story one... your old landlord is not letting you get your personal belongings? depending where in the world you are, thats concidered theft. and if you have enough stuff... and the price of it is above a certain limit (varies area to area) its concidered a felony level theft. the landlord cannot refuse you access to get your own belongings. last story, the father and the grandmother antivaxers too? because the mentality they have is more flawed than a flat earther. he needs help so bad he needs it worse than the OP, and she needs a crapload of it... and a container of pepperspray
The story about the mom and toddler- Wow! So happy she and her daughter are doing well and DCF and foster mom are positively assisting mom and daughter and giving continued support! It's great when the system actually works properly! Love and good wishes to all involved ❤
OP in story 1 sounds controlling AF. This didn't start off as him suspecting cheating, it started off as OP refusing to let GF have any personal space whatsoever. She literally had to barricade herself into her office and lock it to get away from him since he started to work from home. He has been leeching off her since he has money issues, says his money is tied up elsewhere and doesn't want to take a loss but has no issues with GF footing everything. He doesn't seem to care about her at all and only his meal ticket. Don't know if the brother is entirely a good guy or anything but I think he is doing the right thing in forcing OP out of her life. OP needs to either take a loss on some of his investments and find a place, stay with some family for a short while, or stay with friends (if he has any).
If he has as little money as he says he does, then there's no way he could find a place, and it sounds like family and friends is out based on how he treats people. The situation sucks all around, since even assholes like him don't deserve homelessness.
Honestly sounds like bad case of miscommunication. He should of went about it camly and notnlash out but she should of explained what she does. They've been together for four months. There both assholes how they did things. Be bloody grown ups and talk! Like seriously everyone just talk with your partners, dont hide or be sneaky about stuff. If they cant except you (as long as your not cheating) then move on. But op does sound sus as hell with his former living arrangements
OP in story #1 is a whole fucking bum. He’s not even worried about the relationship, he’s only worried about not having a home. And the brother already knows what’s up smh.
The last one was like me, but a lot kinder, my father only waited 4 days to start dating, 2 years to remarry. They turned me into their house slave, and eventually kicked me out at 17 to starve and be graped and beaten, 90% sure they wanted me dead.
OP should have reported the father, not to the counselor, but to the police. What OP said to her father is damn right. If god forbid anything happens to Nicole, her baby will also get the same treatment OP is getting rn. The father has gone through a lot, but his way of coping with it is what makes him a moron
School counselors are often useless if not actively damaging in situations regarding parental abuse or neglect. They ALWAYS tell the parents, who often double their abise or neglect in retaliation.
Story 1: dude said "contact her job to have them tell her to get in touch with him." yep dude is in the wrong next story, but seems he gived more about a place to live rather than thinking about her feelings, my mom passed abruptly I spiraled hard, used to try to talk to her once I brought the kids to daycare and my wife went to work, it was bad but I eventually let go this was 2015
Story 1: I read a ton of story’s and Op in this one isn’t giving us the full picture, man’s clearly leaving out details, why else would he directly go straight to accusing his Gf of cheating when she was just talking on the phone.
I don’t know i tried to put it into perspective of like trauma response or wtvr and i kinda get it? man’s girl was sneakily having a phone conversation every morning she was weird and dodgy about? id be asking questions too
She was being sus and running to her office to hide what she was doing instead of talking to OP. OP unfortunately listened to the idiots that told him to immediately confront her instead of using a hidden camera to investigate.
I'm glad someone said it, the OP was really bothering me with 1. How he immediately jumped to, "she's cheating on me" and wanting to set up a camera, then 2. when she is understably upset and leaves, it's her brother who is twisting words and keeping them apart and not OP's own shitty actions. Everyone is talking about how the girlfriend is unstable, but like, her dad died in her mid 20s and she had a morning ritual that she had to share with someone she's only dated for a few months.
Her dad died recently. She was grieving. He shouldn’t have jumped to conclusions, and given her a bit of space on that fact alone. She wasn’t being rude.
@@MsAngelsheartI mean I understand but most people would jump to the cheating conclusion if their partner was being weird about not wanting to spend time with them in the morning without saying why, being super dodgy about it, and also hiding the fact that they were having a private conversation with someone and were doing it in a low voice so you obviously couldn't hear it, that SCREAMS cheating. Regardless of what's actually happening.
