@@JstJaybeingJay for me I feel kind of lost in my life ,I have Soo much Fateful choices so I'm afraid to choice the wrong things and that's will effect my future life 😭🙂That's actually what I'm going through .they called it midlife crisis 😊
@Oumaima Fikri I guess it's "responsibility", for me it feels like I've wasted my life so far, accomplished nothing tried to do something failed at it. now just wishing for a miracle. Worse part I've big dreams, like really big...But right now things feel like..............well at a "lockdown"😁.
on top of that the process of realization comes is from when you start reflecting on the circumstances of the events and actions that happened in your life then you see what's wrong and right of it , so age is not necessarily primarily a condition. hopefully you got my point cus i'm non-native English speaker
@@rdsa1 You mean something like: That realization comes when you reflect on the circumstances and events of your life and see the wrong and right of it, regardless of age. A fairly good message and you got most of the vocabulary right, even if the structure wasn't the greatest. Adults aren't a joke. The popular concept of adulthood and childhood being completely separate and so terribly different is a joke. People who rely on their seniority as a claim of greater wisdom and intelligence are jokes. You eventually realize that people are both better and worse than you give them credit for, young people can be both tremendously smart and clever and immature and naive and ancient people incredibly narrowminded while also having unique perspective you could never consider. Just be open to it all, don't concern yourself too much with age differences for friends and... i dunno.
Yeah, turning 25 this year,feeling like I'm stuck in my 17's because of I don't know what to do with my future. I'm lost, feeling weak, unmotivated because of unrealistic expectations. No jobs, no friends, worried a lot. ♥️Remember you're not alone. We'll get through this. Love you.
I turn 25 in a few months, you’re definitely not alone. I feel just as lost as I did at the beginning of college, maybe its just laziness or maybe I’m just not up for this kind of life, I move out soon so I am hoping that will help me shift my direction in life. I have a degree in computer science and ,honestly, I don’t have any motivation to pursue a “career” at the moment. Im told that Im wasting time but honestly time is all I have right now. 😅
I'm an adult who has zero passion and motivation for any job, despite I was told it's what you need if you want to have a successful life since I was a kid...growing up I didn't know what I wanted, then I realized I just want to have a normal happy family and be a mom, I wonder if that's weird
I'm 22 and working in a bakery but I'm searching for a different job cuz after over 3 years working there, I'm just tired of the job and customers because this was one of the jobs that I never wanted to do when I was younger. So now I'm searching but I don't feel like I'm getting really far and I just feel so unmotivated
I feel you I have been following her college videos since 2017 when I myself was about to travel and join uni in other country. Now I am in senior year :"")
I just celebrated my 23rd birthday, just graduated college, and I've never felt more afraid of my future and the uncertainty of it all. Videos like these are bringing me some comfort that I'm not alone.
I'm gonna pretend to be wise for a momment. This is one aspect of life that everyone feels, me and you, he and she. You can ask your parents and they would relate. You could ask your grandparents and they would relate. You could ask the 90 year old grandfather who's out walking in the park and he would relate. Just pretend like it doesn't matter what your future will bring you and that will make you feel alot more at ease. Imagine instead feeling "wow, the whole world is infront of me and I don't know where I'll end up in this grand adventure! >:D" Because really, what are you really afraid of ? Not being wealthy? not being famous? These things won't make life more fun for you in the slightest ;). I've been to countries, poor countries, where the 40 year old guy standing at the side of the desolate country road selling exotic fruits for a living, was more happy than I've ever seen anyone else being happy in my entire life before. As a matter of fact when you talk to these people you get an understanding of their lives and how different everything can be for yourself aswell. In my experience, it's impossible to really know what your purpouse in life is unless you havent tried different things before. That means, tried jobs that you otherwise would think "eh, boring" or "ew too low salary". Just ignore the ammount of money you will get, you can always quit. You can always get another one. But experiencing how it is, is so much more valuable than imagining how it would be. Because if you have never been a fire fighter before, you can't know how it is to be one if you've never been one. Once you have tried different things, your understanding of what you like and don't will grow until you have narrowed it down to your purpouse in life. But if you never blindly try, you are never going to find your purpouse.
Same, I just graduated from university and am turning 23 years old this coming August. It's a really scary, stressful and anxious feeling to be and feel uncertain and lost. But, no matter what I know we'll find a way and strive through this. All the best man 🍀🍀
Currently a junior trying to reckon with the fact that I'm about to be a senior. I feel like I've blinked and lost my entire junior year. Everything feels so unfinished. I'm burned out, stressed out, and truly, my mind hurts more than I can comprehend. Thanks for voicing all of this, and making sure we know we're not alone. Phew!
As a former college teacher, I wish I could have passed a law that strongly encouraged university students to take one semester off at some point if it was all getting to be too much pressure. Saw too many young people under too much pressure, not letting themselves take a break when mentally and emotionally and even physically they really needed it. If I were a parent, I'd be watching my adult student 'child' and letting him or her know that if things get overwhelming, there are much worse things than not graduating 'on time.'
I’m a freshman, going to be a sophomore starring next semester and I completely agree with you. I feel like I lost an entire school year. And it went by to quick too.
25 was absolutely a turning point. It was significant and profound. When I turned 25 my whole world practically shifted. It was a transformation from a caterpillar to a butterfly. My health took a decline, I was diagnosed with a chronic auto-immune disease with uncontrollable flare ups. I began to cut out unhealthy behaviors and tendencies and replace them with self-love and positivity I never had before. I healed my mental health by working on me. Focusing on me. Prioritizing me. I eliminated the people in my life who would forever try to manipulate and emotionally abuse me; friends AND family. I concreted the things I would not do, and found things I love that I never expected. 25 was terrible but also beautiful. I've never felt more...me.
That sounds beautiful! I am turning 25 next month and I feel so empty. I have almost no friends left, no supportive family und the man I love does not want to be with me anymore. I have yet to start university so no career going on for me either. I am hoping so bad to finally get to my break through and get happy for the first time in forever.
@@Shirumoon It takes a lot of patience with yourself and love too. Just vibe with the things that you enjoy and that bring you genuine happiness and dont be afraid to try new things! If people arent in your life that it means they arent meant to be there and better people will come along. It's okay to be lost, it's okay to be unsure, that's just part of the experience.
