Bawled! Nose blowing BAWLED listening to this!! So spot on. My carb free life began August 3, 2022. My flaccid phase was about 6 months before that. When I found your channel it was the biggest game changer of my life! Behind the scenes I had been journaling and digging deep into my emotional bullshit and excuses, trying so hard to make changes...at the same time, continuing to engage in the same choices. It was such a cognitive dissonance I was in and felt like I was hopeless. I could not understand how I could keep eating things I knew were causing me so much sadness and regret. I had “ been on keto” for about a year and a half from early 2019 to mid 2020, and then I went sideways ( I would now call that a relapse) and gained all the weight back! Why? Because I treated keto like a diet. The moment life served up a shit sandwich with the Covid restrictions etc...I was right back to the emotional eating/carb addiction. It started out with allowing more keto ice cream and keto candy and snacks creeping in and then eventually I just started eating the real thing and then eventually right back Standard America Diet and guess what? Fat again. Obviously I didn’t realize this was the pattern of carb addiction I was experiencing at that time, but it’s so clear now!! Your words of TRUTH have changed my life. How on earth I made it to almost 50 years old, insulin dependent gestational diabetic 3 of my five pregnancies, lost and regained 50 plus pounds at least 10 different times, and yet NO ONE EVER mentioned the word ADDICTION? I have fully embraced this fact now and it has changed my entire view on life. With that said, I have to say this to anyone on the fence reading comments.. If it is real ( the acceptance of addiction and desire to change), you truly want to be prepared that the beginning of this journey will likely be hard. Emotionally. It will be painful at times. Not everyone will be in your court. If you are willing to stay true to what you’ve finally comprehended about yourself,there will be times that people you love and respect will challenge you. Roll their eyes at you, mock what you are doing, even try to scare you out of it. There will be those who will just believe this is another crazy diet attempt. Stay strong. Remember where you were. Journal. Journal the hard stuff. The good stuff. Remember every time that you are tempted to go back to the old patterns that the same results you’ve had your whole life will be there. The shame, regret, embarrassment, the health issues, all of it. The results will never be different. You’ve already been there or you wouldn’t be bothering to read this right now. You can withstand the disapproval of other people much greater than you can withstand the continued disappointment in yourself. There are people who liked you better fat and sick alongside them. These are your enablers. Often good people, people we love. But ask yourself why they are so concerned about your health when you are no longer eating potato chips and fast food but they had no concern about the fact that you probably weren’t eating fruits and vegetables before either! Not one of those people probably ever remarked on the concern for your health in regards to the candy or potato chips or your weight in general. Think about that before you take their concern too seriously. There will be many who will cheer you on. Many who WILL be in your court. You are not alone. If the journey into being free of this addiction doesn’t cause some level of pain at times, it’s likely that you have not fully embraced it. Accept the facts. Expect the pain. On the other side of it is freedom and VICTORY 🎉 Dr. Cywes you are AMAZING! 👏🏻
Your comment was amazing. I just started my keto journey after finding this channel. I wish I had a friend like you for support. I have very little support around me and all my friends and family eat junk. I have 40 pounds to lose and I’m ready to make some changes. Wish me luck. ❤
I feel this too. I started keto and a few months later my roommate too. I wasn't as strict and my roommate was. He had much more weight to lose than I. He lost 100lbs that year, while working at a fast food restaurant, treating carbs like an addiction. Not even eating carbs at a restaurant or for a birthday. I got to a point where I was happy, because I didn't have as much of an addiction problem. But when I started working again in a bakery, it took 5 months before I got into the habit of eating something sweet almost every day. Before that, I made it a rule I could only eat a sweet if I made it completely from scratch. I let that slip, considering from scratch the things I made while at work. That was wrong. At home I only made something once in a blue moon, the few things I really really enjoy, and made it better than anything from the store. A metaphor is that it turned from a fancy celebratory drink maybe once a month to a daily beer or three. It's a slippery slope. I've decided to go primarily carnivore in the new year now. Maybe I'll still allow a homemade dessert once in a very long time, maybe once a year when the wild fruits are ripe, but the less dessert I have, the less dessert I want. And even the desserts I did make, I had to at least halve the sugar, or remove entirely if fruit is involved, in any recipe to even be palatable. Honestly what I miss most is my steel cut oats boiled in cream..
I looked at myself in the mirror and spoke to my id(super ego). you have been in control for 4 decades and look where we are(i was 385 and very sick) I’m taking over now, you will never hurt me again. (I was actually angry)that moment fueled my ability to learn how to change. I got off all the meds, dropped 245 lbs, and relearned food nutrition from the ground up and developed the foresight to learn when i was lying to myself. I’m currently 154 and healthy. Thanks doc
Dr. CYWES, this was one of your best videos!! This may sound terrible, I loved my husband 27yrs until the day he died 4yrs ago, but the day he died,for whatever psychiatric reasoning, I immediately became disgusted to the point of nausea regarding anything sweet. It's so bizarre. My point is usually our enablers for our addictions are the ones we love
My Mom - she's a food pusher, especially sweets. She claims she's joining me and does most meals, but given the first chance she eats chips, pasta, dessert and wants ME to join HER 🤦🏼♀️ so frustrating.
My flaccid stage was the first 30 days after I decided to give up carbs. I never told anyone. Had my missteps but it was really a personal revelation that I could do this, and I felt so much better! Told friends and family after 30 days, they could see so many differences in me and that it made my next stage much easier. Thank you Dr. C.
In the past 1.5 years I’m down 50 lbs. First stopped carbs, then went carnivore-ish, added intermittent fasting. Love ❤️ keeping my mind renewed and strong by listening to videos like yours. I was 200 lbs at 5’1 now working on the last 20-30 lbs. I feel great!! ✝️❤️
Even though she was defensive and angry.....you never know what "truth" she heard, that she will come back to later. I tried for years to get my husband to get on board. It took him getting so tired of being sick and tired, that one day...something "clicked" and he said I'm on board and he's never looked back. It's a seed planted....sometimes you are not there to see it grow.
I’m not a doctor, but I’ve had the same experience of failure trying to help people I love. I succeeded at keto over the past 4 years and these people were genuinely inspired by my success. I was addicted to nicotine 40 years ago and beat it, but never addicted to carbohydrates- once I saw they were a problem I was able reduce them slowly over the past 25 years and take them below 20 grams without experiencing overwhelming cravings. I get the same distorted rationalisations from loved ones that involve doughnuts, ice cream and the blueberries that of course don’t count. I have stopped intervening directly, but I do continue to talk about my own experience openly with addiction. Particularly with my experience of building new habits. The Japanese Kaizen method of building habits incrementally has helped me stop trying to eat the whole elephant and getting caught in rupture and repair. I am talking about keeping my house tidily, not carb addiction, but the road to recovery started when I picked up that first little scrap of paper off the floor that I habitually saw but ignored. Slowly I came to recognise that EVERY closet, EVERY cupboard was chock a block with things I never used and every horizontal surface was chockablock with the things I actually used. It has taken me a couple of years to break my addiction to stuff enough to really feel that no matter how potentially useful the contents of a storage space chucking it away is the only way to create what I really need - space to put away those relatively few things I actually use. Hope my experience is of some help to you in reducing that sense of failure to get through which we both experience.
Wow. I needed this. I keep focusing on the “diet” when the issue is carb addiction. I am a 64 yr old woman who used to weigh over 400 lbs. I have used calorie counting, and then keto to lose 105 lbs. I plateaued for 4 years because carb addiction has kept me from progressing in my weight loss. Yes my diabetes and hypertension is reversed but I eat a bit too much and regularly have struggles with carbs. This talk is helping me refocus, and add some new strategies. Thank you.
Of all the "keto" people out there, and the doctors that are on the internet, finding your videos has so helped me along my jorney and every time I watch one of your videos I am moved along on that journey. I wish I knew how to thank you properly. Please keep at it.
Dr. Cywes, I am a PA in the ED that tries to promote healthy eating and living. I recently found out I am prediabetic while on keto diet; now I'm carnivore living. I am thinking, living and feeling great and want this for all my patients, friends and family. However, I am a type A personality so as you can imagine I needed this lecture on how to approach people. I have failed to encourage some of my pts and family members by not meeting them where they are and not realizing change is a process that is different for all. I almost didn't listen to this lecture because it wasn't about the biochemical, nutritional, protein, fat metabolism information that I've learned so much from you. Sooooo glad I did; I needed this aspect of medicine personally and professionally. Thank you - sincerely truly
Continuous improvement as a person or as a clinician is best done when we pause and huddle with ourselves and ask those reflective questions. What did I do well? What can I do better? Appreciate you walking through this exercise with us.
Great video Doc! My denial was not looking in the mirror enough because in my mind I was still 140# so the few times I caught my reflection I was shocked. No more! It’s all down to me. Thank you for everything ❤🇨🇦
Your patient IMHO simply is not ready. It takes commitment, steely determination, discipline, and the ability to the work. In my case I had been thinking about losing the weight for years. Earlier this year everything seemed to just click. I knew I was ready. I can serve ice cream to the family and watch them enjoy it without feeling the least deprived. I love how healthy I am now and will never go back to the high carb life again.
"seemed to just click" That really is a thing for me too. Comes after short or long flaccid period and then seems magical. In my case it was cold turkey on (dark) chocolate bars. The carbs didn't add up so much, but those chocolate bars signaled some part of me that I was NOT in control of my eating.
I found Keto just over four years ago , mainly carnivore the last two . You have been such a vital part of my journey.. I have watched all of your videos and you have helped me change and evolve , and understand the addiction side of it better then anyone , hands down ! This was very thought provoking , and I think my consciousness of change has been all the examples you discussed …I am still finding my way… thank you so much for your invaluable teaching .. I have an appointment with you coming in December and I can’t wait ! Again , thank you .. I so admire your calling
I used to do volunteer work with a hospice. One thing I learned is that not everyone truly wants to feel better. For whatever reason, some people need their pain. As difficult as it is to do, I think you have to respect where people are on their journey. My friends know that I am here for them, but sometimes, all they want is love and acceptance, not suggestions, no matter how helpful they might be.
Her beliefs and decisions aren’t your failure. I can’t believe she was as desperate for change as you believe if you couldn’t even get her to try keto which is super good at getting rid of some water weight, but yeah not 200 pounds worth. At any rate if she would have given you a real chance and saw some quick progress on keto like most people do, it would have started opening up her mind to further conversations and you could have started cracking that wall but it sounds as if you were defeated this time before you started. But I can’t agree with you that her failure is yours bc that’s just another excuse for her. If you were a mainstream doc, I would 100% agree with you but I’ve watched enough of your videos to know better than that. I am impressed with your wanting to grow and learn from every experience but this is just that for you..a learning experience, not a failure.
