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When things like this are even brought up. - If you are living with her, leave. - If she is living in your home, pack her stuff and kick her out. - Once she decides to leave, and is gone, there is no contact after that. Don't keep her around for sex, or anything casual. Who knows what she will bring back with her. Wipe your hands of the situation and move on.
@E KL Not an over-reaction. She's giving a clue where her mind is and it's not desire for the guy she's with or she'd never think of doing this girls thing.
@@ekl2947there is no difference. She doesn't respect you once she even brings up the issue. Best to end things right away, before the physical break up happens, which it will.
@E KL I'm from a holiday town in Europe. There's plenty of ladies, young and old, coming here for short vacations. It's always a lot of fun for us local males... a lot, trust me. Needless to say that, after seeing what I've seen for years, the idea of marriage doesn't even cross my mind... and I'm surprised there are still clueless dudes who fall for it.
@E KL Countless of crazy stalkers made me very cautious about sharing my location. Hope you'll understand. By your petulant comment you must be an over 35 female from france... or a frigid scandinavian
It's a shit test. She is checking you out how much she can get away with and how will you react for the future. If you don't set a proper example early on, she will definitely push it even more and "go with the boys, you aren't insecure about it and immature, aren't you?" Tell her you would love to go but can't because of work and that because of it you would rather stay with her. If she chooses this vacation over you, then you know her priorities and what to do about it.
Not necessarily. She invited him, he couldn’t make it. But if it was my chick I’d expect her to not go if I couldn’t go and dudes would be there. If she insists on going without you, that’s the red flag.
You have to pay attention to your girl and who her friends are. My girl's main friends are all married, have kids, don't go clubbing, the only guys that would be around would be husbands. The worst thing I'd have to worry about is they drink too much wine and watching a stupid movie. lol. Now, if your girl's friends are party girls and they are trash, they will bring that to her. Especially if they are a bunch of single girls. The truth is you have to know your girl and the situation. Not all girls hanging out is the same.
@@ricksmith4736 first off, it's "they're". Also, you failed to read everything else. Believe it or not, some girls are faithful and can be away from their man without cheating. There are often many signs a girl can give to show how she is.
Guys, I've kicked girls like this to the curb (on multiple occasions) by using "this one simple trick" called the soft pass technique. The point where she tells you something like this means IT'S ALREADY OVER. The proper response is not a hard pass fight or confrontation, you just say sure, go have fun with the people she won't introduce you to or tell you about, then permanently leave her on read and never return any calls or messages after that. 😂
That's how you do it. Good work. Women know better than to be on that bullshit. If she has the balls to test you like that, you must crush her. Tell her she can do whatever she wants because she's an adult, and when she goes you ghost her
yup. its a losing battle. you dont want that becoming a regular part of relationship. put your foot down or end it, youll just save a lot of grief in the future
that's why they showed up there in the first place , to be piped down by what their flesh desires and considering a typical healthy woman is never single ... you know the rest
@ Unknown, if she didn't ask you for any money to go and you all are not serious or living together you really don't have any control over a grown woman making her own decision.
@@warfossil I'm 39 and have shacked up twice and if a woman is not living with you and depending on you to a certain degree your boundaries won't matter to much
Depends on the woman. I went on a road trip around Scandinavia with my girlfriend when I was married, 15 years into the marriage. Never spoke with or had anything to do with any guy whatsoever. That sounds disgusting. But we also don’t drink, or go to bars and clubs, or commit adultery. If men would be present then no way. And she shouldn’t even be asking. She either goes with her man or doesn’t go. Absolutely correct on this Rich.
This is a classic case of why you as a man need lots of leverage on your girlfriend, you set your boundaries with her right up front when you both make the call to be in a relationship, tell her your deal breakers, thing you simply will not tolerate in any relationship
@@alex-p don't need roaster of side chicks but everything else absolutely, money, frame, muscles, game sure but that's all things you should want for your own life for yourself regardless of any woman
@nightfangs2910 Question please Sir, if she refuses and fights you on everything, is it better to kick her to the streets* I would assume yes, but just checking to make sure it, is a correct answer* Thanks!
Me if a chick I’m dating ask me that, I don’t put any boundaries on her and let her do what she wants but I’m definitely putting her on the recreational use only category. They usually get the hint later that it’s not going to go anywhere serious with me.
"Insecure" is just a shaming technique to avoid accountability for behaviour that increases risk to the pair. Even if a girl has the intentions of being loyal doesnt mean she would have the discipline to be in certain situations and thats the same for men too. Think of it this way you beleive the house can withstand an earthquake, it has strong foundations etc. You wouldnt want numerous earthquakes to occur to test it.
@@YourBestFriendforToday He shouldn't. But this is a side women often only show after they feel secure in the relationship. Girls trip is a big "NO". They all cheat on the girls trip. It's mandatory among women to sleep around on the girls trip. All her friends are not only going to encourage her, but actually pressure her to cheat on him. It's how women bond these days. They don't trust each other unless they share a secret they can use against them. Their friendships are build on shared secrets and blackmail basically.
