You need to live your life, get away from them, get a job and move out. It might not at first be the job you want but you will have freedom. As long as they are holding money and lifestyle over your head, you can’t get away. Move out.
bad advice. Statistically people who live at home to save while doing their first job, do far far better in life financially & freedom & happiness-wise. Be careful before you give out advice. It may sound like nice advice, but the right path often takes more thought.
my parents let me do whatever i wanted and never told me to get a normal job- i ended up alone and miserable in old age. Bear in mind there are 2 sides. I wish I had been guided better, even the careers advisor was useless- if they had told me orthodontists were well paid back then i would be super comfortable and happy right now. Too late to qualify now. Sometimes having parents who care can be a blessing.
Disgraceful advice! He claims to be a man and yet he still lives with his parents, relies on them for food, utilities and even expects them to provide him with a car! Most people have to work long and hard to earn the privilege of living the life they really want, so this man needs to grow up and realise this truth and also that his parents, no doubt, only want the best for him! You're no spring chicken and it's a very poor show that this is the kind of advice you're doling out to the floundering and immature! You're not a fan of the family unit, clearly, and that's fine but to counsel anyone to 'put your parents behind you' and accuse them of being toxic is beyond lunacy and general nastiness!!
Kudos to you sir! Life is too short. Live the life you want you live. Forget your parents. You are an adult and can make your own decisions. We are rooting for you.
Man hört sehr gut raus wie sehr es dich belastetet, dass deine Eltern dich zu einem Menschen machen wollen, der du einfach nicht sein möchtest. Hast die richtige Entscheidung getroffen und ja zu dir selbst gesagt👏🏻🔥
It is YOUR life and not your parents life to live. Good for you for letting the people who raised you what you need and what you will pursue!! God Bless You!!
Until he earns his own living, puts a roof over his own head and manages to put food on the table, it is most certainly not his 'life to live'! As a dependent, he is in no position to call the shots and until he mans up and changes that fact, he'll continue to convey as a whining child with an astonishing sense of entitlement! 'Need' and 'want' are two entirely different concepts and it seems that his parents have already accommodated his needs, so it is now down to him to earn the luxury of fulfilling his 'wants'!!
You can be on your own but at the same time honor your parents. Turning against them because they have different ideas about what is good for you is the wrong approach. If they have been good parents to you all of these years you need to stay respectful but at the same time prove to them that you can be independent
Dennis I relate a lot to your situation. My parents were very conventional in their outlook towards me when I was young. So as soon as I gained some independant thoughts and ideas in my teenage years/ early twenties, they did not approve of what I wanted to do, did not encourage me or support me, and much like your parents they said you can't do these things and you have to get an ordinary job or you cannot live with us. Which sounds much like what your folks are saying to you now. I see these types of particular family dynamics being played out, to be all about control. Which is sad. The message they give out is: We don't trust you to make your own decisions because we (the parents) know what is right for you. All very unhelpful / undermining and doesn't boost ones confidence. What we look for is support from our parents, to be encouraged to follow our dreams but also be able to make some mistakes along the way, which is all part of becoming a fully fledged adult.
Entrepreneurs are the only ones that really make themselves happy, working for the man will get you nowhere I think you're doing the right thing! Why work so hard for someone else, my dad never once worked for anyone except when he was a police officer and in the military, other than that his entire life he's been an entrepreneur he is now 86 years old and still owns his business gets up every morning and goes into the shop and I've never met a man that is happier than my dad!
One word. Leave. Go your own way and do what you want to do. It is YOUR life not your parents life. Become successful and by being successful that will be your validation. Do not let anyone knock you down. I personally left home at 16 not because I wanted to do my own thing in life but because I was physically and mentally abused by my father who was a violent alcoholic. I am now 72, married for the past 43 years with a son and 2 grandsons. Yes, I survived and so will you.
Ich hatte eine in Hamburg geborene Mutter und einen amerikanischen Sizilianer Vater. They were so rigid and impossible to deal with. I had to move out of the house at age 22 in order to become my own person. It was not easy and now they are both dead a long time. They were powerful but now dead. It is so absurd how parents try to control their children and then the parents die. All of those fights for nothing! Meine Mutter war aus Hamburg, gebornt 1921. Now I'm 68. I was born in the city of New York area.
