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- Опубліковано 25 лип 2024
- A wonderful day but getting to the heart of the matter also. I surprise myself by crying on camera. Not the plan. But here's our story.
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When you let us know how you’re feeling and your fears, it lets us know how to pray and what to pray for.
Amen sister Regina! Well said.
Uh, I think God already knows what is needed. I tend to thank Him for already taking care of all of us...
Nancy Sutton if you’re a parent you’ll get what I’m saying. We as parents usually know what are children need, but we sometimes like to hear them ask. God knows but likes to hear us ask. It adds to our testimony.
Amen, God always provides.
Exactly. We are praying too
Art: I see a lot of myself in you. I would put things off that I wasn’t sure how to do or wasn’t shure I could do until everyone in the family was upset with me for not getting it done. I had a friend whose life motto was “do something even if it is wrong.” He got more done than anyone I knew. I am using the past tense because I am now 76 years old and can look back with some clarity anf see these things. I am pulling for you and praying for you. You will make some mistakes on this project but you will get it done. You can do this. Go for it. And think of all the great things you will learn from your screw-ups :-).
Amén.
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Yes, this.
Very true and wise words. My experience also.
Wise Words Indeed!! 🙏🏼❤️
The mold in your home was like a death. You’ve been going through the grief process. It was okay to be stuck for a while. Now you’re on the next step. I’m excited to see you excited again about your project! Praying for a great winter/project season. 🤗
You're absolutely right.
This is so true. I remember feeling that way after our fire -- just stuck and grieving and overwhelmed. I think I was traumatized more by being displaced from my home than by the day the fire trucks showed up.
It isn't easy to lose your home, and it's such hard work to rebuild even when it's just dealing with belongings, and you don't have to be the one fixing the structure itself. To say this is a big job is an understatement, but I'm so glad to see Art getting his feet under him and making this happen. We're cheering for you!
Yup thats. How i feel too Art weare all with u good or bad we know u and Jesus can do all things right ! Thats a promise. U can do this work thru all these things as u are your awesome ty Jesus
So true
I'm going to keep saying it until you tell me to shut up (LOL). Lean on your homesteading community. We are here for you. Let's have a homestead house raising. When you get the plans and permits in place, you could have an army of fellow homesteaders there to help you guys build. Let's call it "Habitat for Homesteaders". - Christopher
I think that is a superb idea. Spot on.
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YASSSSSSS!!!! such a wonderful i dea i know its hard to ask for help but sometimes makes us better people in the end,. ive been watching a while seems things are breaking down :(
I am sure there are ppl who dont live in your community that would be willing to help! The hardest part is asking for the help. I struggle with this all the time, until I am so overwhelmed with all that has to be done!
I keep hoping you all will show up and help. Sometimes a job is less overwhelming with more hands helping.
You do you.
Art, you're not living for them.
We'll be here and watching.
Sometimes with anxiety you get stuck. Your brain just stops you from moving. Just know you can not change yesterday, take a step forward today and try to do it again tomorrow. be blessed.
so true, and such good advice, Some days even the tiniest baby step forward,..is a huge success!
This is so true. When I'm overwhelmed with too much to do, I end up procrastinating too long and running out of time. The struggle is real!
Art, thank you for being honest and vulnerable. Editing your "negative" feelings out is not honest and you are trying to be real. I deal with anxiety and depression and an overwhelming schedule also. If I may make a few suggestions to try to help:
Spend 30 minutes either in the morning of or the night before (which ever is your best "thinking time") and make a quick list of first: what you need to do tomorrow - NEED to do. Your morning and evening chores are part of that list and to save time, make that a "master list" that you look at every day. Be sure to include those things in your daily plan. We have a tendency to forget the mundane chores when we plan and that will lead to being overwhelmed. Only plan on one or two "needs" for the day, and be very honest and realistic with yourself. Even if you have no distractions, which is impossible, you only have so many hours and so much energy in a day.
I have noticed you often set audacious goals for the day and are disappointed when you can't achieve them. DO NOT DO THAT TO YOURSELF! Set smaller goals that are achievable. Any time we cannot meet a goal, our self confidence is dented, regardless of what we try to convince ourselves and others.
The next item on your list is something you WANT to do. Maybe it isn't the top most super important thing, but it is something that is bugging you and weighing on you subliminally. It can be something as basic as sweeping out an area or organizing a shelving unit. Maybe it is weed eating an overgrown area. Whatever it is, do it. You'll take a underlying stress off of yourself.