Just realize that HER friends are not your friends, and not only will they not discourage her from doing something stupid, they may actually encourage it, especially if that’s how they act
For real tho me and my gf just split over her bringing her gf to the fair to meet up with us, her friend brought another guy as a backup for my gf just incase i didn't show even tho her friend already knew me and my ex were together, those are the kinda friends she hangs with she told me she is gonna have gfs she is gonna hang with and that I'm not gonna be with her that she is gonna go out alone i told her what i thought about it she called me controlling and insecure and left me right after telling me that same day that she was worried about losing me
Get this... Found out on my girlfriends phone she's been talking to at least 4 different guys... (All 4 are black, her and I are white) She told 2 of them I was the first white guy she's dated in 20 years. She talked about OUR relationship to at least 3 of them in the 'past tense'... Ex. Dated, were dating.... (We are still currently living in the same house.) Now the kicker.. Her and one of them are planning a beach trip at the end of June. She doesn't know I know... She's been going to the tanning bed regularly. Says its for when we go later this summer... yeah, right.. I am planning to go along with the plan and catch her in the lie. Then I'm gonna send that fellow a message congratulating him on his new acquisition, wish him luck and have him ask her about S******, D****, and B******..... (the 3 others) The dating world is SO screwed up these days, I don't think there's any hope for the future of dating...............
I was at a weekend getaway with my girlfriend, three married couples and two single guys. After the husbands went to bed for the night, two of the married women started cheating on their husbands, with the two single guys, while they were asleep in the other rooms. I only heard about it after the fact when one of the slut-wives told my girlfriend a day or two later. The only way you can be sure is if you have your girl on a literal ball-n-chain. 😂😂😂😅
@E KL - Friends of mine and friends of friends but, neither were friends of the wives. They were friendly acquaintances of the group but, not directly related. It was Sort of a weekend party at a friends cabin getaway.
Got a worse story.. girl who was class valedictorian and church goer goes to Myrtle Beach on a beach trip to celebrate graduation with a girlfriend. While there , has 1 night stands with 3 different guys in a week. 2 of whom she had never seen before that week . All the while calling another guy back home she is seeing and telling him she misses him and crying and asking him if he forgives her, and then goes back out the next 2 nights and does the same thing again. You can't make this stuff up. No reason or logic to it at all . And this is supposed to be a " smart " girl.
@chrisjenkins9978 Question please Sir, if she refuses and fights you on everything, is it better to kick her to the streets* I would assume yes, but just checking to make sure it, is a correct answer* Thanks!
If she had genuine burning desire for you, she wouldn't even put you in the position of having to put your foot down. Only beta males will respond in any other way than goodbye if this got brought up.
Absolutely not. At the end of the day, she’s going to do whatever she wants…. but I’d tell her if she goes, her stuff will be on the front porch when she comes back.
Set your frame on day 1, the way you want it to be 10+ years from now. Else, you are going to have a lot of problems in the future. If she has a problem with your frame now, get rid of her . . . or she will get rid of you in the future. Do not provide any explanation to her as to way you think she should not go, doing so does two things (1.Opens the door for useless argument, and gives her an elusion that the topic is up for debate) (2. She is a big girl, she should know the difference between good and bad). Also, if she has a lot of sing friends and she wants a relationship, tell her that she needs to start looking for friends that have the relationship that she wants. Remember, women do not uplift each other, they just tell each other delusions . . . a single woman in misery will gaslight her married friends so that she would think that a single life is better.
Sorry guy but 10 seconds in I stopped the video. Your girl has gone. She is not yours anymore. I won't say anymore but you need to look elsewhere for your happiness. Sorry but that's just the way they are. . I fell for that BS and 6 months later I left. This was 6 years into the marriage. I deserve better than a 304
I'm a manager at McDonald's and one of my crew members is a married woman. She's sleeping with another fellow coworker when her husband is out deer hunting or fishing with the boys on weekends. I personally know this coworker outside of work and I've seen him enter her house trailer several times at night for sex. Apparently she told him her husband is a very selfish and boring man and that's why she is having an affair. I'm glad that I'm not married in this day in age and will remain single and just pump and dump. Keep in mind this happens more often then you think with fast food restaurants employees.