1st story: Sis kinda sounds like she's having a breakdown, like her dad was somehow still around if she talked to him every morning but ONLY if nobody knew and it was private and now that its out he's not gonna come back to talk to her? sounds like some kind of paranoia. If this was just a sweet little remembrance thing for her dad she wouldn't have melted down and said "he's gone" like what kind of twisted view of her dad must she have if she thinks he'd leave her alone for admitting she still talks to him? and also why does she make it sound like she actually thought he was there??? idk all of that just screams mentally unstable to me.
Honestly, it sounds to me like it could be OCD as that aligns with an OCD ritual's type of logic i.e. you have to do this very precise thing in this very precise way for Positive Result of your Dad in Heaven or on the ghostly plane or whatever hearing you and being with you and if you don't EXTREME or Nonsensical Negative Result will come immediately and it will be all your damn fault. You've failed. You're a damn failure. You've let everyone down. You failed your Dad, he's never gonna come and listen to you now. He's so ashamed of you that you couldn't do such a simple thing right. That's not how she necessarily even perceives her Dad consciously. OCD is irrational and often has plot holes in the logic because it is ultimately delusional anxiety trying to control things that can't be controlled through rituals that make no sense to avoid bad outcomes that are unlikely, impossible or outright don't make sense to be linked to the ritual or even you in any significant way.
She was acting sus and didn't want to talk to him. Then she runs back to her family and has told her brother a different story just to hide what actually happened. Then again, both siblings sound unstable and they're willing to screw OP over (making him homeless) like complete psychopaths.
It’s grief. Everyone handles grief differently, but it’s not pathological to cope the way she did. She was not harming anyone, OP got into his own head and jumped to conclusions instead of gently talking to her and trusting her.
@@LunaP1 OP might be being screwed over by the landlord denying access to his stuff, but that is an issue for him to take up with the police. The girlfriend doesn't have to let him stay if they break up, and the brother doesn't have to do him any favours. That's why it is risky as frick to move in with someone you've been with for a few months who owns a place - if they want you out, they'll want you out in days, not weeks or months while you sort your life, because they aren't invested enough to tolerate you staying around that long. OP needs to work things out with a work colleague or friend or even talk to his workplace to see if they can help him out in some way and stop deluding himself that he'll get to stay in her house or keep borrowing stuff if he talks to her. She clearly doesn't want to talk to him. If my sibling is talking to you instead of me, it's because I don't want to deal with you, not because my sibling is an inconvenient obstacle preventing communication for no reason.
If someone has lived somewhere for 3 days or longer, you need to give them 3 months notice to evict them in nearly every state. What they are trying to do is highly illegal. He is not delusional at all.@ss.surprise
25:30 Literally sounds like exactly what she needed. Edit: The faith leader sounds like he’s genuinely trying to allow some understanding of why the dad’s acting like that. Edit 2: Holy crap I can see why she’s not Christian with role models like that. WOW, not letting her see a preacher as PUNISHMENT?!? That’s about as far from Christian as you can get.
Everyone so appalled at the last story makes me think I should have no relationship with my father... It is similar, but my version is like the on crack version... my dad even tried to take church from me as punishment lmao.
Story 1 - They've been together 4 months, and the argument wasn't over coffee, he ACCUSED HER OF CHEATING! He had a fall out with his last landlord, his 'money is tied up in other deals' - Ummmm, he sounds sketchy as hell. He thinks this "isn't a big argument"?? Still talking to someone who has passed, a parent especially, isn't a bad thing. A lot of people still do that. He's so deluded that it's all still just a small thing that's he's just misunderstood and she'll just forgive him. I'm glad the gf has her brother for running interference.
In the last story, I don't get how the dad's threats to call the cops on the maternal grandparents for letting OP live with them have any weight since he's the one who would be in legal trouble for kicking her out and not letting her come back home. They should've called his bluff and let her stay with them anyway.
First story.... Sounds like a narcissist refusing to go away.... Doesnt contribute anything, and uses everything she has... The dad thing was just the breaking straw
Story 1: there’s a lot OP is not saying. He’s trying to paint himself as a victim. But essentially he’s been living in a house that is not his, using stuff that is not his, and behaving entitled because he looking out for himself. His profile fits that of the “hobosexual”: he has next to nothing to his name, pays virtually no bills, often has financial/legal issues, has no genuine backup plan, guilt trips a woman into letting him leech off of her prosperity. He puts his money into “deals” instead of buying himself his own laptop and paying some rent. He wants to force a conversation with someone who is hurt, holds her job equipment hostage. We don’t know why the previous landlord basically kicked him out, but he’s not helping his case by camping in someone else’s home. I wouldn’t want someone with so little grace in my home either.
