Strangers Cure My Fear of Abandonment
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- Опубліковано 1 жов 2024
- Street Therapy, Ep 2
I've always had a hard time with change, with goodbyes. Watch me seek solace from people I don't know. Maybe someone out there has some advice to help me out.
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damn, "Don't worry about being abandoned, worry about abandoning nobody."
That changed my whole perspective
that lady dropped the hardest line of the video with the sweetest sounding voice of the video
My brain bugged for a second. But I finally managed to understood. That's a great words actually.😊
black ladies always have some wisdom to share damn
I thought for sure she'd heard this quote before, like the last line of an old parable or a classic proverb that many people simply know and attribute to famous figures that never even said it. But nope, that's an OG as far as I can tell.
This is the type of art that can only exist in a dystopia lmao
how so?
@@fatimaisra9143 yk that meme of "the world if (something) didn't exist." And then it's like this picture of an advanced society?
Our artists whole perception of the world would allow him to make something like this, because there wouldn't be any lingering dread chirping away at the back of his head. This exists because he's taking that fear and desperation and painting with it.
That's my 2 cents anyway, more projection than anything, but I do feel a lot of it is true.
No joke. It's like how taylor swift only exists because everyones marriages and sex lives are so fucked up.
new york is a dystopia
@@fasted8468 so real for this
Dude this editing is sick, love the narrative x documentary style. This is the content youtube needs.
Dude thanks for watching!!
@@TilekAllBetteryou deserve all and I mean ALL the love bro… love is fading in this world and you’re another hero carrying a torch, remind people man. Save people even if it’s one or two, everyone matters. You’re the goat bro
FACTS IM INLOVE 🎉
@@Lu_Bu__ youre spitting facts man I dont know if its always been this way but the world feels stranger everyday, somedays i just laugh about how ridiclous everything is. My goal in life is experience all the genuine love people can produce and to spread my own love to everyone whos ready to receive it.
This content is the exact genuine love i want to see and feel.
WE NEED MORE ART LIKE THIS!
The editing feels like something off of 2000s Adult Swim late night programs and bumpers. Absolutely love it, it reeks of something deeply human.
Kinda reminds me of skins for some reason
Smoke up!!!
MDE NEVER DIE
made me realise how much i miss humans and genuine interactions
Yea
I been dying for this, it's non-existent in my city.
What are you? Hikikikamori?
@@maziralathis nah just have no friends
@@DonovanAdams-u3y bro same, find it hard to relate to people my age cuz they keep talking about tiktok and some other drama stuff i dont care about.
I love the conclusion, there’s people in the world that are willing to abandon you and those who aren’t, you need to surround yourself with those who won’t instead of those superficial friends who will. In the end the superficial friends would’ve abandoned you anyways, they are spilled milk and don’t deserve you investing your time into them and you don’t deserve to be wasting your time investing in them.
Thing is, sometimes the friends you think are ride or die can end up being more superficial than you thought. While the friends you judge to be “superficial” can actually turn out to be great partners. Both situations happened with me
Sometimes, superficial is the best stop-gap until you find more genuine deeper ones.
How do you know which friends won't abandon you and which will ?
I got over my abandonment issues near the very end of my senior year in highschool because it was so hard to spend time with everyone all at once and I had to make the decision on who I wanted to be there for. The number has dwindled down to two dependable best friends and a highschool sweetheart I've known since 13 and have dated for over three years now. I feel spoiled rotten I could graduate with even this much left in my arms, but I know people are like butterflies and if they need to go do their thing, I love them and I want to see them flourish. I don't have to be constantly in their lives to be happy for them ❤
I'm right now considering abandoning a friend I've had since forever. They never remember I exist unless the need something from me. And when they need something, they never ask, just expect I'll do it like always. And I do. I always show up. Every time. And they joke about how it's just like we pick up right where we left off, after months of silence. And I don't know their life and they don't know mine anymore, because we don't talk. Just silence. And I show up and I give, and they forget to thank me, and forget to ask, and forget me when I don't have something they need. And I say, "I'm not being a good friend just for the thanks". But then I wonder if I'm a friend at all. Because it doesn't feel good anymore. It doesn't feel like enough. It feels empty and lonely. And I want to be a good friend, so badly, that I think I've only ever tricked myself into thinking this person I do everything for, is my friend. and I think I should leave them because they only ever seem to use me and I'm feeling all used up. But then what kind of a friend would I be?