I'm turning 25 in November. Becoming more old feels like dying. We never expect to get old and in the same way we also never expect to die. I haven't accomplished much in my life actually. I don't even have a degree. I wish to start an IT degree next year. I hope i can still I do it. I always overthink stuff, doubt myself and quit stuff. This time I'm going to actively believe in myself, work on my mental health and take on a different strategy to achieving what I want. I'll try. Life is just hard.
I'm turning 25 in 2 days. My life had been a complete s*it show. It scares me so much that it seems that I'm going to be the same person for the rest of my life. However I hope things will be much better soon.
This is going to be a video I will come back to over and over. It's so soothing and gentle and all of the points you've mentioned are so truthful. I love the way you approach growth, self-care, and empathy. I just turned 24 two months ago and as silly as it is, I'm finally learning how to take a break. I'm re-learning how to love myself, love the people around me and learn to be kind to myself. I've watched your videos since your college days. It's so amazing to see how far you've come. Especially this year! Thank you for being one of my favorite youtubers. Happy late birthday :)
im not of a fan such videos. But Im loving her language, poetic, but really not cheesy and prententious. Okay, I’ll subscribe. I owe her for initially bashing her for not having arched eyebrowse. It just sounds so authentic.
This video is so nice and useful. This year I'm turning 25 because I was born in 1998. Thank you very much for uploading this video I have a lot of things I should learn from this video
I turned 25 this year and I will say, as soon as I turned 25 I just felt different. I felt like it's time to do something and get out there. I've done nothing but be lazy for 25 years. Time to make up for lost time in the next 25 years.
Idk I think you approach it badly. "make up"? Was your whole life not worth it? A piss in the wind? Eqivilent to spitting down a bottomeless pit of nothingness? No, listen here dude, you are just starting to like different things. Then just do different things. Before this point you did what you liked and that's it. Don't overcomplicate things just say "I do what I like" and that is it. People love overcomplicating things but one of my best lessons I learned is to boil everything down to the simplest aspect there is and then just *do* and whatever outcome becomes of that, will always be better than worrying and regretting or overcomplicating/overthinking. :)
omg, the "toxic positivity" one HIT. ya girl does not know how to not say "GOOD, HOW ARE YOU" when someone asks how i am. also love ur handwriting! you are a precious flower!!!
I'm currently 21 and WOW this was just so insightful. Loved the editing, calmness, and just overall sincerity you expressed in this piece. Thank you. 😊
This is so true. Crazy, how you have to learn things that sound so obvious when you say them out loud. It took me so long to learn that it's ok not to be ok and that failing at something isn't equal to weakness.
i’m 13 and this has given me the peace of mind i haven’t had in awhile. i’m glad you made this video. i’ve taken everything you’ve said into consideration and this is all so helpful honestly. i am so happy i now have a different view on things.
This really helped me feel more comfortable about my future, about how I don’t have to be all by myself and it doesn’t have to be stressful and a dark time in my life where I’m alone in a big city living on awful wages and struggling to find a partner and friends while leaving everyone I love behind. thank you.
The editing on this video is next level. I usually don't watch these "x things I learned in x years" videos, but I love your content, so I did, and I'm so glad. Totally resonate with the health care portion.
Some really great life tips here - I've written them down in my journal! The one that particularly stood out to me was that 'your identity is not your thoughts'; having had mental health issues, it is encouraging to know that the thoughts that I have had with them are not my identity, and also that many of those thoughts are not true.
What you said on independence really really REALLY spoke to me. The last year I’ve been reflecting on how my independent identity has really helped me through life but has also made me very sheltered with my feelings and emotions because I always relied on myself to help myself through hard times. It’s almost an excuse for me to not open up or share with others. Now in a relationship for the first time (at 25), I see how harmful my independent ideologies have been because I was ONLY thinking of myself, no one else. I really struggle to relay my ideas and thoughts and emotions to my partner because I’ve never had to do that before. I’m getting better but there’s still a huge baggage there for me to ASK for help and not expect myself to do everything, especially in a partnership. Just a random thought! It was comforting to hear someone else my age reflect on their independence as I’ve been :)
"I'm a finite resource with limits." - Something I REALLY wish I knew when I was in college and my early 20s. Awesome video, it is so pleasant to watch.
You are so wise for your age, it is truly impressive. I love you are so self-reflective and very responsible towards other people, the society, the community. This is truly something to be proud of you know. Well done
im turning 25 in may and what I have realized that I am way too hard on myself. I keep putting pressure on myself to be at a certain place in my life and it's hard not to compare myself to everyone around me. I have definitely learned many hard lessons along the way and it's really nice to hear your perspective and to know that I'm not alone, if that makes sense. I love this style of video and thank you so much for sharing!!
I suggest you get a hold of a copy of your birth certificate and hand and foot prints and have them enlarged and framed. Place them in a conspicuous area of your home. Every time your tempted to compare yourself to someone else-- take a moment to meditate on the uniqueness of you for a few minutes and realize that no one will ever be able to take or remember your journey for you and that you are miracle of creation.
The thing I wish I had learned before turning 25 most is to divest from hyper consumerism. I've since learned this lesson, and have dramatically downsized my life and completely changed the way I shop, and as a result, I've had more time and money to devote to the things that matter most to me in life, I feel so much lighter owning much less, and I feel more satisfied with what I do have. But for real, I wasted an astronomical amount of money in my early twenties on material goods that I didn't need or even like that much, impulse buys are so addictive. Not everything we think we need to be happy will actually make us happy, and it's really does take questioning each purchase we make with a healthy dose of cynicism to truly find balance as a person living in this profit-hungry, cruel, materialistic world.
So amazing! As a 23 year old who has been subscribed since 2015 I feel like your videos have always been very sisterly and this one was full of beautiful wisdom! Thank you for sharing!
Girl the EDITING. Thank you so much for letting us into this part of your life and sharing this with us. You are so incredibly well-spoken and full of wisdom. I hope you know your content has such a positive impact on people. You should take great pride in knowing you are putting good into the world and helping people. I may be 23, but you feel like the big sister I never had. Thank you. A million times, thank you.
kind of interesting how I just turn 25 and everything is coming clear to me now, I am still lost but I have found parts of myself. Keep your heads up everyone better days are to come.
I'm turning 25 this year and thisis litearlly what i've been learning over the past 2 years - like this stuff is SO GOOD to remember what I learnt omfg. It's honestly so true, empathy and connection with people is the only thing that I feel like is the ultimate cure for anxiety. Being with people you love.
live for yourself. not anyone else. u get one shot on this planet don’t spend it vicariously living through strangers and friends. u deserve to give ur vessel as many experiences as u can. experience everything.