The psychological component is crucial, you showed me this more clearly than anyone (and I am a psychologist). You are brilliant, honest and humble sir. My fridge contains only ketivore food yet I still open it to browse, then I realize "here is emotional event". If I'm not hungry then, What am I honestly feeling? My come to Jesus was prediabetes and then breast cancer. It's 7 years now. I've worked hard to change. I am alive and well because you gave me tools. I am deeply grateful that God graced me with finding your generous videos. I pray for you and that you reach as many as possible.
I'm maintaining a natural 150 pound weight loss. I lost it using IF, exercise and ketovore but what I have had to learn in order to keep it off is why I use food. Author Geneen Roth helped me tremendously... it's that psychological work that has been key for keeping me on track in combo with the other 3 logistical pieces.
@@barbischaefer when food is love is my favorite book and the audio course is even better. I got both through my library and have since bought all her books. Hope it helps you!!
Light Bulb moment. I began my journey in 2015 @ 253 lbs. Today, 171 but kind of stuck. Long story, I was so motivated with just weight loss being my only focus. I wrote the "dear john" letter to favorite comfort foods however I never considered this as an addiction, until I found you about 3 weeks ago. This particular Ep:257 hit me between the eyes. I'm 76 in a month maybe an old dog can be taught a new life style. Gosh I'd love to sit with you and talk and figure out just who I am. I'm the mask wearer, and don't even know how to unveil myself. But perhaps admitting my ignorance to myself will permit me to remove the mask. I'll need to re-watch this episode several times to peal back the onion skins. Thank you for being upfront honest.
I'm a dynamic change kind of person. My journey with keto and progressively carnivore started with 21 day fast. I've prepared myself reading and watching Jason Fung, Ken Berry and ofcourse, you. Without that initial preparation and subsequent exposure to more and more information from Ben Bikman, Dom D'agostino and many others it wouldn't be possible to keep up momentum. In 19 months I've lost 17 kgs achieving 10% body fat level. In parallel I've picked up physical activities. Being almost 40 I'm in better physical and mental shape than in my twenties. For the first time in my life excercise is fun and I'm motivated to be active not because I "have to" but because I want to. Nothing of this would have happened without your guidance. Thank you.
I discovered keto 4 years ago and it was truly life changing. As obvious as my health improvements are, when people want to know what I've been doing, I tell them, it starts with giving up sugar ... I can't tell you how many times people, who obviously need help and change, tell me that they don't eat sugar! I say then it's the carbohydrates that turn to sugar ..... oh no, they tell me, I hardly eat any of those either! I'm tempted to say "oh well you will be slim and healthy in no time then"! But I don't. It's bloody hard work.
AMAZING VIDEO SEGMENT. I absolutely can't stomach the usual psycho - touchy - feely BS, but a real man talking about real struggles and feelings - thank you. 🎈🎈🎈
Dr. Cywes hello! I'm a huge fan of yours. Your honest, factual description of carb addiction is what finally woke me up. I started with keto and transferred to carnivore-keto with astounding results in both greatly improved health and huge weight loss. Once I faced my own personal demons of my love for carbs and sugar, admitting to myself that "Yes. You are an addict." , only then did everything click in my brain. I could then face the REAL problem which was myself and battle to control my cravings, KNOWING that those very carbs that I was stuffing in my face, because they taste so good, were the reason for my sickness and fatness. Carnivore has helped me the most. I eat only twice a day and rarely am hungry in-between. Plus, after hearing so many of your talks, you also helped me when I may slip up by eating some dessert at a celebration for example or eat more than usual. I now know how to bounce back immediately and any weight I gain I'm able to lose very quickly. Thank you doctor! You are a gem! Keep up the excellent work😊
The struggle is real! I decided, after watching this video, Thanksgiving being the high carb day it is I am going to stick to Turkey and salad and veg with a tiny amount of gravy. The gravy will be my big splurge. Thanks to these videos and good common sense.
I love sharing your videos, because I believe your presentation appeals to a broad audience. I can't wait until you kick the coffee/caffeine addiction (or at least take a break once in a while). You helped me break many addictions...even the ones you approve of as a bridge. I switched to decaf exclusively last winter and stopped all coffee/tea (only drink water and broth) three weeks ago. I don't miss it at all and my energy has never been better. Thank you 🙏
I gave up coffee too. It's plant-based...not indicated for a carnivore WOE. I just drink water now. I do make a cup of hot water w/ butter, salt, heavy whipping creme (all frothed together) if I need something cozy and warm. Also, my BP has lowered w/o coffee. Coincidence?
She’ll be back. Just not ready to hear the truth. What worked for me? It telling myself I could eat as much as I wanted…of the right food. That was way before I knew I was a carb addict. But it my first steps to this huge journey I’ve been on for the last 4 years. 90 lbs down but struggling every day with the addiction. Baby steps then Burn it all down. Thanks Doc.
Many, many people have poor reasoning skills. If a person listens to the "guidelines" he/she may believe they're eating very well. I thought I was. Cooked potatoes, fresh corn, sugar - not high fructose corn syrup, low fat meat cuts, "healthy" fats etc. The shame thing? Needs to be unlearned by information. I no longer see anyone as "a big fat slob". Now I see metabolically ill people without a clue. I was completely clueless until I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. It was the best thing ever! My doctor gave me terrible - clueless - advise. Then I had to do a deep dive into understanding why I was metabolically ill. This happened about a year ago. Now I don't have the markers for diabetes, better blood work results and about 45 pound weight loss.
Really strong statement in there Buck~ "The shame thing"..."needs to be unlearned via information". Could not agree more, mostly because it truly is the only way. Once we decide to search a matter out, the information we take in can only serve our best interests. Over time, a whole lot of gray area becomes crystal clear, along with previously conceived notions of ourselves- shame being such a brick wall made up of nothing but lies.
I am 87 years old. I have done Atkins in the past successfully several times but always went back to carbs because ? Doesn't matter why. Getting off gradually worked for a while but now I am stuck with chocolate, ice cream and potato chips. One leads to the other. See no progress unless I go cold turkey off of all! Thanks for encouragement.
Increasing consciousness and shining the spotlight on ourselves to see how truly disgusting we've been is a journey through hell. Maybe it's also the way to true liberation? I'm contemplating this now and it's grim but what you expose to the light then becomes the light. How I've behaved towards others was wrong, I can see how weak and pathetic I've been using various comforts, I've created my own problems, I've been disgustingly selfish. My ego really doesn't like looking at all this and prefers to play victim. I'm just gonna allow this honest self reflection to humble me and hopefully change for the better. I didn't previously have the level of awareness to act any different, knowing this maybe I can forgive myself. My level of awareness (consciousness / god) is now of primary importance. Everything else flows from that
Dr. Cywes, I weighed 351 lbs and had no idea that it was what I was putting in my face. Looking at me was probably the hardest thing I have ever done or will ever have to do.
Carnivore 2 months...strugling with cravings and myself (kry myself jammer..moet koeksisters bak en niks eet nie) Don't want to go places like church, friends..functions always lekkernye. I am strugling. Went into Carnivore eating cold turkey. But yes the battle is on mostly myself! Small town in Karoo and extreme weather is playing havoc with my emotions...also budget wise. Luckly Springbok and Vlakvarke is cheap meat. Cheaper than frozen broccoli. Greetings from South Africa
Self admission. Recognising you bought the ice cream, ate 1/2 of it and being big enough to say, what am I doing? And put the rest in the bin. Recognising that you are restarting to snack, Recognising that there are days you buy chocolate 85% in the supermarket dreaming that you can control it, only to see you eat everything the same day. Tough to admit you screw up for people already on this road......even harder when u r just starting
Would I be ashamed to have a peanut allergy where one mistake could kill me? No. So I have a "carb allergy", I am very sensitive to carbs, especially sugar, like an alcoholic to alcohol. It's just the way I am built. Took years, lots of years and lessons, to realize I am better off with zero.
Great, great video. Thank you Dr. Cywes. This is where most gurus gloss over this kind of info or turn it into a 4 week, expensive group program. And that works for many! I'm beyond that. I'm an honest-to-goodness carb/food addict. And because of you, I know that and am working with this information. You dive deeper into the whole psychological aspect which is where I believe most people have huge issues without even knowing. That's why they have the "can't stick to this diet" or "it didn't work for me" attitude. It's when you have that aha moment that things start to change. I've been on a roller coaster with this for sure but I'm glad my eyes are open. Thanks to you. So blessed you're my Doc and you're in our lives. 🤗💜
Right on Doc. This is the most influential video you could do. No matter what behavior change we request or offer, without knowing how to deal with where the patient is at, we're just about useless. Don't worry. You may have planted a seed that may take time to sow in that "amored" patient. Meanwhile, keep it up. You help so many. We appreciate you.
Thank you for this awesome video. So hard to find an empathetic person, much less a Doctor who really CARES. You are definitely the exception not the rule, unfortunately!
Thank you, Dr Cywes. Back in 2018, I was admitted to hospital, with a third bout of cellulitis. I asked doctors in A&E, or the cardiology ward - even a Consultant Cardiologist - what I could do to prevent a recurrence. "Jiggle at work", "wear stockings", they told me. I asked about the root cause. "No idea", or "it's genetic", they replied. Seriously? My HbA1c was 42. Nobody mentioned prediabetes or insulin resistance. Nobody said "you're obese and need to make changes to your diet and lifestyle". Not even in the most diplomatic way. I decided to take action and started searching for answers. I read about insulin resistance and carbohydrate addiction, and admitted that I am an addict. The solution was then clear. Since Christmas 2022, I have been fasting intermittently, have cut out all carbs, processed food and seed oils. I have lost over 30 pounds, sleep better, no longer need a CPAP machine, feel more energetic, the brain fog is gone, my gums don't bleed, my eyesight is clearer... there are so many aspects of my health which have improved. I'm looking forward to episode 301, as I'm still struggling with nicotine.
The only thing I could think that you might have tried was to say something like, well the best thing to try for water weight is a keto diet and if we get you securely into that we can have clarity to see if there's anything else going on. She just can't hear more so get her to take one step and see what happens.
Doc, this is your best UA-cam post I've seen so far. As the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, you can't make it drink. I asked myself three years ago: what is my current condition and am I okay with it? What state do I want to be in and why have I not always been in that state? What does it take to get there? That was my revelation. Thank you for your commitment.