All of those fights for nothing! Thats so true ... in the end it is not about what you have or what career path you chose, but about all the beautiful moments in life. Another thought that came into my mind that I wanted to share: Because I currently live with my parents, it sometimes happens that Im taking my parents for granted and are sometimes annoyed about things they do. A couple of days ago when I was annoyed of my mother I imagined how much I would value one more second with her if she would not be alive anymore. My perspective changed immediately, my negative emotions vanished on the spot and I felt appreciation for her but also sad for not valuing her enough.
@@dennisbettinger Dennis, ich hatte eine Hassliebe zu meiner Mutter. Sie ist diejenige, die sich schuldig fühlen sollte, aber Tote fühlen sich nicht schuldig. Ja, manchmal tut sie mir leid, aber sie ist ein Teil der Vergangenheit. Die Liebe meiner Mutter war bedingt. Das ist keine wahre Liebe. Versuchen Sie, sich nicht schuldig zu fühlen. Your mother sounds like my Preußisch-New York city mother. Try not to feel guilty. Your parents will be gone one day and you will only have yourself. That is all we ever have is ourselves. My mother is dead since 1999 and my father since 1987. They should have felt great guilt when they were alive but my mother was always trying to make me feel guilty. Is that a German mother thing? She was brought to New York in 1927 and would take trips back with her parents before the war to visit relatives. She was very New York but very Nord Deutsch. Hummel Hummel Mors Mors
@@dennisbettinger My mother was who she was. If she came out of the grave after 24 years, we would probably hug and then fight like World War 3!!! Nothing would be different than in the past. The older she became, the more unmöglich she became. I really loved my Oma because she was always on my side.
You get to do your own thing if you can provide for yourself. If they are buying your food and providing transportation, you need a regular job until your business is doing well. You are an adult. Why would they continue to provide for you? You can do all that you said if you can feed yourself.
your right i used to be afraid of talking but they understand now very i'll shock them with results continue to bet on your self if you have in god he will fulfill your destiny ameen🙏.
Your 23 your parents seems like your parents financially support you. It's not their job anymore. You need to contribute to the house. This is only second video I watched.
Pay your own way and no one can hold power over you. If u r still living with your parents u must follow their rules or get out, you need to contribute, pay your fair share. Are u a man or a boy?
If you’re going outside to keep fit you’re doing it for the wrong reasons, go outside because you want to, change your view on the outside, let it in and let it fill you up.
not sure how I stumbled upon this video. anyway, your story reminds me of my dad and his problems with his dad, my grandpa. specifically the 'pressure' that was added by taking away your car. and as the old-school theory of parenting went, according to my dad, was that the tougher the parents were, the stronger the kids would grow up to be. and i don't think it's necessarily wrong. these are, in my opinion, natural feelings / conflicts to have as you mature, especially between a man and his son. and it actually suggests that it's time to leave home and do your own thing. secondly, I think the word you were looking for in the middle of the video was how before you even got out what you wanted to say, your dad was already DISMISSING you. as if your opinion didn't matter. I hope things are going good for you. viel gluck
Good question. I was trying to build something sustainable for round about 5 + years without anything working. They were asking again and again how it is going but of corse I did not have anything to show. So yeah, I would probably be worried in their position as well, but I always had the believe over all these years "As long as I do not quit, it is impossible to fail" They believed I would end up being homeless or something like that. It is only since a couple of month tbh that these years seem to pay off. And correct me if I am wrong but I believe the video was round about two years ago.
Your parent probably just think you’re not doing anything with your life which is why they give you grief. You’re always gonna get hell from people if you don’t make money doing what you do. Once you start making money in your business they will stop giving you grief.
What is he confronting his parents about? He is a homosexual coming out of the closet and his parents disgaree? He is finally confronting his parents about coming out of the closet?
@dennisbettinger Thank you very much. That's very kind. So how did your parents discover you are a homosexual? Did someone see you at the public toilets late at night? You must be more careful next time.