This girl i been dating for 3 weeks just left me cuz she said she wanted gfs and she is also bi and the girls she hangs with always bring guys around, her friends are wild i told her im not gonna have a bunch of girls around me all the time when we are together and she said she would just go out with them without me and she didnt like my response so she said i was controlling and insecure and dropped me right after telling me that same day that she didnt ever wanna lose me
He said it's her friends and their boyfriends to which he was also invited. If she thought you could get the time off I wouldn't be too worried. If you think she knew you couldn't get it off then maybe be a little concerned
Sorry, very long post. I need to get this out of my head. Very early in my years I wondered if I ever would be married and have kids. Because I value my self time doing my own stuff more than people I know. I took the Briggs-Meyer personality test, and I'm probably an INFP. The significance of being an INFP is that they match up best with other INFP's. Other personality types would rather have a personality different than themselves to complete them. That said, it's a rare personality trait. I may have encountered a girl with this trait. We got on really well when talking to each other. However, I wasn't attracted to her but she was to me. So a no go there. I met another girl, slightly more attractive, maybe close to my personality trait, but she's a single mother. So no go there too. They are very excited every time they meet me though. I was invited to a wedding far away. The groom said they got a girl for me there. I declined. I was drifting away from my old friends anyway. So being tied with them with a girlfriend wasn't ideal. And the chance that she was perfect for me, I guess, was far less than winning the lottery. Mostly these girls are just fat friends of the bride. I did go to wedding where I was seated next to the bride's fat friend. To be polite I tried to engage her somewhat in a conversation. But soon enough I switched to the couple across the table, who were more interresting. I never saw the fat friend again anyway. I did dance with the bride though, because she asked me. I do remember when we first met at a party. She was nice, good looking, and we got along. Maybe she was more into me than I was with her. But my friend, later the groom was captivated by her. And she rejected him several times until she finally said yes. I was always on good terms with her during her marriage. And then it was time for her to learn to drive a car. Her husband tried at first to teach her, but he just kept grabbing the wheel to correct her. That's not good. So they (the married couple) asked me to teach her. That went much better. So we went driving. And she asked me about my family. I only got my father left. So she wanted to drive there and visit him. It was a good meeting. And then the neighbour popped in and instantly asked me if she was my girlfriend. We might have looked the part. But nothing ever happened between us. And their marriage fell apart. Nothing dramatic (which I know of). They just decided to part ways. My friend (the groom) really wanted kids. But they had a miscarriage and she didn't take that well and she was the one who was reluctant to try after this. So they divorced perhaps a year or two later. Now my friend (the now former groom) is trying his luck with a single mother. I have warned him about that. He spent too much money on this single mother. He told me he was giving her an ultimatum. That was a year ago and I haven't seen things have changed. He has to realize things for himself.
I have a friend that lets his wife go on such trips. And it works for them, happily married with 4 kids. If you trust her judgement I don't see why you would forbid that.
I do allow my bf to go on trips with the guys. I don't question it, nor care. I adore my alone time. & Trying to control people is absolutely ridiculous. I think a person could have a life outside of their partner/relationship and not be on pins and needles with wanting some space to be in their own element. People who think others are cheating or being wronged all the time could seek some therapy to as why those thoughts cross their mind. If you put the work in yourself and perhaps heal the childhood traumas and triggers, one wouldnt mind if their partner wants to invest in themselves once in a while. Its a healthy part of a relationship.
Tune in next week to see him ask "what do i do? my girlfriend got drunk at a getaway weekend and smashed 10+ dudes. Please help me justify why i complicate my life"
If your grow really respects you and wants to be with you then she's not going to want to leave you by yourself and you potentially find another girl while she's out of town. I seen this exact scenario play out with my neighbor. My neighbor went out of town on business and his girlfriend was upset and wanted him to come back home because she was so afraid that he was going to cheat on her out of town which honestly he was like that but that's besides the point I'm trying to make. If you're in a good relationship and your girls into you than she's not going to want to go out of town on a girls-only trip. She's going to either want you to go or she's going to stay home if you can't go because most girls aren't going to want to leave your side if they're into you. This situation is a little bit weird because it sounded like she did ask him to go but if he has work obligations I understand but at that point she should say okay well I'm going to stay in town instead of going out since he can't go. If she's willing to go out of town without him than she probably doesn't care too much for him and is probably waiting for the next best thing to pop up.
I disagree. I really don’t see a problem with that. If you chose your woman well, that’s certainly not an issue. And if you cannot let her go with friends, then why chosing that woman in the first place. Certainly if you keep her traped, at some point she gets bored of this relationship. I would for sure.
Hold on, now. If she's the type of person who would do something like this, she doesn't care about how you feel. It is a red flag. A huge one. One that may have not been forseen. Her actions (girls trip) speak louder than words. Your actions need to be in response appropriately. Divestiture is the only responsible reaction.
I believe you can easily see the character very quickly. I don’t understand how you could go for years and don’t realize she’s like this. The bad ones I had when I was younger, I saw flags everywhere but I didn’t want to see because I was desperate and a p…y. Nowadays I pick wisely and I would certainly not expect a women not to go on a trip with friends for the rest of her life just because I am afraid she could cheat. If I believed that of all women, I would never enter a relationship. And these guys do that all under the illusion „I‘m high value“ BS. So high value that you pick women that you think they cheat on you as soon as they are away.