Oh... 5 minutes in and I'm crying, lost a friendship recently. It's been really hard and this helps.
Ah :/ I hope you’re doing ok
its hard but that's life. only thing stable is you and yourself. noone else can make it better.. so depend on yourself. give it time, time shall heal you.
i remembered the poem " just let them" by Cassie Phillips. and it makes more and more sense as i get old.
Tilek misunderstanding who was supposed to be Michael Jordan in that analogy is peak comedy lol
Also the guy who had a chip on his shoulder about Basquiat is so cool. Lots of great elements in this video
PLEASE send this to film festivals they will guaranteed except this work of art.
Exactly
LOVED THE BREAKCORE
REAL (it started playing RIGHT as i was about to click off, glad i didnt)
it was dnb or jungle i think breakcore is different
What is breakcore?
@@Legendaryswordsman more distorted and the drums are more irregular i might b wrong tho :p
@@b0zo_kxller jungle
Jeez the musician guy at the park 😢 he got through to me. I didn't learn anything new, he just reminded me what I already new.
Joji walked so you can run 😂
This is like a love letter to the internet I grew up with. The aesthetic is completely new yet distinctly nostalgic.
typa shi to rewatch when im sad
Foreal
woman at 8:52 has BARS. this video also came at a really good time for me. thank you for making it, its wonderful art
the video style just kinda embrace the crappiness and i love it
both in editing and dialogue
It reminds me of old found footage movies
8:37 anonymity filter's supercooool + loved what she had to say
right now people are more connected than ever, yet more people now feel the most isolated. it's hard to move on when it feels like they were the only person that helped you cling to reality and you just want to feel that sense of normality again. it's hard to try and connect with new people when you're looking for someone who is not in your life anymore.
I dont know if i have the words to describe this correctly, but this whole video is satire and comity, but the underlying messages actually envokes very strong feeling about navigating friendships and brotherhood. It both entertained me and also made me think hard about my current friendships. Awesome video 👍🏼
I love the sincerity in the people’s voices when they talked about abandonment
Being vulnerable enough to make space for others to share their own vulnerability is a big risk. Thanks for doing it and sharing what you found from it.
This made me feel emotions I didn't know I had
This video feels like it was made in the 80s but with footage from today.
More like 90s
More like 2000s
more like 2010s
I've been utterly alone for the past three years, and I'm just feeling the consequences of being abandoned for most of my life. It really gets bad especially when you endure it from a young age, makes you so indifferent and misanthropic but I feel like that's the only way I've learned to cope with it, its just an emotional barrier you create to make yourself believe that you'll feel better without the help of anyone else, when in truth I acknowledge how desperate I am for any connection, but it's this thing where you don't want to get better because you'd rather stay in this little space you've created for yourself. Video struck a nerve in a good way, been thinking a lot about abandoning the very few people I have close to me for good, but that would make me just as bad as those who abandoned me, and they don't deserve the shit it'd dump on them. Thank you for this.
Hang in there fella
I'm in love with someone like this right now, except he has stages where he completely abandons me and isolates. I don't know what to do because I don't want to abandon him, he's lived through so much loss. He won't let me help him, he has to do everything alone, he won't change his habits. I'm hurting so much and found myself here.
This wouldn't make you Bad, but being totally alone is not good from my experience. Being isolated makes those barriers clamp down even tighter, and it's harder to get back out there and find new people.
I hope you find your way and your people
@@cr0w3at3r I'm sorry you're going through that. It's really tough being alone in a relationship, and then also having all this weight.
@jbaby362 Thank you, I feel a bit of embarrassment at my public overshare but I'm just aching. I appreciate your empathy 💙
Dude this is fantastic youtube needs more indepenedent creators like you. This is what the algorithms should be promoting!
