week and then says that he doesn't feel love because she's not as present as he would like well isn't that the pot calling the kettle black
Double standards 😅😅
@@rujekonyamande469 for sure 😂
Typical self-absorbed man!
If you think Yandy wasn’t fucking somebody else you nuts .
D@mn! This post needs a love button. Shyt!! 😂
Dang Mendeecee you’re asking yourself “Can I divorce Yandy?” *everyday* ?? It’s that bad??? 😬😬😬
I just said that , damn.. why you thinking bout that everyday 😮
My thoughts exactly. Like, why ?
Mendeecee got everything from YAndy now he dont want her
@@michelleburkes2535nah after rewatching the earlier seasons I’m surprised he stayed this long.
Yeah, it’s coming smh 😢
This man went to jail for 4 years while yandy held her and his family down and still loved him, he came out and said he wouldn’t do the same for her and instead of doing his job as a man and stepping up to either take care of the household or his children which yandy did both while he was in jail, he couldn’t take it for not even a year probably not even 6 months and had the audacity to tell her that she doesn’t love him and that she needs to slow down on what she’s been doing for 4 years without him. He’s def not emotionally intelligent, he’s manipulative💁🏽♂️
Sadly many women don’t see this manipulation even though It’s in plain sight for all to see. They’re so focused on “keep the peace, don’t rock the boat, be a good wife! He literally said he won’t hold her down if roles were reversed. Pls believe what people tell you ladies, even husbands arghhhh!!!
I feel like two things can be true and I see where both of them are coming from.
💯💯💯
I couldn’t agree more
I can see how he wants extra love and attention and how she feels like she’s been standing 10 toes down for him and she wants to be able to live her dream.
Exactly
I agree🎉
I think this all stems from Yandy deciding to give her eggs to her cousin without even really consulting him. Yandy is use to doing it on her own for those years so now that he’s back their dynamic has changed. He’s used to Yandy doing what he wants. He has to realize that this isn’t the same Yandy that he left when he had to go to prison and she also needs to realize that she can’t just go about making huge decisions like he still isn’t there.
That's so real
Eggs she was born with long before she even knew his name? Those eggs he gotta have some say in?????
What exactly has Yandy done in regards to what he wanted other than initially. Mndc has all these issues but he can’t so emotional immature and a mommas boy. Like I’m listening to this conversation and I’m like what do u want. He saying he’s need help but in I believe was the family reunion he could communicate with the couple therapist there. In fact said that he wouldn’t hold it down for Yandy if the roles were reversed. Men find her masculine and too into work providing the traditional woman are jealous of her chasing the bag. Like if mndc wanna have issues for what she did for years he gonna have to learn to vocalize it cause if he can’t right there or back then how in front of someone. Especially in front of a court in front of judge cause if he can’t find a reason in which they have to separate a good judge won’t grant the request divorce
@@ThePimmy11 yes. I’m not saying he has the right to lock her body down. What I’m saying is this, doing something like that doesn’t just affect Yandy. It does the ENTIRE family. That’s a huge decision to make and I would think it warrants a serious discussion. Not just telling him she’s going to do it
Nah I feel like her focus is building an empire. And I dnt think she in love with him. She has love for him but from the outside looking in she not inlove
He just said what he needed. Every time he says something she rolls her eyes 4:08.
As she should. It’s not her fault that he was in jail for 4 years.
Seems what he wants is strongly not what she wants..he’s going to have to accept that she’s not that woman he wants her to be..They should co parent..
She's tired
@@Aleyna_Neslihe put his life on the line selling bricks of coke everyday to support her life before y’all even knew who Tandy was. How y’all think yandy got money??managing Jim jones????? Stop it jim not bringing in no cake for her.
@@haddy3315lmao what? So it’s Yandy fault he went to jail because he gave her money while he was selling drugs lmao tf.
Yandy is so naturally beautiful 😍🥰
I can see where both of them are coming from. I get it and I'm happy he has suggested talking to someone instead of calling it quits. They should work on it for sure. 👏🏽
I agree with that.