Let me be clear, Im not saying the dude in this video would be safe to let her go. But if a dude is asking such questions to a coach, than that’s the problem in the first place. There is insecurity all over and as long as that is the case, every women he gets is at risk of leaving or cheating.
Things definitely had during cabin getaways. There will be other guys there. He shouldnt be fooled by her inviting him because some women will have that as an out to do what they want since he didnt come.
Guys don't stop your girl from going, u can't stop her. But when she gets back, have her shit in the driveway. Tom leykis said if wanna do that, great, but I'm done.
The problem is Richard talking logic women are emotional creatures they don't understand logic. They're going to call you controlling and try to guilt you there can have resentment against you. But the minute you turn the tables and say I want to go on vacation by myself to resort then a world of crap rains down. Women have these double standards what's good for them is good for them what's good for you is not good for you. You cannot deal with women logically it creates resentment they're probably going to cheat on you anyway down the road. Whether you let them go are you don't let them go but you might be able to buy yourself some time the best thing to do is what you say is set up the rules in the first place they break the rules they break the contract shown the door. Do not let them beg to come back they'll just resent you get rid of him and forget about them MoveOn look for women from overseas conservative countries.
It's all clear, but what do you do when you have a child together? For the sake of your child, you "stay together" with the relationship open, or what?
if you let her do this , and she become pregnant afterward , DNA test on the child ! just be aware of what type of women you'r with if you continue with her
So all her girl friends are going...and bringing their boyfriends...but your girl won't have her boyfriend there. Highly suspect that she'll have a dude there, just not you.
Here's a good one from sleepy Ireland.......... Fella I know (32) got married 3 weeks ago. They went on the "mini-moon" and came home. Following week she went to Spain with her pals for a Thursday to Monday break! Could you credit that?
Comparing a woman to a car and "where you park it" is one of the most ridiculous statements I have heard in a very long time. Does a man own his wife or girlfriend as if she is an object? If a man's "object" decides to have a getaway weekend with friends hopefully he is man enough to accept time away and from her also realize she most likely is not planning to lay pipe with another man. A man's insecurity and jealousy is extremely unattractive. Men do not own women and women do not own men. Period.
I lost my girl to this. She went away to a cottage with her friends, one of the group's boyfriends, and his friend. My girl and "his friend" then got on too well. We were only dating. I accepted that it was happening, and that I didn't have leverage because I wouldn't make her my girlfriend, which she had wanted me to. Anyway, she found something better suited I guess.
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When things like this are even brought up.
- If you are living with her, leave.
- If she is living in your home, pack her stuff and kick her out.
- Once she decides to leave, and is gone, there is no contact after that. Don't keep her around for sex, or anything casual. Who knows what she will bring back with her. Wipe your hands of the situation and move on.
Best advice. 👍
@E KL Not an over-reaction. She's giving a clue where her mind is and it's not desire for the guy she's with or she'd never think of doing this girls thing.
@@ekl2947there is no difference. She doesn't respect you once she even brings up the issue. Best to end things right away, before the physical break up happens, which it will.
@E KL I'm from a holiday town in Europe. There's plenty of ladies, young and old, coming here for short vacations. It's always a lot of fun for us local males... a lot, trust me. Needless to say that, after seeing what I've seen for years, the idea of marriage doesn't even cross my mind... and I'm surprised there are still clueless dudes who fall for it.
@E KL Countless of crazy stalkers made me very cautious about sharing my location. Hope you'll understand. By your petulant comment you must be an over 35 female from france... or a frigid scandinavian
It's a shit test. She is checking you out how much she can get away with and how will you react for the future. If you don't set a proper example early on, she will definitely push it even more and "go with the boys, you aren't insecure about it and immature, aren't you?" Tell her you would love to go but can't because of work and that because of it you would rather stay with her. If she chooses this vacation over you, then you know her priorities and what to do about it.
Don't allow it. If she threatens to leave the relationship then let her leave the relationship
I got the same here
Classic example of “she’s not yours, it’s just your turn”
Lol
What would a married guy do in this situation?
@@Tindel10 Start getting ready for the imminent divorce.
@@Tindel10 A married man would accept it, that's why they're married
Not necessarily. She invited him, he couldn’t make it. But if it was my chick I’d expect her to not go if I couldn’t go and dudes would be there. If she insists on going without you, that’s the red flag.
"Cottage action" .... lol 😂
You have to pay attention to your girl and who her friends are. My girl's main friends are all married, have kids, don't go clubbing, the only guys that would be around would be husbands. The worst thing I'd have to worry about is they drink too much wine and watching a stupid movie. lol.
Now, if your girl's friends are party girls and they are trash, they will bring that to her. Especially if they are a bunch of single girls.
The truth is you have to know your girl and the situation. Not all girls hanging out is the same.
And you think since their married its OK?? LOL....