After reading The Big Fat Surprise by Nina Teicholz, I understood how wrong and destructive the food pyramid has been. Yes, I am the one who shoveled sweet treats into my mouth, but it was the food pyramid that decades ago set me on the path by recommending 6-11 servings of starchy foods per day plus 3 fruits and minimal meat and fat. I remember when it first came out the recommendation to skip butter on your toast and just add jam. Avoid chocolate because of the fat and replace it with jelly beans. Yes, really! This set me up to become addicted to carbs. Over time we ate less and less meat, eggs, and fats, and more whole wheat bread, pasta, legumes, and glasses of low fat milk. And I got bigger and bigger. For awhile I quit eating ice cream at night and switched to a bowl of "healthy" cereal like Raisin Bran for my bedtime snack, but that just made me wake up ravenous for another bowl of cereal. Eventually I went back to Ben & Jerry's which had enough cream to not trigger as much hunger. I knew the low carb advice wasn't working and kind of gave up. An explanation like this might help a resistant patient to be more open to change by acknowledging that her weight is not all her own fault. It is her, and my, responsibility to change. I had to stop the Oreos and ice cream myself, but it helped to realize that I had gotten to this place in part because of the lies behind the high carb/low fat dogma.
For me it wasn’t important to know why I was fat. I know why I was fat. I ate too much of the things that kept me hungry. I wanted to know how to get rid of it. A little struggle but thanks to you I’m on track now totally.
I had a GOD moment a week ago! YOU showed up on my UA-cam page! I haven’t stopped watching your videos since! YOU haven’t stopped AMAZING me ……..I’M 71 years old……. I have been on a search since in my late teens to figure out what the heck is going on with my body. I was a thin person growing up. Then for various reasons, some my fault, I wasn’t. In EVERY one of your videos I’ve watched I say, THAT’S the BEST one I’ve watched……..then with each one you I say, that’s the best one. I figured out years ago that I am a carbohydrate addicted! I’ve tried every diet. I did a 21 day medically supervised water fast in 2019, what a horrible mistake. I’ve known for years that I am an addict………I just didn’t know that becoming a CARNIVORE was the ANSWER……until this past January, 2024. I spent December watching UA-cam to learn everything I could about being a carnivore, then in January I committed to a 90 day healing journey, with meat! It was AMAZING at first, until it wasn’t, hormones, hairloss😢, and more. But I kept going, knowing this was the answer, and my metabolic markers are improving, my highest Ha1c a year and a half ago of 8.1 went down to 5.5 and I’ve only been doing this since January. But I know what I need to REALLY DO since I discovered YOU! I cannot express how AMAZING you are! You are what I call a word genius! There is never one out of place! I am an addict! I will not STOP watching your videos and I’ve only just begun! Thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart.
🙌 Love this, this has been my life the past two years. Helped my Hubby and myself lose 170 pounds combined the last 2020-2021 and myself, i am off three medications and a fourth reduced. This is exactly where i have been and what i needed to hear again. Thank you for all you do!
Many are victims of sexual abuse and the fat reflects emotional barriers put up for self protection. Until that injury is addressed and dealt with, nothing you say will get them to lay down their protective layers emotionally or physically.
I know a lot of very overweight people, including coworkers and immediate family members, and they all have two things in common. They constantly eat junk and high carb, high sugar foods all day, and they don't like to exercise. Not even a walk.
I come from a complex addiction backgroud; eating disorders, past sexual abuse which led to PTSD, cutting and two serious suicide attempts. In addition, I started drinking and using IV drugs long before I got out of highschool. My turning point was realizing every time I justified "slips" of binging on chips and cookies made no sense. By the grace of God; one day at a time, I'm narcotic free. No slips, no relapses, no excuses. Carb addiction is very insidious since we have to eat to survive/thrive. In the past two months, it finally dawned on me that I'd never be able to look at myself in the mirror if I'd been injecting heroin or meth - even one time. Carbs are the same and would certainly kill me, as well. I adore you, Dr. Cywes. You're truly one-of-a-kind. ❤️
Once I started regarding sugar/carbs as poison for me (just as peanuts or shrimp or bee-sting allergy for another), abstinence became way easier. I can comfortably resist the pusher at a church potluck by saying - "oh no thanks, looks delicious, but I'm allergic". (I break out in fat 😁)
I hear you and feel compassion for you. I'm confident you are on your way to healing, health, and freedom from addiction. May God bless you with a clear path forward ❤️🙏😋
One of the best people I've listened to. Until you believe you are responsible, YOU can not help yourself. Dr Cywes: You can't fix the entire world. Relax, take a deep breath. I am struggling with 3 friends who can't come visit me because they can't go up stairs to the bedrooms. I miss them. I wish love could fix/help them. I hear the same things from them year after year. It only gets worse and deeper in denial. A wise man once told me that you have to "make friends with the pain". Change is painful. It hurts like hell. It is depressing, but you have to say "oh, here's that pain again. I can't have sugar and I am in actual, physical pain in my body because I want a bagel" and you have to sit with the pain. Feel the pain. Go for a walk, hug your dog, light a candle, take a long bath. Let the pain wash over you. Survive the pain. You CAN survive the pain. Each time you survive and you don't give in, it gets easier. The pain is less and less. The pain will give up. You must not give up on yourself. love & peace
yes, even tho nobody else will ever see the food diary! what is the distorted thinking? justification? pure denial? As if not writing it down means it will not affect me, even tho I actually did ingest it? yep, I'm still a carb addict in spite of keto/carnivore for years. I am just now learning about effort-based relief of emotional tension and asking myself "what else might I enjoy now, other than food?".
Ok so I am one that can easily gain 10-15 pounds in a weekend if I drink wine and aren’t in movement, but I also have lipedema. The fact is though that even though my body doesn’t process normally I have to take responsibility in knowing what causes my body to do that and stay away from it. My change came when a Dr looked at me as I was in severe pain asking me what I ate that day. I then went home to research food and pain and found keto and never looked back.
hmmm. I don't know the "right" approach to this woman. Maybe saying "quitting carbs reverses lipidemia" (which it can, so it's not a lie) and "quitting eating carbs will help you drop a lot of water weight" (it will, so you're not lying here either). She'll hear agreement those are her only problems, though you aren't saying so, but you still might get her off the carbs to fix her perceived problems. Perhaps that's a possible crow bar. Sometimes people have to fall off a LCHF diet several times before it dawns on them they have an addiction. And sympathy, and compassion, for how hard it is to stay off carbs in this world where they are everywhere (unlike heroin or cocaine or even booze) and 95% of the people around you are drug pushers, for compassion is always a great place to begin.
This was a beautiful video. I'm a 64 year old woman. I really turned the corner when I started telling myself "nothing tastes as good as being healthy feels" but it's not a single step...at least not for me. I did feel better, but I didn't really believe it. Not yet. Then eventually, I ate bad-for-me stuff and felt like shit. I'd like to say that I stuck with my good clean keto diet, but I fell of the wagon, again and again even though after I ate carbs, I'd have trouble climbing the stairs. My knees hurt. I had to use a nutcracker to open a water bottle. I still bought the keto ice cream and really tried to avoid looking at the carb addiction. I was eating keto, but couldn't kick the sweeteners. Atkins bars are the devil, but they actually helped me to stay on keto even while feeding the addiction. I went from size 18 (not sure of my weight--over 200) to size 10. 165 lbs. 5' 1" but then I stalled. I looked at what I had done so far. I really started to believe I could be well. I was taking less pain meds. Reduced BP meds, didn't go on statins or metformin like my doc wanted me to and mostly, I felt better. I knew it was the diet, but I was stalled. I needed help. I didn't want to go back to where I was, but my doc yelled at me about my high LDL. I think my turning point was when I ate a "big mac bowl" on the way home from the doctor. I thought what did it matter? Eat comfort food, but I didn't want to eat the bun even then. (certain breads--not all-- give me stomach cramps-- so I was scared to eat the bread) Sure the bowl was totally keto--but I vomited my guts out. My only processed food for months had been the daily quest or Atkins bar or homemade sweets with swerve. It took vomiting to make me finally realize what my body was trying to tell me. I decided I needed to listen to my body along with you good docs on the internet. But it took a long time to actually see me where I was and then I could see where I wanted to be. I'm still struggling with a sugar/sweetener addiction. I really want "dessert" after dinner and break down all too often, but I think the sweeteners have stalled me. I'm not a size 8 but I'd like to lose another 15-20 pounds. I still have belly fat. I'm not hungry on keto. I know it is totally comfort eating. It's the taste of the sweets. I'm thinking maybe carnivore, or at least higher protein. Both of my parents died in 2022 and I'm an only child. Lack of sleep is probably a factor. My kids don't live nearby, so my internet friends are important. You are my support. Never doubt how much your videos--and for those who make comments--your comments--help people like me who are basically doing this alone. You are our support.
Dr Cywes, you are amazing! You touch me so well on my successful 4yr KETO journey & carb (icecream/gummi) addiction. You also help me to guide my daughter in life prison for a crime she did not commit. I am working with her as well as I can on KETO education within a sea of carbs in the prison system. She has her own challenges with herself personally but luckily not substance abuse. Thanks for your continued content.
Whatever is in her history that causes her to cling to her floatation device might be so bad, she can't yet contemplate it. This person needs professional psychological help first. Then she might be ready to hear what you have to say. So it took me 50 yrs to work out that a pain disorder was caused by childhood trauma. Oh, and my emotional management system is carb addiction. I never put the 2 things together until this year. She may or may not come back. But you will be better at this the next time it happens.
She sounds like she wants to change, but she's not ready to accept any responsibility for her condition, nor begin the hard path to change. It's a hard truth to accept. She is just not ready.
That patient was not pre-contemplative but rather delusional and wanted validation for her delusion. Delusional ideas will never be changed in a single visit. You did the best you could in the situation
No one spoon fed me to my 236lbs. I tried many fad diets. I understand keto and carnivore after much research. Dr. You are an inspiration and great support I have eventually owned my body and am ready for change. My new life begins. Liw carb Margaret and get moving Thank you doctor 🙏🙏🙏
Self rage create walls that come up that people do not allow you to penetrate. You are not God but a Person who truthfully cares about others. When you can't do the best, do the best you can. You impact so many lives for people who have destroyed the walls so to learn and communicate with you. You are NOT a failure. Carry on and Stiff upper lip
I'm afraid that I use this as an excuse, but my husband buys and constantly eats ice cream, cupcakes, cookies, and candy daily. I lost, by hard work and determination, 60 pounds following keto. And now over the past year, I have gained back at least 30 pounds. I'm so disappointed in myself. Why can't I find that determination again? I know the benefits I gained by following keto, and I recognize all the health problems creeping back into my life because of the weight gain from eating all the junk food in our house. I want to blame that as the cause of my failure. But it's not! All that junk food was in the house when I lost the 60 pounds! The problem is ME!
