Lord I thank God for you. Your videos are changing my mindset on how I been looking receiving and thinking things. I was always taught to be the example and that didn't come with asking for help but knowing all. So I always been scared to ask or raise my hand. I commit this day and forward to ask and raise my hand ✋
YAS GIIIIRRRRLLL! This is SO true! Science has confirmed again and again that humans are social creatures. We need others. The idea that asking for help is weak is actually the complete opposite of the truth. Having a supportive, secure, connections that you ask for for help is a key way to build resilience and inner strength.
I need help with: 1)Positive thoughts in my head 2)Being a better listener 3)Asking for help Thank you for your positive attitude! I really enjoy your videos!
I am struggling with connecting with other people and myself. Financially I need help, physically I need help. I feel like a failure and it Spurs me to want to do better and take time to remember that to celebrate my failures and successes no matter the size because a failure is just a first attempt in learning. Just doesn't always feel that way. Thank you for reminding me.
I am so happy to be a part of your tribe. I am new but I am learning so much. Please celebrate with me; I just completed 14 days of my 28 days to results. I need help with dealing with "FEAR". I know I should go forth, but the conversations in my head are so loud. How do I get over to the other side of my fear? I thank God for you Lisa, you are the answer to one of my prayers. I love you dearly. I am so glad I found you!
This was powerful for me because as a man we tend to avoid asking for help especially when it comes from a woman (no disrespect) because of what others may say about our manhood. But lately I'm taking off my hood and seeking advice from lisa, oprah, mel Robbins and others it's life changing. I'm seeking help concerning conquering my fear of failure and rejection.
Thanks so much for this message, Lisa, it really resonates with me! Starting my own business has been a tough but rewarding journey and has definitely taught me to find the balance between doing things on my own versus raising my hand and simply asking for help from someone who already has the expertise. People are often more than willing to assist, all we need to do is reach out.
Lisa, you are phenomenal! Thank for your inspiration and guidance. I believe we are the sum of the choices we make the chances we take and the opportunities we create. I choose to hook my train to yours. I have no one with the capacity of a "You" in my life. I raise my hand for help in Marketing, Branding and Exposure. I love your Energy. Zemill
What a word. I need to raise my hand in relationship to my finances. Of all the great things my parents did teach, I wasn't taught all the skills to manage money effectively. It can be hard to admit one's shortcomings in an area when you're college educated and feel you should know better. But that's ego. Admittedly I don't know and I feel BOLD enough to raise my hand and ask for support. I release ego and fear and will press forward. Transformation awaits!
#BOL Best version of you is on the other side of the question that you ask and the action that you took!! Woot!Woot! Question->Ask->Answer->Action=Best Version. Something to ponder all day!
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness.... Dont let your "I think I know it all" or and other words your ego interfere with asking for help. YES! YES! I needed that. Some times trying to figure out and make people perceive you in a certain way is an OUCH! Thank you! That was a mouth full.
#BOL I'm evolving one nugget at a time every single day! I read a chapter of this here, listen to a podcast there, throughout my entire day and then journal on everything I'm digesting at the end of the day. Taking it bit by bit but like a greedy child has caused my own mindset to evolve by leaps and bounds in ways I had no clue was possible!
Asking for help is not being weak. No one is an island...so float with flexibility, own your limits and flatten the pride to realize we need others the way they need us! God didn't create us so we are to be alone in life...hells bells, of course not! Ask and ye shall receive...so keep on asking, be a support to others as well and keep paying it forward - blessings come in all shapes and sizes in the most unexpected ways - I can testify to that since I started my road using Lisa's 28-days to results...watching Dan Loks videos and listening to his podcasts..and now reading a great book: Tony Robbins "Awaken The Giant Within" - wow...all this is mind-blowing, ego-shattering and I'm hungry for more - social media at its best so I can grow and become a better version of myself. THese are people are my virtual mentors - and I love them for helping us out by calling us to action! Mahalo, Lisa - Dan - and Tony!
Lisa Nichols, thank you for Asking for Help. My take away is raising my hand. I have been used to helping others, being at the bottom of the ladder holding things in place. Now it is my time to raise my hand. My take away: Fear of No - this has got to STOP in my life. The pass 2 weeks I have pressed through the Nos. My take away: "Other's people perception of me is none of my business." Thanks Grandmom.
As I am going through major changes in life, I realize that I can't go much further on my own. I need mentors and advisors in my life. Even Jesus had his Father. How can I think I don't need anyone?
Nathaniel I’m at a point where I realize that as well. I just started a new business and I know in order to move to a level I could never imagine. I have to get support, I have to ask for help on how to get there. *How not to take that old mess that took up space! *How to be ok with success and growth-that it’s not a sin to have $$. I’ve been afraid to raise my hand and say help me so long until I simply just don’t ask AT ALL!! #BOL!!!!!! Girl You Gotta ask to Grow!!!!(talking to myself right here) Thank you for that comment Nathaniel.
I needed this! Divorce, left my house with a bag of clothes, lost my business, lived in my sisters house in a rented room and also started menopause! All of this things were the best thing that ever happened to me-its how you look at it. I have a lot of work to do still, but with vids like this and what you say, I have every confidence I will get through to the other side and THRIVE! Thank you for everything!
BOL: I can not perm my own hair and I go to a Salon because they can reach so this metaphor Lisa gave was like WOW ! BOL. For sure. There are people like her and other women and.... Excuse me there are ladies and gentlemen and she is one of them that I know have great teaching and instruction and enthusiasm that makes figuring out this system so much more exciting!! I'm never done learning and hope to get back into giving whenever and however I can in any truth of the latest that I have knowledge of.