@@ricksmith4736 first off, it's "they're". Also, you failed to read everything else. Believe it or not, some girls are faithful and can be away from their man without cheating. There are often many signs a girl can give to show how she is.
Exactly. "Birds of the same feather flock together"
Don’t try to control people. Watch what they do and if that’s unacceptable, make a change.
Guys, I've kicked girls like this to the curb (on multiple occasions) by using "this one simple trick" called the soft pass technique. The point where she tells you something like this means IT'S ALREADY OVER. The proper response is not a hard pass fight or confrontation, you just say sure, go have fun with the people she won't introduce you to or tell you about, then permanently leave her on read and never return any calls or messages after that. 😂
Damn bro, that's fire, they do that to us might as well do that to them
That's how you do it. Good work.
Women know better than to be on that bullshit. If she has the balls to test you like that, you must crush her. Tell her she can do whatever she wants because she's an adult, and when she goes you ghost her
Now that I think about that, why do women act like that on vacation? Yet another reason I'm a MGTOW monk
yup. its a losing battle. you dont want that becoming a regular part of relationship. put your foot down or end it, youll just save a lot of grief in the future
You got trust issues dude
I just came back from a trip. Let me tell you, I bumped into a group that was having a "girl's trip."
They did not hold back at all
that's why they showed up there in the first place , to be piped down by what their flesh desires and considering a typical healthy woman is never single ... you know the rest
She can go, but must know that once she leaves she'll be single.
@ Unknown, if she didn't ask you for any money to go and you all are not serious or living together you really don't have any control over a grown woman making her own decision.
@@tsaunders4684 That's nice guy talk.
@@warfossil You can't control here
@@tsaunders4684 I can control my boundaries.
@@warfossil I'm 39 and have shacked up twice and if a woman is not living with you and depending on you to a certain degree your boundaries won't matter to much
Absolutely not. If she’s insisting on going then let her go but just inform her that this relationship is over when you come back.
Depends on the woman. I went on a road trip around Scandinavia with my girlfriend when I was married, 15 years into the marriage. Never spoke with or had anything to do with any guy whatsoever. That sounds disgusting. But we also don’t drink, or go to bars and clubs, or commit adultery.
If men would be present then no way. And she shouldn’t even be asking. She either goes with her man or doesn’t go.
Absolutely correct on this Rich.
This is a classic case of why you as a man need lots of leverage on your girlfriend, you set your boundaries with her right up front when you both make the call to be in a relationship, tell her your deal breakers, thing you simply will not tolerate in any relationship
Let's break down what "leverage" means:- Money - Muscles - Game - Frame - No cohabitation - A roster of side chicks ...Anything missing?
@@alex-p don't need roaster of side chicks but everything else absolutely, money, frame, muscles, game sure but that's all things you should want for your own life for yourself regardless of any woman
@nightfangs2910
Question please Sir, if she refuses
and
fights you on everything,
is it better to kick her to the streets*
I would assume yes,
but just checking to make sure it,
is a correct answer*
Thanks!
@@giuseppedifraia8773 obviously, if she doesn't bring peace and stability into your life, and nothing but drama and chaos send her packing 🧳🧳
Me if a chick I’m dating ask me that, I don’t put any boundaries on her and let her do what she wants but I’m definitely putting her on the recreational use only category. They usually get the hint later that it’s not going to go anywhere serious with me.
"Insecure" is just a shaming technique to avoid accountability for behaviour that increases risk to the pair. Even if a girl has the intentions of being loyal doesnt mean she would have the discipline to be in certain situations and thats the same for men too. Think of it this way you beleive the house can withstand an earthquake, it has strong foundations etc. You wouldnt want numerous earthquakes to occur to test it.
Love this one
Sure, just know that she’s going to cheat.
Facts haha
If you can not trust them to be by themselves with their friends and stay faithful, why the hell do you think you should be with them?
@@YourBestFriendforToday He shouldn't.
But this is a side women often only show after they feel secure in the relationship.
Girls trip is a big "NO". They all cheat on the girls trip. It's mandatory among women to sleep around on the girls trip.
All her friends are not only going to encourage her, but actually pressure her to cheat on him.
It's how women bond these days. They don't trust each other unless they share a secret they can use against them.
Their friendships are build on shared secrets and blackmail basically.
Just realize that HER friends are not your friends, and not only will they not discourage her from doing something stupid, they may actually encourage it, especially if that’s how they act
For real tho me and my gf just split over her bringing her gf to the fair to meet up with us, her friend brought another guy as a backup for my gf just incase i didn't show even tho her friend already knew me and my ex were together, those are the kinda friends she hangs with she told me she is gonna have gfs she is gonna hang with and that I'm not gonna be with her that she is gonna go out alone i told her what i thought about it she called me controlling and insecure and left me right after telling me that same day that she was worried about losing me
She will get seduced by her friends into thinking whatever she does is ok , and will then get seduced by whoever hits on her.