Try eating a more carnivore kind of keto . And do not eat that first carb in the morning. I put my husbands goodies up and where I can not see it. He can still have it but if I don’t see it I can hold back the craving a bit more.
Try telling yourself that sugary foods have arsenic on it . Say it over and over to yourself . It kinda isn’t a lie. It is poisoning you . When I can not take it anymore I use full fat yougart And put in one teaspoon of ice cream and stir . Only a half cup but it helps to not go nuts . Watch the ingredients on your husbands stuff too. I try for less than five ingredients. Even on his food . At least only ones you can pronounce. You are worth it . Keep trying
I am watching this video again and I noticed he said that other people are scared to talk to you or mention your eating problem and/or your choice to go keto. But I have several (quite a lot) of friends that are nurses, nutritionalists,and vegans. And they are all very quick to tell me how wrong keto is. It's dangerous and unhealthy. Funny how they don't have much to say to explain how, when I had lost 60 lbs. on keto, my joint pain was gone, all my lab work was excellent and I quit taking my blood pressure medicine. It makes me mad. But as I make this post, I realize that my anger stirs a determination in me to prove them wrong!
@@cherylneukirch1847 My husband can have whatever he wants but he can’t bring it home. He eats keto/carnivore at home. My kids are occasionally allowed “contraband” from granny’s but only because I’m to a point that I am not triggered by it. My house, my rules is my attitude.
Did you really fail? If her issue was actually an addiction issue, she has to arrive at Step One just like any other twelve step program. If she can't admit what the actual problem is, you can't compel her. Some of the people with the most desperate need for help are the ones avoiding it the most. That's not a failure on your part any more than an alcoholic relapsing is the fault of a rehab clinic. The woman has agency. If and when she ever comes to the point that she wants what you have to offer, she'll take that first step. If she never arrives there, that's not on you.
You have inspired me to make more changes! I am down 45 pounds, but I get stuck with constant social events around food. They are at least once or twice a week😬
I think if you'd agreed with her, that would have been a failure. Sometimes it takes a person to get to a point where absolutely No One agrees with them in order to look at themselves as the only one who Can change
Not your failure Doc. She came in wanting validation that the water weight was the culprit. Very sad indeed that she is in such denial. My late mom used to say-“You can only help those that are willing to help themselves. “ You did your best to connect with her but she just wasn’t willing or ready to change.
I really appreciate the time and trouble you take to put these videos together for free for ordinary people. So many people are disappointed by their visit to their doctor with whatever complaint and have no idea that so many things are symptomatic of what they eat. The balanced diet and value of the gut microbiome is often talked about, but this includes loads of ‘healthy whole grain’s and sugars. People are so confused and do not realise they are addicted to carbs.
Regarding addiction…. Do addictions evolve with your diet? Began with SAD, moved to keto, now most carnivore. But I rarely feel full or satiated after eating. Can’t get enough no matter what’s in the fridge.
@@keylanoslokj1806 the answers with the logo of a red circle with a lower-case “r” are the doctor. The answers with the logo with the doctor’s portrait in it are fake. I don’t know how that happens or does not get removed.
So i did quit smoking once forever when i separated physical from emotional addiction by using nicotine sticks on my skin and when i travelled and was in non smoking environment. Then after one month I also stopped nicotine in my blood. It was really much more easier
I have quit so many things, cigs, wine, Xanax, pain meds, but food eludes me still. Started keto, lost 25 lbs then stalled for months. Then added fasting and I felt so deprived, I started eating carbs on occasion. Now I act like I’m going to the electric chair before I get back on keto, trying to eat all the things the days before. I’m not sure how to change for good. I actually have lymphedema, I was born with it, and depending on what I eat I can swell up 10 lbs overnight. I want to eat better for life and stop having these “ breaks.”
The other things you can stay from completely, but we still have to eat. But one thing that I noticed when I started eating low carb, and it wasn't a deliberate thing, it just happened. When I went to the shops and saw different food I looked at it as what it was; ie seeing fruit, biscuits, rice, flour I would just think carbs. I wasn't thinking oh I miss that. It was a real switch in my thinking. But no, I don't have it all worked out yet.
A good mental framework you can give them to help them understand their diet is unnatural is tell them: " if you couldn't find it 10.000 years ago it's not real food. If you couldn't stumble upon it in the Savanna it simple isn't meant to enter your digestive tract
A friend who was overweight her entire life told me that if anyone brought up her weight it had the effect of making her eat even more the first chance that she got. Unlike the woman who claimed that she was suffering from water weight, my friend said that she always knew why she was overweight. She just could not stop herself from eating.
She knew she was over weight, but could not say the quiet part out loud, she is an addict in denial by justifying with, I know I know. Makes me wonder if she is so strong when she is alone with herself.
Well, it’s been over three years and everything you’ve said here was true on the first day I saw you and I keep going over and over it for the last three years and I still haven’t gotten it totally all yet, but this video has helped me. My stubborn brain just won’t let go of my thought about carbs, I’m doing much better though and I’m on track and that’s the best I can do for now. No I’ll never give up no matter how long it takes. I won’t give up.❤
The person you could not find a crack with, I hope you connected her with someone else in the mental health profession. I can have 3 or 4 people telling me the same thing, and then find that person to wear all the light bulbs go off.
Maybe this is bs, but I think that though you may never know, you may have created a crack in the wall of that person who did not want to see that they were deceiving themselves and that crack may grow someday and cause a break in that wall. You just have to keep trying because you don't know if what you are doing or saying is making that crack grow so that person can grow. Just MHO. I am contemplating where I am going on this journey and I see the road but I don't want to take it because I know it will be hard but it may bring great and wonderful changes. Right now I am making myself make the change and I will see if I am right or not. But your contemplations give me hope that change will work out for the better.
Very difficult to see a family member who is obviously obese but has been taught to "embrace their fat". The doctor also falls for this and does not challenge that viewpoint. To clearly state that obesity is unhealthy is counter to the accepted narrative. I can imagine that most doctors can be frustrated because they understand that to keep on pointing it out does not help until there is some agent to break through this denial. I hope that I am not seen as an enabler because I cannot say anything, so all I can do is set an example. I've been told to shut up about carbs and inflammation!
"They can make changes to me, but they cannot change me"- One of the most important quotes I have ever heard in the diet and health arena. One sentence that says volumes.
You did not fail! This is mental health and addiction related... It is not me it's because of something else... You are not a psy.. 😊 Don't say ever again you failed.
You are my pathway! My change is standing alone, doing it myself as i learn what works and what doesn't. I quit smooking 2008, i quit all alcohol 2223 and started a Keto diet in Nov 2223 against GP advice and a Dieticians advice. My partner even thinks i am crazy listening to you on UA-cam. But i lost 89lbs stopped all my pain relief, thrown away Lansaprosal and Simvastatin. I have type 2 diabetes and hypertention. Now taking less medication for both. My GP still not supportive and has me in for blood work every 3 to 4 weeks. My partner still thinks i am wrong to do this lifestyle change. But the more you tell me i can not do this the more determined i become.
Doc, maybe you failed in some way. I'm sure you'll be the guy to worry about it until you figure out what can be done better. But you offered her every tool at your disposal, gave her everything you've got, and she just wasn't able to take the first step. That's on her. She failed. I hope she'll reach out and grab the lifeline you offered her, but sometimes you just have to accept that people are going to do what they're going to do no matter how hard you try. It makes me sad, because there are very similar people in my life. At the end of the day, they have ownership of their situation. I do not. You do not.
I go on and off keto/intermittent fasting- to get my blood work in line- lose a little weight- feel better- and get heathier. Why I do this as my fix for all that ails me and not as my lifestyle I have not figured out except that I know I am an addict. I'm always working towards a goal where I will be allowed to eat however I want like vacation or a holiday. The problem is whenever I allow myself that week off or day to eat I am like a alcoholic that fell off the wagon. All bets are off will I get right back on the correct plan and stop eating junk food? Who knows? When will I get back I give myself longer and longer goals to get back such as I just got back from my vacation I know I was going to start right back but I've changed my mind I will wait till Monday or after so so's birthday dinner or whatever and then because I know this will not last I am eating more and more and worse and worse all day everyday and then I will find an excuse to extend it again! It's ugly. When I am sticking to the plan people are so impressed about how well I am doing and how strict I can be with what I am eating. I am feeling so good and am always happy with my success and somehow in my addicted mind I can have that brownie on vacation it will only be a week but it NEVER is. I've been doing this to myself for years.
I am so thankful that I found you. You are so caring. I would like very much connect with you to have you at least check my blood and my numbers. Right now I am in the driver's seat and doing well. Finally starting to see the scale move a little. I think I am doing good but I know there is always room for improvement. 76 yrs old female 211 lbs currently.
Bawled! Nose blowing BAWLED listening to this!! So spot on.
My carb free life began August 3, 2022. My flaccid phase was about 6 months before that.
When I found your channel it was the biggest game changer of my life! Behind the scenes I had been journaling and digging deep into my emotional bullshit and excuses, trying so hard to make changes...at the same time, continuing to engage in the same choices. It was such a cognitive dissonance I was in and felt like I was hopeless. I could not understand how I could keep eating things I knew were causing me so much sadness and regret.
I had “ been on keto” for about a year and a half from early 2019 to mid 2020, and then I went sideways ( I would now call that a relapse) and gained all the weight back!
Why?
Because I treated keto like a diet. The moment life served up a shit sandwich with the Covid restrictions etc...I was right back to the emotional eating/carb addiction. It started out with allowing more keto ice cream and keto candy and snacks creeping in and then eventually I just started eating the real thing and then eventually right back Standard America Diet and guess what? Fat again.
Obviously I didn’t realize this was the pattern of carb addiction I was experiencing at that time, but it’s so clear now!!
Your words of TRUTH have changed my life. How on earth I made it to almost 50 years old, insulin dependent gestational diabetic 3 of my five pregnancies, lost and regained 50 plus pounds at least 10 different times, and yet NO ONE EVER mentioned the word ADDICTION? I have fully embraced this fact now and it has changed my entire view on life. With that said, I have to say this to anyone on the fence reading comments..
If it is real ( the acceptance of addiction and desire to change), you truly want to be prepared that the beginning of this journey will likely be hard. Emotionally. It will be painful at times. Not everyone will be in your court. If you are willing to stay true to what you’ve finally comprehended about yourself,there will be times that people you love and respect will challenge you. Roll their eyes at you, mock what you are doing, even try to scare you out of it. There will be those who will just believe this is another crazy diet attempt.