I agree, I feel like most of the comment section minimize his feelings but if it was other way around it would be different
Definitely 💯
I agree 🙏🏾
@@tashawnahamilton6558I feel the same way and it’s sad people are so quick to bash men and pull them it’s horrible he’s actually being a man and asking his wife for what he wants instead of stepping out and being a dog like other men tend to be I totally agree with you💯
I feel kinda bad for Yandy.i've watched her go through thick and thin for Mendecees: From ignorantly dealing with his two other ex girlfriends,to dealing with his mother while he was locked up.To me, he's controlling in an undercover fashion but I truly hope these two will get things together
Agree.
That man said he just want love and affection and feels alone 😂😂😂...and wants his wife to be there 😂😂😂feel bad for yandy for what...o yea she in danger he real controlling 🤣🤣🤣 run yandy 🤣🤣🤣 he wants wants u to slow down and spend time with him and the family 😅😅...u sound crazy
@@owla2237 and yet, Yandy was fighting HIS battles which was stressing her out.i bet if you were her, you wouldn't even deal with it.i might sound crazy to you but it's you who hasn't been paying attention to her storyline.Stop trippin
Yandy was trying to stunt on the babymamas with her fake marriage.
Agreed! He's being very immature and selfish!
I think Judge Toler said it best. "You get the man you marry, not the man you want him to be." They both knew what they were getting before they made their marriage legal. Hopefully, they can work it out 🤞🏼
This one is tough… I understand both sides. I hope they really start to listen to one another and get the help they need (off these cameras).
Seems like she still in the mindset that she is doing it alone and hasn’t realized that her man is home and she needs to make time but from what I’m seeing, she is the bread winner so she trying to make sure they are good…
Exactly this is the perfect comment
Seems like he isn’t much help if she still is in that mindset
Seems like he needs to Find him a business partner who he can't be HAPPIER WITH ❤....
Nope nope nope. This 45 year old grown man has not been able to convey what issues he got and what needs to get down to get change. Saying she ain’t there not showing love. In what regard. How can Yandy show more love than she has. We all in this comments assuming what he means but he needs to take his ass up and verbalize his issues. Provide a Who? Is it only him or do the kids feels the same? What? What happened what made him feel this way. Too much work not enough home not going along with her on her trips? A When? Was it after he came out of prison, when they moved to Atlanta. A Where? Does he feel these feeling the most. At home. When she’s away. With her on trips? And How? How can it be fixed what does Yandy need to do for him to make the way he feels better
Cause apparently we need to resort back to elementary school asking the 5W and 1 H to get sound reasoning from him
how you know she's the bread winner at al..mendences managed Vado and ppl and had street money idk his actual job title but bro been getting money for a long time...doubt she's da breadwinner...shes been on tv longer
He said, I need you to do wife things.. But when you were locked up.. Were you being the husband and father of the house??
How long are we going to dangle the fact that he was locked up and she held him down in this man’s face?
😂😂 They weren't married till after let's not forget that
@@MelMel_89😂😂right
@@georgia8592yes they
Were
@@MelMel_89until he realizes he sound stupid
Yandy just have to remember her marriage is real life. He’s home now. Keep it steady
I agree 💯lol people in these comments not getting it
We are constantly saying that men don’t have emotional intelligence or lack vulnerability so I commend M for speaking up. He feels secondary and he’s communicating that. I really hope she hears him.
Lmao that’s bs but okay.. as a man this has nothing to do with emotions and all to do with his pride Yandy is the bread winner and has held him down but he complaining because she was gone once for a week when she takes care of their family is insane men make women do it all themselves but when and if the time comes he needs more attention and help 😂😂
Y'all don't hear what she is saying I keep hearing her saying she wants to do this she wants to do that and her husband is talking about I miss us I miss We what's the sense of getting married
💯💯 If she doesn't listen she's gonna lose him then all her sacrifices will be for nothing🤞🏽
Sadly she doesn't and I hate that for him bc he really loves her u can tell...he didn't even want to have the conversation with her from the jump he just wants his wife to be there ...
@@owla2237 yep I agree with you completely he does love her and yeah he made some mistakes but I will say this because I watched Love & hip Hop New York ever since he went to jail for those years and came back he has changed drastically he makes his money from his real estate so I wish people would stop saying that he's not a breadwinner he is but in his own way and he's just not flashy or Gordy with it. But like I said ever since he came back from prison he has changed so much you can see it and you can tell he's more about his family then being on the road or getting in the studio. And as a female and as a woman and has a wife she would love that her man is 100% not only committed but dedicated to their family. He has changed so much and yandy has not.