The guy is a complete asshole. It is equally true that homelessness is horrible and it's understandable that someone would do whatever they can to avoid it, even if they're disagreeable. The housing system being as paywalled as it is, is the real problem here. If you had free housing, then this asshole could just rot in his own place and wouldn't have to leech off others.
He's got money but is lying and crying about being homeless is a kick in the teeth to anyone who is or had been homeless I would have sold my remaining kidney for a place when I was homeless.
moral of story one is allow your partner reasonable space when they ask for it. you say you're with her 24/7 and she cant have coffee on her own? mans unhinged in many ways
Actually the moral of the story is open communication. OP’s girlfriend didn’t communicate with him, and was instead secretive about what she was doing. What exactly is OP supposed to think?
@@FrostLordOni you can be a sane person, believe there's possible cheating, and still not behave like this guy did/does. why is it so crazy if a partner wants some decompression time alone? or that they might have conversations they dont want their partner to hear? its not worth stealing someones mug, holding it hostage, and yell "just tell me who you're cheating with" without any evidence whatsoever. nor is it worth squatting in their house and holding on to delusions that you can magically make up after a 5 minute conversation
@@SunshineTheLoveridk dog she clearly has some kind of psychosis. The moral of the story is quit being secretive and get the help you need. No amount of pretending your daddy is alive will bring him back
@@SunshineTheLover It's not crazy to want some alone time, but it is crazy to be incredibly secretive about it. If she had simply told OP what she was doing this could have been solved without an issue, but she had to act as suspicious as she possibly could. Also, you think he should be homeless because he jumped to the conclusion that the thing his GF was hiding from him was cheating? 3 days in not enough time to find other living arrangements, so her and her brother are essentially kicking him out onto the street. You don't think that's a little crazy? And finally, him wanting to talk to his girlfriend and smooth things over is not crazy. He wants to communicate, *the thing she should have been doing from the start*. I'm sure he doesn't believe the conversation would be exactly 5 minutes long, but he's just expressing how simply things could be solved if the two of them actually spoke instead of going through a middle man who has an agenda (the brother)
Lmao some of them really know how to get one riled up. Whether it's cheaters, liars, or people with no spine to stick up for themselves. Like c'mon you doormats
Story 1: You would not think OP was 32, but maybe 12. As a tenant of her house, OP would have rights, depending of state, even if OP is not on the lease. Also OP does not sound like he has taken legal action against the landlord, who seems to have stolen all his possessions from his previous apartment. Generally he just seems like he is just focused on getting back together with the mentally unstable GF, rather than taking the steps to recover what was stolen from him and looked into finding a temporary solution, such as getting a credit card or a loan in order to get cheap electronics so he can do his work and some mobile data so he is not reliant on others internet.
Story 3: this story pissed me off so much. I lost my mom to cancer 3 years ago. My brothers and I are already adults. That dad is a piece of 💩 and so is Nicole. I let my dad know straight up I don’t mind him to start seeing other women, but I told him if they start disrespecting my mom’s memory. I’m coming after them. My dad he’s in his early 60s he’s also very stubborn. Currently my brothers and I are upset with our current situation right now about my dad. I’m not going to much into detail. Just that story made my blood boil and made me think about my current situation. I really hope OP can escape from these horrible people. Nicole is lucky I wasn’t OP because I would be coming after her after the disrespect. I would go scorched earth on my dad too.
Story 1. If I told my partner I wanted a quiet cup of coffee in a morning and he tried pressuring me to have it together, he'd be out on his ass so quick. I am not a morning person and need a while in peace and quiet to come around before socialising. That would be a definite deal breaker if he couldn't accept it and got upset over it.
I think in story 1 OP is twisting stuff to look better, but I also think both of them could have communicated better in general. Not blaming the gf, because OP is the one who escalated suddenly but like... it is true that if the post had cut off before the confrontation, everyone in the comments would be like "she's cheating and she's bad at hiding it" Also she probably needs to talk about her feelings on her dead dad.
story 1... he didnt talk anything about his girlfriend, it was all "i dont have money, ill be homeless", but no "i love her, and i regret what i did, i will give her space if thats what she needs", man sees her as a mealticket.
lol op on story 1 is a leech and people is defending him 🤣🤣🤣 he should have been more empathic instead of acusing her of cheating, since he did mention her dad died
Or what's most obvious, he was already under pressure due to this unstable situation - a house he's not paying for lack proper funds, his belongings ilegally arrested, his investments locked - and was faced with the secretive "morning talks" of his girlfriend. He freaked out badly, I agree, but she needs urgent therapy because her coping turned into psychosis.