Stay strong. Remember where you were. Journal. Journal the hard stuff. The good stuff. Remember every time that you are tempted to go back to the old patterns that the same results you’ve had your whole life will be there. The shame, regret, embarrassment, the health issues, all of it. The results will never be different. You’ve already been there or you wouldn’t be bothering to read this right now. You can withstand the disapproval of other people much greater than you can withstand the continued disappointment in yourself. There are people who liked you better fat and sick alongside them. These are your enablers. Often good people, people we love. But ask yourself why they are so concerned about your health when you are no longer eating potato chips and fast food but they had no concern about the fact that you probably weren’t eating fruits and vegetables before either! Not one of those people probably ever remarked on the concern for your health in regards to the candy or potato chips or your weight in general. Think about that before you take their concern too seriously.
There will be many who will cheer you on. Many who WILL be in your court. You are not alone.
If the journey into being free of this addiction doesn’t cause some level of pain at times, it’s likely that you have not fully embraced it. Accept the facts. Expect the pain. On the other side of it is freedom and VICTORY 🎉
Dr. Cywes you are AMAZING! 👏🏻
Your comment was amazing. I just started my keto journey after finding this channel. I wish I had a friend like you for support. I have very little support around me and all my friends and family eat junk. I have 40 pounds to lose and I’m ready to make some changes. Wish me luck. ❤
"The results will never be different" hit me somewhere very very deep
Thanks
Thank you for your comment! You have very honestly articulated my journey. Beautifully written.
I feel this too. I started keto and a few months later my roommate too. I wasn't as strict and my roommate was. He had much more weight to lose than I. He lost 100lbs that year, while working at a fast food restaurant, treating carbs like an addiction. Not even eating carbs at a restaurant or for a birthday. I got to a point where I was happy, because I didn't have as much of an addiction problem. But when I started working again in a bakery, it took 5 months before I got into the habit of eating something sweet almost every day. Before that, I made it a rule I could only eat a sweet if I made it completely from scratch. I let that slip, considering from scratch the things I made while at work. That was wrong. At home I only made something once in a blue moon, the few things I really really enjoy, and made it better than anything from the store. A metaphor is that it turned from a fancy celebratory drink maybe once a month to a daily beer or three. It's a slippery slope. I've decided to go primarily carnivore in the new year now. Maybe I'll still allow a homemade dessert once in a very long time, maybe once a year when the wild fruits are ripe, but the less dessert I have, the less dessert I want. And even the desserts I did make, I had to at least halve the sugar, or remove entirely if fruit is involved, in any recipe to even be palatable. Honestly what I miss most is my steel cut oats boiled in cream..
Thanks so much for sharing. So, so true
I looked at myself in the mirror and spoke to my id(super ego).
you have been in control for 4 decades and look where we are(i was 385 and very sick) I’m taking over now, you will never hurt me again. (I was actually angry)that moment fueled my ability to learn how to change. I got off all the meds, dropped 245 lbs, and relearned food nutrition from the ground up and developed the foresight to learn when i was lying to myself. I’m currently 154 and healthy. Thanks doc
Congrats. You saved your life.
Dr. CYWES, this was one of your best videos!! This may sound terrible, I loved my husband 27yrs until the day he died 4yrs ago, but the day he died,for whatever psychiatric reasoning, I immediately became disgusted to the point of nausea regarding anything sweet. It's so bizarre. My point is usually our enablers for our addictions are the ones we love
so true
My Mom - she's a food pusher, especially sweets. She claims she's joining me and does most meals, but given the first chance she eats chips, pasta, dessert and wants ME to join HER 🤦🏼♀️ so frustrating.
Your show is the most “real” approach to change I’ve ever seen. Thank you, Dr. Cywes.
My flaccid stage was the first 30 days after I decided to give up carbs. I never told anyone. Had my missteps but it was really a personal revelation that I could do this, and I felt so much better! Told friends and family after 30 days, they could see so many differences in me and that it made my next stage much easier. Thank you Dr. C.
In the past 1.5 years I’m down 50 lbs. First stopped carbs, then went carnivore-ish, added intermittent fasting. Love ❤️ keeping my mind renewed and strong by listening to videos like yours. I was 200 lbs at 5’1 now working on the last 20-30 lbs. I feel great!! ✝️❤️
Even though she was defensive and angry.....you never know what "truth" she heard, that she will come back to later. I tried for years to get my husband to get on board. It took him getting so tired of being sick and tired, that one day...something "clicked" and he said I'm on board and he's never looked back. It's a seed planted....sometimes you are not there to see it grow.
I’m not a doctor, but I’ve had the same experience of failure trying to help people I love. I succeeded at keto over the past 4 years and these people were genuinely inspired by my success. I was addicted to nicotine 40 years ago and beat it, but never addicted to carbohydrates- once I saw they were a problem I was able reduce them slowly over the past 25 years and take them below 20 grams without experiencing overwhelming cravings. I get the same distorted rationalisations from loved ones that involve doughnuts, ice cream and the blueberries that of course don’t count. I have stopped intervening directly, but I do continue to talk about my own experience openly with addiction. Particularly with my experience of building new habits. The Japanese Kaizen method of building habits incrementally has helped me stop trying to eat the whole elephant and getting caught in rupture and repair. I am talking about keeping my house tidily, not carb addiction, but the road to recovery started when I picked up that first little scrap of paper off the floor that I habitually saw but ignored. Slowly I came to recognise that EVERY closet, EVERY cupboard was chock a block with things I never used and every horizontal surface was chockablock with the things I actually used. It has taken me a couple of years to break my addiction to stuff enough to really feel that no matter how potentially useful the contents of a storage space chucking it away is the only way to create what I really need - space to put away those relatively few things I actually use. Hope my experience is of some help to you in reducing that sense of failure to get through which we both experience.
well said
I too am finding clearing out unused stuff is taking up the valuable space - I could be playing in. Thanks for helping me to see the correlation.
Wow. I needed this. I keep focusing on the “diet” when the issue is carb addiction. I am a 64 yr old woman who used to weigh over 400 lbs. I have used calorie counting, and then keto to lose 105 lbs. I plateaued for 4 years because carb addiction has kept me from progressing in my weight loss. Yes my diabetes and hypertension is reversed but I eat a bit too much and regularly have struggles with carbs. This talk is helping me refocus, and add some new strategies. Thank you.
Of all the "keto" people out there, and the doctors that are on the internet, finding your videos has so helped me along my jorney and every time I watch one of your videos I am moved along on that journey. I wish I knew how to thank you properly. Please keep at it.
definitely
@@robertcywes2966hello saffie!
Dr. Cywes, I am a PA in the ED that tries to promote healthy eating and living. I recently found out I am prediabetic while on keto diet; now I'm carnivore living. I am thinking, living and feeling great and want this for all my patients, friends and family. However, I am a type A personality so as you can imagine I needed this lecture on how to approach people. I have failed to encourage some of my pts and family members by not meeting them where they are and not realizing change is a process that is different for all. I almost didn't listen to this lecture because it wasn't about the biochemical, nutritional, protein, fat metabolism information that I've learned so much from you. Sooooo glad I did; I needed this aspect of medicine personally and professionally. Thank you - sincerely truly
Continuous improvement as a person or as a clinician is best done when we pause and huddle with ourselves and ask those reflective questions.
What did I do well?
What can I do better?
Appreciate you walking through this exercise with us.
Great video Doc! My denial was not looking in the mirror enough because in my mind I was still 140# so the few times I caught my reflection I was shocked. No more! It’s all down to me. Thank you for everything ❤🇨🇦
Been there done that. Now the mirror shows an old lady I don't recognize.
Your patient IMHO simply is not ready. It takes commitment, steely determination, discipline, and the ability to the work. In my case I had been thinking about losing the weight for years. Earlier this year everything seemed to just click. I knew I was ready. I can serve ice cream to the family and watch them enjoy it without feeling the least deprived. I love how healthy I am now and will never go back to the high carb life again.
"seemed to just click" That really is a thing for me too. Comes after short or long flaccid period and then seems magical. In my case it was cold turkey on (dark) chocolate bars. The carbs didn't add up so much, but those chocolate bars signaled some part of me that I was NOT in control of my eating.
I found Keto just over four years ago , mainly carnivore the last two . You have been such a vital part of my journey.. I have watched all of your videos and you have helped me change and evolve , and understand the addiction side of it better then anyone , hands down ! This was very thought provoking , and I think my consciousness of change has been all the examples you discussed …I am still finding my way… thank you so much for your invaluable teaching .. I have an appointment with you coming in December and I can’t wait ! Again , thank you .. I so admire your calling
I used to do volunteer work with a hospice. One thing I learned is that not everyone truly wants to feel better. For whatever reason, some people need their pain. As difficult as it is to do, I think you have to respect where people are on their journey. My friends know that I am here for them, but sometimes, all they want is love and acceptance, not suggestions, no matter how helpful they might be.
Her beliefs and decisions aren’t your failure. I can’t believe she was as desperate for change as you believe if you couldn’t even get her to try keto which is super good at getting rid of some water weight, but yeah not 200 pounds worth. At any rate if she would have given you a real chance and saw some quick progress on keto like most people do, it would have started opening up her mind to further conversations and you could have started cracking that wall but it sounds as if you were defeated this time before you started. But I can’t agree with you that her failure is yours bc that’s just another excuse for her. If you were a mainstream doc, I would 100% agree with you but I’ve watched enough of your videos to know better than that. I am impressed with your wanting to grow and learn from every experience but this is just that for you..a learning experience, not a failure.
The psychological component is crucial, you showed me this more clearly than anyone (and I am a psychologist). You are brilliant, honest and humble sir. My fridge contains only ketivore food yet I still open it to browse, then I realize "here is emotional event". If I'm not hungry then, What am I honestly feeling? My come to Jesus was prediabetes and then breast cancer. It's 7 years now. I've worked hard to change. I am alive and well because you gave me tools. I am deeply grateful that God graced me with finding your generous videos. I pray for you and that you reach as many as possible.
I'm maintaining a natural 150 pound weight loss. I lost it using IF, exercise and ketovore but what I have had to learn in order to keep it off is why I use food. Author Geneen Roth helped me tremendously... it's that psychological work that has been key for keeping me on track in combo with the other 3 logistical pieces.
Which of Roth’s books would you recommend starting with?
@@barbischaefer when food is love is my favorite book and the audio course is even better. I got both through my library and have since bought all her books. Hope it helps you!!
Light Bulb moment. I began my journey in 2015 @ 253 lbs. Today, 171 but kind of stuck. Long story, I was so motivated with just weight loss being my only focus. I wrote the "dear john" letter to favorite comfort foods however I never considered this as an addiction, until I found you about 3 weeks ago.
This particular Ep:257 hit me between the eyes. I'm 76 in a month maybe an old dog can be taught a new life style. Gosh I'd love to sit with you and talk and figure out just who I am. I'm the mask wearer, and don't even know how to unveil myself. But perhaps admitting my ignorance to myself will permit me to remove the mask.