I mean he feels inferior to her because she acts like the dominant one
Not because she is dominant. Because he deep down knows what a loser he is. I mean he can’t even take care of his kids alone… that shows me what a weakling he is. What loser can’t take care of his kids. what would he do if Yandy dies from a car accident or something. He is a failure
@@Aleyna_Nesli 😂😂😂 omg failure...no what's the failure is opinions like this ...this man just said basically said he wants his wife to to be there more for her family instead of working all the time they are not single parents they are married 😂😅
@@owla2237He's still a dust bucket. She got the same man they all get. A criminal with baby mamas.
@@owla2237no he basically said he did not want to be stuck his kids for a week. She literally said thats the longest she has ever been away and he was supposed to come… he selfish.
@@LoveNiki47 🤣 your still wrong yandy has been on the go since he has been out of jail...think about their ages 🤣 and make it make sense..how old is the youngest out the camp 💁🏿♀️
He’s manipulating her into feeling guilty because he doesn’t want her to help her cousin conceive a child yall better pay attention
That's his right husband is over cousin single mama
Lol wtf
@@keithdior1657 nahh everyone is agreeing with me
Why don't he want her to help cuz
@@keithdior1657its his right ▶️ to address whatever as a Husband however that doesn't make his automatic correct
He has a lot of nerve....she held it down for 4yrs!!! While he was locked up like you were not on business sir 🙄🤨 And he's crying about a week (not to mention all the mess he took her through) he's jealous of her
He’s says he feels like a single parent , but she literally WAS a single parent for 4 years, seems like he’s looking for a way out to me😒
Hope they can work through their issues
This is the perfect example of how hard a relationship/marriage is. None of them are right or wrong. It's about compromising and communicating. They both have valid feelings. They both should consult with a 3rd party, because baby marriage is not for the faint of heart. Too many people quit and run away prematurely, without trying to make it work, and actually following through on the vows made. So this is good to watch for what it takes to make a marriage work.
No one is really tryna understand Mendecees. It’s not about him being jealous and upset about her success. It’s about him feeling she’s not putting too much effort into their love and marriage. Men have a right to express their concerns and he’s not wrong for what he’s saying because he deserves to be a priority as well. Yandy can’t always make moves on her own and should realize that she’s not alone and he feels that way.
She carried him while he was in jail like what?
@@Lenasevilla-yb4eiso because she carried him now she can just live her life the way she wants? Then Mendecees is absolutely right she is getting back at him for beging away … I think she is so used to move on her own that she doesnt realize they are not in unity anymore … and lets not forget she knew what she was getting herself into when she married that man (she knew he was a drug dealer and benefited from his money as well)
@@jessicamazeya3626 he’s a dusty criminal she shouldn’t have stooped low to have kids with a thug that had multiple baby mamas. The pick me’s and the generational dusties in the comments are gonna defend the dysfunctional whewwww embarrassing.
@@jessicamazeya3626not saying that but he should definitely understand that she’s moving how she moved while he was locked up and just because he’s back doesn’t mean she
Will automatically go back into her previous role. It don’t work like that. He should also definitely understand that she wants to do things she wasn’t able to do while he was locked up
@@Lenasevilla-yb4ei that was her choice she didn't have to but you still buy your man thick and thin and you said vows to him this man makes his own money he's in real estate in a good big deal in real estate that makes a lot of money. Ever since this man came back home from prison he has been so low key he does his business deals do his shows but mainly he's with the kids all the time taking them to school cooking them breakfast and being there what real woman wouldn't want a man that's their 24/7 and he can still handle his business and bring home a check. Yandy is selfish she was always the problem I'm telling you she going to lose that man and she won't be able to handle it because she takes me as a person and any other modern female of today they not good with losing out on a good man. He is basically telling her I miss my wife I love my wife we got everything the house the kids the money let's focus on us I want you here what would you rather him not talk to her and get another chick that would do the things that yandy is not doing
Mendeecees just stop, just admit that you/men are never able to handle the household/kids the majority of the time like women have to do. Yandy need a break and she is working what else do you want.
I love where he’s coming from!
I understand him but one thing that stood out was her being gone for a week. Why does he expect her to only take care of the house like it's not a joint thing?