Then, plan on 30 minutes focused time for your kids and 30 minutes for your wife. (This is in addition to the interactions you have throughout the day in relation to chores and meals.)
Aim for something honest, a 13 hour day. Morning chores: 2 hours; Need to do (1): 2 hours Need to do (2): 2 hours (and maybe those needs are one big need so the one thing gets 4 hours); Want to do: 2 hours; Evening chores: 2 hours; Kid time: 30 minutes; Wife time: 30 minutes; Breakfast, lunch and dinner: 30 minutes each = 1.5 hours; Planning for the day/next day: 30 minutes; Total time: 13 hours.
Also very important - take one day off a week. On that day, outside of chores, you are there for the family, some time for talking and planning, some for fun, some for working on family things together and some for doing something for yourself. Celebrate your accomplishments for the week! You can fit a lot of good stuff in that 9 hours between chores on your "day off".
Can I say it works 100% of the time - no because life happens. But, it has helped me and I hope maybe it helps you.
Words of wisdom! Thank you! I try to accomplish something every day...at least one thing. Some days I get more done than others. I too suffer from anxiety and depression, along with chronic pain, and some days I just don't feel like doing anything. And some days I don't. Most days though I try to push through it. I try to remember that I have one life to live, and if I waste the time that I have, then I am throwing away a precious gift.
Rondi Hartert That’s a great thought, thank you!
What a great time management plan. I’m sure we could all benefit from setting ourselves a plan like that.
These time frame things don't work for artistic, do-er type People.
You are describing a sheduler, a timeclock type of person like Justin Rhodes. Someone who is not artistic or impulsive.
Different things work for different people and since I'm a lot like Art, I know this clock punching doesn't work for me/my type of person. And will cause more problems in my opinion. For what its worth.
But of course its up to Art & Bri, this is their life, their challenge, and their channel. We are just along for the ride.
@@denisewilson8367 Agreed. I am that creative, impulsive person. However, I need the structure or I can't get anything done. Stumbling around in circles with one foot nailed to the floor , starting too many projects and not being able to finish them. Becoming frustrated and depressed because no progress is being made. I can't stick to a schedule as regimentally as Justin does, it would kill me.
That's why I stressed being realistic with the schedule. Thinking that a dreamer can get as much accomplished as a scheduler is not realistic. So, instead of a project that would take a scheduler an hour, the dream plans on it taking two. If it is a project that takes extreme focus or causes severe anxiety, then it might take 3 or 4 hours, or require breaks from it to do something else for a while and then circle back. Being realistic and honest, but moving consistently forward is the only way it works.
I’ve made the choice not to offer advice to UA-cam families , believing strongly that we all need to find our own way, with God’s help. I would never criticize or even critique and I am saddened by the unlovely comments that I see made.
What I do is comment on the beautiful, loving and wise things I see every time I watch a video of this precious family. I help them as I can monetarily and through prayer.
Art & Bri thank you for your generosity, your willingness to open your lives and your hearts to such a degree and for your intentionality in raising godly, well nourished, well taught and well disciplined children. We need your kids in this hurting world!
My health situation has me quite isolated and your presence via UA-cam is a real comfort.
You are quite correct, Art, what you do is a ministry. Thank you - my heart to yours!
I agree. Art and Bri need to do what is best for them and their family.
Kathy Cagg This was a beautiful and encouraging comment. You sound like a lovely person. I’m sorry you have health problems.
Cynthia Fisher thank you so much. May you be richly blessed of God!
Grace is an awesome helper! She has a wonderful giving spirit!
Praying for you to have courage in this daunting task. (When Ben Hollar needed to get their home ready, he just put us in the corner and let us watch and cheer him on. Please feel the freedom to do that. DIYferent has built their channel on just letting us watch them remodel their mobile home. It’s very satisfying!)
Hi Art
With all the warmth and love my heart can muster , in my very best “mum voice” I say “Stop finding something else to do. Just get on with it” 😉
Art, you can do this! We are both cheering you on! Many are standing behind you, holding you up!
You break my heart Art! Please keep pushing through...feel our prayers...God’s Hands...His Spirit’s comfort! Through this fire His light will shine on the other side as you give Him the glory if you let Him get you through this. With those hardest struggles it’s the only way we can get through it without having to repeat them over and over and over again. I know that the hard way!!! And still am myself on the journey. Be blessed and be encouraged!!!