I love this so much, I was getting tired of all the professionalism in every UA-cam video these days but this was exactly what I was needing. Everything felt a lot more natural to watch and that had a lot to do with the editing. The teachings were also great too especially the concluding one because we really do have to appreciate the people who we’re left with :)
I think theres a difference between abandonment and moving on in life. And I think your perspective on it can say a lot about your inward facing feelings, past trauma, and concepts inside yourself which are tangled up.
nvm most of this seems like a disingenuine skit
@@commenteroftruth9790 it seems like a skit that has some sort of meaningful message behind it...but at the end I think they just wrote it off as a satire, except, as someone who is convinced they're incapable of healthy relationships and could potentially benefit from a *good* *ethical* therapist, and suffered another loss yesterday... I'm not quite sure what they're making fun of.
@@claireschweizer4765 You could try a life coach, I've got a good one. Maybe that won't help you though.
@@claireschweizer4765 brooklyn transplants trying to get famous on youtube by making self-depricating skits about loneliness while theyre uploading it at their $2000 a month apartment in bushwick living with 5 other aspiring artists.
@@BrotherBroosh fair, enough
Loved the video!
I struggle with this sort of thing, still working through it all. It's tough, especially since the more afraid you are, the worse it all gets. I am starting to appreciate the passing of time and relationships, though; I'm beginning to feel grateful for the experiences I went through and learning from them. It's still a long road ahead, hell, maybe one without an end, but progress, even minuscule, keeps me going forward!
Watching this has given me more motivation for learning to move on and not focus on trying to see if I'm living in my good times. Times only get good with time, and I find a certain beauty in that. Knowing that sometime in the future, I will appreciate the effort I put in makes it all more worthwhile.
More on the topic of the video itself: I loved the editing, choice of soundtrack, and substance! I'll probably come back to this in a while and think back to this time...
This was beautifully written dude, I made this bc I struggle with it all on a genuine level and hearing other ppl are finding ways to work through it and grow from it is incredible. Keep it up.
Person at 8:35 had wise words like poetry!
For real, it flowed like water
that "two tears in a bucket, fuck it
cause ain't nobody gonna love me, but me" is moving into my head and not paying rent
"She's out there still hugging somebody"
Very tasteful. The chaotic interactions with strangers linked together with a general over-arching story reminds me of 'Nirvana the band the show the webseries' from 2007
i love advice coming from all walks of life, this is beautiful
This video has me very confused because it's kinda cringe but also i like the vibes at the same time? Idk i kinda fw it
i think it’s good, the video? if you’re busy worrying and judging about things being cringe, you’re not gonna have space for opening up and accepting things that happen. thats all
This channel just screams: "is going to blow up and have a 500K subscribers by the end of next year". Glad I can finally be part of the type of ppl who say I was here before it was popular
This style is amazing, I hope more people get to see this dude
dude this shit makes me cry so hard, you've inspired me for sure.
Just wanted to say thank you for all the support this video has gotten :) It means the world to me and I’m real real appreciative 🫶💛💛💛
keep it up man these vids are beautiful
One of the best things I’ve ever watched. Beautiful conversations and just so many moments of awe inspiring wisdom
Friendship is as universal as abandonment.
That skit with the friend punching you made me think you might be the Filthy Frank of Gen Z, but after watching the rest of the video I realised that you're much more than that. The skit was cool tho.
You made me realise some things about myself, too. This really is art, and you should keep making it.
my girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago, maybe more. since then a lot oh thing have been happening in my life and in my head. for sometime now i have had this feeling that things maybe could go back and maybe we could be toghether again, but i know things wont work, because niether of us are the persons that we met in the past, she is different and so am i. loved your video, i think watching it made feel better about somethings, and i appreciate that, thanks.
I felt really seen by this, thank you. (I just kind of ending up explaining my struggles below.)
Two years ago my friends of 3-4 years left me while I was having a bad mental episode from them repeatedly hanging out without me over the summer when I needed them to help recover from breakup, to help take my mind off it. They would send pictures of them hanging out and screenshots from a separate GC into the Discord server we had together where they knew I could see. They went to a place I talked about wanting to go to for a few years now, a place that is a special interest of mine and I love dearly and was looking forward to going there with them. I was angry and upset cause they never how I was feeling seriously. They told me we were never close, and I can't ever know if they meant that or not.