He's not a playboy or hustler anymore.he may be bored and want that old excitement and she wants more of the celebrity life kids are getting bigger.They may need time apart.They've probably outgrown each other.
Seeds of separation shouldn’t be an option in this case. No infidelity, no physical abuse, no mishandling of finances…heck their marriage is blessed compared to a lot of marriages. Counseling, God, and prayer can clear these differences up quickly if they allow it❤️.
Separation is only for people who actually don’t want each other
@@Beyondblessed261 Many people don’t really take marriage as seriously as God intends for it to be taken. People treat marriage like a regular boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. This is the only relationship in the Bible to where the spouses become one. No other type of relationship gets this type of recognition/opportunity. Marriage is the relationship that one makes a vow before God. That’s more serious than many can even imagine. Every divorce is a lie to God if they did their vows that way. If one is married and don’t want to be together anymore then someone needs to be praying that God restore the love that they once had like in the beginning. Aint nothing too hard for God….He created everything there is. He would gladly restore the love if one asks. He’s not gonna force His Will on nobody. A lot of ppl don’t have what it takes to be married because they are selfish and do everything without God. Selfishness is not for marriage. Marriage is God’s design yet people think it’s their design so it fails the majority time because they’re doing things the way they want to do it instead of following the Master’s plan. God bless Yandy & Mendecees🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽.
No they haven’t outgrown each other. For Mendecees this is the beginning of their marriage. For Yandy, she’s in the middle of her run. She does not know how to stop because for four years she had not too stop. With the help of the right marriage counselor, they can get back on the same page.
i think thats it
The fact that he is articulating what he needs n her not even realizing it
I hear EVERYTHING he’s saying…I hope Yandy will hear him, too…💔❤️🩹
He’s literally mad about nothing
He just explained what he was upset about how is that nothing?
He is frustrated he's not getting any love from his wife so many times I have seen yandy talk about and be about business even Remy ma got on to her about that y'all got your money you on the show be at home with your husband and your kids do you know how fulfilling it is
@@youngcece33 let’s be very clear he’s mad because yandy wants to help her cousin conceive a child period he’s manipulating her pay attention
@@user-uf6ip7cp3h he’s manipulating her into feeling guilty because he doesn’t want her to help her cousin conceive a child period
@nomimo4047 that's not manipulation thats his wife 😂. Giving up an egg isn’t just some simple thing even DaBrat said it and told yandy she wrong. All kinds of things can go wrong and its not a one and done deal. Also, you only have a finite amount of eggs what if they want to have more kids? Like i dont like him but hes right on how hes feeling.
He feels second best.
I love how he is expressing his feelings. I love how calm and respectful he is and taking the time to speak to Yandi. Need more men like this.
He actually is speaking very good and it’s not toxic or demanding
he is just talking I pray I get a man with that type of communication skill
cuz dam I wanted to respond to him and talk
This was nice to see it’s a start hopefully they over come this
I love that he is expressed himself instead of looking outside for it.
The bar is set so low that he gets flowers for that?!?! Yandy is BADDIE!!!! She held him down for all those years instead of upgrading his SORRY azz. It's the LEAST he can do
@@twinqt578 like I just wrote, there's always Pickmeshias ready to give a man a standing ovation for doing the minimum!
Lord give yandy understanding as her husband speaks
Exactly
Exactly 🙏🏾💯
A woman held you down when you was at your lowest without wavering and now you saying you feel like she doesn't love you. Then you go on international television and say if the roles were reversed you wouldn't have done the same thing. Damn dawg ! Cold world !
I can feel how I feel about both of them, cause in really not fond of either of them. But I appreciate mandeecees expressing himself in a way that’s respectful, suggesting solutions on them getting to the bottom of what disconnect he’s feeling and not cheating and blaming Yandy for it.
He is completely ungrateful towards Yandy. I don’t even like her and I can still see that she doesn’t deserve any of this foolishness.
She better hear him before he leaves.
He'd be doing her a favor!!
Warning Comes Before Destruction, Yandy‼️‼️‼️‼️🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽💯😌😌
Once a woman loses respect it's OVER my guy. Women need to be loved... Men need to be respected.
Yall not listening to him frfr 💯💯💯 neither is she .