Hey, no condemnation here, brother. I am the same way when a task is so huge that it feels insurmountable. It overwhelms me to the point that I feel paralyzed to even start. It’s a very real battle, especially when there are 50 thousand other things that need to be done, too. I will pray for you. You’ve got this with His help.
It's overwhelming. I can't even imagine. Don't leave it out, it's what keeps some of us here. It's real life and real life always has it's challenges. God bless.
This is HUGE!!! Facing your anxieties and fears and doing so publicly makes you a courageous and inspiring man. I am honored to follow you.
Just do it 6’ at a time. Quit looking at the whole project. One room at a time and 6’ at a time - gut it! Before my husband passed away we were struggling to complete a major project. His words of wisdom resonated with me long after his passing. Now when things seem difficult, I can hear 6’ at a time is all you have to do. It really did motivate me.
Are you going to keep me safe? I’m going to keep you safe 💕💕
Thank you for sharing your struggles and personal dilemmas with us. I’ve watched your channel for a couple years now, and although I’m just an 18 year old college student who’s lived in a city my whole life, these videos give me comfort and relief with my own life. I will probably never have a lifestyle like yours, nor do I aspire to, but I love how real it is. I struggle with getting work done and seeing the big picture so you and bri are inspiring. I hope you all have a great day today
Art I kinda know what you are going throw because when I quit my job over two years now it was hard to focus on the tasks that you should do. I always would catch my self having fun with the kids or out side working on other things. When I look back now it was because I felt free for the first time in my life I was free. Now I can tell you that it will get easier and you will get more focused. What I am trying to say is don’t be sorry for anything enjoy life you are finally free work on the house when you want to. Love you guys so cool watching you guys grow on the farm life and as a family. -Matt
Art... You are an honest man... I love you, your family, and sharing your feelings with all of us. God bless.
i know it costs, but it will be cheaper in the long run (with renting and time) if you just hire a crew to tear it all out. it will take them a couple days and then you can get your homesteading community to help you rebuild. and it will be much safer for your health.
Absolutely. I work in construction and have saved so many marriages for do it yourselfers getting tired and frustrated. Do your job, do it well, pay someone to do their job well ;) - but no judgement if Art and Bri need time to figure that out, or are able to do everything
I had just posted this very same idea. I have been spouting it as loudly as I can since day #1.
The professionals know what they are doing. How much has to come out, what can be cleaned and how to do it so it doesn't come back. They also have a crew which will get it done faster. And they have all the health safety gear needed.
Just remember what Ben from Hollar Homestead said. He at first let his pride get in the way. Then he finally swallowed his pride, asked for help, and got the job done with the loving help of other Homesteaders. And just in time I might add.
I was really saddened to see the negativity and tension in the comments. Art I wish I could say how much I commend you for being honest and transparent in this situation. Your videos are beautiful and your narrative is such a breath of kindness. Crying shows the emotional depth of your situation! Thanks for being brave.
Hugs Art... I understand. It’s overwhelming and hard to get started. Stay strong. God is with you...
I truly believe that this pace/trajectory of your life-changing work there on your homestead is going just as it should. You’re getting to rent a house for the winter. It’s close by. The other day was you were excited. Stay excited and don’t take our comments too much to heart. I worry for you, Art. Years from now when you are an old guy, you’ll look back and be a satisfied man because your kids are wonderful and your lovely wife is amazing. ❤️ The house will happen in its time. Stay well and be safe. ❤️
You remain in my prayers, Art. Your tears are precious and powerful and a gift. I know exactly how you feel as I have been there many many times as a single mom raising my 5 sons and 2 daughters - now all grown. I purchased homestead property 2 years ago and praying that all of my kids and their families will join me there. It's not easy but always worth it. I have followed your journey right from the start and have learned a great deal. Thank you. May God continue to bless you and your precious family. - Gina
Praying in agreement that your family will choose to join you on the homestead, in Jesus name Amen🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
Warner: That is amazing, I hope so much for you to have success. I was also a single Mom and all my life dreamed of owning a homestead. Finally, last year my youngest Son made that possible. We don't have any construction or mechanical skills but we struggle along. I spent my first month here scrubbing mold from the basement walls, hard at the time but it was a great sense of accomplishment when finished. We built a cute chicken house and put in a gigantic garden this year. I learned to can this summer and for the past 3 months I have been preserving the harvest. I have had so many blessings this past year that even the challenges can't get me down. I am hoping the very best for you and your loved ones.