My father would want me to become a plumber. My mother was never that direct about it, but she sometimes want to sell me on some office job in a very low key way :D hah
Be brave bru and be a Muslim,, Muslim fellas are really friendly so let's be friends, and hp God will always bless you and guide you bru, come to London
man dnot give up to your family ,they are the only ones who realy care about you ,peaple in the internet never gona care about you for real ,they dnot even know you ,please for the love of god dnot give up to your parents.
Dude your parents are not your enemies. You don't "confront" your parents unless they're doing something wrong to you. Them wanting you to get a normal job so that you can secure a living is not wrong. There's nothing wrong with a regular job. There's nothing wrong with being normal. Disagreeing with them is fine, and in the end you might succeed with your entrepreneurial pursuits and prove them wrong. But standing up to your parents isn't "manly", teenage girls do that all the time.
Zieh durch! War in der ähnlichen Lage... Wird alles gut :)
You need to live your life, get away from them, get a job and move out. It might not at first be the job you want but you will have freedom. As long as they are holding money and lifestyle over your head, you can’t get away. Move out.
bad advice. Statistically people who live at home to save while doing their first job, do far far better in life financially & freedom & happiness-wise. Be careful before you give out advice. It may sound like nice advice, but the right path often takes more thought.
You made the right choice.
my parents let me do whatever i wanted and never told me to get a normal job- i ended up alone and miserable in old age. Bear in mind there are 2 sides. I wish I had been guided better, even the careers advisor was useless- if they had told me orthodontists were well paid back then i would be super comfortable and happy right now. Too late to qualify now. Sometimes having parents who care can be a blessing.
Good luck brother, stay the course and ALWAYS BE YOU, NO MATTER WHAT💜👊
Put your parents behind you. You don’t need these toxic people in your life.
Disgraceful advice! He claims to be a man and yet he still lives with his parents, relies on them for food, utilities and even expects them to provide him with a car! Most people have to work long and hard to earn the privilege of living the life they really want, so this man needs to grow up and realise this truth and also that his parents, no doubt, only want the best for him! You're no spring chicken and it's a very poor show that this is the kind of advice you're doling out to the floundering and immature! You're not a fan of the family unit, clearly, and that's fine but to counsel anyone to 'put your parents behind you' and accuse them of being toxic is beyond lunacy and general nastiness!!
Kudos to you sir! Life is too short. Live the life you want you live. Forget your parents. You are an adult and can make your own decisions. We are rooting for you.
Man hört sehr gut raus wie sehr es dich belastetet, dass deine Eltern dich zu einem Menschen machen wollen, der du einfach nicht sein möchtest. Hast die richtige Entscheidung getroffen und ja zu dir selbst gesagt👏🏻🔥
It is YOUR life and not your parents life to live. Good for you for letting the people who raised you what you need and what you will pursue!! God Bless You!!
Until he earns his own living, puts a roof over his own head and manages to put food on the table, it is most certainly not his 'life to live'! As a dependent, he is in no position to call the shots and until he mans up and changes that fact, he'll continue to convey as a whining child with an astonishing sense of entitlement! 'Need' and 'want' are two entirely different concepts and it seems that his parents have already accommodated his needs, so it is now down to him to earn the luxury of fulfilling his 'wants'!!
You can be on your own but at the same time honor your parents. Turning against them because they have different ideas about what is good for you is the wrong approach. If they have been good parents to you all of these years you need to stay respectful but at the same time prove to them that you can be independent
Dennis I relate a lot to your situation. My parents were very conventional in their outlook towards me when I was young. So as soon as I gained some independant thoughts and ideas in my teenage years/ early twenties, they did not approve of what I wanted to do, did not encourage me or support me, and much like your parents they said you can't do these things and you have to get an ordinary job or you cannot live with us. Which sounds much like what your folks are saying to you now. I see these types of particular family dynamics being played out, to be all about control. Which is sad. The message they give out is: We don't trust you to make your own decisions because we (the parents) know what is right for you. All very unhelpful / undermining and doesn't boost ones confidence. What we look for is support from our parents, to be encouraged to follow our dreams but also be able to make some mistakes along the way, which is all part of becoming a fully fledged adult.