No we are I don't think u hear her
Naw we here loud and clear . It’s giving jealousy and resentment. She had her kids alone for years and his . But you made because she was gone a week working she make the money . The cars he driving is because of yandy .. lmao
Facts
Facts, she better hear him because most men leave instead of speaking up
Don't matter if I listen or not 😂😂😂 hopefully she is Listening 🎧
I was horrified when I first started watching Love & Hip Hop because I couldn't believe these beautiful women fight, get their feelings hurt and rotate these trifling men. I still don't see what these women see in most of these men. Yandy is a multi-millionaire with a man that has 3 baby mothers and doesn't seem to be at her level. I will never understand why these women sweat these men.
I be saying the same thing on all the shows..😮
God's blessings to yall for the return of wellness, peace, and happiness in your beautiful family
You can't hold back a strong woman that built the foundation alone everything she's built is a legacy for her family
He seems like idk almost jealous of her 😂
Y’all always say shit like this. Yet, everyone says the same thing about her
I can’t imagine being in a relationship with you when somebody’s telling you how they feel.
@@eatallthis bruh she literally held this man down for 4+years while he was locked away …dealt with drama from his baby mommas …deal with his crazy ass momma who constantly disrespects her household and their marriage and he have the nerve to sit here and say out his mouth she don’t love him or care for him ? Miss me with dat bullshit
@@eatallthis it almost sounds like he doesn’t have enough motion or jobs so he have time to think about she doing ,not doing etc…and he always faultingfinding and being pessimistic about everything she does one thing about yandy she is a very ambitious woman!
Really?
He may want a lady that caters to him.More like he wants her obsessed with him.Some people like that.
she 'catered' to him so much she waited years for him to get outta jail. wow.. go figure.
True
Yandy, pay attention to your husband girl, because if you don't, someone else will. 💯
Okay
I lovers quarrel. They’ll get over it. Lots of marriages hit a rough patch. This reminds me of when Teddy and Tina Campbell went through it…
She said she missed him,and wanted him to be on the trip with her. When she said, "carrying the bags felt crazy", I thought she meant she wanted to feel like a lady and feel loved amd supported by him. He definitely took offense to it thinking she meant he wasn't carrying his weight in the household so the only thing he was good enough to carry were bags. He tried to gaslight her and guilt trip her into feeling sorry for being purposely, following her dreams, and being confident to make it without him. Yandy has dreams and she doesn't want to be the type who puts them on hold for 20 years, after the kids grow up, to pursue them. I see nothing wrong with what she's doing. Stay at home Dad's exist. I think he just feels inadequate in comparison because it makes him feel like he isn't a "man's man", and he might even be jealous. She shouldnt have to compromise herself for his comfort. They need to be at a place where they both can be comfortable. It sounds to me that he needs to find something to do with his time. Learn how to cook, sew, or something. At this point , they seem unevenly yoked. I hope they can get through their differences without sacrificing their happiness for the other. They just need options and possibly a marriage counselor.
I do agree with your comment. She wanted to feel like a princess and he be there to do those things that she had to do alone while he was away.
Is this a joke he was literally in prison
Exactly...she gave up a large hunk of her life for you ..ITS PAY BACK TIME..TF? 😂
MAN BEING EMOTIONAL ..... 🗣️👂🏾feel , feels, feelings
I'm reading these comments and liking damn near all of them. Yandy and Mercedes are both right. I believe going to counseling is a step in the right direction to identify specific challenges and balancing desires and expectations to gain clarity in their relationship.
Yandy need to wake up and realize that he is jealous of her
Hush single lady
@@Beyondblessed261 I’m actually not a single woman , what is your point Ms.forehead ?
How is he jealous of her he is explaining he is not getting the emotional love and attention from his wife that he vowed to spend the rest of his life with what is the matter with your modern females this is why you guys are single and nobody don't want to be with you all
@beyondblessed261 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@Ameenasahar I don’t think he’s jealous of her. He’s asking her to slow down because he needs to feel like a man and be the provider for his family. Some men will feel some type of way when their wife now is the breadwinner.
From the outside looking in - it’s looking like she may not need him anymore because she’s established herself. Now he’s sitting at home feeling like, what does she need me here for if she’s going to do it all on her own. I hope they can go to counseling because this can be fixed. They just need balance. Yandy can’t put 80% towards business and 20% towards husband/family. Mendeecee needs to realize it’s 2024, not every wife wants to be home cooking & cleaning.. if she can pay someone to do it then good for her. He really probably just want more s3x but don’t want to say it on camera.