22 watching this. and damn i needed to hear this. I’ve been so in my head about my future lately and this made me excited to keep living, which is something i haven’t felt in a whiiiile. Thank you for this.
few minutes into the video and i was already crying. this video feels like... engaging in THAT conversation with an older sister that leaves you with so much wisdom--considering that i don't have any sibling at all.
13:06 Sometimes I thought that when I attached to someone story, attached to movies, art, music, being able to feel and understand it deeply is my weakness, I always thought that maybe is just myself overreacting, being a cry baby, being too sensitive, being too emotional over things like that. I thought that strong people are the one that not easily cried. But.. maybe I was wrong.
I wouldn't say that you're a crybaby cuz I cry a lot too over things like that and I thinking it's cuz you could be an empath/empathetic person or have some sort or mindfulness
@@starfire246810 maybe.. But I can't deny that sometimes being an empath is tiring. You can't hide your emotion. I try hard to be an ignorant person and don't care about those emotion but I just can't lie to myself. It's struggling sometimes..
I like the mindful vibes. I'm at the end of my undergraduate experience, and I'm finding it so hard to do my work. I feel like my motivation is completely absent. I want to know how I can enjoy learning again.
I resonate a lot with the idea of the "student identity". At almost 27 I find myself, for the first time in a long long time, loving non-fiction books! I had to be 5 years out of college before I remembered that I loved to learn for the sake of learning. Thank you for sharing this!
When I was 6 I began playing the piano and was starting to get pretty good at it pretty fast. All my family members used to say that I needed to be a musician, but I never became one. Personally, playing the piano just for myself has kept me sane for many years already, and I don't think making a career out of my hobby would make much fun.
#13 makes me feel validated for being the kid that argued with teachers in class about the things that were being taught and not just accepting what they were telling us but really trying to understand it from multiple angles. and always asking questions about why things are the way they are (really why) and how things are made or get done #23 Glad that you are able to be comfortable in what you like, despite what others think about it. That is an awesome thing to have. never stop working on that.
I'm 15 and I thank you for this.... I've been watching vids like this since 11 and I love how I came from curious to Better Understanding and still Learning. BLESS your life.
I'm late to this video, but I'm so happy I found it. As someone who is turning 26 in....oh goodness only four months....wow.....I totally relate when I say that 25 is the time where I've finally felt like I'm coming into who I am truly meant to be - even if who that is is completely different than what I'd expected for myself growing up/until now. Thank you for being so transparent and sharing your journey with the public, with us. Its refreshing
friend groups are not a 'myth'. yea people come and go or sometimes you wanna hang out with just one friend at a time but they could still be a part of a friend group. what I think is important is that you appreciate your current friends instead of wishing that you could have something that you see somewhere bc things arent always how they seem. tho great vid
Point 14 is so true. In the years since I graduated college I've found myself getting so curious about things nd missing having an environment where I could learn about tons of interesting topics and regretting that I didn't take more advantage of it. Now I'm in a new college-esque situation where I'm expected to learn and I find myself making all of the same mistakes. Turns out it's hard to feel a desire to learn, even if that curiosity exists naturally in us, when you are forced to learn in a rigid and competitive environment.
I had to pause this video because everything you’ve gone over so far is so important but your number five is my favorite at the moment. I constantly try to understand what others are going through but there’s a point where you can’t understand and need to switch over to empathy. You can imagine how hard certain situations are but if you don’t live through them yourself you will truly never understand what it’s like, therefore empathy comes into play. I’m so happy I came across this video! And now I can press play again 😅
Already the first point hit me. Ive just learnt this recently. Getting help is not shameful, just make sure you also help the people you care about back
Well, I'm 25 in three days. I've never seen such a..... deeply insightful, introspective, and self-aware video from a young person. I identify so much with a lot of what you said. The independence one, for sure, is a hard one for me as I think it's the default process for me to exist without feeling like I need others. The 'problem-solving' prompt response when someone opens up about a problem.... I, too used to be that way, in a way because I thought that was what was expected from me and I didn't want to disappoint the other person and seem like I can't help. I learned from my own experience and observing that people need support and empathy first and foremost. Also, realizing we're all equal individuals, like truly deeply seeing how nobody is better than anybody at the end of the day, was a big one for me in my early 20's. It actually made connecting with people a bit easier. Of course, everything, is a lifelong process of reaffirming and learning.
I rarely comment on videos, but having just graduated from college I could not have found this video at a better time. All of this was EXACTLY what I needed to hear to process my existential worries. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
The projection part is HUGE! People will say things that don't quite seem legit, but it's really them saying to you what they want and has nothing to do with you or your situation.
Hi Katherine! 24yo here, really appreciated your ideas as much as those chill barcelona videos. Lots to unpack and to think over about in our lives. Here in Europe some things are different but we do really have some other non sense things too, especially in Italy! Thanks for your point of video and have a great day!
i’m 21. thank you because I didn’t think it would but i learned from this video 🥺 i can only hope to be as wise as you in 3ish time. i hope i make it to that age
My hope for you is that you take regular time-outs to be and to reflect/learn from past experiences, lean into/live in the present, and stay flexible about future plans bc no one really knows what your future holds.
Hi, I'm 21 and I really appreciate this video. I'm so glad that there are people out there who think like this. I think this is the kind of video I will come back to anytime I'm doubting myself. Thank you very much
i had a heart attack when u said "friend groups are a myth...plan a murder mystery party" because i was just thinking YESTERDAY of merging my two friend groups together over a murder mystery party and i was worried it wouldn't work out well. u legit read my mind and now im definitely gonna do it, thank u so much
I’m not tryna be rude or anything but I feel a lot better hearing things from someone who’s 6 years older than me than someone who’s near my age. It gives me courage and motivation to do something before I reach the same age. Thank you
I'm turning 24 next month. And last year when I turned 23, I thought and planned about so many things to do in my 23rd year, i thought I'd start being more productive, meet new people, do new things, and more stuffs, or even learn and study again. But none of that happen. I'm not blaming the pandemic tho. But I definitely wouldn't want my 24th year to be the same again :(
I'm 23, but i agreed so much that being a yes-man is just burning yourself out so hard. This is truly inspiring, you've earned yourself a subscriber, thanks for the video, truly appreciate it
idk y this popped on my home page but im grateful it did, your journey is beautiful and valid with all the ups and downs, idk if im still going thru the same journey or 've finished it, but what i knw is there's still alot to learn and its okay, its never too late and its one thing i have to always keep in mind. thank you, that was fr beautiful.