Hubby and I have walked in your shoes and I completely understand what you’re going through. We bought a house and the inspection didn’t reveal what was lurking behinds the walls by every single window in the house. About 70% of our home had mold inside the walls. We lived on our property in an rv for about 12 months until hubby completed it. (We couldn’t afford to pay someone else to do it.) All that to say is the emotions that come along with handling such a big reno job is real and it’s ok to feel the way you do. The feelings will come in waves but if you keep focusing on the next step to take and not the mountain that stands before you, it will help when the occasional wave comes by and tries to knock you over. Mold brings a lot of fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of what we read online. Fear of others opinions. Fear of what other problems might you come across and why is this happening. Lean on your faith and just taking the next right step and before you know it you’ll be looking at this whole experience in your rear view mirror. You’ll get there and we’ll keep praying for you.
I am watching you now as I recover from a total hip replacement one week into my recovery. I also sit looking at my house and all the things that I didn't get finished before my surgery. So many things that needed to get done but they were overwhelming to me. Where to start, what to do first so as I sat and planned time passed and now I sit here unable to do the simplest things for myself. Tasks can be overwhelming to the point of paralysis so nothing gets done. I do understand the feelings of despair but I have more faith in you than me, you will do what you need to do this time. And when I can finally walk without a walker and carry my own I will also get it done. Prayers for us both! 💞🙏
You dont seem to realize how much folks LOVE renovation blogs , your channel will explode once you begin to focus on that .
No one or thing is perfect Art. You do what you can, when you can, and how you can. You should never worry about what someone else thinks about you or your reasons. They don't know your issues and they have no business judging you or your family. Blessing on you and the family Art.
Thank you for sharin' what is real and frankly raw on what is goin' on. Your family will get through this, you will succeed in rebuilding a safer cleaner home, you all will be back livin' in the house that love built. Just keep movin' forward and always prayin' for each day to be done. Blessings dear family! :)
wilder is the cutest, his words makes my heart melt..
Art my heart and my prayers go out to you and your beautiful family! Letting us into your lives is very special! Thanks and may the Lord shine upon you for He is your strength...
Wilder makes me smile. Grace warms my heart. All of your children are precious 😊❤️❤️❤️
Art I am sending you gentle hugs. I can't imagine the stress. Keep your head up. Tomorrow is a new day.
You have had a major change in your life recently, I gave up work 3 years ago but it took me a about a year to get my head in the right space, baby steps you can do it and you are heading in the right direction x
Loved this video, especially you being so real while sitting on the porch doing emails. I do want to see and know about that part. Thank you for sharing! You can do it!
I know we are not in your shoes, but some of us know exactly how you feel. It is ups and downs. Thank you for sharing with us. God bless!
I’m loving all your content you’ve been posting! Thank you!
Hello Art and Bri;
First of all I really love watching you and your beautiful children. God Bless you and yours.
Art you are doing ok, you cleaned the shed in this episode, spent time with your children while moving the cattle, and the whole time filming for the youtube & homestead community. I struggle like you with tons to do and time and energy running out. I get depressed also and look at myself in a reproving way. Ask the Lord for help to clear your mind so that it can help determine what step to take 1st. Like someone said earlier start small.
I would like to see you professionally get rid of the mold then get your friends to help...they will, because they are so grateful to you for all of your help in their own times of need. Give Bri a hug for us shes a sweet woman. Bye
Thank you for sharing your struggles and your pain with us and keeping things real. Things will get better. Life can be very hard especially with Challenges that you and your family have experienced.
You will be in our prayers families prayers. Stay strong and remain focused. You've got this.
It doesnt make sense for sanity to be 100% on the house. You're killing it Art. You too Bri. You're both amazing and so inspiring. Covid has made goals a ton more difficult to meet this year but besides making excuses we all see you both, even the kids, working your buns off. We're rooting for you!!!
I was right there with you on that porch. I know the anxiety of beginnings all too well. ❤️
I felt that.. wauw, i started crying with him. Art is a family man, he wants to do all of those things at the same time. God bless his heart❤ he is human being, he needs a work buddy.