@@ShamyraChe’s a CAPRICORN ♑️. They Want Traditional women I kid you not
I really like this union and we only get to see a glimpse of their relationship. With that being said, I pray they make it through the storm. Then, they give their testimony to others who can take a page out of their book.
They are such a beautiful couple. I pray the overcome and keep love alive. I'm praying for their marriage.
He wants a wife not a trophy.
He doesn't care about the money because it doesn't make him happy. He wants her time her compassion her love her company 💕 she doesn't get it.
And she's not trying to get it she's just talking
Best response!!!
Oh he care
He was a drug dealer. He always cares about money. He just feels emasculated because she makes more money than him. He needs a woman who he feels is beneath and submissive to him.
Lmao he wants a wife he can control… he don’t make the money she’s the bread winner you say he don’t care is bs because mendecess has a few foreign cars that ain’t cheap that he wouldn’t have without his wife’s hard work she did all of this alone for years but now that it’s his turn he mad 😂 it’s his pride he need to gtf over it ! And yall up here babying that man but ain’t talking about how she rode for him or how he told her he wouldn’t have been able to do the same for her 😂👌
I get where they're both coming from. 💯
He is the chillest dude Eva! Y'all please work it out. You both strong ! I will pray for you both.
Wheew you can tell half the comments are single/unmarried! This man is literally saying he feels like he is losing his wife and the comments say "he's jealous of her" or "he's trying to make her feel guilty" ...umm it sounds like he wants her to be a WIFE and a MOM to me. It sounds like she is fulfilling ALL her own needs and not his and that is just not how a marriage works!
And if she feels like "I held you down for X amount of years its time for me to live and do what I want" then coo but let him go cause he's not happy!
Honey, some people are literally speaking from experience. If they are single, they weren’t always single. It doesn’t hurt to listen even if to keep it in the back of your mind as a possibility. More than Half of us don’t listen about a man and end up with egg and pie on our face.
I can tell it’s a lot of unmarried women talking. 🙄Yandy literally made a decision to give her cousin one of her eggs without having a discussion with her husband 1st. As a married woman myself, you just don’t do things like that. A man still wants to feel like he is the head of the family at the end of the day.
That’s the problem wanting to feel like it but not really being it …
@@STackinDrehow do u know? You are not living in their house hold to judge. You are only saying that because you believe Yandy is the bread winner, which could be true. With that being said, that still doesn’t take away from what that man brings to the table as a man. And Yandy making more money than him doesn’t make him less of a man. Mendecces is in the home as a father and husband. He is expressing to Yandy they need her to be more present within the home.
@@Beyondblessed261Thank you for this !!
I’m not married and I agree. That was a big sacrifice for her to make without having her husband blessing first. I just think she lost all respect for him for real
AINT NO MAN THE HEAD OF A WOMAN'S BODY!!!
He got 2 baby mamas and wanna act like her eggs belong to him!?? Wtf! No. She is trying to do God's work and make it possible for her cousin to have a child.
Yandy is still not listening to him. She won't get it until they divorce. He was clear on what he needs and wants from her in order for their marriage to have a chance and all she could do is sigh and roll her eyes.
Im loving the honesty..hope they be alright
She have surpassed him and all her old goals and his mind is to small to wrap around someone like her. He is a cool guy frfr but to be for yandy i dont think he is strong enough for the boss in her. I feel like before he starts saying anything about what he needs, it need to be after she make her 4 years back up with everything she wanna do and with his help. Not only did she slow down for him but also his family to(his kids with the other 2 lady's) i think he needs counseling because he is a good person, just lost in his own head thats all.
And I feel like she loves him and doesn't care about what he lacks or doesn't try to make him feel less than because of what he lacks. He only compares and contrasts because he himself feels inferior
@@nicoleraheem1195 💯💯💯
Once you have to step into Boss mode, it’s hard to be still.
This to me appears like a man who sees that his marriage is in trouble ,He is trying to prevent it from getting to a point of no return....atleast he is still willing to communicate instead of shutting down
I think hearing each other out and going thru marriage counseling with make things better.