This video is great and eye opening. I am really agreeing with the student identity part. Since leaving university, I love to learn more now than I ever did in further education. Everything you said there made me feel really warm inside. Thank you for this
Hi. I'm 24 and I watched your video at one of my lowest nights. This video felt like a warm hug and just a few hours ago I thought my world has collapsed. It popped in my feed randomly I guess? Or maybe the universe guided me here. Whatever it is, thank you for this video. ❤️
absolutely adored this, it feels like ive watched a friend grow up and blossom, navigating through life and sharing these nuggets of wisdom you've gained which have helped me so much
I totally agree with the toxic positivity. We often force ourselves to be positive and if negative thoughts come to mind we often blame ourselves for being incapable of things positively. I just turned 25 and I realize that its so important to practice “acceptance” if u r sad accept it, validate ur feelings, acknowledge it, eventually it’ll go away. We tend to ignore and push away all our sadness/anger or any type of negative emotions and that’s the one that will eat us away eventually.
I learned a lot from this! Esp the part abt not giving advice unless solicited. I did that a few days ago and I misunderstood the situation and what the person was going through. Lesson learned.
B-but I already knew all of theses things several years ago, it won't cure my depression 😭. I'm turning 25 in some months and I've never felt so bad in my whole life, each year is worse than the previous one 🤕
I'm 25 and I would never have been able to tell all this stuff. I took many many notes on what you say. Thank you, really, and with love from France. :)
It's crazy that this just came up in my recommendations because this topic has been on mine a lot lately. I'm turning 24 this year and the concept that my brain is supposed to be fully formed around 25 has been weighing on me heavily, for some reason. Further, you recently crossed my mind-- I used to watch your channel in high school to prepare myself for college and you made a huge impact on me because of it. I hadn't watched in a few years, but I was cleaning my room last week when I randomly thought to myself, "I wonder what she's been up to?". So, thank you, for this and for everything. x
This is such a beautiful video. I’m a fairly new subscriber, so I haven’t been around to watch you grow, but while I’ve thoroughly enjoyed your other videos, this resonated with me on another level. I teared up. It’s so truthful, profoundly important, and something I didn’t know I needed to hear. Against a backdrop of such amazing scenery and videography too. This is a work of art!
That's great, you sound like a good and wise human. Empathy is everything. At 25 I was still a lost in past bullying and trauma, never sure of who I was, confused 90% of the time from depression and addiction, quiet and respectful but secretly pleading for a friend, couldn't hold a job or a girl or a friend because I had no self esteem, broke a multitude of ways kinda person. Count your motherfucking blessings and privilege people. And watch for faces that smile with sunken eyes. Those people NEED you.
Me turning 25 in less than a month: * frantically taking notes *
Chill
Most important part is that your road is yours alone and that you can't get there until you get there.
@@MsSomeonenew Definitively, it was a joke :)
It is never late to take these notes
guess ur 25 now
i just turned 20 and it feels good going into my 20s with mindfulness
How did you develop mindfulness? Im struggling at the moment and I turn 20 this summer. I want things to change I just don’t know how :)
Damn turning 20 does feel a little... uncomfortable/pressure.. don't know why?🤷
@@JstJaybeingJay i go through this feeling as well i'm 20 so people in this age feel more responsible 💁
@@JstJaybeingJay for me I feel kind of lost in my life ,I have Soo much Fateful choices so I'm afraid to choice the wrong things and that's will effect my future life 😭🙂That's actually what I'm going through .they called it midlife crisis 😊
@Oumaima Fikri I guess it's "responsibility", for me it feels like I've wasted my life so far, accomplished nothing tried to do something failed at it. now just wishing for a miracle. Worse part I've big dreams, like really big...But right now things feel like..............well at a "lockdown"😁.
On my 20s I realized that adults are a joke...
Yup
on top of that the process of realization comes is from when you start reflecting on the circumstances of the events and actions that happened in your life
then you see what's wrong and right of it , so age is not necessarily primarily a condition. hopefully you got my point cus i'm non-native English speaker
@@rdsa1 You mean something like: That realization comes when you reflect on the circumstances and events of your life and see the wrong and right of it, regardless of age.
A fairly good message and you got most of the vocabulary right, even if the structure wasn't the greatest.
Adults aren't a joke. The popular concept of adulthood and childhood being completely separate and so terribly different is a joke. People who rely on their seniority as a claim of greater wisdom and intelligence are jokes.
You eventually realize that people are both better and worse than you give them credit for, young people can be both tremendously smart and clever and immature and naive and ancient people incredibly narrowminded while also having unique perspective you could never consider. Just be open to it all, don't concern yourself too much with age differences for friends and... i dunno.
Ikr
im 18, thats quite sad and funny at the same time, like bittersweet acceptance
Yeah, turning 25 this year,feeling like I'm stuck in my 17's because of I don't know what to do with my future. I'm lost, feeling weak, unmotivated because of unrealistic expectations. No jobs, no friends, worried a lot.
♥️Remember you're not alone. We'll get through this. Love you.
You’re not alone! Turning 25 soon and still feel like a lost loser not knowing what I want to be.
I turn 25 in a few months, you’re definitely not alone. I feel just as lost as I did at the beginning of college, maybe its just laziness or maybe I’m just not up for this kind of life, I move out soon so I am hoping that will help me shift my direction in life. I have a degree in computer science and ,honestly, I don’t have any motivation to pursue a “career” at the moment. Im told that Im wasting time but honestly time is all I have right now. 😅
I'm an adult who has zero passion and motivation for any job, despite I was told it's what you need if you want to have a successful life since I was a kid...growing up I didn't know what I wanted, then I realized I just want to have a normal happy family and be a mom, I wonder if that's weird
24 and lost too. Unmotivated to find job because I don't know what I want to do.
I'm 22 and working in a bakery but I'm searching for a different job cuz after over 3 years working there, I'm just tired of the job and customers because this was one of the jobs that I never wanted to do when I was younger. So now I'm searching but I don't feel like I'm getting really far and I just feel so unmotivated
ok so for your own bday you managed to create bingo, a slideshow, and this piece of art??