100% agree
takes big balls to do what you did, hats off 👍
Don’t tell them anything. It seems like it will make you feel worse. Do what makes you happy. Focus on that.
I would move out immediately and not live with my parents.
Entrepreneurs are the only ones that really make themselves happy, working for the man will get you nowhere I think you're doing the right thing! Why work so hard for someone else, my dad never once worked for anyone except when he was a police officer and in the military, other than that his entire life he's been an entrepreneur he is now 86 years old and still owns his business gets up every morning and goes into the shop and I've never met a man that is happier than my dad!
Good on you for approaching them with how you feel.
When does a man stop blaming his parents for who he is
You have to do what you want to do. Choose something you feel passionate about. You are 23, that's adult age. Your parents don't own you.
One word. Leave. Go your own way and do what you want to do. It is YOUR life not your parents life. Become successful and by being successful that will be your validation. Do not let anyone knock you down. I personally left home at 16 not because I wanted to do my own thing in life but because I was physically and mentally abused by my father who was a violent alcoholic. I am now 72, married for the past 43 years with a son and 2 grandsons. Yes, I survived and so will you.
Ich hatte eine in Hamburg geborene Mutter und einen amerikanischen Sizilianer Vater. They were so rigid and impossible to deal with.
I had to move out of the house at age 22 in order to become my own person. It was not easy and now they are both dead a long time. They were powerful but now dead. It is so absurd how parents try to control their children and then the parents die. All of those fights for nothing! Meine Mutter war aus Hamburg, gebornt 1921. Now I'm 68. I was born in the city of New York area.
All of those fights for nothing! Thats so true ... in the end it is not about what you have or what career path you chose, but about all the beautiful moments in life.
Another thought that came into my mind that I wanted to share: Because I currently live with my parents, it sometimes happens that Im taking my parents for granted and are sometimes annoyed about things they do.
A couple of days ago when I was annoyed of my mother I imagined how much I would value one more second with her if she would not be alive anymore.
My perspective changed immediately, my negative emotions vanished on the spot and I felt appreciation for her but also sad for not valuing her enough.
@@dennisbettinger Dennis, ich hatte eine Hassliebe zu meiner Mutter. Sie ist diejenige, die sich schuldig fühlen sollte, aber Tote fühlen sich nicht schuldig. Ja, manchmal tut sie mir leid, aber sie ist ein Teil der Vergangenheit. Die Liebe meiner Mutter war bedingt. Das ist keine wahre Liebe. Versuchen Sie, sich nicht schuldig zu fühlen.
Your mother sounds like my Preußisch-New York city mother. Try not to feel guilty. Your parents will be gone one day and you will only have yourself. That is all we ever have is ourselves. My mother is dead since 1999 and my father since 1987. They should have felt great guilt when they were alive but my mother was always trying to make me feel guilty. Is that a German mother thing? She was brought to New York in 1927 and would take trips back with her parents before the war to visit relatives. She was very New York but very Nord Deutsch. Hummel Hummel Mors Mors
@@dennisbettinger My mother was who she was. If she came out of the grave after 24 years, we would probably hug and then fight like World War 3!!! Nothing would be different than in the past. The older she became, the more unmöglich she became. I really loved my Oma because she was always on my side.
You get to do your own thing if you can provide for yourself. If they are buying your food and providing transportation, you need a regular job until your business is doing well. You are an adult. Why would they continue to provide for you? You can do all that you said if you can feed yourself.
Well done ❤️❤️
your right i used to be afraid of talking but they understand now very i'll shock them with results continue to bet on your self if you have in god he will fulfill your destiny ameen🙏.
Your 23 your parents seems like your parents financially support you. It's not their job anymore. You need to contribute to the house. This is only second video I watched.
If you can’t sell your business ideas with your parents who can you sell it to?? 😮
Do your own thing. You are living your life not theirs
Pay your own way and no one can hold power over you. If u r still living with your parents u must follow their rules or get out, you need to contribute, pay your fair share. Are u a man or a boy?
Your parents only can see the reality set out for them for you. Don't take it personally.