@@karinefonte516when a close friend of mine died, my therapist actually advised me to talk to him as kind of a form of meditation. I did that every day for about a year. It really helped me sort out some complicated emotions, and I did keep it private.
Her dad died. He was with her BEFORE her dad died. Moral is, standing by your partner when they’re clearly grieving means being patient. If you can’t do that, you shouldn’t be looking for long term relationships.
OP1 is terrible and loves to blame everyone but himself. First of all, there's nothing wrong with wanting some time alone in the morning, plus she clearly doesn't want to talk to you-otherwise she would. It also sounds like he doesn't really care about her...just what she can give him. Also, if*everyone* hates you, maybe youre the problem. This screams "missing missing reasons". Story 3....i feel terrible for OP and her sister because their father sucks so bad ☹️ they deserve better. L
@@joy4themightydonutchainsaw620 Yes I have. Twice. Once as a child, once as an adult. It sucked each time, I was fortunate enough to have an old 80's Ford Econoline
I’m sorry but first op is DEFINITELY the asshole. It all started because he wouldn’t respect her boundaries and wouldn’t accept when she said she didn’t want to talk about it. She has NO obligation too. He’s clearly leeching off of her and is only freaking out about this because he doesn’t want to be homeless. I don’t think he even really cares about her he cares about not having a place to stay 🙄 don’t know much about the brother but op saying “it’s his fault she won’t to me”, no. SHE blocked you bc you’re and AH and she’s lucky that she has a protective brother that’s most likely only following her wishes to keep you away from her or is seeing how much distress you’ve caused her and taking it into her own hands. He’s an emotional manipulator and the fact that he considered placing cameras to spy on her is so controlling and fcked up
Geez...just get out of there. You are an adult, get your own place. At this point you have no right staying in her house, the ex gf def dont want you there, thats why she send her brother. Grow up
Story 1: only thing I can think of is to call the girlfriend every day. OP will probably be gone anyways, but it is the one place where you can express yourself clearly.
Story #2 I'm skeptical... She was so depressed she lost 20lbs in a week? If that was true, people would be running to therapists not to cure depression, but to come down with depression, lol. Let's do the math on that. You need to burn ~4,100 calories more than you consume to lose one pound. Let's assume she's of average weight and has a high metabolism, and burns 2,400 calories a day. It would take over a month of not eating at all to lose that weight if she was depressed and just moping around. That or she's not eating at all and runs 35 miles every day for that week, which doesn't really sound like something a depressed person would do, lol.
OP in the first story is such a loser not for suspecting cheating but for literally only being concerned with losing what she provides for him the brother is protecting his sister, good
@@TheyCallMeJayHe’s already homeless: it’s not HIS home. He has no leg to stand on. He should use what little money he has to buy himself a good enough laptop, and couchsurf at his friends’ places until his “deals” pay off. Unless he has no friends because he’s a leech.
Story 1. OP is Sketch
story one... your old landlord is not letting you get your personal belongings? depending where in the world you are, thats concidered theft. and if you have enough stuff... and the price of it is above a certain limit (varies area to area) its concidered a felony level theft. the landlord cannot refuse you access to get your own belongings.
last story, the father and the grandmother antivaxers too? because the mentality they have is more flawed than a flat earther. he needs help so bad he needs it worse than the OP, and she needs a crapload of it... and a container of pepperspray
The story about the mom and toddler- Wow! So happy she and her daughter are doing well and DCF and foster mom are positively assisting mom and daughter and giving continued support! It's great when the system actually works properly! Love and good wishes to all involved ❤
OP in story 1 sounds controlling AF. This didn't start off as him suspecting cheating, it started off as OP refusing to let GF have any personal space whatsoever. She literally had to barricade herself into her office and lock it to get away from him since he started to work from home. He has been leeching off her since he has money issues, says his money is tied up elsewhere and doesn't want to take a loss but has no issues with GF footing everything. He doesn't seem to care about her at all and only his meal ticket. Don't know if the brother is entirely a good guy or anything but I think he is doing the right thing in forcing OP out of her life. OP needs to either take a loss on some of his investments and find a place, stay with some family for a short while, or stay with friends (if he has any).
If he has as little money as he says he does, then there's no way he could find a place, and it sounds like family and friends is out based on how he treats people. The situation sucks all around, since even assholes like him don't deserve homelessness.