I'm the 69th like
please dont call it a slideshow... its much too beautiful for the term. its at least a video.
Hi there!
@@eduardochavacano I think they’re referring to something outside this video. They did say “and this piece of art”
Somehow I knew you’d be here
I love how I'm seeing this when only 13 💀see you in 12 years ig
Lmao xD you still have a childhood to live out, SMH. what are you doing here?? XD
live out your years with the mindset from this video :)
see you in 12 years!
Bruh same, lmao
(im younger than you by 1 year tho)
@@shubhangim3595 try to. Its not easy to mimic the wisdom that others share unless you go through the process yourself
I cried watching this, not out of sadness but out of joy to seeing you grow over these years of watching you. Thank you and love ya :)
me too :')
Wow..get a life
Same here...
I feel you I have been following her college videos since 2017 when I myself was about to travel and join uni in other country. Now I am in senior year :"")
I just celebrated my 23rd birthday, just graduated college, and I've never felt more afraid of my future and the uncertainty of it all. Videos like these are bringing me some comfort that I'm not alone.
I'm gonna pretend to be wise for a momment. This is one aspect of life that everyone feels, me and you, he and she. You can ask your parents and they would relate. You could ask your grandparents and they would relate. You could ask the 90 year old grandfather who's out walking in the park and he would relate.
Just pretend like it doesn't matter what your future will bring you and that will make you feel alot more at ease. Imagine instead feeling "wow, the whole world is infront of me and I don't know where I'll end up in this grand adventure! >:D"
Because really, what are you really afraid of ? Not being wealthy? not being famous? These things won't make life more fun for you in the slightest ;).
I've been to countries, poor countries, where the 40 year old guy standing at the side of the desolate country road selling exotic fruits for a living, was more happy than I've ever seen anyone else being happy in my entire life before. As a matter of fact when you talk to these people you get an understanding of their lives and how different everything can be for yourself aswell.
In my experience, it's impossible to really know what your purpouse in life is unless you havent tried different things before. That means, tried jobs that you otherwise would think "eh, boring" or "ew too low salary". Just ignore the ammount of money you will get, you can always quit. You can always get another one.
But experiencing how it is, is so much more valuable than imagining how it would be. Because if you have never been a fire fighter before, you can't know how it is to be one if you've never been one.
Once you have tried different things, your understanding of what you like and don't will grow until you have narrowed it down to your purpouse in life.
But if you never blindly try, you are never going to find your purpouse.
Same, I just graduated from university and am turning 23 years old this coming August. It's a really scary, stressful and anxious feeling to be and feel uncertain and lost. But, no matter what I know we'll find a way and strive through this. All the best man 🍀🍀
@@artistfromheart7 You tooo 💖💖😊
i graduated in college when i was 18 tho so its good lol
Same
Currently a junior trying to reckon with the fact that I'm about to be a senior. I feel like I've blinked and lost my entire junior year. Everything feels so unfinished. I'm burned out, stressed out, and truly, my mind hurts more than I can comprehend. Thanks for voicing all of this, and making sure we know we're not alone. Phew!
As a former college teacher, I wish I could have passed a law that strongly encouraged university students to take one semester off at some point if it was all getting to be too much pressure. Saw too many young people under too much pressure, not letting themselves take a break when mentally and emotionally and even physically they really needed it. If I were a parent, I'd be watching my adult student 'child' and letting him or her know that if things get overwhelming, there are much worse things than not graduating 'on time.'
I feel the same as you my friend, as a sophomore in high school, never thought my mind could hurt this much lol, but I’m with you wherever you are
Same I’m a sophomore about to be a junior and I can’t believe it
@@itzli_7930 me too
I’m a freshman, going to be a sophomore starring next semester and I completely agree with you. I feel like I lost an entire school year. And it went by to quick too.
I'm 40, and this is excellent.
Woah
25 was absolutely a turning point. It was significant and profound. When I turned 25 my whole world practically shifted. It was a transformation from a caterpillar to a butterfly. My health took a decline, I was diagnosed with a chronic auto-immune disease with uncontrollable flare ups. I began to cut out unhealthy behaviors and tendencies and replace them with self-love and positivity I never had before. I healed my mental health by working on me. Focusing on me. Prioritizing me. I eliminated the people in my life who would forever try to manipulate and emotionally abuse me; friends AND family. I concreted the things I would not do, and found things I love that I never expected. 25 was terrible but also beautiful. I've never felt more...me.
That sounds beautiful! I am turning 25 next month and I feel so empty. I have almost no friends left, no supportive family und the man I love does not want to be with me anymore. I have yet to start university so no career going on for me either. I am hoping so bad to finally get to my break through and get happy for the first time in forever.
@@Shirumoon It takes a lot of patience with yourself and love too. Just vibe with the things that you enjoy and that bring you genuine happiness and dont be afraid to try new things! If people arent in your life that it means they arent meant to be there and better people will come along. It's okay to be lost, it's okay to be unsure, that's just part of the experience.
the vibe of this video is just so aesthetically pleasing
it feels like a short film/documentary?
- honeypot films
I'm turning 25 in November. Becoming more old feels like dying. We never expect to get old and in the same way we also never expect to die. I haven't accomplished much in my life actually. I don't even have a degree. I wish to start an IT degree next year. I hope i can still I do it. I always overthink stuff, doubt myself and quit stuff. This time I'm going to actively believe in myself, work on my mental health and take on a different strategy to achieving what I want. I'll try. Life is just hard.
I believe in you!
I believe in you as well. One step at a time.
I believe in you! I sometimes doubt myself but eh. I’m trying to be better everyday and learning more about myself and the world around me.
Hun I understand. I believe in you. You can do it.
I'm gonna be 25 this year as well lmaooooo
I'm turning 25 in 2 days. My life had been a complete s*it show. It scares me so much that it seems that I'm going to be the same person for the rest of my life. However I hope things will be much better soon.
you always have the power to make progress on improving who you are. good luck to you!
Happy birthday!
Happy birthday , and best wishes in becoming the person you strive to be .