#BOL #AHA Other people’s perception of me is none of my business. 🚫 The constant fear of being judged has held me back for so long; but my hand is up now 🙋🏾♀️ #yesYES #dubaiimpact
#BOL!!!!! You are always right on time Lisa, Thank you for being my coach on this transformation journey called life. I’ve been sitting down on myself, joyless and tired for two months now. I couldn’t figure out why my fire wasn’t lit. Truthfully I’ve been contemplating pursuing the development of my nonprofit organization. I wanted to give up But every where I turn I receive messages from God to get back to work. He brought me back to Power Jam 2019, my women’s life group and business mentor to ASK for help!!! My breakthrough isn’t gonna come from mediocrity, my finances perfect aligned or waiting to someday when I’m free of stress to start a business. I’m moving forward today in my possibility 🙌🏾♥️
Wisdom always eludes, one person cannot know all and in the journey of life new situations always throws up which is very unique and requires new knowledge for which the speaker says raise your hand for help which is a good solution. Thank you
I never thought that way, about asking for help. I am i die hard, and i prefer to die than to ask for any kind of help; But now, the way put it. I will overthink now, and go out of my comfortzone to ask help and go out of my way. Thank you very much Lisa xxx
Thanks for this "golden nugget!" I believe I have an ego and fear of disappointment because of past let downs...this was very Informative and I was wondering why don't I like to ask for help....now I know...Thanks Lisa, very enlightening and now I can ask for support and help without fear or my ego.
I really like this message. I believe in learning from others. We are all at a different place in our lives and how we grow determines "who" we seek after for wisdom, knowledge and advice. It's important to follow those that are ahead of us at any given time. I believe that "ego" and "fear" do hold us back. At 66 years of age, I still have so much to learn. I listen to the positive high achievers because I want to be where they are going. Thanks for your talk on this subject. I will continue going forward!
Watching this now per your e-mail. just finished Day 11: Conversational Awareness. I love feeding myself this stuff and your support/guidance helps me in my 'baby" steps to love myself and thriving! BOL to the max - ALoha!~
#BOL I don’t have to care what other people say about the help I decide I need. I am allowed to care about me enough to get the help I need to keep me stress free and moving forward. Just because others are not capable does not mean I have to stifle my needs and bare the burden.
I recognize your metaphor of the back surgeon who knows how to operate the back, but is not capable to surger his own back. Lately I beat myself up for being in mind so often. The moment I wake up, my mind takes over. I just don't know how to to get in touch with my feelings. I am well aware of how important the first few minutes of the day are and still I am struggling. Sometimes it's a true battlefield in my head eventhough I know that's not helping me. While writing this I get an idea what I could do to make a step to turn it around: massage/touch my body and feel the touch of my hands. Gonna try it out tommorow morning! With love, Savannah
I as always pray "the Lord will provide." To that means he will direct my path to people and resources for me to lead an abundantly life. As a live in caregiver, I need help. I was getting burn out, and I wasn't doing much for myself, finally I had to hired some for a few hours, so I can do things for myself. Now, I am starting to get more energy!
I'm trying to figure out what to do next in my life, where to live, and if I should just give up. I've been taking care of people all of my life and I'm tired now. I've finally come to realize that I need to stop offering help to people who don't want my help, but it's cost me a lot. Now, I feel lost and displaced. Inspiring others while I am not being inspired. Giving when I'm not being given to. Watching others move forward in life and raise families while it's still only me. My heart aches. My mind is troubled. My eyes cry. I'm hurting while fighting to stay appreciative that I'm still here for a purpose. I know there's more for me. I just don't know what.. I'm retired, so I don't have to work if I don't want to. More money adds more comfort, but when I had more money, I was still experiencing loneliness. I know this has to work for my good... My questions become when and will I live to see it? (And I am tired of being told to pray about it like I haven't. I need more than just prayer.)
I've never ever ask for help. Fear= because I never learned to receive, just give. I told myself that I was independent, as long I worked(physically) I wouldn't need nothing and no one. When I finally decided to step out of this cocoon I've managed to wrap myself up in(love) I've neglected myself, I've sat on my dream, I waited. I thought I've have the perfect plan, that's when all thee "after I do this thing"would pop up..... One day I walked in my job and listen to my intuition tell me it was time for me to finally experience my vision. So in this moment I admit to in this forum, world, and you Ms.Nichols, I need help and this time I'm not ashamed to say it. This is a break threw moment
BOL- I am not weak for asking for help I am strong for being able to identify the areas that I can grow in and where others can help support me in that growth
#BOL...Laying in bed I had two people in mind to ask for help. Could not sleep so here I am tuned into this. Aha!!! Prison ministry is where I am believing my calling is. My book soon to publish and I am believing it will make it into all prisons, especially womens prison. Praying for prosperity in this area to afford to send out the books to as many prisons in the U.S. and hopefully to foreign countries. Thank you Ms. Lisa...I have faith and with you as my mentor I can believe......
I’m asking for your help you’ve inspired me so much and I am asking for your help I would love to be your beauty and personal stylist one day 😍🙌🏾! Your already the bomb but hopefully I give back as you have 💕🤗🙏🏽!! Thank you again !
Thank you for all that you do, Lisa. You encourage me to fulfill my purpose in life. We need more of these content in the internet to encourage humans to be more humane.
Yes! Aha!!!!! I have to truly learn how to raise my hand more. My husband is paralyzed due to a accident we were in and I've been playing superwoman!!!! I have to admit I need help a couple days a week!! Also in my business I have come to the realization that I need a mentor or coach to help me get out of my head! 😇
As a young child, my mom always said "If you want something done, then you do it yourself." I realized this is basically saying, "don't ask." However, I've flushed this old story down the toilet!!! I've hooked my caboose onto your soul train sista'...choo choo lol Thanks Lisa!
I'm definitely someone who has a hard time taking my own advice. It's ironic because all my friends and family like coming to me when they need to vent or need advice, but I have a really hard time asking the same from them. I feel like if I talk about my problems with others that I will somehow burden or disappoint them because I don't have it all together. It's especially hard now because I am considering a divorce from my husband. I've talked about it a little bit with the people who are close to me, but every time I do I feel like a failure and I get kind of embarrassed. I'm trying to stop thinking this way because I know I will need their support if I'm going to make this change. This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you so much, Lisa!