Red flags ... She failed the wife test ... LMAO
Get this... Found out on my girlfriends phone she's been talking to at least 4 different guys... (All 4 are black, her and I are white)
She told 2 of them I was the first white guy she's dated in 20 years. She talked about OUR relationship to at least 3 of them in the 'past tense'...
Ex. Dated, were dating.... (We are still currently living in the same house.) Now the kicker.. Her and one of them are planning a beach trip
at the end of June. She doesn't know I know... She's been going to the tanning bed regularly. Says its for when we go later this summer... yeah, right..
I am planning to go along with the plan and catch her in the lie. Then I'm gonna send that fellow a message congratulating him on his new
acquisition, wish him luck and have him ask her about S******, D****, and B******..... (the 3 others)
The dating world is SO screwed up these days, I don't think there's any hope for the future of dating...............
Immediately after reading the tittle of this video, I hear the “ glock glock glock gag” sound effect lmao
Anyone who pretends they have the power to "let" you travel or deny that as an adult should be dumped on the spot, man or woman.
No.
Yeah if she's in any way commited to you, she wouldn't even ask.
Only way a man should allow it is if he's going too.
If a women loves you and Respects you she would never put her self in a position to lose you
Great idea... if you wanna get rid of her😂
Send a private investigator behind her... money well spent.
Nope. Your girlfriend will return basically pumped and dumped.
You should let her do whatever she wants. She just shouldn’t be surprised when her belongings are on the front porch and the locks 🔐 are changed.
I was at a weekend getaway with my girlfriend, three married couples and two single guys. After the husbands went to bed for the night, two of the married women started cheating on their husbands, with the two single guys, while they were asleep in the other rooms. I only heard about it after the fact when one of the slut-wives told my girlfriend a day or two later. The only way you can be sure is if you have your girl on a literal ball-n-chain. 😂😂😂😅
@E KL - Friends of mine and friends of friends but, neither were friends of the wives. They were friendly acquaintances of the group but, not directly related. It was Sort of a weekend party at a friends cabin getaway.
Got a worse story.. girl who was class valedictorian and church goer goes to Myrtle Beach on a beach trip to celebrate graduation with a girlfriend. While there , has 1 night stands with 3 different guys in a week. 2 of whom she had never seen before that week . All the while calling another guy back home she is seeing and telling him she misses him and crying and asking him if he forgives her, and then goes back out the next 2 nights and does the same thing again. You can't make this stuff up. No reason or logic to it at all . And this is supposed to be a " smart " girl.
@@racebannon8569 - Unfortunately, with all these stories, I can only think back at horror-show that my gut was telling me and yet, I ignored.
@chrisjenkins9978
Question please Sir, if she refuses
and
fights you on everything,
is it better to kick her to the streets*
I would assume yes,
but just checking to make sure it,
is a correct answer*
Thanks!
@@giuseppedifraia8773 - Disagreeableness is a red-flag.
Depending on who are her friends. What kind of friends she hangs out with.
That depends. How do you feel about giving tyrone some alone time with your girl...
This is another reason why modern relationships are more stressful than they are worth .
That’s when you’re meant to give her an ultimatum.
The fact that he has to ask the question tells us there is something wrong.
He has a gut feeling. He should listen to it.
The real trick here is if your single, you dont have to deal with this.....
Allow or not,it doesn't matter, you're with a 304. Choose better and you won't have that problem.
If your girl even suggests this she's told you all you need to know, or want to know.
If she had genuine burning desire for you, she wouldn't even put you in the position of having to put your foot down. Only beta males will respond in any other way than goodbye if this got brought up.
her boyfriends lol bro
he said that cause his english wasn't good ,but mistakenly he said it as it is
Freudian slip: an unintentional error regarded as revealing subconscious feelings.
Dude knows but can't admit it to himself yet
@@alex-p hmm
I let mine go on her girls trip every time...only condition is she takes our 3 children along too
Absolutely not. At the end of the day, she’s going to do whatever she wants…. but I’d tell her if she goes, her stuff will be on the front porch when she comes back.
Set your frame on day 1, the way you want it to be 10+ years from now. Else, you are going to have a lot of problems in the future.
If she has a problem with your frame now, get rid of her . . . or she will get rid of you in the future.
Do not provide any explanation to her as to way you think she should not go, doing so does two things (1.Opens the door for useless argument, and gives her an elusion that the topic is up for debate) (2. She is a big girl, she should know the difference between good and bad).
Also, if she has a lot of sing friends and she wants a relationship, tell her that she needs to start looking for friends that have the relationship that she wants. Remember, women do not uplift each other, they just tell each other delusions . . . a single woman in misery will gaslight her married friends so that she would think that a single life is better.
I mean, she’s an adult, so . If you trust her, then yes.
Is what beta males say.