Happy birthday! Please understand that we will always develop & change so dont feel bad
Happy birthday brother
This is going to be a video I will come back to over and over. It's so soothing and gentle and all of the points you've mentioned are so truthful. I love the way you approach growth, self-care, and empathy. I just turned 24 two months ago and as silly as it is, I'm finally learning how to take a break. I'm re-learning how to love myself, love the people around me and learn to be kind to myself. I've watched your videos since your college days. It's so amazing to see how far you've come. Especially this year! Thank you for being one of my favorite youtubers. Happy late birthday :)
I agree with this comment completely 😊
so wonderful to hear the growth you’ve working through!!!
im not of a fan such videos. But Im loving her language, poetic, but really not cheesy and prententious. Okay, I’ll subscribe. I owe her for initially bashing her for not having arched eyebrowse. It just sounds so authentic.
i’m 17 and i’m really soaking in all your wisdom :)))
me too!
Same!
Same here!
Same😁
This video is so nice and useful.
This year I'm turning 25 because I was born in 1998.
Thank you very much for uploading this video
I have a lot of things I should learn from this video
I turned 25 this year and I will say, as soon as I turned 25 I just felt different. I felt like it's time to do something and get out there. I've done nothing but be lazy for 25 years. Time to make up for lost time in the next 25 years.
Idk I think you approach it badly. "make up"? Was your whole life not worth it? A piss in the wind? Eqivilent to spitting down a bottomeless pit of nothingness?
No, listen here dude, you are just starting to like different things. Then just do different things. Before this point you did what you liked and that's it. Don't overcomplicate things just say "I do what I like" and that is it. People love overcomplicating things but one of my best lessons I learned is to boil everything down to the simplest aspect there is and then just *do* and whatever outcome becomes of that, will always be better than worrying and regretting or overcomplicating/overthinking.
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Same
@@siegpasta yeah that's a good point. I do over think things way too much.
@@siegpasta I know your comment is a year old but reading this has made me feel better about my poor choices
omg, the "toxic positivity" one HIT. ya girl does not know how to not say "GOOD, HOW ARE YOU" when someone asks how i am. also love ur handwriting! you are a precious flower!!!
I'm currently 21 and WOW this was just so insightful. Loved the editing, calmness, and just overall sincerity you expressed in this piece. Thank you. 😊
This is so true. Crazy, how you have to learn things that sound so obvious when you say them out loud.
It took me so long to learn that it's ok not to be ok and that failing at something isn't equal to weakness.
i’m 13 and this has given me the peace of mind i haven’t had in awhile. i’m glad you made this video. i’ve taken everything you’ve said into consideration and this is all so helpful honestly. i am so happy i now have a different view on things.
Wow.... I wish I were 13 again. Good luck in life
This really helped me feel more comfortable about my future, about how I don’t have to be all by myself and it doesn’t have to be stressful and a dark time in my life where I’m alone in a big city living on awful wages and struggling to find a partner and friends while leaving everyone I love behind. thank you.
The editing on this video is next level. I usually don't watch these "x things I learned in x years" videos, but I love your content, so I did, and I'm so glad. Totally resonate with the health care portion.
Some really great life tips here - I've written them down in my journal! The one that particularly stood out to me was that 'your identity is not your thoughts'; having had mental health issues, it is encouraging to know that the thoughts that I have had with them are not my identity, and also that many of those thoughts are not true.
What you said on independence really really REALLY spoke to me. The last year I’ve been reflecting on how my independent identity has really helped me through life but has also made me very sheltered with my feelings and emotions because I always relied on myself to help myself through hard times. It’s almost an excuse for me to not open up or share with others. Now in a relationship for the first time (at 25), I see how harmful my independent ideologies have been because I was ONLY thinking of myself, no one else. I really struggle to relay my ideas and thoughts and emotions to my partner because I’ve never had to do that before. I’m getting better but there’s still a huge baggage there for me to ASK for help and not expect myself to do everything, especially in a partnership.
Just a random thought! It was comforting to hear someone else my age reflect on their independence as I’ve been :)
this hit home, thank you for sharing!
"I'm a finite resource with limits." - Something I REALLY wish I knew when I was in college and my early 20s. Awesome video, it is so pleasant to watch.
You are so wise for your age, it is truly impressive. I love you are so self-reflective and very responsible towards other people, the society, the community. This is truly something to be proud of you know. Well done
I think this is the best video you’ve ever posted. Thank you for sharing, from a fellow 25-year-old just trying to figure life out.
im turning 25 in may and what I have realized that I am way too hard on myself. I keep putting pressure on myself to be at a certain place in my life and it's hard not to compare myself to everyone around me. I have definitely learned many hard lessons along the way and it's really nice to hear your perspective and to know that I'm not alone, if that makes sense. I love this style of video and thank you so much for sharing!!
I suggest you get a hold of a copy of your birth certificate and hand and foot prints and have them enlarged and framed. Place them in a conspicuous area of your home. Every time your tempted to compare yourself to someone else-- take a moment to meditate on the uniqueness of you for a few minutes and realize that no one will ever be able to take or remember your journey for you and that you are miracle of creation.
@@raularmas317 wow, thank you for suggesting that!!! This really helped put things into perspective
The thing I wish I had learned before turning 25 most is to divest from hyper consumerism. I've since learned this lesson, and have dramatically downsized my life and completely changed the way I shop, and as a result, I've had more time and money to devote to the things that matter most to me in life, I feel so much lighter owning much less, and I feel more satisfied with what I do have. But for real, I wasted an astronomical amount of money in my early twenties on material goods that I didn't need or even like that much, impulse buys are so addictive. Not everything we think we need to be happy will actually make us happy, and it's really does take questioning each purchase we make with a healthy dose of cynicism to truly find balance as a person living in this profit-hungry, cruel, materialistic world.
So amazing! As a 23 year old who has been subscribed since 2015 I feel like your videos have always been very sisterly and this one was full of beautiful wisdom! Thank you for sharing!
Girl the EDITING. Thank you so much for letting us into this part of your life and sharing this with us. You are so incredibly well-spoken and full of wisdom. I hope you know your content has such a positive impact on people. You should take great pride in knowing you are putting good into the world and helping people. I may be 23, but you feel like the big sister I never had. Thank you. A million times, thank you.
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The first one about independence is really important. I feel like I'm inadequate for having to rely on others sometimes
kind of interesting how I just turn 25 and everything is coming clear to me now, I am still lost but I have found parts of myself. Keep your heads up everyone better days are to come.
I'm turning 25 this year and thisis litearlly what i've been learning over the past 2 years - like this stuff is SO GOOD to remember what I learnt omfg. It's honestly so true, empathy and connection with people is the only thing that I feel like is the ultimate cure for anxiety. Being with people you love.
live for yourself. not anyone else. u get one shot on this planet don’t spend it vicariously living through strangers and friends. u deserve to give ur vessel as many experiences as u can. experience everything.