Honestly sounds like bad case of miscommunication. He should of went about it camly and notnlash out but she should of explained what she does. They've been together for four months. There both assholes how they did things. Be bloody grown ups and talk! Like seriously everyone just talk with your partners, dont hide or be sneaky about stuff. If they cant except you (as long as your not cheating) then move on. But op does sound sus as hell with his former living arrangements
Story 3. Nicole is clearly a narc. Op's dad would end up regretting every decision and by then, I hope op doesnt mend things
i hope and pray that op actively calls cps in that last story.
Story 1 OP can probably claim he's a tenant and get a 30-90 eviction window, but he doesn't really seem smart enough to do that.
Rather to distressed to do that...
Also why the hell isn't he getting police involved with that brother. And get a wellness check on the sister.
Dude in the first story is delulu.
OP in story #1 is a whole fucking bum. He’s not even worried about the relationship, he’s only worried about not having a home. And the brother already knows what’s up smh.
First one she's obviously grieving and that is her grieving process you should respect it anybody who has lost somebody close to them would understand
The last story sounded very familiar to me. I lost my mom at 10yrs old. Also got neglected and i am still dealing with stuff as a 30y old
The last one was like me, but a lot kinder, my father only waited 4 days to start dating, 2 years to remarry. They turned me into their house slave, and eventually kicked me out at 17 to starve and be graped and beaten, 90% sure they wanted me dead.
OP should have reported the father, not to the counselor, but to the police. What OP said to her father is damn right. If god forbid anything happens to Nicole, her baby will also get the same treatment OP is getting rn. The father has gone through a lot, but his way of coping with it is what makes him a moron
School counselors are often useless if not actively damaging in situations regarding parental abuse or neglect. They ALWAYS tell the parents, who often double their abise or neglect in retaliation.
1st story : OP 🚩 . Controlling af!
Story 1: dude said "contact her job to have them tell her to get in touch with him." yep dude is in the wrong next story, but seems he gived more about a place to live rather than thinking about her feelings, my mom passed abruptly I spiraled hard, used to try to talk to her once I brought the kids to daycare and my wife went to work, it was bad but I eventually let go this was 2015
Story 1: I read a ton of story’s and Op in this one isn’t giving us the full picture, man’s clearly leaving out details, why else would he directly go straight to accusing his Gf of cheating when she was just talking on the phone.
I don’t know i tried to put it into perspective of like trauma response or wtvr and i kinda get it? man’s girl was sneakily having a phone conversation every morning she was weird and dodgy about? id be asking questions too
She was being sus and running to her office to hide what she was doing instead of talking to OP. OP unfortunately listened to the idiots that told him to immediately confront her instead of using a hidden camera to investigate.
I'm glad someone said it, the OP was really bothering me with 1. How he immediately jumped to, "she's cheating on me" and wanting to set up a camera, then 2. when she is understably upset and leaves, it's her brother who is twisting words and keeping them apart and not OP's own shitty actions.
Everyone is talking about how the girlfriend is unstable, but like, her dad died in her mid 20s and she had a morning ritual that she had to share with someone she's only dated for a few months.
Her dad died recently. She was grieving. He shouldn’t have jumped to conclusions, and given her a bit of space on that fact alone. She wasn’t being rude.
@@MsAngelsheartI mean I understand but most people would jump to the cheating conclusion if their partner was being weird about not wanting to spend time with them in the morning without saying why, being super dodgy about it, and also hiding the fact that they were having a private conversation with someone and were doing it in a low voice so you obviously couldn't hear it, that SCREAMS cheating. Regardless of what's actually happening.
Nah, OP in story 1 got sketchier and sketchier
Everyone sucks in the 1st story.
Agree entirely!
That counsler just absolutely sucks. She specifically told him not to notify the dad about the meeting, and HE DID EXACTLY WHAT SHE DIDNT WANT HIM TO.
1st story: Sis kinda sounds like she's having a breakdown, like her dad was somehow still around if she talked to him every morning but ONLY if nobody knew and it was private and now that its out he's not gonna come back to talk to her? sounds like some kind of paranoia. If this was just a sweet little remembrance thing for her dad she wouldn't have melted down and said "he's gone" like what kind of twisted view of her dad must she have if she thinks he'd leave her alone for admitting she still talks to him? and also why does she make it sound like she actually thought he was there??? idk all of that just screams mentally unstable to me.