I'll need to re-watch this episode several times to peal back the onion skins.
Thank you for being upfront honest.
I'm a dynamic change kind of person. My journey with keto and progressively carnivore started with 21 day fast. I've prepared myself reading and watching Jason Fung, Ken Berry and ofcourse, you. Without that initial preparation and subsequent exposure to more and more information from Ben Bikman, Dom D'agostino and many others it wouldn't be possible to keep up momentum. In 19 months I've lost 17 kgs achieving 10% body fat level. In parallel I've picked up physical activities. Being almost 40 I'm in better physical and mental shape than in my twenties. For the first time in my life excercise is fun and I'm motivated to be active not because I "have to" but because I want to. Nothing of this would have happened without your guidance. Thank you.
I discovered keto 4 years ago and it was truly life changing. As obvious as my health improvements are, when people want to know what I've been doing, I tell them, it starts with giving up sugar ... I can't tell you how many times people, who obviously need help and change, tell me that they don't eat sugar! I say then it's the carbohydrates that turn to sugar ..... oh no, they tell me, I hardly eat any of those either! I'm tempted to say "oh well you will be slim and healthy in no time then"! But I don't. It's bloody hard work.
AMAZING VIDEO SEGMENT. I absolutely can't stomach the usual psycho - touchy - feely BS, but a real man talking about real struggles and feelings - thank you. 🎈🎈🎈
Dr. Cywes hello! I'm a huge fan of yours. Your honest, factual description of carb addiction is what finally woke me up. I started with keto and transferred to carnivore-keto with astounding results in both greatly improved health and huge weight loss.
Once I faced my own personal demons of my love for carbs and sugar, admitting to myself that "Yes. You are an addict." , only then did everything click in my brain. I could then face the REAL problem which was myself and battle to control my cravings, KNOWING that those very carbs that I was stuffing in my face, because they taste so good, were the reason for my sickness and fatness.
Carnivore has helped me the most. I eat only twice a day and rarely am hungry in-between.
Plus, after hearing so many of your talks, you also helped me when I may slip up by eating some dessert at a celebration for example or eat more than usual. I now know how to bounce back immediately and any weight I gain I'm able to lose very quickly.
Thank you doctor! You are a gem! Keep up the excellent work😊
The struggle is real! I decided, after watching this video, Thanksgiving being the high carb day it is I am going to stick to Turkey and salad and veg with a tiny amount of gravy. The gravy will be my big splurge. Thanks to these videos and good common sense.
I love sharing your videos, because I believe your presentation appeals to a broad audience. I can't wait until you kick the coffee/caffeine addiction (or at least take a break once in a while). You helped me break many addictions...even the ones you approve of as a bridge. I switched to decaf exclusively last winter and stopped all coffee/tea (only drink water and broth) three weeks ago. I don't miss it at all and my energy has never been better. Thank you 🙏
I gave up coffee too. It's plant-based...not indicated for a carnivore WOE. I just drink water now. I do make a cup of hot water w/ butter, salt, heavy whipping creme (all frothed together) if I need something cozy and warm. Also, my BP has lowered w/o coffee. Coincidence?
She’ll be back. Just not ready to hear the truth.
What worked for me? It telling myself I could eat as much as I wanted…of the right food. That was way before I knew I was a carb addict. But it my first steps to this huge journey I’ve been on for the last 4 years. 90 lbs down but struggling every day with the addiction. Baby steps then Burn it all down. Thanks Doc.
Many, many people have poor reasoning skills. If a person listens to the "guidelines" he/she may believe they're eating very well. I thought I was. Cooked potatoes, fresh corn, sugar - not high fructose corn syrup, low fat meat cuts, "healthy" fats etc. The shame thing? Needs to be unlearned by information. I no longer see anyone as "a big fat slob". Now I see metabolically ill people without a clue. I was completely clueless until I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. It was the best thing ever! My doctor gave me terrible - clueless - advise. Then I had to do a deep dive into understanding why I was metabolically ill. This happened about a year ago. Now I don't have the markers for diabetes, better blood work results and about 45 pound weight loss.
Really strong statement in there Buck~ "The shame thing"..."needs to be unlearned via information". Could not agree more, mostly because it truly is the only way. Once we decide to search a matter out, the information we take in can only serve our best interests. Over time, a whole lot of gray area becomes crystal clear, along with previously conceived notions of ourselves- shame being such a brick wall made up of nothing but lies.
I am 87 years old. I have done Atkins in the past successfully several times but always went back to carbs because ? Doesn't matter why. Getting off gradually worked for a while but now I am stuck with chocolate, ice cream and potato chips. One leads to the other. See no progress unless I go cold turkey off of all! Thanks for encouragement.
treat the behavior
Try beef, butter, bacon and eggs for 90 days. While you are at it read “Lies My Doctor Told Me”’ by Ken Berry, M.D.
Increasing consciousness and shining the spotlight on ourselves to see how truly disgusting we've been is a journey through hell. Maybe it's also the way to true liberation? I'm contemplating this now and it's grim but what you expose to the light then becomes the light. How I've behaved towards others was wrong, I can see how weak and pathetic I've been using various comforts, I've created my own problems, I've been disgustingly selfish.
My ego really doesn't like looking at all this and prefers to play victim. I'm just gonna allow this honest self reflection to humble me and hopefully change for the better. I didn't previously have the level of awareness to act any different, knowing this maybe I can forgive myself. My level of awareness (consciousness / god) is now of primary importance. Everything else flows from that
Dr. Cywes, I weighed 351 lbs and had no idea that it was what I was putting in my face. Looking at me was probably the hardest thing I have ever done or will ever have to do.
Carnivore 2 months...strugling with cravings and myself (kry myself jammer..moet koeksisters bak en niks eet nie)
Don't want to go places like church, friends..functions always lekkernye. I am strugling. Went into Carnivore eating cold turkey.
But yes the battle is on mostly myself!
Small town in Karoo and extreme weather is playing havoc with my emotions...also budget wise. Luckly Springbok and Vlakvarke is cheap meat. Cheaper than frozen broccoli.
Greetings from South Africa
begin stadig. om net vleis te eet mag as straf voel. beter om met n wyer verskydenheid te begin dan stadig minder groente eet. moet n keuse wees.
Good luck. A common early keto/carnivore mistake is not eating enough fat (and salt). That might help with the cravings.
This is the problem. Media adverts that promote being fat. That does not encourage the fat fokers to lose weight or get fit for their own good.
Self admission. Recognising you bought the ice cream, ate 1/2 of it and being big enough to say, what am I doing? And put the rest in the bin. Recognising that you are restarting to snack, Recognising that there are days you buy chocolate 85% in the supermarket dreaming that you can control it, only to see you eat everything the same day. Tough to admit you screw up for people already on this road......even harder when u r just starting
Would I be ashamed to have a peanut allergy where one mistake could kill me? No. So I have a "carb allergy", I am very sensitive to carbs, especially sugar, like an alcoholic to alcohol. It's just the way I am built. Took years, lots of years and lessons, to realize I am better off with zero.
Please do more videos like this. Reality is what makes us see.
Great, great video. Thank you Dr. Cywes. This is where most gurus gloss over this kind of info or turn it into a 4 week, expensive group program. And that works for many! I'm beyond that. I'm an honest-to-goodness carb/food addict. And because of you, I know that and am working with this information.
You dive deeper into the whole psychological aspect which is where I believe most people have huge issues without even knowing. That's why they have the "can't stick to this diet" or "it didn't work for me" attitude. It's when you have that aha moment that things start to change.
I've been on a roller coaster with this for sure but I'm glad my eyes are open. Thanks to you. So blessed you're my Doc and you're in our lives. 🤗💜
Right on Doc. This is the most influential video you could do. No matter what behavior change we request or offer, without knowing how to deal with where the patient is at, we're just about useless. Don't worry. You may have planted a seed that may take time to sow in that "amored" patient. Meanwhile, keep it up. You help so many. We appreciate you.
thanks
Thank you for this awesome video. So hard to find an empathetic person, much less a Doctor who really CARES. You are definitely the exception not the rule, unfortunately!
Wow. This is what I need to hear. Thank you. I wish you were my doctor.
Thank you, Dr Cywes. Back in 2018, I was admitted to hospital, with a third bout of cellulitis. I asked doctors in A&E, or the cardiology ward - even a Consultant Cardiologist - what I could do to prevent a recurrence. "Jiggle at work", "wear stockings", they told me. I asked about the root cause. "No idea", or "it's genetic", they replied.
Seriously? My HbA1c was 42. Nobody mentioned prediabetes or insulin resistance. Nobody said "you're obese and need to make changes to your diet and lifestyle". Not even in the most diplomatic way.
I decided to take action and started searching for answers. I read about insulin resistance and carbohydrate addiction, and admitted that I am an addict. The solution was then clear. Since Christmas 2022, I have been fasting intermittently, have cut out all carbs, processed food and seed oils.
I have lost over 30 pounds, sleep better, no longer need a CPAP machine, feel more energetic, the brain fog is gone, my gums don't bleed, my eyesight is clearer... there are so many aspects of my health which have improved.
I'm looking forward to episode 301, as I'm still struggling with nicotine.
The only thing I could think that you might have tried was to say something like, well the best thing to try for water weight is a keto diet and if we get you securely into that we can have clarity to see if there's anything else going on. She just can't hear more so get her to take one step and see what happens.
good suggestion
Doc, this is your best UA-cam post I've seen so far. As the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, you can't make it drink.
I asked myself three years ago: what is my current condition and am I okay with it? What state do I want to be in and why have I not always been in that state? What does it take to get there?
That was my revelation. Thank you for your commitment.
After reading The Big Fat Surprise by Nina Teicholz, I understood how wrong and destructive the food pyramid has been. Yes, I am the one who shoveled sweet treats into my mouth, but it was the food pyramid that decades ago set me on the path by recommending 6-11 servings of starchy foods per day plus 3 fruits and minimal meat and fat. I remember when it first came out the recommendation to skip butter on your toast and just add jam. Avoid chocolate because of the fat and replace it with jelly beans. Yes, really! This set me up to become addicted to carbs.
Over time we ate less and less meat, eggs, and fats, and more whole wheat bread, pasta, legumes, and glasses of low fat milk. And I got bigger and bigger. For awhile I quit eating ice cream at night and switched to a bowl of "healthy" cereal like Raisin Bran for my bedtime snack, but that just made me wake up ravenous for another bowl of cereal. Eventually I went back to Ben & Jerry's which had enough cream to not trigger as much hunger. I knew the low carb advice wasn't working and kind of gave up.