I've literally never been this early to a UA-cam video before! My 21 year old self will be watching and learning :)
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'If you treat it like a reward, you'll be kindly and promptly reminded how required it is'. Truer words had never been spoken
22 watching this. and damn i needed to hear this. I’ve been so in my head about my future lately and this made me excited to keep living, which is something i haven’t felt in a whiiiile. Thank you for this.
im also 22 same
few minutes into the video and i was already crying. this video feels like... engaging in THAT conversation with an older sister that leaves you with so much wisdom--considering that i don't have any sibling at all.
As a current college senior, I loved this video, especially the part about student identity.
13:06 Sometimes I thought that when I attached to someone story, attached to movies, art, music, being able to feel and understand it deeply is my weakness, I always thought that maybe is just myself overreacting, being a cry baby, being too sensitive, being too emotional over things like that. I thought that strong people are the one that not easily cried.
But.. maybe I was wrong.
I wouldn't say that you're a crybaby cuz I cry a lot too over things like that and I thinking it's cuz you could be an empath/empathetic person or have some sort or mindfulness
@@starfire246810 maybe.. But I can't deny that sometimes being an empath is tiring. You can't hide your emotion. I try hard to be an ignorant person and don't care about those emotion but I just can't lie to myself. It's struggling sometimes..
I’m about to turn 27, and I still identify so hard with this vid.
I like the mindful vibes. I'm at the end of my undergraduate experience, and I'm finding it so hard to do my work. I feel like my motivation is completely absent. I want to know how I can enjoy learning again.
when she talked about the "being emotional at tv shows and things is a gift" i cried. the irony lolll
im 19 and im so thankful for the message. i dont have a mom to tell me things like this. thank you! i will come back and rewatch this!!🤍
I resonate a lot with the idea of the "student identity". At almost 27 I find myself, for the first time in a long long time, loving non-fiction books! I had to be 5 years out of college before I remembered that I loved to learn for the sake of learning. Thank you for sharing this!
'Ive never been as burnt out as I was at 24'.... damn I felt this one. I've recently turned 24 and yeah same
When I was 6 I began playing the piano and was starting to get pretty good at it pretty fast. All my family members used to say that I needed to be a musician, but I never became one. Personally, playing the piano just for myself has kept me sane for many years already, and I don't think making a career out of my hobby would make much fun.
#13 makes me feel validated for being the kid that argued with teachers in class about the things that were being taught and not just accepting what they were telling us but really trying to understand it from multiple angles. and always asking questions about why things are the way they are (really why) and how things are made or get done
#23 Glad that you are able to be comfortable in what you like, despite what others think about it. That is an awesome thing to have. never stop working on that.
I'm 15 and I thank you for this.... I've been watching vids like this since 11 and I love how I came from curious to Better Understanding and still Learning. BLESS your life.
I clicked on this expecting to laugh and scorn it for its superficiality. Now, I'm crying.
I'm late to this video, but I'm so happy I found it. As someone who is turning 26 in....oh goodness only four months....wow.....I totally relate when I say that 25 is the time where I've finally felt like I'm coming into who I am truly meant to be - even if who that is is completely different than what I'd expected for myself growing up/until now. Thank you for being so transparent and sharing your journey with the public, with us. Its refreshing
girl... I feel like I should write this points down in my diary. You're so good at it.
friend groups are not a 'myth'. yea people come and go or sometimes you wanna hang out with just one friend at a time but they could still be a part of a friend group. what I think is important is that you appreciate your current friends instead of wishing that you could have something that you see somewhere bc things arent always how they seem. tho great vid
This year I’ll be 25 years old and I have learned something from this video. Thank you.
Point 14 is so true. In the years since I graduated college I've found myself getting so curious about things nd missing having an environment where I could learn about tons of interesting topics and regretting that I didn't take more advantage of it. Now I'm in a new college-esque situation where I'm expected to learn and I find myself making all of the same mistakes. Turns out it's hard to feel a desire to learn, even if that curiosity exists naturally in us, when you are forced to learn in a rigid and competitive environment.
o my god i'm turning 25 in 10 days and this was recommended. so nervous but also excited!
9 days. Let's goooo
5 days lets gooooo😙
@@TsukaTsu @Anshuman Nayak thank you for my bday countdown! It made my day esp since I won't be able to see most of my friends.
@@emilylaughs aww that sucks! So is today your birthday...? Or am i getting the days wrong?
@@TsukaTsu my birthday was yesterday!! i feel so old but thank you for the wishes - yall are the best
Thyroid cancer survivor here and new sub. Please. Never. Stop.
(also never delete these vids 🙌)
I had to pause this video because everything you’ve gone over so far is so important but your number five is my favorite at the moment. I constantly try to understand what others are going through but there’s a point where you can’t understand and need to switch over to empathy. You can imagine how hard certain situations are but if you don’t live through them yourself you will truly never understand what it’s like, therefore empathy comes into play. I’m so happy I came across this video! And now I can press play again 😅
Already the first point hit me. Ive just learnt this recently. Getting help is not shameful, just make sure you also help the people you care about back
Well, I'm 25 in three days. I've never seen such a..... deeply insightful, introspective, and self-aware video from a young person.
I identify so much with a lot of what you said. The independence one, for sure, is a hard one for me as I think it's the default process for me to exist without feeling like I need others. The 'problem-solving' prompt response when someone opens up about a problem.... I, too used to be that way, in a way because I thought that was what was expected from me and I didn't want to disappoint the other person and seem like I can't help. I learned from my own experience and observing that people need support and empathy first and foremost. Also, realizing we're all equal individuals, like truly deeply seeing how nobody is better than anybody at the end of the day, was a big one for me in my early 20's. It actually made connecting with people a bit easier. Of course, everything, is a lifelong process of reaffirming and learning.
I rarely comment on videos, but having just graduated from college I could not have found this video at a better time. All of this was EXACTLY what I needed to hear to process my existential worries. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
I'm going to turn 23 this October and I really needed this
The projection part is HUGE! People will say things that don't quite seem legit, but it's really them saying to you what they want and has nothing to do with you or your situation.
she: im 25 and i suck
also she: makes a very artistical poetic video
im 24 turning 25 in qugust btw
Hi Katherine! 24yo here, really appreciated your ideas as much as those chill barcelona videos. Lots to unpack and to think over about in our lives. Here in Europe some things are different but we do really have some other non sense things too, especially in Italy!