#BOL, wow , wow, Lisa every time I'm stuck in my thoughts about something, or what I should do, or where to start, etc. you seem to have a video and or message that has my name on it. This one about asking for support is the one I have been wrestling with. I give support, I need support in my business struggles, I just get tangle in what's the best way, to get the help I need. The Ego or the Fear, not sure which one causes the temporary anxiety, but help is needed. I'm trying to leave Fear at home and allow Ego, to put me in the Room at the 2019 Speak and Write. Thank You.
My biggest takeaway was to find someone who’s 20 steps ahead of you and reach out. I did exactly that Lisa. I have an ice cream business my husband and I started at home and it’s been a huge struggle. I needed help desperately cuz if we don’t sell ice cream we don’t make money and I have a little toddler to care for. So I swallowed my pride and reached out to someone to give me a part time job to help me put food on the table. It wasn’t easy because I believe in my business and know that we will become successful but our debts are drowning us so I had to do something. My husband is already doing so much additional jobs to help us to get by I felt like I needed to just get up and ask for help. I really appreciated your video because it showed me that it’s ok to raise your hand. So I’m taking the opportunity that’s been given to me and I’m going to knock it out the ballpark. I’m showing up each day 💯 . I always get these videos when I really need to hear your message loud and clear. Thanks @lisanichols
#BOL I have been learning to do this in mt Education And my Relationship and I allways feel like I'm on a TREASURE HUNT when I listen you I allways find a piece of hold are a jewelry that I can put in my pocket and and the put my hand in my pocket and just say remember when you found this so just keep going THANK YOU for everything you do
#BOL "a back surgeon can't work on their own back." I shouldn't stress about being able to give others good advice and can't take my own. I see their situation 360. I need to ask others. People whom are genus at something I need more info on.
I realize that I DO stand in my own way; this is NOT my intention... I tend to think that I am my own best counselor, I am NOT... I am a good listener and people come to me with their issues and many times advice... I am real quick to give great advise and I am very mindful that I need to be taking my own advice and with good intention, I always try to... I always try and be a great support system for others but need a support system for myself... I think I need inspiration and encouragement to keep on track with my goals... It is very hard because I feel alone and by myself... This is not the case... I am going through a huge transition in my life while I am experiencing a huge transformation of my life these last few years... A huge career change at 45 years old... I am overwhelmed and yes, there is lots of fear... I also know that FEAR is false evidence that appears real... I am an occupational therapist now, and this transition is daunting... I know I can do it and I will do it... I AM doing it... I need to find my power and own it... I need to find my confidence and own it... I will and I am... Many thanks and positive vibes...
I call it having a diverse group of mentors instead of calling myself a mutt. lol. YANA - I had to realize that I couldn't get everything I needed from just one person so it was ok to ask different people for help in their area of expertise. The universe has plenty of resources and I have to stop limiting myself to just the ones that are close to me or are comfortable to reach out to. As one of my other mentors says "We don't lack resources. We lack resourcefulness."
BOL!! My fear of rejection or what we call "log kia kahein gay?" in our language keeps me away from seeking help/advice or even following when I get it. I push myself to a limit where I've nothing left in me and then restart.....
I need support in parenting as a single mother , I need support in finances and budgeting , I need support in exercising , I need emotional support to help with coping and I need to ask for help fearlessly!
Hi Liza, I was actually expecting ways (Specific ways) on how to ask for support from someone (who knows more than you do), in our country people in the position - higher position, are often intimidating to ask questions to. I wanted to know how to prepare and start a conversation with them.
I have some forward movement, but I still feel stuck in areas that I should be moving in. I need support around my weight loss. I need support with my eating and exercising and getting enough sleep. Most of all I need to know how to say yes to me and not now to all the people who are pulling on me but equally have limited forward movement
This is my first time listening to you... and I thank God that I was directed toward you. My mind is now a maelstrom of thoughts and possibilities; your words make me feel welcome, and your wisdom is so simple - I love it. 😊 I can't believe how instantly the back surgeon analogy opend my mind. What's really funny is when you first made reference to #BOL, I thought to myself "what a cute analogy". But it hit me like a bolt from the blue 😊😊😊
I will begin choosing my Board of Directors in connection to my non-profit. I handle honesty better when feedback is direct. I fear choosing unconfident mentors who will mirror their shortcomings in the advises provided.
I'm coming out of a 5 year depression. I went into business with an open heart, open mind, naive as hell, but I took the leap and asked for help. Licking my wounds after 5 years of stolen fashion designs from a major fashion brand and a loss of a movie contract. I ended up trusting the wrong people and that circle of help keeps getting smaller and smaller.
I'm 43 trying to find who I am. I've lived my whole life taking care of my family, and never took care of me, I'm struggling with finding me and the strength to take who ever I am to the next level. PLEASE I NEED YOUR HELP..
Is it abnormal tp have most of my support coming from people I meet or listen to online? Most of my home friends either ignore me or reject md altogether. i am an award winning poet and writer and I don't even know if I should be posting on Facebook about my work for fear of offending them and being too in your face with my little increments of success as I progress in my career. We are all seniors and members of the same church. Can anyone wise out there please advise me?
Lisa is a great inspiration..you have already found her and won't go wrong in immersing yourself in her work. She is amazing and has been a huge influence for me. Another great is Marisa Peer and her courses. I am transformed after completing RTT for Abundance..The very best in your continuing journey Nathaniel!
omg...from brilliant to dingdong...that just cracked me up...Honestly, I think I have unconsciously actually expected that of myself, to be able to do the surgery on my own back---and felt like a failure for not being able to do that and actually judged myself harshly for that inability! What do you do Lisa to reprogram those beliefs and others like them as you find them? bc these things are underneath probably affecting more things than we realize....