Was anxioulsy waiting for the next video💕. That baby is adorable and growing so fast
You are going to kick butt!! I was a bit perturbed at you honestly getting the “life coach” but realize that’s just your first step. Any ICU nurse with all the stress and immense responsibility you have had is so prepared for this project except you just don;t know it yet. I love you guys and wish I could send you the confidence you need for this house Reno. You deal with life and death as an RN in the ICU. You’ve got this!!! Big hugs with a mask on!!!
I feel for you Bri on the fatigue that tiny spaces create. I'll be reflecting on your struggles with space in the coming months. Due to covid job losses I'll be moving into my little sisters home.
It'll be a 3 generation, 6 person home, that is going to be super tight BUT we will be doing the best we can with what life has given us.
Thank you for gently sharing what life has brought you. Keep your chin up!
Thank you for sharing
Perhaps once you get your blueprints, a scheduled tear out with friends and family might be both encouraging and insightful on how to proceed in your vision of the new home, once Bri gets her winter nest made in the rental. Chili, apple cider, and such would make for a light hearted start to reconstruct your home. Prayers for strong vision and perseverance thru fall and winter reconstruction of your homestead.
I see your strength, vision and character pushing forward with a vengeance! Prayers for just that heading your way❤️
This was a beautiful video with real and raw emotions. The apple picking at the end was so special to watch.🍎🍏
You are doing the best you can and its OK. You are raising your kids wonderfully, taking great care of your animals, growing your own food, home schooling your kids, keeping the property ship shape. These are full time jobs!!! Plus, you are videotaping and editing and launching new learning videos. You are amazing. It is OK to feel what you are feeling. If I am afraid to do something, it will usually take a long time for me to do it. It takes courage, ENERGY, and perserverence. Sometimes, we just run out of one of these and it takes a while to get it back. Never forget what it is all for, your healthy happy family. If you have to slow down the house project to keep your family (and yourself) healthy and happy, so be it. Be kind to yourself.
Sending you courage Bri ❤ you're almost there, you can do it
Art you have so much love being sent your way! I can't begin to imagine what it is like going through something like what your family is going through, but I can see how far you have already come and all the hurdles you have already cleared! You've already done so many hard things. Focus on all your accomplishments and know, without a doubt, you WILL accomplish everything you set out to achieve. You can't fall off this mountain. Its impossible. Loved the Robert Frost quote at the end.
I often times find in life that when I am in the moments of delay I get frustrated at myself for not progressing and like you are now. When I look back on those moments in the past I can see that GOD was making me take a pause for a reason I could not see or understand in that moment. You will get there, it will happen 💜 just breath
Thank you for sharing this❤️
I just want to tell you how much i respect you sharing the difficulty you are having with making yourself do the things that are hard. We need more of this type of honesty in our world of glossy social media posts that make it appear that everyone “has it together” but us. The truth is that we all struggle. Even those that look like they are so put together and have this “perfect life”. They still struggle at times. And many times they do it alone and in silence with no support out of fear of rejection or judgement. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for showing the rest of us that it’s ok to struggle. It’s ok to doubt. It’s ok to fall short. And it’s ok to give yourself grace. You will find your way and one day you will be in that house and all of this will be behind you.
Art, don’t feel bad about not jumping on the house Renovation! You are aware of your struggles and have a plan, so that’s big! I have struggled most of my life with “shutting down” in the midst of tackling something that is overwhelming! Whether it’s a aggressive manager or just cleaning out my closet, or tackling the mountain of work I have at my job, along with dealing with Lyme Disease and Hashimoto’s . I’ve learned to prioritize my goals ( or “To Do List ) and write them down. I am now realizing that I can’t mentally handle the stressors of a demanding career/job and will live on less $$ with a less stressful job .
Just know that you have a lot of people cheering you on, so enjoy the journey of your House renovation
and know that your identity is in Jesus,, and He’s so proud of you! God Bless you all!
Great trip with the kids. I remember going to the orchard with my mom. More peaches than apples but it was a fun trip each time.
You don’t need to be so hard/down on yourself. You do what you can when you can and it will be ok. You’re not letting ‘us’ down. It’s all about you doing for your family.. Your best is all anyone can expect. I’ve been a procrastinator for similar reasons. Hopefully you’ll learn like I did, just make the call or email. Get answers and move on. I use a checklist now. It helps me to see visually that I’m getting things done and making progress. You’ll be fine. I believe in you and your family journey.