He said “every day” wooowwww men are wild
There Is Just So Much To Unpack Here‼️It’s Unfortanate As Well. This Is The Second Time I Have Witnessed Mendecee Dismissing Yandy’s Feelings Or Misinterpreting Her Actions For Neglect. I Feel 1. This Stems From His Childhood And The Unhealed Trauma Between Him And His Mother. I Have Peeped Mendecee Responses Are Somewhat Passive/Dismissive-Aggressive Or Counterintuitive If That Makes Sense. He Is Very Much Like His Mother In The Sense. Prime Example On LHH Family Reunion When Lil Scrappy Hosted That Church-like Set Up Therapy Session And Mendecee Decided To Share And I Remember When He Stated That He Was Basically Forced To Grow Up Early By Having To Take On The Provider Role Because His Mother Was Barely Around , Out Doing Her, Not Tending To Them Like A Parent Should Necessarily Have And The Man She Was Formerly With Who Was His Stepfather Had Eventually Abandoned Them. Her Response Was Where Was Your Grandmother? If I Wasn’t There. Basically Dismissing Him Trying To Express How He Felt Living Through Their Reality. The Same Behavior Is Being Showcased. It Feels As If He Wants A Traditional Wife And Yandy Is Too Advanced For That Like Most Women Are That Doesn’t Mean She Isn’t Wife Material. He Also Said Had The Roles Been Reversed He Wouldn’t Have Done That Time With Her. I Get When In A Marriage You Are Suppose To Be Team, Compromise , Communicate, Understanding Etc Etc It Takes Work (Anything That Is Worth It Does) But At The Same Time Mendecee’s Past Cost Him Time With His Family In Which Yandy Had To Then Step Up And Do More Which Is Understandable When One Is Down The Other Needs To Be Able To Handle Business While The Other Is Recuperating/Rehabbing. Which By The Way Yandy Handled Gracefully. She Was Disrespected And Mishandled Carelessly On LHH When They Added His Babymothers On. They Tried To Paint This False Narrative And Negative Picture Of Her Like The Rest Of The World Seems To Still Be Doing Not Realizing That Not Only Was All Of This Chaos Happening When It Was Discovered That Mendecee Would Be Serving Some Time But Also While She Was A New Mother For The Second Time Amongst Other Things. But Of Course Y’all Love To Bash. I Hope They Can Heal And Get Through This Hurdle.
WHY IS HE ACTING
LIKE
SHE DIDNT HOLD HIM DOWN!
He needy as hell!
MENDECEES
GET A
LIFE
Of
Your
Own!
This is exactly what
MEN
DO
WHEN THEU DONT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO EITH THEMSELVES!
Go to ya mother since she always
come 1st!
cuz he want to date men now
When I had got arrested 20 years ago facing 30 years to go to prison I didn't realize that what I did was wrong and made a selfish move it affected my family and friends all I thought was I'm going through this and im alone but that wasn't true what you go through they suffered from it to and we got to fixed that it made not be said but they can still be suffered from times that was lost or going through the issues of inmate visits on the in and outs of things thank God I got my freedom but I just recent still just got my life back and I don't don't have to do that anymore but did got to try to fix them more less with family because they the ones that miss out the most with you
Wow this man is pouring out his heart and telling you he needs you. I understand you took on a big role when he was gone but he is back..Listen for your family
Some conversations are hard to have but so necessary. I get it from both perspectives... Yandy is so used to doing everything on her own so shes still stuck in that mindset. I dont think its a intentional thing towards her husband and trying to make him feel less of a man. Also, she deserves time out whether its to herself, with family or friends. Shes been holding things down for years by herself so she has been limited on a lot of things she can do and a lot of places she nay have wanted to go. I understand he wants more time with his wife but at the same time he has to put himself in her shoes and not come off as a little selfish and controlling. A marriage is a 2-way street. I like Yandy & Mendecees both a lot and hope they work it out.
In 4.5 years Yandy mentally evolved 20 years and in jail you stop any growth and it continues when u get back out - two people cannot reverse or fast forward to a point before its time.For mendeecees time stood still - For yandy it did not.
Yes what a beautifullly perspected comment.