I am very new to this at this point in my life even me writing this comment feels like to big of a commitment. But I have decided that me and my daughter deserve the dreams I have always had for my life. I struggle with letting go of this certain someone bc they have become my security blanket for so long. Whether I rely on to them to feed my spirit, to give me self confidence, to give me drive and determination, to help me feel better about my weight ect. Now I’ve falling into a position where it’s easier to ask the person for help rather than to ask anyone else. With me doing that I am late to work all the time missing out on money because this person rather just hand me what I make in a day so they don’t have to take me. I had my first ever actual #BOL a couple days ago.. I figured out that me trying to better my situation for me and my daughter makes them feel uncomfortable, they need me to need them because if I don’t need them for a ride or a way to work or need them for that recognition in my life then they just won’t fit in my life anymore. I don’t know if I explained that well but I’m trying to take baby steps because I tend to just take big leaps and then I fall on my butt and it makes it harder to get back up again.. I want to be more confident in myself so my daughter will have confidence I want to be more successful so that I can find peace of mind.. I want to be all around spiritually mentally emotionally healthy as well as financially stable. This is me taking another step and saying that I need help.
This is very true, but I don’t like to ask for help without being able to give something in return. So how do I ask for help when my resources are limited?
Suppose I don't have No one to turn to for help. After I turned to God and prayed that he would send someone that I could asked for help. But while I have been waiting for years who do I turn to?
💡 I had a second #BOL! A back surgeon isn't going to do perform surgery on his own back no matter how great he thinks he is! I have a fear around giving people advice or direction that the response could be, why don't you give yourself your own advice. Or, that I go to therapy to talk through what I'm working with, how does that look when I have people pay to talk through their obstacles with me? One, of course I need to go to others for the same reasons people come to me AND two, if I can't spend time giving my attention to what other people think.
I need support on how i can improve my speaking on my channel just started this January , i fill i need to help my society ,to inspire my society ,to reach out to the world just like you but listening to you i fill i need support,i have a lot to share but how can i affect the world. Please Lisa Nichols ,i need your support ,your advise. YOUR REALLY INSPIRING ME
My issue is i just dont trust people with me, i feel i always loose/get hurt/disappointed when i do. I know this is a form of fear but Im not sure if im ready to let go of that yet to be honest. I dont think i could handle being disappointed by something/someone more time😞. It also makes me sad that I have to pay someone to "care" or "listen" me for an hour... Then when the hours over were strangers again that's really fricken depressing lol. Just sayin.
@JonVieSays I used to feel the same way. Recognising your weakness is the first step to recovery. Look at why you have convinced yourself that people hurt and disappoint you. You will see a pattern. It will help you see what you have learned from the experience and be grateful for the lessons. It takes small bits of daily changes but trust me this channel has a lot of helpful stategies that do help. #YANA you will be ok. At times paying for an hour and letting out your deepest hurt to a stranger can be the healing you need. People close to you cannot always give us what we need coz they don't have it to give. Find mentors in reading books etc. Speaking up like you did in your comment proves you are already halfway to your mental shift when it comes to trusting people
I have just started my journey to understanding my PURPOSE IN LIFE... BECAUSE IM NOT SURE WHAT IT IS💯and my PRIDE AND EGO OFTEN LEAVE ME WANTING MORE AND WONDERING WHAT IT.I KNOW I need to ask for help finding my TRUE PURPOSE IN LIFE. WHAT AM I HERE FOR??? GOD HAS GIVEN ME MANY GIFTS AND ITS DIFFICULT TO NAVIGATE WITCH ONE TO FOCUS ON. I THANK GOD FOR ALLOWING ME TO BE CONNECTED TO Your POWERFUL MINESTRY OF MOTIVATION. I WILL BE 50 THIS YEAR . AND I OFTEN FEEL I SHOULD BE A LOT FURTHER ALONG IN MY LIFE. I KNOW I HAVE A CONNECTION TO YOUTH , TEENS AND CHILDREN BUT I DONT KNOW WHERE TO START THIS IS MY BOL!!! IM NEW TO COMMUNITY BUT IVE BEEN FAMILY A LONG TIME .THIS IS A DEVINE CONNECTION AND I AM READY TO GROW TO MY BEST SELF BY ANY MEANS NESSARY💯💪💖.
Lord I thank God for you. Your videos are changing my mindset on how I been looking receiving and thinking things. I was always taught to be the example and that didn't come with asking for help but knowing all. So I always been scared to ask or raise my hand. I commit this day and forward to ask and raise my hand ✋
Ask for help. No matter how difficult it may be for you. We need each other to support and uplift. Thanks Lisa for this.
YAS GIIIIRRRRLLL! This is SO true! Science has confirmed again and again that humans are social creatures. We need others. The idea that asking for help is weak is actually the complete opposite of the truth. Having a supportive, secure, connections that you ask for for help is a key way to build resilience and inner strength.
Put beautifully 💖
I need help with:
1)Positive thoughts in my head
2)Being a better listener
3)Asking for help
Thank you for your positive attitude! I really enjoy your videos!
I am struggling with connecting with other people and myself. Financially I need help, physically I need help. I feel like a failure and it Spurs me to want to do better and take time to remember that to celebrate my failures and successes no matter the size because a failure is just a first attempt in learning. Just doesn't always feel that way. Thank you for reminding me.
I am so happy to be a part of your tribe. I am new but I am learning so much. Please celebrate with me; I just completed 14 days of my 28 days to results. I need help with dealing with "FEAR". I know I should go forth, but the conversations in my head are so loud. How do I get over to the other side of my fear? I thank God for you Lisa, you are the answer to one of my prayers. I love you dearly. I am so glad I found you!