If you’re going outside to keep fit you’re doing it for the wrong reasons, go outside because you want to, change your view on the outside, let it in and let it fill you up.
you have to live your OWN life. they have no right to manipulate you. everyone has a right to their own life.
not sure how I stumbled upon this video. anyway, your story reminds me of my dad and his problems with his dad, my grandpa. specifically the 'pressure' that was added by taking away your car. and as the old-school theory of parenting went, according to my dad, was that the tougher the parents were, the stronger the kids would grow up to be. and i don't think it's necessarily wrong. these are, in my opinion, natural feelings / conflicts to have as you mature, especially between a man and his son. and it actually suggests that it's time to leave home and do your own thing.
secondly, I think the word you were looking for in the middle of the video was how before you even got out what you wanted to say, your dad was already DISMISSING you. as if your opinion didn't matter.
I hope things are going good for you. viel gluck
Thanks, yes dismissing was the word :)
Thank you💖
Hey Dennis, you seem like a sweet guy man. Wish the best for you mate.
Thanks a lot:)
move away please. Do what you llike to do. Money will come. better people will come.
I´ll do that soon
I had to learn to love walking. Seems like I’m surrounded by people who want me to suffer.
You'll be alright.
I mean as long as your able to support yourself why do they care so much?
Good question. I was trying to build something sustainable for round about 5 + years without anything working. They were asking again and again how it is going but of corse I did not have anything to show.
So yeah, I would probably be worried in their position as well, but I always had the believe over all these years "As long as I do not quit, it is impossible to fail"
They believed I would end up being homeless or something like that.
It is only since a couple of month tbh that these years seem to pay off.
And correct me if I am wrong but I believe the video was round about two years ago.
You can do both work and side hustle until you earn enough with side hustle to do it fulltime
You are lovely x
But are you pretending not to be spoilt? You seem financially secure, you have done a lot of travelling.
What business do you want to do?
I am into sales and I am also about to launch my first own product on amazon. I want to build a great ecommerce brand:)
@@dennisbettinger I have company doing 3D rendering, branding and photography, I would like to help you.
Your parent probably just think you’re not doing anything with your life which is why they give you grief. You’re always gonna get hell from people if you don’t make money doing what you do. Once you start making money in your business they will stop giving you grief.
Can yoy stay with friends, relatives
Hi this video was recorded quite some time ago. Im not living with my parents anymore for more than a year, but thanks anyway:)
Greetings from germany
@@dennisbettingerSo how's it going? Are you happier? Do they still talk to you?
just move out.. why havent you started your business yet?
How old are you ?
Currently I am 23
Cute
What is he confronting his parents about?
He is a homosexual coming out of the closet and his parents disgaree?
He is finally confronting his parents about coming out of the closet?
Hi Michael, from the bottom of my heard I wish you much love and only the best.
@dennisbettinger Thank you very much. That's very kind. So how did your parents discover you are a homosexual? Did someone see you at the public toilets late at night?
You must be more careful next time.
@@michaelcooke7123 Maybe watch the video?! He explains it quite quickly.
and what means "normal" for them?
My father would want me to become a plumber.
My mother was never that direct about it, but she sometimes want to sell me on some office job in a very low key way :D hah
@@dennisbettinger well relax then, tell your dad you can be a plumber in your 50s if you will.... enjoy what you do now
@@dennisbettinger Is a plumber a good paying job in germany.?
Something miserable.
Be brave bru and be a Muslim,, Muslim fellas are really friendly so let's be friends, and hp God will always bless you and guide you bru, come to London
NO don't be a Muslim ...... Medieval doctrine
shut up with that nonsense
No
man dnot give up to your family ,they are the only ones who realy care about you ,peaple in the internet never gona care about you for real ,they dnot even know you ,please for the love of god dnot give up to your parents.
Dude your parents are not your enemies. You don't "confront" your parents unless they're doing something wrong to you. Them wanting you to get a normal job so that you can secure a living is not wrong. There's nothing wrong with a regular job. There's nothing wrong with being normal. Disagreeing with them is fine, and in the end you might succeed with your entrepreneurial pursuits and prove them wrong. But standing up to your parents isn't "manly", teenage girls do that all the time.
There's everything wrong with being normal.