Honestly, it sounds to me like it could be OCD as that aligns with an OCD ritual's type of logic i.e. you have to do this very precise thing in this very precise way for Positive Result of your Dad in Heaven or on the ghostly plane or whatever hearing you and being with you and if you don't EXTREME or Nonsensical Negative Result will come immediately and it will be all your damn fault. You've failed. You're a damn failure. You've let everyone down. You failed your Dad, he's never gonna come and listen to you now. He's so ashamed of you that you couldn't do such a simple thing right.
That's not how she necessarily even perceives her Dad consciously. OCD is irrational and often has plot holes in the logic because it is ultimately delusional anxiety trying to control things that can't be controlled through rituals that make no sense to avoid bad outcomes that are unlikely, impossible or outright don't make sense to be linked to the ritual or even you in any significant way.
She was acting sus and didn't want to talk to him. Then she runs back to her family and has told her brother a different story just to hide what actually happened. Then again, both siblings sound unstable and they're willing to screw OP over (making him homeless) like complete psychopaths.
It’s grief. Everyone handles grief differently, but it’s not pathological to cope the way she did. She was not harming anyone, OP got into his own head and jumped to conclusions instead of gently talking to her and trusting her.
@@LunaP1 OP might be being screwed over by the landlord denying access to his stuff, but that is an issue for him to take up with the police. The girlfriend doesn't have to let him stay if they break up, and the brother doesn't have to do him any favours. That's why it is risky as frick to move in with someone you've been with for a few months who owns a place - if they want you out, they'll want you out in days, not weeks or months while you sort your life, because they aren't invested enough to tolerate you staying around that long.
OP needs to work things out with a work colleague or friend or even talk to his workplace to see if they can help him out in some way and stop deluding himself that he'll get to stay in her house or keep borrowing stuff if he talks to her. She clearly doesn't want to talk to him. If my sibling is talking to you instead of me, it's because I don't want to deal with you, not because my sibling is an inconvenient obstacle preventing communication for no reason.
If someone has lived somewhere for 3 days or longer, you need to give them 3 months notice to evict them in nearly every state. What they are trying to do is highly illegal. He is not delusional at all.@ss.surprise
The story about OP being a mom had a cute ending though.
25:30 Literally sounds like exactly what she needed.
Edit: The faith leader sounds like he’s genuinely trying to allow some understanding of why the dad’s acting like that.
Edit 2: Holy crap I can see why she’s not Christian with role models like that. WOW, not letting her see a preacher as PUNISHMENT?!? That’s about as far from Christian as you can get.
Everyone so appalled at the last story makes me think I should have no relationship with my father... It is similar, but my version is like the on crack version... my dad even tried to take church from me as punishment lmao.
Story 1 - They've been together 4 months, and the argument wasn't over coffee, he ACCUSED HER OF CHEATING!
He had a fall out with his last landlord, his 'money is tied up in other deals' - Ummmm, he sounds sketchy as hell. He thinks this "isn't a big argument"??
Still talking to someone who has passed, a parent especially, isn't a bad thing. A lot of people still do that. He's so deluded that it's all still just a small thing that's he's just misunderstood and she'll just forgive him.
I'm glad the gf has her brother for running interference.
In the last story, I don't get how the dad's threats to call the cops on the maternal grandparents for letting OP live with them have any weight since he's the one who would be in legal trouble for kicking her out and not letting her come back home. They should've called his bluff and let her stay with them anyway.
First story.... Sounds like a narcissist refusing to go away.... Doesnt contribute anything, and uses everything she has... The dad thing was just the breaking straw
Story 1: there’s a lot OP is not saying. He’s trying to paint himself as a victim. But essentially he’s been living in a house that is not his, using stuff that is not his, and behaving entitled because he looking out for himself. His profile fits that of the “hobosexual”: he has next to nothing to his name, pays virtually no bills, often has financial/legal issues, has no genuine backup plan, guilt trips a woman into letting him leech off of her prosperity. He puts his money into “deals” instead of buying himself his own laptop and paying some rent. He wants to force a conversation with someone who is hurt, holds her job equipment hostage. We don’t know why the previous landlord basically kicked him out, but he’s not helping his case by camping in someone else’s home.
I wouldn’t want someone with so little grace in my home either.
The guy is a complete asshole. It is equally true that homelessness is horrible and it's understandable that someone would do whatever they can to avoid it, even if they're disagreeable. The housing system being as paywalled as it is, is the real problem here. If you had free housing, then this asshole could just rot in his own place and wouldn't have to leech off others.