Wilder is so amazing growing up to fast. So are the rest of the kids. You live in such a beautiful area. Love the mountains ❣️. Art take one day at a time moving forward and before you know it you'll be well on your way. The house is a huge undertaking you will prevail.
You can do this Art! Bre, soon you will be in your rental for the winter. My prayers for your family.
Thanks Art so much for your transparency. I've been feeling overwhelmed and anxious over all that needs to be done on the homestead. Constantly working against weather, deadlines, pests, projects, etc...it just gets to even the most organized people. Hang in there, and give yourself some grace. I'm trying to do that as well.
Bri you did an AWESOME job today and keep y
up the good work:) . Art when you are feeling upset or down on yourself because you haven't started on the house, here is what you need to try! When you are having those feelings, pick one wall and only one wall in your house and take a sledge hammer to that one wall and knock it out and then throw that wall in the dumpster. I can promise you that will help with your mood!
I remember a time in my life when I was struggling to get up and go to work. As a real estate agent I was more successful than ever yet I didn’t want to go to work.
One morning as I was forcing myself to drive away to go to work I asked myself how I would explain the struggle to my wonderful husband.
A picture came to mind that vividly showed the problem. I saw a general standing and trying to force his troops to move forward. The troops had revolted and were sitting on the ground. They told him “No, you’ve told us over and over just one more time to get to the top of that hill and we don’t believe you anymore and we are tired.
I instantly realized that both were parts of myself the general and the troops. I was divided against myself. The part of me that was pushing to get things done and the part of me that was not buying the words that I was using to get myself motivated any longer.
This was such an eye-opener for me. I knew I could no longer continue talking to myself the way that I had for many years.
This revealed some things to me that help me to take the next step in my personal growth to better understand myself and to learn to be kind gentle understanding etc.
Art perhaps there’s an important reason why you are struggling that has virtually nothing to do with the house and everything to do with your history and how you’ve interacted the circumstances and situations and people in your life for many years.
You have done best you know how to do under the circumstances. As I began to learn I needed a new approach on how to interact with myself more successfully.
This revelation was a catapult for me to learn how to motivate myself and to understand myself and to do things differently. Allowing ourselves the room to explore our inner world and how we have done things in the past that a part of ourselves no longer wants to cooperate with can be a catapult for the future.
After a few days of thought I decided to fire the general but I did so with honors. After all the general had helped me get through some very difficult periods in my life when getting it out when determination resentful to survival.
I then began to listen and slowly over time they begin to communicate with each other and determine a course forward that took into account all of the parts of myself not just the part that needed to get a job done.
One of the tools that I have used since that time is to break down jobs into very small pieces and tackle a little piece at a time and only for a short period of time.
Things such as simple as spending 10 minutes doing a task I really didn’t want to do and then monitoring how it made me feel so I was in touch with not pushing myself but drawing myself into the project based on the results that I wanted how it would make me feel etc.
Art you’re a wonderful man and I am guessing that if you’re willing to listen to yourself you will find where the battle lies. There is no doubt that your desire to care for your family is huge. But it’s also no doubt that the struggle within yourself is equally real so be kind to yourself.
You are taking on a monstrous job very few people would do and accomplish successfully. Brainstorm with yourself give yourself permission to take however long it means and start a tiny baby chunks. Perhaps you need to help her who comes to work every day that will work alongside you and help you overcome the bit of prowess is your experience. Or perhaps you need to give your pal permission to work for 15 minutes a day on projects as simple as taking out a 2 ft.² of plaster in one of the rooms you need to demolish.
Good luck on your Inner journey. Perhaps as you are rebuilding your house you will also be rebuilding your inner strength
I found this very helpful. Our inner dialogue is key!
Wow! What a true insight.
Very good insight. I appreciate you sharing!
I'm sure that opinions from all of us, your viewers, who are interested and care for your family from afar, compound the fears and tensions. I applaud you guys for doing so much - marriage and family, homeschool, homesteading, youtube, online courses, and a house rebuild. That's huge! A little progress each day really adds up to big results. Keep moving, keep going. You will get there!
I love your honesty. This process involves so much stress and guilt and fear and frustration! I send love and will be praying for your family! Big cyber hugs!