Thanks for your point of video and have a great day!
i’m 21. thank you because I didn’t think it would but i learned from this video 🥺 i can only hope to be as wise as you in 3ish time. i hope i make it to that age
My hope for you is that you take regular time-outs to be and to reflect/learn from past experiences, lean into/live in the present, and stay flexible about future plans bc no one really knows what your future holds.
Hi, I'm 21 and I really appreciate this video. I'm so glad that there are people out there who think like this. I think this is the kind of video I will come back to anytime I'm doubting myself. Thank you very much
this video recommendation really came at the perfect time. growing up is hard and confusing, so I really appreciated these tips and reminders
i had a heart attack when u said "friend groups are a myth...plan a murder mystery party" because i was just thinking YESTERDAY of merging my two friend groups together over a murder mystery party and i was worried it wouldn't work out well. u legit read my mind and now im definitely gonna do it, thank u so much
this is so beautifully poetic on so many levels
I’m not tryna be rude or anything but I feel a lot better hearing things from someone who’s 6 years older than me than someone who’s near my age. It gives me courage and motivation to do something before I reach the same age. Thank you
I am 21 and this is literally what I needed.
I resonated so much with each point in this video. Turned 25 in november 2020 and I felt every minute of this amazing video. Thank you for sharing
I'm turning 24 next month. And last year when I turned 23, I thought and planned about so many things to do in my 23rd year, i thought I'd start being more productive, meet new people, do new things, and more stuffs, or even learn and study again. But none of that happen. I'm not blaming the pandemic tho. But I definitely wouldn't want my 24th year to be the same again :(
Hey I’m turning 24 next month too!
im 22 turning 23 in december i hope i will do more
I’m pretty sure I will be dead before 30 anyways. No point in trying. Wish you luck though.
@@BimmerWon dont say that aslong u are alive there is things dat make u happy
@@BimmerWon No, you’re not. You’ll make it.
I'm 23, but i agreed so much that being a yes-man is just burning yourself out so hard. This is truly inspiring, you've earned yourself a subscriber, thanks for the video, truly appreciate it
As a 22 year old I always feel mushy brain but this gave me hope that, that is the best way to be in becoming truer to my core self.
idk y this popped on my home page but im grateful it did, your journey is beautiful and valid with all the ups and downs, idk if im still going thru the same journey or 've finished it, but what i knw is there's still alot to learn and its okay, its never too late and its one thing i have to always keep in mind.
thank you, that was fr beautiful.
thank you for your depth, honesty, and love. thank you for being you!
This video is great and eye opening.
I am really agreeing with the student identity part. Since leaving university, I love to learn more now than I ever did in further education.
Everything you said there made me feel really warm inside.
Thank you for this
Through the reflection of your thoughts I felt understood. It’s a foreign feeling.
Hi. I'm 24 and I watched your video at one of my lowest nights. This video felt like a warm hug and just a few hours ago I thought my world has collapsed. It popped in my feed randomly I guess? Or maybe the universe guided me here. Whatever it is, thank you for this video. ❤️
absolutely adored this, it feels like ive watched a friend grow up and blossom, navigating through life and sharing these nuggets of wisdom you've gained which have helped me so much
I totally agree with the toxic positivity. We often force ourselves to be positive and if negative thoughts come to mind we often blame ourselves for being incapable of things positively. I just turned 25 and I realize that its so important to practice “acceptance” if u r sad accept it, validate ur feelings, acknowledge it, eventually it’ll go away. We tend to ignore and push away all our sadness/anger or any type of negative emotions and that’s the one that will eat us away eventually.
*think
I learned a lot from this! Esp the part abt not giving advice unless solicited. I did that a few days ago and I misunderstood the situation and what the person was going through. Lesson learned.
FANTASTIC video! Currently 18 years old and loving this advice, narration, music, cinematography, everything. Seriously, well done. ❤️🏔
B-but I already knew all of theses things several years ago, it won't cure my depression 😭. I'm turning 25 in some months and I've never felt so bad in my whole life, each year is worse than the previous one 🤕
I'm 25 and I would never have been able to tell all this stuff. I took many many notes on what you say. Thank you, really, and with love from France. :)
me watching this at 28 knowing full well i'm about to learn something 🤡
the wrinkly brain line i included was all u so clearly this is a symbiotic learning RELATIONSHIP!
Me at 29 🙄
lol same
It's crazy that this just came up in my recommendations because this topic has been on mine a lot lately. I'm turning 24 this year and the concept that my brain is supposed to be fully formed around 25 has been weighing on me heavily, for some reason. Further, you recently crossed my mind-- I used to watch your channel in high school to prepare myself for college and you made a huge impact on me because of it. I hadn't watched in a few years, but I was cleaning my room last week when I randomly thought to myself, "I wonder what she's been up to?". So, thank you, for this and for everything. x
This is such a beautiful video. I’m a fairly new subscriber, so I haven’t been around to watch you grow, but while I’ve thoroughly enjoyed your other videos, this resonated with me on another level. I teared up. It’s so truthful, profoundly important, and something I didn’t know I needed to hear. Against a backdrop of such amazing scenery and videography too.
This is a work of art!
That's great, you sound like a good and wise human. Empathy is everything. At 25 I was still a lost in past bullying and trauma, never sure of who I was, confused 90% of the time from depression and addiction, quiet and respectful but secretly pleading for a friend, couldn't hold a job or a girl or a friend because I had no self esteem, broke a multitude of ways kinda person. Count your motherfucking blessings and privilege people. And watch for faces that smile with sunken eyes. Those people NEED you.
"yes we're all in a pandemic, but it's been a different pandemic for each of us."
I am here, 19 years, half an hour before an important exam, maybe I'll come back with my grade :')
this is a good video btw, very aesthetic
My grade is 86!! Not only did I pass the exam but i don't have to do the final exam, because my grade was more than 70!!!
i wish everyone good luck!
This was incredibly made, you have grown so much in the last year! Keep doing what you’re doing!
thank you 🥺
I am 15 and this taught me so much. It was great hearing about such thrilling experiences and seeing things from someone else's point view. :)
i admire u so so so much.
watching this at 21 and tbh its cleared some of my doubts and really challenged my own misconceptions about life and self-worth. thank you for this