My ex recently apologized for some of the mean things he said to me, and I've learned that my old friends have been making fun of me since we stopped talking. He didn't say what exactly, but from the way he talks about it, it sounds bad. It makes me continue to question if they ever really valued me, when I thought it was the best friendship I ever had. I feel guilty for still being sad about it, whenever I tried to reach out and look for answers they said I just need to move on. I still get nightmares about them and have so much more anxiety being vulnerable with my two new friends I met 5 months ago. It feels wrong for them to want to do something to help me if I feel lonely.
I'm working on stuff still, it does get better, even if slowly. Meeting my new friends has helped me finally practice new skills I thought of since I lost my old friends. They're really understanding of me too, seem to actually take me and how I feel seriously. I talk with them when I plan out steps for me to do when I'm feeling unwell. Helps with communicating how I feel and not feeling guilty for it. And if they can't help out at the moment, we plan something for later, it helps me still know that they care.
wow that roommate guy is really handsome. I bet he's smart! and funny too!
this. is. awesome. I think I found my comfort channel.
Damn, no hot model chicks. I guess I'll have to go with the second best option... honesty
This video became my favorite on this platform. The editing, the music, the message, everything just makes it one big piece of beautiful artwork.
Chills, I didn't even think i'd commit to watching this video in full but now that I have I've learned a few things and I hope this video attracts a bigger audience because it was edited and put together extremely well. Loved all the unique interviews and the acting was good as well as the voice overs. Pretty neat lesson
Life is an adventure, people and things come and go. You have to explore ♠️
I agree
"you should see a therapist"
that shit hit hard
It hits the best type of realistic hurt.
I saw a therapist...she told me I deserved to be hit by my father because I disobeyed him...(I was 21 and cleaning the kitchen counter using cleaner designed for it)
She continued to have sessions with me after her eldest son committed suicide on the road... and proceeded to show me pictures of the open casket... and tell me she genuinely believes he faked his own death...her brand was called "Disclosures Therapy"
I feel So much more secure in myself and confident and higher self esteem and can foster healthy interpersonal relationships now, and that so much of my trauma has been processed!!!! 😃😃😃🙃
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dude this is so sick. thank you for art
This is incredible. Please make things forever. ❤
The visuals, the delivery, the discourse itself, all have that magnetic feeling of something satisfyingly fresh. Interesting and very entertaining. Чоң рахмат, жакшы жумуш
im really surprised at how small your channel is !!! this is really beautiful and i literally aspire to do stuff like this,, i hope your channel grows. this is amazing :]
this is genuinely so helping because i have the same fear, too and jsut hearing these people giving some of their advice helps a lot
thank you for this video, looking forward to the next ones !
This was brilliant, the editing and the story go perfectly with each other. I see your vision
keep this up man it fits perfectly into my head and i love it ❤
make more videos like this consistently and you will have a successful channel - great stuff
Recently I had to abandon a group of my long time friends because I didnt feel like they loved me the same way anymore, they havent contacted me since so i think it was the right move. Also i like what the old guy in the end said, believing in oneself
Update: One of my friends actually contacted me back today, and they actually do miss me.
The first woman you interviewed was my favorite, I loved hearing her encouraging Tilek to just be honest with his feelings, as well as the way she gently disagreed with the other woman's more indirect approach. Even though the confrontation with his friend was painful and embarrassing, at least it was "the truth" in a sense. (I really wonder which side was accurate about the bear, I've absolutely had friends try to gaslight me at the end of a relationship, and it's so tough to tell if it's intentional or really them misremembering. I know some people struggle to set boundaries without getting angry at the other person, and sometimes the fear of vulnerability is so strong that it's just easier to demonize their opposition.)
I could go on all day so I'm going to stop now 😂 tl;dr great vid, really loved it, especially how well scripted the fight scene was.
I watched this video over the summer where I always feel extremely lonely. I had this longing urge to find what I had with a friend that is no longer in my life. This video changed my perspective on things and what I mostly got from this video, you can't cry over spilled milk. It is what it is and things have already happened and they cannot be changed. Instead, I should stay in the present moment and appreciate the friends that I have now. Thank you:)
This is exactly why I downloaded youtube. Great video man!