Arthur. I feel ya, man. The 3 of the top 10 most stressful things in life you are experiencing with yourself or with a family member (Illness, Loss of Job and Home relocating) has happened. I am happy that you have identified them. Now, it is time to access them for healing not only yourself but also the family. Then, having a clear plan to move forward without Guilt. Guilt causes more stress and will ruin the future. You are forgiven in not knowing before but praise yourself for learning what you must do now with a clean conscious. Also, as it has been mentioned by others, get help from others (Professional or otherwise) to lessen the burden just on one person. We all have faith in you and God that you will make the right choice. These are not mistakes but Lessons. May Joy Come To You.
Praying for you guys. As a family that's lived through a moldy house disaster, my heart just feels for ya. Praying you find a captain for your ship, Art. It'll help so much. Love you guys.
OMG!!!!!!! The baby is so CUTE!!!! Take the buckets to the barn??? NO Problem Dad!!! SUCH a BIG BOY!!!
Both in ONE hand!! Over sized boots & ALL..... : ) LOVE IT!!
When that baby smiles, he is the spitting image of Bri!
Your toddler is so cute I love watching him and his excitement is he helps you.
Art, you are doing amazing! Be kind to yourself! Thank you for your vlogs.
Art, I am so sorry you've got readers and patrons who are noodges. I can see you are not just back-shelving the house. You are struggling to work out the logistics that will allow you and your family to DO this thing, regardless of all obstacles including emotional depression and resistance. And you're not ignoring it.
I do think if the money donated allows, that you should get pros to clean out the mold. I think that you may even want to hire a helper for the demolish stage. Money is for many things, including for recognizing what you should get help on.
It will happen. And--ask your friends for help. You have helped them: we've seen you come to the call of others. Maybe it's time to hold a couple of "house parties" to get together, and share not only labor, but courage and companionship. Autumn is a lovely time for parties. Cider is cheap. Pulled pork in cider sauce is delicious and cheap. The weather is cool.
But it's clear you're hurting, and working, and trying hard, and feeling shame you do not need to feel. Forgive yourself and find a way to get help.
Your baby boy has the sweetest little face such a cutie pie ❤️
Oh Art. BIG hugs to you. I think if most of us were really honest with ourselves we all have issues like this at different times throughout our lives. I'm the queen of procrastination, I need to lose weight and get healthy, I need to declutter and organize my house, so many things. Thank you for your honesty and your vulnerability. You will get there. Just keep plugging along.
Art to Wilder “I’ll protect you!”. Love it!
Your sons smile is a bright light in my day! Ty
Art, I know what you are experiencing. I go through this myself. I can see the goal in sight but I get paralyzed by the process, especially starting it. Once I get started and get momentum, I’m good. But that beginning is so overwhelming, sometimes terrifying. My kids and my family cannot understand why it is so difficult. A lot of it is this feeling that if I mess up, the whole thing is ruined so why bother. It’s a weird form of perfectionism. I’m a single parent and i feel so lonely and defeated at times. There isn’t enough of me to go around. One thing that I have learned that helps a lot is to make a time map. It’s a general mapping of how my day and week will go. I save one day a week for errands and appointments. Thursday was my day. If it was a dentist, doctor, vet, meeting, always on Thursday. I hired a sitter for my kids and used that day to focus on errands that I could get done without my kids. I also had to schedule a rest day. I did the bare minimum chores, threw dinner in a crockpot, and made myself do things that were relaxing. In the beginning it was really hard. I would feel guilty about knitting or reading when I knew the garden shed needed to be cleaned out or I wanted to prep the garden beds and plant, etc.
Give yourself grace for taking any step. My motto is “any step in the right direction is better than not moving at all.”
Okay, Wilder helping with the buckets just melted my heart! Love that lil man. (all the littles ❤️)
Bless you Art. I wish I could fly over and help. Sending you courage to confront your fears. Your journey is real, honest and I think we can all relate to your struggles. Dreaming is easy, fulfilling dreams is often a challenge. Rooting for you and will continue to support you!!
I just signed up for your fermenting course and I’m super excited! Thank you Art and Anna for your hard work.