An explanation like this might help a resistant patient to be more open to change by acknowledging that her weight is not all her own fault. It is her, and my, responsibility to change. I had to stop the Oreos and ice cream myself, but it helped to realize that I had gotten to this place in part because of the lies behind the high carb/low fat dogma.
Started ketogenic diet in 1998 (Atkins). The diet never failed, but I did a few times over the years.
For me it wasn’t important to know why I was fat. I know why I was fat. I ate too much of the things that kept me hungry. I wanted to know how to get rid of it. A little struggle but thanks to you I’m on track now totally.
I had a GOD moment a week ago! YOU showed up on my UA-cam page! I haven’t stopped watching your videos since! YOU haven’t stopped AMAZING me ……..I’M 71 years old……. I have been on a search since in my late teens to figure out what the heck is going on with my body. I was a thin person growing up. Then for various reasons, some my fault, I wasn’t. In EVERY one of your videos I’ve watched I say, THAT’S the BEST one I’ve watched……..then with each one you I say, that’s the best one. I figured out years ago that I am a carbohydrate addicted! I’ve tried every diet. I did a 21 day medically supervised water fast in 2019, what a horrible mistake. I’ve known for years that I am an addict………I just didn’t know that becoming a CARNIVORE was the ANSWER……until this past January, 2024. I spent December watching UA-cam to learn everything I could about being a carnivore, then in January I committed to a 90 day healing journey, with meat! It was AMAZING at first, until it wasn’t, hormones, hairloss😢, and more. But I kept going, knowing this was the answer, and my metabolic markers are improving, my highest Ha1c a year and a half ago of 8.1 went down to 5.5 and I’ve only been doing this since January. But I know what I need to REALLY DO since I discovered YOU! I cannot express how AMAZING you are! You are what I call a word genius! There is never one out of place! I am an addict! I will not STOP watching your videos and I’ve only just begun! Thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart.
🙌 Love this, this has been my life the past two years. Helped my Hubby and myself lose 170 pounds combined the last 2020-2021 and myself, i am off three medications and a fourth reduced. This is exactly where i have been and what i needed to hear again. Thank you for all you do!
Many are victims of sexual abuse and the fat reflects emotional barriers put up for self protection. Until that injury is addressed and dealt with, nothing you say will get them to lay down their protective layers emotionally or physically.
I know a lot of very overweight people, including coworkers and immediate family members, and they all have two things in common. They constantly eat junk and high carb, high sugar foods all day, and they don't like to exercise. Not even a walk.
Wow, I'm 55 years old and that is one of the most powerful speeches/monologues I have ever heard
I come from a complex addiction backgroud; eating disorders, past sexual abuse which led to PTSD, cutting and two serious suicide attempts. In addition, I started drinking and using IV drugs long before I got out of highschool. My turning point was realizing every time I justified "slips" of binging on chips and cookies made no sense. By the grace of God; one day at a time, I'm narcotic free. No slips, no relapses, no excuses. Carb addiction is very insidious since we have to eat to survive/thrive. In the past two months, it finally dawned on me that I'd never be able to look at myself in the mirror if I'd been injecting heroin or meth - even one time. Carbs are the same and would certainly kill me, as well. I adore you, Dr. Cywes. You're truly one-of-a-kind. ❤️
All true, every word of it. Beautifully & honestly stated. I believe you speak for SO many of us, & I thank you for doing so Arwen. ~Sam in AZ
@@RV-there-Yet I appreciate your kind words. If I've helped anyone, in any way; I'm truly grateful. 👍❤️💯🙏
Once I started regarding sugar/carbs as poison for me (just as peanuts or shrimp or bee-sting allergy for another), abstinence became way easier. I can comfortably resist the pusher at a church potluck by saying - "oh no thanks, looks delicious, but I'm allergic". (I break out in fat 😁)
You are such a caring person. I am that person that needs help but cannot find the answer.
I hear you and feel compassion for you. I'm confident you are on your way to healing, health, and freedom from addiction. May God bless you with a clear path forward ❤️🙏😋
One of the best people I've listened to. Until you believe you are responsible, YOU can not help yourself. Dr Cywes: You can't fix the entire world. Relax, take a deep breath.
I am struggling with 3 friends who can't come visit me because they can't go up stairs to the bedrooms. I miss them. I wish love could fix/help them. I hear the same things from them year after year. It only gets worse and deeper in denial. A wise man once told me that you have to "make friends with the pain". Change is painful. It hurts like hell. It is depressing, but you have to say "oh, here's that pain again. I can't have sugar and I am in actual, physical pain in my body because I want a bagel" and you have to sit with the pain. Feel the pain. Go for a walk, hug your dog, light a candle, take a long bath. Let the pain wash over you. Survive the pain. You CAN survive the pain. Each time you survive and you don't give in, it gets easier. The pain is less and less. The pain will give up. You must not give up on yourself. love & peace
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Yes I have that eroded sense of self, and have built a 700 pound wall of flesh around me
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May God bless you with a clear path to total freedom ❤️🙏❤️
I keep a daily food diary as the struggle is real, so real that you justify not marking down something you know you really shouldn't be eating.
yes, even tho nobody else will ever see the food diary! what is the distorted thinking? justification? pure denial? As if not writing it down means it will not affect me, even tho I actually did ingest it? yep, I'm still a carb addict in spite of keto/carnivore for years. I am just now learning about effort-based relief of emotional tension and asking myself "what else might I enjoy now, other than food?".
Ok so I am one that can easily gain 10-15 pounds in a weekend if I drink wine and aren’t in movement, but I also have lipedema. The fact is though that even though my body doesn’t process normally I have to take responsibility in knowing what causes my body to do that and stay away from it. My change came when a Dr looked at me as I was in severe pain asking me what I ate that day. I then went home to research food and pain and found keto and never looked back.
hmmm. I don't know the "right" approach to this woman. Maybe saying "quitting carbs reverses lipidemia" (which it can, so it's not a lie) and "quitting eating carbs will help you drop a lot of water weight" (it will, so you're not lying here either). She'll hear agreement those are her only problems, though you aren't saying so, but you still might get her off the carbs to fix her perceived problems. Perhaps that's a possible crow bar. Sometimes people have to fall off a LCHF diet several times before it dawns on them they have an addiction. And sympathy, and compassion, for how hard it is to stay off carbs in this world where they are everywhere (unlike heroin or cocaine or even booze) and 95% of the people around you are drug pushers, for compassion is always a great place to begin.
This was a beautiful video. I'm a 64 year old woman. I really turned the corner when I started telling myself "nothing tastes as good as being healthy feels" but it's not a single step...at least not for me.
I did feel better, but I didn't really believe it. Not yet. Then eventually, I ate bad-for-me stuff and felt like shit. I'd like to say that I stuck with my good clean keto diet, but I fell of the wagon, again and again even though after I ate carbs, I'd have trouble climbing the stairs. My knees hurt. I had to use a nutcracker to open a water bottle. I still bought the keto ice cream and really tried to avoid looking at the carb addiction. I was eating keto, but couldn't kick the sweeteners. Atkins bars are the devil, but they actually helped me to stay on keto even while feeding the addiction.
I went from size 18 (not sure of my weight--over 200) to size 10. 165 lbs. 5' 1" but then I stalled. I looked at what I had done so far. I really started to believe I could be well. I was taking less pain meds. Reduced BP meds, didn't go on statins or metformin like my doc wanted me to and mostly, I felt better. I knew it was the diet, but I was stalled. I needed help. I didn't want to go back to where I was, but my doc yelled at me about my high LDL. I think my turning point was when I ate a "big mac bowl" on the way home from the doctor. I thought what did it matter? Eat comfort food, but I didn't want to eat the bun even then. (certain breads--not all-- give me stomach cramps-- so I was scared to eat the bread) Sure the bowl was totally keto--but I vomited my guts out. My only processed food for months had been the daily quest or Atkins bar or homemade sweets with swerve.
It took vomiting to make me finally realize what my body was trying to tell me. I decided I needed to listen to my body along with you good docs on the internet. But it took a long time to actually see me where I was and then I could see where I wanted to be. I'm still struggling with a sugar/sweetener addiction. I really want "dessert" after dinner and break down all too often, but I think the sweeteners have stalled me. I'm not a size 8 but I'd like to lose another 15-20 pounds. I still have belly fat. I'm not hungry on keto. I know it is totally comfort eating. It's the taste of the sweets. I'm thinking maybe carnivore, or at least higher protein. Both of my parents died in 2022 and I'm an only child. Lack of sleep is probably a factor. My kids don't live nearby, so my internet friends are important.
You are my support. Never doubt how much your videos--and for those who make comments--your comments--help people like me who are basically doing this alone. You are our support.
Dr Cywes, you are amazing! You touch me so well on my successful 4yr KETO journey & carb (icecream/gummi) addiction. You also help me to guide my daughter in life prison for a crime she did not commit. I am working with her as well as I can on KETO education within a sea of carbs in the prison system. She has her own challenges with herself personally but luckily not substance abuse. Thanks for your continued content.
be strong for her
Whatever is in her history that causes her to cling to her floatation device might be so bad, she can't yet contemplate it. This person needs professional psychological help first. Then she might be ready to hear what you have to say. So it took me 50 yrs to work out that a pain disorder was caused by childhood trauma. Oh, and my emotional management system is carb addiction. I never put the 2 things together until this year. She may or may not come back. But you will be better at this the next time it happens.
She sounds like she wants to change, but she's not ready to accept any responsibility for her condition, nor begin the hard path to change. It's a hard truth to accept. She is just not ready.
That patient was not pre-contemplative but rather delusional and wanted validation for her delusion. Delusional ideas will never be changed in a single visit. You did the best you could in the situation
No one spoon fed me to my 236lbs.
I tried many fad diets.
I understand keto and carnivore after much research.
Dr. You are an inspiration and great support
I have eventually owned my body and am ready for change. My new life begins. Liw carb Margaret and get moving
Thank you doctor 🙏🙏🙏
Self rage create walls that come up that people do not allow you to penetrate. You are not God but a Person who truthfully cares about others. When you can't do the best, do the best you can. You impact so many lives for people who have destroyed the walls so to learn and communicate with you. You are NOT a failure. Carry on and Stiff upper lip
I'm afraid that I use this as an excuse, but my husband buys and constantly eats ice cream, cupcakes, cookies, and candy daily. I lost, by hard work and determination, 60 pounds following keto. And now over the past year, I have gained back at least 30 pounds. I'm so disappointed in myself. Why can't I find that determination again? I know the benefits I gained by following keto, and I recognize all the health problems creeping back into my life because of the weight gain from eating all the junk food in our house. I want to blame that as the cause of my failure. But it's not! All that junk food was in the house when I lost the 60 pounds! The problem is ME!