This was powerful for me because as a man we tend to avoid asking for help especially when it comes from a woman (no disrespect) because of what others may say about our manhood. But lately I'm taking off my hood and seeking advice from lisa, oprah, mel Robbins and others it's life changing. I'm seeking help concerning conquering my fear of failure and rejection.
You are so right we all need a support. We need someone who is not in the picture. To see what we don't see.
Thanks so much for this message, Lisa, it really resonates with me! Starting my own business has been a tough but rewarding journey and has definitely taught me to find the balance between doing things on my own versus raising my hand and simply asking for help from someone who already has the expertise. People are often more than willing to assist, all we need to do is reach out.
Lisa, you are phenomenal! Thank for your inspiration and guidance. I believe we are the sum of the choices we make the chances we take and the opportunities we create. I choose to hook my train to yours. I have no one with the capacity of a "You" in my life. I raise my hand for help in Marketing, Branding and Exposure. I love your Energy. Zemill
What a word. I need to raise my hand in relationship to my finances. Of all the great things my parents did teach, I wasn't taught all the skills to manage money effectively. It can be hard to admit one's shortcomings in an area when you're college educated and feel you should know better. But that's ego. Admittedly I don't know and I feel BOLD enough to raise my hand and ask for support. I release ego and fear and will press forward. Transformation awaits!
#BOL Best version of you is on the other side of the question that you ask and the action that you took!! Woot!Woot! Question->Ask->Answer->Action=Best Version. Something to ponder all day!
#BOA “When you are out of your head you are out of your power” I Love it!
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness.... Dont let your "I think I know it all" or and other words your ego interfere with asking for help. YES! YES!
I needed that. Some times trying to figure out and make people perceive you in a certain way is an OUCH! Thank you! That was a mouth full.
#BOL I'm evolving one nugget at a time every single day! I read a chapter of this here, listen to a podcast there, throughout my entire day and then journal on everything I'm digesting at the end of the day. Taking it bit by bit but like a greedy child has caused my own mindset to evolve by leaps and bounds in ways I had no clue was possible!
Asking for help is not being weak. No one is an island...so float with flexibility, own your limits and flatten the pride to realize we need others the way they need us! God didn't create us so we are to be alone in life...hells bells, of course not! Ask and ye shall receive...so keep on asking, be a support to others as well and keep paying it forward - blessings come in all shapes and sizes in the most unexpected ways - I can testify to that since I started my road using Lisa's 28-days to results...watching Dan Loks videos and listening to his podcasts..and now reading a great book: Tony Robbins "Awaken The Giant Within" - wow...all this is mind-blowing, ego-shattering and I'm hungry for more - social media at its best so I can grow and become a better version of myself. THese are people are my virtual mentors - and I love them for helping us out by calling us to action! Mahalo, Lisa - Dan - and Tony!
Lisa Nichols, thank you for Asking for Help. My take away is raising my hand. I have been used to helping others, being at the bottom of the ladder holding things in place. Now it is my time to raise my hand. My take away: Fear of No - this has got to STOP in my life. The pass 2 weeks I have pressed through the Nos. My take away: "Other's people perception of me is none of my business." Thanks Grandmom.
As I am going through major changes in life, I realize that I can't go much further on my own. I need mentors and advisors in my life. Even Jesus had his Father. How can I think I don't need anyone?
You're so right
Nathaniel I’m at a point where I realize that as well. I just started a new business and I know in order to move to a level I could never imagine. I have to get support, I have to ask for help on how to get there.
*How not to take that old mess that took up space!
*How to be ok with success and growth-that it’s not a sin to have $$.
I’ve been afraid to raise my hand and say help me so long until I simply just don’t ask AT ALL!!
#BOL!!!!!! Girl You Gotta ask to Grow!!!!(talking to myself right here)
Thank you for that comment Nathaniel.
I needed this! Divorce, left my house with a bag of clothes, lost my business, lived in my sisters house in a rented room and also started menopause! All of this things were the best thing that ever happened to me-its how you look at it. I have a lot of work to do still, but with vids like this and what you say, I have every confidence I will get through to the other side and THRIVE! Thank you for everything!
BOL: I can not perm my own hair and I go to a Salon because they can reach so this metaphor Lisa gave was like WOW ! BOL. For sure. There are people like her and other women and.... Excuse me there are ladies and gentlemen and she is one of them that I know have great teaching and instruction and enthusiasm that makes figuring out this system so much more exciting!! I'm never done learning and hope to get back into giving whenever and however I can in any truth of the latest that I have knowledge of.
#BOL #AHA Other people’s perception of me is none of my business. 🚫 The constant fear of being judged has held me back for so long; but my hand is up now 🙋🏾♀️ #yesYES #dubaiimpact
Thats how you express it??? Ok that was my #BOL #AOH AS WELL WOW!!!
See lol!!!#AHA
#BOL!!!!! You are always right on time Lisa, Thank you for being my coach on this transformation journey called life. I’ve been sitting down on myself, joyless and tired for two months now. I couldn’t figure out why my fire wasn’t lit. Truthfully I’ve been contemplating pursuing the development of my nonprofit organization. I wanted to give up But every where I turn I receive messages from God to get back to work. He brought me back to Power Jam 2019, my women’s life group and business mentor to ASK for help!!! My breakthrough isn’t gonna come from mediocrity, my finances perfect aligned or waiting to someday when I’m free of stress to start a business. I’m moving forward today in my possibility 🙌🏾♥️
WANA IS MY BOL! We all need to ask for help, and are powerful uplifters!!! SOOO Thankful for all of us 💖💜
Wisdom always eludes, one person cannot know all and in the journey of life new situations always throws up which is very unique and requires new knowledge for which the speaker says raise your hand for help which is a good solution. Thank you
The best version of yourself is on the other side of the question you will ask, and the action you will take...awesome
I never thought that way, about asking for help. I am i die hard, and i prefer to die than to ask for any kind of help; But now, the way put it. I will overthink now, and go out of my comfortzone to ask help and go out of my way. Thank you very much Lisa xxx
Lisa u are so beautyfull inside&out
Thanks for this "golden nugget!"