Man, that's a hard hit right there. I've been in her shoes having to care for our home and our children while working and still trying to make myself available for his other children that were not biologically mine while he was in prison doing 3 years on a 10 year bid. It exhausts you to your core, but yet we still find a way to make it happen... When my husband got out, my thanks was going off and sneaking around with his ex-wife before getting the girl across the street from his mother's house pregnant and then ultimately leaving me to get back with his ex wife who did nothing for him other than spread her legs (and not bc I wasn't giving it up)... We are now divorced and I thank God every day he allowed me to open my eyes and escape a life of misery bc he would and will never ride for me like I have and would have for him. It's a hard hit to take. But I hope and have faith that Yandy and Mendeecee will find the strength to move past this.
Marriage is a business. I been married 40 Roles should have been established from the beginning
He is being Selfish! He wants it to be all about him. She been holding it down! He needs to understand her perspective. I doesn’t even try to understand her
Lmao!! He literally said, "i need you to dim your light so that mine can shine brighter. "....😂😂😂😂Jealousy is a hell of a drug.
When two people are in love, there’s no who hold it down for long or what. They should both take care of each other and paying attention to the things that could break them a part. Marriage is not half and half, but everything. It’s good he’s expressing how he feels. He’s a real man. In the meantime someone has to do the work to keep the family going. Bless you both on your journey
What's the sense of getting married then... I don't know but I agree on mendeecee on this one
I do too!!!!! People don’t understand what real marriage is!!!!! You’re not two different people you become as one!!!
@@ostringfellow0 completely I mean when she said how I miss you because you didn't get my luggage that hurt my soul too because I'm like damn that's all I'm good for. You see for me you can tell there's no appreciation you can tell there's no love and there is nothing wrong with wanting to have it all but it's like he said and the sad part about it he's saying without saying it not only am I going to leave but I'mma leave the door open for someone else to come in
Yall missing the whole point. Mendecess always been selfish the same women who held him down in prison taken care of his and her kids with him alone . While working making shit happen. He’s complaining about her working when her working is why your so comfortable he don’t work what job does he do ? Oh okay I’ll wait him being mad because he gotta take on more responsibility is selfish af when she did it for years .
He does have a point
@@STackinDre that's not even the point you way off the subject and this is the biggest reason why modern women today not taking accountability. He is expressing his love and his heart he misses his wife. I'm telling you when a man is telling you this it screams Red doors it screams if you're not doing what you're doing someone else will. You may say it's messed up or it's file but he communicated with her and yandy is selfish. Ever since mendeecee came back home from prison he has changed so much he is so dedicated to his family. What's the sense of getting married if a person feels like this. Female or male but feel like this when you married that's the ultimate low. I'm telling you because I remember when I almost lost my husband due to being a modern woman and being my own woman it ain't so funny when you make all the sacrifices for nothing
This man is selfish, unappreciated, and jealous of Yandy. This woman held you down for years.
If he was getting the bags she was getting I’m sure she would slow down and do the house wife thing…..but men play too many games with a good women and I feel like she’s protecting some energy from him if she really did let him take charge in work ethic smh
Yes y'all love is worth fighting for ❤❤❤
I understand that when you sacrifice yourself for the sake of the relationship, for the sake of love you'd want to get back to you. I am in that situation as well. However, he's speaking clearly and gently on what's going on inside of him before he make his own decision for himself. As a partner he is going to his better half and talking about the here and now. Sometimes you have to slow down and not be defensive and hear what your partner is saying. He's missing her, their love for so long that his mind is starting to think about leaving her or worse. It's beautiful that he can articulate those thoughts into words before no return! I pray they both can hear each other and heal!
Yandy seems she needs to find balance. They need to see a therapist, but thats none of my business. 👀
All the businesses, trips, money and fame won't mean anything if she loses her family. She needs to listen to what her husband is saying and slow down a little for the family.
People always have opinions like this when you’re not the one taking care of everything and everyone. Did he lose his family for his dumb decisions when she held him down for years while in prison . Stop it he want to talk about marriage it’s give and take and he gives taker😊
@@STackinDre thank you! If he was helping lighten the load, I guarantee she’d let go some, but it’s clear she doesn’t trust that he can handle it nor does she feel safe. All this time he’s been home, I have yet to see him moving and shaking to help maintain their lifestyle. It’s all been Yandy, and he decides to complain about parenting HIS kids for a week?! FOH 🤦🏾♀️
Where can I watch this
That’s heartbreaking to see them go through this.❤️🩹🥺
I hope she hears him.
I hope he can get to a point where he understands her and gets out his own head