Story 2 made me good cry
OP 1 wasnt so smart. If he knows he'll be homeless, why would he immediately confront his gf? Like ever heard of planning ahead?
He's got money but is lying and crying about being homeless is a kick in the teeth to anyone who is or had been homeless I would have sold my remaining kidney for a place when I was homeless.
moral of story one is allow your partner reasonable space when they ask for it. you say you're with her 24/7 and she cant have coffee on her own? mans unhinged in many ways
Actually the moral of the story is open communication. OP’s girlfriend didn’t communicate with him, and was instead secretive about what she was doing. What exactly is OP supposed to think?
@@FrostLordOni you can be a sane person, believe there's possible cheating, and still not behave like this guy did/does. why is it so crazy if a partner wants some decompression time alone? or that they might have conversations they dont want their partner to hear? its not worth stealing someones mug, holding it hostage, and yell "just tell me who you're cheating with" without any evidence whatsoever. nor is it worth squatting in their house and holding on to delusions that you can magically make up after a 5 minute conversation
@@SunshineTheLoveridk dog she clearly has some kind of psychosis. The moral of the story is quit being secretive and get the help you need. No amount of pretending your daddy is alive will bring him back
@@SunshineTheLover It's not crazy to want some alone time, but it is crazy to be incredibly secretive about it. If she had simply told OP what she was doing this could have been solved without an issue, but she had to act as suspicious as she possibly could.
Also, you think he should be homeless because he jumped to the conclusion that the thing his GF was hiding from him was cheating? 3 days in not enough time to find other living arrangements, so her and her brother are essentially kicking him out onto the street. You don't think that's a little crazy?
And finally, him wanting to talk to his girlfriend and smooth things over is not crazy. He wants to communicate, *the thing she should have been doing from the start*. I'm sure he doesn't believe the conversation would be exactly 5 minutes long, but he's just expressing how simply things could be solved if the two of them actually spoke instead of going through a middle man who has an agenda (the brother)
These stories were SO INFURIATING. I wish I didnt watch these videos.
Lmao some of them really know how to get one riled up. Whether it's cheaters, liars, or people with no spine to stick up for themselves. Like c'mon you doormats
Am I the only one who thinks story 1 OP cares less about his gf and is just using her for a place to live?
Story 1: You would not think OP was 32, but maybe 12. As a tenant of her house, OP would have rights, depending of state, even if OP is not on the lease. Also OP does not sound like he has taken legal action against the landlord, who seems to have stolen all his possessions from his previous apartment. Generally he just seems like he is just focused on getting back together with the mentally unstable GF, rather than taking the steps to recover what was stolen from him and looked into finding a temporary solution, such as getting a credit card or a loan in order to get cheap electronics so he can do his work and some mobile data so he is not reliant on others internet.
My heart hurts for that poor girl/woman 💔
Story 3: this story pissed me off so much. I lost my mom to cancer 3 years ago. My brothers and I are already adults. That dad is a piece of 💩 and so is Nicole. I let my dad know straight up I don’t mind him to start seeing other women, but I told him if they start disrespecting my mom’s memory. I’m coming after them. My dad he’s in his early 60s he’s also very stubborn. Currently my brothers and I are upset with our current situation right now about my dad. I’m not going to much into detail. Just that story made my blood boil and made me think about my current situation. I really hope OP can escape from these horrible people. Nicole is lucky I wasn’t OP because I would be coming after her after the disrespect. I would go scorched earth on my dad too.
Story 1. If I told my partner I wanted a quiet cup of coffee in a morning and he tried pressuring me to have it together, he'd be out on his ass so quick. I am not a morning person and need a while in peace and quiet to come around before socialising. That would be a definite deal breaker if he couldn't accept it and got upset over it.
I think in story 1 OP is twisting stuff to look better, but I also think both of them could have communicated better in general. Not blaming the gf, because OP is the one who escalated suddenly but like... it is true that if the post had cut off before the confrontation, everyone in the comments would be like "she's cheating and she's bad at hiding it"
Also she probably needs to talk about her feelings on her dead dad.
I have no sympathy for OP in story 1
I just hope last op moves in with maternal grandpa and gets to be happy again. That whole side is acting against her.
story 1... he didnt talk anything about his girlfriend, it was all "i dont have money, ill be homeless", but no "i love her, and i regret what i did, i will give her space if thats what she needs", man sees her as a mealticket.
lol op on story 1 is a leech and people is defending him 🤣🤣🤣 he should have been more empathic instead of acusing her of cheating, since he did mention her dad died
Or what's most obvious, he was already under pressure due to this unstable situation - a house he's not paying for lack proper funds, his belongings ilegally arrested, his investments locked - and was faced with the secretive "morning talks" of his girlfriend. He freaked out badly, I agree, but she needs urgent therapy because her coping turned into psychosis.