I believe I have an ego and fear of disappointment because of past let downs...this was very Informative and I was wondering why don't I like to ask for help....now I know...Thanks Lisa, very enlightening and now I can ask for support and help without fear or my ego.
I really like this message. I believe in learning from others. We are all at a different place in our lives and how we grow determines "who" we seek after for wisdom, knowledge and advice. It's important to follow those that are ahead of us at any given time. I believe that "ego" and "fear" do hold us back. At 66 years of age, I still have so much to learn. I listen to the positive high achievers because I want to be where they are going. Thanks for your talk on this subject. I will continue going forward!
Raising your hand starts working your muscle
you and your videos HAVE been one of my main sources of support so thank YOU.
BOL i need people! Thank you
#yesYES Lisa! I am glad that I realized that I need to raise my hand so that I can include everything I need to get to my next level!
Watching this now per your e-mail. just finished Day 11: Conversational Awareness. I love feeding myself this stuff and your support/guidance helps me in my 'baby" steps to love myself and thriving! BOL to the max - ALoha!~
#BOL I don’t have to care what other people say about the help I decide I need. I am allowed to care about me enough to get the help I need to keep me stress free and moving forward. Just because others are not capable does not mean I have to stifle my needs and bare the burden.
I recognize your metaphor of the back surgeon who knows how to operate the back, but is not capable to surger his own back.
Lately I beat myself up for being in mind so often. The moment I wake up, my mind takes over. I just don't know how to to get in touch with my feelings. I am well aware of how important the first few minutes of the day are and still I am struggling. Sometimes it's a true battlefield in my head eventhough I know that's not helping me.
While writing this I get an idea what I could do to make a step to turn it around: massage/touch my body and feel the touch of my hands.
Gonna try it out tommorow morning!
With love, Savannah
I as always pray "the Lord will provide." To that means he will direct my path to people and resources for me to lead an abundantly life. As a live in caregiver, I need help. I was getting burn out, and I wasn't doing much for myself, finally I had to hired some for a few hours, so I can do things for myself. Now, I am starting to get more energy!
Thank you I love your energy, support and wisdom
Aunt Lisa! I love you.
I'm trying to figure out what to do next in my life, where to live, and if I should just give up. I've been taking care of people all of my life and I'm tired now. I've finally come to realize that I need to stop offering help to people who don't want my help, but it's cost me a lot. Now, I feel lost and displaced. Inspiring others while I am not being inspired. Giving when I'm not being given to. Watching others move forward in life and raise families while it's still only me. My heart aches. My mind is troubled. My eyes cry. I'm hurting while fighting to stay appreciative that I'm still here for a purpose. I know there's more for me. I just don't know what.. I'm retired, so I don't have to work if I don't want to. More money adds more comfort, but when I had more money, I was still experiencing loneliness. I know this has to work for my good... My questions become when and will I live to see it? (And I am tired of being told to pray about it like I haven't. I need more than just prayer.)
I've never ever ask for help. Fear= because I never learned to receive, just give. I told myself that I was independent, as long I worked(physically) I wouldn't need nothing and no one. When I finally decided to step out of this cocoon I've managed to wrap myself up in(love) I've neglected myself, I've sat on my dream, I waited. I thought I've have the perfect plan, that's when all thee "after I do this thing"would pop up..... One day I walked in my job and listen to my intuition tell me it was time for me to finally experience my vision. So in this moment I admit to in this forum, world, and you Ms.Nichols, I need help and this time I'm not ashamed to say it. This is a break threw moment
BOL- I am not weak for asking for help I am strong for being able to identify the areas that I can grow in and where others can help support me in that growth
#BOL...Laying in bed I had two people in mind to ask for help. Could not sleep so here I am tuned into this. Aha!!! Prison ministry is where I am believing my calling is. My book soon to publish and I am believing it will make it into all prisons, especially womens prison. Praying for prosperity in this area to afford to send out the books to as many prisons in the U.S. and hopefully to foreign countries. Thank you Ms. Lisa...I have faith and with you as my mentor I can believe......
I’m asking for your help you’ve inspired me so much and I am asking for your help I would love to be your beauty and personal stylist one day 😍🙌🏾! Your already the bomb but hopefully I give back as you have 💕🤗🙏🏽!! Thank you again !
Thank you Lisa! I like your videos a lot !! They help me to feel better. I feel stronger.
Thank you for all that you do, Lisa. You encourage me to fulfill my purpose in life. We need more of these content in the internet to encourage humans to be more humane.
I do need support in growing confidence to talk on camera...
Miss D Moiselle me too. That went hand in hand with me loving myself...
Me too ladies me too ☺
Yes! Aha!!!!! I have to truly learn how to raise my hand more. My husband is paralyzed due to a accident we were in and I've been playing superwoman!!!! I have to admit I need help a couple days a week!! Also in my business I have come to the realization that I need a mentor or coach to help me get out of my head! 😇
As a young child, my mom always said "If you want something done, then you do it yourself." I realized this is basically saying, "don't ask." However, I've flushed this old story down the toilet!!! I've hooked my caboose onto your soul train sista'...choo choo lol Thanks Lisa!
I'm definitely someone who has a hard time taking my own advice. It's ironic because all my friends and family like coming to me when they need to vent or need advice, but I have a really hard time asking the same from them. I feel like if I talk about my problems with others that I will somehow burden or disappoint them because I don't have it all together. It's especially hard now because I am considering a divorce from my husband.
I've talked about it a little bit with the people who are close to me, but every time I do I feel like a failure and I get kind of embarrassed. I'm trying to stop thinking this way because I know I will need their support if I'm going to make this change. This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you so much, Lisa!