Try eating a more carnivore kind of keto . And do not eat that first carb in the morning. I put my husbands goodies up and where I can not see it. He can still have it but if I don’t see it I can hold back the craving a bit more.
@@lisagayhart2482 thank you. It's hard to resist it but I know it's possible with determination.
Try telling yourself that sugary foods have arsenic on it . Say it over and over to yourself . It kinda isn’t a lie. It is poisoning you . When I can not take it anymore I use full fat yougart And put in one teaspoon of ice cream and stir . Only a half cup but it helps to not go nuts . Watch the ingredients on your husbands stuff too. I try for less than five ingredients. Even on his food . At least only ones you can pronounce. You are worth it . Keep trying
I am watching this video again and I noticed he said that other people are scared to talk to you or mention your eating problem and/or your choice to go keto. But I have several (quite a lot) of friends that are nurses, nutritionalists,and vegans. And they are all very quick to tell me how wrong keto is. It's dangerous and unhealthy. Funny how they don't have much to say to explain how, when I had lost 60 lbs. on keto, my joint pain was gone, all my lab work was excellent and I quit taking my blood pressure medicine. It makes me mad. But as I make this post, I realize that my anger stirs a determination in me to prove them wrong!
@@cherylneukirch1847 My husband can have whatever he wants but he can’t bring it home. He eats keto/carnivore at home. My kids are occasionally allowed “contraband” from granny’s but only because I’m to a point that I am not triggered by it. My house, my rules is my attitude.
Did you really fail? If her issue was actually an addiction issue, she has to arrive at Step One just like any other twelve step program. If she can't admit what the actual problem is, you can't compel her.
Some of the people with the most desperate need for help are the ones avoiding it the most.
That's not a failure on your part any more than an alcoholic relapsing is the fault of a rehab clinic.
The woman has agency. If and when she ever comes to the point that she wants what you have to offer, she'll take that first step. If she never arrives there, that's not on you.
You have inspired me to make more changes! I am down 45 pounds, but I get stuck with constant social events around food. They are at least once or twice a week😬
I think if you'd agreed with her, that would have been a failure. Sometimes it takes a person to get to a point where absolutely No One agrees with them in order to look at themselves as the only one who Can change
Bit unfair saying very British of you !!! It’s not just us brits you know
Not your failure Doc. She came in wanting validation that the water weight was the culprit. Very sad indeed that she is in such denial. My late mom used to say-“You can only help those that are willing to help themselves. “ You did your best to connect with her but she just wasn’t willing or ready to change.
You are the Most Convivial Person Out there that is Helping Others Whom Struggle with Their Health 👍🏻🥰 Thank You Doc Cywes
I really appreciate the time and trouble you take to put these videos together for free for ordinary people. So many people are disappointed by their visit to their doctor with whatever complaint and have no idea that so many things are symptomatic of what they eat. The balanced diet and value of the gut microbiome is often talked about, but this includes loads of ‘healthy whole grain’s and sugars. People are so confused and do not realise they are addicted to carbs.
When that patient with the 'water weight' watches this video. She may finally start her own journey🙏
always optimistic
Regarding addiction…. Do addictions evolve with your diet? Began with SAD, moved to keto, now most carnivore. But I rarely feel full or satiated after eating. Can’t get enough no matter what’s in the fridge.
fat...don't be afraid of fat
@@robertcywes2966 are you the real doctor or a fake profile
@@keylanoslokj1806 the answers with the logo of a red circle with a lower-case “r” are the doctor. The answers with the logo with the doctor’s portrait in it are fake. I don’t know how that happens or does not get removed.
So i did quit smoking once forever when i separated physical from emotional addiction by using nicotine sticks on my skin and when i travelled and was in non smoking environment. Then after one month I also stopped nicotine in my blood. It was really much more easier
Well said. My times of most struggle have always been when others thought I was doing well. Being vulnerable has not yet worked out for me.
I have quit so many things, cigs, wine, Xanax, pain meds, but food eludes me still. Started keto, lost 25 lbs then stalled for months. Then added fasting and I felt so deprived, I started eating carbs on occasion. Now I act like I’m going to the electric chair before I get back on keto, trying to eat all the things the days before.
I’m not sure how to change for good. I actually have lymphedema, I was born with it, and depending on what I eat I can swell up 10 lbs overnight. I want to eat better for life and stop having these “ breaks.”
The other things you can stay from completely, but we still have to eat. But one thing that I noticed when I started eating low carb, and it wasn't a deliberate thing, it just happened. When I went to the shops and saw different food I looked at it as what it was; ie seeing fruit, biscuits, rice, flour I would just think carbs. I wasn't thinking oh I miss that. It was a real switch in my thinking. But no, I don't have it all worked out yet.
work on selfcare first. watch my selfspeak video
Absolutely magnificent, heart felt guidance to your fellow human being. GOD bless you and never give up!
Ditto ! Magnificent!
A good mental framework you can give them to help them understand their diet is unnatural is tell them: " if you couldn't find it 10.000 years ago it's not real food. If you couldn't stumble upon it in the Savanna it simple isn't meant to enter your digestive tract
Love watching all your videos. Thank you for all you do as a healer & a Doctor. You help millions of people.
Your book has already been "spoken" by you. Maybe hire someone to curate all of your talks? You are inspirational.
A friend who was overweight her entire life told me that if anyone brought up her weight it had the effect of making her eat even more the first chance that she got. Unlike the woman who claimed that she was suffering from water weight, my friend said that she always knew why she was overweight. She just could not stop herself from eating.
She knew she was over weight, but could not say the quiet part out loud, she is an addict in denial by justifying with, I know I know. Makes me wonder if she is so strong when she is alone with herself.
I love your therapy combined with medicine approach!!! You are my favorite person!! #cywester
When a student is ready to learn, The teacher appears! She wasn't ready!
Really great video, perspective, and wonderful way of explaining a variety of important issues!!!
Well, it’s been over three years and everything you’ve said here was true on the first day I saw you and I keep going over and over it for the last three years and I still haven’t gotten it totally all yet, but this video has helped me. My stubborn brain just won’t let go of my thought about carbs, I’m doing much better though and I’m on track and that’s the best I can do for now. No I’ll never give up no matter how long it takes. I won’t give up.❤
The person you could not find a crack with, I hope you connected her with someone else in the mental health profession. I can have 3 or 4 people telling me the same thing, and then find that person to wear all the light bulbs go off.
Maybe this is bs, but I think that though you may never know, you may have created a crack in the wall of that person who did not want to see that they were deceiving themselves and that crack may grow someday and cause a break in that wall. You just have to keep trying because you don't know if what you are doing or saying is making that crack grow so that person can grow. Just MHO. I am contemplating where I am going on this journey and I see the road but I don't want to take it because I know it will be hard but it may bring great and wonderful changes. Right now I am making myself make the change and I will see if I am right or not. But your contemplations give me hope that change will work out for the better.
i agree and hope so
Very difficult to see a family member who is obviously obese but has been taught to "embrace their fat". The doctor also falls for this and does not challenge that viewpoint. To clearly state that obesity is unhealthy is counter to the accepted narrative. I can imagine that most doctors can be frustrated because they understand that to keep on pointing it out does not help until there is some agent to break through this denial. I hope that I am not seen as an enabler because I cannot say anything, so all I can do is set an example. I've been told to shut up about carbs and inflammation!
Cutting Edge medicine here ❤️
I was hoping God would change me. 🙏🏻 Maybe you are right. Maybe I’m responsible to change me.😢
BEST VIDEO EVER!!!! perfect for every aspect of our lives!
We (in the mental health field)use motivational interviewing ...sometimes that helps...sometimes not...its a process...
Yes~ motivational interviewing, along w/a mediator's balance & frankness truly can be helpful. Almost always worth the effort, imho.
"They can make changes to me, but they cannot change me"- One of the most important quotes I have ever heard in the diet and health arena. One sentence that says volumes.
You did not fail! This is mental health and addiction related... It is not me it's because of something else... You are not a psy.. 😊 Don't say ever again you failed.
Thank you very much for all your videos Dear Doctor, they are fantastic and of an inmense value!!!!!!!!!
You are my pathway! My change is standing alone, doing it myself as i learn what works and what doesn't. I quit smooking 2008, i quit all alcohol 2223 and started a Keto diet in Nov 2223 against GP advice and a Dieticians advice. My partner even thinks i am crazy listening to you on UA-cam. But i lost 89lbs stopped all my pain relief, thrown away Lansaprosal and Simvastatin. I have type 2 diabetes and hypertention. Now taking less medication for both. My GP still not supportive and has me in for blood work every 3 to 4 weeks. My partner still thinks i am wrong to do this lifestyle change. But the more you tell me i can not do this the more determined i become.
"Change is going to happen in your life. Do you want to be the driver of that change or the passenger." That's PROFOUND!!
My Answer: The Driver
I appreciate your no nonsense style. I am my own worst enemy and saboteurl!
Doc, maybe you failed in some way. I'm sure you'll be the guy to worry about it until you figure out what can be done better. But you offered her every tool at your disposal, gave her everything you've got, and she just wasn't able to take the first step. That's on her. She failed. I hope she'll reach out and grab the lifeline you offered her, but sometimes you just have to accept that people are going to do what they're going to do no matter how hard you try. It makes me sad, because there are very similar people in my life. At the end of the day, they have ownership of their situation. I do not. You do not.
I go on and off keto/intermittent fasting- to get my blood work in line- lose a little weight- feel better- and get heathier. Why I do this as my fix for all that ails me and not as my lifestyle I have not figured out except that I know I am an addict. I'm always working towards a goal where I will be allowed to eat however I want like vacation or a holiday. The problem is whenever I allow myself that week off or day to eat I am like a alcoholic that fell off the wagon. All bets are off will I get right back on the correct plan and stop eating junk food? Who knows? When will I get back I give myself longer and longer goals to get back such as I just got back from my vacation I know I was going to start right back but I've changed my mind I will wait till Monday or after so so's birthday dinner or whatever and then because I know this will not last I am eating more and more and worse and worse all day everyday and then I will find an excuse to extend it again! It's ugly. When I am sticking to the plan people are so impressed about how well I am doing and how strict I can be with what I am eating. I am feeling so good and am always happy with my success and somehow in my addicted mind I can have that brownie on vacation it will only be a week but it NEVER is. I've been doing this to myself for years.
I am so thankful that I found you. You are so caring. I would like very much connect with you to have you at least check my blood and my numbers. Right now I am in the driver's seat and doing well. Finally starting to see the scale move a little. I think I am doing good but I know there is always room for improvement. 76 yrs old female 211 lbs currently.