@@karinefonte516when a close friend of mine died, my therapist actually advised me to talk to him as kind of a form of meditation. I did that every day for about a year. It really helped me sort out some complicated emotions, and I did keep it private.
Story 3. Every adult in her life is failing her. There are at least two mandatory reporters who did not report to child protective services. Sad
Story 1. Moral is, make sure the women you move in with is stable, she got some issues clearly
Her dad died. He was with her BEFORE her dad died. Moral is, standing by your partner when they’re clearly grieving means being patient. If you can’t do that, you shouldn’t be looking for long term relationships.
@MsAngelsheart I would agree if she was upfront about it, being sneaky and weird about it caused unnecessary suspicion, self inflicted
Moral is, don't be a leech.
OP1 is terrible and loves to blame everyone but himself. First of all, there's nothing wrong with wanting some time alone in the morning, plus she clearly doesn't want to talk to you-otherwise she would. It also sounds like he doesn't really care about her...just what she can give him.
Also, if*everyone* hates you, maybe youre the problem. This screams "missing missing reasons".
Story 3....i feel terrible for OP and her sister because their father sucks so bad ☹️ they deserve better. L
Story 1: um OP doesn’t care about the girl, he’s just using her as a roof over his head and as a meal ticket. You OP are the AH
You've never been homeless and it shows
@@heroman2372Have you? But yeah I see where you’re coming from.
@@joy4themightydonutchainsaw620 Yes I have. Twice. Once as a child, once as an adult. It sucked each time, I was fortunate enough to have an old 80's Ford Econoline
Hmm interesting first sentence
1st Story: Reupload with a false title of events man all the story channels are falling off
Last story op wants advice
But whatever is said "I can't this or I can't that" then why do you asked for advice
op needs to learn how to respect personal time. She explicitly said she wanted time to herself. You should’ve left it alone.
I’m sorry but first op is DEFINITELY the asshole. It all started because he wouldn’t respect her boundaries and wouldn’t accept when she said she didn’t want to talk about it. She has NO obligation too. He’s clearly leeching off of her and is only freaking out about this because he doesn’t want to be homeless. I don’t think he even really cares about her he cares about not having a place to stay 🙄 don’t know much about the brother but op saying “it’s his fault she won’t to me”, no. SHE blocked you bc you’re and AH and she’s lucky that she has a protective brother that’s most likely only following her wishes to keep you away from her or is seeing how much distress you’ve caused her and taking it into her own hands. He’s an emotional manipulator and the fact that he considered placing cameras to spy on her is so controlling and fcked up
Geez...just get out of there. You are an adult, get your own place. At this point you have no right staying in her house, the ex gf def dont want you there, thats why she send her brother. Grow up
Story 1 sounds made up.
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I don’t really like OP in the first story tbh :/
Story 1: only thing I can think of is to call the girlfriend every day. OP will probably be gone anyways, but it is the one place where you can express yourself clearly.
He's said enough already.
Story #2
I'm skeptical... She was so depressed she lost 20lbs in a week? If that was true, people would be running to therapists not to cure depression, but to come down with depression, lol.
Let's do the math on that. You need to burn ~4,100 calories more than you consume to lose one pound.
Let's assume she's of average weight and has a high metabolism, and burns 2,400 calories a day.
It would take over a month of not eating at all to lose that weight if she was depressed and just moping around. That or she's not eating at all and runs 35 miles every day for that week, which doesn't really sound like something a depressed person would do, lol.
OP in the first story is such a loser
not for suspecting cheating but for literally only being concerned with losing what she provides for him
the brother is protecting his sister, good
Cant blame a man for not wanting to be jobless and homeless over nothing 🤷♂️
That what I thought, OP is a loser, a clingy one at that!
Can't blame someone for not wanting to have his life ruined cuz some clearly unstable woman
@@xenostraIt’s her home, he’s got no business overstaying his welcome. I wonder what the “deals” he puts his money in are.
@@TheyCallMeJayHe’s already homeless: it’s not HIS home. He has no leg to stand on. He should use what little money he has to buy himself a good enough laptop, and couchsurf at his friends’ places until his “deals” pay off. Unless he has no friends because he’s a leech.