Sorry guy but 10 seconds in I stopped the video. Your girl has gone. She is not yours anymore. I won't say anymore but you need to look elsewhere for your happiness. Sorry but that's just the way they are. . I fell for that BS and 6 months later I left. This was 6 years into the marriage. I deserve better than a 304
sorry to hear that , happens to more than 50% of guys , but some have dignity and aren't cuckolds and leave , some stay and share their woman and cope
A real man plays with his own rule and don't let any woman take advantage on him
I'm a manager at McDonald's and one of my crew members is a married woman. She's sleeping with another fellow coworker when her husband is out deer hunting or fishing with the boys on weekends. I personally know this coworker outside of work and I've seen him enter her house trailer several times at night for sex. Apparently she told him her husband is a very selfish and boring man and that's why she is having an affair. I'm glad that I'm not married in this day in age and will remain single and just pump and dump. Keep in mind this happens more often then you think with fast food restaurants employees.
Yes, of course she can! My ex is entitled to do whatever she wants.
😂😂😂
This girl i been dating for 3 weeks just left me cuz she said she wanted gfs and she is also bi and the girls she hangs with always bring guys around, her friends are wild i told her im not gonna have a bunch of girls around me all the time when we are together and she said she would just go out with them without me and she didnt like my response so she said i was controlling and insecure and dropped me right after telling me that same day that she didnt ever wanna lose me
"Is it ok if my girlfriend goes to a cottage with her boyfriends?" - That's a tough one...
You're worried and asking the question for a reason. Trust your instincts.
If she wants to go without you, she is for the streets.
He said it's her friends and their boyfriends to which he was also invited. If she thought you could get the time off I wouldn't be too worried. If you think she knew you couldn't get it off then maybe be a little concerned
Sorry, very long post. I need to get this out of my head. Very early in my years I wondered if I ever would be married and have kids. Because I value my self time doing my own stuff more than people I know. I took the Briggs-Meyer personality test, and I'm probably an INFP. The significance of being an INFP is that they match up best with other INFP's. Other personality types would rather have a personality different than themselves to complete them. That said, it's a rare personality trait. I may have encountered a girl with this trait. We got on really well when talking to each other. However, I wasn't attracted to her but she was to me. So a no go there. I met another girl, slightly more attractive, maybe close to my personality trait, but she's a single mother. So no go there too. They are very excited every time they meet me though.
I was invited to a wedding far away. The groom said they got a girl for me there. I declined. I was drifting away from my old friends anyway. So being tied with them with a girlfriend wasn't ideal. And the chance that she was perfect for me, I guess, was far less than winning the lottery. Mostly these girls are just fat friends of the bride.
I did go to wedding where I was seated next to the bride's fat friend. To be polite I tried to engage her somewhat in a conversation. But soon enough I switched to the couple across the table, who were more interresting. I never saw the fat friend again anyway. I did dance with the bride though, because she asked me.
I do remember when we first met at a party. She was nice, good looking, and we got along. Maybe she was more into me than I was with her. But my friend, later the groom was captivated by her. And she rejected him several times until she finally said yes.
I was always on good terms with her during her marriage. And then it was time for her to learn to drive a car. Her husband tried at first to teach her, but he just kept grabbing the wheel to correct her. That's not good. So they (the married couple) asked me to teach her. That went much better. So we went driving. And she asked me about my family. I only got my father left. So she wanted to drive there and visit him. It was a good meeting. And then the neighbour popped in and instantly asked me if she was my girlfriend. We might have looked the part. But nothing ever happened between us.
And their marriage fell apart. Nothing dramatic (which I know of). They just decided to part ways. My friend (the groom) really wanted kids. But they had a miscarriage and she didn't take that well and she was the one who was reluctant to try after this. So they divorced perhaps a year or two later.
Now my friend (the now former groom) is trying his luck with a single mother. I have warned him about that. He spent too much money on this single mother. He told me he was giving her an ultimatum. That was a year ago and I haven't seen things have changed. He has to realize things for himself.
I have a friend that lets his wife go on such trips. And it works for them, happily married with 4 kids. If you trust her judgement I don't see why you would forbid that.
Just stop having girlfriends if you dont want kids
Its either dating or LTR and kinds
Just bypass all the BS
Look, just say. ' great stuff', pick up your phone and book a place on a singles only cruise / holiday.
You're welcome. 🙂👍🏻
I do allow my bf to go on trips with the guys. I don't question it, nor care. I adore my alone time. & Trying to control people is absolutely ridiculous. I think a person could have a life outside of their partner/relationship and not be on pins and needles with wanting some space to be in their own element. People who think others are cheating or being wronged all the time could seek some therapy to as why those thoughts cross their mind. If you put the work in yourself and perhaps heal the childhood traumas and triggers, one wouldnt mind if their partner wants to invest in themselves once in a while. Its a healthy part of a relationship.