Art I totally understand your personal part of this video. I have the same type of person issue . Do not understand why I struggle with anxiety because I'm actually a very strong confident person . But there are days and situations where it hits me right between the eyes and stops me dead in my tacks!! I fight against it as hard as I can and sometimes I get it to lift abit . When it does,, I think, what was that all about? I know how to take care of this. Sometimes ,like you, I feel shame for putting off things , which actually intensifies my anxiety. Here's what I've been "trying" to do as of the past couple months. I make a list of things I need and want to accomplish the next day (i make it in the evening). I've been putting the things i most dislike doing at the top of the list so that I can get them done early in the day and not feel that anxiety building throughout my day. It really has helped me WHEN i follow my own guild line. I'm getting better at it but still have days that i make poor choices and don't follow through. I am NOT a phone person. I do much better talking to people in person. So, taking care of business or even visiting with family and friends on the phone isn't one of my strengths...lol. I'll be praying for you. You and your family are doing amazing. Rewatch your own videos and you will see😊 Don't forget...the tortuous ACTUALLY won the race. Your home is going to be amazing...God is in control...that's NOT just a religious phrase , it's a fact. And HIS timing is all that matters. Not someone else's timeline, not even your own. God's timeline... got it 😊 Since God provided the money , don't you know HE has you? He's never failed His children and you and Bri are His. 🙏💓🙏
"Are you going to keep me safe or what?" Now that was just plain adorable!
Always feel so much joy after I speak to someone, the terror leading up to it stops me every time. People don't get it, which leads to time distance and awkwardness, which makes the terror even greater.
I subscribed a couple years ago to go on your journey. For me, it has been an inspiration and learning experience. Any life without the ups and downs doesn’t exist! It is what you do during those times that make a difference. It appears to me that you and Bri are reflective souls who learn from what they did right or what they did wrong. Keep truckin! 😉
Wilder: Will you keep me safe?
Me: OM💗! My heart just grew bigger and it's melting at the same time.
Truly, isn't that what any of us want?!
Don’t stress just do. You will be fine. Just take a deep breath and go.
Art, all in time. Your plate is full. Remember all the things accomplished this summer, including your beautiful harvest. Praying for you and your family always. 💞
I signed up for the fermentation coarse yesterday and super excited about it. I have been watching since your first UA-cam video! Arthur you should feel empowered by your honesty and taking any step forward. I understand and have experienced the fear of moving forward and how scary it can be. You deserve to do creative projects that get you excited and keep you passionate about life and help provide for your family. You can do this!
The feeling of overwhelming responsibility can be disabling. The most important thing to combat the feeling of being overwhelmed is to break the large task into small manageable tasks. Its easy to say "I am going to start building my house today" until you see all that has to get done and you are left wondering for hours where to even begin. Slow and steady wins this race. You got this Art!
I feel for you, I know were you. It’s so difficult. Just do your best buddy that’s all anyone can ever ask. Bless your heart. Shoulder to the wheel and push on xx
I love the way you build lifetime memories with your children , no better way for a strong foundation for a happy healthy family. Thanks Art for sharing your family with us . Keep the awesome videos coming.
How sweet is Wilder?
W- you keep me safe? 💜
Then carrying the buckets to the barn. Melts my heart.
I think you all are doing a wonderful job at what you all are doing in your life you all are awesome. Thank you for sharing it is heart felt. Thank you Knoxville Tennessee.
Thanks for keeping it real and honest.
Art, you’re starting a whole new lifestyle for you. Give yourself the time to settle into that too. The house will be done when it’s time 💕 enjoy your beautiful family 👍🏼💕
Good morning Art and Bre i hope your both having an amazing day. So happy for you both about the house for the winter that is a real blessing from god and im so happy this is going to help your family thrive this winter. Stay safe and healthy. Blessings to you and your beautiful family
Thank you for the walk in the beautiful woods and the drive and apples. It was a real treat to me as I stay home for safety. I love seeing you two with your children, they are learning very important lessons, and making priceless memories.
Any huge job takes way more thought and preparation than most of us can realize. Keep plugging away, you will get there.
Just continue to move forward, praying for you and your family through this journey (I suffer from the same stuff, you are not alone in this)
I loved hearing the baby ask daddy if he will keep him safe. 🥰
Thank you art and bri for ur truth. Life is hard and easy all at the same time. I too am going thru a process in my life and ur videos have giving me hope. Take care.
Your fermenting course spot was very Alton Brown-y. ❤️🙌🏼
Hang in there Art! Keep pushing! Be encouraged! We are with you in spirit and want only the best for you and your precious family!
Art. I get your feelings and struggles 100% . Its easy for others to criticize. What’s so easy for one person is so hard for another. I too am getting inspiration from your videos as I struggle through difficult challenges.