#BOL I am going to stop getting in my own way!!!! 💡🤦🏾♀️💪🏾🙋🏾♀️
Thank you Lisa！ l have learnt you require help to grow
Lisa have often asked never got THT SO I NEVE RREALLY WORRIED ABOUT WHAT OTHERS FELT JUST DO MY PASSION IN EACH DAY BYE LIS X
BREAKTHROUGH OUT LOUD !#BOL
You are gorgeous Lisa, the total you is on point.
#BOL, wow , wow, Lisa every time I'm stuck in my thoughts about something, or what I should do, or where to start, etc. you seem to have a video and or message that has my name on it. This one about asking for support is the one I have been wrestling with. I give support, I need support in my business struggles, I just get tangle in what's the best way, to get the help I need. The Ego or the Fear, not sure which one causes the temporary anxiety, but help is needed. I'm trying to leave Fear at home and allow Ego, to put me in the Room at the 2019 Speak and Write. Thank You.
My biggest takeaway was to find someone who’s 20 steps ahead of you and reach out. I did exactly that Lisa. I have an ice cream business my husband and I started at home and it’s been a huge struggle.
I needed help desperately cuz if we don’t sell ice cream we don’t make money and I have a little toddler to care for. So I swallowed my pride and reached out to someone to give me a part time job to help me put food on the table. It wasn’t easy because I believe in my business and know that we will become successful but our debts are drowning us so I had to do something. My husband is already doing so much additional jobs to help us to get by I felt like I needed to just get up and ask for help.
I really appreciated your video because it showed me that it’s ok to raise your hand. So I’m taking the opportunity that’s been given to me and I’m going to knock it out the ballpark. I’m showing up each day 💯 .
I always get these videos when I really need to hear your message loud and clear. Thanks @lisanichols
Love...love...your energy...ty...
Thanks so much Lisa! I need Career guidance in the fields of Real Estate investing and Interior Design.
I need help in my whole "Believing&Love myself" System
Me Too Foundation is EVERYTHING
#bol beautiful in ur way... Looking soooooo gorgeous
#BOL I have been learning to do this in mt Education And my Relationship and I allways feel like I'm on a TREASURE HUNT when I listen you I allways find a piece of hold are a jewelry that I can put in my pocket and and the put my hand in my pocket and just say remember when you found this so just keep going THANK YOU for everything you do
#BOL "a back surgeon can't work on their own back." I shouldn't stress about being able to give others good advice and can't take my own. I see their situation 360.
I need to ask others. People whom are genus at something I need more info on.
yes! this right here was good! #BOL for sure!
I realize that I DO stand in my own way; this is NOT my intention... I tend to think that I am my own best counselor, I am NOT... I am a good listener and people come to me with their issues and many times advice... I am real quick to give great advise and I am very mindful that I need to be taking my own advice and with good intention, I always try to... I always try and be a great support system for others but need a support system for myself... I think I need inspiration and encouragement to keep on track with my goals... It is very hard because I feel alone and by myself... This is not the case... I am going through a huge transition in my life while I am experiencing a huge transformation of my life these last few years... A huge career change at 45 years old... I am overwhelmed and yes, there is lots of fear... I also know that FEAR is false evidence that appears real... I am an occupational therapist now, and this transition is daunting... I know I can do it and I will do it... I AM doing it... I need to find my power and own it... I need to find my confidence and own it... I will and I am... Many thanks and positive vibes...
I relate 💯%
Thank you Lisa. I needed this right now! Perfect timing!
I call it having a diverse group of mentors instead of calling myself a mutt. lol. YANA - I had to realize that I couldn't get everything I needed from just one person so it was ok to ask different people for help in their area of expertise. The universe has plenty of resources and I have to stop limiting myself to just the ones that are close to me or are comfortable to reach out to. As one of my other mentors says "We don't lack resources. We lack resourcefulness."
BOL!! My fear of rejection or what we call "log kia kahein gay?" in our language keeps me away from seeking help/advice or even following when I get it. I push myself to a limit where I've nothing left in me and then restart.....
You look awesome!
I need support in parenting as a single mother , I need support in finances and budgeting , I need support in exercising , I need emotional support to help with coping and I need to ask for help fearlessly!
yes
Acting in your AHAs one at a time! Needed that! Thank you Lisa 💕🙏🏿💖
BOL!!! I just love when you said cellebrite all of you!!! YESSSSS! When I tell you it's hard for me to build that muscle. BOL!
Hi Liza, I was actually expecting ways (Specific ways) on how to ask for support from someone (who knows more than you do), in our country people in the position - higher position, are often intimidating to ask questions to. I wanted to know how to prepare and start a conversation with them.
BOL!!!
Love u❤
I have some forward movement, but I still feel stuck in areas that I should be moving in. I need support around my weight loss. I need support with my eating and exercising and getting enough sleep. Most of all I need to know how to say yes to me and not now to all the people who are pulling on me but equally have limited forward movement
This dropped great nuggets!!!
This is my first time listening to you... and I thank God that I was directed toward you. My mind is now a maelstrom of thoughts and possibilities; your words make me feel welcome, and your wisdom is so simple - I love it. 😊
I can't believe how instantly the back surgeon analogy opend my mind. What's really funny is when you first made reference to #BOL, I thought to myself "what a cute analogy". But it hit me like a bolt from the blue 😊😊😊
🙋🏻♀️ I have problems with focusing
Love it!
Lisa thanks, I have been trying to raise my hand for so long but My She go just keep getting in the way.
I will begin choosing my Board of Directors in connection to my non-profit. I handle honesty better when feedback is direct. I fear choosing unconfident mentors who will mirror their shortcomings in the advises provided.
I'm coming out of a 5 year depression. I went into business with an open heart, open mind, naive as hell, but I took the leap and asked for help. Licking my wounds after 5 years of stolen fashion designs from a major fashion brand and a loss of a movie contract. I ended up trusting the wrong people and that circle of help keeps getting smaller and smaller.