Tune in next week to see him ask "what do i do? my girlfriend got drunk at a getaway weekend and smashed 10+ dudes. Please help me justify why i complicate my life"
If your grow really respects you and wants to be with you then she's not going to want to leave you by yourself and you potentially find another girl while she's out of town. I seen this exact scenario play out with my neighbor. My neighbor went out of town on business and his girlfriend was upset and wanted him to come back home because she was so afraid that he was going to cheat on her out of town which honestly he was like that but that's besides the point I'm trying to make. If you're in a good relationship and your girls into you than she's not going to want to go out of town on a girls-only trip. She's going to either want you to go or she's going to stay home if you can't go because most girls aren't going to want to leave your side if they're into you. This situation is a little bit weird because it sounded like she did ask him to go but if he has work obligations I understand but at that point she should say okay well I'm going to stay in town instead of going out since he can't go. If she's willing to go out of town without him than she probably doesn't care too much for him and is probably waiting for the next best thing to pop up.
If you have to ask...you already know the answer.
I disagree. I really don’t see a problem with that. If you chose your woman well, that’s certainly not an issue. And if you cannot let her go with friends, then why chosing that woman in the first place. Certainly if you keep her traped, at some point she gets bored of this relationship. I would for sure.
Hold on, now. If she's the type of person who would do something like this, she doesn't care about how you feel. It is a red flag. A huge one. One that may have not been forseen. Her actions (girls trip) speak louder than words. Your actions need to be in response appropriately. Divestiture is the only responsible reaction.
A woman can hide her true self for 3-5 years. This dude has an opportunity to get out now, before the trainwreck.
I believe you can easily see the character very quickly. I don’t understand how you could go for years and don’t realize she’s like this. The bad ones I had when I was younger, I saw flags everywhere but I didn’t want to see because I was desperate and a p…y.
Nowadays I pick wisely and I would certainly not expect a women not to go on a trip with friends for the rest of her life just because I am afraid she could cheat. If I believed that of all women, I would never enter a relationship. And these guys do that all under the illusion „I‘m high value“ BS. So high value that you pick women that you think they cheat on you as soon as they are away.
@@TheZooBrooksAB so then you’re always afraid she’s going to cheat? What about at work?
In general, if she respects you, she will not cheat.
Let me be clear, Im not saying the dude in this video would be safe to let her go. But if a dude is asking such questions to a coach, than that’s the problem in the first place. There is insecurity all over and as long as that is the case, every women he gets is at risk of leaving or cheating.
Things definitely had during cabin getaways. There will be other guys there. He shouldnt be fooled by her inviting him because some women will have that as an out to do what they want since he didnt come.
Guys don't stop your girl from going, u can't stop her. But when she gets back, have her shit in the driveway. Tom leykis said if wanna do that, great, but I'm done.
Who came up with this car analogy first, the host or Andrew Tate? They have the same answer with the same analogy.
The problem is Richard talking logic women are emotional creatures they don't understand logic. They're going to call you controlling and try to guilt you there can have resentment against you. But the minute you turn the tables and say I want to go on vacation by myself to resort then a world of crap rains down. Women have these double standards what's good for them is good for them what's good for you is not good for you. You cannot deal with women logically it creates resentment they're probably going to cheat on you anyway down the road. Whether you let them go are you don't let them go but you might be able to buy yourself some time the best thing to do is what you say is set up the rules in the first place they break the rules they break the contract shown the door. Do not let them beg to come back they'll just resent you get rid of him and forget about them MoveOn look for women from overseas conservative countries.
It's all clear, but what do you do when you have a child together? For the sake of your child, you "stay together" with the relationship open, or what?
if you let her do this , and she become pregnant afterward , DNA test on the child !
just be aware of what type of women you'r with if you continue with her
So all her girl friends are going...and bringing their boyfriends...but your girl won't have her boyfriend there. Highly suspect that she'll have a dude there, just not you.
Nope...
Your girl isnt a car dude.
Here's a good one from sleepy Ireland..........
Fella I know (32) got married 3 weeks ago. They went on the "mini-moon" and came home.
Following week she went to Spain with her pals for a Thursday to Monday break! Could you credit that?
Comparing a woman to a car and "where you park it" is one of the most ridiculous statements I have heard in a very long time. Does a man own his wife or girlfriend as if she is an object? If a man's "object" decides to have a getaway weekend with friends hopefully he is man enough to accept time away and from her also realize she most likely is not planning to lay pipe with another man. A man's insecurity and jealousy is extremely unattractive. Men do not own women and women do not own men. Period.
I lost my girl to this. She went away to a cottage with her friends, one of the group's boyfriends, and his friend. My girl and "his friend" then got on too well.
We were only dating. I accepted that it was happening, and that I didn't have leverage because I wouldn't make her my girlfriend, which she had wanted me to. Anyway, she found something better suited I guess.
@@ekl2947You're dumb. He accepted it when she told him she was going on a trip. That's when he realized he couldn't wife that
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No.