This is extrodinary, the one that is put beyond words, this was deeply healing to me. Thank you.
I love this. Silly and deep at the same time. My favorite vibe.
We are all like puzzle pieces, we try to fit in every place, if you somehow do miss a piece tho, you will eventually find it and put it in its original place, a quote from me
This got some 2000 era movies vibes
I love all the vibes permeating from this vid
this video is so new and refreshing, total MTV downtown vibes
Really hope the algorithm treats this well. What the guy near the end of the video hit me pretty hard. More people should see this.
ai couldn't create this 💪🏼this is so creative i love thisss
this is gorgeous, i’ll probably be thinking about this for a while. i don’t usually write comments, but i’ve been struggling with something similar and it resonated. my friends are going off to college and i’m just terrified. i’ve been processing it for a long time- definitely longer than i needed to, just to come to the conclusion that it will be what it will be. i can put in the effort to try to stay connected, but i can’t worry about what will happen in the end. i have to focus on what i have here and now, and work on nurturing it. i think i needed this video to remind me that it’ll be okay.
thanks for this, i’m definitely looking forward to what other things you make
I love just finding beautiful stuff like this just scrolling on UA-cam. Like dude your style of film and editing it such a gold. Keep going please this is enjoyable content
This is art. That man with the guitar reminds me so much of my uncle who moved away. Miss him. Wish you the best on this channel and life's other ventures!
Dude your style is sick! I love every second of your video!
521 subs?? What the fuck dog. Good shit
It’s like watching a serial experiment lain episode
Please please please make more videos like this bro please‼️‼️
Awesome awesome stuff brodie. The music is actually crazy what 😭
Some tears were shed as I watched. Their words really hit as someone who’s loved and lost here and there, and that shit had me laughing too. Just be appreciative of the good times you got to experience, and move on for the better. It’s definitely difficult, but not impossible. Much love, great stuff you’re making
this is incredible!! you're making something so fresh and creative
You've won me over, i've subbed and looking forward for more!! - Incredible video, creative editing and it wrapped up nicely 👌👍 - You're going places kid
i'm in love with your art work -- ceci22#
This is absolute aesthetic heaven. The editing and vibe is just *chef’s kiss* Im a third of the way through, and can already see the passion and enthusiasm you’ve put into this. Subscribed, and I look forward to watching your other content going forward.
You are doing gods work son keep it up
everything about the two videos scratch an itch in my brain I did not know existed. They are so my style with everything from music to editing. You inspire me like crazy
Art right here. Incredible creation !!!! Love from Aus❤
I never comment on videos, but this is great work. We need more content like this
im unbelievably impressed with the two videos on your account and the youtube alg has blessed me. this is some fine art nostalgic yet dystopian and relatable in a weird dream like way. love this
DAAAAAMN THIS WAS SOOOO GOOD, subbed
hey just wanted to let you know that after this video you're definitely my favorite youtuber T-T pls don't stop making these
Keep making videos ⭐️
Last guy's advice hit me real hard. I was trying so hard to not tear up in public lmao. Love this video tho and u deserve a sub for that
Engaging with multiple strangers for advice can be great for getting input and tackling a problem from a different angle, as long as you can separate the good advice from the bad. Doing this, can potentially be a way to build a sense of community with people around you.
Wow! This video filled a void in my life I didn't know I had! Great work 🧸
Damn, this is real art ❤🎉
"I appreciate the friend I had all along. He won't leave me, he can't, he's not real"
The cameraman: "oh"
this is the coolest editing i've seen in a while! I love the breakcore/dnb bgm ❤️❤️❤️
I really liked the editing style, just a unique vibe. Have fun making more videos!
I really like the humor in this, the rawness... it's great stuff and I love the point you have to all of it and how well you build upon that point!
The chocolate story took me OUT
0:08 Yeah, this guy knows
I fucking love this
Heyyy this is stunning!!! The concept, the wisdom, editing, everything ❤❤❤❤ I absolutely love it, it's so beautiful and powerful :)