I need help in my eating habits and exercising routine.
I'm 43 trying to find who I am. I've lived my whole life taking care of my family, and never took care of me, I'm struggling with finding me and the strength to take who ever I am to the next level. PLEASE I NEED YOUR HELP..
Would love to get some mentoring from you Lisa!!!
Is it abnormal tp have most of my support coming from people I meet or listen to online? Most of my home friends either ignore me or reject md altogether. i am an award winning poet and writer and I don't even know if I should be posting on Facebook about my work for fear of offending them and being too in your face with my little increments of success as I progress in my career. We are all seniors and members of the same church. Can anyone wise out there please advise me?
Love from india maam.....
me too
Def need help with my vulnerability!
I am afraid to let go of the things that I have to accelerate becoming the person that I want to be.
I need help on: diet/fitness, managing finances, and sales/marketing.
Lisa is a great inspiration..you have already found her and won't go wrong in immersing yourself in her work. She is amazing and has been a huge influence for me. Another great is Marisa Peer and her courses. I am transformed after completing RTT for Abundance..The very best in your continuing journey Nathaniel!
omg...from brilliant to dingdong...that just cracked me up...Honestly, I think I have unconsciously actually expected that of myself, to be able to do the surgery on my own back---and felt like a failure for not being able to do that and actually judged myself harshly for that inability! What do you do Lisa to reprogram those beliefs and others like them as you find them? bc these things are underneath probably affecting more things than we realize....
I am very new to this at this point in my life even me writing this comment feels like to big of a commitment. But I have decided that me and my daughter deserve the dreams I have always had for my life. I struggle with letting go of this certain someone bc they have become my security blanket for so long. Whether I rely on to them to feed my spirit, to give me self confidence, to give me drive and determination, to help me feel better about my weight ect. Now I’ve falling into a position where it’s easier to ask the person for help rather than to ask anyone else. With me doing that I am late to work all the time missing out on money because this person rather just hand me what I make in a day so they don’t have to take me. I had my first ever actual #BOL a couple days ago.. I figured out that me trying to better my situation for me and my daughter makes them feel uncomfortable, they need me to need them because if I don’t need them for a ride or a way to work or need them for that recognition in my life then they just won’t fit in my life anymore. I don’t know if I explained that well but I’m trying to take baby steps because I tend to just take big leaps and then I fall on my butt and it makes it harder to get back up again.. I want to be more confident in myself so my daughter will have confidence I want to be more successful so that I can find peace of mind.. I want to be all around spiritually mentally emotionally healthy as well as financially stable. This is me taking another step and saying that I need help.
This is very true, but I don’t like to ask for help without being able to give something in return. So how do I ask for help when my resources are limited?
I need help with making my own business entrepreneurship
Suppose I don't have No one to turn to for help. After I turned to God and prayed that he would send someone that I could asked for help. But while I have been waiting for years who do I turn to?
💡 I had a second #BOL! A back surgeon isn't going to do perform surgery on his own back no matter how great he thinks he is! I have a fear around giving people advice or direction that the response could be, why don't you give yourself your own advice. Or, that I go to therapy to talk through what I'm working with, how does that look when I have people pay to talk through their obstacles with me? One, of course I need to go to others for the same reasons people come to me AND two, if I can't spend time giving my attention to what other people think.
nice
I need support on how i can improve my speaking on my channel just started this January , i fill i need to help my society ,to inspire my society ,to reach out to the world just like you but listening to you i fill i need support,i have a lot to share but how can i affect the world. Please Lisa Nichols ,i need your support ,your advise. YOUR REALLY INSPIRING ME
My issue is i just dont trust people with me, i feel i always loose/get hurt/disappointed when i do. I know this is a form of fear but Im not sure if im ready to let go of that yet to be honest. I dont think i could handle being disappointed by something/someone more time😞.
It also makes me sad that I have to pay someone to "care" or "listen" me for an hour... Then when the hours over were strangers again that's really fricken depressing lol. Just sayin.
feel u on this
@JonVieSays I used to feel the same way. Recognising your weakness is the first step to recovery. Look at why you have convinced yourself that people hurt and disappoint you. You will see a pattern. It will help you see what you have learned from the experience and be grateful for the lessons. It takes small bits of daily changes but trust me this channel has a lot of helpful stategies that do help. #YANA you will be ok. At times paying for an hour and letting out your deepest hurt to a stranger can be the healing you need. People close to you cannot always give us what we need coz they don't have it to give. Find mentors in reading books etc. Speaking up like you did in your comment proves you are already halfway to your mental shift when it comes to trusting people
I have just started my journey to understanding my PURPOSE IN LIFE... BECAUSE IM NOT SURE WHAT IT IS💯and my PRIDE AND EGO OFTEN LEAVE ME WANTING MORE AND WONDERING WHAT IT.I KNOW I need to ask for help finding my TRUE PURPOSE IN LIFE. WHAT AM I HERE FOR??? GOD HAS GIVEN ME MANY GIFTS AND ITS DIFFICULT TO NAVIGATE WITCH ONE TO FOCUS ON. I THANK GOD FOR ALLOWING ME TO BE CONNECTED TO Your POWERFUL MINESTRY OF MOTIVATION. I WILL BE 50 THIS YEAR . AND I OFTEN FEEL I SHOULD BE A LOT FURTHER ALONG IN MY LIFE. I KNOW I HAVE A CONNECTION TO YOUTH , TEENS AND CHILDREN BUT I DONT KNOW WHERE TO START THIS IS MY BOL!!! IM NEW TO COMMUNITY BUT IVE BEEN FAMILY A LONG TIME .THIS IS A DEVINE CONNECTION AND I AM READY TO GROW TO MY BEST SELF BY ANY MEANS NESSARY💯💪💖.